Made a joke, customer got upset at the joke. Now he keeps trying to come up to me and make “jokes” that are just offensive insults. But he’s getting upset that every attempt he makes, I’m laughing at. He’s tried to “joke” insult about my hair, my body, my makeup, my dancing, and even my car. But I just keep laughing, not bc of what he’s saying even though some of them are funny- I’m laughing at how pathetic it is that I made one little joke and he got so butt hurt and offended that he is continuously trying to get a reaction from me me and it’s not the one he wants lol.

For example: he made the “joke” that I must’ve done my makeup in the dark. And I laughed and said nah just stoned AF lol. He tried to make the “joke” that I don’t know what the inside of the gym looks like and I said yea I do, that’s why I don’t go in there lol.

Don’t be mean to the strippers, we’re better at it than you lol.

to add, the joke was about big lifted trucks. I didn’t even know he drove one when I made the joke but it really seemed to rattle his jimmies.

like they are genuinely the baddest in the club😩 there’s so many at my club and i genuinely wanna kiss them 24/7

I went into an audition at a new club the other day and before this, I’ve worked both night and day shifts at my home club (I consistently do doubles there). So I know the difference in energy and approach. Other than traveling, there are reasons why I sometimes enjoy and prefer a day shift over nights. When I went to audition, the house mom asked me when/how many days I’d want to work and when I said day shift she said “no, you’re a night girl”. At every stage of the audition she referred to me as such.

Later into me filling out my paperwork we were talking more casually and I asked why she preferred me for night, and she went on about how the way I look and the way I danced on stage made more sense for night, she said the “quality of men-“ and then cut herself off and said she knows the type of men that come in for day shift and what they like. And she said that I seemed like the type of girl who’d be bored during the day/want to have a more party vibe, that I’d be too outgoing for day shift. Idk how she got any of that from the short interactions she had with me 😭. It felt very presumptive, especially when I know myself best and what I need to do to make money in each environment.

Has something like this ever happened to you?

Hi ladies,

Has anyone ever worked at this club? I’m trying to make the transition from my club in MontCo to somewhere closer with more customers. I’m a darkskinned baddie, tall and curvy! But I also have a short cut and don’t usually wear much makeup. One of my friends wanted to audition and was told she needed to lose weight… I’m not worried about that part but worried they might be a bit picky.

What do you ladies think? Any tips or opinions?

Thank you💘

I just got an angel candy bikini with the attached garter straps like picture and it’s sooo flattering omg . It’s my new favorite set . However , when I went on the angel candy website I found they’re only selling one set right now with those bottoms . Anyone know where else I could get something similar ?

This sounds like one of those weird stories that men write but it’s not. Yes I entertain men but I’m 🏳️‍🌈Gay af lol. My duo parter is as well ( Duh). We normally don’t drink at work as we both used to get carried away as baby dancers but now years later we just find that we make better money being sober. We market ourselves as twins and we are always busy all night in the shower rooms or champagne rooms. A whale texted me and my duo partner ( Let’s call her Francesca ) and told us that he was coming in and he brought us two bottles of wine each. IT WAS XXL 🤦‍♀️. Mind you, our tolerances are low asf cause we barely drink anymore and XXL is like 15%. We’ve been close since we started together and even hang out outside of work but I let myself really get into it last night. I never get horny because of the men that we deal with.

Anywho, long story short I let her rub all over me like normal , we spent 4 total hours in the champagne rooms and I let my gay flag fly, man. We always kiss in our rooms so that’s not unusual but it went really far this time and I let her eat me out and then vide versa. I don’t regret any of it , we both were super drunk. Nobody said anything to me but I’m so scared that my managers are going to be upset with us, I’m not sure if we took it too far. There was champagne and money everywhere and then next thing I know, our whale is watching us and we are paying him no mind. I’m super scared to face my managers, so far nobody has said anything to me. Sometime it gets lonely being a gay dancer and it was nice to kinda let loose with my friend that I trust 🫠🫠

Don’t fall for it. Say something like, “I don’t think I’ll have any trouble tonight :)” and be just as aggressive as you usually would. If there are no other customers, go sit in the locker room. Don’t let them think they can get free attention just because it’s slow.

Customer pulled a $1000+ ones. I walk over there. I didn’t even notice the money until I was already talking to the customer. So I caught him as soon as he walked in he barely had a drink.

I usually like to wait for people to get settled, but it was a really bad night and if I didn’t approach them, somebody else would’ve
And because he was so interested in the conversation, I don’t think he cared at all so I stayed

I’m talking to him and another Sharkey coworker comes over and starts talking to him and I guess he’s talked to her before because he mentioned another night where she was drinking a lot.

(She asked, can he buy her a drink, which is what brought him up, saying that ) he brings up the drinking again and she said she’s not gonna get drunk, and then she asked him to buy a drink again and he tells her to ask the other guy he was with .

She says “that guy told me to come ask you “

He actually mentioned it twice, so I kind of caught the hint that he didn’t really like how she was acting when she was drunk, and she usually does drink a lot of liquor and acts really belligerent.

She’s like no I’m not gonna drink that much, etc. etc.

But she’s literally almost drunk right now as she’s saying that

Pretty much I regained his attention after they caught up and talked a little bit

He asked me a few questions about myself and then eventually he tipped me a small stack. This is the first time any money has been thrown over here at all, and he gave it to me

and then she pretty much just starts kinda like slithering herself in between me and him and starts slow dancing, but he’s literally just standing there awkwardly as if he wants her to like stop or get off of him and he’s not even like saying anything. He’s just looking at me.

He also gave off very clean cut, doesn’t want a lot of attention nice cotton over shirt, no flashy jewelry but a really nice expensive watch. I just don’t think that type of energy is what he wanted and I did not want to start fighting in front of a customer, but I could tell he was awkward. She was looking at him like why are you only giving her money and he was just looking at her like “what?” Which he verbally said.

Eventually, she gets on the floor and pulls her tits out, looking crazy and drunk in my opinion not very classy at all, he tipped her while she’s literally on the nasty ass strip club floor. He’s tipping her so me and the other girl all start dancing together and he does not throw money on all of us together…

I’m wondering if he just gave her that money so she would stop being weird

We move a little bit further from the group, but we’re still in the group and he’s talking about getting my number and all of this stuff. I’m about to ask him if he wants to make things a little bit more private and go in the back

(I don’t want to acknowledge the girls weird behavior, but I also don’t want to let him feel uncomfortable enough to leave so I’m literally just trying to get him away from them )

and then he tells me that him and his friend are leaving, and I was trying to figure out why, but he didn’t really specify. He ended up talking to the manager and then they left.

What do y’all think? Do y’all think they made him leave? If it wasn’t just the other girls I definitely say the vibe was awkward amongst the girls, including me in general, and I’m sure the customer could feel that

Me personally I think she scared him off and instead of the two girls trying to work with me they were trying to get all the money to themselves and x me out.

I usually am a lone wolf, I hate all the politics ass kissing people have to do to get into sections, whether that’s with the bartenders, the waitresses or the managers. Every time I try to work with other girls, it’s something similar like this …..

I work by myself. But because I look similar to these girls, you would think we could work together and make money, but I really think they are intimidated. Mind you were decently friendly to each each other.

I don’t understand why girls do this because at the end of the day you’re ruining the money for both of us. I don’t care if I don’t like a girl or if I have personal issues with her, I’ll work with her if the customer wants both of us because we’re making money it’s a job.

Last night I danced for a guy in his late 40s, well-behaved and a very good tipper. Those qualities together bring out the yee-haw in me and we had a genuinely fun time. I ended up letting him play with my tits and I gave him some lap friction until he got off. Further than I usually go, but my choice and it was all good.

MEANWHILE my roommate's dad has been in town for work. You can see where this is going lol. I hadn't met him yet (or so I thought). This afternoon he came by our dorm to pick us up and take us out to lunch. And of course, he's the guy.

When we met at first he just looked confused, like he couldn't place me. And then the light went on his eyes and he looked like he was going to die. Thank GOD my roommate didn't pick up on anything. I just gave him a friendly smile and shook his hand and tried via my demeanor to communicate that it was all fine and nobody was ever gonna know. I think it worked cuz he seemed to relax after that!

Lunch was awkward but actually pretty nice. We pretended to have a normal conversation. My job did not come up lol. I work tonight/tomorrow and I wonder if he'll be back...

I’ve had Cuban men specifically ask for a Cuban girl and I get her then she’ll ask where he’s from and refuse to dance is it a culture thing?

So last night I noticed that the majority of the guys I talked to said “I do want to dance with you but I’m not ready yet” so I leave them alone for a little bit. But by the time I try to go back to them they are already taken over by other girls and I miss my shot. I know this happens all the time but what I’m asking is, do you try to push the sale harder when they say later or do you just take that as a no and move on. I feel like I missed out on a lot of money last night because these guys seemed like they were actually wanting to get dances with me but I missed my chance with them

23F where are some good places to go dance? looking for something longterm. won’t be in Alabama much longer

They are a common phenotype of customer. Usually detailing multiple stories of how they’ve dated, moved in, married, went on trips with other strippers, etc.. They come into the club, do the bare minimum of buying a couple hundred dollars of dances or a weak ass 30 minute VIP, then only tip $20 after spending the entire time implying they could afford more. Often times I hesitate to believe their stories until they pull out a camera roll offering a slideshow of other dancers I actually know looking stupid AF on dinners and vacations with them. I am humbly begging y’all to stop dating broke old men and allowing them to photograph you for a few hundred dollars. Be so for real 💀

I weighed like 115 pounds when I started dancing. My ass was so flat that my back basically went straight down into my legs. ZERO curve 😭

Weighed myself recently and I’m 150 pounds now, despite being the same height. I was genuinely confused because I don’t feel like I look 35 pounds heavier, but I guess I’ve gained more muscle than I realized from dancing.

Anyway, I was looking through old pictures and holy shit, I did NOT realize how skinny I used to be. Thank god I’ve finally got some thicker thighs and a little bit of ass now 😭🙏

I wasn’t coming from a positive and healthy sex life when I started this job. And I never had that. So after being in this job, I’ve still not had that, but on top of it all this daily sexual harassment and objectification issues. What is my goal? I want to feel sexy, on my terms, but I also don’t want it to be my identity and my sense of self worth. I just want to feel like it’s possible to have a sex life where I’m not thinking of how the man sees me. If he sees me as too slutty or too wholesome or whatever scale in between. I want to not think of club flashbacks when I’m with a partner. Or have a reaction after sex because I’ve never been held after or given aftercare.

Apparently I can't add the video to this post for context like I wanted so bear with me y'all

Whilst doom scrolling yesterday, as one does, I came across a post from of course...

A man

Who recently went to the strip club.

This SOB was filming the dancers up on stage doing a double, specifically to post and make fun of one of them.

Now she was a much thinner girl, smaller booty, but bless her heart she was shaking that thang anyways! And the comments were just tearing her up. 😮‍💨

For one thing, all you hear in that crowd in the video? Is those girls getting hyped tf up!

And for another, if she's shaking it up there anyways? I guarantee she makes her money just fine! I'm also very slim, small booty small titties and have some lose skin from weight loss. The customers quite literally don't give a fuck. People really don't think guys. Like what makes these people think we'd do ANYTHING on stage that doesn't work for us? It'd be a waste of time and a stage set.

So many nasty comments about flat as a pancake ass, her knees are knocking more than her ass is shaking, did the manager not see her ass when they hired her....I could go on and on.

I'm just sick of the shitty people and the assumption STILL that a girl HAS to be a perfect 10/10 to even DESERVE to strip? Man GTFO here.

Obviously I know people suck and there's judgement no matter what, it's just exhausting and irritating.

Ok rant over lol

I try not to care because I know many evil people come in to step on the girls.

However, lately I’ve been hearing customers say «she’s ugly»- like damn 💀💀💀

It’s getting too much now, how the hell do you deal with that/not let it affect you?

I’ve not been a dancer for long but I’m still absolutely devastated and stressed for Brass closing. It affects all over the GTA and leaves more extras clubs than not in the surrounding areas, leaves only TWO (legitimate) options in the city despite the license being $500, and is setting this weird standard for clubs that pretend not to hire strippers and create an unsafe environment. I know the Zanzibar and Filmores owners have mentioned wanting to reopen if they could, and I imagine there’s more people out there who would be open to starting a business in the city if not for the bylaws.

I wanna reach out to Maggie’s to help organize with this since they have more resources for reaching dancers and more experience with advocacy. But just thought I’d ask here if anyone was interested in actually trying to organize and would wanna stay connected.

Obviously it’s a long process but this is a whole generation of our industry being affected and it could be the difference between hundreds of dancers affording a home or a retirement. Our job market is already overwhelmed as is and nobody’s gonna look out for us otherwise.

Was in a VIP room talking about idk what but just life and going back and forth connecting on experiences. He had been through it himself and I was being empathetic and also sharing my experiences. And then all of a sudden he pulls out… yeah that’s why I like young girls around 20 years old because they haven’t been through all that yet like you have.

So, it's my first time in a club like this. There's no vip room, just a few tiny rooms that look all the same. I used to work in a club with no special vip, but there always were some bigger rooms that I would sell as "vip" and create the whole experience. You know, expensive champagne, the room being bigger etc. But there's no option for creating that experience. All rooms are all the same, just separated by some curtain, no champagnes at the club, no "special promotions" for somebody that spends more (like just offering a free shot or anything). And I don't have any idea how to sell anything other than those single dances (we also cannot sell anything else, do our own prices etc. Just multiplication of 10 minutes privates. Nothing else on the menu, except alcohol for clients).

Any tips on how to upsell in clubs like this? To make the guy feel like his not paying for just a few dances in a row.

I’m genuinely curious what the general consensus is among dancers. Is there actually an age where women are considered too old for this industry?

We constantly hear men say women hit their expiration date at 30+(bullshit), but does that translate to the strip club?

I’m not asking when someone should retire or whether women can still look amazing at 40+. I’m asking whether there’s an unspoken age cutoff in this industry, whether customers actually care, and if you’ve noticed age affecting your earnings.

I’d love to hear from dancers of all ages, especially those in their 30s and 40s.

I feel like it's only an European clubs' problem (I didn't hear about clubs like this outside of Europe), but way too many clubs use this abusive tactic. What do I mean? The clubs that aren't focused on good profit or good dancers, they just want ones that are addicted to alcohol or drugs. For alcohol, they will give out the free shots, for drugs, cheap prices. Those girls will work for just this. There's no good salary, good percentage or clients that spend good, just cheap options to satisfy their addiction.

And the clubs are more than okay with selling mostly drinks to clients (and maybe cheap privates) and not much more.

Each time I end up in a place like this, it just makes me so sad. Because I had family members with addiction and I know how much more those girls would make if they stayed sober.

It's mostly clubs in Eastern Europe or ones that hire mostly girls from Eastern Europe. I know those girls know no better (as they used to go the same, but with worse money in their home countries), but I wish there weren't clubs that will use their addiction in such a disgusting way.

I don't know what else I can say, I just hope those girls will find a way out of their addiction and realize they can work in much better clubs.

I’m working from 12-2 (gonna try to hold myself to that lol)

With that being said I’m gonna do some light manifestation for work. Nothing crazy. Maybe bring some cinnamon to work but really the important stuff is the manifestations and the mindset!

With that being said if you want to participate here’s how

How did you feel before the manifestations:
Do you have faith/confidence it will work:

How do you feel after the manifestations:
Did it work? (Did you make good money):

Here’s mine!

Before: i feel nervous but excited and energized! I want it to work so it shall and regardless my day will be great!
Do i have faith/confidence: I’m not as confident as i want to be but i do think it will work