I wanna start by saying that I've been dancing for a year and a half, and I'm really not the type of person to let mens opinions or comments get to me. I'm bisexual with like a 98% preference for women and I've never found a single customer attractive so I couldn't give a fuck if men like me or are attracted to me. I've been groped and smacked at work without consent, and have had guys pay for the cheapest dance just so they could nut in their pants, but I've never gone home and cried after any of that.

Last night it was extremely dead in the club, maybe only 4 groups of customers in all night. The club has a rule that for the first two hours we open, customers get seated by a staff member and only the girls sat at tables closest to them are allowed to approach them first. I got unlucky and since I wasn't sat close enough I didn't get to talk to any customers so I was just sat around bored for hours. My club also has a rule that only the same ratio of girls to the groups of customers are allowed to approach, so if its a group of 4 then 4 girls can go over etc.

There's a famous footballer thats a regular at our club, he probs comes in like once or twice a week and last night he decides to stop by with like 6 or 7 friends. The closest group of girls go over leaving 3 of us on the floor, and I didn't really care at first like you win some you lose some and I'm not the type to be concerned or upset about other girls making their bag, if anything I'm always hyping girls up and happy for them. But then one of his friends decides to go sit with the two other remaining girls on the floor and he invites them to come to vip with the rest of the group. They all head downstairs and I'm literally the only girl left on the empty floor by myself.

Can't lie it stung a bit. I'm an alternative girl and I understand that I'm not everyone's taste and I don't care to be, but damn it made me feel like I was back in college watching everyone with their big groups of friends whilst I go to the smoking shelter alone wondering why nobody wants to be friends with the weird autistic girl 😅

My manager comes up to me and asks me if I'm okay and says he can try and get me in the room if I want, but the shit 0 night topped off with bad endometriosis pain in my ovary just got to me and I was fucking done and said I'd rather just go home. Manager asked if I was sure and then let me go, I practically stormed tf out of the club. Bouncers asked me on my way out why I was leaving early and I just said "because" and stormed past them and left. Then yeah basically went home and cried. I think I'm due on my period soon and was PMSing which always makes me feel a little extra sensitive and depressed, I've definitely had worse nights than that but the whole situation just felt kinda humiliating.

Praying tonight is good bc I need it after that bs 🙏🏻

The issues HE'S complaining about us supposedly having a whine about, reminded me of a post I saw the other day about what is actually wage theft! Management demands larger and larger cuts of OUR pay and treats us like dirt, then has the audacity to complain we don't feel positively about it lol

On a less misogynistic note: How has everyone's day been? Good vibes to everyone who reads this x

I used to dance from 18-27. I ‘retired’ when I had an amazing job opportunity in real estate. Market tanked after covid & got pregnant at 31. I’m currently 100% dependent on my current partner for money & im having weird feelings about him not being faithful. I have no proof yet but I’m making my escape plan.

I don’t want to get a regular job to be far away from my baby all week, it’s just a solid no. I have reliable care in the nights. (Grandma & father of our child)

I’m still about 17lbs away from my pre pregnancy weight so I’m trying to get this baby weight off. I’m 32 now…

I rly didn’t wanna go back to the club but I refuse to work 40 hrs a week just to put my girl in daycare and have someone else raise her. I figured I could stack a few 100K for the next few years and then quit again.

I attached a few photos - I know I’m not bodily there yet. Please any advice welcome.

First pic is PRE BABY. Second pic was a weekend ago. Like I said i don’t think I’d get hired at my
Original club. Maybe the more hood clubs but I don’t rly like working there. I’d have to lose 17 lbs to be back at baseline.

Whenever guys ask me this, I tell them to look around the club and then I ask them if there are any men in the club that they fancy and would like to make out with.

That usually give me a stank face after and say “no, why the fuck would you ask me that”

To which I then reply : “ if I let every guy lick me, you would be making out with the remnants of like 30 old dudes/ every guy I had given a dance with before you”

Like dude. Are you not thinking?? Presumably if I let you lick me, I’m letting everyone lick me. I don’t want that, you don’t want that. Like comeee on bro🤦‍♀️🥴

I’ve blocked 6 of my customers in the past few weeks because they wouldn't stop blowing my phone up. They want a girlfriend that they can talk to but don’t want to spend girlfriend money. Don’t want to come to the club when I’m working yet have the time to try to talk to me all day. Make it make sense.

Last week I had a guy texting me 3-5x a day, nearly everyday I told him when I would be working and he would immediately change the subject or say some stupid shit like “make that money“ or “working hard?”. During our last conversation I said bet, you want to talk about yourself all day? Let me hold $300 for some painting supplies, it’s my day off and I need to paint, radio silence, that’s what I fucking thought. Haven’t heard from him since then.

One of my big hitters, a 55 year old divorced dude was also texting me nonstop 5-20 times a day. He would text me photos of himself and random golf bullshit. On my final straw with him he had texted me 12 times within a couple hours. Complaining about me not replying and getting super insecure. I said bet “sorry babe I’m at the mall! Looking at some golf clubs for myself! Will you buy me this set?” Then I sent him a photo of a set of golf clubs that I act wanted. First he starts talking about sex. Then he attempts to go off on me, saying he’s just looking for a friend and feels used by me. Mind you he has never sent me money before. Blocked him before he could finish typing, because what do you mean using you? Let me USE this block button. No wonder both of your wives left you.

Another regular who I had cut contact with months ago started texting me again at the end of September. He had been a loyal customer so I entertained him for a few messages so he could come in to see me this week. Instead of confirming that he’ll stop by he starts text bombing me life updates, I’m like “congratulations, see you Thursday to hear all about it :)” and he insists that I go over to his apartment so he can put a baby in me……I’m like ”I’ll see you in VIP! We can have a champagne baby!” and he says that I only want money, goes on a tangent about “y’all females want a sucker” Bruh…..I AM A FUCKING STRIPPER WHY ELSE WOULD WE BE TEXTING???? I blocked him too.

My solution to this? I started giving out my OF link instead of my number. It’s somewhat helped so let’s see how this goes in six months from now.

Always the worst dj’s, creepy asf, smelly & annoying. Never play what you ask them & always have their hand out at the end of the night. The one club I’ve been at for several years now STILL dogs me out. DJ hates me for whatever reason, I don’t fucking get it esp when I’ve gone out of my way to make him money, tip him well too. I complain to management and they do nothing, worst part is it’s not just me complaining either. Wish they’d fire them atp tbh I’m so over it. I’ve been to some clubs where they’re not horrible but they still fucking suck at their job. Sorry I’m not going to fuck you so you play the music I PAY YOU TO FUCKING PLAY. Fucking whack as fuck. Rant over thanks for reading.

Anyone else talk to customers who right away start complaining about how expensive everything has gotten? And complaining about the vip prices a woman has set.

Like….really? If I’m here to make money, you really think I want to hear shit that makes you sound so broke I probably have more money than you?

You sell a room. The room has a fixed price, $X. You tell the customer the room, including your tip, will cost $Y. They agree. The customer pays $Y at the VIP in cash, but includes extra bills bc they miscounted. The VIP says they overpaid by a few bills on $Y, and the customer asks for their change. The VIP asks if they’d like to tip the VIP those few extra bills, and the customer says no, they’re only paying $Y and not tipping the VIP. Who gets the money - the difference between $X and $Y?? VIP or the Entertainer??

Asking for myself to check if i’m cracked. Sold a room this past weekend and assumed the VIP would keep that as my tip, and they kept it for themselves!! Said the customer didn’t say it’s for me. (they explicitly said it wasn’t for them either, so…) It’s staying that way. Is it normal for the VIP to keep the change? Is this enough for you to leave a club?

I’m in NH and the club I’ve been at for 5 months is getting really slow, I’m wondering how the clubs in mass are? Are clubs in/near Boston doing ok rn? I need to make more then just 100-200 a night 😭

I'm wondering how common it is/how many of us have explored full service sex work after starting to work at the club? If you have, what are your thoughts on it/how has it been like for you?

For me I'm at the beginning of this journey/have only had arrangements with 1 person and I didn't expect to, but it has had a positive impact on my life.

Edit for clarity: I mean outside the club, not extras in dances

Does anyone else feel like people in this sub can be unnecessarily rude and condescending for absolutely no reason? Like in this particular sub there’s just a level of nastiness that is so strange, idk if it’s jealousy or what?

I understand that not everyone is going to agree with you, and constructive criticism is one thing, but some of the comments are just straight-up nasty.
People come here to ask questions, share experiences and learn from other dancers, not to be spoken to like they’re stupid for not knowing everything already.

We’re all in the same industry, and you’d think there’d be a little more understanding, especially considering how much judgement we already deal with outside of work.

You can disagree with someone without being unnecessarily nasty or talking down to them. Being rude doesn’t make you more experienced, smarter or better at your job. It doesn’t even make you more money. Some of you are miserable and you need to lay off the drugs and/or go to therapy.

In short, some of you forget you were new to the game once too, but now you act like being experienced gives you the right to look down on everyone else. Humble yourselves, because being a bitch isn’t a personality trait. 💋

So I’ve had this regular for a bit but he genuinely thinks we are dating I have no clue why he would assume this but he keeps texting me crazy things like what are we. I was warned about him by two other girls idk I’m just concerned. Like if I don’t text him for a day he freaks out it’s so insane.

this hasn‘t happened in yearsss but i recently gave a customer my work number and he’s been blowing up my phone ughhh. he said “how’s your day today beautiful?” and i lowkey wanna say “it’ll be better if you send me some money” 🤣 cus tf, that’s the only time i enjoy talking to you !!! 🙄

anyone else get a ton of anxiety before they head in? i start out all excited for a great night, start getting ready, then anxiety creeps its way in. i drink lightly once im there to keep it at bay but its so annoying. i do keep this side of my life very secret from family and my full time job so maybe thats where it comes from. how do y’all handle pre-shift jitters?

Short version: Do you feel like dancing has transformed you into a new person? I’d love to hear your before and after stories about who you were before dancing and who you are now/after and how it’s changed you (good or bad)

For me I’ve been dancing for almost 2 years now and before that had been thru so much trauma and instability with no support. Dancing has made me realize how much the choices I was making, the friends I used to have, and even what I thought my goals were before dancing were all rooted in desperation and not knowing myself due to always being in a crisis. Now after almost 2 years (and lots of therapy) I’ve lost almost all my old friends (either by choice or just growing apart) I’ve lived in the same apartment that I’ve decorated, I’ve been on vacations, I’m finally ready for a relationship again after being single for 5 years, I’ve deleted social media, and I’ve just healed in ways I never thought I could. I used to be such a people pleaser and now I’m strict with who I let in and how I spend my time. But it’s lonely as fuck and I’m trying to figure out what my new goals are. I’ve been getting the death tarot card lately (which is actually rebirth) and I feel like dancing has killed my old self (for the better) and that I’ve been reborn, which means it’s time to start building my new identity and letting go of the past. Thanks for listening if u read this far <3

So what do you say what is your sales pitch? Naturally I always start with that but they say it’s too much then we always end up doing the cheaper bundle (3 songs and touch) which is 200 and I sell multiple of those per night sometimes 4 in a night sometimes less I want to sell more 1k rooms

Stop sharing your kids on your work social media/stories!!! It includes your "private ones" that you shared with only a single customer.

It is extremely unsafe for your kids and you put them at high risk. If you want to post about kids, make a completely separate account for that.

Not only many of those customers are creeps that don't look at your kid as a sweet innocent creature, but if you get a stalker, you won't be the only person you'll need to worry about (knew a girl that had a stalker that tried to get to her through her child).

Like, I see way too many dancers or even club managers or waitresses (that post about working at the club or doing club advertisement) posting stories or posts with the kids just a few hours or days away from posting about the club. I'm not even talking about it being inappropriate, it's just extremely unsafe.

I’ve decided when my lease is up I’m getting TF out of the south!!! I want to go out west but not sure which area will be best for me.

I would LOVE to move to california but heard it’s terrible for dancers plus I’m a natural girl and don’t know if I can be taken seriously compared to the dolls out there. Colorado? Washington? California?

I’m 27yo, “slim thick”, natural, lightly tattooed, great sales skills, not good at pole tricks just slow and sensual lol. Recs????

My club fired our DJ and replaced them with AI. It feels so stale and cold. I hate it. I never realize how much even just the presence of the DJ was important but now I see I’m so mad. I’m actually considering quitting lol

If you know a place/country it’s okey to be in please let me know 🫶🏼

Dm me if you want

with halloween upon us i decided last minute to work my club’s party so now i’m scrambling to find a outfit because i want that costume contest money lol, but i can’t think of any ideas that aren’t basic! at the same time you can’t go wrong with the classics tho.

Got told that I made the cut to audition but booty club outfits are all I have and I know Cheetah is more upscale. What type of stuff should I be looking for? I’m trying to scope out their social media but I really can’t tell what’s allowed and what isn’t.

Me and some friends bought nice pole grip and left it on stage for everyone - mind you it’s a close knit club with a lot of older dancers.

3 months later it’s half full. In a few weeks after that it’s nearly empty and dried out (new temp (only here for 3 mos girls started) I announced loudly in the dressing room for everyone “the pole grip isn’t provided by the club but by local dancers. And the next shipment isn’t till mid November. Please. Lose the lid and a little goes a long way.

New girls got mad at me. Started yelling about how they had their own pole grip even though I never called them out. Now I’m not sure how to respond

A) keep supplying pole grip for everyone
B) hide the pole grip only for me and my friends
C) keep the pole grip open but talk to the manager to send out a psa

We are on a small island and pole grip takes a month plus to ship here and the shipping costs are very expensive so idk what to do