He never mentioned he has a snapchat account. He said he only had instagram and Tiktok as his social media. He never mentions it. Then, I made an snap account and found his profile. He’s always online and he posts stories. I also caught him once looking at other people’s profile and at that time I was not aware that it was snapchat, so I ignored it. I only found out it was snapchat when I downloaded the app. Then, these past few days, everytime he searches an app on his iPhone, the first suggestion is Snapchat. He didn’t know that I was aware of this. Should I confront him about it? Should I ask him to show me who he chats with? He posted a picture he sent me in the morning. Then he posted this picture he never sent me in the evening. Isn’t this a suspicious picture to post? Am I being cheated on?

This is for the largest Painting Commission I have ever been hired to do. It's a huge 24" by 36" Painting on Stretched Canvas. Made with Acrylic and Oil paint and heavily varnished. I hope you enjoy :)

See actual photo: https://imgur.com/a/biggest-painting-commission-ever-5ikQs6k

Do you think gay guys would read a MM erotica book with a plot? I've been working on one that combines slow romance build up, detective mystery, erotic sensuality, with some conventional sex encounters. It's a Victorian setting and prose heavy. Bears and bear-adjacent heavyset men.

I'm a guy writing for guys, but have not published before and am now wondering what my audience potential could be. 

I already have the first book nearly finished,  and have two more planned in its series, but am having some serious doubts now. This has been an ongoing back and forth tug of war through the entire writing process, but now that it's coming close to being ready to put out there, I'm feeling like "this is so stupid and pointless, what is the point of all this, would anyone actually read this/pay to read this?" I've been able to tell myself it's for personal gratification earlier on, but now that's not quite cutting it. :(

Thoughts appreciated.

EDIT: Thanks for all the input! I won't promote anything here, so please contact me directly if you are interested in what's currently upcoming/available. To add some additional detail, the current project is likely going to be around/in excess of 350+ pages depending on the format (intending to release ebook and paperback).

Another factor that has been really making me wonder who would enjoy this style is that it leans heavily sensual (body-focused), more than raw bursts of explicit sex. The specific acts during the sexual encounters are left slightly vague, and I know my own preference for MM sex during a story is to focus on variants of frot. I don't want potential readers to feel like they've been "bait-and-switched" when they discover a lack of penetrative pounding action but at the same time don't want to sabotage the work by causing readers to prematurely dismiss it for not being sexually intense enough.

Hey bros!

If you're in San Francisco and work in tech (or are trying to break into the industry), we're getting together for a casual Gays In Tech happy hour this Friday at Blackbird!

It's a free monthly meetup for gay, bi, and pan guys to meet new people, make friends, talk about work (or literally anything else like your recent trip, evil landlord etc), and build connections outside of the usual dating apps.

Software engineers, designers, product managers, creatives, people dealing with layoffs, career changers — all welcome. You definitely don't need to have your career figured out to come.

There's no formal programming, awkward icebreakers, or expectations. Just a bunch of guys hanging out and getting to know each other.

Details:

• Friday, October 16
• 6:30–8:30 PM
• 📍 Blackbird, 2124 Market St, San Francisco
• Free to attend (just pay for your own drinks if you want any)

Coming alone? Totally fine. That's kind of the point of these meetups! We're all nice.

Here's the Meetup link if you're interested:
https://www.meetup.com/gays-in-tech-networking/events/316845016/

Would be great to meet some fellow gaybros in person!

-Blu

Hi all, I just joined the subreddit today.

One thing I have been struggling with for a long time is facing constant low self-esteem due to my sexuality. I mean, you get it right? Living in a country as a young gay man where acting lovey-dovey between the same gender is frowned upon, I always feel like there's no chance for me to ever experience gay love. I also face insecurity with my looks, like I am frequently told I look older for peeps my age. (I am 20 this year.) Hence this explains my fear to make a move to find someone to even hook up, let alone date.

I don't know quite surely what it is I want here, but I just feel like venting my thoughts.

Have a good day, people. :3

Any input is appreciated on where to stay or if there’s a gay district to visit while on Beijing. Appreciate your input, mates.

Hi Everyone!

I run a Discord community called The Locker Room, which is a social space for gay men who are interested in the jock/bro lifestyle, fitness, sports, self-improvement, and generally just hanging out and connecting with other guys.

If you are interested in meeting new people, sharing/offering advice, hanging out and more, please feel free to join. I have included the link.

Enjoy guys, I had a flashing idea of connecting all my paintings as a series of stories but I forgot how it goes. So yeah anyway I still had some fun doing it.

After years of increasingly prevalent fake profiles and catfish scammers, this app now gives users an ultimatum: accept the new Terms Of Service or delete your account, but there’s no way to even see the Terms Of Service. They’re just counting on users to click Accept or leave now.

Not looking for grand gestures, just curious about the little things that made you think "okay, I really like this person."

For me it's stuff like remembering a random detail I mentioned once, or texting to check in on something stressful I had going on that day.

What's yours?

Looking for some perspective from you all folks. I'm struggling with the usual ways of meeting guys:
- Apps: I find them a bit weird, and I honestly can't tell if I'd like someone from a profile and a few messages.
- Bars/pubs: I don't drink, so it's not really my scene.
- The gym: This is where I'd love to meet someone, but my gaydar is terrible and I'd hate to make someone uncomfortable by hitting on a guy who isn't interested (or isn't gay).

So basically my question is this: how do you deal with this? Specifically:
- Has anyone actually met a partner or dates at the gym? Any success stories?
- If you've approached someone there, how did you do it without being creepy?
- Is it just a bad idea overall, and what do you do instead?

Also open to other ideas for meeting people that aren't apps or bars (sports leagues, hobby groups, etc.).

Thanks 🙏🏼✨

Literally got two combos in just one morning right now.

In context, I didn't sleep, playing minecraft all night and was horny.

Using the devil app : grindr.

The first one sent me pics and then deleted them on the app, (he looked decent) it was okay for me to bottom this morning. He also had take a flight in 6 hours.

Met the guy, different ?, looking slightly more overweight than his pics. To be clear i was okay with his body, i like it. it just that it different from what he showed me in his photos. And it was mostly the lack of hygiene

But that's not all, The moment we sat down on the bed, he immediately told me there was no vibe and woke up.

I asked if it was my physique, he said no but the mood.

So i tried to reassure him to calm down and that i was just shy at the moment.

I sucked his dick that had some kind of black mole or Smt. And other stuffs on his big tights. It was umm something, atleast it didn't smell bad...

Then the sex was so bad, he was topping me so fast, i kept telling him to slow down, until he failed many times to enter me, that he was so embarrassed and left... Not even wanting to finish the orgasm.

So I reused grindr to maybe save my day, and then an angel was bestowed upon me, an Italian, hot, and knows how to talk ( he uses condoms so he cares about stdis). He was very jolly and happy to meet me.

He came in a few minutes, i sucked his dick and he sucked mine.

And then when we were in bed, he said he was close. I told him can we atleast enjoy the moment and take our time ?.

He looked me straight in the eye and said :"make me cum".

At that moment i was shocked, i wish I didn't but i did and swallowed it and it was rancid.

He sucked mine and made me cum.

And then he just left and blocked me.

So i used my other account to say how fucked up he is (you can see the photo) only to be blocked again, no negotiation no comment on the why he act this way, just nothing. I still feel his cum on my mouth while writing this, it just sad.

And i already had a story with another Italian guy that rejected me even tho i loved him and we went to many dates and had sex plenty of times only to be told i was 9/20.

Why this much lack of humanity in this unlovable community ?, atleast some respect, and dignity ...

All i want is to hug and kiss and all, and keep in contact.

I feel like i am always used or betrayed by people even tho i try to be the most understanding guy...

hi , yesterday i was talking to this guy we exchanged albums and everything he looked good in the pictures and we decided to meet, when i went to his apartment it was him but less attractive, i think the pictures he had were edited because his facial features were different, skin tone is different and body is different, it was very uncomfortable at first i decided ti give him a chance but after having a conversation about the pictures he sent it seemed he lacked the self awareness that he doesn't look like that , so i faked a notification that my car door is open and took my keys to close it and left (i also saw drugs in his table the pictures weren't the only deal breaker) anyways this isn't the first time this happened to me and i don't want to be in this uncomfortable situation again how do i tell them in the start of the meeting that i'm not interested without hurting their feelings