Being 70 (m) and reading recent posts, why do the new generations need sex that is squeaky clean and without any scents and smells? I loved spending entire summer days outside and having very passionate sex at night without showering. Sex was expected to have smells that were special to different people. Having sweaty sex with cum being on people and easily falling asleep together. Women and men were expected to have pubic hair that made people different from one another. Appreciate any answers!

Ive always precummed a lot. If I get hard (and i get hard very easily) for longer than 5 min precum will start to show.. And its not a few drops its a lot more and it stains my underwear. And when I get a handjob it just never stops and leaks so much. For the moment my partners weren't bothered but I am bothered by the constant big stains in my underwears.

What I can do to "stop" it ? Drink less water ?

Its always a mess and when I put my hand in my pants it has dripped everywhere inside

I’m 21M and a virgin. I like the idea of the closeness with someone that comes with sex, but the idea of actually participating in it seems really uncomfortable and honestly kind of disgusting.

I don’t think I’m asexual, but sex isn’t something really on my radar. It’s like, I want it on the table as a possibility, but I don’t really feel much of a want or a need to indulge in it.

And like what do you even do afterwards? Like you go from such a personal moment to just being normal again? How do you bridge that moment?

So we have been together for a month now,and she always text invites me over to her and wants physical contact,last time we even slept together(without the sex part).

But besides from kissing we didn't go any much further,since we are both shy without alcohol.

I am currently 19 and male and i am thinking about visiting a swingerclub. In general i feel like many women in their 30s to 50s are opposed to sleeping with someone my age. So now just wanted to ask how reasonable is it to even think about that in my age? Would appreciate advice on that.

I have only had sex like 5 times so far and I'm annoyed because I struggle with cumming, using my body, doing doggy, and missionary. I am on fetlife and have gone a couple of gang bangs but I don't feel like I'm getting better at all.

I'm having sex but I can't cum, get tired and cramps. I feel like a dumbass especially when I see other guys do it better. So, what else can I do to get better?

I can't get a girlfriend or a date to save my life so that is out of the question.i have been on dating apps, speed dating, songle mixer, and other things. I'm 31 years old barely started having sex 3 years ago. I still feel like I suck.

I(22M) recently was doing casual sext with the girl with whom I am in a situationship..I used to do loads of sext but i never felt that good but my partner always felt amazing so I got to know that I can be good in it but now I don't think about that much I started craving for love ,care and emotional understanding even though I never did real sex but i don't feel that urge to do with some casual person..I do think sometimes I am demisexual but what if it turned out i lost my libido and in future it will create a problem

So I (29F) and my partner (36F) have been trying to navigate helping me with my orgasm issue. I’m sure it’s related to stress or maybe it could be that while my partner and I are both switches, we both heavily lean to the submissive side, and I tend to have my better orgasms while submitting, I think? I’ve tried setting the mood by myself and taking my time but I just can’t get much more than a light clitoral orgasm and I’m sexually frustrated to tears at times. It doesn’t help that my partner is so sensitive that she cums multiple times a session. We’ve talked and are trying to explore but I would love advice!

i’m 23 and so is my bf, but he has more sexual experience than me, not like a super high body count but i’m a virgin so more than me still. i’ve only given him a blowjob twice and he says he really likes it but i guess i get insecure because im new to it like is he being honest?

the first time we were in the cinema (nobody else was there) and i was doing it for 30 mins but because it was the first time i got very sore and didn’t really know what i was doing entirely and he didn’t come. i think also he didn’t because the way i was positioned, there just wasn’t a lot of space and maybe we wouldve made a mess if he came if i didn’t swallow it properly yknow. i got his dick so wet though with my saliva then just naturally and he really liked that. and he seemed to really like it regardless of coming like he told me he enjoyed it a lot.

anyways the second time was in his car and we also didn’t have a lot of room but i was able to make him come this time. i searched up some more tutorials on it, like what to do if you’re jaw gets sore and i realized i could rub his dick against my face when i’m taking a break etc. and i also just tried to make more noise like moan myself because i was really turned on and i also tried to make more noise sucking it. i focused more on the tip as well instead of just like taking it fully. and i was trying to be more enthusiastic like the entire week i was telling him about how i wanted to suck him again. but in the moment i got kind of shy so it was hard to do that confidently then but i tried to say dirty talk when i could.

he really liked the second time more i think since he did come, but i think he was also more relaxed since we had more room than before and i could swallow it this time. and he said im really good at it and like even the first time i did it, he said he was surprised it was my first time. idk if hes just saying this to boost my ego though but i guess i just feel insecure like am i really even good at it? i’ve been trying my best and trying to learn but i cant like deep throat it or things like that yet for example, hes really big and i have a small mouth so i can only take so much.

he said too that he wished i wasnt so good at them because now he wants them from me more. guys idk is it possible to be good at head without a lot of experience still 😓. it makes me feel good to hear this of course but i wonder if im really doing things right or if hes just saying all this?

my boyfriend and i don't have sex too often because we both have pretty stressful jobs and busy lives. when we do, it's pretty short-lived. like, really short. i personally would love to spend more time in pound town, like actual PIV sex, because i love being close to him in that way. oral is cool, touching is cool, we do that too. i just REALLY like PIV.

we both know he finishes fast. he's apologized for it since the beginning of time and for the first two years i told him it wasn't an issue, but over this last year i've slowly started to communicate otherwise. the truth is that it wasnt really worth bringing up at first because my body was so primed just by being around him that i genuinely did feel satisfied even if i didn't finish. then the honeymoon phase ended and i don't turn into a fountain just because he's sitting close to me anymore. i suggested we do some research, and when i bring up a solution he's resistant to it. edging? he says it doesn't work. muscle tension? he says it doesn't matter if he's tensed or not. breathing? he breathes fine. lots of foreplay? he doesn't like giving oral "all the time." he's the most stubborn person i know so i sort of expected him to resist but not this much.

in his last serious relationship he did have to give his ex oral every time before they had sex otherwise she never got to finish. for the first year or so he would give me oral every time but since we moved in together he's stopped doing it, or he changes his technique every time and it seems like he's just digging around down there, or he just isn't horny enough to do it and wants a quickie. sometimes he just wants a hand or blowjob (i totally don't mind if he doesn't last for blowjobs because i'm secretly not the biggest fan of giving them), and he finishes fast for those too. sex has been disappointing for me for a long time now and it's gotten to the point where i don't really even get excited it for anymore. i also take a long time to warm up and can have multiple orgasms so i get in my head about it and end up never finishing.

i have no clue how to proceed in this situation. i gave him a handy two days ago and wasn't exactly into it. i felt really bad about that but man, he always get to cum! i wanna cum!

Girlfriend likes to be more submissive in bed, and would like me to be more dominant. Problem is that I'm not. I just don't care about giving commands, or dirty talk at all, and they are basically boner killers for me.

Upon googling, Google mentions things like calm commands like "get on all fours" and shit, but I just flat out don't care about what position we are in. Like at all. Nor do I care about what acts were doing, if it's oral or piv or anal or whatever. I'm just fine with whatever and rarely feel a need to alter positions unless specifically requested. It doesn't seem make or break, but I would like to leave my partner more fulfilled.

Anybody out there like me have a partner that likes dominant partners, but is really not? How did you tackle this issue?

i (f16) have been with 2 guys seriously my whole life. i was a late bloomer and really just masturbated a lot until i got with the first guy. the first guy was not very good at sexually pleasing me in general because he ended up causing me more discomfort than anything but i didn’t have the heart to tell him because he was my first relationship, i didn’t wanna hurt his feelings, and i figured since we weren’t going to be together for long because of our personal matters that i could just thug it out. i figured i wasn’t climaxing when we did anything because i wasn’t fully attracted to him. i have learned from that relationship and will never do that to another person again.

this new guy i am seeing is extremely attractive, both physically and personality wise. he makes me feel genuinely giddy and aroused and when we do things, i can tell he absolutely knows exactly what he’s doing. he finds my clit easily, he’s a great kisser, he’s so sexy it blows my mind, but for some reason, i just can never seem to actually climax. to make things even weirder, even though he is directly on my clit and is stimulating me leisurely, i am not processing it as pleasure, rather just general movement and stimulation. this was the same thing with the first guy, but the first guy was just generally not very good at pleasing me.

i’m stumped. i don’t understand what to do, and to be honest i’m falling into that habit again of just thugging it out. this seems more promising because i get off more on giving him pleasure than much else, and to be honest i just like getting intimate with him in general regardless of whether or not i climax, but ideally…i want to climax. dur. it seems fun and i can’t understand what’s wrong with me. everyone says it could be a lack of attraction, which can’t be true, or a lack of build up, which also isn’t true.

i climax just fine when i’m pleasing myself. why can’t i climax with anyone else???

I should start by saying I’m 21M and never had sex, and I have a foot fetish.

I enjoy solo sessions a lot and I like trying to improve my stamina, so I use a fleshlight to reach certain time “goals” (eg. 10 minutes). With enough determination I can reach my goals by controlling my breathing, loosening pelvic muscles, and maintaining a steady rhythm. For reference I can usually make it around 8-10 minutes before orgasm.

My issue is, I like fantasizing / looking at feet to keep things fun and to stay motivated. When I do though .. it’s so over for me. Almost immediately my arousal jumps to 100% and I cum. No matter what I try I can’t maintain pace when feet are involved.

I’ve tried desensitizing myself over time (incorporating my fantasies early on and going slow) to no avail. I know I could just not incorporate my fetish but it’s a big part of the enjoyment for me.

I’m especially worried this will be a problem with a future partner, since it’ll be impossible to avoid the triggers. I guess I could just look away but then I’ll be actively thinking about them lol. Does anyone else struggle with something like this? If so, how do you deal with it?

Okay to start off I’m younger than most 3/4 of school you can figure out where I am placed into the grades

I wanna know if it is normal to feel disgusted with myself for what i did

What I did was follow a guy a few years older than me around 18-20 and he’s been wanting to do sexual things and after almost a month later I was willing to give him head and right after I didn’t feel disgusted until a few days later and I don’t know how to feel my friends say that I was being used but I’m not to sure anymore since it’s starts to affect me more each day

I'm having a ho phase

So far I've mainly been having sex with women (as a woman) and doing low-risk activities. But next month I want to start sleeping with men and doing more high-risk activities (mainly PIV)

I think it'd be fun to sleep with a lot of different guys. Maybe multiple in a week, if I can find enough who are willing

The recommendation for very sexually active people is to get tested once every 3-6 months. But is that really enough if I'm sleeping with that many different people? I plan to use condoms with everyone, but I know that doesn't protect you from everything

I could get tested in between each new guy. But since you have to wait a week for results, that'd _really_ slow down the pace

i gave my first blowjob a couple months ago and the guy fingered me while i did it and said i was really wet but i didn’t feel particularly aroused so i thought he was just saying that to set the mood but i felt down there and i was soaking so is it just me or does it happen to everyone?

Hey so Me (20f) and my bf (21M) have had sex a few times now but everytime something has gone wrong or caused me to stress out
our first time i hadn’t started birth control yet and i just panicked because that was my first time having sex ever

and then the last time we had sex with was over a month and half ago the condom broke! and i spent the next three weeks worrying about being pregnant,

Don’t get me wrong i love this guy with my entire being and i crave the sex we have but im just so nervous that we keep having such bad luck 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ and i really do not want to get pregnant right now

does anyone have any advice on how to overcome this stupid fear i have so i can fully enjoy my time with him?

So my gf wants to be more dominant but not in a Dominatrix kinda way. More of in a push me on the bed and f**k me kinda way without pain or anything. We love cowgirl obviously but tried a new position one time that I could tell she absolutely loved. I don’t know what it’s called though exactly. I want to say the Amazon position if I had to guess. She was bouncing on me in a squat position. I could tell she really enjoyed it but it came with a really big problem: she almost broke my d**k. No joke and I’m average size. We had to stop doing that one. Apparently that’s a thing that can happen. I’m a solutions person though. I think her loving it had something to do with the angle I was at and the fact that she had so much control. So, are there any positions outside of Cowgirl, or ones similar to the one described above that could give her that dominant feeling she really wants? I should also mention we have a hight difference. I’m 5’8 and she is 5 foot.

Awhile ago I realized I couldn’t get erections anymore and i still am not sure why, but along with that came me no longer feeling any sexual attraction to anything. I look at porn and I feel nothing, I look at nudes people send me and I feel nothing. It didn’t use to be like this. so I started looking at the medications I was taking, and I realized the one I was taking propranolol actually suppresses your sexual urges and your erections, so I stopped taking it against the will of my doctor, and nothing changed. I’m not sure what’s going on. Maybe it’s tied to my mental health cuz I’ve been stressed a lot and I haven’t been leaving my house, but stress never affected my sexual attraction like this before. any ideas is appreciated!

Been seeing this lovely man for the better part of a year. I love being on top and he seems to want it too! This ain't my first rodeo, but somehow none of my previous techniques are working and he is in PAIN.

His dick can't bend "down" (the direction that would be down if he was standing up) very much, so when I get on to ride him and even sit up straight, he's experiencing discomfort. The only way I can get some movement going on top is if I lean all the way forwards, put my arms on the headboard or on the bed next to his head, and move onto it this way.

But that's the opposite of what I want to do! I want to sit and bounce, or even better, lean back! We're both very confused about this, I've never had a guy voice any complaints about these positions, and he seems to have not experienced it either as he doesn't have ideas what could be done differently! Him sitting up with me in his lap is creating too much bend too.

Is there some way of angling just my pelvis that works better with his type of anatomy? Or should he angle his differently? At this point I wish I could see how other women did it with him, lol

Me (20M) and my girlfriend (20) were looking for a sex club that hosts for a younger audience (mid 20s) but haven’t had much luck… any ideas for places in Europe/NYC?

Looking to find someone to watch us have sex whether at the club in a playroom or at a hotel! Any advice is helpful :)

If you google sebaceous cyst you will get a very disturbing set of images. The 2 on my scrotum literally look like ingrown hairs/pimples and appeared at a time when no sex was being had. I literally just thought it was a pimple until it inevitable didn’t go away I’ve had for about 8 months. Doctor told me I’m good. Even got tested and obviously clean. Would this deter a potential partner. Should I even say anything before considering they look like just ingrown hairs or something of the sort. Looking to hear from people with experience or women, if this was something a potential hookup had, how would it like to be communicated to you?

Hey guys! I am a straight male, and I just lost my virginity with a girl. She is extremely attractive and nice, and I want to preface this by saying I am EXTREMELY awkward and get nervous INSTANTLY.

Some info:
I was SAd by a girl who was around the age that I am now (18) when I was a smaller boy.
I take antidepressants but they haven’t had any noticeable side effects
I get extremely shy
Normally, during masturbation, I have no problem getting hard/reaching climax.
I am a healthy guy, muscular not overweight etc, and I do take prescription meds, however they have never had noticeable side effects.
I am also circumcised.
Also, I masturbated prior to the sexual encounter so that I would last longer.

When we had sex, I made her finish multiple times and she kept trying to make me continue more and more, and kept asking if I was close (she wanted me to pull out and finish on her).
I focused only on her pleasure, as I wanted her to be happy.
Eventually she grew frustrated and a little sad that I didn’t finish.
Im not saying my penis was “numb” perse, but I wasn’t getting as much physical satisfaction as masturbation.
I kind of gave up and made her finish again, and then we cuddled and talked and she wanted to try again so we did, and I faked an orgasm.
She said she had a great time and she’s planning to come over again today, but I just feel so wrong for not being able to orgasm.
Once again, I’m extremely attracted to her and I had an incredible time having sex with her, emotions were there and everything, but I just physically wasn’t stimulated.

I guess I kind of just needed to talk about it. I’m embarrassed, and I feel like I’m a jerk for not being able to orgasm for her. Should I try taking supplements? Is it just a confidence thing?
Thanks.

Looking for a model that my gf can grip on to in more than one way and not give much. Searched online but this appears an underrated niche. Thanks! I’m an average 5’8 so mattress and boxing height is also a big consideration.

Hi all,

I’ve never posted here before but i’m too embarrassed to have this discussion with anyone in person. My sex drive is incredibly high in comparison to my partners (this has been the case in EVERY relationship). My partner is also very “vanilla” and can be a bit reluctant to try new things.

Basically my question is, is there anything I can do to “woo” him, make things better, or spice things up (gradually).