i gave my first blowjob a couple months ago and the guy fingered me while i did it and said i was really wet but i didn’t feel particularly aroused so i thought he was just saying that to set the mood but i felt down there and i was soaking so is it just me or does it happen to everyone?

I'm having a ho phase

So far I've mainly been having sex with women (as a woman) and doing low-risk activities. But next month I want to start sleeping with men and doing more high-risk activities (mainly PIV)

I think it'd be fun to sleep with a lot of different guys. Maybe multiple in a week, if I can find enough who are willing

The recommendation for very sexually active people is to get tested once every 3-6 months. But is that really enough if I'm sleeping with that many different people? I plan to use condoms with everyone, but I know that doesn't protect you from everything

I could get tested in between each new guy. But since you have to wait a week for results, that'd _really_ slow down the pace

my boyfriend and i don't have sex too often because we both have pretty stressful jobs and busy lives. when we do, it's pretty short-lived. like, really short. i personally would love to spend more time in pound town, like actual PIV sex, because i love being close to him in that way. oral is cool, touching is cool, we do that too. i just REALLY like PIV.

we both know he finishes fast. he's apologized for it since the beginning of time and for the first two years i told him it wasn't an issue, but over this last year i've slowly started to communicate otherwise. the truth is that it wasnt really worth bringing up at first because my body was so primed just by being around him that i genuinely did feel satisfied even if i didn't finish. then the honeymoon phase ended and i don't turn into a fountain just because he's sitting close to me anymore. i suggested we do some research, and when i bring up a solution he's resistant to it. edging? he says it doesn't work. muscle tension? he says it doesn't matter if he's tensed or not. breathing? he breathes fine. lots of foreplay? he doesn't like giving oral "all the time." he's the most stubborn person i know so i sort of expected him to resist but not this much.

in his last serious relationship he did have to give his ex oral every time before they had sex otherwise she never got to finish. for the first year or so he would give me oral every time but since we moved in together he's stopped doing it, or he changes his technique every time and it seems like he's just digging around down there, or he just isn't horny enough to do it and wants a quickie. sometimes he just wants a hand or blowjob (i totally don't mind if he doesn't last for blowjobs because i'm secretly not the biggest fan of giving them), and he finishes fast for those too. sex has been disappointing for me for a long time now and it's gotten to the point where i don't really even get excited it for anymore. i also take a long time to warm up and can have multiple orgasms so i get in my head about it and end up never finishing.

i have no clue how to proceed in this situation. i gave him a handy two days ago and wasn't exactly into it. i felt really bad about that but man, he always get to cum! i wanna cum!

I’ve been on a birth control pill for quite a while now and am comfortable with it. I’m becoming sexually active again after a couple years hiatus (I take it primarily for medical reasons) and I would feel more secure with a second method of birth control. However, I’m not really a fan of condoms. I’ve used them in the past, but I’m now also on an antidepressant that reduces my natural lubrication quite a bit and the sensitivity down there just a little bit. At the same time, I find that condoms also seem to need extra lube and suck up my natural lubricant. As a result, I don’t enjoy intercourse with condoms anymore, even though they used to be fine in the past. Everything quickly dries out, there’s too much friction and nothing will move. It’s uncomfortable and not pleasurable, to say the least.

Are there any other secondary birth control methods that can be used with the combination pill other than condoms? I know spermicide is technically one but I’ve only ever heard of it being used with condoms.

Please do not recommend a specific brand or type of condoms to try instead, suggest getting off the pill, or to look into a different antidepressant. These are not viable options for me and you do not know my entire medical situation. If there’s no other methods, just say so. Thank you!

i’m 23 and so is my bf, but he has more sexual experience than me, not like a super high body count but i’m a virgin so more than me still. i’ve only given him a blowjob twice and he says he really likes it but i guess i get insecure because im new to it like is he being honest?

the first time we were in the cinema (nobody else was there) and i was doing it for 30 mins but because it was the first time i got very sore and didn’t really know what i was doing entirely and he didn’t come. i think also he didn’t because the way i was positioned, there just wasn’t a lot of space and maybe we wouldve made a mess if he came if i didn’t swallow it properly yknow. i got his dick so wet though with my saliva then just naturally and he really liked that. and he seemed to really like it regardless of coming like he told me he enjoyed it a lot.

anyways the second time was in his car and we also didn’t have a lot of room but i was able to make him come this time. i searched up some more tutorials on it, like what to do if you’re jaw gets sore and i realized i could rub his dick against my face when i’m taking a break etc. and i also just tried to make more noise like moan myself because i was really turned on and i also tried to make more noise sucking it. i focused more on the tip as well instead of just like taking it fully. and i was trying to be more enthusiastic like the entire week i was telling him about how i wanted to suck him again. but in the moment i got kind of shy so it was hard to do that confidently then but i tried to say dirty talk when i could.

he really liked the second time more i think since he did come, but i think he was also more relaxed since we had more room than before and i could swallow it this time. and he said im really good at it and like even the first time i did it, he said he was surprised it was my first time. idk if hes just saying this to boost my ego though but i guess i just feel insecure like am i really even good at it? i’ve been trying my best and trying to learn but i cant like deep throat it or things like that yet for example, hes really big and i have a small mouth so i can only take so much.

he said too that he wished i wasnt so good at them because now he wants them from me more. guys idk is it possible to be good at head without a lot of experience still 😓. it makes me feel good to hear this of course but i wonder if im really doing things right or if hes just saying all this?

So I (29F) and my partner (36F) have been trying to navigate helping me with my orgasm issue. I’m sure it’s related to stress or maybe it could be that while my partner and I are both switches, we both heavily lean to the submissive side, and I tend to have my better orgasms while submitting, I think? I’ve tried setting the mood by myself and taking my time but I just can’t get much more than a light clitoral orgasm and I’m sexually frustrated to tears at times. It doesn’t help that my partner is so sensitive that she cums multiple times a session. We’ve talked and are trying to explore but I would love advice!

Girlfriend likes to be more submissive in bed, and would like me to be more dominant. Problem is that I'm not. I just don't care about giving commands, or dirty talk at all, and they are basically boner killers for me.

Upon googling, Google mentions things like calm commands like "get on all fours" and shit, but I just flat out don't care about what position we are in. Like at all. Nor do I care about what acts were doing, if it's oral or piv or anal or whatever. I'm just fine with whatever and rarely feel a need to alter positions unless specifically requested. It doesn't seem make or break, but I would like to leave my partner more fulfilled.

Anybody out there like me have a partner that likes dominant partners, but is really not? How did you tackle this issue?

As the title asks, im wondering is it something that happens to people constantly or is it situation dependant or what.

To clarify why im asking i will just describe the situation. And to be clear i dont feel insecure from it nor was it awkward with the lady after it happened, which i thank her for, she was very understanding.

Night out, club, there till it closes, had about 7 beers (0.5L, 5%), 4 shots (0.03L, 40%), didn't feel THAT drunk, functioning, walking normally, probably because this was stretched over 5-6 hours. Anyways was there with a friend and long story short we connected really well with 2 girls there and one of them invited us to hang out after at her place, her friend and my friend kinda just fell asleep while me and this girl hit it off, the chemistry was there. So the other 2 then left and we had the room for ourselves and well we started making love one could say. Atp though i think we were both pretty tired (it was 6.30am) but we still both wanted sex i guess, then after foreplay, condom goes on but lil guy dont want to get up, shit was so embarassing but all good we just fell asleep and that was it.

The whole point of why im asking is because this has NEVER happened to me and I lowkey thought i was immune to it or something, i was much more drunk on other occasions and never really had a problem getting it up. Now i want to know if this is avoidable in the future and if there is something that can be done on the spot or beforehand to avoid this.

Thank you in advance

I have no idea if this is really going to be seen by anyone, but I’ve never actually said any of this out loud, so please forgive me if this sounds like a garbled mess.

Ever since I was around 18-19, Ive always had this weird…fixation/fetish about the idea of getting my, uhh, throat absolutely fucking demolished. The idea of being held down and forced to take it while my own needs are completely ignored turns me on like crazy. Like, I wanna suck some fuckin dick, pass out, and feel like a slut lol.

With all that said though, and bear with me, I don’t actually know if Im gay? Men don’t turn me on in the slightest. Ive never in my life actually been sexually attracted to a man before. I have zero romantic interest in them, and I don’t feel an ounce of attraction towards men the way that I do women. I do absolutely love giving head to women too, so maybe that’s a part of it?

It’s really JUST the dick that Im obsessed with 😅. Getting dominated/feeling completely worthless and powerless also does play a part though, so I guess my brain sort of naturally gravitates towards a man using me, but I would be just as happy having a woman use me the same way when I actually think about it.

I guess at the end of the day it doesn’t actually matter what I consider or don’t consider myself to be, but it’s really confusing trying to understand how to pursue this in a way that’s safe when the idea of actually flirting or kissing a man just does absolutely nothing for me.

Is there anyone out there who has any idea what Im talking about? How the hell do I even go about exploring this?

“Hello fine sir, I don’t actually like you, but can you please fuck my face?” Just doesn’t sound like something that would actually work lmfao.

TLDR: I wanna suck some dick but I don’t like men romantically in the slightest. What do I do to explore this in a way that makes sense and is safe?

After sex I seem to always get period like pain now? I posted about this like few months ago and figured the period like pain was from him hitting too deep, but now we had sex with just the tip of penis and the same thing happened? Why??? I don't understand what causes this.

Hi everyone! This is my first time posting here. I’m a 30-year-old man, and I’ve been with my girlfriend for a year. We’ve been living together for about five months.

Here’s our situation: my girlfriend keeps developing yeast infections (vaginal candidiasis) after we have sex. This has started to affect our sex life to the point where we’ve stopped having sex regularly because we’re worried it will happen again.
At one point, we both had PCR tests to rule out other sexually transmitted infections. Both of our results were negative, and the only positive result in her case was for candidiasis.
She was treated with fluconazole, and after completing the treatment, we started having sex again. However, her symptoms came back.
We’ve tried to be careful about hygiene to prevent this from happening again. For example, she washes her underwear separately, but despite all these precautions, we still don’t understand why this keeps happening or what we can do to prevent it.

Has anyone experienced something similar with their partner? Have you found a solution, or is there anything you’d recommend looking into? I’d also like to know whether sex itself, condoms, lubricants, or other factors could play a role.
I’d really appreciate any advice or personal experiences you could share. This situation is affecting us, and we’d really like to find a solution.

Thanks in advance

i (f16) have been with 2 guys seriously my whole life. i was a late bloomer and really just masturbated a lot until i got with the first guy. the first guy was not very good at sexually pleasing me in general because he ended up causing me more discomfort than anything but i didn’t have the heart to tell him because he was my first relationship, i didn’t wanna hurt his feelings, and i figured since we weren’t going to be together for long because of our personal matters that i could just thug it out. i figured i wasn’t climaxing when we did anything because i wasn’t fully attracted to him. i have learned from that relationship and will never do that to another person again.

this new guy i am seeing is extremely attractive, both physically and personality wise. he makes me feel genuinely giddy and aroused and when we do things, i can tell he absolutely knows exactly what he’s doing. he finds my clit easily, he’s a great kisser, he’s so sexy it blows my mind, but for some reason, i just can never seem to actually climax. to make things even weirder, even though he is directly on my clit and is stimulating me leisurely, i am not processing it as pleasure, rather just general movement and stimulation. this was the same thing with the first guy, but the first guy was just generally not very good at pleasing me.

i’m stumped. i don’t understand what to do, and to be honest i’m falling into that habit again of just thugging it out. this seems more promising because i get off more on giving him pleasure than much else, and to be honest i just like getting intimate with him in general regardless of whether or not i climax, but ideally…i want to climax. dur. it seems fun and i can’t understand what’s wrong with me. everyone says it could be a lack of attraction, which can’t be true, or a lack of build up, which also isn’t true.

i climax just fine when i’m pleasing myself. why can’t i climax with anyone else???

Title ^, wondering how to as a 20 (M) with my 20 (F) girlfriend. I have heard that it can increase her pleasure, yet I know if I stop oral before she finishes, then she’ll lose her progress and kind of resets. Is there a way to properly edge that’s other than this method? Does edging actually work or does it vary from person to person (and cause a reset in orgasm progress?)

So, I was very much in love with this woman (both in our thirties), and at first she said the sex was great. Within months she said she was bored - but she had a lot of boundaries. For instance, she didn't want anything in her ass (ok), didn't want her chest touched at all (ok), didn't want anything in her mouth (no felatio, ok) but that also included regular kissing. Also she didn't want her feet touched by any part of me (hard to do during sex) and didn't want want my feet touching her (also hard to do during sex). She also didn't like being on the floor and her couch (happened to be her bed) was such a narrow space that you couldn't roll in any direction. Also she got really angry when I suggested toys other than her own vibrator.

I... Really struggled making her happy. And according to her it wasn't just a me thing, she said it applied to everyone.

Was there a workaround to any of this to keep things "exciting"?

I performed oral on her a lot and according to her it was so good that she wanted it for at least an hour. Which I did. But... Am I missing something here?? She said she was open minded and when I suggested cuffs or a paddle for instance she freaked out.

I hope I never run into such a situation again but if I do, how do I work around it? She talked about kinks but then shot me down when I tried it.

EDIT: Especially towards the end (yes we broke up) I just couldn't get into it with her. We'd be getting naked and shit and then couldn't keep it hard. So she had the gall to accuse me of "not actually being into her" and "not really attracted to her." Excuse me? She was a very conventionally attractive woman and she bragged about how many dudes she'd bagged in her lifetime. Now I see why she'd been with "so many dudes" but none of them stay. I have a high sex drive and I think she did too, but wow it was really hard to get into the mood when I got shot down for suggesting things or making mistakes. I'm sorry I touched your breasts during sex?? I'm sorry my foot touched you?? She was very offended about me "violating her boundaries" on multiple occasions.

And yes to be clear I think that she was a very traumatized person. She was unmedicated bipolar 1 with OCD (she... couldn't afford a lot of necessities). I still loved her despite that. But the "boundaries" thing made it impossible. I felt bad and kinda still do for letting her down because she gave me this tirade about everyone leaving her. She's a very lonely person and really kinda fights off everyone in her life. It's sad really.

Hey so Me (20f) and my bf (21M) have had sex a few times now but everytime something has gone wrong or caused me to stress out
our first time i hadn’t started birth control yet and i just panicked because that was my first time having sex ever

and then the last time we had sex with was over a month and half ago the condom broke! and i spent the next three weeks worrying about being pregnant,

Don’t get me wrong i love this guy with my entire being and i crave the sex we have but im just so nervous that we keep having such bad luck 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ and i really do not want to get pregnant right now

does anyone have any advice on how to overcome this stupid fear i have so i can fully enjoy my time with him?

I (F) cannot get the guy I’m seeing to finish and it’s making me feel like such an inadequate partner. He is phenomenal and does a wonderful job on me, but Im not doing the same for him. Recently we spent almost 4 hours (on and off) and I couldn’t even get him close. He is very responsive to my touch and seems super into it but it’s like he can only cum if he does it himself. He compliments me on my skills but the evidence is saying a different story.

I thoroughly enjoy going down on him but that doesn’t do anything. Sex is great but once I need a break he will remain hard but make no concern to get himself there. It’s like he is not worried about his pleasure at all, but I am!

What can I try? How can I improve? I’ve never had this happen before I’m not sure what to do!

EDIT: We are both early 20s

I should start by saying I’m 21M and never had sex, and I have a foot fetish.

I enjoy solo sessions a lot and I like trying to improve my stamina, so I use a fleshlight to reach certain time “goals” (eg. 10 minutes). With enough determination I can reach my goals by controlling my breathing, loosening pelvic muscles, and maintaining a steady rhythm. For reference I can usually make it around 8-10 minutes before orgasm.

My issue is, I like fantasizing / looking at feet to keep things fun and to stay motivated. When I do though .. it’s so over for me. Almost immediately my arousal jumps to 100% and I cum. No matter what I try I can’t maintain pace when feet are involved.

I’ve tried desensitizing myself over time (incorporating my fantasies early on and going slow) to no avail. I know I could just not incorporate my fetish but it’s a big part of the enjoyment for me.

I’m especially worried this will be a problem with a future partner, since it’ll be impossible to avoid the triggers. I guess I could just look away but then I’ll be actively thinking about them lol. Does anyone else struggle with something like this? If so, how do you deal with it?

If you google sebaceous cyst you will get a very disturbing set of images. The 2 on my scrotum literally look like ingrown hairs/pimples and appeared at a time when no sex was being had. I literally just thought it was a pimple until it inevitable didn’t go away I’ve had for about 8 months. Doctor told me I’m good. Even got tested and obviously clean. Would this deter a potential partner. Should I even say anything before considering they look like just ingrown hairs or something of the sort. Looking to hear from people with experience or women, if this was something a potential hookup had, how would it like to be communicated to you?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years, before him i wasn’t experienced in giving head/bj/oral sex whatever you prefer to call it. He’s also very big in size. My problem is sometimes when i give him head he tells me to stop or slow down because it ends up being too ticklish. He doesn’t explain anything else if it’s the shaft or tip or what to do to even be better. Overall he claims I’m good in giving head but just those moments when he says it’s too ticklish i get very insecure & think it’s me which honestly it is if he thinks so or not. Any advice?

I’m 22 F and I’ve never gone to hookup with a boy before or even on a date
I’m freaking out because I’m not experience or anything, I’m not a virgin but like I don’t any tricks or moves

I also for some reason have developed a strong gag reflex and so I can’t give oral to a good extent

Like I need advice pls 😭
I’m also not skinny but not fat

Also in terms of like getting there wtf do I do 💀 like small talk then how do we transition

He seems to goof around a lot and doesn’t rly answer any questions which is fair I wanted someone who I was so analytical and serious w

Help😭

Looking for a model that my gf can grip on to in more than one way and not give much. Searched online but this appears an underrated niche. Thanks! I’m an average 5’8 so mattress and boxing height is also a big consideration.

So my gf wants to be more dominant but not in a Dominatrix kinda way. More of in a push me on the bed and f**k me kinda way without pain or anything. We love cowgirl obviously but tried a new position one time that I could tell she absolutely loved. I don’t know what it’s called though exactly. I want to say the Amazon position if I had to guess. She was bouncing on me in a squat position. I could tell she really enjoyed it but it came with a really big problem: she almost broke my d**k. No joke and I’m average size. We had to stop doing that one. Apparently that’s a thing that can happen. I’m a solutions person though. I think her loving it had something to do with the angle I was at and the fact that she had so much control. So, are there any positions outside of Cowgirl, or ones similar to the one described above that could give her that dominant feeling she really wants? I should also mention we have a hight difference. I’m 5’8 and she is 5 foot.

Hi all,

I’ve never posted here before but i’m too embarrassed to have this discussion with anyone in person. My sex drive is incredibly high in comparison to my partners (this has been the case in EVERY relationship). My partner is also very “vanilla” and can be a bit reluctant to try new things.

Basically my question is, is there anything I can do to “woo” him, make things better, or spice things up (gradually).