So I 23m been dating my gf 21f for 2 years. I plan on proposing on our anniversary next month as we pretty much are shooting for marriage and kids now that we graduated college. Thing is Ive been into cuckold since highschool. I quit porn for at 19. Yet I still get turned on by cuckold. My gf is latina and VERY attractive. I'm afraid that if I bring it up she might be monogamous or not open because of her traditional upbringing. I feel like I'm ruining or self sabotaging our relationship if I bring it up when we are starting our family chapter. Any advice?

I'm having a ho phase

So far I've mainly been having sex with women (as a woman) and doing low-risk activities. But next month I want to start sleeping with men and doing more high-risk activities (mainly PIV)

I think it'd be fun to sleep with a lot of different guys. Maybe multiple in a week, if I can find enough who are willing

The recommendation for very sexually active people is to get tested once every 3-6 months. But is that really enough if I'm sleeping with that many different people? I plan to use condoms with everyone, but I know that doesn't protect you from everything

I could get tested in between each new guy. But since you have to wait a week for results, that'd _really_ slow down the pace

Me (20M) and my girlfriend (20) were looking for a sex club that hosts for a younger audience (mid 20s) but haven’t had much luck… any ideas for places in Europe/NYC?

Looking to find someone to watch us have sex whether at the club in a playroom or at a hotel! Any advice is helpful :)

Been seeing this lovely man for the better part of a year. I love being on top and he seems to want it too! This ain't my first rodeo, but somehow none of my previous techniques are working and he is in PAIN.

His dick can't bend "down" (the direction that would be down if he was standing up) very much, so when I get on to ride him and even sit up straight, he's experiencing discomfort. The only way I can get some movement going on top is if I lean all the way forwards, put my arms on the headboard or on the bed next to his head, and move onto it this way.

But that's the opposite of what I want to do! I want to sit and bounce, or even better, lean back! We're both very confused about this, I've never had a guy voice any complaints about these positions, and he seems to have not experienced it either as he doesn't have ideas what could be done differently! Him sitting up with me in his lap is creating too much bend too.

Is there some way of angling just my pelvis that works better with his type of anatomy? Or should he angle his differently? At this point I wish I could see how other women did it with him, lol

I am currently 19 and male and i am thinking about visiting a swingerclub. In general i feel like many women in their 30s to 50s are opposed to sleeping with someone my age. So now just wanted to ask how reasonable is it to even think about that in my age? Would appreciate advice on that.

As the title asks, im wondering is it something that happens to people constantly or is it situation dependant or what.

To clarify why im asking i will just describe the situation. And to be clear i dont feel insecure from it nor was it awkward with the lady after it happened, which i thank her for, she was very understanding.

Night out, club, there till it closes, had about 7 beers (0.5L, 5%), 4 shots (0.03L, 40%), didn't feel THAT drunk, functioning, walking normally, probably because this was stretched over 5-6 hours. Anyways was there with a friend and long story short we connected really well with 2 girls there and one of them invited us to hang out after at her place, her friend and my friend kinda just fell asleep while me and this girl hit it off, the chemistry was there. So the other 2 then left and we had the room for ourselves and well we started making love one could say. Atp though i think we were both pretty tired (it was 6.30am) but we still both wanted sex i guess, then after foreplay, condom goes on but lil guy dont want to get up, shit was so embarassing but all good we just fell asleep and that was it.

The whole point of why im asking is because this has NEVER happened to me and I lowkey thought i was immune to it or something, i was much more drunk on other occasions and never really had a problem getting it up. Now i want to know if this is avoidable in the future and if there is something that can be done on the spot or beforehand to avoid this.

Thank you in advance

I should start by saying I’m 21M and never had sex, and I have a foot fetish.

I enjoy solo sessions a lot and I like trying to improve my stamina, so I use a fleshlight to reach certain time “goals” (eg. 10 minutes). With enough determination I can reach my goals by controlling my breathing, loosening pelvic muscles, and maintaining a steady rhythm. For reference I can usually make it around 8-10 minutes before orgasm.

My issue is, I like fantasizing / looking at feet to keep things fun and to stay motivated. When I do though .. it’s so over for me. Almost immediately my arousal jumps to 100% and I cum. No matter what I try I can’t maintain pace when feet are involved.

I’ve tried desensitizing myself over time (incorporating my fantasies early on and going slow) to no avail. I know I could just not incorporate my fetish but it’s a big part of the enjoyment for me.

I’m especially worried this will be a problem with a future partner, since it’ll be impossible to avoid the triggers. I guess I could just look away but then I’ll be actively thinking about them lol. Does anyone else struggle with something like this? If so, how do you deal with it?

Girlfriend likes to be more submissive in bed, and would like me to be more dominant. Problem is that I'm not. I just don't care about giving commands, or dirty talk at all, and they are basically boner killers for me.

Upon googling, Google mentions things like calm commands like "get on all fours" and shit, but I just flat out don't care about what position we are in. Like at all. Nor do I care about what acts were doing, if it's oral or piv or anal or whatever. I'm just fine with whatever and rarely feel a need to alter positions unless specifically requested. It doesn't seem make or break, but I would like to leave my partner more fulfilled.

Anybody out there like me have a partner that likes dominant partners, but is really not? How did you tackle this issue?

I’ve been on a birth control pill for quite a while now and am comfortable with it. I’m becoming sexually active again after a couple years hiatus (I take it primarily for medical reasons) and I would feel more secure with a second method of birth control. However, I’m not really a fan of condoms. I’ve used them in the past, but I’m now also on an antidepressant that reduces my natural lubrication quite a bit and the sensitivity down there just a little bit. At the same time, I find that condoms also seem to need extra lube and suck up my natural lubricant. As a result, I don’t enjoy intercourse with condoms anymore, even though they used to be fine in the past. Everything quickly dries out, there’s too much friction and nothing will move. It’s uncomfortable and not pleasurable, to say the least.

Are there any other secondary birth control methods that can be used with the combination pill other than condoms? I know spermicide is technically one but I’ve only ever heard of it being used with condoms.

Please do not recommend a specific brand or type of condoms to try instead, suggest getting off the pill, or to look into a different antidepressant. These are not viable options for me and you do not know my entire medical situation. If there’s no other methods, just say so. Thank you!

i’m 23 and so is my bf, but he has more sexual experience than me, not like a super high body count but i’m a virgin so more than me still. i’ve only given him a blowjob twice and he says he really likes it but i guess i get insecure because im new to it like is he being honest?

the first time we were in the cinema (nobody else was there) and i was doing it for 30 mins but because it was the first time i got very sore and didn’t really know what i was doing entirely and he didn’t come. i think also he didn’t because the way i was positioned, there just wasn’t a lot of space and maybe we wouldve made a mess if he came if i didn’t swallow it properly yknow. i got his dick so wet though with my saliva then just naturally and he really liked that. and he seemed to really like it regardless of coming like he told me he enjoyed it a lot.

anyways the second time was in his car and we also didn’t have a lot of room but i was able to make him come this time. i searched up some more tutorials on it, like what to do if you’re jaw gets sore and i realized i could rub his dick against my face when i’m taking a break etc. and i also just tried to make more noise like moan myself because i was really turned on and i also tried to make more noise sucking it. i focused more on the tip as well instead of just like taking it fully. and i was trying to be more enthusiastic like the entire week i was telling him about how i wanted to suck him again. but in the moment i got kind of shy so it was hard to do that confidently then but i tried to say dirty talk when i could.

he really liked the second time more i think since he did come, but i think he was also more relaxed since we had more room than before and i could swallow it this time. and he said im really good at it and like even the first time i did it, he said he was surprised it was my first time. idk if hes just saying this to boost my ego though but i guess i just feel insecure like am i really even good at it? i’ve been trying my best and trying to learn but i cant like deep throat it or things like that yet for example, hes really big and i have a small mouth so i can only take so much.

he said too that he wished i wasnt so good at them because now he wants them from me more. guys idk is it possible to be good at head without a lot of experience still 😓. it makes me feel good to hear this of course but i wonder if im really doing things right or if hes just saying all this?

i gave my first blowjob a couple months ago and the guy fingered me while i did it and said i was really wet but i didn’t feel particularly aroused so i thought he was just saying that to set the mood but i felt down there and i was soaking so is it just me or does it happen to everyone?

A boy and girl, both virgins, have sex. Her normal periods stop but she's not pregnant. They break up and her periods start again. She gets with several other boys and still has her periods. Then she goes back to her first, sex once, and her periods stop again. More on this one to follow.

The boys second partner, older, has had three children and a normal period for years. Her ex fixed her so she couldn't have any more children. Yet, once with this boy and her periods stop, making her think she's pregnant. Whole doctor thing and she's not and can't get pregnant. She's cheating on him, with several men, but when she gets with his friend, her daughter informs the boy and they break up. A month later her periods start again.

Next partner, also older, lots of on time periods, and she stops after sex the first time. For the two years they are together, she has no period. She moves and they break up. She starts again. They happen to run into each other, hook up once, and she stops again. They last about three months, have a falling out where she confesses to being with several men while they were "seeing each other."

Next to last partner, more of a friends with benefits. Same deal. She was fine from her teens until they met. She was married, had two kids, and was fine. The first time they had sex, she thought she was pregnant. She wasn't. Started using a diaphragm, but still didn't have a period. Since they were friends, they were still talking when they met the people they would marry. A month or so after they stopped having sex, her period returned. When she was with her future husband, it remained.

By now, this is known. He had sex with his future wife and... After two years of not having a period, she went to a doctor to check. He put her on birth control pills and they returned. A year later, she was diagnosed with cancer and died the following year.

Now, his first girlfriend reenters his life, after a VERY full life. She just comes straight out and asks him what goes on. He has no idea. All that is known is listed here.

Does anyone have any idea why this happened or what caused it? Medically, he's fine. Has anyone experienced anything like this before? Nothing stands out, like size or shape. It's just strange that all of these women would have the same symptoms and NOT be pregnant, not that they really complained about not having a period.

i (f16) have been with 2 guys seriously my whole life. i was a late bloomer and really just masturbated a lot until i got with the first guy. the first guy was not very good at sexually pleasing me in general because he ended up causing me more discomfort than anything but i didn’t have the heart to tell him because he was my first relationship, i didn’t wanna hurt his feelings, and i figured since we weren’t going to be together for long because of our personal matters that i could just thug it out. i figured i wasn’t climaxing when we did anything because i wasn’t fully attracted to him. i have learned from that relationship and will never do that to another person again.

this new guy i am seeing is extremely attractive, both physically and personality wise. he makes me feel genuinely giddy and aroused and when we do things, i can tell he absolutely knows exactly what he’s doing. he finds my clit easily, he’s a great kisser, he’s so sexy it blows my mind, but for some reason, i just can never seem to actually climax. to make things even weirder, even though he is directly on my clit and is stimulating me leisurely, i am not processing it as pleasure, rather just general movement and stimulation. this was the same thing with the first guy, but the first guy was just generally not very good at pleasing me.

i’m stumped. i don’t understand what to do, and to be honest i’m falling into that habit again of just thugging it out. this seems more promising because i get off more on giving him pleasure than much else, and to be honest i just like getting intimate with him in general regardless of whether or not i climax, but ideally…i want to climax. dur. it seems fun and i can’t understand what’s wrong with me. everyone says it could be a lack of attraction, which can’t be true, or a lack of build up, which also isn’t true.

i climax just fine when i’m pleasing myself. why can’t i climax with anyone else???

I have only had sex like 5 times so far and I'm annoyed because I struggle with cumming, using my body, doing doggy, and missionary. I am on fetlife and have gone a couple of gang bangs but I don't feel like I'm getting better at all.

I'm having sex but I can't cum, get tired and cramps. I feel like a dumbass especially when I see other guys do it better. So, what else can I do to get better?

I can't get a girlfriend or a date to save my life so that is out of the question.i have been on dating apps, speed dating, songle mixer, and other things. I'm 31 years old barely started having sex 3 years ago. I still feel like I suck.

Awhile ago I realized I couldn’t get erections anymore and i still am not sure why, but along with that came me no longer feeling any sexual attraction to anything. I look at porn and I feel nothing, I look at nudes people send me and I feel nothing. It didn’t use to be like this. so I started looking at the medications I was taking, and I realized the one I was taking propranolol actually suppresses your sexual urges and your erections, so I stopped taking it against the will of my doctor, and nothing changed. I’m not sure what’s going on. Maybe it’s tied to my mental health cuz I’ve been stressed a lot and I haven’t been leaving my house, but stress never affected my sexual attraction like this before. any ideas is appreciated!

I(22M) recently was doing casual sext with the girl with whom I am in a situationship..I used to do loads of sext but i never felt that good but my partner always felt amazing so I got to know that I can be good in it but now I don't think about that much I started craving for love ,care and emotional understanding even though I never did real sex but i don't feel that urge to do with some casual person..I do think sometimes I am demisexual but what if it turned out i lost my libido and in future it will create a problem

Being 70 (m) and reading recent posts, why do the new generations need sex that is squeaky clean and without any scents and smells? I loved spending entire summer days outside and having very passionate sex at night without showering. Sex was expected to have smells that were special to different people. Having sweaty sex with cum being on people and easily falling asleep together. Women and men were expected to have pubic hair that made people different from one another. Appreciate any answers!

Hey! So we're both on antidepressants and we're both new to sex (we are each other's firsts) which could be a contributing factor. We're both very into each other however and in love.

I'll get into a lot of detail below, just so I can show what advice we've used and how we're doing things right now.

We still had a lot of fun, from what I could tell. There was lots of communication to do what felt best, questions like "higher or lower?" "Up and down or circles?" "Harder or lighter?" Things like that to make things feel as good as they could. He was very loud. It did sound and look genuine since it was accompanied by body reactions, like there was also times he couldn't stop spasming/shaking and his cock would twitch.

He is submissive. I tied him up to his request, used a vibrator at some points, dirty talked the way he likes it, we took turns topping, etc. Reverse cowgirl, cowgirl, missionary, doggystyle, but still nada. I scratched and spanked him (he likes a little pain) and though it made him more verbal, still nada. We were at it for hours.

He said he had an amazing time, it was very hot, it was great, etc. But I'm just a little insecure considering I didn't get him to cum.

He likes the area behind his balls massaged and sometimes likes his balls squeezed as I ride him. We haven't tried prostate play, which I heard can help men who have trouble releasing. He is interested in trying this someday when he's ready, but until then, is there anything else I could try?

When I was riding him, I made sure to ask which methods of moving felt best for him and moved that way until I got too tired. He had his eyes closed and couldn't be quiet, but a part of me wonders if I wasn't riding him right. I usually rolled my hips in different ways, it was more risky to go in and out too much because he kept slipping out. Sometimes I'd lean down and kiss him or suck his neck or nipples. He said it felt amazing and couldn't keep quiet

When he was on top with missionary we tried a lot of different thrusting methods. Sometimes he'd go in all the way and go out all the way(not as much trouble slipping out in this position), rotate his hips in small movements, try different angles etc. He said that he was close for a long while, but he couldn't quite get there. Dirty talking the way he likes helped a little.

We also put pillows underneath our butts to help the angle.

We had plenty of lube, but we didn't use anything like viagra. I was also able to get him hard quickly every time he got soft. We took turns between heating lube and oil.

He does say he likes me being spontaneous and surprising him. Maybe I'm not creative enough and I can't think of more ways to be spontaneous. Is there any more ways I could surprise him? I'll do things like kiss, scratch, target his sensitive spots, bite, VERY lightly choke (ask him the right pressure), spank, etc.

Tools I have

Belts, rope, heating lube, coconut oil, avocado oil, dildos(to get him hard after he got soft, I had him use one on me), rose toy(he LOVES the rose toy used on his tip and behind his balls), electric toothbrush, butt plug. He likes bdsm

In case this helps, his most sensitive spots, from what I've noticed: balls, cock tip, behind the balls, ass(playing around the rim, not inside), neck, nipple, tongue

I give him permission to feel me however he likes while we have sex. Sometimes I put his hand on my chest or ass to encourage him.

Also we don't use a condom. We don't need to, since we're both heavy introverts who don't get around. I have no doubts we're the only ones we're fucking, he's a shy person and it takes a lot getting him out of his shell. Same for me.

We’re a newly married couple both in our 30s and both new to sex, we’ve been having intercourse for the past couple of months and although it has been painful for me roughly for the first month after losing my v cards i’ve been learning to enjoy it but rarely coming, after one of the times I told my husband that I have trouble coming when he doesn’t touch me directly down there, he took it really bad said that I broke his self confidence because he thought I was always coming, I tried explaining to him that I felt pleasure plenty since we go on for really long 30/40 min but he said he does everything he can and he doesn’t see what else he could do. I feel like i ruined my marriage and our sex life and at the same time I haven’t done anything wrong i just thought he might touch me more if I told him. Its been a week now and we still haven’t had any sex he says he doesn’t see himself doing it again and getting the same result (me not coming) i’m in a desperate need of help

Looking for a model that my gf can grip on to in more than one way and not give much. Searched online but this appears an underrated niche. Thanks! I’m an average 5’8 so mattress and boxing height is also a big consideration.

Hi all,

I’ve never posted here before but i’m too embarrassed to have this discussion with anyone in person. My sex drive is incredibly high in comparison to my partners (this has been the case in EVERY relationship). My partner is also very “vanilla” and can be a bit reluctant to try new things.

Basically my question is, is there anything I can do to “woo” him, make things better, or spice things up (gradually).

So I (29F) and my partner (36F) have been trying to navigate helping me with my orgasm issue. I’m sure it’s related to stress or maybe it could be that while my partner and I are both switches, we both heavily lean to the submissive side, and I tend to have my better orgasms while submitting, I think? I’ve tried setting the mood by myself and taking my time but I just can’t get much more than a light clitoral orgasm and I’m sexually frustrated to tears at times. It doesn’t help that my partner is so sensitive that she cums multiple times a session. We’ve talked and are trying to explore but I would love advice!

Title ^, wondering how to as a 20 (M) with my 20 (F) girlfriend. I have heard that it can increase her pleasure, yet I know if I stop oral before she finishes, then she’ll lose her progress and kind of resets. Is there a way to properly edge that’s other than this method? Does edging actually work or does it vary from person to person (and cause a reset in orgasm progress?)

my boyfriend and i don't have sex too often because we both have pretty stressful jobs and busy lives. when we do, it's pretty short-lived. like, really short. i personally would love to spend more time in pound town, like actual PIV sex, because i love being close to him in that way. oral is cool, touching is cool, we do that too. i just REALLY like PIV.

we both know he finishes fast. he's apologized for it since the beginning of time and for the first two years i told him it wasn't an issue, but over this last year i've slowly started to communicate otherwise. the truth is that it wasnt really worth bringing up at first because my body was so primed just by being around him that i genuinely did feel satisfied even if i didn't finish. then the honeymoon phase ended and i don't turn into a fountain just because he's sitting close to me anymore. i suggested we do some research, and when i bring up a solution he's resistant to it. edging? he says it doesn't work. muscle tension? he says it doesn't matter if he's tensed or not. breathing? he breathes fine. lots of foreplay? he doesn't like giving oral "all the time." he's the most stubborn person i know so i sort of expected him to resist but not this much.

in his last serious relationship he did have to give his ex oral every time before they had sex otherwise she never got to finish. for the first year or so he would give me oral every time but since we moved in together he's stopped doing it, or he changes his technique every time and it seems like he's just digging around down there, or he just isn't horny enough to do it and wants a quickie. sometimes he just wants a hand or blowjob (i totally don't mind if he doesn't last for blowjobs because i'm secretly not the biggest fan of giving them), and he finishes fast for those too. sex has been disappointing for me for a long time now and it's gotten to the point where i don't really even get excited it for anymore. i also take a long time to warm up and can have multiple orgasms so i get in my head about it and end up never finishing.

i have no clue how to proceed in this situation. i gave him a handy two days ago and wasn't exactly into it. i felt really bad about that but man, he always get to cum! i wanna cum!

Okay to start off I’m younger than most 3/4 of school you can figure out where I am placed into the grades

I wanna know if it is normal to feel disgusted with myself for what i did

What I did was follow a guy a few years older than me around 18-20 and he’s been wanting to do sexual things and after almost a month later I was willing to give him head and right after I didn’t feel disgusted until a few days later and I don’t know how to feel my friends say that I was being used but I’m not to sure anymore since it’s starts to affect me more each day