r/SFr4r • • Mar 07 '25

META If you're going to report a post (please do), do it like this.

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44 Upvotes

r/SFr4r • • Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

196 Upvotes

It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/SFr4r • • 7h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 35 [F4M] #San Jose - seeking long term FWB

10 Upvotes

Me: married woman seeking care and attention. I’m 5’4 125lbs with some curves, brown eyes and black curly hair.

You’re 35-50 handsome, athletic/ fit man who enjoys the company of a feminine woman and eager to please. Must be a professional, in or around San Jose and able to host.


r/SFr4r • • 14h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 33 [F4A] #sanfrancisco - movies maybe

22 Upvotes

not really looking to have sex with anyone right now, but totally down to go to the movies. I just don’t wanna go by myself, but I’m only available in the evening after six and we definitely have to be downtown if you’re down to go catch a movie catch a vibe maybe eat hit me up not looking for anything serious but I am open to other activities as well


r/SFr4r • • 1h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 43 [m4m] #SanJose - Make me wear her lingerie or panties NSFW

• Upvotes

Sub Bottom guy looking for a guy who will put me in his wife/gf's panties or lingerie and then rail me like there's no tomorrow. I am in SW San Jose but I cannot host. I can go to you or meet somewhere in the middle. Top Ts/CD's are welcome to respond.

You host, but car and public play is also good.


r/SFr4r • • 5h ago

M4F 49 [M4FM] #SF North Bay or Online - Looking to connect with other open minded, adventurous yet normal couples or singles for friendship, fun and exploration

1 Upvotes

Open minded, adventurous, very sexual yet normal and discrete male in an open relationship who is looking for new like minded friends.

If you are a couple or single who is discrete, clean, normal but curious to explore with a new friend, then send me a DM and say hi.

Let’s start by you sharing a little about yourself and your favorite guilty pleasure subreddit? :)


r/SFr4r • • 15h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Free Phoebe Bridgers ticket for a concert date

5 Upvotes

I'm a 38M Japanese-American guy with an extra Above GA ticket to Phoebe Bridgers at Chase Center on Tuesday 10/27.

Figured this might be a fun way to meet someone outside of the apps for a change. Would love to bring someone who enjoys her music and is up for a casual concert date after grabbing dinner.

Ticket's on me, no strings attached. Happy to chat, exchange pics, or video call beforehand to see if we vibe!


r/SFr4r • • 10h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 45 [M4F] #Concord - Casual vanilla sex, and lots of it please.

2 Upvotes

So I'm looking for a casual FWB. Someone who likes to text back and forth throughout the day. Just fun conversations. Getting to know each other. Talk about our days. Vent about work or family. Hang out every now and then. Maybe about 2 or 3 times a month. Go out, do random fun things, or just spend the day at a hotel having non stop sex for hours. But it is just a casual FWB situation. You have your life, I have mine. Neither one of us is looking for a relationship. Just good company, and great sex.

YOU: I don't care what race you are. I don't care too much about age, but the closer to my age the better. I am NOT into younger women, but if your mature and just genuinely fun.......maybe. Body type, I am into petite women to thick women. Just not larger women. Basically if you can't go on long walks, or can't do certain sexual positions because of your size...... sorry but I'd be disappointed.

ME: I'm a 6'1", 200 lbs. white male. I am an average looking guy, with an average body. Will send pics as soon as you do. I am bald with facial hair. I'm very chill and relaxed. Drama free and disease and drug free. Not into politics, but left leaning (can't stand Trump). I love music. All types except Country. I love arts and crafts. I love going out and doing random stuff, but it would be a lot more fun doing it with some who loves teasing as much as I do.


r/SFr4r • • 16h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 50 [F4R] #Concord - iso rock climbing partner

6 Upvotes

I like climbing early afternoons bc it’s less crowded. Problem is, it’s less crowded bc most ppl aren’t able to make it that time.

So if you’re free sometime between noon-4pm, preferably Thursdays, and interested in top roping together at Diablo Rock, pls reach out.

And if you’ve never climbed before but are interested in getting into it, I’m happy to show you the ropes (haha). (I wish I could say I’m usually funnier than that. Big bonus if you are!)

EDIT: I feel like I shouldn’t have to say this but I’m going to anyway. I’m looking for someone to literally rock climb with. Not interested in a relationship, romance or hookup. Purely platonic.


r/SFr4r • • 7h ago

M4M 26 [M4M] #Concord- Looking to suck straight guys, bicurious men, under 32. Exceptions for dilfs, hot brazillians, and other. Dm

1 Upvotes

Rip to mr Sanchez. He was fun. Also looking to get my ass eaten

I’m looking for someone to suck often, be fwb, and be friends tbh. Friends who i suck is the best. We can do it in the theater, while u game, etc.

Hopefully a dilf. Looking to suck a straight guy, preferably someone under the age of 30/34, but willing to compromise. Hmu, i have different forms of social media. Face pics before meeting

Love latinos+brazillians

I have done this a few times. My ratings are amazing and i may have a few vids if u wanna see.

We can talk to see where things go in case you are nervous, and talk things through


r/SFr4r • • 13h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 37 [M4F] #oakland - tall and hung seeks mating press enthusiast

3 Upvotes

I'm 37, white, 6'2" tall, lean and lanky with long hair and trimmed beard. Handsome, artistic and creative type, hung thick and juicy uncut with big balls. STI Free with recent negative results and Vaccinated. 

Looking for a woman that’s flexible and enjoys deep penetration positions like mating press. Bonus points for being into bondage and restraints. Ideally we could meet 2-4x a month as FWB, open to relationships if feelings develop.

Located in Oakland, live alone and can host! 

Also into cuckold / hotwife situations. Open minded about race, age, body type, gender identity, and relationship status. 


r/SFr4r • • 8h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 30 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for something discreet and ongoing

1 Upvotes

I am 30M, married, but unfortunately not in a happy marriage. Both emotional and physical intimacy have been missing for a while.

I’m looking for something discreet and ongoing, with both emotional and physical chemistry. Someone I can have great conversations with, flirt with, laugh with, and genuinely enjoy spending time with.

Not looking to rush into anything or put expectations on where things should go. I’d rather let things develop naturally if we click.

A little about me:
- 5’7”, fit, good-looking, and well-groomed.
- Take care of myself, dress well, and always smell nice.
- Easygoing, respectful, and easy to talk to.
- Not creepy, pushy, or the kind of guy who makes conversations uncomfortable. I understand and respect boundaries.

What I’m looking for:
A woman between 24–40, preferably in the Bay Area or nearby. Someone attractive, easy to talk to, and interested in a genuine connection without unnecessary expectations.

Physical attraction matters to me, but so does personality and how well we connect.

Discretion, mutual respect, and good hygiene are important.

Happy to exchange pictures privately once we’re comfortable.

If this sounds like something you’re looking for too, feel free to DM.

If you came this far please send me a DM request with the following:
- Age and Location
- What brought you here?
- What are you looking for?


r/SFr4r • • 9h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 40 [M4F] #Oakland - experienced daddy dom for anal princess. Willing to train

1 Upvotes

Nurturing, kind, sensual, firm experienced daddy dom. Looking for my good girl anal princess with a praise kink. No experience needed. Willing to train, guide, mentor.

Chicano. Salt and pepper hair and beard. Intelligent, kind, witty, intellectually equipped, socially aware, great storyteller, amazing cook, varied interests, plant dad. Great conversationalist. 420 friendly.

Let me take you out and make you feel taken care of. Have my own place. Never married, no kids


r/SFr4r • • 10h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 45 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Explore your sexy side, realize a few fantasies

1 Upvotes

I'd like to add some intentionality to your sex life, guide you beyond your immediate comfort zone, and help you realize a few fantasies. Repeat experiences with a challenging yet nurturing personal trainer for the sensual realm, creating space for you to privately discover and explore your favorite things in pursuit of peak pleasure.

I realize you might be shy at first, unsure if you could ever go through with realizing your fantasies, and could appreciate a slow build while you develop comfort with the idea and me. Where would you like to explore first?

  1. ⁠Chats to reveal emerging desires and fantasies semi-anonymously.
  2. ⁠Assess your current FWB situations for their potential to shift towards the expressiveness you crave.
  3. ⁠Directly lead you through new adventures with fun, playful sexy time if there's mutual attraction and interest.

I've had past hookups that revealed her strong desire to explore, turn off her overthinking mind, stop feeling like she needs to perform, and instead give into the sexy creature eager to reveal itself if properly encouraged and challenged. Women recently out of a relationship and feeling both freed from constraints yet bored of the random hookup. Younger women wanting to try new things away from her friend group. Women who want to wonder about potential fantasies but might be unsure how to make them happen.

I'm 45 years old, single, straight, and live in the Pacific Heights area of San Francisco. Curious about your pleasure and definitely enjoy the full expressiveness of your sensual being emerged at full strength. I'm easy going, patient, have a curious mind, and am perceptive enough to recognize key ingredients of your peak desire. I'm an experienced masseur, enjoy cuddling, have taken classes on fingering techniques, stroked clit during orgasmic meditation sessions, and enjoy discovering your many fantasies, kinks, and unique desires.

What have you been curious to explore but unsure how to make happen? What situations and environments do you already know amplify your pleasure but are difficult to craft? Share your unmet desires with a semi-anonymous confidant interested in releasing more sexiness into the world and potentially creating new opportunities for personal instruction and play.


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - looking for a girl to eat out tonight

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Hello! 32 year old from San Francisco (close to Daly City) looking for a muff dive tonight. I’d ideally like a consistent partner I can eat out once or twice a week, but open to this being a one-time thing, depending on the vibes. There is zero expectation of reciprocation, and no pressure for anything beyond me eating you out.

I’m white, 5’8, 160 lbs, and ddf. I have my own place and can host, but open to talking at the lobby downstairs before you come up to my apartment if it makes you more comfortable! Scented candles and mood-setting lights will be included.


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

M4F 22 [M4F] #EastBay - Younger guy in search of casual fun with older woman / MILF

1 Upvotes

I’m 22M, Latino, 5’10, ~160 lbs. I can’t host, but I’m willing to travel to you if we click.

I recently graduated from college and I’m still working part time. I have lots of free time now and would like to have some fun before I find a new job or go back to school again.

I really want to try meeting older women, preferably late 30s or 40+, and I’d love to meet one who’d like to experiment with a younger guy. Mature women just do it for me. If that's you, I'd love to hear from you


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 27 [M4FM] #EastBay - Voyeur looking for exhibitionist couples

1 Upvotes

I’m 27, bi, 5’9, average body, std negative, tested regularly

I was invited to watch a couple have sex while on a vacation once and it was a great time for everyone. Looking to satisfy that voyeur kink in me again. I’m looking a for a couple that can host and would like a third in the bedroom to watch them have their fun. Not necessarily looking for a cuck vibe, just a simple voyeur watching some exhibitionists show off. I’m very kinky and into a lot, and would love to see you guys engage in your favorite kinks. I’d even be down to join in whatever capacity is comfortable for you. We can chat more about what that can look like. I’m down to chat, get to know each other a bit, trade pics and meet up in public beforehand. I’m happy to take our time chatting to see if it’s a good fit. A one time thing is fine but an on going thing would be great.

Prefer couples around my age but not a deal breaker.


r/SFr4r • • 12h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Can I eat you out pls? No reciprocation needed!

1 Upvotes

Sooo eating pussy is one of my fav things ever, and I like to think I’m really good at it! I’ve given so many orgasms to girls (including giving some their first squirting orgasms) by eating them out. I’m a huge people pleaser and can go down for literally hours without stopping!

People have loved how good I eat them out that some have caught feelings for me! I also make sure to make each person orgasm 4-5 times on average and have never had a time when I've failed to make them cum! In the past few months, I’ve eaten out dozens of girls and given a countless number of orgasms but I’m always looking to give more!

I’m simply looking for someone who enjoys having their pussy ate or maybe just wants to experience cumming from oral for the first time; I promise I won’t quit til I make you cum! Age isn't an issue (18+ ofc) as I've been with girls ranging from 20-46!

I’m DDF, hwp, and can host in downtown! Feel free to send a message if you feel like this could be a fun time and I’d be happy to exchange pictures and all that :)


r/SFr4r • • 14h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #EastBay - Catching eyes over coffee

1 Upvotes

Do you know those immediate connections? You just met but there's somehow already something there. That warmth you feel just from their eyes and a smile. It's so easy to forget that feeling, where has it been all this time? Can hardly remember being seen that way by someone else. Shrug it off and get back to what you were doing, maybe they're just one of those bubbly people ya know but a minute later your eyes catch each other again and ok yeah they're definitely looking at you too. It's been so long since you felt that instant spark

If only they know the realities of your life..but that little jolt stays with you for a while.

What if you had the courage to strike up that conversation though? What's possible

This is the kind of thing I spend way too much time imagining..but do really think you should listen to your imagination more often.

If you know that feeling or have had your own version of what I'm talking about, someone both sweet and sensual, mature but also a teenager who wants to makeout in the car..You're who I need.

As for me ~ Attached, white, (allegedly) younger looking 39, 6'4, brown hair, green/hazel eyes, some tattoos not fullll hipster but not enough to fully fit in there. Honestly feel like a mix of jock/hipster/nerd without being enough of any of the three to really blend it that well anywhere. Really big into cycling (absolute spandex dork) cars, sports, music, movies, coffee, outdoors, the unbearable weight of being

Most into dark hair but genuinely open approach in general here. If you're cute and we click, that's all that matters. If you're still here tell me a bit about yourself and what resonated with you from that mess of a word salad in your intro.

Hope you find whatever you're looking for one way or another


r/SFr4r • • 14h ago

M4M 34 [M4M] #San Francisco - in town tomorrow through Thursday and looking for masc fun discreet+ curious+

1 Upvotes

I will be visiting this week 10/19-10/23 for a conference. I’ll have a hotel in SoMa while in town. I can also travel within the city if needed. I’m looking for masc, discreet guys to get off with. Down to jerk but also open to more if we are feeling it. I’m 34 5’9 185 fit white guy. I’m looking for guys 25-45, not really into twink types but open to anything else. Also down to help any guys that are curious or experimenting. Chilled with a few guys like that before it and it was fun. HMU if any of this sounds good 🤙🏼


r/SFr4r • • 14h ago

M4F 34[M4F] #Cupertino - any plans? *Free Sensual & Erotic Massage

1 Upvotes

Looking for hotwife or female(s)

Offering free massage all week. Erotic and sensual massage. Offered in Cupertino

34m fit (workout 5/7 days), discretion is provided and requested, down to earth, looking to just live life and have fun, well endowed, high stamina, great with hands. Trained in erotic, sensual, and deep massages for females either full body, back, head & back for massage types such as Yoni massage, Nuru, Swedish, Deep tissue, Thai, Aromatherapy, Sports, Trigger Point, Reflexology, Shiatsu, Custom/Targeted Areas, Special Requests (all includes pressure point, essential oils, lotions, tension/knots, as needed), open to custom massage requests or specific body area massages, into kinks and fetishes, open minded to have a fun experience, explore and ddf, past reviews from happy clients are available upon request.

If you're ready to unwind and have some fun, send a DM introducing yourself with your age, general location, and what kind of experience you're looking for.


r/SFr4r • • 15h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 34 [M4F] #Cupertino - any plans? *Free Sensual & Erotic Massage

1 Upvotes

Looking for hotwife or female(s)

Offering free massage all week. Erotic and sensual massage. Offered in Cupertino

34m fit (workout 5/7 days), discretion is provided and requested, down to earth, looking to just live life and have fun, well endowed, high stamina, great with hands. Trained in erotic, sensual, and deep massages for females either full body, back, head & back for massage types such as Yoni massage, Nuru, Swedish, Deep tissue, Thai, Aromatherapy, Sports, Trigger Point, Reflexology, Shiatsu, Custom/Targeted Areas, Special Requests (all includes pressure point, essential oils, lotions, tension/knots, as needed), open to custom massage requests or specific body area massages, into kinks and fetishes, open minded to have a fun experience, explore and ddf, past reviews from happy clients are available upon request.

If you're ready to unwind and have some fun, send a DM introducing yourself with your age, general location, and what kind of experience you're looking for.


r/SFr4r • • 15h ago

M4F 48 [M4F] #SFBay - Make you feel helpless, vulnerable. Use you, CNC play

1 Upvotes

Experienced tall athletic hung Dom.
I enjoy to take control, make you feel helpless, exposed, vulnerable, over power you, use you.
48, 6’5”, 200#, 8 inches.
Good with beginners, all limits respected.
Start as slowly as you need, go as far as you want. Nice collection of toys and gear.
Clean, drug and disease free.

Ben


r/SFr4r • • 16h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 45 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Focused breast play for the extra sensitive

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I'm a big fan of extra sensitive breasts responsive to my touch and tongue. I'd like to take my time exploring their sensitivity with a grope, a caress, a squeeze, encircling a nipple, and feeling it grow in my mouth. Bracing your body as it bucks with pleasure, your skin starts to tingle in new ways, and arousal washes over you. Curious if you could orgasm from breast play alone? We'd have a lot of fun finding out!

I've had some good breast play experiences through Reddit (success stories in profile) and I'm curious if it could happen again. A few themes and scenarios for the breast play curious:

  1. You'd like some semi-public play of a hand grazing your breast over your shirt or slipping below a plunging neckline. A brief, discreet moment in the busy city on a warm weekend or while we drive towards our next destination.
  2. You'd like to slow down and explore your pleasure potential and know breast play always amplifies your enjoyment. Your hands naturally wander to your breasts during self-pleasure sessions but partnered play feels too eager to move on to other pursuits. You want the slow build, the focused attention, the discovery of your new favorite things guided by an obvious fan of your breasts and their sensitivities.
  3. Quality breast play is a good leading indicator of someone focused on your pleasure and in tune with your desires. You'd like to give yourself over to an experience completely focused on you once someone proves they're worthy of orchestrating your arousal.

You might have already noticed my glances appreciating the curves of your breasts and a perky nipple on a warm yet windy San Francisco day. I'm 45 years old, single, respectful, sane, and discreet. Able to host in the Inner Richmond district of SF. Our paths may have already crossed in recent bra-optional weather as I bike around the city, enjoy good coffee, or browse a farmers market. Diverse interests and capable of carrying on a conversation before and in between breast dives and vocalizing my appreciation of your unique breasts and their sensitivities.

We might be a good, playful match if you:

  • Have perky, sensitive breasts C cup or smaller. 🍒
  • Are somewhere in between 20 and 40 years of age.
  • Are in San Francisco or near enough to make plans.

Let's lounge and enjoy slowly exploring, and fully appreciating, your extra-sensitive breasts. You might be curious about the unmet potential of focused breast play and what's possible with lots of attention from an obvious enthusiast. If you've wished for more breast play as a focus, not just foreplay, I think we'd have a lot of fun.


r/SFr4r • • 18h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 28 [M4F] #SFFinancialDistrict - out of town hookup next week

1 Upvotes

Looking for something casual while I’m in SF from nyc for a conference Oct 26 - 28!

I’m 28, 6ft, slim/athletic, white with dirty blonde hair, tattooed, and usually clean-shaven or short stubble. I keep myself well-groomed. Also have a vasectomy.
I’m direct and respectful. I like keeping things clear and making sure it’s enjoyable for both of us. May be able to host at my hotel or can definitely travel within reason.

Open to most ages and body types. Happy to verify.
Let me know if you’re interested. :)