I know it's silly, but more often than not, I find myself imagining im holding another person. 💔 I never had much physical affection when I was a little girl, and now that I'm older, it feels 10x worse. 😭👉👈

How depressing it is to have a Birthday but totally nobody cared or even cared. I guess 3 people greeted and thats it.. What a life

Can I just get platonically touched please?? Why is it so damn difficult?

Edit: I lowkey regret making this post as I got bombarded by weirdos. I’m a man okay. Don’t message me please. Jeez. A man can’t even express his emotions

Edit 2: Wow! I’m surprised by how many people relate! Y’all made me feel more warm in a way which is similar to being touched. Like the safety and warmth

What really gets me in the end is not being touched platonically like being hugged/cuddled. That’s my weakness. I can’t handle that..

Edit: for everyone who upvoted or commented, I sent you a tight hug. It might arrive very soon! Be ready 🤨

31M here

I am just tired, man...

Tired of waiting. Tired of being excited I finally found someone nice to chat with- only for them to ghost me. Tired of celebrating birthdays completely alone.

At this point I should have got used to it. But, for some reason, I can't.

"Next year everything will change". "Next year will be different." "Just get through more trauma and you'll get rewarded in the end". Yeah. Like that ever gonna happen))

I personally believe right people appear in your life spontaneously. You could never predict when and how you meet someone who will become your partner or friend. But... I am this kind of person who absolutely hates to depend on fate or external forces. I don't sit and wait for someone to solve my problems, I always take matters into my own hands, do what I can. Even if it means spending days in absolutely vain searches on apps or on Reddit. What? It only didn't work the last 2000 times! I am sure 2001 attempt will be different! Right?

If we are being honest... My life for the past 10 years has been total nightmare. After breaking up with my fiancee, I fell very sick. Lost family member. Spent two years on a project that ended up being rejected, so I just wasted my time and energy on something that didn't matter.

Then the senile tyrant ruling my country launched a bloody war, and now I spend every day thinking it could be my very last. And despite this world being so huge and beautiful, I am totally, absolutely alone in it. Because I am like an alien. Even if I speak the same language, I can't connect to others. Because I am smart, but never smart enough to sort my life out. And it's the worst feeling- knowing your limits. Knowing, your efforts will never be enough.

I envy my parents. They both are very cold and distant. They don't need support of others and they don't feel lonely at all. Career is the only thing that mattered to them. So why I, despite being their son, have this huge black hole inside my heart? That's not fair at all.

Be safe. Take care

I'm trying to get used to being alone for the rest of my life, I've never dated I'm 23 almost going to be 24.

Literally no one calls or texts me except from my mum. Sometimes the loneliness gets too much but then I remember how people make me feel and honestly I think I'm better off without human interaction.

I know it's probably the depression speaking when I say I prefer to be alone but people are the main reason why I even developed depression and suicidal thoughts

Most suck, they are disloyal, unfriendly, uncaring, unsympathetic, dismissive, judgemental or quick to judge, play head games, beat around the bush, and so on.

It looks like I will be spending my 24th birthday alone, I feel very annoyed and upset that my mum is going away in the same month as my birthday but unfortunately there is nothing I can do about that.

I know one person from church but he has a habit of rambling about God and the Bible and I really don't care anymore. I wanted to see if God would change my life but he didn't.

Nothing significant has happened, I'm in the exact same position I was in a year ago. jobless, angry, depressed, hopeless, and at times suicidal.

s

I hate my life, people don't like me and I hate this existence, I didn't ask to be born, I didn't want adhd or aspergers but I have it and it ruined any slither of hope I had to build lasting "friendships" or "love"

I'm going to die alone, I'm miserable, I used to be full of happiness and life but now I can barely find a reason to keep going. whenever i try to fix my life or change something I go right back to square one and I'm beyond fed up.

I hate God, he's not nice and I'm never setting foot in another church ever again. I'm done, I'm done with church and everything associated with it, the people there let me down and I've had enough.

sigh.

Hi. I don't know how to write a post like this, because I've never tried before, but I want it to be in my own words. I want to be candid in my experience with loneliness. I'm 19f, turning 20 soon.

I feel very lonely, but it's been particularly bad the last two years. I have been lonely my whole life, I was pretty quiet growing up, though I feel as if I became quiet because I faced a lot of social rejection. I am autistic, and have tried hard to fit in anywhere. It's impossible. I feel like an alien sometimes, trying to fit in with people. I feel like I have no idea what to do. What to say.

I developed pretty bad social anxiety due to my fear of being rejected.

I am open to starting conversations with people but often get ignored eventually, which feels ironic considering I have social anxiety.

My family don't really talk to me much anymore, and I spend my days alone. I'll go for really long walks to try and keep myself sane but it doesn't always help. I like writing in my journal.

I often write in it and wish someone could see what I write. I don't have to pretend to be someone else. I can write exactly how I feel, what I am thinking, what I have been up to.

I started a degree last year, online, and it's been going alright I suppose. It's lonely but I never could have gone to a univeristy in person because of my social anxiety.

I made a few friends throughout my life, but never felt loved. So I guess the problem lies with me.

I'm having somewhat of an existential crisis too. Anyway, thanks for reading. I tried to write this as if I was writing in my journal, so I apologise if some parts, or the whole thing doesn't make sense.

the only thing that brings me pleasure is genuinely a cup of quality coffee. I appreciate you all on here im 27f, one of the hardest things in life is trying to literally survive loneliness and in the past I have experienced multiple times being in the company of multiple people but feeling in your chest this deep like pit of lonliness and hollowness because you know that you do not really matter to these people, if something were to happen to you, you know for a fact they will never visit you, to check on you wherever the heck you are. You know that THEY see you as temporary, that just reality. And no, shit doesn't get better your situation only gets better if you act delusional. I have literally taken flights to be with people who say I miss you, I dont have anyone here right now, I want to see you because im not doing well(physical sick). Yes, taken flights. Jokes on me though, I was naive then, I should've known that those people would never move their finger for me. Don't be nice and respectful guys, I know its easier said then done, why the heck do you think that there are YouTube videos titled "Be mean" or "Learn to treat people like dogs"(I treat my dog like an angel though) or "Learn to be delusional". Im so bleeping sure that at least 98 percent of us on this sub have never truly wholeheartedly been told "I appreciate you" "You are so dear to my heart" "You are a pleasure/treat for my eyes"(as we say in my language). these are things i've said to others and it was never ever reciprocated. I've lost all faith in humanity and i'm pretty sure I will not change my mind until the day I take my last breath. Life is a bad joke, humans are a joke most people you meet speak out of their asses no thought goes into the words that come out of peoples mouths.

Idk what to say

Should i be deepresed at 17 idk what am i experincing i just having the combination of emptinees no one is one my side im not motivated to do any thing over the past month and im at the last year of school im just tired of being the one that no one gives the shit about and everyone just crush me and get pass me im just writng this to empty my self from a feeling that i had for over 3 year

I'm so jealous. How does everyone have friends except me? Being alone sucks. I can't even go out anywhere because I have nothing to do, my life is so boring. How do you guys deal with being so lonely?

I am 24 and have no friends, never been in a relationship before, and I've heard from multiple people that it is a 'red flag' and a sign of a bad person to not have friends. If that is the case, then I really think it is pointless to even try to make friends. That is who I am, I guess. Been homeschooled and severely isolated my whole life, in a severely dysfunctional family, where I was abused constantly. I was raised in a different world. I want friends, I want a girlfriend, I just don't see the point in getting them. And after some bad experiences with an ex-friend, and a relative of mine, I realize that even sex pests and my own molester are more socially desirable than I am.

At least I don't have to anxiously wait for their messages, thinking what should I write to them or hoping that a word from them would make my day (spoiler it won't), overthinking what I might've said wrong, worry about being too clingy, mabe anoying, or just wondering what place I occupy in their lives.

Now I know that no one is going to message me, so I don't need to check my phone to see if whether I might have overlooked a new message, worry that they actually don't want to talk to me, but don't want to say it directly, cuz it feels like "wrong," so they keep playing a game of friendship.

No one is going to message me and it's kinda peaceful, though in a sad way.

when I do find someone, either the conversation doesn’t flow or I can’t stay in the conversation for too long because my social battery runs out, since I have depression, ADHD, and autism, or the person is a fucking idiot who only shows up in the middle of the night or doesn’t know how to have a conversation.

Dude, how can a person reach adulthood and not know how to have a conversation?? HOW?

I want to approach someone and have a fucking great conversation, like, at the beginning we’re talking about picnics, and by the end, the conversation is about circuses, and we ask each other how the topic changed so quickly? I want to have those super lively conversations. But when I go to talk to someone, I bring up the most open-ended and universal topic in the world and wait attentively for their response, which boils down to “yeah lol,” “I agree,” “lol.” What the fuck kind of conversation is that? Who could possibly think you can develop anything like that?? I’m not looking for online friendships or friendship advice because I know how to do that, but holy shit, I only meet incompetent people.

I have two acquaintances I can go out with and share moments with, but we don’t have those incredible conversations. I like anime, TV shows, manga, comics, K-dramas, theater, ballet, games, hiking, going out, but I’m getting more and more unmotivated to do anything.

Tbh Im jealous of the people who have their ex beg for them back
Stalk them chase them
People say it’s not real love or whatever idc
To me it means that SOMEONE needs you
Idk what Im saying anymore fr

me(19f) I have never been alone in my entire life , I just cant go a day without a human interaction other than my family . day by day I just realise I cant be alone I do have a bf who gives me enough times but at times when he gets busy my whole mood shifts on him I feel demotivated to do anything in life and all I do is sit and wait for one reply that can change my whole mood. I try to keep myself busy but I end up in trance I wanna know how it feels to be happy alone .

I'm 30+ & I've never been loved. Life's become so hard that whenever im seeing a couple passing by, a family shopping, reels with couples in it, normal day to daynlife of people - I'm feeling very sad. What ever I'm seeing feels like an impossible thing ever for me.

I'm hurt always. Idk what's there to keep living anymore....

I feel like me never having any relationship in life is smth bad about me, & I feel like that itself is a red flag & i should apologise to everyone for living this longer, for being a burden! Sorry.

35M NW Suburbs

Hey guys! I’m a single 35M in the Northwest Suburbs looking for new friends and a relationship as well. Just recently got my life exactly where I want to be and am looking to meet great new people to hopefully add to my circle.

Also, I am open to a relationship if there are any women out there that want to start here and see what happens.

I love fishing, gaming, and occasional golfing. I’m down to try new hobbies and just chill at a bar too.

especially going through life

which is hard

30f

feel like im going insane sometimes

i try to reply to people but feel so frustrated all the time

i dont know what to do anymore

im not looking for a lot of people

looking for a few to like...

i dont know anymore

i feel like sometimes others talk to me as if im supposed to not feel this way or make me feel im not supposed to be tired or think life is hard or give me motivational speeches

but i dont want that

i wish like... i didnt feel so lonely with this hopeless

i feel like im not enough or not doing enough all the time and i dont know why

I’m tired of hating myself, I’m tired of having no one. It’s the first year in my life I’ve thought I might have to accept just being alone for the rest of my life. I am hurt by everyone, it has made me believe something is inherently wrong with me.
I went out on a date with someone and it seemed very promising like the most hopeful I’ve felt about someone in years. He woke up and blocked me on everything when he was supposed to come see me again that same day. I’m triggered.
It feels like everyone dislikes me, I mean I don’t think I’m that ugly but it’s starting to come down to that too.
I’m on dating apps, I’m on apps to make friends and every decent connection doesn’t work out.
I’m sure some of it is my fault, or maybe all of it. I care about people a lot and I just want someone to care about me, to want to hang out with me, to want to spend time with me.
Or can I at least get someone to tell me what’s wrong with me? As embarrassing as it is I’ve asked previous flings/partners what was wrong with me to make everyone dislike me so much or leave me so easily. How do I find happiness in being alone? I can’t do everything I want to do alone because it’s not safe and frankly not as enjoyable. We are meant to have community.
Sorry for the word vomit, I’m just tired of hurting.

Small one but I am always someone who wanted girly friendships and I hung out with a friend this morning for coffee, she gets excited to see her friend walk in and gets up and hugs her with the OMG I MISSED YOUUUUU!!!!!!!!

I wish I got a hug to say hello or goodbye :( I want touch. I want a hug too :( I wish I had friends whod hug me happily that they are happy to see me. Girls who have their friends who are touchy and nice have no idea how many people would love that even though its like normal routine for them

I am very tired of this Life.

Edit.

Please don't come to my inbox to interrogate me.

I haven’t had any friends in months. Tried to be active in online groups but people don’t take notice of me. Im just barely noticed despite me trying to fit in, and people think Im just a weird person for just trying to exist.

I don’t get why people hate me. What am I doing for you people to not bother towards getting to know me? Why am I not introducing to this chat for people to like me?

Like sorey Im not interesting to you people. Maybe if I didn’t grow up in an abusive household then maybe I wouldn’t constantly struggle trying to open up. I so badly want to have a friend group but nobody with their own support groups will ever acknowledge a lonely person like me who already cries to themselves to sleep.

Already crying that nothing I do will get people to care about me.

Almost a year ago, i met someone on here whos from another country and we used to talk all the time. He used to talk with me after work, on the weekends, when he'd go out for dinner or in between his chores. I genuinely loved talking to him, he was so interesting and funny and charasmatic and witty.

Now, he disapears for weeks on end and then has a 5 minute conversation with me if i'm even lucky

I know its petty because you're probably thinking what did i expect, its online, he has his own life yada yada

But i just wish i had the guts to stop thinking about him, he makes my day always and i dont have anyone to talk to besides him. My family is abusive and toxic so he's the only person that lets me be myself without judging.

I feel so much void because i hate my life and he's the only person that makes it better but its unfair for me to tell him to talk to me more just to make me feel less alone.

I genuinely dont have the will to continue with anything in my life but his presence makes me want to. I just wish i wouldn't feel this attached to someone who i probably barely know.

I find myself just waiting, and waiting for a message from him.

I don't know how to feel less lonley without him and i cant bring myself to do anything about it