r/r4r • • Feb 19 '24

🪲 UPDATED 22 April; DESKTOP users also affected [META] Pasting anything into the title field breaks posting when using the Reddit app; "Invalid State" error

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If you are getting an "Invalid State" error message when posting, it is due to a known bug in Reddit, which corrupts the post title when text containing (possibly invisible) invalid characters is pasted into the title field. This is easy to avoid by simply not pasting anything into the title field. All versions of the app and the desktop website are now affected. Note that this message has nothing to do with the use of the word "state" as a type of location or division within certain countries; editing your location tag will not help.

Known workarounds include:

  • ➡️➡️➡️➡️➡️Avoid pasting or inserting any text into the post title field by any means other than typing it.⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️⬅️ Type the title out instead. If you already pasted text into the title field, it may be necessary to restart the app (desktop users, reload the page using Ctrl+F5) and compose the post without pasting any text into the title field. ➡️➡️This includes all shortcuts (Ctrl+V, etc) and other forms of text insertion or auto-complete, including the copy/paste clipboard toolbar on your phone's keyboard.⬅️⬅️
  • If there is blank space at the start or end of the title, deleting it should allow the post thru. THIS BLANK SPACE WILL BE INVISIBLE; if you can move the text cursor past the start or end of your title, there is blank space present that must be deleted.
  • Alternatively, Using the Old Reddit interface (https://old.reddit.com) should reliably work, as Reddit has long since stopped adding new bugs to updating this version. Pasting works in this version of the website; if your post title is long, you may want to use this option instead. This version of the website may or may not be accessible from a mobile browser; if it fails to load or redirects to the app, try using the "Request Desktop Site" feature of your browser, or uninstall the Reddit app.

Note that pasting text into the post body does not cause any issues, and is safe to do.

Reddit has stated they are "still working on" fixing this bug, but have not provided us any timeline or updates on their progress. It is not clear to us how or why this issue cannot be resolved on their end in nearly 3 months time.

If the above workarounds do not work:

  • As of 7 May, all screen capture recordings thus far sent to the mod team have shown that users are ignoring the instructions above and pasting text into the title field. It should be obvious that these workarounds will not work if they are not followed. ➡️➡️If you cannot avoid pasting text into the title, use old.reddit.com to post instead.⬅️⬅️
  • If you can reproduce this issue while following the workarounds, please try to screen-record the issue, so that we can investigate the cause. Please record the entire process, starting from the community home screen, thru to submitting the post and showing the "Invalid State" error message. Use a screen capture tool if possible, but using a camera would also work if the video is clear enough. Use a video host like Imgur, Gfycat, Streamable, or Youtube host the video, and message the link to the mods using the support links in the community menu or info page. If possible, please include what device, browser, and keyboard app is being used.

r/r4r • • 53m ago

F4A Online 25 [F4A] #Europe #Online - lf fun chats - teach me something new, big bonus points if it's about my interests NSFW

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Hey everyone!

I'm looking for some fun, mostly short term, chats. Just for some entertainment. Definitely not looking for NSFW, but marked that way nonetheless because you never know where conversations go and my humour can be crude and I've developeda cussing habit.

I'm a student, enjoy creative hobbies (not good at them but oh well - I enjoy it) like drawing, sculpting, coding, and photography. I try to get out of the house and walk regularly, but am kinda unfit in a really weird way. Outside of that I'm also incredibly average.

Interests include animals, nature and related science, gaming, some moves shows and books and random facts. I love it when people ramble about their interests even if I don't share them.

I speak English fluently, am learning Dutch and aspiring to learn Norwegian.

Now I'm gone for the next two hours or so, hoping for some interesting fun facts that can extend my knowledge pool


r/r4r • • 1h ago

M4A Online 24 [m4a] #online Nerdy guy looking for interesting conversations! NSFW

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Full disclosure, I don’t know what I’m looking for exactly aside from someone to talk to while I’m at work. We can see where it goes from there! Though please be aware that while I’m platonically interested in guys and am more than willing to chat, I’m not romantically or sexually interested in them so if you’re a guy and that’s what you’re after, I’m sorry to say you probably won’t find it with me.

I guess a little bit about me. I’m 24, soon to be 25. I have a job (Walmart!) but still live at home. I confess I don’t do much outside of work and trying to deal with my family, but when I do have free time I’ve been writing, hanging with my friends, and trying to get into biking (I enjoy it just don’t have much stamina). But most of my free time has been spent gaming. I am addicted to Minecraft, and recently got back into it after burnout with it the past few months.

I’ve been rather sheltered living in the middle of nowhere and while I think I’ve self-educated well, there may be blind spots in my modern cultural knowledge. Also I’m incredibly socially awkward, though aren’t we all? Part of my goal here is to practice and develop my social skills!

I guess one thing I’d be down to talk about is my opinions as an ex-Christian, because I find it fascinating. So if that’s something you’re interested in, maybe you were never a religious person so you want to hear someone outside it defend it or you are a religious person and you want to try and convert me, I’m down!

I am still new to posting here so hopefully I’ll learn and be able to refine my post for subsequent tries if nothing else. Thank you in advance, and to prove you read this whole thing introduce yourself by talking about your favorite movie! :)


r/r4r • • 14h ago

F4M Online 26F4M #Online #US Low key vibe, and a little more? NSFW

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Hey there, 26F here from the Midwest. I've had some real luck finding diamonds in the rough here, so far. But a lasting connection has yet to find me. I'm not looking for anything serious, but a longer term genuine friendship, with a little bit of spice, would be nice.

Im 5'6, curvy but losing weight, long brown hair, brown eyes. I'm into the metaphysical, love drum and moon circles. Love hiking, reading (sorry, I'm into self help), endless amounts of music (let's trade playlists?), crafting, gaming, mental health and self improvement. Oh, and live theater. I would argue that I'm literate and can hold a conversation.

I'm a switch, but we'll get to that.

I'm also a single mom working full time. So I'm not always the most available. But make an effort, and i will too. I'm one to match energy.

I'm looking for someone who \*can hold a conversation\* I want to get to know you. Thats really the main thing. And I'd like us to have some common interests. Don't make me carry the conversation, don't do it to me. And don't expect me to just get spicy right away. We work our way up to that around here.

Time zone isn't a big deal. Must be willing to trade pictures. Id prefer to chat on a different app, if it goes well. Tattoos are hot, but you don't have to have them. Looking for ages 22-36. If you've got a vibe and you'd like to share, shoot me a message. A message with some substance, preferably


r/r4r • • 52m ago

M4F New Jersey 37 [M4F] #NJ- Looking for my best friend and partner NSFW

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NSFW because I’d like to talk about sex at some point down the line, it’s important like anything else in a healthy relationship. Quick FYI I’m kinky/dominant, love affection and am very loving with my partner. Details of we hit it off.

I’m Danny! 37, 5’8” I have four tattoos, and glasses and I’m single. I’m interested in a relationship but am open to making new friends (no men, sadly most of them just want one thing and I’m not into that nor interested).

I have a small group of very close friends, I believe in quality over quantity any day. I’m monogamous, love my partner with my whole heart and soul(when I have one). I believe a relationship is only good when they’re your best friend too.

I’m laid back, pro people’s rights/awareness of mental health and the like. I don’t particularly believe in a higher entity but would respect your choices. I do like watching a sermon on Sundays.

I’m looking for someone emotionally available, likes to talk and text, is emotionally intelligent. A woman that likes affection, spending time together and apart too (nothing wrong with doing your own thing)

Listening to an old metal songs.

https://imgur.com/a/3aukBMY

I’m 420/alcohol/tobacco friendly but I don’t do anything by choice

I LOVE to travel so distance isn’t an issue to me

Oh. I should mention I had my teeth removed to get dentures working on getting my dentures but the dental office haven’t called me
Back. I’ve gone to them recently and am awaiting a call.

Also I’m a dad of 2 they live with their mom since she lives far away.

Currently I’m playing Crimson Desert, Final Fantasy 14 and Neon Abyss 2

Just a heads up I’m not interested in men.

I’m an open book so you can ask what ever you want.


r/r4r • • 1h ago

M4F North Carolina 34 [M4F] #Raleigh, North Carolina - Nerdy, cross between a metalhead and elder emo guy looking for his best friend and a spark for some new missed experiences. NSFW

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Hello there ! 34 Married White male here looking for someone to talk to and get to know and see where things go. So far I haven't had much luck because I'm either looking for something not serious enough for someone (meaning that I don't want to completely upend anyone's life) or they seem to be intimidated by the situation which i totally get. Essentially I'm looking for someone that is a best friend that can turn into new experiences and more. Someone I can confide in and vent to, and talk to on a daily basis. You could say that I'm introvertedly extroverted, because once I get to know someone and there's a connection there I absolutely love talking to them. A lot of my issues stems from how I grew up and how it essentially forced me to "grow up" at a young age just to survive. I walled myself up hard when I was younger so nowadays I crave the attention and connection I never let myself have outside of normal friends, I never let myself open up or be vulnerable to someone that I thought was attractive because of that. I always thought I'd either be too much of a burden or scare people off 😅 . Iguess you can say I like trauma bonding in a sense because I can usually have great talks with people that have been through life like I have. A little bit about myself is I love to cook, I'm a huge music person, I love true crime podcasts and I love just learning about people and where they come from. I'm looking for a distraction from day to day life and would really like a new friend :) I'm a transplant to my state so I don't really have friends here and I get lonely very easily 😭. So If you like a bearded husky metalhead who has a dark sense of humor and loves to cook and nerd out to music and games we may be a match!


r/r4r • • 1h ago

M4F Germany / Online 28 [M4F] Germany/Europe - Chronically online Nerd for Chronically online nerd 😂 - Plants, gaming, 40k and everything in between

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Hallo! Lovely to meet whoever is reading this 🤭 Especially my nerdy future wife and best friend 👀

As the title already kinda mentions, I am a bit chronically online T_T That is not to say I don’t enjoy going out as I really do but it’s simply not something I crave.

Despite being an avid roleplayer for the past 6ish years, I struggle with actually describing myself or my interests but ahhhhh well!

Firstly, my name is Simon! I am a 27yo nerd from Germany who really loves just about anything nerdy. Fantasy, gaming, anime/manga, roleplay, warhammer 40k, reading and soooo on! Also recently got a 3D Resin printer and am actively trying to not poison myself while attempting, or rather preparing, to print a titan 😔

My current main game is Black Desert Online but I also please leauge and am generally down for most games

I work in IT and live on my own 😌

As mentioned above, I also do roleplay (Mostly chat based) hence my Reddit account is pretty full with that sorta stuff. Lots of people would probably find that weird but hey! It’s a hobby! And if you are in fact do not find it weird or are curious, perhaps you are exactly the person I am looking for!

I also spent way too much money on kitchen gadgets and plants and am slowly running out of space sooooooo yeeeeeeah 😭

Plenty more about me but I figure it’s a good time to jump to what I am actually looking for in a person!

I am looking for a fellow nerd! Someone who is content with a date occasionally consisting of trying a new game or simply being in each others company rather than going out every night!

I want someone gentle, sweet, yet also sarcastic! I adore sarcasm so I kinda can’t live without it!

While I got nothing against overweight people, I am simply not attracted to it and my personal preference lies with someone who is fit/thin. You being into working out would be a plus as I am trying to get back into it at the moment!

I have no particular preference for age but I would still prefer someone around my own age. Location is also preferably in Europe or even better in Germany.

I don’t mind traveling a bit but I would rather not have to take a 10H flight.

Here is me https://imgur.com/a/YunWNCq


r/r4r • • 13h ago

F4A Online [26][F4A] #Online LF gamer friends!!

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26F | CST | PC Gamer Looking for Gaming Friends ♡

Hey! I'm Wuskie (pronounced Whiskey), a 26-year-old PC gamer looking for some new people to play with and hopefully make some actual friends along the way.

I'm pretty shy at first, but once I'm comfortable I'm a lot more talkative and goofy. I enjoy VC, late-night gaming, joking around, and people who are down to bounce between different games instead of sticking to one forever.

🎮 Games I currently play: Hunt: Showdown • OSRS • Conan Exiles • Elden Ring/Dark Souls • Palworld • Stardew Valley • Sons of the Forest • Outlast Trials • Enshrouded • For the King • Dark & Darker • Code Vein + more

I swap games a lot, so having at least 2 games in common would be ideal!

Looking for: • 21–38 • US/Canada preferred • PC players • Comfortable with VC • People actually looking for friendship, not just a few matches • Chill, goofy, talkative, or fellow socially awkward gamers 🖤 • Goths get bonus points, obviously

I'm also happy to try games I haven't played before if they sound fun!

Please don't message me with just "hey." Tell me a little about yourself, what you play, and your age/location so I know who I'm talking to.

🚫 Games I don't play: Overwatch, The Finals, Valorant, Minecraft, Roblox, Fortnite, League, Marvel Rivals, Siege.

If we have games in common and you think we'd get along, feel free to reach out! ♡


r/r4r • • 2h ago

M4F New York 26 [M4F] #NYC - I have a super strong oral fixation, Could I come and eat you out till your legs are shaking? NSFW

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Happy Sunday everyone

I have a huge oral fixation and haven't had the opportunity to eat someone out in a while. I have some free time this week so I thought I'd see if anyone wanted to cum on my tongue;) I'm super easy going and drama free. Physically I'm white, six feet tall and 165lbs with medium length brown hair and glasses. I'm in decent shape since I work at a gym. I've been told I give Peter Parker vibes if that helps. I work an early morning shift so I'm normally available in the afternoons if that make things easier.

Please feel free to reach out if you're interested or even if you have a similar fantasy that you've been wanting to try


r/r4r • • 2h ago

F4F France 30 [F4F] #France, a young artist looking for companionship or who knows? Maybe her future muse ~ NSFW

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Heyyyyyy~ I'm Perle, 30 years old, a lesbian living in France ~

It’s Sunday, it’s raining, and I’ll admit, I’m feeling a little down. I don’t know if I’m looking for a soulmate or what, but I’d love to meet someone to have a good time with and see where it goes, though I’m hoping we’ll just have a good time 😏 I’d love to meet this person in real life if things go well, haha 🤗

Here’s a quick list of my interests:

🎨 Painting, music, true crime, history, cosplay, and costumes of all kinds. I’m a total foodie, I love carnivorous plants, and I read manga and post-apocalyptic fiction. I’m a bit of an artist myself, and I’m looking for people who are into the same stuff or share my interests 🤗

Just a heads-up: super cringey guys, move along 😒


r/r4r • • 4h ago

32[M4F] #Gemrany, Europe (potentially Anywhere) - Shy introvert searching for a relationship. (Childfree)

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Hey. My name is Julian and I am here to search for a relationship.

About me: 32, born and raised in Germany, 1,78m tall (5'10) and chubby. Brown hair, beard, glasses, blue eyes. Feel free to ask me for pictures.
Shy, introverted, big time overthinker. Mostly sarcastic, kind most of the time, weird mix of dark and juvenile humour. Depressed but working on it (I don't expect you to be my therapist). I don't drink, smoke or do any sort of drugs. I'm a winter person (with a winter birthday) and don't like summer/heat. Non-vegetarian/vegan, atheist and left-leaning politically.
I speak English and German, might learn other languages in the future. I'm a trained chemist with a bsc in chemistry. Some would call that educated. Know how to drive a car and motorbike. I go to the gym to work on my weight and currently try to do that more regularly after a big motivation crisis.
I only have a few, mostly homebody, hobbies. Gaming (mostly Singleplayer), reading (nowadays mostly fantasy) and watching streams/videos. Feel free to suggest me a nice hobby I would maybe enjoy, I have been searching for one for a while. My taste of music is mostly Rock/Alternative Rock. Haven't travelled in a while but would want to. Especially to Japan, Canada and Northern Europe.
I do like cats a lot. Grew up in a dog family but switched to cats now.
Most important is that I am childfree. I don't have or want children. I do have my reasons and you can ask about them if you want to. Feel also free to ask about my red flags or anything you want to know about that I forgot..

Who I am searching for: Most important point here is that she should also not have or want children ever. Age range of 25 to 35. Height doesn't matter to me. Nationality doesn't matter as well, I'm fine with any. Religion doesn't matter as long as you don't try to convert me. I do think that physical attraction matters (and I have clear preferences) and I would want to see/exchange pictures fairly early to see if we would fit. Someone in or around Germany or wanting to move here would be nice. I currently don't plan to move to another country. Other than that I don't have anything else that is needed. Just come as you are but please don't come with spiders. I have arachnophobia.
I do, however, imagine this relationship to not be codependent. We should still be individuals doing our own things, partners that support each other in whatever we do. For that reason I also don't want someone that is too clingy.

Now if you have any more questions, want to get to know me or think you know someone that would, feel free to write me or share my post. If you do decide to write me, please do so with more than a "hi" or similar. At least give me some basic information and use the password I hid in my post (if you found it). I hope you have a great day.


r/r4r • • 4h ago

M4M New York 40 [M4M] #Queens, NYC — Looking for a lover-in-crime to do silly sh*t with

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I’m drawn to the unusual, the unexpected, and people who make an ordinary night feel like a story worth telling.

I’m into horror movies, dark history, great music, traveling, X-Men, Janet Jackson, and anything that makes my heart beat a little faster. I love a good debate, a wicked sense of humor, and adventures that start with \\\*“What if we just…?”\\\* and somehow turn into unforgettable memories.

Former paranormal researcher, current collector of strange stories and questionable ideas. I’ve spent enough time exploring the unexplained to know that some things are better left a mystery. But where’s the fun in never looking?
I’m the kind of guy who might suggest a spontaneous road trip, an obscure place neither of us has heard of, or staying up until sunrise talking about everything and absolutely nothing.

Maybe we get lost somewhere new. Maybe we find a hidden gem. Maybe we start with drinks, end up somewhere unexpected, and wonder how a simple night turned into an adventure.
\\\*\\\*As for my type?\\\*\\\*
\\\*\\\*Hairy tops. Non-negotiable.\\\*\\\* 😉 You've been warned.
I'm looking for someone curious, adventurous, funny, affectionate, and just mischievous enough to be a bad influence in the best possible way. Someone who appreciates dark humor, isn't afraid of a little spontaneity, and knows that chemistry is about more than just a pretty face.

Give me good conversation, playful banter, mutual attraction, and the kind of connection that makes losing track of time feel effortless.
I'm here for a little mystery, a lot of laughter, unexpected chemistry, and a partner-in-crime who knows how to turn the simplest plans into the best stories.

\\\*\\\*Could be trouble. Could be something wonderful. Maybe both.\\\*\\\*
There's only one way to find out. 👀
\\\*\\\*DM me for my horror movie list.\\\*\\\* Bonus points if you have recommendations that'll genuinely mess with my head.

AutomatikSlim


r/r4r • • 4h ago

M4F Egypt / Online 29[M4F]Egypt/US/Online - Tall, Tattooed Boxer, Writer, Poet and Gamer NSFW

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Well, I stand at a modest 6'3. I'm straight, got a bunch of tattoos. I work full-time in consulting.
I've been boxing ever since I was in grade school and I still do to this day. I like to read, write and compose poetry. I watch anime, go to the gym and play videogames in my free time (PS5, PC and Switch). I like to take walks when life gets overwhelming, and I like eating out with friends. I listen to everything g from Lo Fi and Jazz to Rap and Rock I'm a sucker for deep conversations.
Literature, philosophy, life, death, just throw it at me. I'd like someone who's into the same things I'm in or at least similar interests. I'm looking for someone to talk to but also get freaky with.
Message me if you'd like to know more or you think we would get along! I would prefer if we exchange pictures (doesn't have to be right away)


r/r4r • • 5h ago

M4F United Kingdom / Online 35[M4F] #UK/Online - Chat and maybe more? NSFW

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Hi,

Just a little bored and looking for someone to chat to and potentially explore more with too. Looking for women around my age or younger (21-37).

I'm 35, white ethnicity and at around 175cm tall. Decent build from work at the gym but definitely room for some improvement. Short hair, short to medium beard and green eyes. I work in the tech industry!

I'm into games, sports and try and stay in shape at the gym!

No specific type or anything in terms of who I'm attracted to, really depends on the person and the vibe!

Reach out if interested in chatting! Marked as NSFW as potentially happy to explore that side if the vibe goes that way.


r/r4r • • 5h ago

F4A Online 18[F4A] #online, I need online friends that would join and encourage me in my online life

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(English speakers only) Hello everyone! I’ve got no luck in my real life to make friends who are playing games or playing the games i like. I used to have some friends who were playing league with me but all of them stopped when the adult life hits after highschool :c

I have been feeling pretty lonely playing games alone

I’ve never had a girl friend that actually likes gaming either so my preference is girls but guys are welcome.

I have always had plans about gaming or even streaming but i have been feeling anxious doing it all alone
I need people who would join me playing games and chat with me whenever I can be on my computer.

More about me:
I’m doing computer stuff in college. I like socialising with my friends irl and I love walking with them in the nature. I like my coffee plain at home but prefer milk in it when i’m ordering from outside. I’m usually shy when starting conversations because some people look friendly but are mean :c I like talking a lot whenever I have time but only when the conversation doesn’t feel forced. If we don’t vibe there is no need to keep trying imo. I am sometimes posting gaming memes online but had hard time being consistent. I like spending time irl more than on my computer but I usually spend at least 3h on my pc per day.
Tldr: My hobbies are mostly spending time in the nature with my friends, walking around with them and playing games on my pc.

Note:
I am not looking for someone to flirt or date with. I am looking for people who genuinely wants to be online gaming friends. I don’t want to share a lot of personal informations and only focus on gaming or fun conversations.
Please don’t bother sending a message if you are looking for a relationship you can text and talk every minute. I am going to college classes and have my irl friends to spend time with. Please don’t expect me to fill the romantic void in your life ❤️


r/r4r • • 7h ago

M4F France 31[M4F] france // europe - looking for my new favorite person

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Hey!! I'm Simon, 31, I'm from a small town not too far from Paris. I currently work as a psychologist. I'm a chill, open-minded guy, some kind of sociable introvert.

During my free time I love going to concerts or getting lost in musems, spending time with family and friends, traveling, doing sports (mostly climbing and badminton). But I also appreciate chill time at home, watching movies, playing games, or reading a book with a record playing in the background, and my cat sleeping on my lap.

I'm particularly into alternative music, shoegaze, post-punk, and experimental stuff. I love sci-fi, astronomy, and pretty much anything involving space. My all-time favourite game is Disco Elysium, and I'm always happy to receive music, movie, or book recommendations.

Physically, I'm 1.81m, slim, with long, wavy dark-blond hair, blue eyes, round glasses, and a little facial hair.

I'm looking for a genuine connection that could turn into something serious. Someone I can flirt with, tease a little, exchange stupid memes with, and eventually meet for coffee or a spontaneous date. I'd love someone nearby, but I'm also open to a bit of distance!

Come say hi if you think we can get along :))


r/r4r • • 7h ago

M4F United Kingdom 29 [M4F] UK - Am I your dream guy? I hope not, most of my dreams are really weird.

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Hello there! As mentioned in my title (You did read the title, I hope? I put a lot of effort into it.), I'm a 29-year-old guy living in the mystical, magical land of checks notes England. Okay, maybe not so magical. All the dragons are in Wales, Excalibur has been melted down for scrap, and Hogwarts is in Scotland.

I currently work in a law firm. Sadly I'm not a lawyer, as that would mean I'd be earning shedloads, but actually I do admin work for them, earning considerably less than shedloads. But it's a fine job, I get on well with my coworkers, and I'm not down a coal mine, so I consider that a win.

As for me myself? Well, I actually speak multiple languages. I'm a fluent German speaker, and I also have a decently high level of Italian. I could also struggle through French if I had to, and I have basic Spanish and Japanese. I do like languages, although it's hard to find the time to do any study of them, what with the problems of having an adult life with adult responsibilities!

Another interesting [citation needed] thing about me is that I'm currently attempting to plan out a series of fantasy novels I want to write. It's going...decently. We'll see how it ends up, but I've wanted to write a book since I was 13 or so, and now as an adult I'm finally doing something about it!

In terms of pop culture, I'm a huge Doctor Who fan. Like, I'm the sort of Doctor Who fan who knows what a telerecording is and can tell you about the Australian censor clips. That kind of fan. I also finally got into Harry Potter this year after putting it off for my whole life, meaning I now finally know the context for Dumbledore asking calmly.

I'm also getting back into Pokémon somewhat after avoiding it for most of the Switch era. Other things I enjoy are The Elder Scrolls, Red Dead, GTA. I'm big Assassin's Creed fan too. In general I like single player, open world games. I'm not a huge multiplayer guy, I don't like having other people ruining my fun!

I'm trying to read more too lately. That's a thing I've always enjoyed that I'm now trying to find the time for again.

And I suppose I should say, I'm a fat guy. Trying to do something about it though! Over the past year or so I've started a regimen of exercise, and I've been controlling my eating a lot more. So I seem to be losing weight, at least according to other people who've stopped me to specifically point it out.


r/r4r • • 3h ago

M4F France / Online 23 [M4F] France/Online Looking for a love to share with a special someone

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Salutations ✌️

To introduce this post, I will share with you the overall idea of what I'm looking for; I'm on a genuine quest to find someone who seeks something fusional. A love that is not just about compliments and laughter, but about caring for each other, being each other's comfort zone, a refuge if needed, something with benevolence, positivity, kindness and interest in the well-being of the duo.

While these key words do summarise the point of this post quite well, I will still introduce myself: I'm 23, from France, and my main interests are history, philosophy, cooking, reading/writing. I love to question things, I get curious very easily and also care a lot about nature. While I try to live many different things, the one quest I am focusing on today is finding a sincere and fusional love, something deeper than solely romance and living together, however long it may take to reach that point.

I may not be colourblind and have a bit of patriotism in me, but I can't say that origin, skin colour or nationality matter to me, all I care about is who you are and how it shows through your words and actions. Now let us get to know each other, have fun and try some activities perhaps, sometimes movie night is just the way to go, and I hope I'll see you soon ✌️


r/r4r • • 8h ago

M4F United Kingdom 33 [M4F] UK/Anywhere - Quirky, flirty and Nerdy Englishman looking for a chat and potentially more!

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Hey You! I hope you're having a good weekend so far!

What I'm looking for is to get to know someone who communicates well, is passionate, kind, affectionate and talkative. I love making people feel comfortable, loved and cared for in any kind of relationship. I'm very open and happy to listen to you vent and share the burden.

I would describe myself as someone who is open-minded, genuine, affectionate, loving and empathetic. Some of my interests are running, going to the gym, gaming, playing board games, listening to music and watching Netflix.

Physically, I'm 33, 6'1 with short brown hair, deep blue/greyish eyes and have broad shoulders. I'd say I'm quite good looking but I'm more than happy to swap pictures if there's a connection. I'm also happy to voice/video call when we both feel comfortable.

Some of my favourite shows are Modern Family, The Office, Breaking Bad, Parks and Rec, Chicago Fire and Lucifer. Lucifer and Modern Family are probably my top 2.

I would definitely say my love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. I love being affectionate and all I want is to make sure my partner feels loved and wanted. I'm very physically and verbally affectionate. I always let my partner and the people I love know how much they mean to me. I also have a healthy sexual appetite and I'm pretty dominant in the bedroom. Ideally I'm looking for a long term romantic relationship but I'm open to whatever happens and no pressure from either side. My limit in terms of age would be no older than 43.

Green flags: Empathetic, Emotionally intelligent, will make you laugh, very affectionate and loving, I'll care for you and take care of you physically, emotionally and financially. I have a good, stable career and Maths degree.

Red flags: I sometimes use my outdoor voice indoors. 😂

If anything I've said piques your interest, please message me. I'd love to hear from you!


r/r4r • • 15h ago

M4F Australia / Online 36M4F - Tatted Aussie seeking meaningful flirty connections #Australia #Online NSFW

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36, Bearded, thick & attractive, Reasonably self aware and emotionally intelligent. Located on the East coast of Australia. Aesthetically I've been described as a tatted lumberjack or similar.

Plethora of hobbies, lover of all things books, gaming and working out plus a few more obscure hobbies.

Neurodivergant and obsessed with chasing the dopamine for better or worse. Sometimes I'll follow a rabbit hole online until it's 3am and I'm questioning if it's worth getting 3 hours sleep before work or not l.

Seeking someone to chat with and see where it leads, preference towards something more of a slow burn or flirty companionship

I've had success before so I am confident I'll find someone special once again


r/r4r • • 16h ago

M4F Georgia 35[M4F] #Georgia, USA - Looking for a partner in low stakes nonsense

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Looking for someone to have deeply unserious conversations with. No agenda, no destination, just the kind of back-and-forth where a normal question ("what should I have for dinner") somehow becomes a thirty minute tangent about whether cereal is a soup and what that means for society.

This is a friendship posting. I'm not being coy about it, not looking for romance, not lonely hearts-ing my way into your DMs. I'm looking for a specific type of person: the one who hears a bad idea and, instead of shutting it down, asks a follow up question to make it worse.

In the interest of honesty: I take dumb questions far too seriously, overthink the fun ones, and hold opinions with more confidence than the situation usually warrants. Left leaning, for the record.

If you read all this and thought "yeah, same", that's the whole compatibility test. Reach out whenever.


r/r4r • • 10h ago

M4F India / United Kingdom 35 [M4F] #UK/Online - I love the rush you get when you're vibing with someone and keen for their next notification. I'd love long term friends from around the world! From Philippines to Peru, Italy to India, Czechia to Canada, Australia to Austria, US to UAE, you get the idea, distance is no issue NSFW

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TL:DR - I like yapping with people and I think I'm pretty lovely, though I am a bit biased. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, so message me and maybe we get on well? :D

Pretty much title! I'm just getting over a cold but have again slept terribly. I'm going to rush to the gym, then either shave (it needs it) before doing a call with a friend from the internet I'm doing a trip with next week and so we can finish organising it, then besides a few mostly small chores, I'm free for the wholeeeee day! i've got two days of work then off for 8 including a trip to Budapest next week, I'd love to chat to folks during all of this and then hopefully long term! :)

As for myself, I work from home doing a travel insurance job, its mostly mid, but its full WFH and that saves it. My big interest is travel, my wallet hates me so much for it. I've been to Philippines/Singapore/Malaysia over two Asia trips, a lot of Europe as well as Jamaica and Canada. Last year I did Istanbul, Portugal and a Norway cruise, plus a Asia trip. Visited Serbia, Madrid and Poland this year then Budapest on friday next week! I have a cruise with family next year to Greece/Turkey/Malta and a friends wedding in Greece and I'm hoping maybe Asia or Africa next year, fundds permitting, I'm always down for trip buddies so if we vibe I'm in! Beyond that, I'm a pretty keen reader, plus the usual smattering of videogames/sports watching/tv shows/gym (but mostly to offset meals out and a problematic keenness for chocolate). I live at the edge of a town and some of the walks are lovely here too. I've dabbled with painting, taken up and dropped the piano a few times (I used to play when I was younger and was decent and sometimes get the urge to play again).

I always prefer a bit of closure, if we've spoke for a while and your situation changes and you won't be chatting anymore, I hate the ghostly exit, if its early on then fair can't vibe with everyone, but if we've spoke for a while I always feel disappearing is a bit of poor form, but its the internet so it happens.

Intentions wise I'm totally fine with whatever, I like meeting folks, I don't mind if platonic friendships, or if you're open and seeking more of a flirting/benefits etc situation. I'm always open for trip buddies/meeting up if location allows, but naturally purely online friend is the norm. Honestly, I just like meeting people I don't really have a set goal beyond that. Feel free to add your intentions and boundaries and it's all good on my end, thought I'd add this disclaimer in early!

In terms of where to talk, I do prefer to move to apps, I use most of the usual ones but staying here is fine too if necessary. Include your basic details in your message, the usual about me stuff is fine, don't feel the need to match the rambling essay above! :)


r/r4r • • 10h ago

M4M California 20 [M4M] SoCal – Looking for a sweet polite boyfriend in public who destroys me in private NSFW Spoiler

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I’m 20 years old submissive guy. slim but getting in shape, I hope you are too. I’m searching for that one boyfriend who has the perfect contrast I crave.

In public, on dates at restaurants or just hanging out, you’re super sweet and charming, smiling at everyone, holding doors, being polite and affectionate like the perfect boyfriend. No one would ever guess what you do to me when we’re alone.

But the second we’re behind closed doors you let your inner beast come out. I want you to get rough, aggressive and nasty. Grab my hair tight, spit on my face, slap me hard across the cheeks, then shove your cock down my throat and facefuck me like I’m nothing but a warm wet fleshlight. No mercy, make me choke, gag, and cry while you use my mouth and throat as deep and rough as you want.

I want you to manhandle me, throw me around, pin me down, choke me, spank my ass red, and fuck me stupid. Pound me hard in every position, breed me deep and raw, fill me up with load after load until I’m leaking your cum for hours. Use me like a toy, degrade me, call me your slut and cumdump while you wreck my hole. I love feeling completely owned and ruined.

The fantasy that turns me on the most is going on a nice date, me teasing you under the table, you staying sweet and calm in public… then dragging me to the bathroom, locking the door and destroying my throat. Back at home you go even harder, fucking me senseless all night until I can barely walk.

Looking for a guy 18-35 who’s naturally dominant and rough in bed, but can actually play the sweet boyfriend role in public. Must respect safe words, aftercare (cuddles and care after wrecking me), and be looking for something ongoing. SoCal preferred but open to online to start.

If this matches you, message me with your age, location, and tell me what kind of nasty stuff you like to do to your boy. Let’s see if we click


r/r4r • • 10h ago

M4F United Kingdom / Online 34 [M4F] UK/Online - Chatting about your best outfits and/or boots

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Hey there!

I've always loved well dressed women, those who take time and pride in their outfits and feel as confident and sexy in their clothes as they look in them. And of course the hottest outfits definitely involve boots haha And with things cooling down after summer, what better time to pull on your boots and show off?!

And as an arbitrary conversation starter, that seems as good of a topic as hobbies and other interests right? So why not begin there and move onto whatever takes our fancy!

So if you're someone who likes to show off, enjoys fashion, or gets a kick out of being praised, I'm your guy! In return, I promise to bring wit and flirtation, mixed with intelligent and empathetic conversation.

Happy to keep it a one time thing, but open to longer term if we click. Come say hi and we'll let the good times roll!


r/r4r • • 14h ago

M4F Oklahoma 32 [M4F] #Oklahoma- Plain and simple: affection, intimacy, and companionship between friends. NSFW

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Would prefer local, I know that's a much narrower net, as long as some in person aspect is possible. This is looking for casual anyway.

So to lay it all out there short and sweet. I'm starved for touch, intimacy, affection. All the good shit. If you're the type of person that would be down for a date if we vibe? Complete with hugs, cuddling, and maybe some making out? Becoming eachothers close friends and retreats when we need an escape. And end up with some extra benefits.. Shoot me a message.

I'm a large guy but also a strong guy. I am the type that can pick you up and spin you around mid bear hug without a second thought. I want something with some spark, not just a dry chat. And someone willing to create a friendship that's equally as beneficial as wholesome. I want a reason to make plans and go out on occasion, and someone to torture with my mediocre car karaoke lol. Casual, meaningful, though not necessarily exclusive.

About me in more detail, I'm often up late, I go to the gym on a regular schedule. I am more strength lifting than body builder if that makes any sense, tho I am trying to shape up. Power lifter build, 6'1, short curly/wavey hair, and beard well kept. I game a decent bit too. I am about as polar opposite as you can get from what seems 'standard​' for Oklahoma. Apolitical leaning left, non-religious, never married and no kids.

If that already doesn't exclude me from the pool and you're willing to have some fun banter filled conversations, hear me out if I'm excited by a new lift weight like it's a high score, maybe even hit up the gym or game a bit with me? I'd love to chat. Also truth be told, it would be amazing even if it's casual thing. Actual friends with some extra benefits, and for what it's worth I'm a world class hugger.

So, if you're a witty nerdy gal, not super ingrained in any of the big polarizing topics, also not averse to bearded burly nerdy casual gym guys let's chat! Make some plans. If you are looking for a convo starter, what's your favorite drink lately. Local coffee shop order, quickstop go to in a pinch, whatever!

Even if this is not your thing thanks for reading, and I wish the best for you.