Hi all - my friends and I (queer women in our mid 20s) are in grad school in Santa Cruz and end up going to SF occasionally for nightlife. None of us are originally from california so we just have to go off vibes and google reviews when finding places to try.

A couple of weekends ago we went to Jolene’s and Mother and while it wasn’t horrible they were both just fine - kind of lackluster, pretty empty and uninspiring given the commute. I’ve also gone out a couple times in north beach and the marina and I also think that is fine-ish but (maybe it’s the Santa Cruz bubble of it all) I felt pretty out of place without a techy high paying job and the uniform to go with it.

I’m not looking explicitly for queer bars/clubs (although suggestions for those are welcome!) but just places or neighborhoods that get more artsy/non-tech/diverse crowds in general. Extra points for good music and dancing!!

any other 20 something girls (or literally anyone😭) experience so much catcalling in the mission near 24th street?? seriously can’t leave my apartment without someone saying something weird to me. just curious if it’s this rampant in any other parts of the city? seriously considering moving cause of it :( I don’t necessarily feel unsafe but uncomfortable and not sure how to handle it.

In Oakland I went to Wally’s Cafe where you can pay $100 for a big tray of rice, meats and salad with the garlic and tzatziki sauce

Anything similar in SF or South SF or San Bruno area?

Hi everyone! I’m looking for someone who could teach me how to drive in their free time. I already have a learner’s permit and am happy to pay for lessons, but I find driving schools a bit too expensive.
If anyone is willing to help or knows someone who could, please DM me. I’d really appreciate it. Thank you!

We’re spending this weekend in SF for my son’s 15th bday. What are some fun, quirky, or memorable things to do with a teenager in SF?

He loves:
Marine science
Aquariums
Science

Staying in Soma neighborhood, but totally willing to travel.

Thank you!

Not sure if this is a place to even ask but my mother and father settled their divorce in 2023 and in the settlement my mother got full ownership of the house. This week she received a Notice of Supplemental Assessment from the city. It looks as if they reassessed the 50% of the house that she got from my father in the settlement.

Is it common that they do this? My mother is 70, retired with extremely low income. Is there anything she can do?

Looking for a place that offers facials for men. Just looking for something fairly basic to address sun damage etc

I have about a two-inch stack of papers that I would like to shred, ideally in a situation where I feed them into a shredder or can see them being shredded. I really don't want to trust that the documents I place in a box are going to be shredded.

Is there a library or bank that offers this?

I live near Ocean Beach. I sometimes go to Boudin in Stonestown lol for their sourdough. I just don't know any solid bakeries that BAKE GOOD BREAD

Hey all, who are some more affordable movers for moving in sf?? I only need a few big things transported around the city, van or U-Haul accessible and don’t want to pay a bunch of fees for an app or some moving service. I’m a college kid who can’t drive and would like help physically moving heavy items like bed, couch, dresser and transportation to and from destinations so I can join. I’d gladly pay like $200 for a couple hours worth of quick lugging and transporting , good thing is my old and new apartment are within the same neighborhood so super close by to one another. Grateful for any tips or affordable rates.

Hello,

Posting my buddy who does not use reddit.

Basically he wants to see if he can get get some sort of official document or letter certifying that he has not been arrested or detained by the police in SF.

He told me why he needed this but I don't remember (I think it is for a job or for some immigration thing).

Do you know if getting such letter is possible?

Thanks!

I like my building, but they have been taking over a month to repair something that should have been repaired before I even moved in.

1) has anyone ever made one of these complaints to the Department of Building inspection to force something to be fixed? Can you tell me your experience?

2) I would like to renew my lease, I don’t want a crazy rent hike, but I also don’t think it’s fair that my stuff is not being fixed in a timely manner. Am I ruining my renewal by making a DBI complaint?

Building run by large property management company.

Thanks for the help and insight.

I am stoked to be visiting San Francisco next week weekend for a concert. I’ve been several times but never visited a bathhouse. Curious on folks experiences at them in regards to massage and spa treatments.

Archimedes Banya-

Hammam Body Wash and Scrub - is this done nude and out in the communal areas like at Korean spas? Or is it in a separate area for privacy or maybe you wear shorts? I know it’s co-ed and clothing optional instead of required nudity like a K-spa so figured it may be different for the body scrub aspect.

Venik-same questions as the body wash but also which do you prefer?

Kabuki Spa

Bliss Bath-is this done out in the open or in private? For the bath wash do you do this nude or wear a swim suit?

Treatment service -all are so unique. Any recommendation or recs for good male therapists?

Imperial

Reviews seem pretty poor unless anyone wants to share good experiences?

Other Places to Recommend?

Thanks everyone!

There are too many issues to track. What voter guides are you using?

Bonus points if they are slightly funny and blunt

Hey everyone,

Like the title says, I’m looking for safe and good neighborhoods to rent. I’m currently residing in Russian Hill but have to move out of this apartment soon, and all the apartments are over $4K for a studio in the city. I’m open to roommates, but FB hasn’t been too big of a help lately.

I’m open to outside of the city like Oakland, but I’m not too familiar with the area.

Ideally I’m looking for an area that’s:
-Safe
-Walkable
-Commutable to FiDi

I’m also in my mid 20’s and do enjoy nightlife and having people around that are similar ish in age.

If you have any recommendations for neighborhoods, please let me know! Ideally looking to move by January.

Thanks!

I'm looking for haunted house/neighborhood tours, the kind that are showcasing history blended with ghost stories, alleging real ghosts. They should be located anywhere in the greater bay area. I already know about Winchester. (Not currently looking for the kind of pop up haunted stuff that's just actors jump scaring you--exclusively looking for the ones that mix in history.) I've found posts about things from years ago but am struggling to determine what still exists. Happy spooky season! TIA

I own a bakery, and it's been brutal since the summer. We were doing quite well last year, right up until May this year. In fact, May was our best month. Then sales dropped around 10% in June, July, and August. Maybe people travel, kids are out of school, I thought. It happened last year too, though not by 10%, but okay.

Then in September, and so far in October, sales dropped another 5%. If you own a restaurant, you know that just a 5% drop can kill you when all your fixed costs stay the same or go up (in fact, minimum wage went up to $19.61 starting July 1). I don't know the reason. Kids are back in school, right? People are back at work, right?

My only guess is that the economy is tough right now. Gas prices are high, a lot of people got laid off, so they're spending less?

How's your business doing?

After a termite infestation, we had a contractor open our walls to see the extent of the damage, which turned out to be much worse than expected, with mold, rot, etc. Our house is about 100 years old so it's not surprising that a lot of damage has accumulated, but it was a shock. The repair estimate is $85,000.

The contractor says that it is up to us whether to get permits. He advised against it because it could open a can of worms, where we would have to do additional work that is not really needed could be hit with fines if it was not done quickly enough. Additionally, there is the risk that they would require us to move out of the house while the work was done.

My husband has seen the damage, and the contractor seems trustworthy. He has five stars on Google with many reviews. Still, we'd like to get others' opinions about whether to bring in the city.

We think we have imminent collapse coverage through our home insurance, so we might also bring them in, in case that matters.

UPDATE: I appreciate all the people who took the time to give helpful advice. We have decided to pull permits.

i have no idea if this is the right place to ask but i am trying to get a new wallet and i found one that i like but it is only made with synthetic leather material. i am trying to find someone that can make the same wallet in another material that will not decompose over time (the brand is known for having their “leather” peel and it’s unavoidable). please let me know if you know anyone that could help me make my wallet :)

the wallet:
https://lolibrary.org/items/aatp-pirates-tri-fold-wallet

Hey yall. Ive been apartment hunting for a while, currently living in east bay. I wanted to move into the city with a couple of friends, as I dont really like living alone... but boy, are prices kicking my ass.

That said, I noticed its cheaper to get a studio or a one bedroom than have us all split a larger apartment. Why is that? Is there less 2+ available?

Edit: I am looking in generally the same places, I want to have somewhat easy access to bart so mainly mission and soma, but also looking in Chinatown, northbeach, nob hill, areas of the tenderloin...

Ive found that price per bedroom is usually $500-800 more a month in multi-bedroom apartments than 1 beds or studios. I guess im just surprised as in previous cities Ive lived in, a larger apartment or duplex with a couple roommates is the way to save money. I think im better off just getting studios and 1 beds near eachother.

Hi all! I will be solo traveling up to SF for Halloween this weekend and am kind of super nervous-excited for it. I usually go to a new city each year for Halloween but this is a first in terms of going solo. I was recommended Dance O Ween and Castro but just wanted to see if there was anything to keep my eyes out for? Anyone else going solo to any fun events? I definitely love a good spot to go out dancing.

Any recommendations on SF-based illustrators? Looking for some help on putting together a holiday card.

So many places have hard surfaces and/or loud music and I can't distinguish the voice of the person I'm next to. Any spots to recommend with carpeted floors or other sound dampening help? The Richmond has curtains around tables that are wonderful, but it's a little outside our usual budget. I know bourbon and branch used to enforce the speak-easy part of speakeasies, are there any others that do as well? We often go on weeknights or earlier hours to try to catch less busy times, but every once in a while it's nice to go out on a Friday or Saturday night and I'm hoping to make a list of places to try.