I just got an angel candy bikini with the attached garter straps like picture and it’s sooo flattering omg . It’s my new favorite set . However , when I went on the angel candy website I found they’re only selling one set right now with those bottoms . Anyone know where else I could get something similar ?

This sounds like one of those weird stories that men write but it’s not. Yes I entertain men but I’m 🏳️‍🌈Gay af lol. My duo parter is as well ( Duh). We normally don’t drink at work as we both used to get carried away as baby dancers but now years later we just find that we make better money being sober. We market ourselves as twins and we are always busy all night in the shower rooms or champagne rooms. A whale texted me and my duo partner ( Let’s call her Francesca ) and told us that he was coming in and he brought us two bottles of wine each. IT WAS XXL 🤦‍♀️. Mind you, our tolerances are low asf cause we barely drink anymore and XXL is like 15%. We’ve been close since we started together and even hang out outside of work but I let myself really get into it last night. I never get horny because of the men that we deal with.

Anywho, long story short I let her rub all over me like normal , we spent 4 total hours in the champagne rooms and I let my gay flag fly, man. We always kiss in our rooms so that’s not unusual but it went really far this time and I let her eat me out and then vide versa. I don’t regret any of it , we both were super drunk. Nobody said anything to me but I’m so scared that my managers are going to be upset with us, I’m not sure if we took it too far. There was champagne and money everywhere and then next thing I know, our whale is watching us and we are paying him no mind. I’m super scared to face my managers, so far nobody has said anything to me. Sometime it gets lonely being a gay dancer and it was nice to kinda let loose with my friend that I trust 🫠🫠

Don’t fall for it. Say something like, “I don’t think I’ll have any trouble tonight :)” and be just as aggressive as you usually would. If there are no other customers, go sit in the locker room. Don’t let them think they can get free attention just because it’s slow.

Last night I danced for a guy in his late 40s, well-behaved and a very good tipper. Those qualities together bring out the yee-haw in me and we had a genuinely fun time. I ended up letting him play with my tits and I gave him some lap friction until he got off. Further than I usually go, but my choice and it was all good.

MEANWHILE my roommate's dad has been in town for work. You can see where this is going lol. I hadn't met him yet (or so I thought). This afternoon he came by our dorm to pick us up and take us out to lunch. And of course, he's the guy.

When we met at first he just looked confused, like he couldn't place me. And then the light went on his eyes and he looked like he was going to die. Thank GOD my roommate didn't pick up on anything. I just gave him a friendly smile and shook his hand and tried via my demeanor to communicate that it was all fine and nobody was ever gonna know. I think it worked cuz he seemed to relax after that!

Lunch was awkward but actually pretty nice. We pretended to have a normal conversation. My job did not come up lol. I work tonight/tomorrow and I wonder if he'll be back...

I’ve had Cuban men specifically ask for a Cuban girl and I get her then she’ll ask where he’s from and refuse to dance is it a culture thing?

They are a common phenotype of customer. Usually detailing multiple stories of how they’ve dated, moved in, married, went on trips with other strippers, etc.. They come into the club, do the bare minimum of buying a couple hundred dollars of dances or a weak ass 30 minute VIP, then only tip $20 after spending the entire time implying they could afford more. Often times I hesitate to believe their stories until they pull out a camera roll offering a slideshow of other dancers I actually know looking stupid AF on dinners and vacations with them. I am humbly begging y’all to stop dating broke old men and allowing them to photograph you for a few hundred dollars. Be so for real 💀

I weighed like 115 pounds when I started dancing. My ass was so flat that my back basically went straight down into my legs. ZERO curve 😭

Weighed myself recently and I’m 150 pounds now, despite being the same height. I was genuinely confused because I don’t feel like I look 35 pounds heavier, but I guess I’ve gained more muscle than I realized from dancing.

Anyway, I was looking through old pictures and holy shit, I did NOT realize how skinny I used to be. Thank god I’ve finally got some thicker thighs and a little bit of ass now 😭🙏

Apparently I can't add the video to this post for context like I wanted so bear with me y'all

Whilst doom scrolling yesterday, as one does, I came across a post from of course...

A man

Who recently went to the strip club.

This SOB was filming the dancers up on stage doing a double, specifically to post and make fun of one of them.

Now she was a much thinner girl, smaller booty, but bless her heart she was shaking that thang anyways! And the comments were just tearing her up. 😮‍💨

For one thing, all you hear in that crowd in the video? Is those girls getting hyped tf up!

And for another, if she's shaking it up there anyways? I guarantee she makes her money just fine! I'm also very slim, small booty small titties and have some lose skin from weight loss. The customers quite literally don't give a fuck. People really don't think guys. Like what makes these people think we'd do ANYTHING on stage that doesn't work for us? It'd be a waste of time and a stage set.

So many nasty comments about flat as a pancake ass, her knees are knocking more than her ass is shaking, did the manager not see her ass when they hired her....I could go on and on.

I'm just sick of the shitty people and the assumption STILL that a girl HAS to be a perfect 10/10 to even DESERVE to strip? Man GTFO here.

Obviously I know people suck and there's judgement no matter what, it's just exhausting and irritating.

Ok rant over lol

I wasn’t coming from a positive and healthy sex life when I started this job. And I never had that. So after being in this job, I’ve still not had that, but on top of it all this daily sexual harassment and objectification issues. What is my goal? I want to feel sexy, on my terms, but I also don’t want it to be my identity and my sense of self worth. I just want to feel like it’s possible to have a sex life where I’m not thinking of how the man sees me. If he sees me as too slutty or too wholesome or whatever scale in between. I want to not think of club flashbacks when I’m with a partner. Or have a reaction after sex because I’ve never been held after or given aftercare.

I try not to care because I know many evil people come in to step on the girls.

However, lately I’ve been hearing customers say «she’s ugly»- like damn 💀💀💀

It’s getting too much now, how the hell do you deal with that/not let it affect you?

I’ve not been a dancer for long but I’m still absolutely devastated and stressed for Brass closing. It affects all over the GTA and leaves more extras clubs than not in the surrounding areas, leaves only TWO (legitimate) options in the city despite the license being $500, and is setting this weird standard for clubs that pretend not to hire strippers and create an unsafe environment. I know the Zanzibar and Filmores owners have mentioned wanting to reopen if they could, and I imagine there’s more people out there who would be open to starting a business in the city if not for the bylaws.

I wanna reach out to Maggie’s to help organize with this since they have more resources for reaching dancers and more experience with advocacy. But just thought I’d ask here if anyone was interested in actually trying to organize and would wanna stay connected.

Obviously it’s a long process but this is a whole generation of our industry being affected and it could be the difference between hundreds of dancers affording a home or a retirement. Our job market is already overwhelmed as is and nobody’s gonna look out for us otherwise.

Was in a VIP room talking about idk what but just life and going back and forth connecting on experiences. He had been through it himself and I was being empathetic and also sharing my experiences. And then all of a sudden he pulls out… yeah that’s why I like young girls around 20 years old because they haven’t been through all that yet like you have.

So, it's my first time in a club like this. There's no vip room, just a few tiny rooms that look all the same. I used to work in a club with no special vip, but there always were some bigger rooms that I would sell as "vip" and create the whole experience. You know, expensive champagne, the room being bigger etc. But there's no option for creating that experience. All rooms are all the same, just separated by some curtain, no champagnes at the club, no "special promotions" for somebody that spends more (like just offering a free shot or anything). And I don't have any idea how to sell anything other than those single dances (we also cannot sell anything else, do our own prices etc. Just multiplication of 10 minutes privates. Nothing else on the menu, except alcohol for clients).

Any tips on how to upsell in clubs like this? To make the guy feel like his not paying for just a few dances in a row.

I’m genuinely curious what the general consensus is among dancers. Is there actually an age where women are considered too old for this industry?

We constantly hear men say women hit their expiration date at 30+(bullshit), but does that translate to the strip club?

I’m not asking when someone should retire or whether women can still look amazing at 40+. I’m asking whether there’s an unspoken age cutoff in this industry, whether customers actually care, and if you’ve noticed age affecting your earnings.

I’d love to hear from dancers of all ages, especially those in their 30s and 40s.

I feel like it's only an European clubs' problem (I didn't hear about clubs like this outside of Europe), but way too many clubs use this abusive tactic. What do I mean? The clubs that aren't focused on good profit or good dancers, they just want ones that are addicted to alcohol or drugs. For alcohol, they will give out the free shots, for drugs, cheap prices. Those girls will work for just this. There's no good salary, good percentage or clients that spend good, just cheap options to satisfy their addiction.

And the clubs are more than okay with selling mostly drinks to clients (and maybe cheap privates) and not much more.

Each time I end up in a place like this, it just makes me so sad. Because I had family members with addiction and I know how much more those girls would make if they stayed sober.

It's mostly clubs in Eastern Europe or ones that hire mostly girls from Eastern Europe. I know those girls know no better (as they used to go the same, but with worse money in their home countries), but I wish there weren't clubs that will use their addiction in such a disgusting way.

I don't know what else I can say, I just hope those girls will find a way out of their addiction and realize they can work in much better clubs.

W no extras. Thanks queens

I’m working from 12-2 (gonna try to hold myself to that lol)

With that being said I’m gonna do some light manifestation for work. Nothing crazy. Maybe bring some cinnamon to work but really the important stuff is the manifestations and the mindset!

With that being said if you want to participate here’s how

How did you feel before the manifestations:
Do you have faith/confidence it will work:

How do you feel after the manifestations:
Did it work? (Did you make good money):

Here’s mine!

Before: i feel nervous but excited and energized! I want it to work so it shall and regardless my day will be great!
Do i have faith/confidence: I’m not as confident as i want to be but i do think it will work

If there's anything I've learned, the busier I seem, the more I'm wanted. Sometimes I'll lie to them and tell them I'm more booked than I am. I make them wait for me to get to them, so they're antsy and needy for it.

Keep on your feet. Don't seem desperate or they'll feed off of it and use it as fuel to gain control. You need to pretend — no matter how fuckin down bad you are — that everything is peaces n' cream.

"I'm not paying $XYZfor a half hour VIP!" -> "That's fine babe, I only have an hour left until I'm booked though. So once I'm off the floor, you won't get another opportunity. Id love to spend at least a little more time with you."

𖹭 This makes you feel busier than you are. They now have a timer in their mind and it forces them into that "now or never" state.

"Can I get just one dance?" -> "oh babe, I totally would but ive got a line of people waiting. You can skip it if you get five, though. You can do that right?"

𖹭 if they want you bad enough they'll spring for the chance to get you before other men lol

If they get any inkling that you need the money they will use that to their advantage. Sometimes I drone to old regulars of mine about certain expenses but otherwise? NEEEVER. Money should be spoken about like you have plenty of it. You need to get adventurous.

"Oh yeah babe, i came out cause I just booked another cruise. Gotta go get my nails and hair done before."

"I loooove red bottoms. I think I'm gonna go grab another pair tomorrow. Oh, how much are they? $XYZ"

"When do i work again? I have classes a few days a week and will be attending a concert Monday, then I have a salon appointment. So next Thursday! Come visit me then?"

Whatever it is you need to have the exact pair and amount in your head. Never send yourself scrambling. Otherwise they'll see through you.

And if they ever say "how much do you need for XYZ?" You need to know the numbers confidently, even if they're wrong. I will sometimes just ramble on about whatever it is that i want and then note the price at the end.

All of the above makes you hot and in demand. You're just out of their reach and making them feel like THEY can play a part in making you happy works. They adore feeling needed.

I work at a semi-decent club. they take basically half of the room and of course they charge customers to use their card so if it’s a $700 room we get half then we have to tip out 20% of our money. they claim of course, that is optional, but if we don’t, they will look for reasons to fire you or just make your job harder than what I already is. We already have to pay 20 to 30% of our money really 40% in taxes and then we have to think about the expenses that goes into working plus we have to pay a house fee. I just feel like all my money is being taken. Yes, I make good money but Why are you taking 50% of my income and this is the only nicer club in my area. There are two other clubs, but the only reason why this is feasible for me right now is because I have other income outside of the club and I’m basically using this as a side hustle to save.