r/SFr4r • • Mar 07 '25

META If you're going to report a post (please do), do it like this.

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r/SFr4r • • Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

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It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/SFr4r • • 46m ago

OTHER 33 [M4M]#BayArea - attached men needing to be serviced?

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I’m looking for an attached/married man who’s looking for a discreet/clean mouth to use. If you're interested in being serviced discreetly, send your stats and pics.

Be ddf, in shape, not over 50

Me: 33, m, 6’0, 180, bi discreet/dl, ddf


r/SFr4r • • 8h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - looking for a distraction

1 Upvotes

Hello! 28 year old musician here. Im looking for someone who’d share a drink with me at royal cuckoo. Currently visiting for the weekend and Im casually looking for someone who could banter and would eventually lead to making out and possibly more depending if the vibe is right. Message me and I’ll send you a pic of myself 🗿


r/SFr4r • • 10h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] #SanJose - Kbbq? Dinner? Activities?

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Hello, ill be free Saturday night.. This is one of the few weekends I don't have any plans or obligations

Anyone wanna go on a food run? And or an outing?

I live in San Jose, Bay Area, CA

I don't know what to do on my free time or how to spend it. I would like to spend it with someone.

I start a new job next week. I also got promoted at another job I am working on

anyone want to come celebrate with me?

Dinner? Chat? Outing?

Let's see if we match wavelengths.

I am Wasian

5'6''

185LBS Muscular.

Can't wait to hear from you let's make a date.


r/SFr4r • • 14h ago

M4F 28 [MM4F] #Bayarea - two heads is better than one

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Hi, buddy and myself are open to having a third for a threeway and we are potentially open to doing a DP. We can travel or host, both clean and ddf. Stats are:

28 latino, 148 lbs, 5.6, 7 inches uncut and girthy, slim build, takes care of self, tan skin, dominant, brown eyes and have a septum

My friend is 27, Afghanistan, 6.5 inches uncut and girthy, fit physique, light skin, green eyes and dominant

Message with stats and location


r/SFr4r • • 10h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for something discreet and ongoing

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I am 30M, married, but unfortunately not in a happy marriage. Both emotional and physical intimacy have been missing for a while.

I’m looking for something discreet and ongoing, with both emotional and physical chemistry. Someone I can have great conversations with, flirt with, laugh with, and genuinely enjoy spending time with.

Not looking to rush into anything or put expectations on where things should go. I’d rather let things develop naturally if we click.

A little about me:
- 5’7”, fit, good-looking, and well-groomed.
- Take care of myself, dress well, and always smell nice.
- Easygoing, respectful, and easy to talk to.
- Not creepy, pushy, or the kind of guy who makes conversations uncomfortable. I understand and respect boundaries.

What I’m looking for:
A woman between 24–40, preferably in the Bay Area or nearby. Someone attractive, easy to talk to, and interested in a genuine connection without unnecessary expectations.

Physical attraction matters to me, but so does personality and how well we connect.

Discretion, mutual respect, and good hygiene are important.

Happy to exchange pictures privately once we’re comfortable.

If this sounds like something you’re looking for too, feel free to DM.

If you came this far please send me a DM request with the following:
- Age and Location
- What brought you here?
- What are you looking for?


r/SFr4r • • 10h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Seeking intense Long Term connection with an insatiabley possessive and clingy partner who needs constant attention, yearning, and affirmation.

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I'm an introverted, educated, decent looking, and presentable white male. Slim-fit. 5'11" 150lb. I'm seeking a high maintenance partner that craves and absolutely needs constant attention; someone who needs my presence in the room and demands my attention even if she is ignoring me and doing other things. Someone to heavily encourage my adoration of you. Someone who needs reassurance, and affirmation. Someone who has an insatiable desire to feel wanted and chased after, who wants and craves obsessive devotion on a daily basis; who will encourage and nurture an intense, passionate addiction to you that is impossible to satisfy. I want a codependent relationship centered on you. I want everything to be about you. That even in our "getting to know each other" stage, I should put you above all of my friends, hobbies, and any social activities.

It might seem weird, but I intensely desire an incredibly possessive partner. I want you to feel comfortable blowing up my phone.. to demand information.. .to know where I am, or who im with, and what im doing, any time you wants. To go through my phone whenever you want and keep me from having any control over it when you are around me. You can actively crave attention and encourage me to give in to your needs as much and as often as possible. More than im even capable of giving. To enjoy convincing me to stop whatever I'm doing to give it to you: to develop a chemistry with playful demands and sexualized games between us.. to be as needy and as clingy as your heart desires, to the point that you become a complete priority over my social life. To even be so possessive that you keep me from spending my time or attention on anyone or anything but you, or to encourage my hobbies to be centered on you, be disappointed that I am not looking at you and admiring you even though you are busy with something else and not fully reciprocating the attention back.

I need someone who has always naturally wanted these things, but constantly tones it down in every relationship because she is afraid it is too toxic or unhealthy, or it pushes potential partners away. I want to be the guy that embraces these impulses, and compliments them, even sexualizes them.

I actually do have a very intense isolation kink. For my partner to play a manipulative role in keeping all of my attention for herself.. You can be extremely selfish with my attention even if it is borderline toxic. To use and leverage sensually and sexually manipulative advances to keep me from going out and to encourage me to be weak to my compulsive needs for you instead. If I have plans, you can convince me to blow them off or even coerce me to stay home. Sexual sabotage and being teased into ruining my plans to give you attention and intimacy instead is a huge kink of mine. If im about to leave, just play dress up, strut around, or pose in something that you know will distract me and take my eyes away from anything else. convince me to stay as you hold my crotch and show me how much better it would be if I stay with you. Make me prove love by giving you attention. Encourage and train my compulsive male weakness to prioritize you and goon to you. Show me that the only friend I need is you. Completely sabotage my plans by sitting on my face for prolonged periods of time instead of letting me go out, having rituals of you wearing skimpy outfits around me and tease me into spending hours admiring you, giving you back rubs, or leg massages, or have me goon to you for long periods of time as you ignore me and read a book, or watch a show, or doomscroll on your phone, or to have the most prolonged softcore foreplay, for hours at a time, denying each other (or just denying me) while constantly intensifying our intimacy.

I enjoy long sessions of foreplay and intense adoration. Even if I want to go out, or am out, to convince me to stop what I'm doing and go home because my obsessive and addictive need for you is more important. Your pussy's needs are more important, and your pussy should always be a complete priority. I love the idea of you dressing up just to keep me gooning to you, keeping my attention constantly on you, even though you are doing something else like reading a book, or playing on your phone, or watching something. Demand I sit in a corner and look at you as I jerk off with a pair of your dirty panties while you spend the next several hours ignoring my presence and doing whatever it is you want to do without me bothering you. Even to have you just sit on my face for long periods of time, periodically bounce and wiggle on my lips while you binge a show, not caring at all how much time is being spent like this. To be dressed up in lingerie as you straddle and bounce on my lap, denying penetration so I spend more and more time being attentive to your body with my hands and lips with constant necessity for more. Sessions of being extremely attentive to you is something I would very thoroughly enjoy.

We can both be dominant and submissive to each other in our own ways. The only power I really want in our dynamic is to be able to choose and buy outfits and lingerie for you, to collect them for you to wear for me when we are at home, just for you to use as a tool to manipulate me with and keep me home. To be a complete cock tease as you let me spend hours admiring and adoring you, gooning to you in whatever canvass of fabric that I pick out for your beauty. I need you to be as possessive and as selfish as you want. Perhaps it could simply be a part of our dynamic, that i am able to dress you however i want, so you can keep me as malleable and weak to you as possible, to keep me from going out, to encourage my obsession and adoration of you, to keep me gooning for you even longer, to make you my priority... and you can control everything else. You control where I can go, who I can hang out with, or to just perpetually keep me home as you constantly encourage my adoration of you. You choose whatever tv show or movie you want, and I focus on you.

I do crave consistent playfully manipulative sabotage and control over my social life, so that you will be a priority over everything else. I want someone who will enjoy developing a chemistry and learning what makes me tick so she will always know how to make me choose her over everything else. All while I also learn the intricacies of your desires, that we can build a world for each other that constantly caters to our most intense fantasies within our established boundaries.

I crave codependency. I crave a relationship dynamic that others might consider unhealthy, but will actually be considered healthy for us. I would really want to become obsessed and desperate for you.... to have an absolute necessity to constantly adore you and be intimate with you, and for this to become the most important part of my life. I want to be the worst addict for you. Obsessed and hopeless without you. I'd want you to become my priority to the point that I'd give up time with friends or family to be with you instead, but more importantly, that you want it, and need me to give up friends to make you feel more important. I crave a relationship so engulfed in obsessive passion and sexual intensity that both of us will be unable to escape our desirous addiction for more sensually intimate play, or to create more and more experiences for each other that cater to each of our most desirous needs. To be lost in this world of fantasy, and roleplay, and lust crazed love that we perpetually explore.

The ideal person is someone who craves constant attention.. who is never sexually satisfied... even being or manipulatively pretending to be easily jealous can make our dynamic more intense; who enjoys mind games, and is even interested in hypnosis or psychological conditioning ; who craves control and enjoys the idea of molding a male to be weaker for her. Someone who would truly enjoy using love, sensuality, and the desire to cum, to pry away deeper into a male psyche and encourage intense obsession and weakness for her; to ever more increase my dependency, necessity, desire, and sexual addiction for you while also making it nearly impossible to function without you. To really enjoy becoming the center of my life and enjoy being the center of my entire world.


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

EXPLICIT / OTHER 38 [M4F] #EastBay - A busy night owl seeks chill, honest, reliable, and communicative FWBs! NSFW

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Please read the whole post before messaging! If you just say "hi 32 f" or something, I'm going to ask if you read the whole post. Seriously, I'm looking for a woman with a brain too.

Here are my physical stats: dadbod, broad shoulders, bearded, bald, hairy elsewhere, multi-race, average height, average cock.

Looking for single (or open) 18 OR OLDER WOMEN (that means no men or masculine leaning people, and ONLY 18 or older, this is a strict requirement) for a physical FWB who are night owls (not a requirement, but a bonus), someone who is chill, reliable, communicative and responsive, and who is honest and open minded. I don't have the time or patience to have you text me one word for one whole day when I'm trying to have a conversation and get to know if we're a good fit. Be respectful of my time, and I will be respectful of yours. Looking for someone who I can explore deeper kinks with in (or out of) the bedroom. Age gaps are still welcome in either direction! Please either be willing to travel here, or be within an hour of the Bay. Still looking for all experience levels, from new to pro! Don't feel shy if you're inexperienced :). D&D free is must, and must be willing to share latest STI panels (of course I'd be happy to do the same!) Ideally would like a FWB for not just sex, but someone to enjoy time outside the bedroom with (movies, hikes, sightseeing, whatever!). I would also be fine with a fuck buddy as well, I'm not complaining lol. If it naturally progresses to something more, that's cool too!

If you made it this far and send a message, please be ready to share a pic when we connect as I will ask you first for one, and I'll happily do the same! Some caveats as well, I do ask questions to try and get to know you, and give lengthy, thorough responses. If that scares you, consider yourself warned, I guess? Expect to get an intro date going quickly too for vibes (no expectations to hook up then). If I don't hear back from you within 48 hours, I'm probably going to move on. And to signal that you read, tell me what movies or TV shows you've been into recently! Once again, I'm going to ask if you read the post as well, don't be surprised if I do lol (you have no idea how many "people" are). Thanks for reading!


r/SFr4r • • 15h ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Bearded and athletic, new to the city and looking for a FWB

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Hi there, thought I'd try this out instead of the dating app treadmill. I'm 28, athletic, and attractive. I recently moved back to SF and I'm looking for a FWB I can connect with both in and out of bed. I have my own place and am sane (lol)

In bed I'm on the dominant side and pretty kinky. Giving head is my absolute favorite. I also have a big breeding kink so it'd be awesome if you did too; I test regularly.

Outside of bed, I love to be outdoors, whether it's backpacking, picnics at Dolores, or stargazing at the beach. I also love to cook and bake for all my friends so perhaps you can be my sous chef, expect your tastebuds to be spoiled :)

If any of this interests you, shoot me a message!


r/SFr4r • • 11h ago

M4F 50 [M4F] #SFBay - free use, CNC play. Up for an “uber ride gone wrong”

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You “order” an uber, I pick you up, drive to a quiet place instead. Overpower you, force you in the back of my van. Strip you naked, tie you up, explore your sexy body and use you.

All limits respected. Meet in a public place beforehand if you want to.

Experienced tall athletic hung Dom.

I enjoy to take control, make you feel helpless, exposed, vulnerable, over power you, use you.

50, 6’5”, 200#, 8 inches.

Good with beginners, Start as slowly as you need, go as far as you want. Nice collection of toys and gear.

Clean, drug and disease free.


r/SFr4r • • 20h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #Oakland - Endlessly Licking Your Pussy

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I’m looking for a selfish woman who has a yearning to be spoiled and worshipped for hours on end. Maybe you’re a pillow princess and want to be eaten while you lay in your back? Or perhaps you like to climb onto all fours and feel me lick your pussy from behind? Or - even better - you want to be a bit greedy and sit on on my face and ride my tongue? However you prefer to be licked, I’d love to use my lips and mouth and tongue to help you cum over and over again.

A bit about me: - White, 6’, lean/athletic build, cute face and smile, shortish brown hair. - Lean submissive so if you’ve got a selfish streak, I think we’ll get along just fine. - More of an introvert but a very eager and insatiable pleaser when my head is squeezed between your thighs.

A bit about you: - Women of all looks and shapes - although curvy, hairy, excitable women will always get my attention! - Curious, open-minded, maybe a tad assertive? - Bonus points if you are a squirter, love to cum on a guy’s tongue, and enjoy having your ass eaten as well.

If this piqued your interest or raised your eyebrows or even if you read long enough to get here, let’s chat!


r/SFr4r • • 12h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - cuddle buddy tonight?

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Hello! 32 year old from San Francisco (closer to SF State) looking for someone to cuddle with tonight. Not looking for sex or anything sexual, but open to more if the vibes are there for both of us.

I’m white, 5’8, 155 lbs, ddf, have my own place, and can host! If you’re interested, message me your favorite tv series or movie and we can spend our first cuddle session watching that 🙂. LED lights and lavender scent will be included 🍃


r/SFr4r • • 12h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 23 [M4F] #MountainView - Looking for FWBs in the Peninsula NSFW

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Hey there. I'm a 23 year old white male from Mountain view and I'm looking for a friend with benefit that's either able to host or is open to carplay. I just got out of a relationship so I want something casual right now and want carefree fun. Im very into sports, video games and anime. Hopefully we have something in common and if not that's ok. I don't have any preferences, I would just like a sfw pic to be sent early on in the conversation because I do want there to be physical attraction. Im either open to talking on here or discord.


r/SFr4r • • 18h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 28 [M4F] #SanFrancisco - Hung guy looking for some weekend fun

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I'd love to play soon. I have a few pics on my profile; if you'd like to see more please reach out. I'm hoping someone out there is interested in playing with a nice, uncut cock. I'm DDF.

About me:

I'm white, 6'1, 170lbs. I enjoy several sports- running, climbing, etc. I'm a classic SF mid 20s guy, in a lot of ways.

I'm primarily interested in women or couples 18-45, DDF, but shoot your shot. I'm looking for a hottie that wants to play, someone fun with too much time on their hands. Let's figure out how to have a good time together. I like oral and fucking, I'm heteroflexible and interested in exploring MMF/MFM scenarios too. I'd be very very interested in joining a MMF in some capacity.


r/SFr4r • • 12h ago

PLATONIC / FRIENDSHIP / ACTIVITY PARTNER 30 [M4F] #SFBay - Dead inside, anyone else feel the same? Lol

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So it's been this way for awhile now, I'm not exactly sure what I'm looking for besides just some kind of connection. I guess that can materialize in many different ways and I'm open to them. I'm a pretty chill, laid back and content single straight mixed male living in SF. Don't really have a huge group of friends, and the ones I do have, moved out of the area. I guess I've just been feeling pretty numb in the past 5+ years. I don't feel sad but I don't really feel much of anything anymore. That's all cool and dandy, not necessarily looking to change that but maybe find someone who might feel the same? That would be cool lol. Sometimes I question is it even worth trying to connect with other people anymore? Maybe i should move to a new place and start new idk. I guess i don't really fit in with SF anymore.

I like day trips, exploring the region, love all animals, themeparks, trying new food, concerts, etc etc. I don't mind doing those things by myself, like I said I'm pretty content and accepting of my life. Just throwing this out there, maybe someone might resonate.


r/SFr4r • • 12h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #San Jose - do you want your pussy eaten? 😊

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I know that title might be a bit blunt but hey sometimes it’s good to be a little blunt. Maybe you’re busy, stressed, or whatever the reason is and just want to sneak away for a bit for a release. I’d like to provide that release for you. I’m not looking for any kind of reciprocation and I’m ideally looking for someone ongoing and local to San Jose that I could meet a couple times a week or whenever you need it. Bonus points if you’re fit and want to sit on my face. Curious at all? I promise I don’t bite

I’m 39, 6’ tall, 190 lbs, fit and workout regularly. Semi nsfw pic on my profile. I’m located in San Jose and have a nice apt. Std free and vaccinated. I’ve got a college degree and personality wise I’m really easy going and easy to talk too. I like to cook and go hiking on the weekends and travel whenever I can. I also really love music and watching Bay Area sports.


r/SFr4r • • 21h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 40 [M4M] #oakland - Want to be put to use by a patient, dominant man

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I'm 40, in Oakland, and looking to explore my submissive side more seriously. I've tried it a couple of times and really enjoyed it, especially giving head, so now I'm looking for a single dominant guy to take things further with. The right couple could be fun too.

A lot of my fantasies center on being submissive: being told what to do, learning exactly how to please you, getting called names, being used for your pleasure. I'd love to spend a lot of time sucking you off, and eventually I'd like to bottom (or try strap-on play with couples), but I'd like to build up to that rather than jump in right away.

Long term, I'd love this to become a regular thing. You message me on a stressful day, swing by my place on your way home, get taken care of, and head out. There's something really hot about you knowing I need it, and that it helps me unwind to make you cum. To be clear, I wouldn't really call myself bi and I'm not into making out. It's the sub dynamic that does it for me.

Because I'm hoping for something ongoing, and some of this takes trust, I'd like to chat a bit before we meet. If your opener is "yo when you free" and a dick pic, it's probably not going to work out.

Me: 5'8", 165 lbs, about 7" cut. I work out a few times a week, and I'm clean and tested (happy to retest if we click). Outside of this I'm into hiking, backpacking, climbing, and the occasional bike ride. I have a car and can host or travel if it's not too far.

You: Average to fit, take care of yourself, clean, tested, no drugs. Dominant, but willing to start slow and build trust. Couples of all shapes and sizes welcome.


r/SFr4r • • 15h ago

M4F 43 [M4F] #SanJose - Need a Partner in Crime for Live Music, Movies, Art, Yapping, Sarcasm & Giggles!

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There are billions of people in the world, all living their own separate lives and how we'll probably never know most of them. Which to me feels a little strange. So I figured I would try getting to know a few? Looking for a new reliable friend to inject some energy into your life? Sick of the same old conversations? Or just looking for a bit of fun?

I love writing poetry, watching movies (love Horror movies too), TV series, attending festivals and concerts, going dancing, I love going to shows of different kinds. I am fascinated by art, from museums to fairs. My creative outlets are writing, story-telling and photography (which hopefully leads to film making). I am also a hobby juggler, always trying new classes. I love to read, a life long learner.

I love to talk, mostly deeper discussion, love when we get into that rabbit hole for a topic or an experience or a relationship. We all are so complex and it’s so much fun to unravel those deep secrets hidden in us or around us.

On the other side, I love to laugh, being silly and enjoy a fun banter. I am also Into fitness, both mental and physical. That’s another space I can use a friend for.

I live in San Jose but Im in SF over many weekends so I am pretty mobile. I'm here to find a partner in crime to go to music events or standup comedy, go to shows (from theater to burlesque), attend artsy fairs or take creative classes or catch up for a meal while reveling in sarcasm and chaos and generally have a laugh!

Dislikes: People whose entire personality is Drinking or Hard Drugs (no judgment though, okay may be a little lol), AI growing a little too fast, that little bit of tomato ketchup pre-cum you get if you don't shake the bottle before using.

Simple Pleasures:

- Having your back scratched. The shivers!

- Working out until I can barely stand, then quickly showering. Why? Because afterwards, you can just sit around, lazy as fuck, and feel good about it.

- That First Sip of Morning Coffee

- Introducing a friend to a song/movie/book that I love and that they, in turn, love

I am sarcastic with a darker sense of humor but also a compassionate and empathic guy, I have both male and female friends. I am not a DUDE kind of male, more of a subtle, classier, chivalrous guy. I am an ambivert, can totally be ultra social when needed to be and sometimes just curl up and enjoy my own company.

Happy to lay the foundation for a long term friendship first and then more. I am also a parent (co-parenting with the mom).

Shoot me a message and tell me about yourself!


r/SFr4r • • 15h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] #San Francisco - Let's share some work tea and some warmth !

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Good evening everyone

Hope all is well and TGIF !! Been looking for someone to relax and unwind a bit since it was an exhausting week. Hopefully that someone is YOU ! Lol we could maybe grab a drink or visit the emporium, shoot some hoops and just hang. If the vibes are right then perhaps we can go to my place ( I would love to have you over) , we can pop in a movie , cuddle up , make out and do something more !

Im 6'3, work in stem , bearded and in my free time , love to bike, people watch and check out live music whenever I can. Inside activities include video games ( currently making my way through sh townfall) , reading and doomscrolling.

Hmu if you're interested and wanna talk the night away. Open to something casual and consistent if there is mutual interest ( would love to hit up the movies whenever we can , on me).

Thanks for reading and have a great weekend!

-xoxo


r/SFr4r • • 15h ago

M4F 49 [M4F] #Berkeley - tall, athletic hung Bull up for some fun with a sexy girl or couple

1 Upvotes

Love to please a sexy women, get her what she needs, get her wet, excited, to orgasm.

49, 6’4”, 210#, 8 inches, BWC

I have played with couples before, we all very much enjoyed it.

Clean, respectful, drug and disease free.

Anything from very sensual to rough and kinky, whatever gets her off.

Ben


r/SFr4r • • 16h ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #EastBay - I help short people reach things at the store

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I have this fantasy of it sparking a whole conversation about needing someone handy to keep around but so far..that has been nowhere close to ever happening. Imagination will just have to push on 

Anywayyy, what delusion am I chasing on here? Somewhere in the spectrum between a serious relationship and being strictly physical. Would really love to connect with someone. A woman who's not overly serious nor only banters/jokes. Fun, playful, easy going, both sweet & spicy. I do want someone to care about, think about each other and talk during the day, look forward to hugging, stealing my hoodies, kissing..ect. Fill those voids for each other. Mentally, physically, whatever else-ally. So, whatever your situation, I want to talk. Also, to be clear...you don't actually need to be short either

As for me - Attached, white, (allegedly) younger looking 39, 6'4, brown hair, green/hazel eyes, some tattoos not fullll hipster but not enough to fully fit in there. Honestly feel like a mix of jock/hipster/nerd without being enough of any of the three to really blend it that well anywhere. Really big into cycling (absolute spandex dork) cars, sports, music, movies, coffee, outdoors, the unbearable weight of being

Most into dark hair but genuinely open approach in general here. If you're cute and we click, that's all that matters. If you're still here tell me a bit about yourself and what resonated with you from that mess of a word salad in your intro.

Hope you find whatever you're looking for one way or another


r/SFr4r • • 16h ago

EXPLICIT / RAOBJ, RAOMF 31 [M4F] #Oakland - Happy guy with a vasectomy seeks fun monogamous fwb

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Hi! I'm on the lookout for someone who wants an open-minded and monogamous FWB with a guy who's always recently tested, well-versed in consent, pleasure and aftercare. I have a vasectomy, so guaranteed no pregnancy scares.

I’m a happy and forward thinking 31M, 5' 7", brown hair, gray-green eyes white guy living in Oakland with my own place and car. I work in SF, and am often driving around the bay on weekends. Open to the Bay Area.

I've done this setup before of basically an exclusive fwb (emphasis friends and the benefits) but just before the step of calling it a relationship and I feel like it's been really mutually beneficial.

No need to stress about if you're exposing yourself to others if your fwb is seeing multiple people, can do more quote on quote risky behavior without the risk. No need to introduce the guy to your friends or family or go do a bunch of guy stuff with him that you don't want to - like you might have had to in a relationship.

I like having my play partner over, maybe eat together, maybe watch a show together then pick her up and throw her on the bed to get her off, get myself off, stuff her well, sleepovers and cuddles as desired before the next day. Maybe a sexy text once in a while in the week between meets. But otherwise we have our own lives, can focus on our own friends and careers. Short term or long term, I'm flexible as things don't have to last forever to be a lot of fun, but no ONS or ENM setups, I like keeping contact tracing locked down.

Only singles. I'm open to swapping to real dating as well but in that case you must not want children in the future (see Vasectomy part).

As for roles I’m quite flexible, so come as you are and I'll let you know if it'll work. I find that different dynamics work well for different people and that the fun is finding the overlap we both enjoy. Maybe you get to try out something you've never done before. I've tried a lot and am kink-friendly, so I might surprise you. I am best suited for someone with a fairly high libido and who would self-describe themselves as kind and passionate.

Otherwise a normal guy with normal day job hours, lots of hobbies, enjoys live music and road trips. Since it's important these days, I have compassionate/lefty political beliefs (I do live in Oakland after all). Open to all ethnicities as long as you personally identify as a woman/feminine. Age flexible but please at least be in your 20s or older. Reach out if you're interested. Talk soon!

Note: If this ad is up then I'm still available, but I'll be taking it down once I'm accounted for, since I'm not interested in multiple play partners.


r/SFr4r • • 17h ago

M4F 46 [M4F] #SanJose - Long haired, single Dad seeks sweet and sensual

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Hi there, I’m a single Dad who works from home as a lead engineer in the video game industry. I have my kids 50% of the time.

I would love to find someone to go on dates with. I’m open to romantic love should it present itself to me. I also have a lot of physical affection to give and I have my own place that’s empty half the time, it’s a shame it is so underutilized!

Physically I am 6’1”, 190lbs, I workout and run regularly. I have LONG Jesus type wavy blonde hair and still have all of it. I have blue eyes and I wear glasses and I usually have a clean shaven face. Imagine a cute nerd crossed with a surfer.

Personality wise, I am quietly confident, intelligent, stalwart, laid back, introverted and a little bit neurospicy. I also tend to operate like a clock, a clock that likes to have fun!

Sensual and sexual touch are super important to me. I have a great capacity to give and receive sensual pleasure. I am not a casual sex person. Revelatory, lusty and loving explorations of a partner who is present as themselves and wants both of us to feel good. I am not kinky. I have had a vasectomy.

For fun I like to go dancing (industrial/goth or EDM), go to concerts, I love going to Niners games, I also like to hike, bike, camp, and take road trips. Around the house I enjoy video or board games or an occasional movie.

I use alcohol and weed in moderation and would appreciate if you are open minded about that. I am open to conscious use of other substances as well (combine with dancing???).

I like women who are smart, sweet and sensual. Physically I really enjoy size difference. I enjoy feeling large compared to my partner. Some people react weird to this preference. It’s not about any weird youth fantasy, it’s about feeling masculine and big, I enjoy that a lot.

Thank you for reading this far, I hope to hear from you!


r/SFr4r • • 21h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #PaloAlto - Handsome. Fit. Intelligent. Professional. Looking for a FwB to spoil and make memories with.

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I am in my 40s and I am in the best shape and place in my life. I am looking for a consistent partner. I’m caucasian, brunette, average height and very fit. 100% DDF and healthy. I take great care of my mind and body, I am fun to talk to and hang around with. I have many interests and hobbies and know how to treat a lady right!

When it comes to dates, I always take care of hosting, the logistics, all the planning etc. You just need to show up, be taken care of and have a great time!

What I’m looking for is someone around 30-40 age range, intelligent, open minded, emotionally and mentally mature with a great sense of humor and charm. Someone I can have a conversation with, laugh with and have great sexual chemistry. On the appearance side I have no preference for ethnicity, race or origin but I do have a big weakness for petite, smaller women, slim/fit body, waistline and traditional feminine beauty.

I greatly value discretion. I value your privacy and your personal life and I don’t ask questions or meddle.

If you’re interested, please reach out!