r/transpassing • • Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

142 Upvotes

Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing • • Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

200 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing • • 3h ago

It's been 2 more years on HRT since my last post. How am I doing?

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120 Upvotes

For context, I have been medically transitioning for almost 4 years now. I don't get called "sir" or "he/him" by strangers anymore. Ofc family and friends are a different story lol. Anyway, hit me reddit!

And ik, I'm wearing makeup in all the pics, and I'm definitely holding my best angle.


r/transpassing • • 19h ago

Yay or nay?

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528 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 11h ago

First impressions

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102 Upvotes

Looking for first impressions because I'm incredibly unaware of how I'm perceived & what genre of person a stranger might read me as. It'd help if you could guess my sexuality/vibe/genderfuckery, not just if I read as cis 💜

Tried to pick a range of expressions, angles, outfits, & puttogetherness. I really tried to include more smiles, I tend to be stonefaced in selfies to be cool & mysterious but in real life interactions I vacillate between obnoxiously bubbly and completely bewildered


r/transpassing • • 16h ago

do i pass?

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269 Upvotes

21mo hrt


r/transpassing • • 17h ago

not passing but happy

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225 Upvotes

i mostly pass, with my mouth shut. people always clock me cause of my voice. but they actually do not ever disrespect me!


r/transpassing • • 17h ago

1 year progress lmk what we think 💋

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235 Upvotes

Do I pass after a year?


r/transpassing • • 7h ago

52 3 yrs hrt minimal effect but did it hit a bit ?

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19 Upvotes

here are some like normal everyday pics of me going to work and just living life .. I have a good life but is there anything I can do to maxx my transition a bit? I can’t afford surgery


r/transpassing • • 15h ago

Got called him twice today at work

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88 Upvotes

literally feel SO BRICKY I have no idea whether I'm even fem presenting atp


r/transpassing • • 2h ago

FFS Advice

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2.5 years HRT. I’m 35.
I’m going for a second round of FFS after a brow bone reduction last June.

Last pic is before any surgery/botox.

I love how feminizing the brow bone reduction and change in gaze was. I tried to hold off on jaw work and opted for masseter botox instead, but it just made my cheekbones look less proportioned to my face.

I’m going for a lip lift, that’s for sure, but I’m unsure about jaw work. I had chat gpt do my before/after (sorry bout it 😅), but I’m not sure if it’s an accurate representation. I love the after though! 😹

I’m dysphoric so I don’t have much perception of how I’m perceived. I haven’t been sir’d since, but I can tell when people interact with me that they’re taken by surprise. I’m also 6 foot, so who knows…

I want to be able to find a job and travel without need to take my transness into account.

Objective advice, please .


r/transpassing • • 6h ago

30F where I at

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11 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 9h ago

Something clocky about me rn? Please be honest. Do i need ffs? No filter btw

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18 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 13m ago

How do I read. Started at 54

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• Upvotes

4 years HRT, ffs two years ago SRS a year ago.


r/transpassing • • 29m ago

Do I pass?

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I've been passing very well, I've never had someone misgender me in public for years but my family keeps telling me I don't.

I'm 16 ftm. (not showing my face for privacy reasons and also because I hate my face. Maybe I'll show it later)


r/transpassing • • 9h ago

Will I ever pass?

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12 Upvotes

I start hrt/ anti androgens as soon as I get a job.
I’m feeling really hopeless today. I look like a gay boy or something.
The acne’s really bad, as well as the bump in my nose, and my chin.
I can’t tell if I have a good brow bone or not?


r/transpassing • • 14h ago

whats clocky? no hugbuxxing pls

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21 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 1d ago

Am I actually growing hips or no

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295 Upvotes

Am I delusional..


r/transpassing • • 6h ago

mtnb (fem)

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3 Upvotes

mtnb(fem) no e


r/transpassing • • 9h ago

I’m 26, MtF, I’m a year into HRT and just want other peoples opinions.

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7 Upvotes

As the title states, just looking for outside opinions and advice. I currently get ma’amed only a little less than I get throughout the day


r/transpassing • • 6h ago

Do my hands pass?

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4 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 18h ago

Do I pass? (No makeup)

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19 Upvotes

r/transpassing • • 12h ago

What to improve?

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7 Upvotes

MTF 21 4 years HRT


r/transpassing • • 23h ago

With and without makeup

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41 Upvotes

Hey peeps 😊 I know i pass fairly well with makeup but I do not feel comfortable and confident without, to the point I refuse leaving the house without at least a tiny bit.

I have heavy discoloration around my eyes and I don't know what to do about it rather than just put foundation over it and I feel thats whats makes me the most uncomfy.

No FFS, I had GRS in 2021.

More context: 35 tf, 7y on HRT


r/transpassing • • 23h ago

I’m doing a bulk with my boyfriend trying to grow my hips.

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I’m getting a little insecure because my mid section is so much softer than usual. (I’m like, 15 pounds heavier than normal) Just wondering if I still pass. I def feel like my thighs are getting bigger and helping there so maybe I’m just being paranoid. I’m def more concerned about my face in general but I’m scheduling a consult for FFS next month