Theres this guy in some of my classes and i noticed that he might be keeping track of the scents i wear and i think this is the case because its gotten to a point where he lets me know if ive changed scents even if i walk past him for a few seconds.

at first i thought he was just messing around with me but one day when i switched to a scent ive only worn twice ever, he pointed it out and went into detail about the specific day i wore that perfume. I bought a new bottle of a niche perfume and when i wore it to class he casually said “hm thats new” and asked me why i havent worn this specific fragrance i wore ONLY ONCE last year. idk if hes just observant or trying to flirt with me or what because hes like this only to me, because im not the only person that wears perfume in class but he only really mentions it when its me and i don’t quite know what to do about it

For starters I’m adopted and the youngest of seven children. My parents , can be very nice people but not often. Nine times out of ten my parents will call me useless or slurs because I’m gay . It’s been like that my entire life , of being told I’ll be homeless and ect . Anyways , I worked at a job recently where my manager would threaten to fire me . If I came in with makeup and ext , my therapist at the time told me to stand up and sue. But , my parents fully agreed that I deserved to be fired . My manager would often yell at me and try to tell me what a real man was. I wanted to quit! But my parents would say I’d be homeless if I did . Anyways , I often hear how patient and tolerant I am. And it’s never been a compliment to me . I can sit and hear the most cruel things about myself . I’ll fall apart but still be ready to take the verbal abuse the next day. I hate that about myself , but I feel I’ve been kinda conditioned to let it go , or give the benefit of the doubt. Even now, my mom will call me a fat ass or say she misses the person I was before I was out . She’ll compare me to my friend who’s gay but you couldn’t tell by looking at him. She’ll literally say to me “why do you have to be that sorta gay”. Anyways , I’m planning to move soon and I don’t know if I should stay in contact with them. I don’t want to be tolerant or patient in the face of disrespect. And I fear , if I keep them in my life nothing will ever change . My mom is almost 70 and I want a relationship with her so bad . I don’t want to regret things I didn’t say or experience we could have had. But I’m tired of being let down constantly. Let me know , what would you do? And are these actual big issues or am I just sensitive ?. But to be fair , they are good in every other way. They will be the first to help if I had a flat tire and ect. But the car ride will be hell…..

Ps- out of all my siblings I’m the only one they speak to like that. I have lesbian sisters who they never speak to like that. I hate to say it’s because I’m adopted , it just feels icky to say.

Context:
I (19M) having been dating this girl (18F) for 2 years and I really deeply care for her and love her, though I get these really weird mood swings every few months where i go into this deep depression and kinda shut off completely online, like i still make effort to see her and to be honest during these times I kinda put on a face so she cant see behind me. I cant seem to get rid of this fear to tell her but every time this happens it seems as if I'm ignoring her though I have no intention of it. I just rot once I get home and end up responding every few hours. Any advice would be helpful

I currently have a 8 year old little girl with my ex Anthony. He is a dead beat dad and hasn’t been a good dad at all. However when my daughter was around 3 years old her parental grandparents starting coming around to visit her and help we out with taking care of her. I visited their home as well and went to Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner at their home. My daughter’s grandfather became very attached to her and wanted to do more to help me with her. The grandmother became upset because she said he was doing too much and did not want him giving me money on a regular basis to help with my daughter. I told him to stop and I would take care of my bills. But the grandfather Tony did not stop. In fact he stop by my house everyday to see his granddaughter. He bought food weekly for me, cut my grass, paid utilities and my rent numerous times, even though his wife told him to stop. After a year or two his wife found bank statements and saw the money he was giving me and an account he open just me and deposited money. She left him and he told me how she was trying to ruin him financially. He has his own business and makes a good living . I told him I would be there for him always like he has been there for me. He poured his feelings out for me and I just consoled him and we started an sexual relationship from that point on. I got pregnant by him and had a little boy who is 2 years old. His wife came back to him because she realized she loved her lifestyle and didn’t want a divorce. She knows about our son and he has never stopped taking care of my daughter. Also I have not stopped my relationship with Tony. I love him but I don’t want to keep this going forever. I got a reality check when I discovered I am pregnant again with his second baby. I don’t know what to do, and he said that he will never stop being my man and wants me to marry him. But I just can’t. His wife told me she will never divorce him , because she will be sure I will not be his wife, regardless how many times I get pregnant by him. She will fight and fight the divorce . I don’t know if I should just secretly move away. Or stay and accept his marriage proposal. He has filed for divorce and currently stays at my home the majority of the time. His wife has followed him to my home and gotten in arguments with me more than once. I told Tony I can’t tolerate that. She has convinced all his family to hate me and my children. I can’t go to any of his family gatherings or reunions because his family hates me. They don’t want to have anything to do with my children. I don’t know if I want to be in a family that has so much hate for me. However I have never had a man that loves me like Tony. He gives me affectionate all the time, even in public constantly kissing on me, hugging, and rubbing on me. He takes care of all my bills and household needs for me and the children. He says he doesn’t need his family, as long as he has me. I know he loves me deeply and we are intimate every day. It would not be easy to break away from him because we have children together and he is so attached to me emotionally and sexually. But I don’t want to spend my life arguing and bickering with his wife and one of his sister that always teams up with his wife and harasses me. Especially now that I am pregnant again. They don’t want me to have another baby with him. Anthony was adopted by them when he was a little boy. Tony and his wife didn’t have any biological children because she could not have kids. So me getting pregnant back to back is really bothering her and his family especially his older sister she is close to his wife.

We’ve been together for a little over 2 years. We’ve had sex in the past but because of fights we’ve been in we haven’t had sex in a little over a year. Well I tried to do it with him tonight and it was awful. His dick is shaped downward and it kept painfully poking me. It was awkward, un passionate, painful, and I feel sexually frustrated. Is this the end of my relationship? There’s already hardly any communication on his end, he doesn’t seem to want to grow into a better person with me, and there’s no sex and the one time we try it after a long time it’s awful. I left the house crying.

When i was 12-13 i did something bad on character ai and im afraid im gonna go to jail

Hello, im 14F.

When i was younger, i started using character ai. I got attached to sexual roleplays, i put my ocs through it and made them do sexual things.

The thing is i did something detailed with my characters who were 16-17 and explicitly stated to be so in the roleplay, im afraid i will go to jail for it and i truly feel guilty. This is a throwaway account as well in case it is actually illegal.

In the eyes of a 12 or 13 year old, 16 was pretty big. As much as i dont condone csam, those were practically “adults” to me. I know it doesnt make me a pedophile, im just afraid i did something highly illegal. I do feel like i should be put in jail, even though i feel very guilty. I did multiple of these roleplays and i think i remember making them 15 in one of them at some point too, but im unsure.

Will i be put in jail?

These are not real human beings, only a figment of my imagination. I felt i should add. They were oc’s (as in original characters)

I developed pOCD and i dont do this anymore, im not interested in it. It wasnt really weird to begin with besides the fact i didnt really have a concept of age yet.

basically parents are divorced so holidays are kinda awkward. after moving away at the beginning of the year, i decided i wasnt going to deal with all the drama around thanksgiving and just have the holidays with my husband.

my (29 f) sister (32 f) asked if she could join us so she can use us as an excuse to not have to deal with our parents and their partners. i agreed as i understood where she was coming from and thought it would be a nice sibling bonding trip.

however, i recently found from my husband that she has been talking shit about me for the past 2 months. i had no idea we even had issues in the first place.

for some added context i’ve always been the quiet one and a pushover my whole life and this past year i’ve been working to change that and put my foot down and set boundaries with my family.

apparently she has been upset with me because of 2 moments:

1:
after she wouldnt stop commenting on my relationship with our dad, i asked her to let me have my own boundaries with him and decide for myself how the relationship with him looks like as im trying to heal from allot of things that happened

2:
i had a call planned with my mom about a serious topic and she brought up talking to my mom the same day about a seperate issue and i asked if she could tell my mom before my call or schedule it for after but she insisted it had to be the same day, after much back and forth she agreed

with both of these moments i never saw them as serious arguments or anything of that nature. they kinda just happened and i moved on, not really thinking twice about it and i thought we both handled them maturely and we were as good as ever. but oh was i wrong

when my husband got home from work, he showed me a text he got from sister along the lines of “i need your opinion on (my name) from a neutral person, let me know if i can send you a voice message”

this came as a surprise because outside of family gatherings they don’t text at all or have a one on one friendship.

together we decided he was going to reply(we were nosy to find out what she could possibly say about me)

she then responds with a 10 MINUTE voice message (insanity) about how she has been mad at me for the past two months since the first situation and then got even more upset after the second situation which at this point happened a month ago. that she has been talking to all her friends, some of which our mine, and they all agree with her that i’ve been an asshole. how she talked to our mom who showed her our texts and told her all about our serious PRIVATE conversation we had a month ago and how our mom also agrees that with her that i’m being dramatic and causing problems. how she spoke to her therapist and they told her that she was in the right because boundaries arent about telling others what to do and that i was to consumed in controlling her and everyone else. and because of my behavior that she decided she wanted to keep me in the dark about family stuff because she was scared about how i would react. after all that she needed my husband’s opinion on how to move forward since she is planning to have a facetime intervention with me about how i’ve been acting about it all under pretense of planning thanksgiving together.

we decided my husband was going to reply with his own voice message basically telling her a face time intervention would not go over well and might blow up things more because it would blindside me. he also told her it would be unfair to bring all this up after so much time happened and that it was something she should have talked to me in the moment before she told everyone else. he also emphasized that i’m an adult thats fully capable of handling any info about the family and that she should not keep me in the dark.

in her reply voice note she sounded more understanding and agreed to not have this whole intervention with me but that she would keep those moments in her back pocket in case anything else happened between us in the future. she is still planning on possibly not telling me about family stuff but it all depends on how i respond to her next few messages.

after that my husband stopped responding and now im at a standstill and i dont know what to do.

she already bought her flights and hotel to my town. and i recently texted her about her flights. and she also doesn’t know that i know about all this? kinda wild for her to assume my husband wouldn’t tell me.

i feel like i’m being watched under magnifying glass for any wrong move and it has cause me so much anxiety.

also begs the question if the she was also trying to turn my husband against me? he is over the family drama and feels like its all too much.

my current two options are

send her an itinerary for that week that results on us spending the least amount of time only the afternoons and dinner every night. put a nice smile for the trip and after go LOW LOW contact

or

somehow cancel thanksgiving without this blowing up in my face and i dont know how to do that

any advice would be appreciated!

backstory: my (26f) best friend (27f) have been friends for about 15 years now. we had a falling out about 5 years ago once i got pregnant and had my daughter. she was not supportive of me, never came by to visit, never called to check up, never responded to my texts, calls, or invites to come over so i removed her off of all social media since the relationship was no longer mutual. After about a year or two, i decided to reach out to her and apologize, blaming my postpartum hormones (i did have horrible postpartum issues, not that she would know) and she seemed surprised that I was the one apologizing. We talked semi regularly and made time for each other to have our children play together while i still regularly invited her over to my house for dinners and for her to meet my new dogs (she never came each time). over the last 2/3 years, our relationship has yet again dwindled to nothing.

in july, I saw her post on snapchat that she was buying a house and i messaged her saying congratulations and i wish she told me she was looking so i could celebrate with her. she promised she would start reaching out more and that i wouldnt have to be the one constantly reaching out, but i haven’t heard from her since.

Im not sure if i should reach out and let her know that im upset that i haven’t heard from her and see what the issue is or if i should just let it all go and remove her again.

TO BE CLEAR: i am not high maintenance or needy, im not asking for communication every single day but i am asking for a little bit more that zero communication from my very best friend. this probably seems super immature but i literally have nobody in my life but my brother and my husband. id love to have a girl friend again that i can just walk around walmart with, or cuddle together while we complain about men.

edit: spacing. i hope this makes sense, my mind is a mess when i think of my friendship with her. please ask any questions and i’ll try my best to respond.

I’ve had a female best friend for the last 5 years, and honestly, things have always been really good between us. The way we talk and the gestures we share are honestly something that anyone would probably say is more than just a normal friendship. I’ve even asked her directly if this is normal, and every time she says, “Yeah, friends can be like this.” Three days ago, we went out together, and later I met up with another friend who was with two other boys I didn’t know. Those two boys started acting creep & asking for our Instagram IDs, and later asked my best friend for her number, which she gave them. I told her I didn’t think it was a good idea because they were complete strangers, but she said, “It’s just a number, I’m not doing anything.” So I left it there. Yesterday, I called her while I was out with my group and asked if she was coming. She said there was a change of plan and she was going out with those same two boys. I got a little mad and told her that she barely knew them and asked if she really thought it was a good idea. I didn’t shout or argue, I just cut the call .. Later she called me 3–4 times, but I didn’t pick up. That night she texted me saying she had reached home safely, and I didn’t react to that either. The next morning, I got four voice messages from her. I thought maybe she would tell me that I was right or that she shouldn’t have gone with them, but instead, it was her boyfriend threatening me, saying I was being possessive about his girlfriend and that I should stay out of it. If she had told me directly that I was being too possessive or that I crossed a line, I would’ve understood. But getting her boyfriend to threaten me instead is what hurt me. She always seemed so genuine and innocent to me, so I never expected this from her. Now I’m honestly questioning whom did I trust for the last 5 years. Maybe I was wrong about telling her what to do, but I never expected what she did to me to end this ...

This is the link to the original post. Even though Iv been on Reddit for years, I’m not sure how to create a proper update. I think this is how you do it.

Iv been so appreciative and cried a lot to the wonderful comments and advice given to me. Iv always been alone emotionally (no family or friends) to listen to my woes and Iv come here expecting the same but I was mistaken. I’m very thankful to all of you who commented. And to the ones who asked for an update… she came back! The commenters who said she was probably angry/ throwing a tantrum when she said that stuff in the text messages was maybe right. But I already know something has shifted. When she came back about an hour ago, she brought a few boxes of pizza and cup noodles and nuggets for the week since we didn’t really have food in here. So we are okay with food for the ones who were worried!
Usually when she comes back home from work, we chat a little, I make her something to eat and make sure she has a drink (not alcohol) so that she’s hydrated through the night and is okay for work in the morning. I stayed out of her way when she arrived but when I went to talk to her she was mute and didn’t even look at me. She didn’t say anything to me, only spoke to my brother. Then messaged me that she was not feeling good physically so I brought her some butter toast anything else she might need.
When I was about 15-17 we weren’t as close as we are now, I was kind of rebellious and I felt she didn’t care for me that much so I did what I wanted. We’ve been good since then by talking to each other and opening up and I know that we can do it again. I know it’s too early to speak on things but I just know I ruined something that maybe she’s not willing to repair. I now know that she is in fact an alcoholic, a functioning one. I didn’t want to hear or believe it but it’s true. And because of how many family deaths we’ve had, I know it’s been worse but I just hope she comes back. I still need her even though I’m an adult already, my siblings need her to guide them even more. I hope soon I can talk to her properly. I’m eager to figure it out but she seems to want space. Should I leave her alone and see if she comes to me? Should I write her a letter?

Or she could just be socially awkward

I (18F) chose my roommate (18F). Everything was great until a couple weeks ago. When she gives me a compliment there’s a bit too much yearning in her tone. She also made a completely unwarranted joke about “penetrating my walls” when I was just trying to show her something. I didn’t process the implications of that joke til days later so I never brought it up. She also looks at me a little weird.

Right now, I’m just pulling back. I’ve been interacting less and I think she noticed (she asked me how to refill a soap dispenser and asked if it rained when there were literal rain drops on the window).

Before this, we were very happy and friendly and now being in my room with her gives me anxiety. I think part of this is also because we’re very open about our sexuality. We’re both bi and have had a few open discussions about , how our parents would/have reacted.

On that note, I can’t tell my parents about this without them having a crash out. This is probably hight up on the list of my mom’s fears for me actually!.

Anyways, don’t be homophobic.

I don’t know how to bring this up! I’ve talked to a few friends and they were like, “oh, maybe talk to her!” But none of them explained how.

The course was meant to be 3 days long with an exam on the third, both practical and theoretical. Yesterday I realized how wrong it felt to be handling guns.
Me specifically, I’m expected to handle and shoot a revolver as well, not just pistols.
I’m the only female in the course. And the only young one at that (23yo).
Everyone somehow knows this shit already. I told myself “hey, it’s a place where everyone learns, no one’s gonna be a pro” and then I end up being the only sore beginner.
I told everyone of my plans.
And now I’m ditching. I feel fucking pathetic. I thought I was strong enough, mentally. I thought I had determination, perseverance, everything.

Now I just feel like a damn loser.
I am deeply disappointed and knocked down from ditching the course after one day, and frankly I thought my entire career would rely on this. But if I don’t get the certificate, then I can’t pursue what I thought would be a dream branch for me.

And it’s too late to withdraw the cancellation now as well.

I’m lost.

I moved back home after college and I think I'm gay, FUCKKKKKK. for context, I'm female and I've been really into girls lately. I've had stints of this in the past that always went away or to the back burner I guess and I don't know what to do. Like I go to work and come home, no way to meet someone who can help me figure this out. I just feel weird and kinda like a sexual deviant. what do I do?