So it's been this way for awhile now, I'm not exactly sure what I'm looking for besides just some kind of connection. I guess that can materialize in many different ways and I'm open to them. I'm a pretty chill, laid back single straight mixed male living in SF. Don't really have a huge group of friends, and the ones I do have, moved out of the area. I guess I've just been feeling pretty numb in the past 5+ years. I don't feel sad but I don't really feel much of anything anymore lol. I'm sure that's a bad thing, but tbh I'm pretty content, just seeing if anyone is out there that might feel the same and is looking for some type of connection.

I like day trips, exploring the region, love all animals, themeparks, trying new food, concerts, etc etc. I don't mind doing those things by myself, like I said I'm pretty content and accepting of my life. Just throwing this out there, maybe someone might resonate.

The only thing i ask, is no self-centered, rude, stuck up or narcissistic people plz, I know meeting people online is a crap shoot, but hopefully there are self-aware people here!

Hi! I am an experienced bull looking for new/experienced couples along with single females. I travel to the bay area pretty regularly and can host or come over during my trips.

About me : I am 32, 5’9, DDF, dom, straight and enjoy kayaking, watching sports, finding treasures at Costco and traveling in my free time.

Looking for chill humans who value mutual respect, consent and discretion. I have a couple of posts on my profile with some of my recent experiences with other hotwifes and single women. Bonus points if you are Asian!

PS: not interested in men looking to sext about their wives

Looking for something casual while I’m in SF from nyc for a conference Oct 26 - 28!

I’m 28, 6ft, slim/athletic, white with dirty blonde hair, tattooed, and usually clean-shaven or short stubble. I keep myself well-groomed. Also have a vasectomy.
I’m direct and respectful. I like keeping things clear and making sure it’s enjoyable for both of us. May be able to host at my hotel or can definitely travel within reason.

Open to most ages and body types. Happy to verify.
Let me know if you’re interested. :)

Hello!

Full disclosure, I know this post isn't for most, so I apologize in advance.

I'm a married 40M dad from the Bay Area (CA, USA), looking for a woman in a similar situation.

I absolutely love and adore my wife, never thought I'd find myself here, and don't want to change things. However, I miss feeling that spark. Her and I have very different libidos and interest levels in sex, so we are living in a mostly roommate/dead bedroom dynamic.

I'm looking for a woman in a similar situation. Real, never expected to be here, ideally a parent, doesn't want to change things, but is missing that spark and feeling of being pursued.

Happy to slowly get to know you and keep things mostly online with the possibility of occasional in person meetups (even if just for coffee or to feel someone's touch). Open to discussing things like daily life, hobbies, and fun stories. Not looking for something purely sexual.

6ft, white, dad bod/hwp, clean, and respectful.

I look forward to meeting you and seeing where the journey takes us.

About me:

I'm a 47-year-old man in San Francisco with a successful career in tech and a full, balanced life. In my free time I enjoy live music, good cocktails, F1 weekends, and Warriors games. Fitness is my anchor: lifting, Pilates, boxing, and long walks around the city. On quieter nights you'll find me at home with my tiny senior Pomeranian, reading or watching a good show.

Physically, I am 5’9”, 160lbs, and in good shape. Brown eyes, short brown hair with a bit of salt and pepper. Happy to share pics.

I like making the woman I'm with feel wanted, appreciated, and cared for. I'm affectionate, playful, and happy to take the lead—I plan dates and follow through. There's a calm dominant side to me, and I'd enjoy a consensual D/s dynamic if it's something we both want. Physical touch is central to how I connect, so I'm looking for someone with a strong appetite for a passionate physical relationship who's comfortable talking openly about desires and boundaries.

I'm happily child-free and have had a vasectomy, so I'm looking for someone who wants the same.

What I'm hoping to build

I'm relatively new to non-monogamy, but I'm taking it seriously. I'm currently reading The Ethical Sl-t, thinking about how to do this well, and I'm ready for it. Right now I have one long-distance partner who has a primary partner of her own, so I'm looking for someone local to be a real part of my day-to-day life.

By "primary," I mean the relationship that gets first call on our time, energy, and shared life, while leaving real room for other connections. We'd each have the freedom to date others, and I'd want us to talk openly and often about what that looks like and what feels good for both of us. I have a particular interest in exploring together, whether that's swinging or threesomes. Down the line, I'd be open to the partnership growing from two people to three, if the right person came along and it felt right for everyone

Beyond that, I want the everyday stuff: cooking together, catching live music, good conversations over drinks, and pulling each other close at the end of the night.

We’ll get along well if...

You're warm, affectionate, curious, and playful. You communicate directly, take care of yourself, and enjoy your own femininity. I'm attracted to women who are slim and fit, and who enjoy an active life. You have room in your life for a committed partnership and the independence to be yourself. Ideally you're in San Francisco or close enough that seeing each other regularly is easy.

**If this resonates** tell me about yourself: your age, location, a bit about how you look, your current relationship situation, how you feel about exploring with others together, and the best live show you've seen in the last year.

Hey there. I'm a 23 year old white male from Mountain view and I'm looking for a friend with benefit that's either able to host or is open to carplay. I just got out of a relationship so I want something casual right now and want carefree fun. Im very into sports, video games and anime. Hopefully we have something in common and if not that's ok. I don't have any preferences, I would just like a sfw pic to be sent early on in the conversation because I do want there to be physical attraction. Im either open to talking on here or discord.

I'd like to give a full-body massage that melts away your stress while slowly awakening your arousal. Muscles reshaped in capable hands, knots untangled, and a busy mind refocused on your emerging desires. The massage of your fantasies wanders beyond the boundaries of professionalism, incorporates and encourages your arousal, and delivers intense orgasms rippling through a totally relaxed body and mind, amplified by building anticipation, with aftershocks that might last for hours.

I've practiced massage for years, including a brief past in orthopedic medicine and physical therapy. I know what I'm doing as accumulated physical and mental stress start to melt away, you stop worrying about how you're supposed to behave, and you're able to let your thoughts wander in an almost meditative bliss towards anticipation of my next stroke and the realization of your desires. A relaxing experience completely focused on you.

I've given many massages in a more professional environment, sometimes noticing her glistening wetness dripping onto the table. I might find an excuse to massage higher up her thigh, feeling her body start to writhe in pleasure. It's a lot more fun to incorporate your pleasure, knowing your building arousal has an outlet. In my experience there are two main paths, depending on your interest and mindset.

1. The massage feels like any other spa massage but with traditional boundaries of professionalism skirted until it's obvious your pleasure is not off-limits. Hands drifting from your obliques to the side of your breasts, long strokes over your lower back extend across your glutes, and soft touch lingers up your inner thigh.
2. Your arousal is encouraged and incorporated from the start. A lingering touch on an earlobe, neck, or more obviously fanning fingers over the sides of your breasts. Extra encouragement for you to quiet your busy mind and give yourself over to the experience. Your anticipation flows in new ways, feeling less on script.

I'm 43, single, straight, discreet, and respectful. I'm able to host in the Pacific Heights area of San Francisco, travel to you, or meet at a local spa. I'm a former soccer player and frequent hiker, giving me a special understanding of your tired legs and glutes. I've experienced and learned massage during my travels around the world, continually integrating new styles and techniques. When not giving massages I enjoy watching movies, training dogs, hiking in redwood forests, and trying new restaurants.

I understand meeting someone can be a bit intimidating. You might hesitate, dismissing the experience you'd like to have as out of reach or too good to be true. A few women I have massaged in the past have left comments in my previous posts on my profile offering to share their experiences and help ease the hesitation of getting to know a relative stranger. I'd like to learn more about the experience you'd like to have, your unique sources of stress and tension, and answer any curiosities over chat.

Have you wished you could experience a massage with fewer restraints, where your entire body was a canvas ready to be discovered and reshaped? Would you like to explore an experience completely focused on you, where your mind is free to wander, and desires emerge in an almost meditative bliss? Say hello and let's craft an experience of full relaxation and slow, emerging arousal.

50 MWM 6’2 195 weird dick but great face for sitting on. very clean and discrete looking for a little adult fun this week. Can host in Marina or travel around Bay Area. Open to most anything or at least will try anything once…maybe twice. Hit me up and let’s play.

Married 46 year old looking to connect with other local guys to occasionally hangout, maybe go for a run, grab dinner, go to a k spa, or coffee.

I’d prefer local friends but in SF often enough so that would work too.

Feel free to DM

Figured I'd give Reddit a shot because, as convenient as the apps are, they don't exactly reward personality. So here I am.

I'm 5’10, fit/muscular, have a couple tattoos, and despite spending years in the gym, the compliments I get most are about my voice and my eyelashes. Life has a sense of humor..

I'm naturally a little sarcastic, have done standup (never again), am easygoing, and the type of person who enjoys conversations that somehow turn into "one more drink" and suddenly it's closing time. I’m a yapper and love to talk. I also appreciate playful banter, a little flirting, and someone who doesn't take herself too seriously.

I'm mostly here to meet interesting people. If it turns into flirting, dating, or something more, great. If we end up making a new friend and discovering our favorite taco spot together, that's a win too. Good connections are hard enough to find that I'm not interested in forcing a label before we've even met.

If we hit it off, let's not be strangers behind our screens. I'd much rather find out if we click over a drink, boba, brunch. or an unnecessarily competitive game of mini golf.

Your move. Tell me something that's oddly specific about you, your favorite terrible joke, or the most random compliment you've ever received.

I am in my 40s and I am in the best shape and place in my life. I am looking for a consistent partner. I’m caucasian, brunette, average height and very fit. 100% DDF and healthy. I take great care of my mind and body, I am fun to talk to and hang around with. I have many interests and hobbies and know how to treat a lady right!

When it comes to dates, I always take care of hosting, the logistics, all the planning etc. You just need to show up, be taken care of and have a great time!

What I’m looking for is someone around 30-40 age range, intelligent, open minded, emotionally and mentally mature with a great sense of humor and charm. Someone I can have a conversation with, laugh with and have great sexual chemistry. On the appearance side I have no preference for ethnicity, race or origin but I do have a big weakness for petite, smaller women, slim/fit body, waistline and traditional feminine beauty.

I greatly value discretion. I value your privacy and your personal life and I don’t ask questions or meddle.

If you’re interested, please reach out!

Hello. Seeking a discreet, beautiful lady who doesn't mind that I'm married and wants a temporary physical relationship. I'm in a DB and never have the opportunity to receive oral anymore. I miss the warm feeling and vulnerability of receiving oral from a willing partner. I work in SF and can meet up for lunch or after-work drinks to see how we vibe.

I am 6’0" and 155 lbs, clean, and laid back. I'm a great listener and a private person where your secret is safe with me. I can converse about anything and will have an opinion if you ask me, INTJ. Looking for someone in the Bay Area who is chill and has a secret kinky side. Willing to share pics with potential matches. My preference is for Asian slim HWP only. Sorry, no BBW, no curvy.

Seeking a female in need of a spanking. Can be something disciplinarian or more erotic. Perhaps just something maintenance of a reminder to be on better behavior. Can take you over my knee, bare bottomed using my hand, your hairbrush or other instrument. Able to place you on all fours, placed over furniture or on your back knew to chest. We can discuss your needs. Age and relationship status unimportant. Curvy/bbw need discipline too

Sooo eating pussy is one of my fav things ever, and I like to think I’m really good at it! I’ve given so many orgasms to girls (including giving some their first squirting orgasms) by eating them out. I’m a huge people pleaser and can go down for literally hours without stopping!

People have loved how good I eat them out that some have caught feelings for me! I also make sure to make each person orgasm 4-5 times on average and have never had a time when I've failed to make them cum! In the past few months, I’ve eaten out dozens of girls and given a countless number of orgasms but I’m always looking to give more!

I’m simply looking for someone who enjoys having their pussy ate or maybe just wants to experience cumming from oral for the first time; I promise I won’t quit til I make you cum! Age isn't an issue (18+ ofc) as I've been with girls ranging from 20-46!

I’m DDF, hwp, and can host in downtown! Feel free to send a message if you feel like this could be a fun time and I’d be happy to exchange pictures and all that :)

Sub Bottom guy looking for a guy who will put me in his wife/gf's panties or lingerie and then rail me like there's no tomorrow. I am in SW San Jose but I cannot host. I can go to you or meet somewhere in the middle. Top Ts/CD's are welcome to respond.

You host, but car and public play is also good.

Had a date bail out on me for today's show over at the Midway. Free ticket if you'd liek to join!

Its for Marc Rebillet, Franc Moody, and Chromeo at the Midway!

I’d rather it go to a real person than sit unused.

A bit about me: I’m a digital designer by day, have a dog who thinks he runs the house, picking up golf again, cheer for the Hurricanes during hockey season, and have a slew of nerdy/geeky hobbies. Though today: a guy who likes funky live music and itching to dance life's harshness off like a goof with no care.

The biggest trait of me s a standout: I won’t be talking about work, tech, AI, crypto, or startup 9-9-6 BS.

We meet at the venue, enjoy the show, and see how flows. Doors are at 3pm and after party goes until 2am. Stay as long or as short as you'd like!

Me:

• Basics: 43, 5'10", 160 lbs, Asian, fit.
• Location: East Bay Tri-Valley (I can host).
• Personality: Half extrovert, half introvert. I'm pretty chill, don't get upset, joke around a lot. I think I'm pretty grounded. Not into materialistic things unfortunately.
• Hobbies: Guitars, singing, cooking, fitness, running, reading
• Kid situation: 50% custody, I do everything for them when they're with me.

What I'm Looking For:

• Ideally an FWB setup, open to more if there's organic chemistry.
• Attentive, generous in bed, and big on post-hookup cuddling.
• I prefer to connect a bit first rather than rushing in.
• Type: HWP/athletic, though chemistry matters most.

The Fine Print: No drama please, no kids/stepmom pressure. Just a mutual fun connection between two adults who are adulting.

UPDATE: It’s been my joy and privilege to provide bodywork for nearly 50 women since I started this adventure 8 years ago.

5’11”Masseur looking to connect with select women in need of full body, hot oil massage (and who isn’t in need of that? 😉

What I offer is an experience where the therapeutic touch bridges to the sexual. Using warm grape seed oil, I begin with a traditional Swedish massage to slowly and firmly work all of the stress and tension out of your major muscle groups before transitioning to an increasingly more erotic exploration of your body leading to full, orgasmic release(s). It’s time to treat yourself to an experience that men have long been able to enjoy.

Open to providing private solo massage as well as having partners observe. I’m offering this service at no charge and completely without strings or expectations of reciprocation of any kind. My satisfaction and fulfillment comes completely from the pleasure my hands and fingers coax from your body.

If this is something that is tempting, connect with me and we can begin a conversation about all the ways you like to be touched. We will customize the massage to your unique desires and limits.

Happy to exchange pics after connecting through DM’s. Please reach out only if you’re serious with a blurb about yourself and pics.

Looking to find a FWB/ONS who aligns with our kinky interests for pretty consistent play. I live alone and can host in SF. I am 6’1 and 195, good looking, and respectful. Looking for someone in SF who is clean, sane, submissive, and kinky. Willing to share pics with potential matches.

I'm working a very swank, ticketed swinger/lifestyle party this Saturday in San Francisco (the 24th), hosted at a great venue.

I have a +1 and I'd hate for the ticket to go unused. Rather than waste it, I’d love to invite someone who would genuinely enjoy the experience.

There are no expectations. The event is designed primarily for couples and a limited number of single women. Around 50+ guests are expected, and the overall vibe is upscale, social, and playful.

You don’t need prior experience, just comfort being in that kind of environment and an open mind. Participation is always optional; simply showing up, socializing, and enjoying the atmosphere is perfectly fine.

A bit about me: I’m a 40-year-old African American man, 5'11", about 180 lbs, fit/athletic, and easy on the eyes (or so I’m told ). I’m also happy to provide safe pickup and drop-off if that makes things easier.

I’m not selling anything, the pass is already paid for and would otherwise go to waste. This is genuinely about sharing a unique experience with someone local.

Preference goes to women in the South Bay, Peninsula, or San Francisco area. If you’re interested, tell me a bit about yourself, and feel free to share a photo. I’m happy to return the favor.

I’m looking for an attached/married man who’s looking for a discreet/clean mouth to use. If you're interested in being serviced discreetly, send your stats and pics.

Be ddf, in shape, not over 50

Me: 33, m, 6’0, 180, bi discreet/dl, ddf

Hosting a gloryhole today after 3pm through Sunday morning from my hotel room in Union City. Uncut preferred but cut is fine too. DDF here, you be too. This can be a sitting or standing gloryhole, you decide. DM me with a dick pic.