I used to spend a lot of time waiting. Waiting for Friday. Waiting for the next holiday. Waiting until I made more money so I could travel. I had this idea of what my life would eventually look like, and I treated everything before that as something to get through.

But there is always another thing to wait for. And I started to realize how much time I was spending wishing the current part of my life would hurry up and end.

I rented my apartment three months ago. I didn’t want to spend much on it because I worried I won’t stay here longer or I will eventually move somewhere. So these three months I just come a place more like a hotel instead of home.

But I started questioning that. I spend a lot of my time here. Why was I so willing to be uncomfortable now for a future home i don’t even know when I’ll have? Then I put some effort into making it. Rearranged things, decorated, and bought a few pieces of quality furniture that felt expensive to me but were still within my budget. And now I’m happy every time I walk through the door. To be a place here I feel more rested and have more energy to do things after work.

Not sure if anyone else feels the same, but I thought I’d share since it’s made adulting feel a bit easier for me. And here’s a little look at my apartment, including the sofa I’m pretty happy i bought.

Is it just me? Or is almost everyone in their 20’s having a hard time paying the bills and getting groceries? Last year my finances were solid. Now recently — I’ve had to use my credit card more times than I’d like to admit. I have about $300 in savings as well. Please tell me I’m not the only one??!!

Daily reminder. ✨

Don’t like a party? You can leave.
Someone’s being rude? You don’t have to sit there and entertain them.
Want to eat cereal at 11 PM while watching cartoons? Literally nobody can stop you.
As a kid, I thought adulthood would be about having money and doing exciting things.
Turns out, one of the greatest freedoms is being able to say “nah, I’m good” and go home.
Obviously responsibilities still exist, but those little moments of freedom are pretty underrated.
What’s your favorite tiny freedom of being an adult?

Life is so bland and empty. I am 41y F with 1-2 friends, good career and financially stable. But every other aspect of my life has been a failure. I am single, don't get invitation to events and always alone. I used to have so much hope for the future but these days (since I was 39), life has felt empty. Even things that used to excite me like investing and earning an income just does not excite me anymore as I ask myself what am I working so much for? Is this how life is for people as they grow old single without children? I am considering SMBC but worried about having an unhealthy child as I don't have the bandwidth to care for them. Does it get better?

I’m almost 40 and still feel like I’m figuring life out as I go. At what age did you actually start feeling like you had your shit together?

I never have energy snd i can never keep any jobs! Or go to college. Wtf am i supposed to do?

Goodbye to my 10-year-old coffee maker ☕💔

This morning, my trusty coffee maker finally gave up on me. The light indicator just faded into silence, and somehow, I found myself feeling genuinely sad — more than I expected for a machine.

I bought this coffee maker back in 2016 in Dagupan City, when I was assigned there for work with DSWD. It was one of those small purchases you don't think much about at the time — but looking back, it was there through so much. Early mornings before fieldwork, late nights after long days, quiet moments in between. Every cup it brewed carried a little piece of that chapter of my life.

Ten years. That's a long time for a coffee maker, and an even longer time for memories.

It's funny how objects become witnesses to our lives. It wasn't just a coffee maker — it was a companion through a season I'll always look back on with fondness. Dagupan, DSWD, the people, the places, the version of me that existed back then — all of it somehow tied to this little machine that finally went quiet this morning.

So here's to you, old friend. Thank you for ten years of warm mornings and quiet comfort. You served me well. 🫡☕

Rest easy. You've earned it.