I'm not making this post to hate on women, I'm just genuinely curious. I don't call myself an ally to feminism, but don't want to call myself anti-feminist either. I'm no politician, my opinion on it is not relevant. But when I do see women claim shaming men with small dicks is their God given right and revenge against the patriarchy or whatever, I do find it stupid, and I do think they're assholes.

To those of you who are small, and allies to feminism, how do feel about it? Do you just not care? Do you care but pretend you don't? Do you care, but think the women are justified?

I'm just curious. I wouldn't like being around people who think it's justified to shame, humiliate me or lower my value over physical traits I had no control over. Like I said before, I don't call myself anti-feminist either, I just think the movement is toxic for me personally. But I wanna hear from men who do call themselves allies. I hope I don't get too much hate for this post.

This is my first post here.

I’ve been reading for a while and something keeps standing out to me. Every time someone shares a story where things “worked out” or they found a partner who “didn’t care,” there’s usually this strange gap. Like they stop right before the part that actually matters, or the details feel carefully edited.

I’m not saying those posts are fake.I’m just saying a lot of them leave me with more questions than answers. The ones that hit hardest are usually the ones that don’t try to sell hope.

I’ve had my own mixed experiences and I know how easy it is to leave the messy parts out when you’re writing publicly.

Curious if anyone else has noticed the same thing. If you’ve got a story that doesn’t fit the usual pattern (good or bad), I’d rather hear it straight than through the filter of a public comment section. DMs are open.

It never began for me. Dick size doesn't even matter because I can't get a woman to have sex with anyway lol. At least if I had a 7 incher I wouldn't be affected by the penis shaming and small d jokes I hear all the time everywhere. Mentally it takes a toll. Add being a dark skinned Indian in the west on top of that and it's over.

I do not measure bone pressed, even though I'm fat. I know most studies claim they are done bone pressed, but in the few ones I've seen where they took pictures of how they were measuring, they barely pressed the ruler against the pubic bone. Pair that with the fact that almost everyone here who was fat and lost weight claim they saw no significant increase anyway, it feels like bone pressed is irrelevant.

I'm 6 foot 1 and weight 265 pounds. I'm fat, but it doesn't look like losing weight would my dick look bigger. My fat pad doesn't look too big and it feels like I'm overmeasuring when I measure bone pressed.

At 3.5 inches girth I see NO success stories whatsoever. But all I can even do is put 3.5 up in the search bar and hope to find someone. Is there an actual way to search for posts based on others size user fairs? Or is there like a menu with all the sizes that when you click on a certain size, all posts mentioning that size are under that tab?

Why the fuck should i have to pay $20 plus shipping for 12 condoms that fit my 3.5 inch circumference when regular condoms are significantly cheapernif not given out for free??? Why should I have to pay more to be safe??? I was told to contact planned parenthood hood but apparently they aren't likely to get condoms my size says the ai overview. So im stuck paying an exorbitant amount of money just so I can have sex. It feels like taking advantage. Like "oh here, you need this? Since its not available anywhere else im gonna charge you more for it because I know youll have to buy them from me:" its like they see were in a niche so they take advantage and drive the price up. How is sex and dating even worth the hassle with the likelihood of rejection and the fact im breaking the damn bank every 12 fucking condoms??????????????????????????????? ITS JUST SO FRUSTRATING LIVING LIKE THIS WHILE EVERYONE ELSE GETS TO LIVE HAPPY AND NORMAL LIVES

I keep having this thought that maybe id have more success with women if I turned my 3.5x3.5 penis into a vagina via bottom surgery. Would I have more success or would I have even less? I feel worthless at this size. Especially when even this sub of 15k members has like no people my size. And the ones that are my size dont have success stories. I genuinely keep having the thought of just cutting it off even tho I wouldnt do it. As well as thoughts of suicide tho would also never do it. The thought and scenario and image of me hanging myself pops into my head most days the week. Im useless and I will never find a woman . Fuck my stupid ife

I was looking at a study on size and partner satisfaction which was quite depressing to me. Of course one of the points it highlighted was "bigger is not always better" but as an example of a "big" that's too large was 9" but as an example of "ideal" was 6"-7".

I'm sorry, but 6"-7" is "big" according to the statistics. Bigger than that are statistical outliers. What am I supposed to feel when the perception is that 6"-7" is kinda the "gold standard" size and when the perception of the actual average size is "small"? How can I not feel completely inadequate when 4" is perceived as "tiny".

I've been with guys around 6" who've been worried about being small and never understood why until I read that survey.

We've been on one date and we've been talking for like a week. Im 3.5x3.5. I feel like this is a waste of time as even tho I like her, she'll probably just leave me and I will have wasted a week or 2. I cant bring it up before sexual talks happen. So it could take weeks and I could be wasting my time the whole time. I want to keep talking to her and be with her but whats the point if the most likely outcome is her leaving? I literally have a micro penis. when women say size doesnt matter they mean average to slightly below. im such an outlier that i dont even think its worth trying. i just want to be happy but I realize im probably disqualified for the life I want to live

How am I supposed to date when I have to wait weeks as a 3.5x3.5 guy for her to know about it? Im already emotionally invested in a girl and its been like a week and one date which yea isnt healthy. How am I supoosed to bring this us? Im not waiting til pants drop, but I feel this will be a waste of time and I will be even more sad due to being heavily emotionally attached and invested. Its not something you can bring up on a first date and probably not on a second. So like I have to wait weeks to disclose something that will probably be a dealbreaker for most and there's nothing I can do. It feels like a waste of time even though I like the girl. For context I am almost 21 if that even matters, she is 19.

I have an aunt that I was close to my whole life. I was visiting her with a girlfriend and my girlfriend and I started arguing about something stupid. For whatever reason, she turned it into making fun of my penis. I was completely embarrassed and humiliated. I broke up with her that day. I’ve barely talked to my aunt since then and it’s been over 10 years ago now.

I'm 37, technically virgin, mostly fit, 6'3, and 5 inch at my hardest (i think 5ish girth but hard to measure) , almost 1 or 2 at soft, it literally goes inside me sometimes. I'd say most of the time it's even a little shorter than 5 hard, but five is the max that I've hit, super aroused. I'm aerodynamic and efficient lol. I don't think this is good. I want to be able to fuck like in porn I want to be more even just an inch more would feel more normal. I want a girl to have to use 2 hands. I didn't have such a problem with it until I started comparing with guys like my roommate. I don't know the size of him but he is a Chad through and through. he has a different woman every night either from tinder or from just walking to the street. one of them he literally just met in our parking lot walking out the door. his ex literally drunk texts him that she needs his dick inside her, I feel like that will never happen to me. deepthroats some chick in the living room every night (can 5 even deepthroat?), has casual conversations with his other bros about Eiffel towering girls with them. he thinks nothing of this, shares his sex life for all to hear, and he thinks I just need to be myself get on the dating apps etc. I had no idea other guys lived like this and now I want to too.

I consider myself pretty good-looking, a chadlite (I have aged well too, everyone thinks I'm literally 20-something), but even if I work out even if I get a lot of money (or even just not broke anymore) I feel like I'm only suited for love for a girl that can look past it and enjoy me only because she has a history of loving me, and that's not going to happen not in this world. it might have happened in the old world, with one of the five girlfriends I once had in college (but the furthest I've ever been is naked foreplay, and dry humping that made her cum, that's why I am still technically virgin), in the days before tinder, and even if I do find her she'll eventually cheat on me with the bigger dick guy. the girl I really loved all my life did exactly that, when she finally got with me. she cheated on me for a guy she told me her coworkers were at a party eating donuts off his dick... it blindsided me and wrecked me I thought she really loved me, and I could trust herr above any other girl. I don't think I'm even eligible to have a hook up with a random girl from a bar, not have her like it at least.

to make matters worse I'm a little bit tongue tied. I can still talk well but my tongue barely stretches out my mouth I don't know if that hurts my chances at eating her well because I've never had the opportunity to try... when I had a girlfriend and we french kissed it caused my tongue to bleed sometimes. I don't think big dick dudes even have to worry about that, they don't have to worry about pleasing her they just stick it in and she screams and cums. life is just like porn despite what they say.

I feel like secretly my life revolves around these flaws, like I could have tons of success I could become rich I could be strong I could be a leader and still I've never really be one of the guys I'd always have to hide this. it would always be my weakness that they can hone in on. I'd always have to hope that any girls I was with don't tell.

not to mention I like to be masculine, I like to be her dominant, role play as the guy that will fuck her hard, but in real life how can I manage that. I don't want a GF to put me in a chastity box or get a bull or something

also they say that 5 is average but I really doubt it now because I've never heard it mentioned as anything other than small. I would say 6 is average actually, for white guys at least. and even if it is average what girl needs average now that she can filter by chads on an app in her pocket and it's second nature.

my roommate is trying to hook me up with one of his girlfriend's latina friends one of these days. wants to go on a double date. I appreciate the gesture but I think it's disaster waiting to happen. the friend's girlfriend probably told her all about Chad roommate and she'll expect the same from me.

I honestly feel like my future is only hookers and I don't even know how to do that, nor can I get around all my worst case scenario hang ups about it. there are many AMPs around me and I've danced on the line with them, literally even been inside and seen the jacuzzis and cameras, had the masseuse tell me I was so handsome and touching me, but I don't want to walk out with a police sting record so I've never gone through with it

Welp, back to porn.

One thing that really pisses me off is how people who got lucky genetically act like they somehow earned it.

A guy who's 6'4" didn't work for his height. A good-looking guy didn't earn his facial structure. And a dude with an 8-inch dick didn't accomplish something that a guy with a 4-inch dick failed to do.

It's literally all luck.

Yet society praises these guys for things they had no control over, while guys like us get ridiculed and treated like we did something wrong to deserve what we got.

And then the same people benefiting from those advantages tell us to "just be confident" or "stop being insecure."

Like bro, it's easy to be confident when society constantly praises you for something you were born with.

I've personally been laughed at and humiliated over my size not matching the "BBC" stereotype, and somehow I'm supposed to act like those experiences don't affect me.

I'm not mad that people have preferences. I'm mad that those preferences turn into bullying and that we're treated as lesser men over something we never had a choice in.

Why do some guys get praised for genetic luck while others get punished for genetic bad luck?

None of us chose this shit.

I've seen a lot of posts of this sub lately, of guys torturing themselves over not being desirable to women. To be blunt: you just need to let it be.

Doomscrolling through social media seeing women shittalk small dicks or brag about well-endowed boyfriends/hookup partners is just going make you feel like shit. And the more you doomscroll, the more your algorithm feeds that crap to you.

Porn will just make you angry and resentful over something you can't have, and if you aren't careful, you might start developing twisted fetishes that emerge from your frustration. And I'm not talking about the obvious SPH/cuck stuff, I mean you might start to enjoy seeing women hurt or abused because of the bitterness inside of you.

No amount of wallowing, anger, or righteous indignation is going to change the fact that we're undesirable and always will be. As difficult as it is, you just need to let. it. go.

Exercise. Read. Watch movies and TV shows. Play video games. Enjoy what life has to offer outside of the bedroom. Above all, don't stop to give yourself time to think. The more you think about it, the more you wallow, and the more miserable you are.

Banish sex and sexual desire from your mind. Don't masturbate, and especially don't watch porn. Suppress the urge until you have eradicated it to the best of your ability.

I'm following this sub for years. I'm at the same pit of shit yet I truly do not understand this.

You guys are putting "virginity" as something of a value because society has putted this specific weight uppon it in which it makes no sense. The moment someone's a virgin is constantly translated to something along the lines of weird, imature and awkward.

Who gives a fuck, you are going to allow shallow people to dictate your emotions? The moment you question their logic they reply with "you are overthinking" because their rotten fucking brain is bugging, they won't think for even the possibility that your questioning makes sense because it reached their personal barrier of thought energy as if they are the law of how much someone should "dive".

In my circumstances?

Yes, I 'd wish to have a relationship..

But can I even support it? No. Because i'm problematic even outside of my small member. Atleast i'm self aware enough. I would fucking destroy a potential relationship for many reasons. Why should I doom a potential woman that she might be in good mind and kind heart and make her loose her time and peace?

I don't care about my virginity when I cannot satisfy naturally in the first place. Is completely irrelevant and it should be to people like us.

The other day a friend of mine told me that he is scared that he may stay alone at his death bed. And? Circumstances out of your control often can lead you there anyway but virginity and loneliness are two things that both have such a massive weight by society.

I really cannot explain truly how to get rid of these obsessions to be honest. I've never cared about my virginity, loneliness is something that unfortunately comes and goes around arguing with myself to stop complaining about it.

"humans are naturally social creatures" a candy that people often say, within these "humans" a lot of people stay alone with no problem at all, many of the want to be a lonely going to live in villages or outside of cities or simply in their own apartment...

keeping this one a bit brief seeing as how i don't really have much else to say other than i was doing some scrolling as per usual, trying to find something to mitigate my anxiety about my size as i sometimes do when i came across a post somewhere about women can achieve penetrative vaginal orgasms and how that was possible. this is just a small sampling of what folks there were saying.

• happiestnexttoyou: the only person I’ve had that experience with is my husband, and he is significantly larger than any other parter I had
• kimmixxclandestine: That being said, long and skinny usually gets me there easier
• Michelle-Bell: For me it was thickness. Length didnt matter tooo much as long as it was near average. Something about the slight stretch always worked for me.
• ellaC97: really hate to say it but the secret was… a big D.
• slimslimsteve: can't imagine marrying a man with a smaller penis after being with my current bf, whos like 7-8in. Its like nothing else. Size really does matter.
• GrumpyBunny6: Size. Sucks to say but.. yeah.
• Gardnerl92: He is well endowed but I can’t say if that has anything to do with it. ... hate to say it, but size does matter if you’re into really deep penetration like me. He’s 8 inches.

this one is particularly funny cuz it shows in real time how a woman might want to discredit being larger sized as having any meaningful sway with how she gets satisfied only to end up circling back several comments down and realizing that it literally makes all the difference.

• curious316world: Big dicks that last longer than 5 min
• AnOrdinary1543: Thickness made a difference for me because friction seems to be the key. Athough vaiginal orgasms could still happen with previous partners who were below average size, it was a lot less common.
• Puthyputhyputhy: Having a well endowed partner is what unlocked a lot of different orgasms for me.
• isabeldrerrie: For me it was the right partner that knows what he’s doing, listens to my body and knows what positions help. He is also quite large, but I’ve had men before who where larger in dick size and definitly could not make me orgasm so I’m not sure that is why.

also funny cuz of how she just kinda threw in that "also quite large" in there as if it was just a quick lil fun fact that wasn't all that important to make more significant.

• bananuspink: My current partner is the only partner I’ve ever had who gives me multiple every time, and that’s generally because they have a big D that hits right.

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• NZ-Food-Girl: Smaller works better for me. Finds my g-spot.
• BudgetContract3193: One of the best guys I’ve had was less than 5. He was almost as thick as he was long.

these two are interesting cuz they were some of the very few that if believed on face value suggests that for some, and a small some at that, an average or below average size might be as effective.

that's all i wanted to do with this post. just wanted to see what y'all's take is on this.

I’m 20 years old now, and honestly, I feel like I’ve just accepted my fate. The thing is, when I was younger, I always had the thought that I would grow down there as I got older. I’m sure that when I hit 18 and saw no changes, I slowly started coming to terms with the fact that it was probably not gonna change, and here I am now.

It’s so crazy that the genetics you were given pretty much decide your fate from the day you were born. That goes for everything in general, such as height, looks, etc. But the thing that makes our problem so different from everything else is that it’s private. Only we know about it. It’s not like looks, height, or a disability, where people can pretty much see it as soon as you step foot out in public.

But anyways, last night before I went to bed, for the first time, the thought that nothing is gonna change and that it’s not gonna grow hit me hard. I got that barbed wire feeling in my throat, and I felt like I wanted to cry. It was the first time I had felt something like that in a long time.

In my opinion, it’s kind of the same feeling as losing a person to death and knowing that they’re never coming back. So you just sit there and grieve.

But anyways, yeah, I think this is it. I guess it really is gonna happen. I’m going to be a virgin for the rest of my life, and I don’t know how I’m gonna explain that to my old folks over the next 10 years as they get older and start closing in on their 70s. They’re gonna keep wondering why I still haven’t pursued a relationship yet, and there are probably gonna be no grandkids before they leave this world.

I feel extremely sad and horrified by this thought. I hope my brother, who is nine years younger than me, is able to change that before my old folks leave this world. And I also wonder what my family would think of me. I don’t know. It’s just exhausting to think about.

I’m so sorry for all of us. I really am. And with how the media treats us everywhere, it doesn’t make things any better. I feel like it’s just gonna get worse.

But once again, I really am so, so sorry about us, and I just wanna let you guys know that I love you guys. It at least gives me a calm sense of mind knowing that there are men out there like me, and I really wish I could just sit down in a big group with all of you guys and just talk it all out.

But yeah, that’s it. I just wanted to post about that.

I'm sure it will be filled with small dick jokes in it. GTA V was the same thing, but at least it also made fun of "sluts" to balance things out, which I'm sure VI won't do. Also, I saw a leak where there was a nudist party and everyone was hung, and Jason himself is hung from the recent leaks. If there's a guy who's small, it's definetly going to be as the butt of a joke.

There was a clip I watched where I guy was having trouble peeing in an urinal and he says something like "this is why she left me" or some shit.

It sucks, because if I were to play the game, I'd play it for escapism and to distract myself, but will end up feeling worse afterwards. It's not worth it, especially not for 100 dollars.

I wish these type of things didn't get to me as much.

I've started working at a local chain store company... Working here and there...

After two months finally they placed me at one and only shop... But at this specific area I don't see her... It's a good thing... I don't have that massive spark now that I don't see her... Besides now that i'm more grounded and not that emotional I can think logically clearer... I can think that she was just nice and polite to me and that she just also thought to herself that "i'm a nice guy"

Even if that's not the case i'm forgetting my place.... I see even attractive men here having a hard time because of their size. And oh shit, black dudes here... They must go through it really bad for obvious idiotic stereotypical reasons that putting a weight of fucking expectation...

But maybe it's good that i combine a tone of shit of more socially negative traits since i'm not even an option. I'm fucking invisible and if I try then it's funny..

If i analyze it to someone and open my heard then it's not true or "you are being too harsh on yourself" and at the same time they may see someone on the road and laugh at him or comment about his natural appearance...why?

When people know you personally and they have even a small emotional connection with you then it's way easier for them be positive instead of judging you harshly and appear so bad since they also have the image of your personality in mind. Something that people often do not like to admit. Or also they don't want to hurt you.

It truly makes me sad to force myself to constantly put a barrier to my emotions on the topic... If i talk about them with anybody I get cheesy answers...

I see these men with massive genitals, even when I was serving the military, some were walking out of the bath with no towel, all proud without a shame like I did hiding myself... Often I wonder... What the fuck was on my dna that made me ended up having such a small pathetic Dick or how far was the "data" away from making me having a good rich member...

And to say that I've ever wished to fuck around... I would never... I was just wanted to find a woman and stay with her till death separates us. It's like a factory setting for me, I remember myself from 10 years old having such thoughts of monogamy...

But truly in life not everyone is for everything. I would just like to feel that for someone I'm worthy and you know... Sit on a bench together, she may tilt her head to my chest with me hugging her around me. Maybe this is a "need" that society has forced upon me through movies with "romanticism"...

Atleast I don't cry now... Damn at some point my emotions for her where so strong, I didn't slept for a day at some point. And it's not like I know her personally besides her name, job and other small info since she was kind enough to strike a conversation or answering to me in general in our small talks... She just wasn't rude with me, she seemed happy to see me but she doesn't even remember my name... Anyway, I've yapped enough... Nobody "deserves" in the natural setting, i don't deserve nor anybody "deserves".

I am who I am. And that's it, an unstable individual, with many insecurities, too self aware, naturally unlucky with my brain and appearance based self, another dot that battles through life like many other people.

One day I will be just a pile of bones and nothing will matter anymore but I have a long time to live till then. Just patience...

Seriously I'm at the the point every time I see anything remotely sexual let alone porn I'm asking myself if I should end it all because how much more can I hold on knowing I'll never experience the biological function that is engraved in all of us

i have a date on thursday and shes very interested it seems. but i know my size puts me at a disadvantage severely moreso than the average or slightly below average man. Even puts me at a disadvantage probably moreso than the 4x4s here. is it even worth it to possibly invest weeks into this if im at a high likely hood of facing rejection? if you cant see my flair im 3.5 inches long and 3.5 inches circumference/girth. i can get to about 4 inches long if i lose the weight, but that will take a long time obviously so im stuck with this measurement for a while

Take care of yourselves.