I can't with this sub anymore, nor with any social media and any other social group. No one gives a shit until someone already has a garrot on their throat, and when they at last do - every living being (especially here) starts racing to text "Ooh, you're not alone, dms are opened, yada yada". Bullshit. Y'all don't give a fuck, but at the same time you are afraid of being accused of indifference, so you play pretend with yourselves. Who are you trying to trick, who?! Hypocrisy, blasphemy, total decay of honesty. But it's fine. Fine. I don't need you or anything else. I'm fed up with all this, straight up. I was holding the line, waiting, hoping, but I'm tired of doing so. What's the fucking point, anyway.

my social ineptitude permeates into my *entire life* and has undoubtedly cost me countless potential friendships, relationships, job opportunities, you name it. it hurts especially bad thinking about how much richer my life would be if I was just wired normally. as of right now I’m in college and have 0 friends, have never had any of the quintessential college experiences, have never done anything of note with my life. I’ve gone weeks without speaking to people outside of family/work; lonely isn’t even the right word to describe this. I am completely alone and don’t have the tools to fix it.

i always used to be insecure about being ugly, now i just wish someone told teenage/preteen me to stop obsessing over my looks. i think being neurodivergent is legit worse than being ugly, though they both suck. But at least if you’re ugly you can always just look better - I would easily take a massive ding to my looks with no hesitation if it meant i could have a normal social life.

I do not know if anyone else has experienced this and maybe not. But have you ever had just one friend and because they figured out they were your only friend, they took advantage of you in some way. Thinking you are more likely to put up with bad behavior because you don't have anyone else to turn to.

I haven't had true friends since I was 7 to 8 years old... I moved schools and that's when the bullying started and it lasted until I graduated from my vocational school. I am 22 now and I still don't have any friends at all. I am always alone and I just never fit in anywhere or with anyone. No one ever seems to want to talk to me or include me to their conversations and people my age don't even look at me. When I talk to people online majority seem to think I have autism so maybe I do and that's why no one really likes me.

It doesn't help that I live in a country that is very introverted by nature already where people don't really talk to strangers. Then on top of it me being very heavily introverted. I just feel so alone especially when I see people my age hanging out and laughing together, knowing that I will never have friends.

Sometimes I wish I could just have one friend I could see once every 6 months even.

My name is Anas. I'm 22 years old, and I'm a lonely person who's made some mistakes in life.

I have no girlfriend, no job, and no friends. It feels like I've lost everything, and now I'm alone, trying to figure out what to do with my life.

I tried to leave my country and start a new life somewhere else, but I couldn't make it happen.

I feel like I'm wasting my time. I don't know what to do or how to experience life the way other people my age do. Sometimes, I wish I could be like them.

That's all I have to say for now.

I'm going to start posting videos on this channel, hoping to find people I can talk to and feel a little less alone.

Thank you all for listening

I (43m) posted a few days ago about someone whom I met here was on the verge of taking their life. Earlier today they made the attempt. They are in another country, and when I hadn’t heard from them, I called their phone and someone picked up from the hospital. I did what I could to help get them in touch with her family. She’s stable, but she is obviously going to be admitted and I don’t even know if I will be able to talk to her.

But now it’s coming crashing down on me. I knew this person for less than 2 weeks, but we had an intense connection. I could see her like no one had seen her before, and she saw me like no one had seen me before. But she was in a mental health crisis, and even connection can’t help that…

Now I’m alone. So alone.

But not if ur older than 27 ty z

I have had no friends my entire life and am 29. I have nothing to do all day because every job rejects me. I have sent thousands of applications over the past three years. I’ve also tried to make friends with hundreds of people (tens of thousands including online) and am always rejected.

I especially never find anyone who is depressed and lonely like me. And at the least, serious and somber. It is valid to have that as a personality type and want to talk about serious and somber things in a serious and somber tone. Why is it so impossible for me even when I see people like this with friends? They reject me too.

I have to say goodbye to the only person who makes me happy, they won't know why and they'll be fine but the loneliness is already sitting heavy with me and it will get worse. I miss feeling secure and connected to people but now that's gone and I can't get it back. This loneliness is a crushing darkness that I can't escape and I feel I'm separated from the rest of the people, just wanted to vent because it sucks so bad that I have to lose the one person that I really treasured and will miss so badly it hurts ☹️

This weekend I was surrounded by my husband's family and my beautiful niece and I still felt nothing except the feeling of loneliness. I was fully involved with everything we were doing but still... I just felt lonely. I'm exhausted

Hi

How do I get the motivation to do stuff? How do you make friends? Life is so lonely. Please someone talk to me

I’m 21 F and it’s so hard rn. I struggle w body image issues, and I am very self conscious. I want to do all these things like travel, go to the gym, make more friends, etc. But I feel like ppl judge me to quickly or I over think every interaction. I’m also at the stage where it’s like I want a relationship but I also don’t because I feel like I can’t give my all…like I want that intimacy but I feel like I’m not in the right state for it. Ik it’s selfish of me to think that way, but I like cuddling and watching movies w someone, or like going on cute fall dates and wearing match PJ’s and just having that one person where u can be yourself around. Watching horror movies and laughing and dumbass tiktoks together. No matter how much I tell myself I am okay being a lone…I rly do want a pattern.

I moved to Melbourne 4.5 years ago, and they were right when they said you can't run away from your problems.

I'd always had trouble with intimate relationships, whether friendship or romantic. A fear of vulnerability I discovered, stemming from a difficult childhood and a broken family.

But something about being 24, my mental health has taken a turn and I feel like I'm hanging on by a thread. Maybe it was the ignorance and hopefulness of my early 20s that kept me afloat - but I'm truly feeling the exhaustion from never feeling like I belong, and I genuinely don't know what to do.

I am social, most people think I would never have an issue like this. I found out recently there's a term for those like me - a floater friend. Well liked but never belonging.

I do the sports, I do the clubs, I go to therapy, I reach out, I plan. But it seems that everyone around me has their tribe, all but me. Almost 5 years of trying has left me a shell of a person, please help.

I mean I have people around me but nobody's actually wants to have a conversation or anything, I very rarely speak to anyone and it's not that I don't want to so if anyone here just wants to blether my DMS are open

i don't know why but i keep feeling lonely.. single 25m .. now the i am thinking to j*rk off but then i thought i shouldn't.. what should i do.. .. try to study but after sometime start using phone..

I'm lonely. I don't have any friends, my family avoids me, and I'm bland, broke, and dependent. I don't need a girlfriend, just a friend or partner I can vibe and venture with. I know I'm only 23, but I feel like headbutting concrete or turning into a drunk clown and my only relief are the TV shows I cherish and envy. Is there something wrong with me?

Grief is a f*cker, i don't know how else to put it.

My partner, she died a little over 4 years ago and as the years have gone by the grief has gotten a little "easier", I think mainly because I understand it more as the time goes by...maybe.

One thing that hasn't gone away or subsided though is the feeling of being loved by someone so passionately, I miss being in love too but that feeling of someone being deeply in love with you and then having it snatched away overnight has me feeling so alone in this cruel world.

I'm a young widower, she died when she was 29 and I was 31 (although I turned 32 three days after she died) and it's my first experience of grief, the natural order of things didn't work out for me, where we naturally prepare of the deaths of grandparents and eventually parents, I lost my best friend and life partner before our lives could really start.

I go to work each day and come home to an empty flat, I walk into the living room but i'm not greeted with a hug and kiss, I'm greeted by the urn that sits on the top shelf, and I feel am emptiness inside me, a deep pressure in my chest which I call "my internal scream".

I have great friends and family and I don't shut myself away like I did in the beginning but my friends and family have lives to be getting on with, children to bring up, husbands/wives to love but that's the way things go, my life stopped but life carried on for everyone else.

I go to therapy and it helps, but the loneliness remains because even after a good session i'm still going home alone. It's the great irony of grief that the one person you know who can help you through it is the person that you're grieving for.

I just miss her so much and my life feels broken now she's gone, I am so lonely.

They treat me like air on a daily basis, they talk and joke with each others but ignore me. They give me tasks without any smile and basically treat me like air all the time

I feel like there is a gaping chasm that separates me from other humans. I was watching a YouTuber I like and she had a video where she speaks in her native language instead of English and it just made me think of the idea of disconnection.

I feel like no matter how hard I try or even how nice someone is....I am still the person unable to connect. I don't understand their language. I don't click with them or they don't click with me. I am too broken or mentally ill. I'm just the same suicidal headcase stuck in his room isolated and alone unable to connect. I'm like an alien that doesn't understand your language.

I rarely go out ,I never get invited to events or have a long list of people to buy for when the holidays come.

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I'm a woman from South America, and lately I've been thinking a lot about why I don't really have close friends.

It's not that I dislike people. I actually enjoy meeting new people, talking, getting to know them, and discovering who they are. But somehow, my friendships never seem to turn into something lasting. I often end up feeling like the third wheel in a group, or I meet people who seem interested at first but never really commit to building a friendship. After enough experiences like that, I've noticed that I've started doing the same thing myself. I stop reaching out, lose interest after a while, or don't put much effort into maintaining the connection. Sometimes I get tired or bored with people even when I genuinely enjoyed getting to know them initially.

Now I'm 33, and it hurts to realize that I don't really have the kind of friendships I thought I would have by this age. I don't have people I can spontaneously call to make plans with, a close group I feel part of, or friends who are genuinely involved in my life. I often feel like I'm on the outside looking in.

I've also been wondering whether part of this goes back to my childhood. My mother was very possessive, and whenever I wanted to go out, someone invited me to a birthday party, or I wanted to spend time with other people, there would often be a scene or I would have to explain and justify myself. Eventually, it felt easier to stop making plans, reject invitations, and avoid getting close to people than to deal with everything that came with it.

I think I learned to avoid those situations, but now I'm an adult and I still feel some of that fear when it comes to socializing and making plans. It's as if part of me still expects that connecting with people will come with consequences or stress. I don't know how much of it is a habit, how much is fear, or how much is simply the way I've become over the years.

The strange thing is that I genuinely want connection. I want friends I can call, people who genuinely want me around, people to make plans with and share my life with. But I also seem to have developed a habit of keeping people at a distance, and I don't always know why. Sometimes I wonder whether I'm protecting myself from disappointment or whether I've simply forgotten how to let people into my life.

I guess I'm wondering whether anyone else has experienced something similar, especially if they grew up with a controlling or possessive parent. Did it affect your ability to make friends as an adult? Have you ever realized that some of the ways you learned to protect yourself as a child were making it harder to build relationships later in life?

I'd really like to hear other people's experiences, even if you haven't figured it all out either. I think I just want to understand myself a little better and hear from people who know what this feels like.

23 male broke and trying my hardest... I had to move away from friends because my foster family were awful to me and threw me out during my lowest point in life

Now I am left with the harsh reality of knowing my mother ended her life because of me... All because I didnt have the heart to see her during her lowest point...

Now Im wrestling with guilt from pain and trauma caused by others... and Im alone in this dark and sour world... just me and the my brothers... fate is a bitch

It's been 3 yrs since this all happened and while doing better it feels like I just cant find others I can belong to... ppl my age are just in better stages of their life and I am just lost feels like Im always drifting towards uncertainty

It really just sucks man

Hey guys, I'm a 18F and completed Secondary Education last year. Since then me and my original friend group have separated, they have all gone to university and I'm currently taking a gap year. I just wanted to vent about it because I no longer know what to do with myself and I'm tired of crying about it.

My social life is essentially dead. I spend all day in my room scrolling or reading sometimes. I can't text my friends since they are abroad in university, and I know I technically could but I feel like a nuisance. Also I was always kind of a float friend and usually I'm the one that has to approach if I ever want to chat, they never really reach to me.

I even tried to do some activities. I started driving lessons but everyone in my class were so much older than me so I could barely make any friends. I also failed my driving theory exam twice by one mark which I'm embarrassed about even after months of it happening. I also try to be as spontaneous as I can. I go to the beach and just sea gaze, go to the mall, libraries, bookstores, tge gym. You name it. I haven't been able to make any connection whatsoever.

I understand that most people my age are enrolled in university and therefore build their circle there rather than random places like the beach or the mall, but I genuinely don't know what to do. I'm so lonely and demotivated I feel it like physical pain. I can't help but cry everytime I'm reminded of it, not to mention some other mental issues I have.

I don't know what to do, I want to build connections so badly but it feels impossible when I'm not in the one setting everyone my age is at (university). It's had the worst impact on my mental health and my sense of self, I hate it so much and I see no way out. I don't really know what kinds of advice you can give me but any would be appreciated. And also, I do appreciate a lot of time with myself so that isn't really the issue. Self love doesn't replace the need for interpersonal relationships.