As a girl, I want your opinion.

She’s 23 (F). How do I explain the difference between reality and fiction?

She wants me to yearn for her, to constantly chase her and express my feelings in ways that, honestly, feel performative to me.

I don’t send her reels all the time, but I do make an effort to talk to her because I genuinely enjoy having conversations with her. To me, connection should come naturally, not feel like a competition over who misses whom more.

She told me she can earn money herself and that what she really wants is someone who yearns for her.

Anyone can give flower to her but how do I explain I have compromised my values in this relationship and I am still standing.

I understand that she wants to feel wanted, but I think there’s a difference between wanting someone to love you and wanting them to constantly prove it.

A little about me: I’m an ambitious man. It’s been five years, and throughout this relationship, I’ve pushed her to grow, challenged her, and encouraged her to reach her potential. Now, I want that same energy in return. I want someone who challenges me, pushes me forward, and helps me become a better version of myself.

I’ll admit that I’ve been toxic at times, and I’m not trying to justify my mistakes. I know I have things to work on. But at this point in my life, I want a relationship that brings peace, emotional security, and mutual growth.

The problem is that every time I talk to her, it feels like I’m entering another battleground. Instead of feeling understood, I feel like I have to defend my intentions, explain my actions, and prove that I care.

I don’t want a relationship where love becomes a constant test. I want a partner who understands that ambition, personal space, and genuine affection can coexist with love.

Am I wrong for wanting this? How do I explain the difference between the romantic expectations she has and the kind of relationship I want to build? And after five years together, how do I figure out whether we can actually give each other what we need?

I own a small business with a 50/50 partner. We’ve been working together for a couple years and, for the most part, I thought everything was fine.
Last week one of my employees asked if he could talk to me privately after closing. I thought he was going to ask for a raise or complain about another employee.
Instead he asks me, “You know your partner has been taking cash out of the register, right?”
I laughed because I genuinely thought he was joking.
He tells me there have been nights when my partner comes in, opens the register, takes cash, and tells whoever is working that I already know about it. Apparently everyone assumed it was normal because… he owns half the business.
I definitely did NOT know about it.
So I went through months of camera footage and register reports. I couldn’t see everything, but I found multiple nights where the numbers didn’t make sense. On one night, the register was short almost $900.
Here’s where it gets weird.
I decided not to confront him. Instead, I casually mentioned that I was thinking about installing a new POS system that tracks every cash transaction and automatically sends both owners a daily report.
His entire attitude changed.
He immediately started saying it was unnecessary, too expensive, and that employees would feel like we were “watching them.”
Then the next morning he randomly texted me:
“By the way, sometimes I take cash for business expenses and forget to put the receipts back.”
I NEVER accused him of taking cash.
I never even mentioned missing money.
Now I’m sitting here wondering if he basically confessed without realizing it.
The employee who originally told me is begging me not to mention his name because he’s scared he’ll lose his job.
I own 50% of this place, have a ton of money tied up in it, and now I don’t even know if I can trust the person who owns the other half.
Would you confront him now, keep documenting everything quietly, or bring in an accountant first?

For context, I’m 20F 5’6 not particularly the strongest or biggest and I’ve literally never been in a physical fight in my life. I’ve never even play fought with anyone before, so I genuinely have no idea how strong my punches are or how hard I’m capable of hitting someone.

So basically, this guy I’ve been seeing came over, and at some point he started asking me to fight him. He kept saying, “Let’s fight, let’s fight.”

And I was literally begging him not to. I kept saying, “Please no, I don’t want to fight. I’ve never fought before. Please, I don’t want to do this.”

Mind you, this guy boxes, and he’s significantly bigger and stronger than me. So in my head, I was thinking that if he’s repeatedly asking me to fight him, surely he knows what he’s getting himself into and can handle it?
Eventually, I agreed, and I genuinely started punching the shit out of him. 😭

The thing is, I wasn’t trying to actually hurt him. I thought we were play fighting, but because I’ve never done anything like this before, I didn’t really understand how much force I was using.

Next thing I know, he restrains me and literally runs off.
And I’m just standing there completely confused because I genuinely didn’t think I was hitting him that hard. My glasses didn’t even fall off my face, which obviously isn’t a measure of how hard I was punching, but that’s how little I understood what was happening in the moment.
Now I feel absolutely terrible cos he’s blocked me. I barely slept, and I’ve been shaking because I keep replaying the whole situation in my head.

I know that punching someone can hurt them regardless of whether they asked for it, and I’m not trying to excuse that. I just genuinely didn’t understand what he meant by fighting or how far things were supposed to go.
I’m also confused because I repeatedly told him I didn’t want to fight in the first place.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Am I missing something here? Because I genuinely don’t know what to make of this situation. Prior to this he was saying i’m too nice to him and i’ve never even raised my voice at him before, i’m not the type of person to actually fight anyone or put my hands on anyone he literally begged me too. I’ve never even insulted or cussed him out. Idk what do you guys think.

For more context i’ve never even thrown a punch before or have even been in a fight, he said the rules were no hitting face and balls and i didn’t do that at all He is not a professional boxer

Basically the title. I've never really dated or had much romantic experience, and I'm honestly pretty awful at picking up any sort of romantic cues from anyone. I'm grey-aroace (edit: demisexual/romantic!), autistic and queer so I also have a weird definition of what I view as platonic or not - so I do occasionally kiss my friends in an affectionate, weird gay friends way.

This friend of mine is gorgeous, literally looks like a model and is such a sweet and genuine person, and we were hanging out with some friends and flirting a ton in what I thought was a joking way.

The flirting kind of amped up throughout the night, especially after telling her that I sometimes kiss my friends, and we ended up briefly making out.

I enjoyed it, but didn't really think past it being like my other experiences with friends, because frankly I'm a dumbass, and afterwards she confessed that she likes me.

The thing is, is that I genuinely have no idea what to think or do. She is an incredible person, so kind, so gorgeous, but I have no experience, have many insecurities, and I also have a ton on my plate right now where I havent even considered romance.

I just dont know what to do since I've never been in this position before. She also is almost TOO nice if that makes sense, in a way where I love to be a bit of an asshole in a fun way to people, and she is just like, human goodness. I dont know😭😭😭 I don't know enough about romance to know if dating would work, what it would look like, ect ect ect

Basically, people of reddit, given my very definitely not confused panic of a post, what do I do? Help

Edit: In case people didn't see the comment I posted, thank you everyone for the replies! Last night was one of the first parties that I have been to, and I was having a major freak out, definitely left out important details and wasn't thinking clearly either. I'll be talking to her as soon as my head is clearer. Although we were openly communicating throughout the night and everything, it is definitely a good idea not to go around kissing any more friends. You are all right and I am a dumbass. Thank you guys😭😭

Sorry if my words are a bit everywhere, I’m freaking out rn.
I 19f have been doing my own thing recently trying hard to find employment but Im finding it a bit challenging. I haven’t had a job before so me being almost 20 with no work history has seem to become a problem because even grocery stores want at least 6 months experience. Me and my mother has had a close relationship the past years, almost like a Gilmore girls type of relationship. One thing Iv told her that I didn’t like though, where her choice in men. We’ve figured it out together and all has been well.

Ever since the start of September though Iv noticed a change in her. Being happy about turning 35, going out, talking to people. Iv been happy for her, finally being out there. She has spent all her time dedicated to being a mother and she’s done a great job doing it all alone. She’s always drank alcohol so she can handle her stuff, but for some reason this past month she hasn’t been able to remember what she did the previous night. Shed already come in from work intoxicated and be on the phone talking to men. And when she’s not on the phone, I would try to tell her something about what’s been going on inside the house and she just states that she doesn’t care and she doesn’t know what the rest of us (me and my 3 siblings) expect her to do. That she’s already working 40 hours and there’s nothing more she could do. She says a lot of the time that she’s the only parent taking on 4 children by herself and that it’s been hard and exhausting.

Today, she asked me why Iv been distant the past 2 weeks and she feels that I’m mad at her. I told her we can talk about it once she gets back home but she kept pushing and pushing so I told her. About how I don’t care for her drinking the past month and how’s she’s been aggressive and put her hands on me for no reason. She said she has no recollection of this whatsoever and wth I’m talking about. I gave her a bit more details and she said she couldn’t believe it and why didn’t I say anything. Like I said before, the next day she tends to not remember anything she does the previous nights. And I know she’s been stressed and sad lately so I didn’t want to come off as if I’m calling her a bad mother or an alcoholic. I also told her about how I don’t appreciate that when I do try to talk to her, she dismisses me and goes back to talking to whatever man she’s otp with. Mind you this all happened on a call today while she was on her way to work. I kept trying to stir the conversation away but she kept telling me it’s okay and just to say it. She ended up angry and sad saying how we want her to be alone and miserable in the house, how she can’t have a social life now after all of these hard years, and how she won’t drink anymore. Then hung up. Minutes later she sends me an alarming text saying she won’t be coming home and that’s she’s done being a mother, that she hopes we’ll see what it’s like without her.

I’m not sure if I was in the right, telling her all of that at the moment, I told her we can talk more at home so I can explain better because I know she’s has a history of depression and suicidal thoughts but even so she’s never done this before. What do I do from this point, should I give her space and see if she comes home later. Should I leave a text or try to call her. This just happened the past hour so she might come back, and if she does she would probably be very angry with me and everyone.

Edit: I just want to say that she’s the only person we have to rely on, when it comes to family they are all either estranged or deceased. Also we are all teens (13,14,16) so we can figure it out for a few days if need be.

My mom when I was growing up neglected me and hurt me in many ways. She has lots of issues mentally and that caused us to eventually just fall apart. I moved out a year ago but the other week my dog had to go to the vet and it ended up costing me 3000. I was calling my dad about this as we are fine and I’m struggling with money and he said he’d help out financially.

Today he called me saying he will no longer help me pay at all because my mother said no, I cried and got really upset because i physically can’t afford this bill and rent and really just needed to loan some money. I’m working overtime at work currently and have my mom text me out of the blue this.

What the fuck kind of question is this? How am I even supposed to respond to this shit. It’s like she wants to me be depressed lol🤦‍♀️

For context, I’ve grown into myself obviously, but it’s come to a point in my life where I want to wear fitted shirts/ shorts. I’ve really enjoyed wearing babydoll tops/tank tops recently as I’ve lost weight and am extremely comfortable with myself now. My whole family is very Mormon and into this purity culture, and your body is a temple esq thing. I am an atheist, but nobody knows that cs my shit would be fried asf. My dad had repeatedly told me not to wear such items and that he'll report me to the bishop, but I really don’t care. It just got to a point when he said he couldn’t stop staring simply because “he’s a man too." He said when I walk and they jiggle, it makes him uncomfortable. Like, damn, just don’t be a weirdo. Then I just feel it’s weird, especially because I’m going to college soon (I graduated when I was 15). And yes, I understand I’ll still be underage by the time I go, but still controlling what I wear and chastising me is ridiculous and on top of the fact that he’s my own father. I have C cups (tmi) so its not like its IMPOSSIBLE to ignore. What do I do?

My wife and I have been married for 6 years and together for 9. We have a 4 year old daughter. I've never been the jealous type and I've always trusted her. Even when my friends joked about her getting attention from other men I'd defend her without thinking twice.

Now I'm starting to wonder if I was just being naive.

About 4 months ago she started mentioning a guy from work named Daniel. Apparently they got put on the same project and had to communicate a lot. She'd tell me funny things he'd said and complain about his terrible sense of humour. I didn't think anything of it, then one evening I joked that she seemed to talk about him quite a bit and she immediately said he was married and that I had absolutely nothing to worry about.

That was the first time I'd even asked.

Over the next few months things changed. She started dressing up more for work and wearing perfume she normally saved for date nights. She'd leave earlier in the morning and come home later. Whenever I asked about it there was always a work explanation.

Then came the phone.

She changed her passcode and started taking it everywhere. One night I woke up around 2am and noticed she wasn't beside me, I found her downstairs sitting in the dark with her phone. When I asked what she was doing she said she couldn't sleep and didn't want to wake me. I thought it was strange but left it alone.

A few weeks later we went to a dinner with some of her colleagues. Daniel was there I noticed they had this weird familiarity with each other. They kept making eye contact across the table and laughing at things nobody else seemed to understand. At one point he reached over and brushed something off her shoulder and she touched his wrist while thanking him. It was such a small thing that I felt ridiculous for even noticing it.

On the drive home I asked if something was going on between them. She got genuinely angry and said I was embarrassing her by being insecure about a coworker. She told me I needed to trust her.

So I apologised.

Last month she told me she had a two day work conference in another city. I helped her pack and even drove her to the station. She was texting someone the entire way there when I asked if everything was okay she smiled and said Daniel was making sure she had all the meeting details.

The following weekend I was looking through our shared family calendar to plan something for our daughter's birthday and noticed the conference schedule she'd sent me didn't match the dates of the event listed online. It was supposed to end Friday afternoon but she'd told me she wouldn't be back until Saturday morning.

When I asked her about it she said she'd decided to stay an extra night with colleagues and forgot to update me.

I wanted to believe her.

Then last Tuesday her phone lit up on the kitchen counter while she was in the shower. I wasn't trying to snoop but the message preview was right there.

It was from Daniel.

'I can't keep pretending nothing happened between us.'

I just stood there staring at it.

Before I could even process it another message came through.

'Please tell me you've spoken to him. I miss you.'

She came downstairs a few minutes later and immediately noticed something was wrong. I asked her whether there was something she wanted to tell me about Daniel. She went completely quiet and asked what I meant.

I told her I'd seen the messages.

She said it wasn't what I thought and that I was taking things out of context. When I asked what context could possibly explain someone saying he missed my wife and he can't pretend nothing happened, she started crying and said she'd explain everything when she was ready.

That was three days ago.

She's been sleeping in the guest room and barely speaking to me. She keeps saying she hasn't cheated on me but refuses to explain what the messages mean. I asked her if she'd been alone with him during the conference and she said that wasn't the point.

I can't stop thinking about that sentence.

We've been together for nine years we have a child, we've talked about buying a bigger house next year just a month ago she was talking about having another baby.

I don't know whether to believe her when she says nothing happened or whether she's trying to draw a line between an emotional affair and an actual one.

I haven't contacted Daniel or his wife because I don't want to make decisions while I'm this angry. But I also don't know how much more I can take of being told that what I saw doesn't mean what it obviously sounds like.

this is a throwaway (that name was so random) and I will go to therapy bur right now talking and hearing myself talking about it is too much.

We are both successful in our careers and we build our life together. started from nothing. We don't have a family business and are working in 2 different fields. I work in marketing, he works in law. Children are already teenagers so I felt our life is really great.

I had to hire an assistant with my work and found a 28 years old woman. Nice, incredibily smart, spoke 3 languages, great communication skills and yeah, good looking but in a very classy way. She has been working for me for over a year. And long story short, my husbang got her pregnant and turns out that not only this. They were talking about me, she hates me. she said she always hated me. i saw their texts. she said something like I always hated women like her who pretend they don't need a man and play victim.

I never said I don't need MY man. him. I never even talked to her about these things. It was a profesional relationship and nothing else.

We are going to divorce of course, currently I moved back to my parents, I needed my mother. But I don't understand TF happened. We are in our 40s. I am 42 and he is 45 and we got together ever since we started high school. I mostly work from home. they were screwin in my bed. Our son is also hurt and is on my side and wants to cut contact with him. and husband doesn't even care. my daughter blames her and me (she literally attacked that woman and started hitting her)

We're now broken up. I found out he had been cheating on me with one of my friends literally a day after I made my first post. I was really close to breaking up with him anyways, I'm only 16 and that's way too young to be trying to change a shitty boyfriend, but that just sealed the deal. I hate that I still love and miss him but I know he probably doesn't feel the same way about me. I'm the most upset that he chose my friend to cheat on me with and that she went along with it. I'm working on finding better people to surround myself with.

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My boyfriend and I recently discussed the possibility of having a threesome with one of his close friend.

During our conversation, I repeatedly asked him if he was genuinely comfortable with the idea, especially since the third person would be someone he knew personally. Each time, he reassured me that he was comfortable with it. He even explained that he felt more comfortable with someone he knew rather than a stranger. I felt the same way, as I wouldn't want to do this with a stranger either.

We discussed the idea in quite a lot of detail, and he asked me several questions about a dream I had that involved a similar situation. Based on everything he said, I genuinely believed we were on the same page.

The next day, after thinking everything through, I told him that I wanted to move forward with it. That's when he told me he wasn't comfortable with the idea after all.

I immediately told him that it was completely fine and that we wouldn't do anything if he wasn't comfortable. I have no issue with respecting his boundaries, and I don't want him to agree to something he doesn't want.

However, I asked him why he hadn't told me how he really felt during our conversation the previous day, especially when I had repeatedly checked in with him. He told me that he wanted to see where I stood on the subject first.

That honestly made me feel manipulated. I had been open and honest with him about my thoughts, and he had encouraged the conversation by reassuring me that he was comfortable and asking me questions. I feel like I was being led to believe that we had reached a mutual understanding, only for him to reveal his actual feelings after I expressed that I was ready to proceed.

He also explained that he would have been okay with it if our relationship weren't leading toward marriage, but because he sees us getting married someday, he no longer wants to consider it.

To be clear, I am not upset that he changed his mind or that he doesn't want a threesome. I respect that completely, and nothing would happen unless we were both genuinely comfortable with it.

What has affected me is how the conversation unfolded. I repeatedly gave him opportunities to tell me how he felt, and I believed he was being honest with me. Now, I feel like I can't trust that he is telling me what he genuinely thinks when we discuss something important.

Since this happened, I've noticed that I don't feel as attracted to him anymore. It's not because he said no, but because the situation has changed how I perceive him and how safe I feel being vulnerable and honest with him.

So, AITA for losing attraction to my boyfriend because of how he handled this conversation, even though I completely respect his decision not to go through with the threesome?

Just what the title says. To make it worse, I live in a hostel on the second floor of a somewhat busy restaurant. Finally got my room to myself, wanted to enjoy it and noticed I wasn’t hearing anything coming from my phone. I turned the volume up so loud that I could hear it in my room from the first floor. Everyone started laughing. I don’t know what to do and I have to be downstairs in front of everyone in 30 minutes. I’m so insanely embarrassed and a horrible liar. WHAT DO I DO 😭

Hi! I'm really confused here, and I think I need the people's opinion. I go to an all-girls' school, so I'm not sure if this is a proximity-based thing. However, for the past few months, I cannot get this girl off of my mind, and I'm pretty sure I might have a crush on her. We're sort of friends, and she's really smart, pretty, and funny. Despite this, and this does make me sound like a prick: we're in completely different circles. I'm in a popular clique, whereas she's a lot less popular as some people perceive her as 'weird' for liking anime or whatever. Personally, I'm not bothered, but everyone I know just makes fun of her all of the time making me feel as if I can't get closer with her. Plus, whenever I mention her, if I'm not mocking her, then I get the piss taken out of me by my friends.

She has always been interested in talking to me, so I think she wouldn't mind becoming friends with me, but I also wonder whether my friends put her off?

The main reason I'm asking, and I know this post is not very well articulated whatsoever, is what your opinion is on this? Am I bisexual, or straight? I've always liked boys, so I honestly don't know, but I do think it could be completely down to proximity or just a huge friend-crush.

P.S. she's lesbian, which is also a reason my friends don't like her.

Hi, I am 23 F and I have not really been advised very well with my feminine care for pretty much my whole life. Recently, it was discovered by my PCP that I have been taking my placebo week the whole time I’ve been on birth control since the age of 12 years old, I started having severe behavioral and emotional issues at around that age as well. I never really noticed at the time, but I always came around the time of my placebo week and especially during it and even a bit after it. I would be so angry and so depressed that I would do insane things to my body, I would go out of my way to hurt people to feel better, on top of a bunch of other terrible shit I did for years and years.

I have not had the same PCP consistently during all of this, I had a completely different PCP that left her office permanently around 2023, I switched back to my childhood PCP who initially had put me on the birth control, and she told me to immediately stop taking my placebo week and just take the next week of birth control from now on, when I told her what was going on. It’s been almost a full two months of doing this, and even though I feel so much better and I don’t feel like hurting other people. I feel completely and utterly detached from my emotions, like it’s quite literally night and day now. My baseline for my emotions is absolutely fucking nothing, I can’t find anything funny anymore, the people that I love that have since passed away, those memories don’t tear me apart anymore. I don’t feel guilt when I lie, I feel paranoia that I’m going to be caught, I don’t even feel pleasure the same right now, it feels like a means to an end or like sneezing, if that makes sense.

I feel like I should be worried about this, I feel like this is not normal, but I just don’t know and I need to hear it from anyone else who has done this.

TLDR: started skipping placebo week on birth control, now no longer feel emotions at all or normally like how I used to.

As the title says my girlfriend has a major phone addiction I’m talking on her phone 18 hours a day, can’t go to sleep without TikTok playing and on it the very minute she wakes up

I’ve tried many times to bring this up asking if there is something she needs help with and why she’s on it so much, but every time I just get dismissed and get told I’m overreacting about everything but it’s something that has really started to bother me. Does anyone have any advice for this, I love her very much and don’t want this to cause a big fight but im at a loss for what to do.

Hi,

I’m an a single Arab girl (not Muslim) and I don’t have a problem with sex before marriage.

I was living in an Arab country, I had a couple of relationships there, nothing leads to a sex.

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Two years ago, I moved to a European country, I had one relationship for 4 months, with no sex (he was an Arab also, and he refused to have sex before marriage)

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Recently, I met a European guy and I like him so much, he told me: I like you but If I want to be in a relationship with you it would be a serious long term one, and he mentioned our life together and our kids! He said that, but he doesn’t know what he wants these days in his life.

He also said he sees me attractive, and always compliments me, and saying good things about how my lifestyle is impressive and he likes how smart I am!

I believe him because I see it in his eyes, his acts and he cares about everything in my life.

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He doesn’t know that I am a virgin! And I’m not sure if he will accept that, and I don’t know why he refuses physical closeness.

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Now, idk what to do? I really wanna have sex with him, I’m afraid because of:

1- he told me I don’t wanna do a hookup with u then hurts u

2- if he knew I am a virgin, it might be harder

Okay, so im 23 female my husband is 26 male we have been together since I was 14 and he 17, we are eachothers 1st everything.

We have 3 babies, and own a home together.

Well, my husband has a coworker i think she's in her 30s or 40s, I hadn't met her and was hearing him tell stories about her along with other coworkers

In my mind I've never been worried about him cheating or being unloyal so I naturally haven't been worried until now.

Im going to tell about the things that I've been happening lately,

So ill start with i had just met her, we stopped by his store, get something for dinner, she's in there working, im like oh so thats what's her name, I am chill and getting what we need, she then pulls me to the side, and starts talking to me im being nice and talking to her and smiling, and during this conversation she then says "I want you to know you have nothing to worry about with any of us here" "we are more like family" I smile and say "oh thats cool but im not worried about anything like that we've grown up together and been together for years"

(Mind you my background is very sad and depressing, I come from domestic violence home, I was physically abused growing up, I lost my mother at 5 years old in kindergarten on Thanksgiving night, I lost my father when I turned 18, I dont speak to any siblings for theyre the domestic violent ones that physically abused me theyre all about 10-15 years older than me, so I have no family besides the one I've created with my husband)

She then says-- "oh no no I know you ARE scared bc he's all you have and you have no one else no friends or family so you are scared of losing him" I then ended the conversation and left.

Well yesterday I went in the store saw her. And walked out, I sent my husband in instead I sat in the car, he comes back out to the car, and tells me

"She said wasn't your wife just in here?" He said he told her "yes she wasn't feeling good so asked me to come in instead " and then he said she told him "aww well I wouldn't have been mean to her she could have came in"

And please I have no life experience, I have nobody to talk to and gather advice from, or to help me sort out what to think about this, can someone please tell me what they think, if they think she has bad intentions, if she's jealous, or what?

He recently confessed to me that he has a fantasy of ME "raping" HIM. I really don't mind but I don't really understand what to say, or what exactly to do? like what specific things can I do to cater this kink? Please help. Thanks.

I’ve been thinking about some comments my older brother has made about my appearance over the years. I’m genuinely curious whether this is normal sibling behavior or if I’m right to find it a little strange.
He’s always complimented my physical appearance, but sometimes he says things like, “I want my future wife to look like you,” or “Whoever marries you is going to be really lucky.”
One thing that particularly stood out to me was when he announced that he was getting engaged. None of us had known about the girl beforehand, so naturally, I started asking questions about her. Instead of just describing her, he kept comparing her physical features to mine, saying things like, “She’s your height” and “She has big eyes like you.”
It’s not just one isolated comment. He’s made these kinds of comparisons multiple times, especially when talking about what he finds attractive in a woman.
I honestly don’t know what to make of it. I’ve never really discussed this with anyone, and I don’t know if I’m overthinking something completely innocent.

Hello. don't really feel comfortable about sharing my age in here.. But I'm making this post right after a beating from my mom. She's kicked me over and over and even dug her nails into my skin so much to the point I've got small wounds now. Idk if this is the right subreddit, but I just don't know what to do. She tells me that "ur disrespectful to your own mother" and that Im a demonic child, yes, I will admit that I talk back to her. I will not deny that. But she always cusses me out, yells at me, point out my mistakes. I have trouble controlling my emotions, mostly my irritation. I don't know what's wrong with me, but I feel like it really is my own fault. I want to get some help but I don't know who or where. I don't know about CPS, I'm not sure. My mom is Bipolar or something, I heard it from my grandma who said a psychiatrist diagnosed her.. Idk if I want to lose my mom, idk if I want to live with my grandma either. I don't have a place in my grandma's home, because I'm useless. I don't know how to do anything right. I can't even dress myself without instructions or help. I feel immature. I'm kinda losing the topic here.. But idk. I'm just really sad. And everything kinda hurts rn,, Idk if I love my mom or if I hate her. It's complicated.

Long story short , I got about 3k in school refunds about a year ago. I was planning to buy my own car but my parents begged me to buy an old car they had . I gave them the money, and within a month the car failed. I was pissed to say the least , and for that year . My dad promised I’d get the money back or at least half because again they begged me to get the car. Then , behind my back my mom and dad sold my car without even asking . They got around 1,200 for it , and when I asked my mom for it . She said I didn’t deserve the money because I had an “attitude” and I was “disrespectful”. My dad , on the other hand tried to argue with my mom about it . But my dad is overly passive and tends to get quiet or try to do whatever she says to keep the peace . so , a year and some change has passed and I still have yet to see a dime of the money. Since then , my parents have bought a new car and sold their other ones to distant relatives. I want to ask my mom about it , but she tends to explode and brings up things I said in like 5th grade to show how I’m not deserving of the money. I got a new car , that needs a little fixing but it’ll be under the amount they sold it for . I’m scared to ask her and have my living situation be hell or maybe even be hit because she can’t handle disagreements . Because it’s been so long idk if I should let it go ? Or if I’m still allowed to ask and want the money . I would ask my dad but I’m scared my mom might get a little physical with him. Anyways , do you think I’m still entitled to the money? Or should I just let it go and take my L.

I (19M) work part-time at a grocery store, about 20 hours a week while I'm in community college. We use a scheduling app where you can post a shift, someone else picks it up, and then a manager approves it.

Two weeks ago I posted my Saturday 7am to 1pm shift because I had a family thing out of town. A coworker, Jada, picked it up on Wednesday. On Thursday the app showed it as "approved" with my manager's name next to it. I took a screenshot because I'm paranoid like that.

Saturday morning Jada overslept and didn't come in. My manager, Curtis, called me twice while I was on the highway, and on Monday I found out I'd been marked as a no-show. At my store, two no-shows and you're done.

I showed Curtis the screenshot. He said that once a swap is approved, the original person is "still responsible for making sure it's covered." Jada told me she'd tell him it was her fault, but I don't know if she did.

I like this job and I haven't been late once in eight months. I want to fix this without getting Jada in more trouble than she's already in.

What's the best way to bring this to someone above Curtis without it looking like I'm going over his head? Any wording would help a lot.

tl;dr: My Saturday shift swap was approved in the app, my coworker didn't show up, and my manager put the no-show on my record instead of hers.

I’m honestly losing my damn mind at this point.

There’s a YouTube channel ran by 3 men in their early 20s who I (17) and a few friends (around 20) went to school with and were bullied by. They make humiliating, AI generated videos of my friends and I without our consent, using private images found on our old schools Twitter acc, private social media pages (since we used to be friends with one of the members) and even my friend M’s workplace Instagram.

The videos usually consist of some vaguely s*xual jokes (about M sleeping with a hypothetical ex, M is aroace so that makes it even worse), anti-migrant rhetoric disguised as a fued between our old school and the school next to it, jokes about our late friend D and the pupil support organisation ran by them, the old school’s former head teacher swearing, threatening students and swordfighting, drinking addiction, gang violence, acts of terrorism (including bombing the school), etc.

They’ve also gone as far as to email an AI image of M with a man wearing an all black outfit and a balaclava, holding a bottle of alcohol to M’s workplace and posted the same image on Google reviews.

I have a document on my Notes app filled with all the evidence I have. I’ve got screen recordings of videos that the creators took down themselves after realising they went a bit too far, police reports, screenshots of conversations between the creators, emails between school, etc.

YouTube has barely done anything. We’ve been reporting for years now. The first channel was taken down after a few months, and then a new channel popped up instantly. A few videos have taken down, but then immediately reuploaded. Most of my reports are still live.

Police Scotland dismissed our complaints for months (despite my friends and I being vulnerable, we’re all autistic and M and I have become quite severely depressed as a result of the channel’s posts. Our friend D who I mentioned earlier killed themselves a few years before all of this due to their bullying, so there’s still a risk of that happening) until M complained about them contacting his workplace.

We reported to the police for months and they only acted after M’s workplace was contacted. Up until that point, we were told it was “playground banter” (despite me literally being a child legally and the creators being grown men), and when we said we were concerned especially since prior bullying had resulted in the death of our friend, the officer said it “wasn’t ideal”.

After the most recent report (about M’s workplace), The police warned the creators, and they privated the channel for a month before making it public again and uploading several new videos this morning.

We spoke to our old school months ago and they didn’t really react at all, despite the school’s name, staff and email addresses frequently being name dropped in the videos. They said it must be “very upsetting” and kinda left it at that.

I’m tired of no one listening. None of the reporting systems work and even when they rarely do, they’re easily able to upload the same video or make a new channel. Police have made it very clear they don’t care or see it as serious enough.

I’m genuinely worried about M’s health and safety, too. He’s become quite s*icidal as a result. I’m able to cope slightly better than him, but it’s still incredibly distressing.

We’re both scared to leave the house as we often see one of the members in the city and he’s taken photos of us in public before.
We both don’t post online and our accounts are all private as the creators often cyberstalk us.

I’m just really exhausted, this has been going for about a year and a half now and nothing has been done. There’s a genuine risk of M hurting himself because of this. I don’t know what I can do. If anyone knows what to do, PLEASE tell me. I feel like I’m going insane.

EDIT: Should specify I’m in Scotland.

I'm in a management role at a small company (30 employees).

I heard from several people that another employee is lying telling others she had an affair with me, has been to my house, and even slept with my boss. She claims to have evidence of all of this happening. I've made HR aware, and they are going to contact our attorney before moving forward with anything.

What should I do? What happens if she sues the company after she is fired? (If she is in fact fired). I've felt sick to myself all week over this. I tried to work so hard to get where I am and feel like I have a mark on my name now. My staff respects me and does not believe her, but I still feel awful.