I certainly belive that it does. But I've seen alot of people say that it shouldn't because of the chance that kids could be there, which i belive is pretty irrelevant since kink gear has been present at festivals since the begging and I personally belive it's weirder to change that then for people to accept that not every place can be kid appropriate.

Speaking as a straight woman, I had my first crush on a boy in preschool when I was probably 3-4 years old. I know from an extremely early age I was attracted to boys. So it surprises me to hear things from LGB people saying “this picture was in middle school before I knew I was gay” or “my bullies knew I was gay before I did”.

Do some people genuinely not know they’re attracted to the same sex during childhood/teen years? Did the fact that heterosexual relationships are the “default” make it so that you mischaracterized your same sex attraction as just friendship or appreciation? Were you just genuinely not attracted to the same sex until you hit puberty? I’m so curious

I was just thinking to myself about whether labeling one's sexuality is actually helpful. I decided to look up the opinions of queer people, and a lot of them said that it can be very useful when somebody is trying to figure out their sexuality.

Then it hit me... What does it actually MEAN to figure out your sexuality?

For me, there was no questioning. I don't even think about it. Usually, I'm attracted to women, but sometimes I'll be attracted to a man.

I never had to sit down and ask myself "Do I like women AND men?" because, well, yeah. I do.

So it's strange to me that people say questioning your sexuality is important because... To me it just seems like figuring out which box you fit in the most. Which brings me back to how I started this post. (It's all just circular reasoning, isn't it...)

Anyway, maybe I'm wrong! Maybe I'm a fucking idiot! But I just don't understand this, because it just seems like a roundabout way of defining a concept that doesn't even need defining in the first place.

EDIT: I'm just talking about sexuality here! Not gender!

I am a girl; I use she/her pronouns, and I love being really feminine, but I absolutely hate the idea that I have a uterus and all of the other female anatomy. I often find myself thinking that I wish I had male anatomy. It's a deep-seated disgust, and I don't understand why. I absolutely love she/her pronouns, and I can't see myself using he/him, so I don't think I'm trans. I'm comfortable with my gender, but not my sex. Like, I wish I were a trans girl instead. Does anyone know what this is called, or is it just the TV glowing

1- why are there more gay people than lesbians ? especially in the united states ?

2- why are the divorce rates for lesbian couples the highest ? i’ve had people telling me about this recently and it’s honestly causing me to be worried because i’m in a relationship with a woman that i want to take seriously for once but after hearing this fact it instilled paranoia in my mind . is it true that lesbians have the highest divorce rates ?

So no idea where else to post this but i want to know am i bi for finding girls with male genitalia attractive. Please someone answer this and please don’t judge me. Thanks in advance

Okay so im not hating and I am a twink so don't take this the wrong way, but why do we have a pride flag??? Im just very confused and I didn't think that we would have one

For context, I am a nonbinary FAB.

For a long time I struggled trying to find a gender neutral name that I genuinely liked. I went through Kennedy, Danny, Kenny, Cedar, Fergie, and so many others but they all felt uncomfortable to me, like something wasn’t right. Just around a year ago I finally stumbled upon ‘Chous’. It might seem odd but it was the first one that really felt like me (+ it’s from a show I really like)! As I have met new people, though, I have been told that it sounds stupid.
Anyways, I am wondering more and more if maybe they are right and I should choose something with more substance..?

Hello,

I’m a Bi woman and because I spend most of my time in queer femme spaces, I’m wondering if there’s something I’m missing out on

I live in Europe and we have some very prominent conservative politicians that are gay men. So I tried to google statistics on how different factions within the gsrm community vote and though I couldn’t find very reliable sources, there is some indication that they lean centre-right as a whole or at the very least are the most conservative voters within the lgbt+ community.

When I tried to find out reasons for this, I found some talking points repeated by people on the Internet.

For one, some of them seem to disagree with the modern ‘progressive’ political agenda as it pertains to the queer community and feel like their lives are worse because of it (or that they face more homophobia because of it)

A few others disagree with leftists being accepting of people with different religious/ethnic backgrounds and said that they feel unsafe because of said people (which is interesting because I do not see any lesbian/bi women being Islamophobic citing reasons related to safety and homophobia)

The latter I think doesn’t require a lot of explanation on what the rhetoric is but can someone shed any light on the first point about (cis) gay men disagreeing with the more recent inclusion of other queer identities within the lgbtq+ space or whatever the progressive political agenda that they disagree with is?

I don't really get the appeal or it, and most things I've heard or seen of it look pretty painful or unpleasant, and also very exposing when it comes to sex, but so many people enjoy it, so I just wanted to know what it was like from a different point of view

P.S. People can be as crude or graphic in their answers as they want! I've just been really curious about this for a while bc the whole concept of sex sounds like a nightmare to me, but most people describe it like its life changing and i am just like pretty curious about sex and like the Mechanics of it, just not for myself

oh, btw I'm a lesbian if that matters!

also also! i would appreciate answers outside of "bc it feels good" or "bc of chemicals in the brain that-" because i already know that and want to know what YOU think about it or of it and your experience!

Hello everyone,

sorry if this post rambles on a bit or anything, i've never really discussed this and want to add as much info as possible.

I am autistic 19M and have always had very feminine characteristics persay? The way I express myself via gestures, or communicate myself, potentially posture and walk, random stuff like that.

I've never really quite fit in (no surprises there lol) and always struggled to find my crowd regardless of whom.

I live with my mum who is not interested in men or relationships (for about 10 years now) and frequently see my sisters, one of which uses nonbinary pronouns and my sister in law who I believe is pansexual, but highly orientated towards women if I remember correctly. Over the years, i've sat next to a lot of conversations revolving around "hating men" and "sexist men", basically anything relating to negativity towards men which as a shy, non-conflictual person have lightly argued on with them before, but neutrally saying that their points apply to every gender. I see my dad every now and again, who has very feminine characteristics himself, however is a straight man. I've never had any pressure from my family about "conforming" to gender or sexuality, but as stated with the anti-men conversations, has maybe pressured my wishes of being born female from time to time, especially being the only male in an all female family.

I've always had long hair and always been told it suits me, and find joy in things like jewellery and for a short time used eyeliner frequently before stressing about others/family judgement and ditching it, but I have thought about maybe using it again.

I don't think this matters too much in terms of the post, however I do identify as Pansexual, with more attraction towards females, or female appearing people (if that makes any sense). I find men attractive, but not as sexually and romantically as females at the best of times. Also worth noting that the majority of my exes have been FTM trans.

I think the main points making me question my identity is gender envy? I will quite often look at a woman and think to myself "god I wish I could look like that" and spiral for a few hours about what it could mean before I shove the thoughts to the side and get on with life. What I mean with the gender envy is like, I wish I could have their attractive attributes? I envy the clothes they can pull off, the bodies they have, the features and makeup they can have without the judgemental side of it. I don't know if I'd feel any different if I would have them myself, but everytime I see a woman who I think is beautiful and gives me gender envy I go down a complete rabbithole for hours (hence why i'm making this post). I don't really get this with men? I consciously realise i'm a feminine man who doesn't fit in or really work out, so I envy men in the way of that I'm not exactly like, bog standard slim or muscular and that it may contribute to me not being very popular because it's another thing I struggle to find connecting to men with.

Speaking of, i've always found I do connect with feminine men and women better than standard or masculine guys. I'm definitely dramatic in how I engage and present myself, but not theatrically. My best friends are a younger gay man (born male) who's also finding himself out, and a woman who's spent years figuring out her gender identity (born female) and stuck with female, but is also pansexual. These two (aswell as maybe some family) I have never felt any judgement about who or what I am and I can be myself around, and it's amazing, but I want to work out who I am for myself, but also them as to not confuse us all anymore lol.

I haven't done much in terms of attemting to see if female clothing or lifestyle things would suit me more or less for lack of availability and fear of judgement from others, but also myself.

Extra note whilst reading this, I watched a video about this webcomic called 'Welcome to the internet Transvesite!' and realised that in my past, I used a community roleplaying app called amino (it's a whole story for those of you that were lucky enough to never find this app) and frequently as a young person (like maybe 8-14?) roleplayed as female personas online and was sexually roleplayed by people as one and, regretfully, it being my first sexual experiences ever also enjoyed it, but in the sense of that it pleased others and men.

I know there is more than likely info i'm missing, and it's not a clear black and white "you are trans!" but I've spent years feeling like this and just maybe want some guidance from others who might know how this feels?

If you've read this far, thank you for your time and any contributions in the form of advice or any comments would really help me at the moment. Thank you again everyone!

I am a trans guy and I am finally getting around to writing the book I've had in my head for ages. My goal is to write more fantasy books with more trans/non-binary representation, with a more specific goal of the characters just living in the world and their identity not being the point of the story.

TLDR The main character (MC) helps spark a rebellion, leads it with their love interest (who is a man), and progressively becomes more and more corrupt throughout the novel (the man becomes corrupt as well).

I am not concerned about my ability to write a character like this. I am very worried about people reading it and misinterpreting it as an excuse to hate on non-binary people, no matter how well the character is written and despite the fact that them turning villainous has nothing to do with their gender identity. I do have several other characters in the book as trans & under the non-binary umbrella, who aren't going to turn evil, so it is not like MC is the only one.

Unfortunately I have seen this happen for similar instances before, and I wanted to get external opinions to see if it is a valid concern or if I am overthinking it.

please help I have had two people so far that I thought i was getting to be really close friends with ask me out.

now one of those friends is my flatmate and is telling me NOW about a girl he “asked out” with success. I’m happy for him and all, but then he reveals he actually asked her to meet for lunch with no explicitly stated romantic intentions.

I don’t understand. Is this normal? He thinks that I am the crazy one because I told him that it doesn’t count as a date or even a “half date” because she added excessive exclamation points in her text response. Do all alloromantic people play mind games like this? I have half a mind to call him on spouting bullshit because he never managed to successfully date a girl but to be fair I haven’t either (not that I’ve tried).

I don‘t like that people will act nice to me and want to hang out with me and it turns out that what they want to do is date. So I need to know: how can I be clued in to this without leading someone on for half a year? I’ll probably start bringing up early on that I’m aro when I meet people. I guess. But generally I prefer not to out myself as alloaro because it’s something about myself that disgusts me sometimes.

I have to create training for work and I really want to hear from queer people themselves. I'm thinking obvious things like, how to use gender neutral language when greeting people or avoiding assumptions about gender and sexuality. But from people who have actually worked in customer service, what do you wish the staff knew about our community?