r/R4R30Plus • • 9h ago

[F4M] 36F|Chicago Because the apps are the worst.

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Currently in my “WHERE THE HELL IS MY HUSBAND” era. 💍

I’m looking for something real with someone who knows what he wants, communicates like an adult, and isn’t afraid of commitment. If your dating philosophy is “let’s see where it goes,” I fear we’re fundamentally incompatible. That phrase makes my skin crawl. 😂

Hard dealbreakers: Republicans, bigots, and Taylor Swift haters. All three are non-negotiable.

Must love cats. Actual, enthusiastic, willing-to-share-your-heart-and-your-bed love. The cats are part of the hiring committee, and their approval is mandatory. 🐈

Not thin, not stressed about it. ❤️ I'm working on myself, including my health (shoutout to modern medicine and my GLP-1), but I'm not waiting until I reach some magic number to enjoy my life or find my person.

I'm also working on myself in therapy, and you should be, too. Emotional availability, self-awareness, and a willingness to grow are hot.

Cozy-game (and video game in general) enthusiast. 🎮💕 You can find me playing WoW with my raid team, getting emotionally attached to fictional characters, or looking for my next favorite game. I love witty banter, laughing until I can't breathe, and building a relationship that feels like having a favorite person to do absolutely everything with.

Looking for my person, not a pen pal, a situationship, or another character development arc. Please apply accordingly. ❤️


r/R4R30Plus • • 2h ago

38 [M4F] Handsome and humble guy with a killer tash who can bake!

1 Upvotes

So, I'm 38 but for me (and this will make more sense the more you get to know me) age doesn't really mean an awful lot, it's all about the connection which doesn't have an age limit..

Ideally looking for someone who like me doesn't take life or herself too seriously, loves emotional, mental and physical connection.. music is the key to my heart as well as a good smile and an even better cup of coffee ..

I have recently moved house into the countryside and currently have sheep as neighbours, and when I'm not debating with them about the state of the world I'm gardening, or I'm baking, or I'm making some new bits of furniture or messing around on my guitar.. if I'm not doing any of this I've disappeared away in my camper trying to discover a new hidden cove somewhere where I can pretend I know how to surf!

So if this 'make it up as you go' lifestyle interests you as well as open fires, river swimming and spontaneous road trips being your thing then please get in touch..

:)


r/R4R30Plus • • 14h ago

37 [M4F] #UK/Online - Looking for my nerdy player two

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Hello! I am a 37 year old guy looking for a partner. Like many people, I don't enjoy talking about myself so let me sum it up as follows; I would prefer to have a night in rather than go out, I would rather play videogames, have a cuddle on the couch, watch movies or just have a chat than go out for a night out. Although I do enjoy going out, whether that be getting dressed up and going out on the town or just taking a walk. I am very caring, understanding and do have a quirky sense of humour. I was born and raised in the UK and am mixed race.

What I would really like is a partner that I could be myself with. Someone that is emotionally available and enjoys talking to me about virtually anything; from something very serious to something completely silly. I am an avid gamer and a geek, so if you also enjoy playing video games (bonus points if you play Overwatch) and also enjoy movies such as Star Wars, The Lord of the Rings, etc.; then we should be a good match.

I am looking for a long-term relationship and do not want to have a relationship with someone that is currently in a relationship; I do not like that. I am settled in my life, have a house, car, job, etc. So, if any of this interests you please reach out.

Happy to also exchange pics.


r/R4R30Plus • • 8h ago

31 [M4R] #NY #Online I just want to yap with someone who loves yapping and listening to yaps. Are you a yapper AND a listener? Yap me up.

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Look I'm cutting to the chase here, which is unusual for a yapper like me. I am looking to yap, not just text, and certainly not snail mail. I know we all got busy lives yadda yadda, but some of us prefer the warm voice of another human being, over the cold and distant text message. I'm not saying we can't text (especially when first feeling it out) but if that's the only form of communication, it gets stale quick 😮‍💨

Things about me to know before yapping me up:

- I'm in a happy monogamous relationship and not looking for anything other than friendship

- I'm very caring, wear my heart on my sleeve type of person. I am the person people walk up to and tell their life story to, and trust me with sensitive information (which isn't always fun 🤣)

- I am open-minded and outspoken, and I do not get along with those who live their lives with hate in their hearts (especially if that hate is towards queers, women, disabled, or non-white)

- I do not like most men. I grew up getting along with mostly women, and finding myself disgusted by the way many men talk, and how they often treat others. However, I am open to talking to men…I'm just much more cautious and picky.

- My hobbies include (but are not limited to) gaming, game design, reading, narrating, voice acting, writing, music, movies, TV, and driving.

I think I've covered enough ground there. Yap soon!


r/R4R30Plus • • 19h ago

35 [M4F] Ireland / Anywhere - Freelance creative ready to capture mischief.

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Howdy Redditors! I guess I kick this off with a little about me then..

I work full time as a freelance creative, so life tends to be a little less routine and a lot more...organised chaos...Slow mornings, travel, 3am edits, all whilst collecting stories and chasing good light. I’ve built a life around creating things that make me smile, and I’m far more drawn to experiences than possessions..

When I’m not working, I’m usually somewhere between two moods..getting lost in a fantasy novel or getting lost somewhere outdoors, with my camera in hand.

I love books with rich worlds, dangerous characters, hidden kingdoms, and plots that steal the little sleep I have left..because “one more chapter” becomes three. If you’ve ever ignored responsibilities for the plot, we’re already on the same page.

The outdoors has a pull on me too. Coastal air, forest paths, mountain views, random roads with no destination. I like places that feel a little wild. Bonus points if you’d happily disappear for a day trip with snacks, music, and no fixed plan..I've never been one for a rigid itinerary!

I game occasionally too, mostly when I want to switch my brain off or dive into another world for a while. If you’re competitive, smug in victory, or cute when you lose… even better..😉

Personality-wise, I’m cheeky, flirtatious, warm, and just about self aware enough to be dangerous. Give me banter, playful tension, and someone who can match energy instead of watching from the sidelines.

Confidence, wit and someone who can be sweet one minute and trouble the next..very much my cup of tea.

I enjoy travel. Discovering new cities, hidden bars, strange little bookshops and streets that feel cinematic. I’d like to meet someone who still gets excited by the idea of packing a bag and "seeing what happens"

Chemistry, energy and presence wins..EVERY TIME! Though I am a photographer, so if you ever felt like stepping in front of the lens, I’d probably encourage that.

Over all, I am looking for someone fun, curious, a little mischievous, and open to something genuine if the spark is there.

Come say hello. Be witty, be bold, and more than a little distracting. 😝


r/R4R30Plus • • 5h ago

38 [M4F] Texas/USA - BFF position open, apply within!!

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* No experience needed, applicant will be trained

* Paid in memes and pup pics

* Must work weekends and holidays

* Must be fluent in sarcasm

* Must come in early and stay late

* Benefits include being my bff and that’s about the best benefit ever.

I'm guessing you're wanting to know about me now huh? Well you're in luck because I feel like sharing some Fun Hobbies (lol jk they aren't fun at all, kinda sad TBH) I like to partake in, here there are!

Hobbies include...

* Switching between the same 4 apps for hours.

* Not speaking to anyone for days at a time.

* Listening to the same songs i listened to 15 years ago.

* Putting myself in situations that will never exist

* Long walks to the liquor store.

* Staying in my pajamas way too long.

* Staying up wayyyy too late.

* Being tired all day due to previous statement.

* Drinking everything but water.

* Putting stuff in my cart online but never checking out.

* Making lists of things i will never do.

So yeah! If that sounds like your type of friend, hit me with an orange envelope. Due to difficulty with trying to keep a conversation with someone with the opposite schedule, please be somewhat close to central time. Or just like…not opposite Lol. Mention the phrase Pineapple on pizza so I know you read the entire thing please 😊


r/R4R30Plus • • 14h ago

31 [F4M] UK and Europe. Long post ahead!

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Hey

Just a warning that this is going to be a long post. Don’t message me if you don’t live in the UK or Europe. Thank you.

Who am I after:
\-a man aged 25-45;
\-ideally living in the UK but will consider the most of Europe; Balkan and Slavic men to the front though haha.
\-someone who speaks English (how else are we going to communicate?)
\-Christian of some sort of a denomination (orthodox would be perfect but will consider others too!). I’m an inquirer at my local Greek Orthodox Church, soon enough to become a catechumen.
\-someone mature, loving, caring, funny, patient, affectionate, protective and dominant. A lover and a best friend.
\-someone who doesn’t smoke and drinks occasionally, almost teetotal (same as me). Same with drugs, no drug use whatsoever.
\-height or weight don’t matter to me; I am more of a nice face person.
\-a coffee drinker! I love a coffee and cake date. Maybe with a book too

What am I after:
\-something long term and meaningful.
\-an old school man led relationship.
\-my safe person whom I can confide in, someone who will become my home.

I know it might be something that isn’t for everyone and I completely respect that. If this is the case, I am wishing you all the best in your search for the one!

About me:
My name is Anita and I am 31yo woman living in the UK but originally from Eastern Europe. I moved here 11 years ago. I go back home twice a year and it would be amazing to have someone to come with me so I can bore them to death about my hometown and show them all the places I used to hang out at as a kid.

I work, I’ll disclose that later but I can assure you that it isn’t anything interesting. It’s a job, pays my bills and helps me stay afloat. Even though I work loads and stupid hours, I am willing to make time for the right person.

Physical side of things: I would consider myself as alternative looking. I dye my hair red, wear rather quirky clothes and heavy makeup is my go to. I am 6ft tall or 180cm (yes, I am definitely a woman; just that women from my dad’s side were basically giants). Not sure about my weight but I’ve gone down 2 sizes in clothes which I’m very happy about.

Personality wise: extreme introvert but it doesn’t mean I’m shy. I’m a very outspoken person when I have to be but most of the time I keep to myself. I don’t like large crowds or loud noises. I would say I’m a loving, affectionate, relatively funny, compassionate and considerate person. My love languages are physical touch and acts of service.

I’ll get this out of the way: I suffer from bipolar disorder (diagnosed at 12) and extreme anxiety. They tend to impact my everyday life but I am taking medication and waiting to see a therapist (people in the UK know what I mean).

In my spare time I like to attend church, read books (true crime novels and occasionally a Bible verse or two!), spend time with my family, chill with my cats, nap, over think, watch stuff on my iPad and travel back home.

While I might not lead an exciting life but I find it peaceful. I’m not looking to change it but to introduce someone to my world. Maybe it’s you?

If any of what I rambled about resonates with you, shoot me a message stating your name, age and location.


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

34 [M4F] - Do You Work From Home, Too?

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I'm of the opinion the ONLY good thing to come out of the 'rona was the new-found acceptance of so many office workers to be able to now work from home.

I'm a hybrid guy, so I feel like I have the best of both worlds. When I go into the office, I do anything relating to physical paper, the high intensity tasks, the more collaborative efforts.

But when I'm WFH, well, chances are I'm not getting out of my PJs until noon. If I don't have any meetings, I end up with a lot of free time.

That's where you come in. Do you wanna keep me company? That sounded kinda conceited, 'cuz I'd like to keep you company, too. I basically have no filter and no limits, so I'll be sure to keep it interesting.

Set your Teams status to busy. Let's go!


r/R4R30Plus • • 18h ago

39 [M4F] #Toronto Canada - looking for that spark!⚡️

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I’m 39, 6'0", shaved head, Caucasian. I’m hwp and I have a successful well-paying career. I’m driven, intelligent, kind, caring, and respectful. I like to stay active but also like to just chill and watch Netflix, or sports.

Hoping to meet someone who is funto keep life interesting 😆. I tend to thrive in chaos. Ideally you are hwp, have a good heart deep down, a good sense of humour and looking for someone like me.

Looking to chat a bit first and take things from there. Send me a DM!


r/R4R30Plus • • 21h ago

36 [m4f] uk. Need some company and a laugh.

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  1. Uk. Need some company and a laugh.

Morning or afternoon all. Whatever time you’re reading this.
As us all. I don’t really know what to write because it just seems like I’m blabbing along just to fill the space.
I’m looking for a chat. Conversation that can go on the whole day and beyond which will hopefully lead into a friendship

I’m not looking for an thing in particular just good sense of humour, can you hold a conversation
If so
Come say hello with a little introduction

I love food. I cook I love to dance around the kitchen and sing so out of tune it scares the birds away.
So it’s over to you.


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

[M4F] Looking for connection 32M

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Hiee

Am 32 m from India anyone up for DM.....

Let's get connected and see where the waves takes us ...

If you are looking for someone interesting with whom u can share urs valvauable time... Than let get connected


r/R4R30Plus • • 22h ago

43 [F4R] Aussie Seeking Friends

4 Upvotes

Hi all,

I'm a socially awkward somewhat autistic queer F who has realised that the downside to being an introvert is not having anyone to talk to.

I love cats and crafts and horror and sci-fi. I read a lot and have a few favourite games on my PC. I like the spooky and macabre. I would have called myself a goth many years ago but was never any good at make-up!

I'm looking for platonic friends. I have a beautiful MTF wife, and two teenagers who wish I would socialise and be less boring.


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

42 [M4F] Spring Hill – Single Dad, Educator, Guitarist & Puppy Parent Looking for a Genuine Connection

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Hey there, thanks for stopping by!
I’m 42, recently divorced, and stepping into a fresh chapter of life with a positive outlook, a clear head, and a full heart. I work as a high school educator and administrator, which basically means my days are filled with solving problems, staying patient, and finding humor in the everyday chaos. Lately, I’ve been focusing heavily on my health, fitness, and overall well-being—taking care of myself and making sure I feel as good as I look.
When I’m off the clock, music is a central part of my life. I play both acoustic and electric guitar, love discovering new tracks, and always enjoy catching live shows or swapping playlists. I’m also a big sports fan, whether that means keeping up with college football and basketball, watching pro games, or grabbing a bite to catch a matchup. Home life stays lively as a single dad, especially now that I’ve added a goofy, adorable 6-month-old Golden Retriever puppy to the household. He will definitely try to steal your heart, and I’m not above using his charm to land a second date.
By nature, I’m easygoing, witty, and grounded. I appreciate clever banter, quick humor, and having a good laugh with someone who doesn't take life too seriously.
I’m looking to meet a woman who is warm, confident, and genuine—someone who enjoys great conversation and creating genuine memories together. Whether that’s exploring a local spot, relaxing with a drink and live music, getting outside for a change of scenery, or just enjoying a cozy night in where chemistry takes over, I’m ready to share quality time with someone who makes life feel just a little sweeter.
If you appreciate a guy who is secure, funny, knows how to play a few chords, and respects your time, send me a message. Tell me a bit about yourself, your favorite artist or band, or what your ideal weekend looks like.
Looking forward to hearing from you. 😉


r/R4R30Plus • • 13h ago

34F [F4M] I know that meaningful connections don’t happen overnight, and I don’t expect to find a relationship right away.

11 Upvotes

About Me

34F lives in the US

My Life and Interests

I enjoy the simple things that make everyday life beautiful. I like coffee, cooking, reading, going for walks, and traveling when I have the opportunity. I also enjoy quiet evenings at home, with no need to rush anywhere, just relaxing and enjoying the moment.

To me, life doesn’t always have to be about exciting activities or big adventures. Sometimes, the most meaningful moments are the ordinary ones spent with the right person.

The Kind of Person I Hope to Meet

I usually find it easier to connect naturally with men who are older than me. However, I believe maturity, character, and how two people treat each other matter much more than age.

I hope to meet a thoughtful man who is willing to invest emotionally in a relationship rather than simply pass the time.

I’d like to learn about your life, interests, goals, and the little things that have made you who you are today.

What matters most to me is that we can be ourselves, communicate openly, and treat each other with patience and understanding.

I also understand that everyone has a life outside of dating. I don’t expect us to message each other constantly throughout the day. I believe what truly matters is having meaningful conversations and feeling that the interest and effort are mutual.

Perhaps we’ll introduce each other to new foods, different perspectives, or little things we might never have discovered on our own.

If things go well, I hope we can eventually build a peaceful and supportive relationship that also has its own unique joys, where both people feel valued and understood.

I know no relationship is perfect, and I’m not looking for perfection. I’m looking for someone who is willing to invest sincerely and see what we can build together.

I’d Also Love to Get to Know You

What does a good relationship look like to you? What do you usually enjoy doing when you have a day to yourself? Is there anything you’ve always wanted to share with a partner? It could be a hobby, a tradition, a place you’d love to travel to, or simply the everyday moments of life.

If you feel we might get along after reading this, feel free to send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. Rather than exchanging a few generic introductions, I’d much rather get to know the real person behind the profile.

I’m also open to meeting someone who lives in another part of the United States, as long as we’re both willing to make a genuine effort to get to know each other and can realistically work through the challenges of distance.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I hope you find what you’re looking for, too.


r/R4R30Plus • • 10h ago

32[F4M], #Idaho #Online, looking for meaningful conversation

5 Upvotes

I’m hoping to give Reddit another shot.
Please no inappropriate messages as a hello, I won’t accept.

If we connect I’m happy to exchange pictures but for a quick description I’m 5’0”, curves, long blonde/brown hair and tattoos.

I’m looking for something on the old-fashioned side of romance. Someone I can be soft around. Someone who can lead without being controlling. Dating apps are burning me out beyond belief and I just want to talk with someone who wants something similar. I’m attracted to the dynamic age gap relationships embody as well (older men only, please).

I love writing out thoughtful messages and I’m hoping to find someone who enjoys it as well.

About me:
I’m 32|F, I live with my cat and dog in a cozy cottage style space. I have myself together and I’m looking for someone who has the same. I’m mostly a homebody, I enjoy sewing, embroidery, reading, baking, anything craft or diy related. It would be ideal to find someone that enjoys existing in the same space while doing our own hobbies, or sharing them.

I’m sober and while I don’t mind going out here and there I don’t think I will connect well with someone who enjoys that environment all the time. I love the idea of having smaller get togethers, friends over for dinner and etc. I love early coffee dates, slow mornings, thrifting and late night card games.

If any of this resonated with you feel free to say hi.


r/R4R30Plus • • 20h ago

32 [F4M] caffeine, terrible jokes and maybe a friend

6 Upvotes

Because true friendship, regardless if it's a romantic relationship at the same time, is hard to find.

Well, to me at least. It needs this similar shaped kind of human. A little fucked up, varied interests, a healthy portion of humor and also confident.

I am these things but also soft and sensitive. I know my weak points though and try to communicate :)

I like food and talking about it, coffee, music, art. Being outdoors but also video games at home.

This here can be anything. Let's just see what we have in common. Around 25 - 40 would be the ideal age.


r/R4R30Plus • • 33m ago

33 [M4F] #North Carolina / USA - Introvert looking for other half

• Upvotes

About Me:

I got the body of a cafeteria lady. (I'm chunky).

6'2" and White

Work Full Time as a Pharmacy Technician.

PC Gamer in my down time. Mostly shooters and RPGS. Dabble in some MMO's (Mostly Maplestory) from time to time. Also Minecraft and Hytale!

Also a huge Pokemon fan, Have played competitively since Gen 4. Own a Nintendo Switch.

Tech nerd. I love learning about, and building PCS.

I watch a ton of tech channels on YouTube. I love learning about Microphones, Cameras, Audio Mixing gear, Computer parts, Content Creator gear, etc.

Good sense of humor and I don't take myself too seriously. I especially love dark humor.

Huge music person. I listen to mostly pop rock, pop punk, and acoustic stuff. Been on an Angels and Airwaves binge lately. Huge Tom Delonge fan!

I've been told I have a nice voice but you can be the judge.

What I'm Looking For:

I have a preference for Asians, Latinas, and White women.
I love short women.
I love a good bubbly personality.
Kindness and loyalty are a must.

NOT LOOKING FOR ANYONE OUTSIDE THE USA.
Willingness to communicate and not keep things bottled inside.
Sense of humor, preferably dark humor.
I am a sucker for playful banter and jokes between us.
Similar interests and hobbies so we have something to do together!

Hope to hear from you soon!


r/R4R30Plus • • 1h ago

36 [M4F] KY

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See what I did there, forgot to put my age. Haha.

Well looking for a friendly female companion to chat with, like I said preferably eastern Kentucky. Maybe someone that would be interested in a workout partner.

Description of me: 6'1" average build, blue eyes, black haur


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

35 [M4F] #New England - Just casually searching for my future wife and love of my life. No biggie!

1 Upvotes

35 year old male from New England here looking to find my future wife for all things happily-ever after. I'm at the point where I'm just really all set with dating. I want to find my person, dive into her arms forever, and figure out how to be the best, most authentic versions of ourselves that we can so we can live out the rest of our lives in fairy-tale fashion.

I have a social life, friends, eat a plant-based diet, keep myself physically fit, have all my teeth, am not horrendous to look at, I enjoy cooking, I WFH, I love a night in with my loved ones curled up comfy on the couch watching a movie or favorite TV show and eating our favorite snacks. I'm a great driver (really). As much as I love a good night in, I also enjoy going out occasionally. Staying in is fun and all, but eventually I'll get cabin fever and need to go out to dinner or go dancing to live music or do some other kind of fun night-on-the-town type activities.

I love being in nature. Going on walks along any body of water is one of my favorite ways to ground myself. I play music, and would really love if we could play/sing/write songs together.

My ideal partner cares about her mental, physical, and spiritual well-being, wants to start a family of her own, is probably creative in some way, whether that's poetic, artistic, musically inclined, a good cook, or just is the downright funniest person ever. I want my future wife to be optimistic, fun-loving, kind, nurturing, genuine, have a beautiful smile and eyes that reflect her beautiful soul. I want to find someone with compatible sexual chemistry, who wants to start a family (eventually) and cares about being a good person.

If that's you, please say hi and tell me a little bit about yourself. I can't wait to hear from you!


r/R4R30Plus • • 3h ago

39 [M4F] Montreal/Canada/US - Looking for good banter

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I seek a worthwhile fun distraction for the worst and best of times. Looking for someone down to earth, kind, playful and preferably a bit witty/funny who can handle a playful roast both ways. I am not looking for anything wild or serious, just someone to fill in the boring parts of the day and elevate the good ones.

If you are you a good texter, have a good sense of humor and don’t take yourself too seriously...Then we’ll we’d probably be a good fit. I’m generally calm and serious but an escape does wonders for the soul. If you're seeking something for more than just a couple hours shoot me a message and say hello. Tell me anything about you as an ice breaker.:)


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

31 [M4F] Online - Chatting

0 Upvotes

Hey there.

I dont have a long thing to post about so ill just give a bit about me. Im 31 and live in CST. My latest hobby has been working out and modifying my home gym. You can usually find me in the garage early in the morning trying to be consistent. Im working through a lot of goals in life and would love to talk about them. Im an easy going guy and find myself just enjoying company and being social. My favorite vibe is a campfire on a cool night with a bourbon.

Not looking for anything specific, open to any chats sfw or nsfw. Come say hi.


r/R4R30Plus • • 6h ago

40 [M4F] Oregon/Online - Looking for daytime banter before I start naming the houseplants

1 Upvotes

40, Portland, OR, WFH in tech. The job is fine. The house is quiet. By 2pm I’ve already had entire conversations with the microwave and given two of the plants names they did not ask for.

Looking for a woman to chat with during the day. Easy and fun. Banter, teasing, the occasional badly timed joke. If it turns a little flirty, even better. I like that kind of back and forth. Bonus points if you also work in tech.

I’m on X more than I should be. I listen to the Red Scare podcast, Anna and Dasha. The Perfume Nationalist. Rare Candy. If you’ve been in that orbit, we will probably get along.

I’m not trying to make this a whole production. I like talking to someone who’s sharp and doesn’t take herself too seriously. If you can make a Monday afternoon interesting, that’s pretty much my type.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, say hi. Tell me what you’re avoiding at work or home right now. I’ll tell you about the latest meeting I keep postponing.


r/R4R30Plus • • 10h ago

37 [M4F] Chicago/ Anywhere: Do You Like Scary Movies? If not, how about long walks on the beach?

1 Upvotes

Hi, I’m John from Chicago!

I’m a pretty average, what ya see is what you get kinda guy. I have a 13 year old rescue dog named Buddy who is my entire world. I love film, mainly horror, but I’ll legit watch anything. I often spend my weekdays after work on Tubi looking for movies I’ve never heard of.

On my downtime you can find me at my fav movie theaters, shooting pool at the dive bar down the street, or taking my good boy on walks. I love spending time with friends, but I also enjoy being home bound here and there.

I’ve tried dating apps and they just suck. So I’m here on Reddit trying this out! I’m looking for someone I can be myself with. Someone who I can enjoy little trips with. Someone can enjoy the big moments in life with, and be content in the small ones.

Location doesn’t matter to me. I’m not tied down to Chicago. Let’s talk and see if we click!


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

32 [F4M] Philippines

1 Upvotes

Just putting myself out here!! Who knows… a good conversation, genuine connection, a meaningful relationship? We never know until we try :)

Sfw only!


r/R4R30Plus • • 11h ago

40 [M4F] #SanDiego - Completely honest and transparent view of me. So no mysteries!

1 Upvotes

Hello!

Here is my totally honest/transparent view of me and will answer any question with honesty. I am laying it all out there!

I am looking for a romantic connection long term relationship, short term is fine AND I am totally with being strickly platonic. I am 40M, 5'11ish, 150 lbs, lean athletic build.

Last year my ex was wife left me wanting a different life. She was severely depressed and I tried to help best I can. I hope she ultimately does find happiness again. I had to go through a emotional JOURNEY to get to a level I feel happy (therapy, avoiding bad habits? Etc.). I had a vasectomy done last year. I don't want my own bio kids and neither did my ex wife.

I am still in the dead beginning of the divorce process which has beeen initiated last year in September. sigh! Once it is all submitted there is a 6 month waiting period no matter what. It is amicable. No drama. She wants a different life and I respect that. She has a boyfriend now too. I am hoping to meet someone too. :)

When I was 18, I had brain surgery due to bacterial meningitis and it resulted in me literally getting a half lobotomy, I am missing my left frontal lobe. I may be a bit weird but I am pretty cool! Honest! I may be a bit neurodivergent. Its a miracle I am alive. I function normally too.

I have a full time job working from home doing contract management for the university. Its a cozy job and pays decently. I live by myself in a cute lil apartment thats in the hood. There is mostly prostitutes around here so its not dangerous. They wave at me when I drive by, so friendly!

I was also diagnosed with Multiple Sclerorsis in my mid 20s. I am extremely fortunate how healthy I am. I am in the best shape in my life now. I just need to be mindful how I am physically feel. I sometimes have balance issues.

I RARELY drink. I don't smoke.

I am a massive nerd and I enjoy some anime and play video games.

OKAY still here? Here is what I've been doing to help me in my healing journey AND this is something I am still doing.

At the start of this year I self initiated my personal "Do Something Different 2026" initiative as my healing journey!

Essentially I am trying to get out of my comfort zone, make friends, be part of communities, etc. I still got time to try new things this year and beyond. Its not always about doing something new but rather breaking the cycle of routine.

I've tried:

Knitting with a group of old ladies

Started streaming retro sega video games on Twitch

Played DnD for the first time with the Ladies of DnD during a con

Trying to learn Magic the Gathering. I am trying to build a commander deck around the Sonic the Hedgehog cards. I need help.

Started to learn how to play Mahjong in San Diego Mahjong club (Thanks to the Yakuza series!)

Did some random meditative hikes with randos

Joined in group conversations with the "Death Cafe" group

Participated in a cosplay contest as Steve from Blues Clues

Played Smash Bros in front of a live band in front of a crowd

Played a ton of new board games

Played Chess with randos in the SD Chess Club

Participated in trivia night at a bookstore event

And more!

I am looking to so more things too like -

I want to learn how to skate board or roller blades or both

Maybe learn to dance like those cool hip hop dance moves I see on instagram

Crochet would be fun to learn too

I have an electric bass but I am a beginner still. My skill level is "Blink 182"

I wanna learn judo to throw people and run if I run into trouble lol

Ive been going to these sort of things by myself. While I am getting used to doing things solo - it would be great to try new things with a partner (or platonic friend)

I am in decent shape so any athletic-ish activities would be fun too.

I would love to meet someone who would to check out new activities. Let's do something different together!

Anyways, if you want to try something and want someone to tag along with, reach out to me. I'll definitely go if I have time! I need to rebuild my social circle here. I am fine with platonic friends. I am a LGBT ally and progressive.

My DMs are open and I can share selfies or go ahead and look through my profile. I post nonesense.

Thank you for reading all of this. :)