This may sound very strange, and you guys might not believe me, but I would really like to know if my wife and I aren't the only ones out there that are like this.

My stats are in my flair. My wife, according to her obgyn, has a very narrow vaginal cavity, but it's not vaginismus- she's just a very petite East Asian woman and that's just the way she's built. (She got a second opinion once and they said the same thing)

My wife and I actually do not have PIV or PIA sex... well, we do from time to time, but even PIV takes so much long-term prep and foreplay, we have to go so slow, and she can only take a few inches before it begins to hurt. And even then, she's sore afterward.

If I go balls deep, it's just too much for her- she says full penetration "hurts like hell" because "it's just too fucking big." (Her first 2 boyfriends were average/below-average size and she said they filled her up enough).

So we only do oral, manual, nipple stimulation, outercourse, and use toys. I'm pretty good at hitting her inner G spot with my finger or a toy, and I'm quite adept with my finger and tongue against her clit. And she loves, loves, LOVE nipple stimulation and can climax from nipple stimulation alone. So I'm able to keep her very satisfied. Her head game and handjob game are pretty damn good, so I'm happy there.

Honestly? We both prefer oral to intercourse. I know I always have preferred a blowjob to intercourse, and she says a dual orgasm of tongue-on-clit + fingering g-spot is the ultimate climax for her.

It's an unusual situation, but ever since we took PIV off the table for the most part, our sex life has actually gotten far more satisfying and it's an almost nightly thing for us. Hey, lesbians all over the world are living the same life, so I guess it's not too weird?

Either way, it's a slight bummer that I'm actually too thick for intercourse with my wife- but we have improvised, adapted, and overcome, and I guess that's what matters.

We're just wondering if there are any other couples out there who have a sex life like ours, and would love to hear any tips and ideas!

(EDIT: for context, we dated for 2 years, were engaged for 2 years, and we've been married for 1 year now. So we've been okay with this arrangement for... a while now...)

I used to last a good amount of time 30 minutes 40 minutes an hour maybe? Recently I haven’t been lasting for more then 5 minutes but for context I’m sleeping with a fwb who I’m no longer interested in so that might play a roll but still maybe it’s something else? Anyone else experience this and fixed it?

Been talking to this girl online for a while and she wants to meet and take my virginity. She’s mentioned that she’s pretty tight and that her dildo is too big for her. She showed me and It looks around 5” circumference max. I’m 5.75. She said we’ll make it work with foreplay and lube but idk how effective that’ll be. Has anyone had experience with this

I recently got a copper IUD and have therefore been having unprotected sex with my (recently married) husband. We have had sex with condoms but very rarely because it was extremely painful. I always thought the pain was from me being allergic to the condom or the lube, or the condom causing a lot of friction. Nobody could ever finish, it would be 8/10 pain within a minute or two.

However, the first time we had sex WITHOUT a condom due to the IUD, this problem wasn’t any better. I did last a little longer before it started to hurt, and mentally it was a more pleasant experience, but at some point I just couldn’t take it anymore. We looked, and I was bleeding and he had torn my labia minora.

This was 3 days ago. I’m terrified to have sex again after how much it hurt last time. And so discouraged that it never seems to be getting better. Is he just too big? I want to be able to have non painful sex. It’s weird, because I can handle fingers and even fisting from myself, but he is larger than that (7 in by 7in circumference).

How can I make it hurt less?

Onecondoms has like $40 shipping and will take a while to get here. Any reasonable alternatives (6” girth)?

Durex XXL was goated but they are no longer sold on Amazon.

I’ve been using Obviously brand underwear for about 5 years now and I love it. Pouch is spacious and the way it makes your dick look while hanging is nice. I like the very clean style (if any) their underwear has. However, I do not like the seam that the penis pouch has right in the middle. I need recommendations of underwear for well endowed men that could be similar to Obviously but no seam in the pouch. I’d appreciate recommendations. I also am looking specifically for briefs.

How do you guys go about measuring? I’ve used measuring tape to do my girth and a metal ruler for my length, but almost every time I do it changes. Like the most I’ve measured bone pressed is 7.2 but since then I mostly just get to 7 or less. Would a cold metal ruler affect measuring? Also, is 6.5/7 length and 5.5 girth a good size? I’ve been measuring lying down so idk if it’s good or correctly measured. Advice would be appreciated.

Also, how do you guys measuring with measuring tape, I find it so awkward trying to measure bone pressed.

I recently posted a question asking here “What’s the most embarrassing place you’ve got a boner?” Apparently, that was enough to have my post removed by the moderators for “objectifying/soliciting members”

It was a lighthearted question, not an invitation, not a solicitation and certainly not an attempt to objectify anyone. Even my responses to people in the comments were respectful. What I find particularly ridiculous is the blatant inconsistency in how these rules are enforced.

There’s literally a flair called “Size Queen”.. a term that by definition, places emphasis on a man’s anatomy as a measure of sexual desirability. You could reasonably argue that’s objectifying men. Yet that terminology is perfectly acceptable, while asking men to share an embarrassing experience somehow crosses the line?

And yes, I realize it’s Reddit.. it’s not a dick, I don’t need to take it so hard. But I have a strong sense of fairness and there’s something particularly irritating about people being given a little authority and exercising it inconsistently.

If you’re going to enforce a rule, at least have the consistency to stand behind it on this WHOLE forum.

And if im banned for this, it only amplifies my point.

Hey all!

Since there are a lot of posts about condom sizes, I recommend checking here before posting questions. Link: https://wandsize.xyz/condom-size

I've been taking leg day at the gym over the past 2 years fairly seriously. My legs are now extremely girthier than before. Causing the amount of surface area from both my shorts and undergarments to become stretched to the point where it doesn't leave much to the imagination to notice my groin area's outline, shape, size.

Most my interactions with others are at the gym and or during my regular walks during the day, I get about 6k steps in, so about 90-mins worth of walking around my near by park. Today, I something happened which deeply affected me. I was walking around the park and there was a family that walked past me, the mother held her hand over son's eyes and guided his face away from my direction when we passed each other. I recognized it immediately and it ruined my day. I was fully dressed.

I'm not seeking undergarment or clothing advice. I need your advice how to emotionally process when this happens since it is occurring more often nowadays, I actually just wear shorts to bed now since my area becomes too compressed during the night, I imagine this is how it must appear like in motion. I've noticed aswell, that i kinda stand with my hips pushed back when I am around women because I feel like they're going to think I'm some sort of pervert. I've definitely noticed women at the gym notice me, make a face and tie around their sweater over their backside.

I feel disgusting. People's first impression of me is them noticing it, then grouping me as a pervert.

Hello!!!!

Update on my work situation:

Sadly, my co-worker (supervisor) has still been avoiding me at work. He doesn’t invite me to work meetings anymore, he increased my workload quite drastically, and keeps me at work later than normal.

The good news is that it doesn’t seem like he told HR. Even though I valued his hospitality before the incident, I value my job far more than that.

And no, I don’t plan on finding another job. I’ll get through it. I doubt that this lasts very long.

I was always curious if it was worse to be wanted for your size, like if it felt that's all they wanted you for, or if it was a good thing to be appreciated for it

Yeah i see the frontpage post crying about muh fakers and especially the bulge thing. But really what are some good ways to hide it.

Its not so much a problem for me right now because i gained weight but when i was skinnier (and im becoming so again) it was very noticable. I remember when i went to japan. A group of chinese tourist started when they walked past me, looked me dead in the eye after staring at my crotch and audibly laughed, one even gave a thumbs up. Im assuming they thought i had an erection?

The only ways i found to hide it was to either use extremely tight underwear which was uncomfortable because it squeezed blood out or down the leg with loose underwear but then i'd feel it squeezing between the thigh and my pants with every step.

Yes i know i can use certain loose clothing. But it cant be too loose (or tight) otherwise it shows. And i dont wanna endlessly look when shopping purely to keep that in mind

My wife has recently opened up about how she's been watching face fucking videos, which from my perspective is super hot, I've always done my best to help her fantasies become a reality, problem is I'm above the average and she can only get about half my dick in her mouth so it takes a lot of restraint on my part (not gonna lie that's also pretty hot)

I'd love to fuck her face like the videos she's been watching but I'm worried I may break her poor little face.

I don't want to push it either because a bad experience can ruin the fantasy.

Is this a practice thing or are some women just able to swallow big dicks better than others?

Just to clarify, I’ve never discussed anything like this in an open forum, so apologies if I break etiquette.

I’m pretty long but not super thick, my current partner struggles to take much more than maybe half my length during PIV.

However we’ve been working on anal, and she’s now at the point where she can comfortably (and pleasurably) manage my full length.

Not that either is really an issue, both of us get pleasure from both situations, I just wondered if this is an experience shared by others? I can’t say I’ve come across it with previous partners.

Sometimes my measurements sound better than my dick actually looks, my measurements are 6.7x6.1, it might just be because I am used to my size or it could be due to my girth distorting how I view it but it looks smaller

The confusing thing is that other people have been shocked when they’ve seen it, which makes me wonder if I’m just so used to my own size that I don’t really see it the way other people do maybe because of angles im not sure.

Does anyone else experience this is there any reasons for it?

When I was young, I used to hear “XXL condoms up-charge you by preying on the male ego. An average condom can stretch up to so-and-so inches!” The first time my girlfriend handed me a Magnum was the last time I busted through a condom.

I’m now in my mid-thirties and it only recently occurred to me that pouch underpants might also be a specialty item worth investing in.

Spending a little extra dough seems a fair trade for the extra inches we were born with, but are there other products marketed to the well-endowed gentleman that legitimately improve your quality of life? What is truly a waste of money?

*No snarky or jerky responses please and thank you. I am a respected amateur dick scientist conducting important dick research.

So I'm regular 9 inches, nun crazy im big but becuase American food and etc I never got to size I should of been ,but I came across this dude on Twitter which is now x , his name is Mr 13inches ,he got female fans he make videos with and is straight dicking them down ,I watch some of his videos and read some of his comments, out of curiosity ,and the women love him and that ,ik his dm's are going crazy but I came to conclusion u guys that are 10 and up complain about women turning u guys down, but i really think you guys have it easy in the world, me I feel like I gotta have to keep with my self keep my self in shape and learn to seduce woman ,that all I jus wanted to vent

I’ve been curious about this brand… but don’t want to spend the money on something that might not fit… so I figured I’d ask here. Has anyone tried the brand “Shinesty” that is a larger flaccid size? I’m about 5.5-6 inches (13.9-15.2 centimeters) flaccid … so oftentimes most underwear brands will not provide me enough room and not squish me up. I know this brand has a pouch mechanism going on which is what piqued my interest in the first place.

Just curious if any one of you larger flaccid members have tried this and what your thoughts were!

Here is a link to Amazon to clarify which brand I’m referencing: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Shinesty%7CHomeofBallHammocks/page/4A0CE826-213B-44DE-98AF-DEAF05878C87

(Also for what it’s worth- my scrotum is very average size, I’m not super small or large in that department. But my penis does need the extra room.)

I felt like a criminal walking around I was just soft but everything was basically on show I received some very funny looks

Hi, so this is probably the 5000th post about this, but I just wanted to get it out there.
My girlfriend of 3 years and I are thinking about breaking up, mainly because our sex life isn’t how either of us wants it to be. We’re both in our early 20s, have great chemistry, and haven’t met anyone we have more fun with. The problem is that we seem to be physically incompatible. She’s tighter down there than the average girl, and I’m girthier than the average guy.

During our first year, when we were newly in love, we had sex whenever we got the chance. Limited foreplay, a lot of thrusting, and pretty much “porn sex.” I didn’t know I was bigger than average, and she never told me it hurt. She felt like she would ruin the moment if she told me and thought sex was supposed to be a bit of a “meh” experience.
After some time, she told me she couldn’t keep going like this, and of course I felt terrible. She went to a professional to check if she had vaginismus, which she didn’t, but they could see that she was sore.

After taking a break from sex to let everything heal, we started using more lube, taking things 100 times slower, and finding the one position that wasn’t too painful. This meant at least 30 minutes of foreplay, lots of lube, and basically no thrusting. She orgasmed every time, and I thought we were finally heading in the right direction.

The problem is that the soreness still came afterwards. She feels like having to spend at least 30 minutes on foreplay every time and only being able to do spooning with tiny thrusts isn’t something I deserve. On top of that, the soreness and cramps are still there, which makes having sex more than once a week pretty much impossible.

We have tried everything. She says that if i just was smaller things would have been so much better. Now im just lost and dont feel like there is not much to do?

I don’t know if anyone will care, but this rant has to go someplace. I’m a lifelong TrekFan, and part of the lore is this uniform know as the “skant” from Star Trek: The Next Generation. I found a creator who makes them, and have spent a lot of time, effort, and money getting one made to my measurements, and it never ever occurred to be that my fucking dick would be a problem. I was going to own the Cons this season, but now I think if I wear this damn thing I’ll get arrested for indecent exposure.

So basically we've been talking for a little got on a few calls got to get to know each other but I had a gut feeling that I just needed to send her this text and well i'm starting to think that most girls really don't like big dicks and i'm starting to get worried. So the real question is should I even bring up my size, or should I just wait until she sees it in person?