I (31f) use to get off from dominating men financially and my therapist said it wasn’t healthy for me or the men. I reassured her that the men were absolutely willing, but she pointed out how it’s overall not good for them. I listened and it‘s officially been a year since I quit. I’m very proud of myself and didn’t really have anywhere else to post about my progress.

When I was in high school, my neighbor was really struggling with her yard. She spent hours out there every weekend planting, weeding, and watering, but nothing seemed to flourish.

One night around 1 AM, I decided to mess around a bit. I went out with a bag of high grade fertilizer I had leftover from a project and heavily treated her entire flower bed and vegetable garden.

Within a few weeks, her garden absolutely exploded. She had huge, vibrant blooms and massive tomatoes. I decided to lean into it hard. Every time I saw her outside, I would make these totally outrageous claims about her skills. I’d yell across the fence stuff like, "You must be a botanical prodigy!" or "I’ve never seen tomatoes this big in my life, you have a literal magical touch!" She was so proud that she started inviting people from around the neighborhood over to show off her suddenly incredible "green thumb." She fully bought into the hype that she was a master gardener.

The real chaos started the following year: I didn't fertilize her yard at all.

Predictably, her garden went right back to being scraggly and struggling. But instead of just keeping quiet, I started laying on the subtle jabs. When her plants started wilting, I’d look over the fence with a sigh and say things like, "Man, what happened? Did you lose your touch already?" or "Guess last year was just beginner's luck, huh?"

She spent the entire season completely spiraling, buying random pH testing kits, changing her watering schedule, and trying to figure out how she "ruined" her magic touch from the year before. She constantly talked about her "golden year" like it was a fleeting gift from the universe, and I'd just nod and tell her maybe she’s just not cut out for it after all

EDIT: I expected people to tell me not to worry about it. You helped her out at least one year and that was nice. It was high school hijinx not anything serious.

But it turns out people really hate what I did. Maybe I should confess to her after all these years and apologize? And give her some tomatoes?

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I (19M) used to find apps on the app store to video chat with women and masturbate.

You would usually need to pay money to buy tokens to chat to these women. The women on these apps would also be in on it because when you would join call with them they would usually ask if you wanted to masturbate while they show themselves off and stuff like that. I also found these apps a little weird because you would only see women on these sites, not men.

I know that there are chatting websites like chaturbate, flingster, and what not but I am scared of getting leaked or anything like that. I would try my best to not show my face but i do remember a max of maybe 2 slip ups.

The breaking point was when i was using an app to go on these calls but when I showed my penis i saw the screen flash white, like when you screenshot something, but i didnt press anything to screenshot myself, so i am just worried that the girl on the other end screenshotted my penis. When i tried it out myself to either screen record or screenshot the photo or video would come back as a blank white screen but I am still scared that the girl on the other end of the call can screenshot/screen record.

I do not think i am really scared of blackmail, because I have not shared anything personal about myself on these apps like social media. I am still a little scared of getting leaked in general.

I am also just really regretful of using these apps because of the money I spent and the time I wasted being in these apps. I also felt like i was raised better than this. It also brings me back to when I cheated on my ex-girlfriend on a site kinda like these around 2 years ago, and the girl on the other end threatened to expose this to other people in my life which makes me feel an even bigger shame of my actions.

Have any of you guys been through this before? Any advice would greatly help.

I am a chronic liar. I’m 39, and have lied about big and small things my whole life. Over my 30s, the lies built up in ways that make it feel like I’m at a crossroads… like oblivion or turning myself around and I’m terrified that I am going to fail.

I was married (for the third time) and had a child, I had lied to the woman I was with about how happy I was, the constant drain of sacrificing my identity to keep what I felt the world expected of me in a “happy marriage” tore me apart inside and I cheated.

The woman I cheated with continuously called me out on my lies to her, but also is so incredibly patient, kind, and empathetic that she has slowly guided me back towards the path of just being a decent honest person. I was doing better, going in the right direction, but today lied to her in a small but big way, and she saw right through my bullshit.

Just today, I’m leaving on a trip to see my parents. My brother changed the trip last minute to be a vacation somewhere my partner and I had planned to go (we cancelled our last trip because she had discovered another lie of mine) I was so scared to tell her about this surprise change, I lied until the very last second about where I was going, and made something up about when and how I found out.

I convince myself my lies are for other people, that they make interactions a little more comfortable or bad news easier to swallow… but they usually blow up and hurt far more than the truth ever would.

I feel absolutely awful that the way I lie has hurt so many people, and I have to do better. I am so angry at myself for doing this again, it pushes away all the love that people have for me. I’m just heartbroken, the self loathing is so strong. I want to fix what’s wrong with me without hurting people I care about.

CONTEXT: We started uni a month ago and I’m friends with this guy, we met on Instagram beforehand. We do the same course but we don’t have any lectures together. He lives in the building next door to mine. I really like him but idk what to do.

CONFUSION: When we are out we buy each other drinks and lookout for one another. We sometimes go to each others rooms to hangout. The other day I told him I was on my period and he came over to see me and gave me chocolate. He also held my hand to help pull me through the crowds of the club and let me come back to his after where we chatted, laid together and I gave him a back massage. We text 24/7 and are in constant contact.

ISSUES: He has shown me his exs and they are very pretty women much more attractive than I am but I’d consider him and I on a similar looks match level. (I have been told by others that I am more attractive but I’m not sure I agree). He also told me that he’s talking to another girl and he thinks she might like him back, this was the back massage night so I feel like he was making it clear it was only friendly. I also made a joke about us being a couple and he laughed and said ‘god no’. That made me feel terrible. I’ve never liked a guy who didn’t like me back before.

QUESTION: What do I do? Is there something there or am I delusional? How do I move on?

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When I was around young teens (I am several years older now), I was introduced into porn and I thought this was the best thing I had ever discovered. I had all the control in the world to look at anything I wanted, but right now, I am in this spiral of oversexualising every conversation with family, and sometimes even strangers! In particular, Feet always turned me on and would always catch myself staring at the floor when a woman is in sandals or barefoot. I hate when this happens because I truly want connection with others, but I think that my lust for people will stop me from getting into a relationship (unless they are just as crazy as me). My hypersexuality drove me to doing many things like sending explicit pix (usually lower body) and catfishing. (To a lesser degree.) I have recieved help for my mental health but I am too afraid of telling anyone this specific problem because I fear that I could be in places that I dont want to be. What should I do?

I want to preface this by saying I am diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, but im not sure if it has anything to do with it.

I am not sure where to post this because I am worrying far too much.

It has been eating me alive for the past few weeks now that I remember

but when I was around 9-10 my grandmother made me bathe with my cousin, I didn't want to at all but I had to, the bath was really small, I would assume about 2 feet wide and 4.5-5 feet long meaning we were skin to skin on the entire right side of our body pretty much, which I remember being really awkward.

I remember I had to grab something or move around for some reason and my genital grazed her foot for a few seconds, now that I am thinking about it I shiver. I didn't even mean to do it and I thought nothing of it at the time because of how cramped the space was and the fact that it was an accident plus I didn't associate those parts with anything sexual.

am I a monster? This has been keeping me up now that I recently remembered it

So in july I created a fake lesbian girl profile (from now on let’s call her siddhi) (may be because of my hormones) there I matched with a girl (let’s call her X), X is from other country. Siddhi talked to X for 2 months siddhi also introduced myself (real me) as best friend of siddhi. I was so much in character of siddhi that I fell for X and developed serious feelings for X, I (real me) also warned X before everything happened that not get too attached to siddhi lying that siddhi has some disease due to which she will not live more than 3-4 months. siddhi and X came close to each other so much that they also planned to meet in December and get married. However it was not possible because siddhi was a fake girl created by me so I planned on ending things between siddhi and X without break up by creating some situations. First situation was that disease but X didn’t wanted to leave siddhi she wanted to be with siddhi till the end, then I created another situation where Siddhi got into an accident and got her face disfigured even then X didn’t wanted to leave Siddhi so in the end I had to create a situation where Siddhi’s parents find out about Siddhi’s relationship and want siddhi to breakup with X, but siddhi doesn’t breakup instead she commits suicide.
I know it was a really terrible thing I did I really feel guilty about doing this it’s already been over a month but haven’t been able to stop thinking about it and keep worrying about X…I’m also trying to comfort X she seems to be recovering last time I talked to her she said “I miss her but I’m trying to live” “don’t worry about me, I’ll heal but not too soon” “take care of yourself”…I feel really guilty and terrible…I feel like I should tell her everything about it but then I feel it will break her even more…please tell me what should I do…If I tell her about it I don’t know what will happen…what if shock is too much that she get an attack…I’ll die if something like that happens…tell me if I didn’t tell her ever about this will her pain ease in future with time?…If I can see her smile again I can live with this guilt, talking to you has eased it…however if I never see her smile again I won’t be able to live with it, it will be too much pain…I’m okay with her hating me but then I will never know when she recovers from it…it’s really important for me to know that she recovered from it for my mental peace or else I’ll never be able live without guilt…because as you know I too love her, I love her a lot, I love her so much that I might kill myself if I don’t ever see her smile again…I’m crying right now crying a lot…Please tell me if I never tell her about this fake scenario ever and she keeps thinking it was all real will she heal…if you say Yes she will I will live with this lie till the end, seeing her smile again will ease out my pain forever…her dream is to own a clothing brand company and I’ll help her, I’ll help her with everything she needs in her life henceforth…I’ll forget that it was all fake scenario and believe it was all real Siddhi was real and everything was real nothing was fake…I can do that if you say “yes she will heal”…I will rewrite my past reality and forget that it was all fake…I’ll become X’s true friend never leave her side will never hurt her again

I live in the republic of Ireland and what happened was the item was at the counter basically. I took the item went back into the other part of the shop,i was going to slip it in my pocket but i noticed the shopkeeper looking he then called me out in front of the shop and told me to f off. I never left the shop with the item,it's circle k and it's my local shop about 1 minute away idk if im banned or not. I'm 14yo male (was 13 at the time of this) and i've got diagnosed autism and adhd. I've shoplifted a few times i do it for the thrill. I know im in the wrong i just want to know what happened. Haven't stolen since and tried to control myself when it comes to doing impulsive things

I want to do many things and learn lots of skills, but I don't because I am too stupid and autistic to do so I don't even bother trying. I just hate my life. I am pretty much lonely and am not capable of having friends or a relationship. People tell me all my problems are just due to my mentality, but in reality it's my genetics. I am currently unemployed and do nothing but doomscroll on TikTok and Instagram and browse Reddit all day and night. I am not a troll; if you see all of my posts, I am just struggling now and have for the past few years. I have nothing to talk about ever and am super boring. I can't do anything properly; I can't even use grammar and paragraphs. I confessed that I am a failure. I can chat if you want.

so I've stolen a couple of things throughout my life but this is the first time getting caught, not by law enforcement but by the store owner. He confronted me about the stolen item and I handed it back hoping he would let go. But instead he got really mad saying he has me on camera(security footage) and told me to sit tight while he called the law. But me being stupid as always irrationally fled in the moment of panic before he could call them without taking any items from the store. I'd like to believe that he didn't call the authorities but what would any sane person do? Overthink and imagine the worst case scenarios. Are there any experienced(idk if that's the right word..) people out there that can share their experiences?

So, just yesterday, I went to reliance smart Bazaar, to buy a packet of pasta, there I saw a chocolate bar, so I decided to shoplift, yes, I know it is wrong and I will never do it again, I was just stupid. So they caught me after i tried to leave the store, they told me to contact my parents, I am 16, I decided not, because I didn't want my parents to know, so they told me I have to be fined for this or they'll call the police, the store manager came and told me the fine would be 7,000 rupees or 70 dollars, i plead so hard for them to leave me with a warning but they just said that they will reduce the fine to 5,000 rupees or 50 dollars, they took my phone and told me if I wouldn't pay the 5k they would not give me my phone back, so I paid them the money, which was not easy, I just got my phone back and decided to post this.

When I came home yesterday without my phone, I searched this shit up on Google and it's illegal to charge any kind of fine from anyone, and no criminal charges for a minor like me, and the appropriate punishment was to charge the amount, the time was worth of in this case 100 rupees or 1 dollar.

But i didn't say a way out of this without my parents knowing about this so I gave them the 5k rupees or 50 dollars.

I was caught shoplifting from a family dollar i walked through the sensors and the alarm went off and an employee asked to look in my bag my bag was full of stuff but they only grabbed three things and then told me not to come back. I left now I’m worried they will call the police. What should i do? I live in new york fyi

Kya karun main iss cycle ka? (Hai kya koi loyal tharki bandi idhar?)

I have one office help who has been assigned under me to help me out with lots of clerical work. I was doing all that stuff myself and it was consuming a lot of my important time. This office help is a lady, i hate to call her a secretary. She is ugly, i know I should not say this but i ended up joking around about her which I thought she won't understand anyways. Her paygrade is not great and since I am approving her timesheets I know it well. I am a workohlic and most of my time goes in office. I have seen her leaving office by five, in fact most of the time I see her just watching reels on her phone or video chatting with someone, may be her boyfriend or something.

When she was new she was even uglier and fat, in office premises we have a volleyball court. I encouraged her to come around and play, i was just being sport, nothing personal as such. And when I commented that she must move more than just look at the phone all day, I felt she took it more seriously. She stopped coming to volleyball games but I saw her joining a local gym. Trust me now I look at her ass and sometime I just feel like grabbing them. I realized that I can certainly change people. Within six months I even taught her some excel tricks and now she is excellent. So yes she became more helpful to me. And after she became more useful i could bear looking at her face.

I had a customer meeting in another city, I asked her to accompany since she will be handy in quickly sending MoMs which most of Indian managers are fond of. Over there one of the customers at the sides of the meeting asked me who that fat ass lady was and is she was of any use. I had to get one of the documents signed, just one sign and it would have been a great deal for me in the company.

I just asked this lady to be fully prepared and go and meet the client. I even told her that sometimes you have to 'manage' things like this.

Next morning, I saw the signed paperwork nicely put in a yellow envelope inserted below my door inside my room.

I sent INR 50k (approx 500 USD) in the same envelope through the hotel housekeeping. The housekeeping came to me and told mam says "thank you".

The customer guy messaged me saying, "maja aa gaya bhai".

I was very much scared but the way things happened I felt proud and evil at the same time.

I can't brag about these things in front of anyone.

I see that she is improving every day and her WhatsApp status in gym pose are making me to think that I have unleashed a 'sin' in the world.