I'm bi, male , fairly fem presenting and wear eyeliner

So most ppl think I'm gay :<

I've only dated boys and it's shit.

I've been in college a few months and got lots of attention from guys but I rlly don't have any interest in guys rn.

A girl who's been saying hi to me in a flirty way every day for a week

I've been really nervous because a girls never given me attention and I've been really excited

On Tuesday she called out "I have a crush on youuuu" and giggled

And I didn't know what to say cuz of how happy I was for once.

And for last 2 days I've just been really excited

Because A GIRL LIKED ME

So I thought..

Today she called me over because turns out she just wants me to get with her gay best friend :[

That's why she flirted to find out if I'm gay or straight

Fucking hate ts

Girls don't want me because I'm too fem (I'm not changing that) and I don't want guys

Now the reason I don't wanna date guys is mostly I know they'll just use me and tbh the majority of men just arnt that hot, sure I'm still attracted to guys but I'm picky as fuck and can't even date femboys because I get jealous because they're pretty and

Masc guys ick me out so dating guys is just too slim yet loads wanna date me .. I don't want any of them rn

I was 14. I was at a friend's house and when it was time to leave, he hugged me and kissed me on the lips. It seemed totally natural and I kissed him back.

I’m a straight woman (allegedly) but something about Meg Thee Stallion is just indescribable omfg 😋 she is so yummy and sultry almost like a siren pulling you in

Especially after her latest freestyle release, idk what spell I’m under but I kinda love it lol 😭😭

I can’t be the only one…

I come off as a straight guy in many ways. Currently dating a girl. I'm tall, athletic. Deep voice. Have a lot of masculine interests. Almost all of my friends are heterosexual guys. I make friends easier with guys than with girls.

In the past I have tried all sorts of meet-up style events that are aimed at bi folks. This was easier when I was in UNI. We had organizations on campus. I'm one year out of UNI. I made one friend at UNI who is bi. She invites me to events. She's very connected to the queer community. Except, the actual bi-leaning friend groups, and meet ups I've been to are pretty hostile towards men who "blend" in with hetero-dudes, because there is this big trend within these bi communities where I am to hate on everything that remotely resembles male heterosexuality, which at large is seen as being a masculine guy.

I can't tell if this is a regional thing or if it's a bi thing? I see it pop up here on this sub time to time. I'm starting to wonder why this is a thing and if it means that to be fully accepted as a queer male you have to be feminine presenting.

Edit: I'm currently based in Scotland, U.K

Hi, everyone. I'm a f21 and straight who's with a bi guy (m21). I love him dearly. We knew each other since we were 14 and just started dating in August of this year. I don't want to spill his coming out story, but he came out a few weeks shy of us being official. At the time, we were just friends so I told the news to my parents. They've always been supportive of the queer community. Hell, they told me if I came out as queer they'll support me no matter what. I thought they were cool...until now.

My mom was down with my bf and I being friends. When I told her we were dating she didn't like it. She thinks he's using me as a front for his conservative parents (he does not want to come out to them) to appear straight. That he's into guys, not girls and that he'll cheat on me with men. She says: "don't be like Mary" in reference to Mary Austin, Freddie Mercury's ex fiance.

My bf assured me he loves me and that's not what he wants to do. He's thought about me for years and only sees marriage, kids, etc. with me and only me.

And before everyone here flames my mom, I believe the biphobia is a shield. She just doesn't want my heart played with. But like, helloooo? Straight men cheat and lie too! She's also not wrong about people. She's sniffed out a lot of bad friends I had in the past. I just hope she's wrong about him.

So what do I do? I feel really stupid right now voicing this concern. If my mom didn't say these things once a week to me I wouldn't be asking. She's a good mom overall, but this is eating me alive. Someone, anyone please respond to this.

So, I came out to a couple of friends! Although it feels amazing in many many ways. It doesn't feel as big as I thought it was going to. Does that make sense?

The relief was there that both conversations turned out well and they were welcoming and accepting of who I am. But I thought after so many years (35) of keeping this side of me hidden especially from male friends that I would have cried, yelled in excitement, have no more thoughts of this, and i guess there is still more coming out that needs to happen for me.

But was curious if others have had this same feeling? Were there moments after that came that you felt this? Or is it just normal that life keeps moving on you know. Which i'm not mad at all! Yes, would love to hear others experience about how they felt following their coming out to friends.

Thanks loves!

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Hello,

I consider myself a bisexual but I am not very confident in that title. I recently learned that my type of bisexuality qualifies as hetero-romantic. I am attracted to female breasts and genitalia but I have little to no attraction towards women themselves. I think women are attractive but I am practically never attracted to them. I have never crushed on a woman the same way I have with men (despite my dislike of them). It comes naturally with men whereas I feel like I'm forcing it with women.

I don't always correct people when they assume I am straight because I might as well be. People assume when I say that I'm bisexual that it means I could be in a relationship with anyone and I feel like a poser. I don't want to date women and force myself into being attracted in a way that I am not.

I don't know any other bisexual people who are in the same situation and I would like to hear how you navigate it (ex. dating wise) and how you learned to accept yourself.

So I’m 17m, and I think I might be bi, my whole life I’ve always have liked girls, my parents were pretty conservative (while I’ve swung more democrat) so they kinda taught me to be straight, but now I’ve started to really question myself on what I’m into, and I still like girls but I’m starting to think I like guys too. I’m just scared about coming out or if this is just a faze.

I am (31F) and my is husband(35M) we have been together coming up on 10 yrs. I came out to him last summer as bisexual because we were spicing up and decided to watch something and ended up watching FFM. I told him I liked it and we watched it on a couple more occasions and then I told him hey I’m bisexual and I have been with girls when I was way younger, but haven’t been with any since I got out of school.

I assumed that because so much time had passed and I hadn’t acted on it again maybe I wasn’t and I was just experimenting. After some conversations with my husband I realized that I would like to actually find out how into I am, HOWEVER I have no idea how to go into this! I feel like I have such a unique situation which maybe I don’t. I’m in not looking for long term and that feels so disrespectful and of course that would be explained in the beginning. I’m so awkward and I haven’t been in the dating world in so long I barely know how it’s works and even when I was I was dealing with straight men, which very respectful is so much easier as a women to find a man to find fool around with.

I hope this isn’t coming across terribly rude and insensitive I really don’t mean to be! I’m just scared and feel like I need hand holding before I jump in.

Is it unusual to be picky about the type of guy I am attracted too? Been openly bisexual for two years. I don't really have a lot of requirements for dating a woman.When it comes to dating guys, they have to be clean shaved, skinny ish non smoker. and that's just the start.

If I like femininity whether it comes from a cis woman, man or trans woman. I fantasize about bottoming but gay p0rn doesn't turn me on as much unless one of them is a femboy, I'd prefer to get pegged or get down on a feminine man or trans woman.

I (27F) have been in a complicated situationship for some years. My partner (31M) knows about me being bi and my past experiences and I’ve only officially dated guys, but recently I find myself wanting to be with a female more and more and I don’t want to tell him that, he feels some type of way even if I just spend time with someone like a friend. I’m stuck between wanting to be with him and wanting to be honest with myself

Hello there! This is my very first post in this subreddit!

I have a question for all of you: did you have a fictional character who was your bisexual awakening? Mine was Grell Sutcliff!

When I saw her, I thought some of the things she did were kinda attractive even though I was only into men for the majority of last year, until I became fully attracted to her and came out as bisexual in November.

I'm (28f) honestly not sure how to navigate this, so I'd appreciate some advice from women who might have been in a similar situation. I apologize if this comes off as rude, I honestly have nobody in my personal life I could turn to for this..

I've been questioning whether I might be attracted to women, and I'm not really sure how to figure that out. Part of me wants to talk to a girl about it or maybe explore those feelings with someone, but I don't know how you even approach something like that when I'm not sure I could even go through with anything.

I guess I'm wondering how other women figured out their sexuality, and whether it's okay to be upfront with someone that you're questioning and still unsure of what you're looking for.

I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable or give someone the wrong impression. I'm just genuinely confused about my feelings and would like some perspective from people who might understand.

If you've been through something similar, how did you navigate it?

Hi

This happened when I was at work. I was in the cafeteria and saw a woman ( she was giving lesbian masc, maybe or maybe not I am not sure). After I saw her for the first time I had a different feeling, so I started noticing her in the cafeteria. And yesterday I felt attracted and instantly thought should I ask her out? I have never dated a woman. Once a man (LDR for a couple weeks during covid) then recently talked to someone through Reddit and a couple guys before him but never dated anyone. Am I bisexual or what is it? I am confused. Looking for advice.

I am 20M and I am pretty lost right now. I have been kind of addicted to porn on and off for the past 7-8 years throughout my teenage years and now quit it completely since the last 2 months since it was ruining my mental health and I used it as an escape from loneliness.

So yeah same story with a lot of ppl that I started with straight porn and then switched to gay porn and for years I used to like watching it but it gave me immense shame and yea as I think it back it may be internalized homophobia in my mind which kind of made me more alone cause I didnt really know if I was allowed to be this way.

I also was a bit of loner so I didnt have much social interactions or any relationships in those years but I realized I had crushes on guys in movies/shows esp if there was a gay relationship but never in real life. Irl I always had crushes on women even while watching gay porn later. Because of that, I always assumed the gay/bi porn was just a fantasy or something caused by porn rather than an indication of my actual sexuality.

As I stopped watching porn, I have been having on and off thoughts on being with a girl or a guy and started noticing it more in person instead of the porn or shows that I used to watch.

I think I have accepted myself to be fine with having sex or being with a guy. However, I'm still unsure whether I'm genuinely attracted to men or whether it's more the idea or fantasy of being with one that appeals to me. I think I should try to get into relationships and socialize more to figure out my sexuality but its seems very confusing to understand when I am attracted to a girl or a guy.

Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you figure out the difference between being attracted to someone in theory and actually wanting to be with them in real life?

So I (19, F) have been wondering if i might be bi lately. I remember back when i was about 13-14 I was wondering for a bit if I am bisexual, later i just settled on saying i don't want a label which eventually turned into just considering myself straight and now I'm back into questioning.

I don't have any dating experience of both men and women (lame ik) and i feel i don't experience much attraction in general, but i wouldn't call myself asexual or aromantic. The thing is that even when i was younger and questioning i kept thinking i wouldn't be able to date a girl and that's how i landed on calling myself unlabeled. I also figured i was too young to know. Now for a few years I've been pretty convinced that I'm straight, but after a few guys asked me out within the last year I've just been getting such an ick from that.

I don't know if it comes from my prejudice towards men from being a man hater (sorry guys ik it's not all men im working on it) or if it's because i am actually bi. I'm pretty sure i am attracted to men so i wouldn't go so far to say I'm a lesbian, but i just can't figure out my stance on women. I love women so much they're so beautiful and kind and all that but i feel like that could also be stemming from my love for girlhood.

I also think i could be dealing with some internalised homophobia. Like i am such an ally and support the community, but when it comes to myself it feels like I'm not allowed to be part of the community, my family is kind of accepting but definitely not supporting, and i feel like i would be such a disappointment to them if i was bi.

So as I've been wondering and wondering i think i actually might be into dating women if it wasn't for social expectations, but since i have no experience to speak of i find it hard to accept the bisexual label. I also wouldn't want to waste another woman's time by trying to figure out if i am bi or not, that would seem pretty disrespectful.

This is pretty long so thank you if you read it all. I hope it was at least a bit coherent, I tried to organise my thoughts as best as i could

I’m a 19M and recently realized that I’m bi, so I guess I’ve started thinking about trying out new things and all that. I’m considering getting some small black stud earrings because I think they’d go well with what I normally wear, but I keep second guessing myself and thinking they’d be too much or look silly. Maybe it’s just because I was raised thinking that any sort of accessories on guys was “gay and not normal”, but I wouldn’t mind some advice on this.

(english is not my first language so sorry if something is confusing)

I(21F) started questioning if I was bisexual at around the age of 15 while in quarantine, but up until now have never actually had any kind of romantic interaction with any girl. I actually was in a long term relationship with a boy up until a few months ago, it lasted like three years and he is the only romantic experience Ive had in my life. But theres this best friend I have, i met her 2 years ago and we became super close really fast, we truly love eachother, but im confused whether it is actually more than just platonic (She is bisexual btw)

We met at college, and there was a semester where we became and were especially close since we had been separated from our friend group in all our classes, so we were together all the time, and even though we both had boyfriends at the time (she was in a similar situation to mine where she had a long term boyfriend and broke up this year) i felt there was something different between us, but no one said anything. Like we would be super touchy with like hugs and holding hands a little few seconds longer, but i dismissed it because other girls in my friend group are like that between friends, and sometimes i would see her holding hands with another friend and ngl i think i got kinda jealous. There was also this time where we had some free time between classes and went to my house, and we were watching a show in my laptop both of us in my bed, and our thighs were touching and if my memory is not betraying me she rested her hand in mine for a bit, idk it was a long time ago. Im not that comfortable with PDA with other girl friends tho., like i do hug them, and i can rest my head on their shoulder, i can sit on their laps or them in mine, but thats about it. At the same time when i think about it, its not like i do much thaaat much more with the girl this post is about, but idk its just different.

We have actually gotten lesbian allegations 😭 HSAHSA and we always joke about being girlfriends and stuff, but im not certain i ACTUALLY like her romantically, or that she could actually be interested in me either, because we flirt jokingly so much i could not take a hint if there was any.

Her relationship w her boyfriend ended before mine, and at that time i really thought i liked her, because i was actually happy about the breakup because that meant that maybe i could have a chance in the future, but now that that time has come, im not so sure anymore. Idk, i think that if i really liked her romantically i would not doubt so much about it, but there are times when it feels really really intense, and then it fades and i begin to think i was just confused. I have thought about the idea of making out w her, and see what happens from there, but i dont know if it could ruin the friendship or make things weird between us, thats something i really dont want to happen. And of course I dont even know if she would be willing or interested in me, and i would be so embarrassed to suggest it and she doesnt even want to try? i think i would die on the spot. I just dont know if its worth it, trying something that may not even happen, and it ends up ruining my most important friendship.

Edit: forgot to mention that neither of us is the kind of person that makes out with people for fun, like at parties and stuff, like me she has basically only been with her boyfriend, i think with the exception of a situationship w a girl before him, but that is why im so nervous about possibly suggesting kissing, because idk if shes up to that in a casual way. I would be for her, to find out if theres actually something going on between us or im just crazy, but like i said, im scared of her reacting badly

I asked my hookup about his opinions on bisexuals amongst the community and to no surprise he confirmed some of the negative sentiment I read about here. He believes that the feelings stem from the masking that’s achieved if or when there’s a heteronormative pairing. He didn’t seem to have a problem with me on the business end of things, but I’m curious, what’s your opinion on this topic and would if you have a negative view preclude you from getting involved with bisexual identifying individuals?

The title says it all really. I really love her, she was so kind and smart, I love how she made everyone smile.

I wish I had gotten even closer to her, I wish I had told her, even if she didn't feel the same way. Having an answer would have been better than the absolute hell I've been living through filled with regret for never letting her know.

She passed away at such a young age. I'm 16 now, in less than 6 months ill be 17 and the gap between our ages will be larger than it ever should be. I was never meant to be more than a year older. I don't know what to do or feel.

I have such a strong feeling of guilt, I got a boyfriend and I feel terrible for feeling this way. I don't know if I should still feel this way towards her while in a relationship, I truly do love him more than anything I just have these thoughts that feel like they'll forever be here because she passed away before I got to let her know. I love him so much, and even if she was still alive I'd be with him.

I think its just the fact I never got closure, I never got to know what would happen and process everything properly. I dont know what to do anymore

Apologies the titles a bit vague but wasn’t sure what to title this.

I’ve kinda been talking to this boy, by that I mean we both like each other but he won’t let anything happen because he’s religious. But we flirt over text… everyday. Anyways, he’s literally using me.

I’m so extremely aware of this but I also don’t want it to end? I try end it then I just get pulled back in or I start it up again myself.

I’m kinda just coming here to rant really coz I know you’ll all probably say to leave him and never go back, but he’s all I can think about and we’re friends before anything, and I’m enjoying the attention 🫠