28M. I live in an area with about 200k people, about an hour away from a major city.

I downloaded the app in March and had light success. A match or like once a week; I wasn't expecting much because I've heard dating apps were difficult for men, and considering my area's population, there's not a ton of active users.

After using the app for a while and seeing a discrepancy over the profiles who like me compared to Tinder and Bumble, I've assumed that most women just open their likes you page and never check the discover queue. I guess that makes sense. But around July my ability to get likes or matches completely dried up and it seemed like only one woman was making a new profile every day and at that point I'm sure they get flooded with likes so the odds of them seeing me are extra unlikely.

Last month, on a whim I changed my location to Los Angeles, and it's like a slap in the face how different the experience is. I've received more likes in one day than I had in the previous six combined and like 10% of the profiles I've liked so far converted into matches. I've left my profile there for a month now and it's really bizarre how different the dating app culture seems.

Are smaller areas like mine as difficult for everyone else or does my town just have a really cagey population?

I was on here a few weeks ago, and I've been working on my profile. Time to get a fresh review.

BTW, the last image is of me holding a 3d print of my brain

I’ve been on the app for almost 3 years swiping pretty regularly and have received about 2 likes ever. Don’t know what I’m doing wrong. My profile has been reviewed and iterated and edited by several friends. Was looking for any obvious red flags that you can see, other than me being on the chubbier side.

I have been using Hinge in India for more than a month now and haven't had any success with this profile. I have even subscribed to HingeX but still not receiving any likes or matches. Can anyone help me out if there's anything I need to change, would really appreciate any feedback.

I just got married to my Hinge match from a little over 2 years ago. Sometimes it works!

Let me know my strengths and weaknesses of my profile. Thanks all!

38M, I'm directly on the border with Detroit but on the Canada side and only looking to date in Canada for the most part.

My main issues were that people on profile reviews as well as 2 girls from the app, whom I've asked, have said I look 5'6 rather than 6'2 on my profile.

I added the pic of me on the street and the pic of me on my bike with my feet flat on the ground to try and fix that.

And otherwise, which photos should stay and which should be swapped out for better ones?

The cat one is the only one I know I'm going to be swapping out because of the wild lighting right now.

Thanks everyone. I appreciate it

M33, had a relatively good run of matches over the past two months, by up ticking my regular usage and engaging quickly to try and arrange dates if I feel a connection. Have to thank this sub for some general tips, and how to close in on a date quickly if chats go well.

This last week has converted into 4 dates which I’ve spread over the weekend and early next week. This in itself might be a terrible idea. One is a follow up second date (F29) and the other are new first dates (F28/32/33) with a spread of personalities, very grateful for this - but I’m trying to reconcile texting cadence and setting up the dates, it’s starting to seem like it can vary so much and I’m trying to gauge if narrowing my efforts would be a better approach.

The problem I’m wrestling with is the second date has really low cadence/availability text wise, we’ve been averaging one/two messages a few days this week and that’s simply been trying to get her availability and agree where we’re going, we have a plan but it took a while to get there - I’ve not really had someone (friend or romantic) text this slow before. For the first date we didn’t really have this issue and she came back pretty quick over one day. Trying to decide if this is a sign of disinterest (it feels that way) or just life getting in the way, I know some people aren’t big on messages but since she proposed the day/time I’m giving the benefit of the doubt, since she had an easy chance to just say she wasn’t feeling it or didn’t want to follow up and hasn’t so far.

On the flip side for two of the first dates we had a much bigger flurry of texts initially, nailed availability and date spots - felt ideal, and we haven’t texted since, which is usually what I experience until we meet. The final date arrangement was similar but she seems to be into heavy/daily messaging, every evening getting a lot of updates - this is fine, but we haven’t met yet and I’m worried we’ll run out of steam/burn through all the things we might talk about during the date…

So in essence I’d love to get feedback on experiences, maybe I’m reading too much into this and just need to ride the variability?

Update for anyone following: lesson learned - always trust your gut. The slow texts were indeed disinterest, she let me know she’s decided to cancel about a day after her last message.

Based in NYC/NJ Area
Work @ Finance
From India

Havent had a single match since months. Would love some advice.

I've had friends say I have a solid profile, but would like some second opinions!

I’m looking for honest feedback on how to improve my profile, particularly my photos and overall presentation, to attract more of the type of women I’m interested in.

Edit: Should I get the more premium versions of hinge?

30M and back on Hinge again over these past 3 weeks — one thing I’ve noticed is how normal it is for people to unmatch after the first few messages, or even after days of back and forth conversation. It especially sucks when you’ve matched with someone and begin to make plans, or have some sort of conversation before an expected meet up, only to be unmatched out of the blue..

I’d like to think I’m pretty conversational and I’ve had success being myself in terms of being communicative. Don’t know if it’s something I’m doing so I don’t want to take away from that idea that I might be coming off strong or am the problem in these situations.. at the same time, I feel like there are so many people on these apps with zero interest/intention of dating. One of the dates I’ve had this past month felt like the person had no interest/experience with dating when we met in person, so I wasn’t surprised to see I was unmatched shortly after we met up.

I’m starting to feel convinced that it’s better to keep all convos to a bare minimum on the apps, until there’s a chance to meet up?

Hey everyone,

I'm a 27-year-old guy from South Asia, and I wanted to share my experience with Hinge and get some honest advice.

I've been using Hinge's Passport Mode to set my location in different parts of the world because I'd like to connect with people from other countries and see where things go.

I've tried both Hinge+ and HingeX over the past two months. I've also been sending likes with comments and using Priority Likes, hoping that my profile would get more visibility and that people might be more likely to notice me.

However, the experience has been pretty disappointing so far. I'm not getting any likes or messages, and none of the people I've sent likes to have responded.

I understand that dating apps can be difficult, and I'm not expecting everyone to be interested in me. But after paying for premium features and trying for two months, I'm wondering whether there's something wrong with my profile or whether using Passport Mode from South Asia makes it harder to get matches.

For those who have used Hinge Passport Mode, especially people dating internationally:

Does Passport Mode actually work for building connections in other countries?

Does being located in South Asia affect your chances of getting matches abroad?

Are Priority Likes and comments worth using?

What can I do to improve my profile and get more responses?

I'd appreciate honest feedback and suggestions. I'm willing to improve my profile, but I want to understand what I'm doing wrong before spending more money on premium features.

Thanks!

i've been on hinge for a few months now and in that time I was getting about 5-10 matches per week, and about 5-8 likes per week. in the past few days, i've been getting almost no matches, only 1-2 likes per day, and hinge is only showing me men who are at the far ends of my age range, live on the far edges of the distance i'm willing to travel, and are outside my political/religious preferences. am I being hidden or punished or something? I surely haven't gone through thousands of men within my preferences already?!

before this:

• I usually had 8 chats going at any given time
• I sent a few likes per day, sometimes just a like and not a comment - not because I didn't want to put in effort, but because I sometimes find peoples' comments cringe-y when it's hard to find something to say!
• I sometimes accepted a match but didn't leave a comment (i'm sorry, i'll try not to do this anymore!)

after this (based on advice I read here):

• I changed one picture and one prompt
• I responded to the prompt "did you meet" for anyone I met in real life (was this a mistake? did I give them too much info and now they know who I like and are hiding those people?)
• I unmatched dead chats
• I try to send comments along with a like

is it possible hinge has hidden me or is punishing me to try to get me to pay a subscription?

thanks in advance for any advice or insight someone can give and best of luck to everyone out there.

I (20m) have recently been on dates with two girls who had both recently moved to the city and weren’t sure how long they’d stay. One was on an exchange semester, while the other was doing a one-year master’s.

With the first girl, we went to a coffee shop, walked around, and held hands. She later explained that she’d initially thought she wanted a relationship, but realized she actually wanted to spend time with friends, figure out who she was, and experience living independently for the first time. We didn’t go on a second date.

With the second girl, we played pool at a café, walked through a park, held hands, and kissed. She messaged afterward saying she’d had a lovely time, and we arranged a second date to hike and watch the sunset. However, the day before, she cancelled, saying things were moving too fast and she’d rather we stayed friends. I offered to take things slowly, but she still wanted to end things romantically.

Both girls said during our dates that they were attracted to me, so I’m wondering whether their uncertainty about their futures made them reluctant to get emotionally invested.

Is this common when dating people who have recently moved somewhere and aren’t sure how long they’ll stay, or could there be something I’m overlooking about how I approach dates?

I’m a 25-year-old guy. A few months ago, I was in Bengaluru, where I was getting matches on Hinge. After coming back to my hometown, I haven’t been getting any matches, and I think it’s because I live in a rural area.
Over the past few months, I matched with a few women on Hinge and became friends with them, but I wasn’t looking for a relationship at the time. Now, I’m genuinely looking for a relationship, but I’m not sure what to do.
Would changing my location on Hinge help me get more matches? Even if I change my location to Bengaluru or another city, I can’t meet someone in person every day because I live in my hometown.
So, I want to know is it realistically possible for me to find a relationship through Hinge, given my current situation? What should I do?

New to this, been on and off the apps over the past year. Have gotten a handful of matches in that time but nothing significant. As well unsure how to go about displaying some other sections of my life (newly at the gym, volunteering, enjoy games etc).

Any help would be appreciated 🙂

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Basically zero response on this profile. I'm dutch and living in Valencia. Tried multiple different photo's and prompts. Even got hingeX, because of a discount, but with zero effect. Curious if my account is messed up or my profile just doesn't work here. I did delete and redo my account about 2 weeks ago. I'm a bit clueless. It doesn't really match my real life experience.

Oh yeah, and I'm aware that my neckbeard can use some extra shaving. Already got that tip before. But doubt if that fully justifies the current Hinge experience.

I'm a woman and ofcourse I have a lot of likes. How on earth am I supposed to enterain several conversations and reject 99% of them? Even if nothing is wrong? There are simply too many options. I feel so guilty knowing I'm supposed to turn people down just because there was someone better. I feel so bad knowing I'm potentially wasting their money and time. It's literally just a race to see who can keep me entertained the most. I find it impossible to ghost people and not feel bad. But I can't make up an explanation for everyone. I feel like everyone deserves a chance and a reply. How do I change my mindset? The fact I read everyone's profile in detail makes me humanize them so it's not just a number on my screen. I'm an introvert with no friends irl so this is my only way of meeting people in a way I'm comfortable with. Well, the least uncomfortable way, rather... I would really like to become numb to these things.

Let me know about any feedback you all might have. Moved to Virginia and just wanted some input. Thank you.