r/CautiousBB • • 21d ago

MOD MESSAGE/ANNOUNCEMENT Community feedback needed (please vote)

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Hi all,

Our mod team was recently approached by BetterHelp, an online subscription-based therapy provider, to do an AMA within our subreddit by a licensed therapist that specializes in child loss, perinatal mental health, and anxiety. They are willing to provide credentials to our mod team to verify the individual responding to questions, but our team has reached a moral impasse that we need the community to weigh in on.

Up until now, our team has had a blanket rule to not allow any companies, researchers, institutions, or anyone else with private interests to post within our community because our space is filled with so many vulnerable humans going through extremely difficult situations. The fertility space, in general, is ripe with opportunity for those that might take advantage of this vulnerability, much less a space like ours. That said, the message they sent was clearly written very thoughtfully, and the provider they’re willing to assign to the AMA would be willing to answer people’s questions about their worries, maybe provide healthy coping mechanisms, and describe the subspecialties of therapy that could be most beneficial to the people here.

IF we allow this AMA, it needs to be with the majority support of our community, so we are opening a poll for feedback. Other than voting in the poll, upvoting this post and providing even a short comment with your thoughts/concerns/ideas would help boost the visibility of this announcement to the maximum amount of sub members.

Of course, the major issue for us as a mod team is that we are NOT endorsing BetterHelp as a specific company or resource. For folks that are in areas where they aren’t able to find an in person provider, online therapy through any number of companies may be helpful. We are not partnering with them and the language in the AMA will be very clear about that. We will also be making sure that the provider answering questions in the AMA does not promote the BetterHelp brand.

If you’ve read this long, thanks for bearing with us. We appreciate how the people of this community come together to support one another and are grateful to help moderate.

Would you be interested in and supportive of an AMA provided by a therapist from BetterHelp, with the limitations outlined above?

116 votes, 18d ago
18 Yes
90 No
8 Maybe, but I have concerns (outline in comments)

r/CautiousBB • • Jan 27 '26

Ultrasound FAQ Reference Guide

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As an OBGYN ultrasound tech working at the general level here's a few things I would love the community to know based on common questions I see.

Most important rule of thumb: Worry when your doctor tells you to.

OBGYN docs are going to pay the most attention to the fetal pole and heart rate. Once a fetal pole is seen, the CRL (crown rump length) measurements are gold standard.

I'm worried about the heart rate:
-Check out this resource for pregnancies dating less than 7 weeks. Make sure to refer not to your LMP dates, but measured CRL dates: https://radiopaedia.org/articles/fetal-bradycardia?lang=us
-After 7 weeks a normal heartrate is between 120-180. It can temporarily dip below or temporarily rise above this range, but prolonged time above/below will definitely get your doctor's attention especially in third trimester. Generally out of range heart rates trigger NST (non stress test) or more monitoring.
The measurements are off:
Baby measures behind LMP. This is actually pretty common, we often see dates off up to a week either direction. We don't ovulate on the exact same day of the cycle each month or even have the same length of cycle. With irregular periods, PCOS, or unknown dates even larger gaps can be perfectly fine. If you aren't sure of your dates, trust the ultrasound. Even if you are sure of your dates, don't panic if they are a week off. Ultrasound measurements in early pregnancy are +/- 5 days.
I'm in limbo and don't know if my ultrasounds are diagnostic for loss:
By ultrasound there are strict parameters to diagnose loss. No one wants to get this wrong. Check out this resource for a list of parameters diagnostic for loss: https://radiopaedia.org/articles/early-pregnancy-loss-1?lang=us
Note, there is a second list of "suspicious for loss". Keep in mind the second list is not diagnostic, things can still turn out just fine.
I don't know when I should see what on ultrasound:
Things can vary a bit from person to person and do change *quickly* in early pregnancy. Check out this resource for what you can generally expect to see:
https://radiopaedia.org/articles/early-pregnancy?lang=us
Should I go to a boutique or get a private scan? Or push for an earlier scan?
They aren't legal where I am but here's a few things to consider if you plan to book a private scan. First, what are the qualifications of the person running the ultrasound? An ultrasound is only as good as the one performing it. It sounds as if these boutiques are NOT permitted to give much/any information. Will you spiral if you believe you see bad news and they cannot confirm or deny it? Also it seems that many cannot do vaginal ultrasound, which will make seeing a baby under 7 or 8 weeks challenging. If I had the option of a boutique ultrasound I would personally wait until 8 weeks and I would book it for a weekday. If they see something bad, it is not ideal to find out over a weekend when there is no option to follow up with your doc. An earlier scan often causes more anxiety, not less. It's SO hard to wait. But if you can tolerate it wait until 8 weeks or so.
The gestation sac is small/big:
-Gestation sac measurements are not terrifically accurate. Where I work once a baby is seen the gestation sac isn't measured. A mismatch between baby's size and the gestation sac size isn't uncommon. That said, a mean sac diameter of 25 mm or more without a baby is diagnostic for loss.
The yolk sac is small/big:
It starts teeny tiny, and will get a bit bigger. Once a baby with a good heartbeat is visualized, the docs I work for don't seem to care about the size of the yolk sac. A failed pregnancy with an expanded yolk sac (more than 6 mm) is a suggestive of chromosomal abnormalities.
We don't know where the pregnancy is:
The statistically most likely outcome is either a chemical pregnancy or just coming in for ultrasound too early for visualization. Ectopic can't be ruled out, and many wise ladies in the this sub have unfortunately experienced this and can give more info than I can. Statistically it's believed that only 1-2% of pregnancies are ectopic, but listen to your body. If the location is unknown, you should be getting close monitoring and follow up until the location is known or the pregnancy has ended.
-For a resource on ectopic pregnancy: https://radiopaedia.org/articles/ectopic-pregnancy?lang=us A note, a pseudosac is visualized in only 10-20% of ectopics. Therefore a sac in the uterus is suggestive of intrauterine pregnancy but can't be proven until a yolk sac is also present.
What about my HCG numbers?
I'm not an expert on this at all. But here's a resource: https://radiopaedia.org/articles/beta-hcg-1?lang=us
Why didn't my ultrasound tech tell me anything? And/or why were they so optimistic? Or, I had an ultrasound in the ER and they were very pessimistic.
Many locations an ultrasound tech can very much lose their job if they say aNyThInG. Where they are permitted to say certain things some ultrasound techs may just be hoping the best. We work with the public and we have seen some wild stuff. Additionally no one wants to call it a loss unless its 1000% certain. We know how devastating that news is. A side note here, often an ultrasound in the ER is not an ideal experience for the patient. The ER is staffed with techs that are much more versed in gallbladder and liver scans than they they are early pregnancy ultrasound. Don't hesitate to go the ER if you are having concerning symptoms, but do know the ER doc will make sure you aren't actively dying then will likely refer you back to your OB for follow up.
I'm just so anxious about it all:
Someone awesome wrote out these mantras. Maybe they will help: https://www.reddit.com/r/PregnancyAfterLoss/comments/14uhbdg/commandments_of_pregnancy_after_loss_this_is_now/
Also a podcast I personally found very helpful with anxiety: https://www.oneyoufeed.net/russ-harris-part-1/
https://www.oneyoufeed.net/russ-harris-part-2/

Today you are pregnant and this baby is so loved. I really am hoping the best for each of you. Those of us who have experienced loss.... you didn't do anything wrong, I promise. This is a club no one deserved to be in. And you are not silly, foolish, or dramatic for grieving your little babe for as long as you need to.

This post is written in honor of Eli, who died long before I could meet him. Rest in peace, buddy. I miss you tremendously ❤️


r/CautiousBB • • 3h ago

Advice Needed What were your HCG levels when you noticed symptoms?

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Hi all,

Does anyone know (roughly) what their HCG levels were when they started getting symptoms (e.g. fatigue, sore boobs, nausea)? I'm feeling literally nothing :/

(probably overworrying, but had three prior losses and feeling nothing worries me)

TIA x


r/CautiousBB • • 1h ago

Cramping at 4 Weeks?

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Hi All I’m 4w5d today, I’ve been experiencing cramping since i’ve known i was pregnant. it’s not intense per-say just like you would get right before your period. I only got one hcg draw at 4w2d which was 12 DPO for me , it was 119. I have no bleeding at all. i’m not really experiencing any other symptoms except for breast tenderness. No nausea really. In wondering if this is normal or if i should be worried !? I won’t see a doctor for even a confirmatory ultrasound for like 2 more weeks so I’m just so stressed. This is my first pregnancy i have no idea what to expect. If anyone has any advice for me I would be so thankful!


r/CautiousBB • • 6h ago

Update! Fear of ectopic, bleeding at 4w, bleeding on progesterone, was told baby progress is not as expected and to carry pads as I may miscarry anytime but finally we see a heartbeat

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I have a history of miscarriage at 12w and an ectopic that caused my left tube. This pregnancy, my main concern was ensuring it wasn't another ectopic pregnancy. Then I bled at 4w, bright red with clots, gushing down. I bled again at 4w2d in the same way. I called the EPU, and they offered me a beta hCG. It came back high at 731, so I was asked to come in for a scan at 4w4d. During the scan, we could see a gestational sac and yolk sac, confirming an intrauterine pregnancy. I was given progesterone pessaries, twice a day and high dose of folic acid. My bleeding stopped. Then, at 5w2d, I bled again. It started as pink spotting, then turned into bright red blood when wiping. There wasn't much on the pad, but every time I wiped, there was red. I lost all my pregnancy symptoms, like breast soreness and nausea. I went for another scan at 5w5d. The sonographer's and nurses' reactions were pale. They could see a fetal pole, but they mentioned the progress was slow and not as expected. When I told them about my symptoms fading, they advised me to carry pads as I might start bleeding. They could also identify a endometriotic cyst on my left ovary and a hemorrhage next to the sac. I was called for another scan at 6w5d. I went through every internet post as I can. I found out officially it's suspicious to not see a cardiac activity from 7-11 days after seeing a yolk sac and after 11 days the pregnancy is considered failed. One week of all anxiousness, even I was at a point I wanted to give up on my medicines. 3d before my scan my nausea came back. Still no breast soreness. Yesterday I had the scan and finally we saw the heartbeat. It was such a relief. My cyst and hemorrhage are definitely there yet. Still a long long way to go. I just want to hold the baby after 40w and that's all I want like anyone else here.


r/CautiousBB • • 46m ago

June 2027

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June mamas when are you announcing?


r/CautiousBB • • 2h ago

Advice Needed Doubling time of 49-53 h.. bad sign?

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I had a strong beta of 201 at 8dp6dt (13 dpo), so was feeling quite good.
But two days later it didn’t quite double and this is stressing me out immensely.

8 dpt - 201
10 dpt - 394

A doubling time of 49.4h, which is only slightly above the 48h.
BUT I took the last test 2,5 h later, so I guess I should count it as 53h doubling time.

My first pregnancy had much lower (but normal) betas but they had a 33h doubling time.

I’ll ask for one more beta on Monday.

Anyone have experiences with similar doubling times?


r/CautiousBB • • 3h ago

Lågt hCG efter positivt grav test

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Hej!

Någon som haft en seg hCG-ökning i början av positivt grav test? Vad har ni gjort som åtgärd om ni haft det? Tog hCG test ruvardag 16 (309) och ruvardag 18 (417) efter återföring med ett långsam 5-dagars embryo bra medelgod kvalite (på Huddinge). Ökningen är bara runt 35 % som jag förstår är på gränsen. Ska ta ett nytt hCG test på måndag. UL nästa fredag för att se hur det ligger till. Tar 400mg X 2 /dag vaginalt. Har inte hört något om ökning från kliniken. Progesteron låg på 67 mmol/L på återförings dagen och har inte tagit något test sedan dess.


r/CautiousBB • • 4h ago

Advice Needed Almost 5 weeks, one random episode of bright red spotting and then nothing. Anyone else?

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Hey ladies!

I’m 43, currently 4w6d pregnant with two kids (12 and 9). I had a miscarriage last December, so naturally I’m overthinking just about everything this time around. 😅

Since before my positive test, I’ve had mild pelvic cramping, pulling and pinching. Basically that constant feeling that my period is about to start. My boobs were incredibly sore at first, but that’s eased up quite a bit. I’ve also been dealing with a stuffy/runny nose almost every day and some interrupted sleep.

Then at 4w3d, I had bright red blood when wiping. Nothing in the toilet, just on the tissue. About 30 minutes later I checked again and it stopped completely. Haven’t seen a drop since! It happened right after shaving down there, so part of me wonders if I nicked something.

I’m still having mild period-like sensations, but nothing intense. Took another pregnancy test today (it’s been a week since my first positive) and it’s still positive, although the line isn’t super dark.
My first ultrasound isn’t until 7w1d, and the waiting game is driving me a little nuts!

Has anyone experienced something similar and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy?

Would love to hear how things turned out for you! ❤️


r/CautiousBB • • 4h ago

Spotting on progesterone + baby aspirin

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Hi! I am 28 and on my 3rd pregnancy. I had 2 MMC this year both around 8 weeks. Did testing and both had chromosomal abnormalities. My dr put me on progesterone and baby aspirin just bc I wanted to try anything. I know these won’t help with abnormality but makes me feel better. I just found out I was pregnant and at 4wks am having a little pinkish/ light red spotting and my discharge from my progesterone is brown. Has any one had something similar and had success!!??


r/CautiousBB • • 4h ago

Told possible belighted ovum

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r/CautiousBB • • 4h ago

Ovulation confusion

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TW: pregnancy loss

Hi ladies. I'm 36 years old. I had a Miscarriage in April and a Chemical pregnancy in June this year. Last month I had positive opk though I didn't feel ovulation pain that I usually do and none of the usual symptoms leading up to my period. I did however have ewcm 2 days prior to my positive opk as I usually do.

This cycle however, I haven't had a positive opk, no ewcm and no ovulation or symptoms.

The cycles prior to this my period has been usually light since the chemical pregnancy. I also had this weird thing of spotting a day only when wiping. Then nothing at all for a day. Then period starts.

I'm not sure what is going on with me. I don't have a basal thermometer available to test temps.

Please, any advise would be really appreciated 💕🩷


r/CautiousBB • • 6h ago

Possible pregnancy?

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Hi everyone! My period is usually very regular, every 28–29 days, and was expected around Oct 6–7. I tested on cycle day 33 and again this Tuesday, both negative. Today, day 40, I started bleeding very lightly, just brown blood. Could this be implantation bleeding even after a missed period, or is it too early to test? I’ve been having unprotected sex. Initially, my app estimated ovulation for Sept 18–22, but after I logged today as my period, it changed the estimate to Sept 28–Oct 2, when I definitely had intercourse.I keep reading that light bleeding is very common in early pregnancy, so my calculations are telling me that if I ovulated oct 2nd , even if this is not a the implantation bleeding, still can be pregnant not showing on the test because it s too early !
Usually when I have my period my boobs get tender and hurt a bit . No signs of that now . Please advise 🙏🏻🙏🏻


r/CautiousBB • • 6h ago

Symptoms No nausea in third pregnancy?

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Currently 5w5d pregnant with my third. My first two pregnancies the nausea kicked in around 4/5weeks. It was pretty intense. This time around I have no nausea. I feel very tired, emotional and a little “off” (don’t know how else to describe it) but not sick yet. I know there’s still time but I’m pretty anxious following two chemicals and a missed miscarriage earlier this year.

Has anyone else had completely different pregnancies? 🤞🏼


r/CautiousBB • • 6h ago

Told possible belighted ovum

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Went in for an ultrasound thinking I am roughly 6+6 after small amounts of pink then brown blood. I had been travelling during my "ovulation week" I can be every 28 days but sometimes I go up to 33 days.

Positive test 28th September Last period 27th August

They saw a gestational sac of 11mm with something thickening on the edge and nothing else there.

They took my bloods which was 26000 HCG on Wednesday, came back yesterday for more bloods and it was 38000 HCG.

I have to go back next Wednesday for another internal ultrasound.

This is my fifth pregnancy, my other four children I have had small subchorionic hematomas so this is my nightmare. I had believed stupidly that this was the same thing.

Just feel so upset and confused.


r/CautiousBB • • 7h ago

Any hope with these fluctuating hCG rises?

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I’m 42, have a 6 y/o, (previous marriage but conceived spontaneously 2nd month of trying) spontaneously pregnant (also 2nd month trying), and on a total roller coaster with my betas. Wondering if anyone has had a similar pattern and how it went

Here’s my progression:

  • 10/7: 31
  • 10/9: 47 (+52% in 48 hrs, 79-hour doubling time)
  • 10/12: 159 (+238% in 72 hrs, 41-hour doubling time)
  • 10/14: 315 (+98% in 48 hrs, 49-hour doubling time)
  • 10/16: 449 (+43% in 48 hrs, 94-hour doubling time) 😩

After that first slow rise, I was preparing for a chemical. Then things really picked up and I started feeling hopeful again. And now another slow rise.

I’m 5w2d based on LMP. Next beta and first ultrasound are Monday. My clinic is monitoring closely, especially because I have a hydrosalpinx and we haven’t confirmed location yet.

I know the statistics aren’t great, especially at my age, and I’m trying to be realistic. But I also know I’m not completely out yet.

Has anyone had hCG rises that slowed down like this after previously doubling, and still had a viable pregnancy?

Not looking for false reassurance, just wondering if there’s still some reason to hold onto hope. ❤️


r/CautiousBB • • 7h ago

Possible ectopic /fear of ectopic

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r/CautiousBB • • 11h ago

TW: I feel like I’m having a miscarriage :(

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Hi everyone! So I recently just found out I’m pregnant Saturday 10/10! To preface, my period is really irregular and has been the past two years due to chronic stress. I took a DUTCH test last year and I basically had no sex hormones. No estrogen, no progesterone, no testosterone. I was basically post menopausal and I’m 27 now. Recently, I saw a naturopathic DR who put me on supplements to help w my hormones and I changed my diet to get my insulin levels down. I then ovulated for the first time in months. I literally have not seen clear egg white cervical mucus in MONTHS. So in my head, I was thinking my supplements and diet was working on getting my hormones back. If I’m going off my last “period” then I would be 4 weeks today. I’m not even sure what my period is anymore since I spot a week before my period now, assuming due to low progesterone.

Everything was all good until Wednesday 10/14, I woke up to pee and when I wiped I saw really light pink clear spotting on the toilet paper. I saw on some Reddit posts that was pretty common so I just went on with my day and had a liner on. Later that afternoon I started to get dark brown discharge that later turned into dark brown blood. The next time I peed, I wiped and saw so much brown blood so I went to the ER to get checked out. The ER did blood work, urine sample, transvaginal ultrasound, and an abdominal ultrasound. My HCG levels were at 34. The DR wasn’t too concerned and he said he didn’t really see anything abnormal on my ultrasound. It was still too early to even see a gestational sac. He then discharged me and felt like I would go on to have a viable pregnancy. Then the next day (yesterday) I barely bled. I only really had brown discharge when I wiped and that was it. This morning, 10/16, I woke up to pee and wiped and saw dark red blood. I got concerned so I booked an appt at quest to do an HCG test. Then after my test I started to experience cramping that was different than the cramping I was experiencing when I first found out I was pregnant. It started getting worse and I started bleeding way more but only when I would pee. I called my OB and they got me in today, but the DR basically said I need to retest to do the beta testing starting Monday and then another on Wednesday. He said he’s seen cases like mine where they cramp and bleed and go on to have healthy pregnancies. I have read that a lot on Reddit too so I’m trying to remain hopeful. But idk I just feel like I’m having a miscarriage :( I’m a FTM so I’m really stressed and anxious about this. I know there’s nothing I can do on my end, but I’d just like some peace knowing this can be common or normal and other people have experienced this. Can anyone share some success stories with something similar to this?


r/CautiousBB • • 18h ago

Measuring ~5 days behind

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Tracked ovulation and thought I ovulated 9/12, possibly 9/13. Got a positive test on 9/22. Had my first scan today at what I thought was 6w5 or 6 days but baby measured 6w0d. Heartbeat was 105, CRL 3.8 mm, yolk sac 4 mm. OB basically said it could go either way. I will have a repeat scan in a week.

Anyone with similar experiences? On the one hand I’m happy there’s a heartbeat and it seems to be a good number for 6 weeks; on the other hand, there’s no way I’m actually 6w0d based on when I got a positive test.


r/CautiousBB • • 11h ago

Ultrasound 5w3d, gestational sac grew to 17.5 mm but no yolk sac — has anyone experienced this?

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Hi everyone. I’m looking for experiences from anyone who has been in a similar situation.

Here’s my timeline:
October 9: I was 4w3d based on my dates (LMP). My transvaginal ultrasound showed a gestational sac measuring 5.4 mm. No yolk sac was seen. My hCG was 3,418.

October 16: I was 5w3d based on my dates. My repeat ultrasound showed a mean sac diameter of 17.5 mm. The report says it is larger than the previous ultrasound, but no yolk sac or fetal pole was identified.

They’re recommending serial beta-hCG testing and a repeat ultrasound. The ultrasound estimated the current gestational age as 6w1d based on the sac measurement, even though I’m 5w3d according to my dates.

Has anyone had a similar experience where the sac grew but the yolk sac wasn’t visible at around 5–6 weeks? What happened at your follow-up ultrasound? Should I be worried?


r/CautiousBB • • 17h ago

Ultrasound Anyone measure 1 week behind with a heartbeat and had a positive outcome?

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Hi all, I am pretty certain of my dates, give or take maybe 1 or two days either side. I had an ultrasound on what I thought was 6w3 or 4 days and had no heartbeat and a ‘maybe’ fetal pole. They dated me at 5w4d at this ultrasound. Yolk sac was normal at 3.5mm and gestational sac was measuring 6w1d at 17mm. I was told to come back a week later.

Had the second ultrasound and to my surprise, we had a 6.3mm CRL now and a heart rate of 115bpm. This put me at 6w3d when I thought I’d be around 7w3 or 4 days. I had a normal yolk sac of 3.5mm again and gestational sac of 25mm, consistent with 7w4d. The heartbeat has us relaxed a little more now, but I am still going back next week at my dates have me at 8w3or4 days.

Has anyone experienced this, been pretty sure of dates, and everything be okay? My HCG is good, it was 71,000 at 7w1d and had risen 18% from 40 hours earlier, which the dr said was okay given how high the HCG was.

I’ve been reading of potential genetic issues that could be causing this and it’s freaked me out. I just want to know if anyone has experienced this and it was okay?

I’ve got zero bleeding or cramping and feel very pregnant. I have had a chemical pregnancy before conceiving my now 2 year old daughter so we don’t have a history of reoccurring miscarriage. So just wanting to see what others think here.

Thanks so much


r/CautiousBB • • 11h ago

Advice Needed Bleeding after hiking - 6 weeks 4 days

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r/CautiousBB • • 11h ago

Measuring 2 Weeks Behind at First Ultrasound — Any Positive Stories?

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Hi everyone,

Our first ultrasound showed our baby measuring around 6w1d, despite being 8w2d based on LMP. The CRL was 4.9 mm, and no heartbeat was detected.

We're quite confident in our dates, so the two-week discrepancy has been worrying us.

There has been no bleeding or concerning pain, and pregnancy symptoms are continuing. Nausea has also started recently

We're waiting for a follow-up scan and praying for the best 🙏

Has anyone experienced something similar and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy?

We'd really appreciate hearing your experiences

Thank you


r/CautiousBB • • 12h ago

Ultrasound HCG up then down then up again, been a wild week.

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I’ve been desperately searching Reddit for stories from people who’ve been through something similar, so I figured I’d share mine in case it helps someone else. Also, I think I need to get this out of my head because WHAT A WEEK.

I had a missed miscarriage in mid-August. This wasn’t my first loss, and after my previous two miscarriages, I went on to have a successful pregnancy. My doctor confirmed that all the tissue had passed, and honestly, I wanted to wait a few months before trying again.

Fast-forward eight weeks. Still no period. Surprise! A positive pregnancy test. My doctor ordered hCG bloodwork, and last Monday my level was around 3,000. I cautiously thought to myself, okay, this is probably a new pregnancy!
Then Wednesday happened. My hCG dropped to around 2,959.

I immediately assumed it was nonviable. I had the same lab, same technician, same clinic, and roughly the same time of day. Surely this wasn’t a lab error? I figured I was watching another pregnancy end before it had even really begun.

I finally reached my doctor on Friday. She was about to go on vacation, and I knew she was busy, but I was also sitting there trying to process what was happening. My numbers were lower than I expected based on my estimated dates, too.

Then Monday’s blood draw came back at 5,000. Cue the ectopic pregnancy panic. I’d been having cramps and kept checking for bleeding. My regular doctor was on vacation. I called the nurse triage line and left a voicemail. Nothing. Called again the next morning. Nothing all day.

At this point, I was convinced I was walking around with an ectopic pregnancy that could rupture at any moment. I was exhausted, anxious, and trying to function like a normal human being while privately spiraling.

Eventually, after a minor breakdown I sent my provider a somewhat angry message asking someone to PLEASE call me back.

The doc on call finally called around 7 p.m. and arranged another blood draw and an ultrasound for the following day.
By this point, I just wanted it to be over. I had mentally prepared myself for either an ectopic pregnancy or a pregnancy with no heartbeat.

The next morning, I got a call from the office about scheduling. I rearranged my day, got a referral to a different clinic at the hospital, and showed up for my ultrasound. And then they told me it would cost $1,800 with insurance. Cue another breakdown.

Absolutely not. I was not paying $1,800 for an ultrasound. I called my regular doctor's office again, and they managed to reschedule me for this morning.
So today, Friday, I walked into that ultrasound expecting the worst.
Instead, the tech told me the pregnancy was measuring 5 weeks, 6 days, with a heartbeat.

My hCG from Thursday had also come back around 7,000. I genuinely did not know what to do with that information. After spending the entire week mentally preparing for another loss, I was suddenly looking at a pregnancy that was still progressing.

I'm relieved, obviously. But I've had three miscarriages, and the pregnancies I've lost have tended to end around the seven-week mark. I'm not sure how to let myself feel hopeful when I know how quickly things can change.

I'm also seriously questioning whether I should switch doctors' offices. My doctor herself has been wonderful and has been with me through a birth and three miscarriages. I really do trust her. But the communication this week was so frustrating, especially when I was genuinely scared about the possibility of an ectopic pregnancy.

I've barely told anyone in real life what's been going on. I've been exhausted, hormonal, short-tempered, and trying to act normal while carrying around the emotional weight of what I thought was another nonviable pregnancy.

Until someone tells me otherwise, I am cautiously pregnant.


r/CautiousBB • • 12h ago

Pregnancy mystery

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help!! gosh I’ve never done this before but I need advice. I have currently a mystery pregnancy. I have no idea how far along I am, my HGC is incredibly low but also increasing I'm spotting a little and cramping.

9/30 I took a pregnancy test and it was negative the next day 10/1 I started bleeding and I had what I thought was a normal period. bleed for 4/5ish days a perfectly normal flow of blood, and some blood clots, normal for me to have.

I took an ovulation test on 10/7 and it was negative. took one 10/8 and it was positive and then peaked at 10/9. I continues to test my ovulation to make sure I got the right peak… but then I was still testing positive on 10/12. so I was testing positive on my ovulation for 5 consecutive days. I read somewhere that LH strips can sometimes be positive if pregnant. so I took a pregnancy test fully expecting it to be negative. it was positive on 10/12. I was completely confused as I had only had sex 4 days prior and was on day 12 of my cycle. pretty much instantly I started light spotting and cramping. called my OB and got my HCG tested.

10/12 it was 37.4

10/14 it was 38

today 10/16 43

I saw my OB today and she said I should abort and that the pregnancy isn’t developing as it should. but I’m going to wait it out a little bit since I am cramping and spotting to see if it will resolve on its own. but I’m still so confused as to when we conceived and how this is all coming together.