r/R4R30Plus • • Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

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POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

44 [F4M] Europe/US/Canada – To the hopefully last person I will ever date

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I’ll just start off by saying that I thought I already found you a few times in my life. It turns out that not every deep love lasts forever, and people change over time. Who knew? Certainly not me in my 20s and 30s, for one.

So here I am, 44 and single, but with a life I love. I have a great job, I own my own flat, I have two cats and a dog, I love the few close friends I have, and I and my family are healthy. I really don’t need anything. I am perfectly content.

And after my last really long-term relationship ended I thought, “I have everything and then some. What more could I want? I don’t need a partner. My life is truly good.” And I did me for a while. It was nice.

And yet, there is the quiet, nagging feeling that a piece is missing. I miss having someone to snuggle with, to watch movies with, game with and trade banter with. To try new recipes with, share books with, get lost in the woods with. To have deep talks and silly laughs with. To rely on and to have them rely on me. A lover, a true partner, a best friend. To have and to hold, and all that sappy, wonderful shit. And that’s what I’m looking for.

What I am decidedly not looking for:
- Bigots
- People who don’t yet know what they want in a relationship.
- People that don’t realize that their value comes from within. You can’t start a serious relationship with someone if you don’t love yourself to begin with (thanks, RuPaul). Making someone else’s approval the source of your validation and worth is a lot of pressure to put on someone, and it is a recipe for disappointment.
- People not fully over their last relationship. I don’t just mean that you aren’t in love with the person anymore and dating sounds OK. That’s the easy part. I mean sitting down with yourself and looking through *all* the parts of the relationship and its ending that you didn’t like. And then working through those to the point that when you talk about the relationship, you don’t start ranting. In short, if you’re still talking shit about your ex, this point is about you.
- People whose idea of a reasonable end to a romantic relationship is ghosting (if they are not in immediate danger). I don’t have time or space in my life for that level of cowardice and lack of respect. I can’t even believe that this is a thing nowadays. Maybe I am just old.
- Lovebombers and future fakers. Don’t waste my time; I am not some diversion for your boring Sunday afternoon. Time is the most precious thing there is and once given, you can never get it back.

(An aside: I am so, so sorry to have had to include this ranty ass list, but honestly, dating these days is a minefield that I never could have anticipated.)

An additional point: I would be remiss in saying that looks don’t matter. They do. I really appreciate someone who takes care of themselves, and is clean, healthy, and (truly) active, because I am. But something I’ve learned with age is that what someone finds physically attractive is mostly subjective; it changes with time. And what matters more is the ability to connect, really connect, and feel like both people (please excuse the upcoming hippy dippy crap) are vibrating at the same frequency. At any rate, I’ve included a single picture of myself from about a month ago to give an idea of the visual.

So maybe we start slow. We exchange some messages. And we take our time. Weeks, months, however long it takes. Distance isn’t a factor if the intentionality is there. What matters is that the goal is the same, and we are aligned on it and reaching it together. And it means having the emotional availability to pursue something together, and the time and willingness to do so. Oh, and painfully open and honest communication. :-)

So here I am, and I’m not going anywhere. Where are you?

Some interests of mine: books (especially anything Victorian, dark, and spooky), video games (not too picky, love historical but not a huge fan of online FPS), movies (literally any genre, but Interstellar is one of my favorite films), hiking, pilates, linguistics (yeah, nerd shit!), getting a great night’s sleep, cooking with friends, comedy (I love standup), and cutting banter. That’s just to get started, there’s a lot more to me.

If something resonated with you, send me a message telling me what exactly resonated and why, and one current picture of you.

(P.S. I’m located in Europe.)


r/R4R30Plus • • 7h ago

37 [F4M] Anywhere - Help me shake things up a bit today :)

21 Upvotes

Hey there. I'm an easygoing 37 year old woman from California and finding life pretty routine these days. Not that its a bad routine, or one that I don't enjoy full of my hobbies, but it would be nice to meet someone new to shake up that mix for a bit. I'm into reading, music (hardcore, punk, electronic, hip hop, trip hop, house, and more), traveling, film, sketching and painting, and learning new languages. My life is also pretty free of little critters as I don't have pets or children. I'm a leftist politically.

You can be anyone from anywhere. I find it more interesting to learn about people vastly different from myself. I prefer those that are closest to my age, and no one under 30 please. I do find myself getting along best with those that are goofy, kind, and don't take themselves too seriously.

Interested? Please send me a chat with a little bit about you. :)


r/R4R30Plus • • 8h ago

40 [M4F] NC - Can I be the reason you smile at your phone?

24 Upvotes

I am just a goofy dude with a goofy sense of humor who is embracing the fact that he is becoming a silver fox with a dad bod which is ironic since I don’t have any kids. I swear, I wake up every morning to just a little more grey in my beard, lol I still rock the punk rock aesthetic.

I am a live and let live kind of person. I would rather save a spider vs killing it. I will stop and help turtles cross the road, if for nothing else, to help beat the rabbit. This time of year, I enjoy cuddling up with my adorable little void to stay warm in the mornings. I would rather hang out at a friends house and play DnD than bar hop. I enjoy picking up new hobbies and learning new things. Currently, I am working on 3D printing something that would allow me to get all of the shampoo out of the bottle and into the new one, and I am working on restoring an old 68 VW bug. I enjoy cooking and trying out new recipes. My current favorite right now is Cajun chicken, but the bbq chicken I have been making is a very close 2nd. I enjoy getting outdoors and hiking/floating down a river as long as I can keep the pollen at bay.

I feel like I have been a leaf in the wind for long enough, and I am ready to settle down and find that happily ever after people always seem to talk about.


r/R4R30Plus • • 33m ago

44 [M4F] #Online - bored divorced dad looking for company

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Almost every night my house gets quiet. Dishes are done, ive showered, and it’s time to relax. I end up sitting on the couch and watching sports, or a movie. Then I scroll on Reddit and TikTok. I’d rather find someone who also has free time and wants company. I’ve got a lot of hobbies. Sports, movies, cooking, photography, and art. I don’t game. But I’d love to have someone to share my day with. The mundane and the exciting. You’ll get lots of unsolicited food pics. Pics of my failed latte art or my dog. Don’t have a type. Also I’m not looking for love either. Just be able to hold a conversation, I’m sick of chats on here feeling like a police interrogation or job interview. Don’t know why everyone wants to go into 20 questions but it’s not the move. Please be single, I’m tired of having pissed off partners messaging me. I don’t care if you’re polly or whatever. Not for me. Physically I’m Mexican American 6’5” dark brown hair and beard both are starting to gray. I’m the white boy of my family. Insert Miklo gif here. I have the complex to go with it too.


r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

33 [F4M] #Ohio - chemistry and emotional availability is the dream

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This last year I’ve worked really hard and tried to get to the best version of myself physically and mentally. Being happy and content with myself and my life was always the goal and now I feel ready to see what’s out there. I have no expectations but as a girl who loves hard and seeks the same, I am hoping to find someone I can build a deeper connection with.

I’m in a helping field so it’s not a surprise that I’m empathetic and have compassion in spades, sometimes to a fault. I’m happiest with someone who enjoys deep conversations just as much as joking around. Outside of work, I can usually be found with a book. I love reading and am always open to recommendations. I do play a select few video games but would not consider myself a gamer. I’m definitely a homebody at heart, but I also love spending a weekend exploring a new park, trying a restaurant I’ve never been to, or wandering somewhere new just because I can.

Physically, I’m short, petite, and curvy. I have dark curly hair and brown eyes. I’ve been on a pretty big health journey this past year and am excited for the future with this new version of myself.

What I’m looking for is someone emotionally mature, kind, and knows what they want. I’ll admit I have a GIANT soft spot for bigger, burly men, especially if there’s a beard and tattoos involved. In all seriousness though, who you are will always matter more than how you look.

This is already too long so I’m going to leave it here and hope for the best.


r/R4R30Plus • • 7h ago

36 [M4F] #Southeast/US - Maybe you're having an okay Sunday but have you ever thought "today would be so much better if I was cuddling a sweet and funny fat man on the couch watching our favorite show enjoying dessert he made?"

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Okay I don't know how funny I really am but I do like to make people laugh!

I'm at a stage in my life where my job keeps my busy, my family keeps me happy, and my friends keep me sane. So I guess I'm just missing you.

I enjoy cooking and have gotten much better at it since I changed my lifestyle and started to lose weight. Baking has been fun as well although there's still a chance I'll burn myself on that stupid oven 😩Either way it's fun to make things that taste good! Even more fun when there's someone to taste test.

Now I am a big nerd. Like the messy hair and glasses type. Grew up around computers, always loved gaming and I've always been a really curious person. Nowadays it's very casual. I play WoW here and there otherwise mostly single player games, just stuff to destress. No kids yelling in my ear, ty.

I also like my sports, I like to play ping pong, I like to watch random people on Youtube build things, and especially the backyard science videos, because who doesn't wanna see a baseball turn into liquid as it hits a wall being shot out of a cannon at 1000mph?? Maybe I can add watching a fun show with you to the list?

I'm looking for something serious. It doesn't mean we need to meet up next week, but it does mean I'm doing things with intent. I'm not looking for just a quick fling and hope you're the same. Once I click with you, I'm only going to be talking with you. The grass is only greener on the other side if you don't water your own grass! I just can't imagine trying to juggle multiple conversations.

So with that said please don't take it the wrong way if you really put effort into your message and I don't respond. I do at least promise to take my time reading your intros and profiles.

You don't have to be local, but please be in a similar time zone. I'm very affectionate and a little touch starved but even so, I'm patient and I do enjoy my peace. I'd want to make sure we're comfortable with each other and you especially can feel safe with me. I want to prioritize the right person, where we're improving each other's lives. If we click, I'd like to spend time together online.

I'm happy to share pictures early, especially given my weight situation, I think expectations are important. But with that said, if you're into strictly bigger guys, I'm sorry to say but you'll be disappointed in a year or two as I'm entirely committed to my health and have already made great strides 😌😌

Please do not contact if you're into: ICE, MAGA, AI art slop, gender and race wars, and any other overly negative and hateful communities.


r/R4R30Plus • • 7h ago

[R4R] 35 F USA remote worker rant

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Connecting to people online is normal for me. I'm a millennial, so I can't find anything weird about it. But I have a rant I want to get off my chest.

Remote work is actually great but I hate the fact that I was never able to be in an office with co-workers. I know that sounds silly because who doesn't love being able to work from the comfort of your bed !!

I just don't have the co-worker stories that others do. Honestly I'd even welcome the drama at this point. My job is great but I have no lasting or meaningful relationships. I realized the other day there are members of my team I never message or reach out to - yet I'm supposed to feel camaraderie for them. I force myself to, but it doesn't help. Its no different from being a fan of an influencer.

I wonder sometimes if what my managers tell me, they actually believe themselves. I wonder what kind of.person is needed to be able to sell the idea of "were a team" to adults who can plainly see otherwise?

Anyone have thoughts on this? Tell me your weird rant that no one cares about


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

46 [f4r] seeking a friend for the end of the world

18 Upvotes

dark humored 46 woman from southern california looking for new platonic friends of every variety, from online chat only to road trippin' bestie. i wfh full time, enjoy traveling and normal socal activities, (kayaking, hiking, tacos/food, traveling, spas). looking for fellow dark humored, syfy book reading, binge tv watching, huntin down new recipes and/or craft-projects type of people who love to chat about just about anything and don't need constant pictures or validation. your marital status doesn't matter, since this is for platonic connections ONLY. chat here or telegram, no to snap or discord, no paid conversations/pic buying/selling/crypto scams.


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

32[M4F] Texas, USA- a chef looking to spoil someone and be gym buddies together💪🏻

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Sharing my life with an Aussie Shepherd, so you’ll have a little competition for my attention… but I’m willing to bet I’m the better cuddler. 😏🐶
Being a chef means I’ll never run out of date-night ideas, new restaurants to try, or delicious excuses to steal you away for dinner. The real question is whether you can handle me judging the food everywhere we go. 😂 Bonus points if you can recommend a spot that actually impresses me!
When I’m not in the kitchen, you’ll probably find me lifting weights, hiking a new trail, climbing a mountain, planning my next trip, or finding an excuse to take a sports car or motorcycle out for a spin. I’m attracted to a woman who takes care of herself, has a curious mind, loves a little adventure, and can turn even an ordinary day into a good story.
What am I hoping to find? Something real with someone who wants to be my favorite person, my biggest supporter, my partner in crime, and eventually my best friend. I’m a sucker for good conversation, playful teasing, genuine affection, emotional maturity, honesty, and the kind of chemistry that makes you lose track of time talking. I want us to challenge each other, cheer each other on, and build something that actually lasts. ❤️
I’m pretty laid-back, easy to talk to, and can probably hold my own in a conversation about just about anything. I enjoy a good Old Fashioned now and then, but I’m more interested in good company than a bar tab. 😉
I’m open to meeting someone anywhere in the US for the right connection. Distance doesn’t scare me if we’re both willing to put in the effort and eventually turn those messages into real-life memories.
If you’re looking for something genuine, can keep up with a little banter, and wouldn’t mind being spoiled with good food and spontaneous adventures, we might just get along a little too well. 😌
Come say hi. Worst case, we have a good conversation. Best case? You become my favorite notification. 😉❤️
Just one thing: I’m here for a serious, long-term connection, not a pen pal with unlimited texting privileges. 😄


r/R4R30Plus • • 4h ago

45 [M4F] New York, I hope to meet a beautiful lady here, I only want one

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Hi everyone, I'm Kim. I recently moved from Michigan to New York, where I've spent most of the happiest times of my life. To briefly introduce myself, I'm financially stable, mature, responsible, and a good communicator. I've been through a failed marriage, but I'm happy to have a wonderful daughter who's now an adult. So, I have plenty of time to meet a beautiful woman. I'm not in a rush to define a relationship, but if we click, I'd love to see how things develop.


r/R4R30Plus • • 2h ago

43 [F4R] Aussie Seeking Friends

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Hi all,

I'm a socially awkward somewhat autistic queer F who has realised that the downside to being an introvert is not having anyone to talk to.

I love cats and crafts and horror and sci-fi. I read a lot and have a few favourite games on my PC. I like the spooky and macabre. I would have called myself a goth many years ago but was never any good at make-up!

I'm looking for platonic friends. I have a beautiful MTF wife, and two teenagers who wish I would socialise and be less boring.


r/R4R30Plus • • 13h ago

42 [M4F] #Seattle — Maybe the best part of moving to PNW will be meeting you

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I'm a single guy from New York🗽, and I'm moving to Seattle 🌲(in Dec'26) . I've been spending a lot of time finding out about the neighborhoods, scenic drives, restaurants, coffee shops, parks. Continuing to build on my list of places to check-out is exciting! Somewhere along the way I had a thought:

Maybe it would be more fun to get to know someone before I get there.

I'm easygoing, affectionate, a borderline introvert, a bit of a nerd 🤓. I love driving, especially when a "quick drive" somehow turns into a three-hour adventure because we decided to take the scenic route. I love finding little restaurants, great coffee, exploring places I've never been to, and having the kind of conversation where you forget about time. 

I tend to think that I am very much a PNW kind of person. I have spent a lot of years in Cali before NY. Give me evergreen forests, mountains, water, rain tapping on the windows, a cozy coffee shop, and a gray / overcast weekend with no particular plan, and I'm pretty happy. Apparently, I don't ask for much. 😉

And I'm a romantic at heart 🥰, although I promise not to make you sit through a poetry reading on our first date. :) Been there, done that. To my credit, it went pretty well. Just to be clear, I am not a poet, lol. I work in finance / tech. 

What I'm really hoping to find is a woman who is curious, warm, playful, and interested in building something meaningful ✨. Someone who can appreciate both a spontaneous road trip with endless flirting and a quiet evening cooking dinner together. Someone who likes to laugh and enjoys good conversations.

And then there's the slightly unusual part: the timing. I'm not expecting a whole lot. I'd just like to meet someone interesting now. Maybe we start with messages 💬. Maybe a few facetime calls 📱. Maybe we discover we really enjoy talking to each other.  And when I'm finally there, we grab coffee ☕ and see if the chemistry we built from a distance is even better in person and Seattle won't feel so new.

If that sounds like something you'd enjoy too, tell me a little about yourself. I'd would love to hear from you.


r/R4R30Plus • • 7h ago

42 [M4F] Are you Wi-Fi? Because I’m feeling a connection.

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42M, 6’3”, looking to meet someone who’s missing a little spark and connection in their life too. I’d love to find someone I genuinely look forward to talking to good conversation, laughing, flirting, and getting to know each other without forcing expectations. I’m easygoing, enjoy deeper conversations, and I’m completely open to someone with kids. Life doesn’t have to be uncomplicated, just genuine. If this sounds like something you’ve been missing too, send me a message and let’s see where the conversation goes.


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

37 [M4F] WI - Just looking for my forever person, no pressure or anything.

2 Upvotes

Hey. I hope you have a snack because this is probably going to be long. And I don't mean long like two paragraphs, I mean this is legitimately going to be a manifesto. Leave now while you have the chance. Also, forewarning, this is going to be train-of-thought because I really want this to sound like it's actually me (spoiler: it is actually me).

I want to preface everything with what I'm looking for. I am totally cool with chatting with folks from anywhere. I do enjoy getting to chat casually with people from other places, different backgrounds, all that stuff. I think it's valuable to hear other perspectives and get a healthy respect for the lives others are living. So if you wind up reading this and I sound like a neat dude to chat with, by all means, shoot me a message. But ultimately, I am hoping to find a partner so if you're a woman within about a hundred miles of SE WI, you should DEFINITELY send me a message! lol. I recognize it's unlikely at my age that someone is interested in relocating- and, truly, I am not interested in it either, so if you're across the country a romantic relationship really isn't in the cards.

Let's start with me. I'm 37, which is entirely too old to be posting for a girlfriend on reddit, but here we are. I teach high school physics and am in year 10 (woo double digits!). I really do love what I do, but I don't live and breathe teaching or physics- my life outside of school is also very important to me. I'm definitely a nerd, though- I am also the esports coach for our school, and I coordinate the mtg club that we have so that's sorta the trifecta right? Being into science, videogames, and magic the gathering? I'm 3 for 3. I do try to cultivate a healthy adult life outside of school, though. I spent time this summer starting to garden and bake, both of which are very new to me. I baked about a dozen loaves of bread and four or five loaves of banana bread, and I'm working up the stones to try some other sweet bakery soon (I have a recipe for apple cider cinnamon rolls that I REALLY want to try!). I planted some dahlias in the backyard and they are STILL growing at a pretty terrifying rate- my next project is to figure out how to overwinter them! I cook almost all of my meals and it's often the highlight of my day- food is so important to me! I love trying out new recipes once or twice a week, but I've definitely got my specialties (curry and pasta). I play piano pretty regularly and used to play guitar- it's been sitting in my basement for over a year. But I'd say once a week or so I sit down and just mess around on my piano for a while.

My lifestyle is probably best described as "simple". I have learned the value of a quiet morning with a cup of coffee, or an afternoon walk in the fall sun watching leaves fall from the trees, or curling up under a warm blanket and a book during a storm. I don't feel any need to prove myself to others, which I think can come off as cold, but really I think I just march to the beat of my own drum. I own a pretty modest house very close to work and I'm able to walk to school every day (honestly, you don't know how great this is). I have a car but there's something about walking to work that I can't give up- it's a little time to reflect, get some fresh air, transition to/from "school mode"... it's great. I do try to travel once or twice a year, in the summer, and it's often to Florida as my folks have a place there. This coming summer, my dad convinced me to go to Africa with him and that's a HUGE jump from the travel I'm used to so I'm gearing up for that! But generally I am a homebody, and I am an introvert, so it will be a very novel experience for me.

Some "dating app" style info about me might be helpful. I'm looking for someone around 30-40 years old. I'm liberal and I am atheist. I hope it is clear from this post so far, but I think I am reasonably articulate and I appreciate intelligent conversation and humor. I'm absolutely childfree- I have no desire to have kids or be a dad. I love my nieces and nephews but nope, no kids for this guy (the snip coming soon!). I don't smoke at all but I enjoy a good drink (sucker for an old fashioned, what can I say, I'm a Wisconsinite). I want something long-term, ideally marriage (not that the label matters, but a lifelong partnership is what I'm looking for), but I'm not a crazy person and know that things have to happen pretty naturally- definitely not in the market to force anything. I've had some long relationships (last was almost six years, the one before that was five years) so I have it in me, but I just haven't found my person yet. I really value quality time (to be cliche, it is my "love language") and ultimately I guess I just want to have someone where we can wrap our lives together for the better. Someone who appreciates a simple life with no serious worries or drama. I own my home and I am debt-free. I work out four days a week and really try to take care of my health otherwise (diet/mental). I like to flirt but only when I know 100% that I can shoot my shot- is that even flirting at that point? As mentioned I am solidly in my career and am hoping for a partner who is similar. Not just in that, but in all of the above. We don't need a 100% match on everything but most of it is pretty important on both sides, I'd imagine. You can lurk my profile and see what I look/sound like; I'm pretty open with that, for better or worse. I know attraction is important so please be similarly open if you're serious.

I'm looking for a true equal partner. For me it's about time and effort. I want someone who wants to invest their time and energy in me, and vice versa. I'm getting jaded, but still really hoping that my "forever person" is out there- I am realizing that I have to put in the effort to make that happen, which is partially why I'm posting in the first place. Communication and trust are at the top of my list of what is important in a relationship. I especially want a relationship where the time and effort (on both sides) never feels like a chore- we should both feel like we're dating out of our league! lol. I'm also looking for someone who can challenge me, push me out of my comfort zone, make me think deeper about things- someone with a strong sense of their own morality.

Fun fact time! Some rapid-fire stuff that might give you a launch pad for an initial message/conversation. I was music director of a radio station in high school for two years (loved it). I go on an annual "siblings trip" with my brother and sister and their families and while I love it, it is chaos being around six children for a week in an enclosed space lol. I am really self-conscious of the way I talk. I have two cats who are both gorgeous. I've been coding a videogame "mod" for like five years now and it's been a fun project, but I'm not even close to done. My mtg collection is worth more than my house. I used to stream on twitch pretty regularly. I grew up playing Pokemon and Diablo II and still consider them some of my favorite games. I have a couple tattoos and am looking to get more, but every time I come up with an idea it's been done eight million times already and I reconsider because I have this weird anxiety about the tattoo artist rolling their eyes and being like "wow only the 30th time I've done this tattoo this month" or something. Yes, I know that is a very particular worry lol. I am super close with my family, especially my parents- my siblings both have 3 kids so they don't have nearly as much time to spend with me as I'd like. I drink my coffee black. I don't eat eggs, mushrooms, or popcorn. PC > console. Probably 90% of my wardrobe is some shade of grey or brown (the joys of being a male teacher, lol)- I try to jazz up my outfits with socks, and have about a dozen "weird" pairs.

Thanks for reading! You made it! I'm looking forward to getting to chat.


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

52 [F4M] usa chat friends

9 Upvotes

looking for some new chat friends, working from home I dont get to see or talk to a whole lot of people, so here i am ,in not comfortable chatting to married or taken men, but other wise come say hi age where from ,lets chat


r/R4R30Plus • • 16m ago

34[M4F] #UK/Online - Looking for my player 2

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Hey! Hope you’re having a great day

I’m here hoping to meet someone, get to know each other and see where things go. Just looking for a genuine connection with someone I really click with.

A little about me: gaming is probably my biggest hobby, so finding someone I can duo with, mess around with, laugh at our own stupidity, and spend far too many hours gaming with would be pretty great

I play a pretty wide variety of games, so there’s a good chance we’ll have something in common. Some of the games I regularly play are Overwatch, League of Legends ARAMs and TFT Dead by Daylight, Minecraft, and various friendslop games like REPO, i do like the survival crafting type games too so finding a duo for them would be great.

When I’m not gaming, I enjoy baking, although I definitely don’t do it as much as I used to. I also love taking my doggies for walks, listening to music, and watching films and TV shows.

I’m a big Marvel and Star Wars fan, The Office (UK & US), The IT Crowd, and Peep Show are some of my favourites.

More than anything, I’d love to find someone I can build a genuinely nice bond with, someone I can laugh with, talk about absolutely nothing with, enjoy the little things with, and hopefully make some great memories together.

I’m based in the UK and would ideally love to meet someone from the UK or Europe, but I’m definitely open to other places too.

If any of this sounds like your kind of thing, feel free to say hi!


r/R4R30Plus • • 22m ago

32 [F4M] caffeine, terrible jokes and maybe a friend

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Because true friendship, regardless if it's a romantic relationship at the same time, is hard to find.

Well, to me at least. It needs this similar shaped kind of human. A little fucked up, varied interests, a healthy portion of humor and also confident.

I am these things but also soft and sensitive. I know my weak points though and try to communicate :)

I like food and talking about it, coffee, music, art. Being outdoors but also video games at home.

This here can be anything. Let's just see what we have in common. Around 25 - 40 would be the ideal age.


r/R4R30Plus • • 27m ago

40[F4R] Quiet week

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Hello there, I hope your week is going good. Just about nice and quiet for me so can't complain much.

About me, I'm 40. Working away in a bank as a background check officer. I like to go swimming, relaxing, reading, watching tv shows like Southpark. Not much to do this week, apart from staying home and working so feel free to message me if ya relaxing.


r/R4R30Plus • • 12h ago

42 [M4F] #California - So pardon me while I burst into flames…

8 Upvotes

…”I've had enough of the world and its people's mindless games…”

Bonus points if you know the title reference.

42m from Southern California, LA/OC/SGV area. I am looking for new friends to talk with, get to know and eventually hang out with. Maybe even date?

I prefer local because I would like to hang out some day but I am open to long distance friends. Phone calls are definitely welcomed. I am single and feeling a bit lonely lately. Feeling stuck in a rut and trying to get out of it.

I enjoy movies, comedies and adventures. I can watch scary or thriller movies, but sometimes I'll read the Wiki before the movie so I know what I am for to prepare myself.

If you're a foodie, we should definitely talk. I love anything BBQ! If you have any good tips on dessert places or ice cream shops or BBQ, please share!

Anyone in the US that finds anything interesting is welcomed to message me!


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

44 [F4R] Arkansas

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44F from Arkansas. Mother to 5. Nurse. Occasionally Wonder Woman.

I'm big into WWII, 1940s, 1950s, and spooky stuff. I adore nerds and have a tendency to geek out on my vintage lifestyle. (Sorry in advance!) My favorite holiday is Halloween.

Currently renovating my ranch house to look more 1950s. I have traveled around and gotten cool vintage appliances.

I would love to put in a victory garden but need some help. Unfortunately I don't have the best green thumb.

My hobbies are knitting, sewing, crochet, reading, cooking, baking and quilting.

Please tell me something about yourself when you DM


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

36 [m4f] uk. Need some company and a laugh.

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  1. Uk. Need some company and a laugh.

Morning or afternoon all. Whatever time you’re reading this.
As us all. I don’t really know what to write because it just seems like I’m blabbing along just to fill the space.
I’m looking for a chat. Conversation that can go on the whole day and beyond which will hopefully lead into a friendship

I’m not looking for an thing in particular just good sense of humour, can you hold a conversation
If so
Come say hello with a little introduction

I love food. I cook I love to dance around the kitchen and sing so out of tune it scares the birds away.
So it’s over to you.


r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

37[M4F] Ontario/Canada - Looking to chat and getting to know someone

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Feeling a bit isolated and wanting some deeper chats. Open to most type of connections, ongoing or just tonight. I'm pretty easygoing, a little quiet at first, but i genuinely like getting to know people and learning what makes them tick.

I'm single, childfree (now and forever), work a corp job, and enjoy fitness, raving and movies(particularly horror) in my free time. I'm also into sports (NBA, tennis, martial arts). I lean left politically, but not caught up on news and world affairs.

Ideally, you're located in Canada or US, and are on the chatty side. Open to exchanging pictures eventually. Thanks for reading, and shoot me a message with a bit about yourself if you'd like :)


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

35 [F4M] Ontario / Canada — a good man, some land, three dogs

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I’d like more garden than traffic. Music on, dogs underfoot, an old house worth loving, and a man I’m happy to come home to.

I spent more than a decade running my own business. Creative, affectionate, very independent. I love cooking, gardening, antiques, restoring things, and a good laugh.

I’m drawn to an established, financially secure man, ideally with a farm or rural property. Kind, generous, handy. Can make a decision, keep his word, and drive well enough that I’ll relax in the passenger seat.

I do have a weakness for a tall man. Particularly one who’s good with his hands and knows how to use his words.

I want something lasting, with chemistry and room to be myself. Controlling, overly religious, casually interested, or only technically single? We won’t suit.
Three dogs. Non-negotiable. Open to beyond Ontario for the right person.

Tell me your age, where you live, and something that would make me want to pull up a chair.


r/R4R30Plus • • 14h ago

35 [F4M] US/Online, Let’s Explore the Depths Together

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Here we all are, on here, posting applications on here as if we’re trying to impress a university while the rest of us are aimlessly scrolling through it all. Let’s change that. Let’s be the ones who dare to be different. Let’s be the ones who actually connect on a deeper level than most would understand.

I’m not looking to rush into things. I really want to learn someone, as I want them to learn me. I want to have conversations that we can’t have in front of others. I want to know exactly how to make each other cackle. I want to be able to understand without words. Some will get it. I hope those are the ones that reach out.

I will not be responding to typical application type messages or ones with little effort, or give off the energy that this post wasn’t read. Genuinely, good luck to you all.