Normally I'm the one answering questions on here as I'm 47 and have always been bi. But I'm curious...

Do you have trouble finding bi men who aren't cheating in your area? I swear all of the bi guys on dating sites are "discreet" which can mean they are a teacher/doctor/soldier etc but most often means they are cheating. I'm not going to discuss cheating in here but I personally do not want to be an accessory to it.

My wife knows everything about me including if I'm going out on a date with a guy (we are poly but she's the only woman for me, she has a boyfriend she occasionally enjoys visits from).

My only successes have been from finding a couple from a swinging site who are interested in the husband exploring. Those tend to be one-off experiences rather than dates. I have made friends with some of the couples though which is nice.

Interested in your experiences.

Before I start off, I'm sorry if this post becomes too long. I want to start off with saying, yes, I did go therapy for this stuff and for depression/anxiety. It was until this year that I realized that I had been dealing with OCD after having a few sessions with my new therapist who spotted out patterns and stuff that really, really strikes close to home regarding OCD. I'd been questioning my orientation since I was about 20. I'm 29 now. I am also Turkish. Make of that what you will.

Whenever I watch porn, I would feel bisexual. Outside of porn, I don't feel anything at all. I feel no attraction, nothing compelling at all. Infact I kind of feel.. grossed out and wonder how the hell I would feel such a way whilst watching porn and fantasizing about sucking dick and bottoming. Before you say "just try" I have. After months of ignoring the urge when it first popped up, i ended up hooking up with a gay friend (haven't been friends a few months after our encounter) after a couple of nights of hanging out, eating food and talking about things, spicy topics etc one thing led to another and we blew each other. I don't know if i really liked it but I remember being so hard that it almost reached the point of pain.

I've substituted/dealt with the "urges" with using toys. I would buy buttplugs/dildos, keep them for a while, then discard because of the distress. I have a collection of fleshlights which is whatever but I just want to understand why i feel absolutely nothing, and im not supressing anything either, I genuinely deep down don't feel any attraction but I focus on the cock in porn. I do look at the woman but it's like the fantasies in my mind take over and the porn doesn't even matter anymore. I've noticed that when I am at work or even around family, i want to dig my head 300ft deep into the ground. It's not so much that people are hypermasculine (which I don't really like) but they're obviously anti-lgbt, just not vocal about it.

I'm not seeking reassurance, I just want to understand. Why have these fantasies if it naturally isn't going to come out without the aid or usage of porn?

How many guys actually enjoy being oral dominant?

It seems to me that almost every guy I talk to wants to suck me off. And so I’m beginning to wonder if the dominant men mostly exist in porn? Or are there any guys out there who genuinely enjoy being dominant?

I’m talking about you standing with your hands resting on your hips while thrusting my mouth. Just basically grabbing my head or neck and doing me in the mouth for your own personal pleasure.

I’m talking about me giving u a massage for free. Kissing your feet under your table. Being made to suck you off while you work on your laptop and I’m under your desk.

Then I clean your home for free and make you a grilled cheese sandwich before I leave.

But just before I go, you need to take a piss so you put me in the bathtub and piss all over me.

I cleaned myself up and go. No questions asked.

Then when you’re horny in the middle of the night or early morning before work, you text me. And I come over to give you a BJ while you snooze a little longer.

I haven’t been able to find any men who are genuinely into getting served this way. Do these type of men exist?

Typo meant to say high lmao

Hi - married a long time, and happily too I have to add. I've been having relaxing massages for years and in the last year had two from a guy. Absolutely incredible, and both happy endings which were mindblowing, all with my wife's knowledge.

So, curiosity got the better of me and I found a vibrating prostate massager online, showed it to my wife and she said 'yeah, let's do it'

It arrived yesterday. It looks and feels amazing and I settled down yesterday evening just to take time to lube up and gently insert it. It felt amazing and very different to anything I've felt there before.

Tomorrow night we're out for the night so she can take control and use the vibes on me for the first time and buying her a new vibrator later today.

I've never considered myself as 'bi' but this is something that's happened in our early 60's and both very comfortable with it.

Any hints and tips to make our first time use of it extra special?

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We all know that there is usually a slight preference towards a gender or that there are periods.

But I've noticed that the longest I stay or hook up with a gender, the urge of doing stuff with the other gender gets stronger, like I need to "balance".

So for example if I go with guys for a few months, or I am in a relationship, then the craving for a girl gets stronger and stronger.

Anybody has this feeling/urge as well?

So, whats your prefference of body hair on your partner?

For men, it depends on the guy. i dont like smooth guys, but i dont lik when a guy is extremally hairy.

And for women? As natural as they can be, 100% razor free.

And you guys?

Why do I like kissing dudes’ dick?

I wonder if someone can relate to this.. although I’m above average down there, I don’t care about other guys’ size at all. As long as I like a guy, I want to kiss his dick.

He can be hairy down there.. doesn’t matter .. cut uncut doesn’t matter. Just be a nice masculine guy and that’s it.

It’s not about the dick. It’s about the act of being between his legs and watching him in bliss. Smelling his balls and watching him cum. THAT is what gets me off.

Can someone relate to this?

For context, to me, this guy is the definition of perfection: https://www.reddit.com/u/flascheng87st/s/TAY2Ka0KLX (NSFW)

As a bisexual man myself, I’ve always wanted to buy and wear like a thong, or jock strap, or even something lacey out. For the other bi guys here would that be a turn on for you?

Asking the bi bros, as we are more flexible usually.

My wife is very flat, and she is self conscious about it. She has an amazing ass and wild in bed. And still hot and fit at 40.

So my question is, do mind if she is flat?

Just curious

So I’ve really only discovered my bi curiosity/bisexuality in the past year. My wife and I have talked about it and she is comfortable with it as she is also bisexual. since I have personally come to a comfortable spot with my sexuality, but have not done anything yet I have been more focused on bi porn than my normal categories. I keep hearing the term bi-cycle. And I’m wondering if some people could provide information. Is this something everyone experiences. Is this a myth?

As someone who is bi curious and discreet, I find myself navigating a unique situation in my small town, where many people still hold homophobic views.

Because of this, I prefer not to share my pics openly on my profile. Typically, I take the time to explain my circumstances before sending any photos, and I’m grateful that most people are respectful of that.

However, I sometimes find it crazy and odd when others choose to unmatch or stop messaging without any explanation.

On a brighter note, I’m fortunate to live in a tourist area, which allows me to explore a bit more during the summer!

I also haven’t left my profile completely blank, I’ve included my age, tags, and some information about my physique.

I can’t help but wonder if people are not reading my profile thoroughly before reaching out, only to change their minds after seeing my pics.

If you have any fun Grindr date stories, I would love to hear them! 😅.

I’m wondering if I’m clueless about something? I’ve responded to postings a few times to guys who want oral sex- but it seems that when I mention that I want to 'return the favor' they lose interest. Is it considered rude to ask to give as well as receive? I just assumed that everyone would love getting some reciprocation. Thanks for any responses.

So I’m 25 and for most of my life I have considered myself gay. Recently I’ve been questioning my sexuality but I don’t know if I’m just confused. I’ve wanted to try to put myself out there. I know how to talk to women, because I have a lot friends who are woman, but I don’t know how to flirt with them. I’m mostly concerned about not being able to perform considering I’ve always been attracted to men.

I'm confused about how do you understand if you're bi or not. I mean i have considered myself gay for my whole life but recently i've also been kinda turned on by girls. But i don't think i'd want to be with any girl. So i' not sure if i'm gay or bi-curious.

Have you guys ever felt anything similar before? What do you consider being bi? I'm curious on you guys's thoughts 🧐

So, I'm getting interested in a male coworker who I'd met a couple times a week but our positions do not interact that much. I'm 27 and he must be around 26-30. I almost have no excuses to get to him besides a "good morning" or "see you tomorrow". And most important thing, I am not looking forward to hook up with him or anything, but I *feel* him being bi too. It's the feeling that he knows I'm not straight, and the feeling he knows I know he isn't either. His aura is just different than other coworkers, and there are more than 100 people around. Every time we interact I feel that kind of tension, no matter how casual the chat would be. And I could bet he feels it too.

So, how would you get to know a man when you have no "excuses" to get to him? It's important to say this is one of my first times feeling this way for another man in a casual scenario. I mean, I have experience with guys but in the Grindr hook up way, and this is different. I'm interested in getting to know him or making friends the organic way but I just don't know how.

Have you been in a similar position?

I have seen porn videos but I feel like their bottoms are super clean
How do u like make that happen?