So I’ll be honest, I’m 32 and have been happily married to a woman for the last 7 years. however, back in college I had an experience with a friend where we jerked off together.

The last night before graduation, was staying in his dorm where we were watching a movie. We had talked in the past and I knew he was bi, and he knew I was curious. During the movie he started rubbing my back. When it was over and it got dark, he reach down and touched me through my shorts. Obviously I got hard. I reached over and gave him a handjob until he came, and then he leaned over and gave me a bj.

It plays through my mind a lot.

I am curious about other married men who are in the same boat as me? Any other guys in their 30s-40s who had an experience before marriage that you still think about? share your stories here.

I’d also be interested to just talk to another guy who is similar to me. I’m open for a dm if you’d like to talk, but that’s not my purpose behind this post.

I find gay men to be more kinkier towards men than straight men are with women. Like watersports , rimming , ass to mouth , armpit licking , spit and cum kiss is more common among gay men than straight men with women. How are you as a bi , kinky with men vs women ?

so i‘m m21 and unfortunately think i have this thing called the bi-cycle? i‘m not even sure whether it‘s that or i‘m just overthinking things (i got diagnosed with ocd) but it‘s always like 1-2 weeks i masturbate to fantasies of girls, watch straight porn and even get turned on just by the thought of a naked girl and then it suddenly switches where I don‘t really have that much interest for the puh and all i can think about is men. i‘ve been struggling with this a lot bc everytime that shit happens my brain automatically is like ”yep okay just accept that you‘re gay and you‘ve been in denial until now“ and then it switches back.
now, i definitely have some deep-seated issues around my homosexual side (grew up in a pretty conservative environment) and i‘m in therapy for that but still, days like that are hard bc it‘s genuinely convincing. not saying that being gay is bad or sth, it‘s just exhausting being like ”oh i‘m DEFINITELY bi“ to ”am i rly bi tho?“ every two weeks.

any advice?

I’m an older retired married straight guy. Somewhere along the line I’ve gotten the urge to suck a cock. Not sure if this is something I should pursue or not and thought I would ask if anybody has any advice. Not sure how I’d even go about finding someone. Any thoughts..

Im curious what most guys on this sub prefer. Do swallow, Spit , Facial or ?

Me personally, i enjoy feeling it pulse in my mouth and the taste. And I love seeing shoot out.

Just something funny I thought I’d share..keeping up with all the lingo sometimes trips me up, when it’s not your everyday community it can throw you off, but this made me laugh because it’s the easiest not to screw up yet I do all the time. Top and bottoms , very clear and nothing to question….. yet still… in my dumb brain whenever I hear someone describe themselves as top I immediately think yes because fantasy I am stuck on is a guy riding me which would actually make him a bottom.

Anyways it’s late … made me laugh

Who caught you? What happened?

Did they already know you were bi? Or was catching you how they find out?

Do you guys have a balanced attraction for one gender or the other?

Does this change from time to time?

We are a happily married 58yr old Bi- man and 50yr old Bi-woman. My wife and I, up until recently, enjoy a very vigorous sex life. We've both had some health issues over the last few years that has impacted us. My wife let me know she was Bi right from the inception of our relationship and I came to terms with being Bi a few years ago. I had had a few experiences when I was younger, one that impacted me for several years late in High School. However it wasn't until my wife and I became empty nesters of sorts that we started our adventures. About 4 years now.

She had a few encounters with another man and I really enjoyed watching, compersion is a thing for me. He was straight and thats as far as it goes. We had a few encounters with a few other men that had us giving mutual head and I receiving head from them. It was a great experience but never went anywhere as they were not really our type. We have since moved to a rural area where I grew up and it has really affected our lifestyle choices.

She has used a strap-on on me a few times but once again due to some health issues our sex life has slowed down. We are both anxious to rekindle our desires but seem to be in a rut of sorts. My Libido has taken a beating over the last few years. The medications that were responsible I have since quit taking, by Doctors consent I might add. We are close to a major city, Edmonton Alberta Canada, and we have tried a few apps to no avail. We would like to resume but seem to be at a loss as to how to safely do this.

We are looking for some ideas as to what has worked for some of the other couples out there in the same situation. Do apps really work? We tried Feeld and a few others. Are there more groups out there? We are interested in a possible poly lifestyle, someone/s that we can spend time with. Have been educating ourselves on this topic.

Hello, I am back to tell you more! (I originally wrote the post the day it happened and didn't post it for 2 weeks)

My friend 21m and I 21m had two instances where we did things together in the last post.

1st was at a bagel shop where we caught up, and he tried the place out since he'd never been to it before. We connected and had a good time.

2nd time was our day of thrifting that then evolved into us having lunch, then going to the movies later in the day post thrift, and finally it all ended at my apt where things were very intimate (not sexual or kissing)

This leads to the next part:

I didn't know what to do next for a while. I was scrambling and couldn't focus on my life. I slowly realized I was going down the rabbit whole and developing a major crush.

Calling him made me nervous, and seeing him gave me that sharp feeling where my nerves were triggered around him.

I called him 5 days after, and i pitched that we should get together and study since I have some time before an event I was going to attend that evening, which he was not able to go to that night because he had already seen the performance at a different place. (I tried)

He said not today but that he was down another time to study, which is fine and great to know. I also mentioned us going to mini golf, which still hasn't happened, but will eventually.

Some days go by and we see each other again. We talked briefly, and he told me that he's free the next day. So I cleared my schedule for the evening and planned that we would study and go get dinner.

Later the same day he texts me, he actually has a meeting to go to in between our study and dinner time. The thing I find interesting is that he still wanted to study together, go to his meeting, and then we go grab dinner.

All went accordingly to how it was set, and he and I walked to this Italian restaurant that he had never been to. We were sitting in, and i've already been to this place multiple times, and I ordered what I was craving.It turns out before I even had said what I was gonna get. He wanted the same thing.

Now you might be thinking you're gonna share a plate together, but no, because I did want my own portion, lol.

BUT, once the dinner was finished, we got dessert and shared a slice of cheesecake, and even though they gave us 2 forks with my fork. I beat him cutting the first piece off of the cheesecake, and I fed it to him. Then, after I fed myself with the same fork. After feeding myself, then I proceeded to feed him more than once from MY fork cheesecake, and he did have his own fork. At some point, he asked me, "Why do I feed him?" And I said I don't know. After that, he never questioned it.

There's a little bit of banter talking, and then we pay for our food, but I covered the dessert. We got mints back with our receipts, but his came first, then I took his mint, but then I put the mint in his breast pocket and then he makes a joke cause it kinda rubbed against his chest when I put it in the pocket.

As we walk out of the restaurant, I do the same thing again but with my mint, but it turns out he grabbed an instrument on the way out. So, now he has three mints. (Not relevant, but wanted to mention.)

We could have taken a shorter walk to go back to the place we needed to go to, but we ended up walking to a building where there was a private space where we could chill and watch the youtube videos I was referencing.

We bonded a little bit, although I did read the body language and did not want to get too close to him. Because he kinda moved himself with a little gap in between. Which I think is fine, considering that we're not in like a truly private space.

After that, we continued our journey, walking back to where we needed to go. But then I see a swing bench, and since he likes spontaneity, I said, "Hey, let's get on the benc swing." It was very silly because we were sitting parallel but not right next to each other. At some point, I put my hand on your shoulder briefly, but other than that, not much happened.

(As much as I would have liked to make a move.

I'm still taking my time and not trying to come off too strong)

After ten minutes of lounging there and talking, we finally get up and head to our final destinations. I walk him to his thing, and then I give him a bear. Hug, then I go grab my stuff so I can head home.

In the timeline, I had mentioned to him a day later that I needed to get to a meeting in the morning, but the weather wouldn't have been ideal to travel to it. So I needed a ride. He was my last resort because I wanted to respect his request. The morning came where he was going to pick me up, and he did not wake up on time, and I had a hunch to call him an hour before, but that didn't happen.

Well, he tells me to have a good meeting and offers to pay for my Uber, so I need cash. Have some money to pay for my Uber. I don't see any of this until after the meeting. Turns out he sent me triple of whatever the Uber cost, and I ended up texting him if he meant to send me that much.

He said, "Yes, a little extra for the trouble..."

I thought that was odd to do.

We end up texting a little bit more in the evening and for the record. (He is not a good texter, so this is more than what he would normally do).

Regardless, I thanked him.

And that was the end of the night.

The next day comes around, and he told me he was performing midday at a place that I so happened to pass by, and remember that he was performing there. So I go into the space, and I end up sitting in a good area with a view that so happened to have him directly in my sights.

I have to add.It was a very nice performance.

Once I got to the halfway point, he got off stage.

So I went down to talk to him. We mainly caught up, and I told him that that was a good performance.

And I mentioned that I had to go to a class but then, I tell him that I guess I won't see him till Monday (since we would probably run into each other somehow that day).

Well... he pulls up his calendar on his phone immediately to see what he has going on monday, and he says, "Let's get dinner that day." I gave him a hug before I left.

So now, since then, it is planned that we get dinner very soon again.

Final Thoughts:

I know there's going to come a point where I will have to have a conversation with him to let him know that I am attracted to him. I do deserve some clarity to identify what our relationship is.

While he does use dude/bro/man a lot, it feels like masking.

I'm excited, scared, and optimistic!

Thank you to everyone who's been responding. The encouragement is much appreciated!

22M here. Just got out of a relationship with my girlfriend and I’ve been in a bit of a dry spell since.

Lately I’ve been finding myself weirdly turned on by the idea of getting teased by guys. Not sure if I’m fully into guys or if this is just some post-breakup curiosity, but it’s been stuck in my head.

Is this a common thing? Or does the fact that I’m even posting this basically mean I’m bi?

Curious what other people think.

First off I had questions for a bit before getting one and decided to get a 5 in dildo I’m not gonna go into graphic detail but I’ll just say after a few times like 2-3 it felt amazing for my first ever time doing butt stuff like really good I might just have to get I bigger size or something

So Basicly I was helping this boy my age work out weather he’s bi or not. Things got very intense and we started jerking of over text it was soo hot he was calling me a slut asking to see my butt I told him to finger himself i shoved my dildo up my arse then at the climax he said he was gonna cum so I responded il Lagos you my pulsating cock if you show me youres

It stoped no test no nothing so I need help what happened.

This is my personal experience, I’ve never met an openly bi guy who is top, all the bi tops I have met are all in the closet and I’m certain that I have had sex with probably hundreds of bi tops

Basically I’m bi and I haven’t come out to alot of people only the one person I could trust and she has been helping me figure it all out. And also all of you on this platform are helpful and kind

Anyway I was just confused because I don’t act zesty and no one knows I’m bi so when people say the word I get quite when convos are at a high I just shut off for quite a while

Btw I do have straight friends. Boys.

So when people say it should I be angry or upset.
It just makes coming out harder when it’s sometimes your best mates saying it.

What’s should I do?

Hey I was thinking to myself because at the moment I have not gay/bi friends besides lesbians, so for the other bi men do you partake in gender roles? Because as I was thinking about it, I say no, but I would be open to providing for my future wife. Get on the other hand if I’m in a relationship with a man which I have never been, I would expect both of us to be working.

I like woman, I am sure about that. But for the past few years I have come to realise that I like looking at dicks. I used to deny it at first but one day I just accepted...

But I am not attracted to anything else...

I fantasize a lot about actually trying something with another man.

I read a lot of straight turned gay erotica and always imagine myself as the protagonist who is turned sometimes by curiousity or by force (please don't hate me).

As I have reached an age which is considered marriage able in my country, the curiousity has grown even more...

Also I am very afraid that if I do get married, I will betray my wife one day....

I can never talk about this to anyone because I am from India. My country is not very supportive to LGBTQ.

Any advice will be welcomed.

My boyfriend (30M) is refusing to talk to me (24M). We were together in a happy online relationship for three years. Should have never trusted a gay man. I as a bi man will never date monosexuals again. I don’t think us bisexuals should date monosexuals, mixing with them corrupts our bisexual blood. Especially when it’s a bi woman with a disgusting straight man or a lesbian (who are on the same level as straight men for me: competitors for the love of bi women). Schopenhauer and Nietzsche were right, the world is will to power. But Schopenhauer was the correct one that you must deny the passion of the flesh and that yearning for power, and not affirm it like Nietzsche said. I must become a hero straight out of a Wagnerian opera and find my true love and do great deeds! I must become like Siegfried and jump through the flames to find my Brunhilde (whether they be man or woman). But hopefully that relationship won’t be as tragic as Seigfried and Brunhilde in its ending.

Hi I've been wondering about this a lot recently. I am 54, been married for nearly 30 years. We still have sex, not very exciting sex quite vanilla in the main. My wife doesn't really initiate and isn't vocal during sex, which I find a shame. I am more freaky sexually, love ass play (dildo and butt plug), am curious about sounding, thinking about getting frenum pierced, curious about watersports and love wearing women's panties during sex. Really want cock and BJ from a man. Very interested in being fucked by another bi guy while she watches.

She will do the ass play, and the panties. The rest either is a straight no, or a maybe, which means no. I also recently had a life changing event which means I am not keen to waste anymore time on not getting fun

Been active on here and Fab Guys chatting to people.

So I am wondering is it women's natural vanillaness and men's natural freakiness that means a lot of us want to hook up with BiBros, as we are more likely to get more of what we want?

Put it this way I could have had my cock sucked 4 times by men this week if I had made the effort to hook up. I can't image I would find a woman locally that would do the list above and be happy to be a side quest

For a little background i met my friend a few months ago through my bestfriend. We were in a group of 4 (me, my bsf, my bsfs hg, and the guy) and we immediately hit it off. After maybe 2 hours of knowing eachother we separated from the group at some point and he showed me around where he grew up (in a very platonic way; we were both “straight”). Ever since then we’ve been friends but have never hungout alone, only in group settings which i was fine with considering that i had no intention on making a move on him since i knew he was “straight”. We would facetime sometimes and i forgot how the topic came up but we started talking about girls and porn. One of us (i think myself) started screensharing their x account and there was a few random trans or gay videos and i asked him if he would hit. He said he would consider doing stuff with a trans girl or REALLY feminine gay boy if theyre attractive enough but never a stud/masc lesbian or masculine man. He never openly said he was bisexual and anytime i asked he would deny it and i guess was “straight with exceptions”. Up until this point I had always thought he was attractive but of course knowing he was “straight” i never made any moves since i thought it would be pointless considering that he would never mess with a dude but hearing him say he would make an exception for certain guys made my mind wonder a bit. Since then i would micro flirt with him/make flirty jokes and he flirted back a lot but anytime id try to escalate in the slightest he’d stop reciprocating and start joking around again. Then he went on a cruise with his family. He told me he met this girl and he lost his virginity with her on the cruise and said he had a tape. He asked me if i wanted to see it and at this point i didnt think he would ever go for me so i declined. Days later i forgot how the conversation topic got brought up but he asked me again if i wanted to see it, and that time i agreed. He then sent me the video and instead of asking me what i think of the girl, he started asking me if i thought his dick was big. I wasnt sure whether or not to consider this flirting but decided to shoot my shot and i told him that i couldnt tell from the video since he was inside her the entire time and i asked him to send me a picture of his dick. He said “later” and that night i asked him for a pic. He said “oh you actually wanted that??” and i said yea then he just sent a meme and i got annoyed because of it (he was acting sort of flirty when asking if it was big etc then started again with the jokes) and i stopped talking to him as much afterwards. We spoke every so often over text but not as much as before. Time skip to a few nights ago, a trans girl i used to talk to called me randomly and was asking to catch up then started asking me about my friend. I got annoyed because i thought she was calling because she missed me or something but instead she said she saw my friend on my highlights and thought he was cute and apparently they had been talking for a while on instagram casually but never got anywhere sexual or romantic. I texted him and asked what he thought of her and i said im sick of sharing girls with him (this isnt the first time a girl has wanted me and him at once) and he said he’ll leave her alone if i really wanna talk to her that bad, maybe he thought i was genuinely upset over it idk but i didnt care that much so i told him that he could have her and i told him i hooked up with someone for the first time the night before. He didnt ask much details but asked how it was (assuming it was a girl) and i told him how i picked the person up and stuff. For context, (i posted about this the night of in a different forum) I gave a guy head for the first time and it was my first time ever hooking up and doing something beyond kissing. After telling him i hooked up with someone we started talking about the girl again and i flat out asked him “are you bi?” and he said “if me liking trans girls makes me bi then i guess i am” then i asked him if he would crack a femboy and he said yes. I then told him the person i hooked up with was a guy and i gave him head. He quickly responded “was it big?” and i said about 5-6 inches so average, and then he asked “was the head game good?” and i told him what the other guy thought of it (he told me it was the best head he’s ever had) and i got bold and asked him if he wanted to try it out. He then told me it was too big and no girl has ever been able to fit it in their mouth and he agreed that i could give him head the next time we hungout. Then we moved to snapchat and started exchanging pictures. At first, since i was under the impression that he was “straight with exceptions” or still figuring himself out i only asked for a pic of him and didnt expect him to ask for any pics of me since hes said before that he isnt into masculine guys. He sent me a photo and it was massive, and showed me it next to a monster can in comparison. It was 9in. Then i asked if he wanted to see anything of me and he wanted to see everything and he seemed very eager to hookup the next time we see eachother and we were coming up with plans how to break away from the group again this following weekend and ive always thought he was hot and always have tried subtly making my move on him and seeing him all over me like this was a shocker to me. I havent had anyone to speak about this to since we both dont want any of our friends finding out, especially because hes dl. I wouldnt consider myself dl ive always been on and off straight or bi or questioning but my close friends have always known that i like guys at least a little but have a huge preference for girls, even if i question myself every few months. We’re supposed to be hooking up in 2 days and it looks like we’re at the point of no return he fully wants fwb and wants to keep it on the low. That whole story is unrelated to the question but i felt the need to share lol. Back to the point, this is his first time ever experimenting with a guy and hes had hookups with girls who didnt impress him since hes really big and said he’s never came from head. I want to make this a memorable experience for him so hopefully he’ll wanna continue and come back for more. I really wouldnt want this to ruin our friendship or make things awkward between us if we just “stopped” because i gave some shitty head. So how do i suck a big dick?? He’s 9inches and obviously i know i wont be able to fit all of it down my throat especially since i have a bad gag reflex and ill 100% be nervous, but does anyone have any tips on how to make it feel good or make it an experience that he’ll never forget/having him come back for more and possibly do more in the future??? (he said he wants to go all the way on halloween)

If you could comment your experience, it would be much appreciated.