Hi everyone!

I'm 33 and single, and I've noticed that since I turned 30, a lot of (married) friends have drifted away from me, even though we used to be very close.

I know this is normal, they’re focusing on their families, and that’s completely understandable, but I would have liked to have received a few text messages over the past year.
What’s more, I’ve noticed that even the single ones are doing the same thing.

Does turning thirty call into question the friendships we formed in our youth?

I started to question my worth, and it's affecting my confidence, my mind tells me that I'm the problem

I'd like to hear your experiences with this

Thank you so much

33m here so that means I was born in 93 and my adult life started in 2011

In the state of the world right now how are you guys coping with knowing how good life was in the 90’s-2000’s ?

I understand everybody creates their own happiness but just the massive shift in how everything changed really depresses me

This could also just be my clouded perspective but just curious how you guys are holding up?

Hi Guys,

I have a question.. I have been dating this chick for about a year now and things have gotten serious. She is suggesting that post marriage her mother will come to live with us eventually in 4 to 5 years. I am really not comfortable with this idea as her mother is completely dependent on her father for outside work and doesn't really step out of the house for anything, she also is a vegetarian and doesnt like non vegetarian food cooked where she lives. Bringing someone like this means unnecessary restrictions on stuff and added responsibility.

Can you guys share your experiences if you have something similar at your place?

Everyone defines success differently at different stages of life. What was yours when you were in your twenties compared to when you were in your thirties?

PSA: English is not my first language so I’ve used ChatGPT to help me write this

At a crossroads and need outside perspective.
I work in tech and have been at my current company for a couple years. There's potential financial upside if I stay but it's not guaranteed and the timeline is unclear. Grew up poor so financial security means a lot to me, probably more than it should.

My fiancée and I are currently in different cities. It happened gradually due to life circumstances and now it's becoming unsustainable. She's settled into something good where she is and I'm the one who needs to move. For more context I live in San Francisco and she’s about a 5 hour drive away. My company is showing decent signs of going public. I know I sound like a greedy mf, but this will help set us up.

I could stay where I am for another year or two chasing the upside, or I could leave, move to her, and find something new there. Either way I'm not walking away broke — there's a decent cushion regardless.

Work situation has also gotten harder lately and it's been affecting my mental health. My manager is neurotic and if I ask for a wfh thing he would rather just fire me or find a reason to push me out. The work is very exciting for me and I love the rest of my team.

I know what my gut says. Just want to hear from guys who've had to choose between money and life before.
Now even if she reads it she can't connect it to you specifically. Could be anyone in tech.

I mean something like this: Could you imagine to live in the Caribbeans, Seychelles, Maledives, French Polynesia and so on?

Please explain why yes or no.

I've been obsessing recently over what it means to be well-raised, and I think having been raised through do's and do-not's is important. Well-raised to me, usually seems to come about when parents create strict guidelines and expectations that their children abide by. There needs to be active parenting and involved parents. I think poor parenting is showing indifference and being ignorant of their own children. I think the result is a person with good habits and expectations, instead of needing constant reminders.

I just question if it's important, if you can thank good parenting for people that go on to achieve or if it's just happenstance. You can control some things. Their diet, maybe their hobbies, but not every child will care to listen, which is why I question and wonder if it's just survivorship bias. I don't think I was raised well, because my parents didn't speak to me directly.

Another important thing I wanted to ask is if you feel that you ever escape from the grasps of family? People do grow up and become autonomous. That means, you could go and bar hop, take drugs, commit crimes, whatever else. Not everyone has decent people for parents, either. The idea that you should raise a family starting in your 30s is ingrained in me. So essentially, you're at the mercy of family up until you're 18, you can then do whatever you want up until 30, which is when you should probably raise your own family and the concept of parenting becomes a topic again. I don't think you really ever escape the idea of parenting for most of your life.

So is parenting overstated? Is it poor practice to try and understand someone successful versus a failure? Are there just too many other variables to even bother, namely environment, social issues, income etc..?

Hello everyone, I’m 20, currently studying medicine in italy, and lately I’ve been thinking a lot about how weird the concept of time is.

When I was younger, I used to imagine adulthood as something pretty straightforward. You finish studying, find a job, meet someone, get married, have kids, and eventually build a life together, get old and die with all the people you met during your life.

But now that I’m actually getting older, I’m starting to wonder: when is all of this supposed to happen?
What’s the right age to find your person? To get married? To have children? To become financially independent? To finally feel like you’re doing something meaningful with your life?

I know the obvious answer is that there’s no right age and everyone moves at their own pace, but sometimes it’s difficult not to feel like there’s some invisible timeline I’m supposed to follow…
Especially when I think about how many years of university and training I still have ahead of me.
I don’t necessarily feel old, obviously. I’m 20, that would be ridiculous ahaha. But I sometimes feel like life is moving incredibly fast while I’m still trying to figure out who I am and what I actually want from it.
And I guess I’m also scared of spending so much time preparing for my future that I forget to actually live my twenties.

If you’ve ever felt the same way, or if you’ve already gone through this stage of life, could you share your experience? thanks in advance

I graduated this august,from highschool and ive applied to many colleges. (I dont have great grades). I recieved an offer letter from one but its still some time till jan intake. Recently a family friend of mine while talking with my grandma and i quote:
“ Your kins have turrned out to be a great disappointment and this one seems to continue the trend” while placing hopeful remarks on my little brother. I have a bad track record of 3 years. I repeated a class of highschool. I am going to emphasize again that i dont have great grades. Now this same person told my grandma. “He shouldn’t be slacking off and should start earning money”.
Now the thing bothers me is
-What would my well off friends and family think when they see me working the tables at a pizza joint?
- The only jobs available to me wont add much to my cv: resturants,real estate agent’s assistants, customer service representatives
A fatherly advice or conduct would be really really appreciated.
I go to the gym try to find certificates that would add to my CV, I have learnt html and am learning editing and SMME.
Or should i just apply to colleges,I have gotten an offer letter from a university its not the best in ranking but its affordable. I intend to be a male nurse maybe its one of the respectable profession

Hi folks. In the last day or two I’ve realized I’m doubting myself and my hormonal health. I’m almost 46, I have a gut, I’m tired a lot, I deal with stress, anxiety and depression, wrestle with ADHD at the very least on top of prediabetes, and thanks to well-placed ads, I find myself wondering about the buzz words like cortisol and low-T and if they apply to me. I take Farxiga and GLP-1 and I’m just wanting to feel more “normal” than I do right now. I take vitamins of course and I’m trying to eat/drink more protein. This stuff like Mars Men has me wondering what else I can do though. Any suggestions?

Did anyone else feel/felt that way?

I always thought I wanted to go to University, for sure for the wrong reasons: to prove myself I am capable, to prove my family I can get a diploma.
To be able to say to people: “I have a degree in (insert whatever here.)”

Besides that, I always found psychology really really interesting, and long before I even thought abt working as a Therapist.
But I think this interest in a way was there because I was really messed up in my head since I was a kid: Raised in a toxic environment, grew up anxious, depressed, lost, confused, people-pleaser, avoidant, shy, ashamed of myself, low-self esteem and the list goes on.

Psychology came as a natural way of healing mysef I say, but it also became a big passion of mine.

Now, recently, just abt to turn 30 I decided to enroll mysf into a psychology course, which is a one year part-time one, which is only an introduction type, so if I go well, next year I can apply for a undergraduation full-time 4-year-psychology course.

The thing is, with the one year course, in the first month I’ve been procrastinating, not wanting to join the classes, feeling the content of the classes pilling up slowly, while I can’t find the will power in me to do what needs to be done and study.

I find the content pretty interesting, I am really fascinated and want to learn more, but when I think of the tests, dissertations, scientific essays, researchs, group presentations, it feels like the inner me doesn’t really want to do that.

Not in a lazy kind of way, but in a way that I see no future, A feeling that feels as if you were walking on a road that you don’t know where you’ll end up at, and you’re gonna walk, walk, walk, walk, and see the same landscape for days and years, still not excited about where you gonna end up at, and not even knowing the destination.

I also don’t want to spend hours of my day in front a computer or a class, even though I know it would make me a more intelligent person, I know I can find other ways to level up that.

Therefore, I still like academia, but I think I just don’t fit well in there, I would love to go and full study and engage 100% in it, but also a part of me doesn’t seem willing to make this sacrifice.

It’s like the sacrifice won’t be worth at the end.
I’ve heard it before “If you never try you’ll never know” and I think that was my case.

In theory I always wanted to join the university, but now that I have one foot in, this doesn’t feel like the right path.

If you had to face this before, how did this situation turn around for you?

Thank you.