Little man came early! 36+4. October 12 (Canadian Thanksgiving).
Everybody is doing great and mama was a rockstar!

We're getting the nursery ready for our first baby, and I'm at the point where every baby product seems to have ten different features. One thing I do want is a monitor that shows the room temperature since our house can get pretty warm at night, even with the AC running.

I'd prefer to see it in the same app as the camera instead of having another device to keep track of. Dads, which monitors have you used, and is the temperature reading accurate compared with a regular room thermometer? Hopefully this helps me narrow things down before we make a purchase.

we're getting ready for our first baby, and one feature i keep coming back to is breathing tracking. nanit's breathing band caught my attention because the camera reads the pattern on the fabric to track breathing motion, rather than having an electronic sensor attached to the baby. i can see why that would appeal to new parents, but i'm still unsure how reliable it feels during a normal night, especially if the camera loses sight of the pattern.

for parents using nanit's breathing band, how often do you run into alerts that turn out to be a reading issue? i'm trying to get a realistic idea of how it works in everyday use, because that's the feature we'd be paying extra for.

Hello,

My wife and I are expecting our first baby and we just found out it’s going to be a boy! We however have been having a hard time coming up with names. She was a teacher for 10 years and we both have difficult relationships with our families so names are hard. Also a lot of the online lists repeat the names or have the same names. Anyone else struggle with this?

So my girlfriend (22F) is about 4-5 weeks pregnant right now and the hormones and morning sickness is killing her. She has had some really tough days so far and I need some advice on how I can help. It's been really tough for her mentally and physically the last few days and I want to be able to help but I don't know how. I know to be there for her and try to understand her but I don't know what I can do specifically. I love her and I know she needs some help but I don't know what I can do the best. I would also love some advice just generally helping her that I can relay to her that may be of use to her. I would love to make her life as easy as possible throughout this and some advice and encouragement would be super useful.

This is a question for the graduates on this sub - could you tell when your partner was going to have the baby or was it a complete surprise when she went into labour?

I feel like I'll know when she's a day or two away but this is our first so ive never done this before, but I feel like I'll get a feeling

we've been starting to research baby monitors before the baby arrives, and i'm realizing there are way more options than i expected. aside from having a reliable video feed, i'm curious about sleep tracking and whether those extra insights are actually useful for new parents or just another thing to check.

i came across Nanit while looking into smart monitors and noticed it offers sleep tracking features. i've also seen Miku mentioned in discussions, so i'm trying to understand how the options compare rather than just going by marketing. for those who've already done their research or have experience with these, what features would you prioritize, and is sleep tracking something you'd actually use regularly?

Hi all, going to be a dad in February and we were wondering - where do you find baby beds for the crib? We went to Target and other big box stores but can't seem to find any that aren't Amazon. Any tips? TIA!

EDIT: Mattress for the crib, not mattress pad

If this isn’t the place to post this please let me know. To clarify, it’s not that we never wanted kids but that we weren’t planning on it, but agreed that if it happened it happened. We found out a couple of days ago that she’s about 6 weeks pregnant. We’ve been together for almost 6 years and are in a healthy relationship with each other. We also just moved 1100 miles away from home and family because I got a promotion at work and we haven’t told any family yet about the pregnancy. We are both going to be first-time parents and I’m not sure where we’re supposed to go from here. It’s all incredibly new to the both of us and we don’t have any type of solid community to rely on in our new home. We don’t want to move back because both of us don’t really have supporting families, her family, particularly her sister, always tries to insert themselves in our business and my family has disowned me for leaving the religion I was raised as. We don’t want to raise a child though in the place we moved too because we weren’t intending on staying. We wanted to move around a couple more times to different states until we found a spot we wanted to settle down but now we feel rushed in that process. Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated, we are both very scared.

My wife makes more money than I do, and yet child care to state the obvious is too expensive. After our leave runs out, we've discussed what we should do in regards to child care, and it appears me staying home would be the best option. I don't have any qualms about being a stay at home dad, I just want to do it right. It will be a commitment that I'll have for years. I know that it'll be rewarding, but I can't say it doesn't scare me. I value being able to make it to the gym, being able to see friends maybe once every two weeks or so, and I enjoy being valued in the workplace, and with the latter, I know that my work will obviously be valued by my wife and child but that it becomes largely invisible and that, in our market, being removed from the labor force (the dreaded "work gap" on the resume) is seen as a character defect or sign of potential weakness. I want to be able to care for my child the best, keep the house the cleanest I can. Any pointers from dads who became a stay at home parent after your newborn entered the world?

My husband and I are officially trying! My husband has little to no experience around pregnant women and limited experience with babies. We are both very excited and i want to help him prepare as best as I can so that I do not go through this feeling like a single mom teaching him but also to empower him to be the best father to our kids and role model it for them!

Was there a moment in time it all clicked for you and you began taking things more serious? And howd you go about you taking things more serious? How did you best prepare for fatherhood and having a pregnant partner? Any particular classes? Unfortunately no daddy boot camps in our area... birthing classes? or things you learned or books or anything that helped with that? Any helpful tips?

As of january next year, we're going to start trying. I bought a house. I have a good paying job. Things are finally at a point where I am comfortable caring for my child. I am extremely excited to meet them. Wife is currently weaning off her medications and will be going on prenatal vitamins in december.

It's sort of silly to announce that we're trying, I know, but for me, it's enormous. This is something I have been preparing for since I was 19. If all goes according to plan, I'll be a dad roughly around september next year! How cool is that!?

Edit: yes, I know September is unrealistic. That's mostly the excitement talking.

Thank you all❤️

I work from home (California) and I am the primary engineer on an IT project. My project is VERY manageable by a single person, but will need to have someone cover for the 6 weeks of paternity leave that my work offers.

My wife and I are currently 3 months pregnant, so just curious at what point I should bring it up with my manager (who I have an extremely good relationship with)?

My wife and I went to our very first ultrasound yesterday and we haven’t told any family yet but I just need to share it somewhere!

It really hit me now after seeing the baby and hearing the heartbeat for the first time. First time dad and we are only at 9.5 weeks, but I’m thrilled and excited to be experiencing this with the love of my life. I can’t wait to be a dad!

Wife is due soon. Has anyone cranked out a few sets of push ups for a quick pump while wife is pushing? Don't want my future child to see the photos one day and think dad isn't shredded

Wife's nearly at 37 weeks and we did the baby shower a couple weeks back, boy howdy there's a lot of stuff! Early on we thought we didn't need a nursery at first, after all, he was going to be in our room for the first 6mo to a year, what could the baby need a whole room for?! Turns out you need that nursery just for somewhere to put all the baby stuff! Start early on the baby space my dudes, don't wait until the last minute like we did.