r/sjr4r • • Nov 17 '25

INFORMATION :) Protect Your Posts: Understand the Reputation Filter

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Have you been noticing an uptick in your posts disappearing? Wondering why your posts are getting removed?

This subreddit's reputation filter flags posts that seem suspicious or risky. It analyzes:

  • Account age
  • Karma score
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  • Account Credibility
  • Verification status (reddit style verification)

To avoid getting your posts marked for removal, consider these tips:

  • Build a strong karma score by engaging with content and users positively.
  • Get photo verified with moderators to increase trust in your identity.

Verified Users: Extra Protection

Moderators add verified users to an approved list. This boosts your credibility and lowers the risk of post removal due to false spam alarms.

Take control of your posting experience today! Follow these steps and enjoy a safer, more transparent community.


r/sjr4r • • Feb 11 '23

META PSA: Don't be an idiot, if it seems suspicious, it is.

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It is sad for several reasons that I have to write this, but, our community has been fraught with scammers as of recent. We play whack-a-mole, and knock down > 100 fraudulent posts a day but some still get through.

If someone is asking to communicate outside of reddit, ESPECIALLY IF THEY'RE ASKING FOR COMPROMISING PICTURES, just say no. We've had several instances where the scammer receives said photos, and then immediately adds all of your friends and family to a group chat on your social media and attempts to share the pictures if you don't pay them off.

Men: Understand that women in this society have disproportionate access to sex; and you're not god's gift to the 'fairer sex', ergo if someone is begging you to send them a photo of your shlong right out of the gate, you should treat that request with the healthy amount of skepticism that it deserves.

Or don't, feel free to be one of the horror stories in mod-mail of someone sending your friends and family a photo of your dick.

Use your head, and not the one in your pants.

Women: Have patience. We sort through a shit-show on a regular basis. In the off-chance you post something that smells suspiciously like the 1000 pieces of scam/spam we just cleared and we ask you for a bit of additional information; calling us 'sexist' in modmail just makes you the asshole and part of the problem. Sorry not sorry.

Everyone: do your part to flag obvious scam posts. Of 45k users, most scam posts don't get flagged at all.


r/sjr4r • • 2h ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #SanJose - Dinner, game night and cuddles with FWB? NSFW

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Hello how are you all doing? I’m a 26 male from San Jose, 5’10” 155ilbs, white with short red hair and blue eyes. I’m looking for a regular FWBs, so I’d like to cook dinner for you and get to know each other a little better. If we’re both feeling it I’d hope you’d like to move to the bedroom to cuddle or more, and plan to meet more in the future.

I’m a little reserved but I do like to listen when you are passionate or excited. I have a pretty geeky interests, I like to game and read. I’m currently playing the new Castlevania and my favorite boardgame is Element. Also I like to cook and garden; my favorite food to make is BBQ ribs and ratatouille. Im a cat person, have two new kittens who are destroying everything I hold dear.

Ideally you are around my age give or take a few years. If your geeky too it would be great to nerd out together. I don’t have any preference as far as looks go, I’m more interested in how well we vibe. If you like to game we could break the ice by playing one.

If you decide to reach out, please tell me your favorite food and a little about yourself, roughly the same sort information I shared. Hope to hear from you soon!


r/sjr4r • • 35m ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for some intimacy NSFW

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Hello, Im Harry. 29 years old, 6'4, 220. Caramel skin and long black hair that goes to my shoulders. I also have a beard and mustache. Relatively good shape but still on the health journey. Clean and DDF but 420 friendly.

Im looking for some intimacy as stated in whatever form we are comfortable with. I enjoy kissing, cuddling, and open to more depending on the vibes. Id like for us to kiss as long as possible. Feeling your soft lips press against mine. A subtle kiss turning much more passionate. Deeper and deeper as we melt into each other. Tasting your lips and tongue. Craving more. You can sit on my lap or not. Feeling your warmth press against me. My arms wrapping around your waist and pulling you closer till we press against each other. Kissing more and more. Forgetting about everything else and just enjoying the moment.

I also do enjoy giving head. Being between your soft thighs as they sandwich my face. Feeling them on either side of me. Kissing them and nuzzling my beard against them. Kissing until I get closer to your pussy. Trying to tease as much as I can until you look down at me and I see the desire in your eyes. Kissing your clit and sucking on it. Softly at first but them fully making out with it. Hearing your moans fuel me to keep going. Feeling your hands grip whatever they can and grip until your knuckles turn white. Seeing a half smile on your face as your hair is covering you. Your core tightening as you are about to reach your climax. Your hips moving on their own and thrusting against my face. Me having to chase you down or survive the grinding against my face. While Ill happily do, breathing is secondary anyways. My reward is hearing you cum and tasting you. No reciprocation needed but open to it.

Not expecting anything at all tbh. We can just talk and see how the vibes are. If we click and want to meet than Id love to. All I ask is that you are clean and DDF. Ok with 420. If you have any questions or what more info feel free to ask. Also down to explore new things as well so if you want to try something please let me know. I always wanted to go down on someone as they play or game or watch something. Largely ignoring me.


r/sjr4r • • 46m ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #Concord - Looking for a woman who wants a LONG TERM, DDF man on the side.

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Hey ladies. I'm a 45, 6'1", white male. Not looking for a serious relationship as I am already in one, but have approval to have an FWB on the side. So I'm looking for a woman who just wants a casual friend who you can go out on fun dates with, or just get a hotel and fuck like porn stars. I am disease and drug free. I'm not into politics but definitely left leaning. I'm a construction worker, but also nerdy.

As for you, I don't care what race or body type you are. I just want a genuinely nice, fun, and down to earth partner. I will send you pics as soon as you do.

I also don't mind what kind of relationship you're in. Whether this be discreet, or if he knows and you are in an open relationship. I don't mind if you wanna keep it a secret, or if he knows. I have dated women who we had to meet away from town, and women who wanted us to take pics and videos for them to watch. All I ask is you also be disease and drug (not counting pot) free.


r/sjr4r • • 5h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #SanJose - Have you always been curious about Tantric Massage?

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Are you stressed out and your body tense, stiff and achy from busy days at the office or stressful times at home? It's time for you to relax and indulge in a massage session that will leave you satisfied, relaxed, and glowing...Tantric massage is rooted in India and contains a sacred formula that awakens and frees energy within the body so you may become more alive, passionate and in tune with yourself. Experience a highly pleasurable, deeply relaxing, and ultimately spiritual session designed to unite you with the supreme bliss and love that is within all of us. Through my unique blend of bodywork and energetic techniques, your body will release the stress, release the tension, and make room for pleasure and fulfillment.

The Tantric Massage experience can be enjoyed by anyone. All people in all adult age brackets, from all walks of life can experience Tantra. You do not have to be a spiritual person to receive a Tantric Massage. The Tantric session can be a wonderful gift for yourself. Whether your life is incredibly stressful or amazingly stress-free, Tantric Massage can be deeply relaxing and ultimately fulfilling.

Most people spend their lives earning a living, hurrying to exercise at the gym, yoga, or pilates class. How often do you stop and treat yourself to an amazing experience? How often do you pamper yourself and indulge your mind and body in a deeply pleasurable, spine-tinging session?
Massage for women can be sensual, stimulating, exciting and relaxing. All the things you have been missing out on.

I am Indian, very discreet and respectful of your body and boundaries. I offer this exclusively to Females Only who are over 18 years old. Anonymity and discretion is guaranteed at all times.


r/sjr4r • • 8h ago

M4F 44 [m4f] #Sunnyvale - What do I put here to get the cute shy girls to reach out?

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Hi!

Oh you’re reading this?

Thank you!

Are you kind of shy but still curious and want to .. see what happens?

Are you also by any chance looking for a charming, handsome guy you could trust to have some fun experiences with?

Are you into fit muscular masculine men? Someone to take care of you from A-to-Z and make sure you have a wonderful time?

Someone to treat you like an absolute lady in the streets and yeah, you know the rest….

If so… msg me. I think we should talk :)


r/sjr4r • • 8h ago

M4F 32 [M4F] #SantaClara - providing a massage. You decide boundaries NSFW

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I’m an expert at giving massages, with 10+ years of experience massaging women. You decide if you want a regular massage or an erotic one. The massage can be as sexual, or as non-sexual as you want. You decide the boundaries. Located in Santa Clara, but can travel to anywhere in the Bay. I take very good care of myself and I’m clean with very recent results.

Check out FAQs, reviews and success stories on my profile to see what’s all the fuss about!

The massage will be curated specifically for you. I’ll adjust my moves with your response to my touch, slow but steady, strong but controlled, and tease you gently.

I’m 32, highly educated, sophisticated, easygoing and very respectful. I value clear communication, safety and sticking to boundaries, and will make sure you’re comfortable at all times. I take very good care of myself and can read the room very well. I offer a safe and a non-judgmental environment, and believe in building and maintaining trust.

A truly safe and a welcoming space for you to connect with yourself, to leave behind all the complexities in life for an hour or two!


r/sjr4r • • 9h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] #SanJose - Mutual beneficial connection fun

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Hey there! I’m 38 years old and a Bay Area native. I’m looking to find someone who is inexperienced or experienced with this type of connection. A mutually beneficial fun. Feel free to message me :)


r/sjr4r • • 17h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for something genuine and discreet

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I’m 30M, married, but unfortunately in a toxic and emotionally draining marriage. Both emotional and physical intimacy have been missing for quite some time, and I’ve felt disconnected for a while.

I’m looking for something discreet and ongoing, with genuine emotional and physical chemistry. Someone I can have meaningful conversations with, flirt with, laugh with, share little moments with, and genuinely look forward to spending time with.

I’m interested in an in-person connection where there’s mutual attraction, comfort, and a desire to explore physical intimacy when it feels right for both of us.

I’m not looking to rush into anything or put pressure on where things should go. I’d rather get to know someone, build some trust, and let things develop naturally if we click.

A little about me:
- Indian, 5’7”, 170 lbs, medium build, brown skin, black hair, and brown eyes.
- Well-groomed, take care of myself, enjoy dressing well, and always appreciate smelling nice.
- Easygoing, respectful, and someone who enjoys good conversations and a little playful banter.
- I value communication, personal boundaries, and making sure both people feel comfortable.

What I’m looking for:
A woman between 24–40, preferably in the Bay Area or nearby. Someone who’s easy to talk to, enjoys a little flirting, and is open to building a genuine connection.

Physical attraction matters to me, but so does personality, emotional chemistry, and being able to enjoy each other’s company beyond just physical intimacy.

Discretion, mutual respect, honesty about boundaries, and good hygiene are important to me.

Happy to exchange pictures privately once we’re both comfortable.

If this sounds like something you’re looking for too, feel free to DM.

If you’ve made it this far, I’d love to know:
Your age and location
What brought you here?
What kind of connection are you hoping to find?


r/sjr4r • • 23h ago

M4A 39 [M4A] #SanJose - i want to get p3gg3d

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I’d love to meet up with a cis or trans woman to explore anal play and ultimately work up to pegging. I’ve had some limited experience in the past which I enjoyed very much but would like to take things further. I don’t mind if you’re experienced or not. You can show me the ropes or we can learn together.

I’m 39, 6’ tall, 190 lbs, white, fit and workout regularly. I’m located in San Jose and have a nice apt. Std free and vaccinated. I’ve got a college degree and personality wise I’m really easy going and easy to talk too. I like to cook and go hiking on the weekends and travel whenever I can. I also really love music and watching Bay Area sports.


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 46 [M4F] #SanJose - Long haired, single Dad seeks nerdy with an edge

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Hi there, I’m a single Dad who works from home as a lead engineer in the video game industry. I have my kids 50% of the time.

I would love to find someone to go on dates with. I’m open to romantic love should it present itself to me. I also have a lot of physical affection to give and I have my own place that’s empty half the time, it’s a shame it is so underutilized!

Physically I am 6’1”, 190lbs, I workout and run regularly. I have LONG Jesus type wavy blonde hair and still have all of it. I have blue eyes and I wear glasses and I usually have a clean shaven face. Imagine a cute nerd crossed with a surfer.

Personality wise, I am quietly confident, intelligent, stalwart, laid back, introverted and a little bit neurospicy. I also tend to operate like a clock, a clock that likes to have fun!

Sensual and sexual touch are super important to me. I have a great capacity to give and receive sensual pleasure. I am not a casual sex person. Revelatory, lusty and loving explorations of a partner who is present as themselves and wants both of us to feel good. I am not kinky. I have had a vasectomy.

For fun I like to go dancing (industrial/goth or EDM), go to concerts, I love going to Niners games, I also like to hike, bike, camp, and take road trips. Around the house I enjoy video or board games or an occasional movie.

I use alcohol and weed in moderation and would appreciate if you are open minded about that. I am open to conscious use of other substances as well (combine with dancing???).

I like women who are smart, sweet and sensual. Physically I really enjoy size difference. I enjoy feeling large compared to my partner. Some people react weird to this preference. It’s not about any weird youth fantasy, it’s about feeling masculine and big, I enjoy that a lot.

Thank you for reading this far, I hope to hear from you!


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 39 [M4F] #Milpitas - I help short people reach things at the store NSFW

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I have this fantasy of it sparking a whole conversation about needing someone handy to keep around but so far..that has been nowhere close to ever happening. Imagination will just have to push on 

Anywayyy, what delusion am I chasing on here? Somewhere in the spectrum between a serious relationship and being strictly physical. Would really love to connect with someone. A woman who's not overly serious nor only banters/jokes. Fun, playful, easy going, both sweet & spicy. I do want someone to care about, think about each other and talk during the day, look forward to hugging, stealing my hoodies, kissing..ect. Fill those voids for each other. Mentally, physically, whatever else-ally. So, whatever your situation, I want to talk. Also, to be clear...you don't actually need to be short either

As for me - Attached, white, (allegedly) younger looking 39, 6'4, brown hair, green/hazel eyes, some tattoos not fullll hipster but not enough to fully fit in there. Honestly feel like a mix of jock/hipster/nerd without being enough of any of the three to really blend it that well anywhere. Really big into cycling (absolute spandex dork) cars, sports, music, movies, coffee, outdoors, the unbearable weight of being

Most into dark hair but genuinely open approach in general here. If you're cute and we click, that's all that matters. If you're still here tell me a bit about yourself and what resonated with you from that mess of a word salad in your intro.

Hope you find whatever you're looking for one way or another


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 29 [M4F] # SanJose - need female opinion on personal stuff NSFW

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Just like the title says. Dm me for details :)


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 27 [M4F] #San Jose - Doctor looking for connection Spoiler

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As the title says, I’m a new resident physician in the south bay and unfortunately much of my time is stuck at the hospital and I’m really sick of it. I miss human connection and being able to meet people to date and go out. Would love to talk to anyone, see if we connect and maybe even have a physical connection. Hope to hear from someone :)


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 29 [M4F] #SanJose - Looking for my Something Discreet

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I’ve finally brought myself into here because my work and personal life and relationship has gotten so stressed to the point that I figured that I’d find something on here to take my mind off of things, let loose and have fun!

I’m 29 SEA, working in tech 5’9, goes to the gym every week, binges shows and movies, and a big foodie. If you’re also stressed like me and are looking for some escapism and thrill (not looking to change my situation) or just to chat and talk about anything and see where it goes I’m your guy! Hope to hear back from you!


r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 21 [M4F] #SanJose - looking to loose my virginity

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r/sjr4r • • 1d ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #SanMateo - Asian dom daddy needs a young petite baddie

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36M. Good looking and look much younger than my age :) I live in San Mateo but work in SF. Distance isn’t an issue, even San Jose. 6’1 185 7in. Soft dom. Chill easy going and fun. Yet insatiable and have high libido. Looking for someone who’s young and petite who enjoys getting dominated and drilled. Tested and clean, expect you to be as well.

Breeding is a plus. College or new grads are a plus. Hit me and see if you can keep up. Open for this to be a situation too if we vibe.

Very into both latinas and Asians (particular filipinas) but I’m open minded, if you like to be dominated we’ll get along well


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4M 46 [M4M] #SanJose - Bi sub guy seeking FWB type connection

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I am a regular guy in my mid 40s living in San Jose. I work in tech and do coding most of the day and so my interaction with people is limited. I do enjoy having a nice conversation over a drink from time to time and I also enjoy intimacy. I am bi in the sexual sense so I would enjoy getting together every now and then. Inside the bedroom, I am a total bottom and even though I enjoy receiving oral, I don't top. In the bedroom, I am also of a sub type and can get into kink if there is interest there. I know I am saying too much here about this but just laying it out as it is. If you are interested in chatting and having a proper conversation hit me up. Chats containing "wya" "what are u doing now?" "what's ur address" and things like that get ignored right away. I can host but I will not for the first time until I know u. and I am not in car play. I do actually prefer older guys than myself but I am open to all for now to chat at least.


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4F 45 [m4f] #PaloAlto - looking for younger women who are into intelligent, handsome and sexy older men

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With age comes maturity, stability, experience and reliability. Men peak in their 40s which is the time they are most balanced, resourceful, capable and emotionally, mentally and physically mature.

I fit the above description. I am very healthy, very fit, have a great personality a wide variety of interests and topics I can converse about and yes, I am handsome and sexy too. I am as many others in this situation in a dead bedroom open marriage looking for a partner.

What I’m looking for is someone intelligent, cute smart who is nonjudgmental, open to adventures and has gained the maturity to understand the complexities of life and human personalities. Ideally someone in their 30s in a similar situation who takes care of their mind body and health and is looking for someone like me.

If any of that sounds interesting please reach out.


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4F 28 [M4F] #SanJosd - seeking fwb for exhibitionism/public play

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Hi, I’m a creative professional in the Bay. I’m 5’6, 7 inches girthy, 150lbs, slim built, latino, deep voice, brown eyes, tatted, have a septum, ddf with the exception for 420, enjoy eating the box and have a place to host. I’m open to indoor or outdoor play, I’m fine with a consistent hang out and open minded. Dm with stats and location


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #SanJose - A Gentleman for Sensual Massage

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In need of some quiet and very discreet time to yourself. In need of someone to pamper you, massage your entire body and make you feel like the beautiful woman you are? Someone to worship your craving body through sensual massage and touch?

Looking for ladies who are in need of a relaxing sensual massage. I don't seek money or payment. I make a great living. The massage session is absolutely free and it's for your pleasure only, while all boundaries are respected. Your massage is personally tailored to your needs, desires, and comfort level. It's all about relaxing and feeling better, so absolutely no pressure - it's your time to relax, explore and enjoy.

I have great skills and 2 magic hands. My hands will move to massage and explore the globes of your rounded buttocks. As they do, you find yourself fighting not to allow your hips to rise up into my touch. As I continue to massage your body, each stroke continues to create a ever building pleasure in you that causes you to quiet moans to become more frequent and your breathing to become much heavier. As I massage and caress down the back of your legs, I reach your feet. You are in paradise as my hands and fingers knead and massage your tired feet. The sensations half tickle you as I run my fingers through your toes, tugging on each toe while there. As I work the stress points out on the bottom of your feet, once again, you can no longer fight the delightful and titillating sensations being created in your body. You now feel yourself longing for that "magic" moment. As I conclude my massage, with your inviting, I allow my fingers to... follow by anything else you will desire.

Spoil yourself by having this experienced masseur provide you with the most amazing sensual experience. Smoothing relaxing massage what will awaken your deep senses and will satisfy you physically and emotionally.

Give yourself a getaway from the stress of the daily grind. I don't expect any reciprocation from you, unless you desire it. Let me please and provide you with a very intense and satisfying massage. I love to massage and my pleasure comes from seeing and feeling you thoroughly enjoying the way that I massage, rub, and knead your body.

Please reply with some basic info about you. I promise you that this will be one of your most memorable massages. Please be real female and put "Sensual massage" when your reply to my post. Thank you for reading my post and hope you will find what you are looking for.


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4F 49 [M4F] #SanJose - East Asian married seeking FWB

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Hello. I’m married, East Asian american dad seeking discreet FWB. I'm currently in a DB where we are mostly roommates at this point. We can take our time getting to know each other, I'm demisexual. Life is messy where maybe you just broke up or recently divorced. I'm a very good listener and great at keeping secrets. Height wise I’m 6’0", weigh 155 lbs, girls usually say I’m cute. I'm fairly chill and get along with extroverts, introverts, and even shy personalities. I'm an INTJ so I enjoy all kinds of conversations. Tell me about your passions. We can chat about movies, (sci-fi Mandalorian, Marvel, anime Dandadan, kdramas), travel, or just drink boba while talking about our annoying coworkers.

You: Someone local or travels to the Bay Area for work. Physical attraction matters to me. I’m open minded about most things like ethnicity. You should be petite/slim to HWP or in decent shape; sorry no BBW. We should hang out if you are chill, open minded, and just want to have fun. Things will be kept discreet so if you’re not single, I don’t mind.

Our family and career will take priority, we should understand that work and life can be unpredictable for each other. I'm totally chill about this. Last, let's practice top OpSec and safe sex always. If this resonates with you, let's chat about what you last watched on Netflix.


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #San Jose - Austin Trip (11/15 - 11/19) – Travel Buddy / FWB

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Heading to Austin for a mix of business and pleasure from 11/15 to 11/19, and looking for an attractive, like-minded female around my age to share an incredible getaway.

I’m 34, fit, and looking for strong chemistry and mutual sexual attraction. It’s more about the sex and the scenery than traditional travel. Sure, during the day we might be exploring the city together—that quick butt grope when we hop on a ride or that stare across the table right after dinner. But at night, our room is filled with nothing but our moans and raw, passionate lust for each other, sliding back and forth as we kiss. I'll have business obligations during parts of the trip, giving you plenty of independent time to relax or explore on your own.

What’s Included:
Hotel: Fully covered.
Flights: If you're traveling with me from the Bay Area, your flight can be fully or partly covered.
The Extra Perk: As a major bonus, I am trained in professional, sensual, and deep massages (Swedish, deep tissue, aromatherapy, and custom sessions with essential oils) to keep you completely pampered in a clean, private, zero-pressure, and discreet space.
Looking For: Someone attractive, around my age, a great conversationalist, and genuinely excited for this kind of FWB dynamic.

If this sounds like you, shoot me a DM introducing yourself with your age, location, and what excites you about a scenario like this.


r/sjr4r • • 2d ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SJ - 6’5” Fit Guy W/ BWC - Looking For Indian / Asian FWB - You Must Host

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Tall

Fit former athlete

9” white

Would love Indian / Asian FWB

You must host

Would love to meet regularly

Have a high sex drive

Can be very discreet and non judgmental if u need it

Send pic if interested

Describe what you are looking for

And what you are into

I have pics too