r/cutting • • 23d ago

Positivity “ sid ! i want to start harm reduction , but i don’t know how ! “ i’ve gotchu !

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tw : mentions of self harm in detail // i.e. depth , severity , etc , but no words used other than that !

harm reduction 101 ! ! !

( warning : i’m not a medical professional , this is all personal experience from someone [ me ] who’s gone through dbt , cbt , and residential therapy ! )

  1. remember that sobriety is a journey . harm reduction has the end goal of being clean , but sometimes that is not realistic . what is most important in the scenarios where you do self harm is to try and be as “ safe “ as possible .

  2. have somebody you can contact ! a trusted friend / adult , or someone who can help you get medical treatment if necessary .
    use sterile supplies ! this might mean cleaning the area / surrounding area of where you are planning to self harm , cleaning the setting in which you’re doing it in , not sharing sharps , and making sure there is no dirt or rust on what you are using .
    start slow ! while relapsing / self harming can be a very impulsive thing , the goal here is to be as safe as possible while engaging in harmful behaviors . this can include lessening the frequency , depth , or changing the area that the self harm is occurring .

  3. if you do not have somebody you feel safe /
    comfortable contacting , be sure to have as much control as possible , making sure that you can provide care to yourself afterwards .
    have medical supplies on hand , at the ready . depending on the “ severity “ this may even include a tourniquet . whether incidental or not , there is always a chance for an injury that is more severe than you can handle . have sterile medical supplies , including but not limited to : gauze , neosporin , an anti-bacterial spray specifically for wounds , bandages , and over the counter painkillers to take afterwards . just because you were hurting in the moment doesn’t mean you don’t deserve comfort .
    try and delay self harm by developing awareness of your triggers . if this is social media , certain shows / movies , stressful situations , all of those things are nothing to be ashamed of .

  4. keep self harming tools in an awkward to reach space or an area that would take you a while to reach . this could include a sharps box with a lock that is a code , in a box with multiple layers of cardboard , or somewhere up high .

  5. if comfortable , log the relapse / urge . over time , try to note what you think caused it , going through something called a “ chain “ . what vulnerabilities did you have ? was this planned or impulsive ? what do you think was the main catalyst ? how did you feel before vs after ? over time it gets easier to recognize your feelings and be comfortable expressing them either to yourself or others .

a supply kit for aftercare or distraction :

- sanitation objects ; alcohol wipes , hand sanitizer , moist towelettes .
comfort food / drink : a snack , a soda , a coffee , or a comforting meal .

- items to self soothe : a stuffed animal , a fluffy blanket , calming music , essential oils or a candle scent you like , books , movies .

- a safe environment : put the object(s) used to self harm in a different room , ideally in a locked box with the key in a different room as well .

- medical supplies : see earlier ! :)

- comfortable temperature(s) : air conditioning , a fan , a warm blanket , closed blinds , a fire place .

reminders :

• recovery is not linear . it looks the same to nobody , everybody is human and their experiences differ wildly , but that doesn’t mean a single one is invalid . you may feel that you get worse before you get better , but the goal is to push through .
• there are people who care about you . strangers on the internet , pets , the animals in your neighborhood that see you walk by , the barista at your favorite coffee place , friends online , friends in person , complete strangers .
• there is always a way to feel joy after feeling terror or pain . you shouldn’t feel guilty for finding small things to bring you happiness . if you start feeling guilty , remember that sid on reddit dot com knows you are awesome !
• there is no wrong way to express your emotions . this doesn’t mean there aren’t harmful ways to express your emotions , this means that however you do is valid . whether you scream , cry , isolate , depend on people , yell , argue , bottle it up , they are all allowed . you are allowed to feel .
• find small things you like . you don’t have to love them , or do them constantly ! petting an animal , going to a cat cafe or animal shelter , taking a walk in the afternoon , laying in the sun in your backyard , taking a nap , taking a day off from work / school to purely rest , going grocery shopping and only buying your favorite foods , going to an ice cream parlor and getting a waffle cone , going to a new cafe and trying something new , stretch in the morning at sunrise or at dawn , watch the clouds move on by , listen to the sound of rain whether artificial or not , find joy in something small , no matter how minuscule .

AND REMEMBER ! YOU DESERVE HEALING !

it doesn’t matter if you’ve hurt others , betrayed yourself , or made mistakes .

you deserve to be comfortable in your own skin ! <3


r/cutting • • Sep 22 '26

Positivity Guide for after care and cutting.

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Hi! as people rather do not care about safety , ill gladly help people with after care on cuts and wounds , this guide can be used on any wound.
any questions will be answered , please just comment.

CUTS AND HOW TO CLEAN THEM.

  1. cat-scratches (aka, epidermis)

• epidermis cuts can be identified by a scratch looking cut, it closely resembles a ‘cat scratch’, hence the name. epidermis infection levels are low.

• to tend to a epidermis cut, you can wash it with warm water, and let it heal.

  1. styros (aka, dermis)

• dermis cuts can be identified by the white layer that shows up before blood starts filling the cut. regular styros are not too prone to infection, but it can happen.

• to care for a dermis cut, you can dampen a towel with warm water, and lightly pat at the cut. afterwards, apply antibiotic ointment (ex; neosporin, aquaphor, vaseline) around the cut and put bandaid ontop.

  1. beans (aka, fat/hypodermis)

• bean cuts can be identified by yellow/orangey bubbles inside the cut. bean cuts, if not well taken care of, are very prone to an infection.

• to clean and confirm your cut wont get infected, clean out with water, (NOT with a papertowel or napkin.) apply ointment AROUND cut, and cover with bandage so debris cant get inside.

  1. laffy taffy (aka, muscle)

• muscle cuts are at a very high risk for an infection, and absolutely require stitches. please let a medical worker know and have them assist your cut. and infection at this level could be deathly.

• to care for laffy taffy at home, seal shut with steri strips/make steri strips to close the wound as best as possible. medical attention is highly recommended

.5. bone: “bedrock”a wound that exposes bone is an extremely serious injury. if you can see bone or suspect the injury has reached it, seek emergency medical care immediately.these injuries carry a very high risk of infection, significant blood loss, and damage surrounding muscles, tendons, nerves and blood vessels.while waiting for medical help, cover the wound with a clean dressing if available and avoid putting pressure directly on any exposed bone. do not peek !!! you cannot heal this injury by yourself. please, for the love of god, call an ambulance and stop reading shedtwt threads or reddit posts about it.

  1. bruises

bruises happen when small blood vessels beneath the skin are damaged, causing blood to collect under the surface. apply a cold pack or ice wrapped in a cloth for 10–20 minutes at a time during the first 24 hours to help reduce the pain or swelling.

avoid placing ice directly on your skin, as this can cause a cold injury or frostbite.

after the first couple of days, switching to a warm compress or heat pack may help improve blood flow and support the healing process.

  1. burns

for minor burns, cool the area under cool running water for 20 minutes as soon as possible. avoid using ice, butter, toothpaste, or other home remedies, as these can make the injury worse. once the burn has been cooled, cover it with a clean, non-stick dressing or plastic wrap to protect it.

call emergency services immediately if the burn:

was caused by chemicals or electricity.

affects the face, major joints or airways.

is deep, charred, white, leathery, or otherwise appears to be a full-thickness (third degree) burn.

is very large or if the person is having trouble breathing.

INFECTION INFO
“what causes infections? how can i identify and tend to infections?”

**CAUSES*\*

infections can occur by not taking proper care of the wound, not changing bandages, or getting something inside.

**IDENTIFYING*\*

identifying infections in the early stage can be easy, you can spot infections by yellow/green pus near the area, or if the cut is a fleshy glossy pink in the cut. you can feel the infection by it being hot to the touch, or swelling around the area.

**GETTING RID OF*\*

change out bandages within 12–24 hours. apply ointment *AROUND* cut, and cover with bandage to ensure no debris gets inside.

SUPPLIES
“where can i buy medical supplies?”

any drugstore, pharmacy, or Walmart

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!! PLEASE STAY SAFE.


r/cutting • • 46m ago

Talk/Support/Venting PLEASE educate yourselves on depth. Depth ≠ validity.

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Did the injury bleed? Then it’s a dermis injury or below!Also known as “styro” to those who don’t like actual terms.

Just because you don’t feel valid in your pain doesn’t mean they are “cat scratches”. Epidermis injuries don’t bleed. And guess what? Epidermis are just as valid as ANY OTHER DEPTH!!

You’re intentionally harming yourself? You’re valid. The fact you went to harm in the first place means you deserve real, serious help.

Keep hanging in there, friend.


r/cutting • • 1h ago

Body chart My body chart NSFW

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r/cutting • • 8h ago

Question Am I blind to my cutting? NSFW Spoiler

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I think I am blind to my own cutting. Is this considered bad? Whenever my doctor asks about it I say it isnt that bad because it healed fine without stitches, but then I see other posts and am unsure. This is my thigh, my other one looks the same.


r/cutting • • 4h ago

Question Are they too noticable Spoiler

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I'm a really self-conscious person.


r/cutting • • 7h ago

Question How long until they'll fade?

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It's been a couple weeks since they happened and they've scarred over mostly, how long until they'll fade?


r/cutting • • 4h ago

Talk/Support/Venting Fell back after over 5 years

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Thought I was done doing this to relieve stress, pain, frustration, and sadness. But was weak and too much anxiety and my usual safety wasn't there. It's all safe and not bad cat scratches. Disappointed in myself. Just started therapy so I will do my best to bring it up when I can. Just wanted to talk or support.


r/cutting • • 4h ago

Venting Attention craving NSFW

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It's probably pretty pathetic to be craving this sort of thing when I'm in my thirties, but god damn. I had a bit of a following briefly, for my sh. It was very icky and I deleted the account. Nonetheless, it was the most attention I ever had, for anything. And while I know it was bad for me and honestly just being a part of that community to begin with, it still gnaws at me. The good interactions were rare and the few mutuals I had and valued I'm still somewhat in contact with. But my brain dismisses a lot of the bad about it in order to try and coax me back to being part of it again. It's frustrating.

I always felt posting my pics is me fulfilling some sort of entertainment role, as bad as that sounds. Sh is the only thing I feel people are interested in me, the only thing of value I offer on the internet stage. The only thing I make that's worth a look. It's stupid, I just can't create anything else that catches attention. I miss the feeling it gave me a lot. But of course I gloss over the bad things, I know that attention wasn't most of what I got. Most was shitty and felt bad, I don't want to be a part of that like that anymore. I just hate that I feel the urge to go back so so much. I wish I was useful in any other way I could be. I'm just not goid enough for anything positive to bring me the same feeling.

I had hoped I would leave this need for a specific kind of attention in my teens, but I feel like it never really became less, I just briefly had what I thought I wanted and now feel worse about it. Feels really fucking stupid.


r/cutting • • 1d ago

Art I've been falling to self-harm recently. I couldn't sleep so I decided to put my frustrations into a video. NSFW Spoiler

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I don't fully know if this fits in the rules, but I've been really having a hard time with self-harm and wanted to express how it feels. I wish you all luck in your battles.


r/cutting • • 23h ago

Advice needed Does it look like a suicide attempt? NSFW Spoiler

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r/cutting • • 1d ago

Talk/Support/Venting I cut my boyfriend. NSFW Spoiler

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It's been a bad week. I set a date for this Friday. Kind of accidentally told my boyfriend on impulse during an episode. And I saw him today.

I just fell apart once we were in the car. I gave him my razor blade from my wallet. I'm still not sure why the hell I did that. Because 20 minutes later I regretted it and remembered that I need it and I begged for it back and tried to pry it from his hands. Before just giving up and sobbing and shaking and melting into him.

Then he opened the hand holding the blade, and his hand was all torn up and bloody. Because he was gripping it tight enough to keep me from getting at it, so it cut him.

I couldn't say anything after that but "I'm sorry" over and over until he dropped me off back at home. He's the one thing I could never hurt like that. I can never forgive myself for being crazy enough and desperate enough to hurt him like that.

I have no doubts now that I need to die. How could a person who cut their partner with a fucking razor blade, how could that person possibly deserve to live?

Just needed to put this somewhere other than my own head.


r/cutting • • 7h ago

Advice needed Help me hide my cuts!!! (TW: Talk of recent sh)

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I've been clean for almost 20 days. But very recently Ive been feeling disoriented and numb, I couldn't resist it any longer. Though, the main issue is that I got too in the moment and ended up cutting my wrists alot without thinking about afterwards. It's very obvious and I don't have anything I can use to hide it really.

(I don't have any long sleeve things that I can cut up or wear for too long without overheating, I don't have a ton of stuff for making bracelets, and I also don't have any gloves)

I feel so bad... I promised my mom I would stop. She's on a honeymoon right now with my dad, and I don't want her to come back just to find out and have to deal with me when she's been so stressed lately. Please let me know soon, I want to hide it as soon as possible, thank you!!!


r/cutting • • 7h ago

Advice needed How to hide thigh scars NSFW

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Me and my girlfriend have recently been getting increasingly more intimate and I’m worried that if when when we do something under the waistband that she is going to see my scars and get upset. Because I recently relapsed pretty hard. I just wish they could just disappear. So does anyone have any suggestions on how i could hide thigh scars even if my pants were down


r/cutting • • 8h ago

Talk/Support/Venting mind is in a dark place NSFW Spoiler

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all i can think of is releif by cutting myself because it used to make me feel better. i want to so bad but i am worried my bf or family will judge me. I want to so fucking bad tonight


r/cutting • • 9h ago

Positivity Coping skill menu

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here you go!

this is a Coping skill menu. I’ve included a blank one that you can edit, and also an answer key. The idea behind this is that it could make explaining to people which coping skills work easier, serve as a handy reference and also help you learn what helps work for you.

Here’s a few links that you may find helpful:

List of 146 coping skills: https://www.adolescentselfinjuryfoundation.com/help-yourself

99 coping skills Reddit post: https://www.reddit.com/r/cutting/comments/1u99zsv/got_these_from_my_therapist_and_wanted_to_share/

Project Butterfly: https://thepleasantmind.com/butterfly-project/

(u can also just google any of these)

Helpline Database: https://findahelpline.com/

thats about it.


r/cutting • • 9h ago

Question How to stop bleeding quickly NSFW

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I'll start this by saying I am not in immediate danger nor am I actively bleeding!!

Alright so, recently I cut pretty to deep styro (maybe baby beans, I'm not too sure) and I was fucking sleepy bro (I wasn't bleeding out, it was like 3AM) and I didn't want to wait for the blood to stop so I slapped a band-aid on and went to bed.

Here is the problem: the cut gaped maybe a centimeter, and i wanted to keep the gape. The next day when I took the band aid off the cut was completely closed. It genuinely pissed me off so bad I nearly cried.

So the question is how do I stop bleeding quickly without closing the cut (or closing it as little as possible)? Any help is very help fully and I love you all, stay safe!


r/cutting • • 9h ago

Talk/Support/Venting I don’t even know why I do this

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I have been having the worst month ever this year. I won’t go into detail but it’s just been a very triggering time for me. I was talking to the therapist about everything going on and she told me I was handling it “surprisingly well” and she asked me if I wanted to kill myself which I said no to because that’s the truth. Even though I don’t want to die, I relapsed 4 times in the past 2 weeks( I didn’t tell my therapist this 😣) and I think about it everyday. I dont want to die, half the time I don’t even want to feel the pain. I guess I just like the comfort. Like everytime something bad happens in my life before it DOES make me want to die and feel pain so I cut. So I guess it just feels like I have something to make me feel like I have some sort of normalcy but honestly idk. It’s not like a desire it’s more like a compulsion which I haven’t felt like in a longgggg time. Also I don’t feel like editing this for spelling or the flair so 😖😖😖😖


r/cutting • • 9h ago

Relapse again and again

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just got fired from my job because my boss replaced my position for AI agent. I’ve been selfharm free for four years and I relapsed a few weeks ago and then here i am sitting in the toilet. staring at my legs bleeding. it’s a never ending circle


r/cutting • • 11h ago

Question Is this the lightest these will get? NSFW

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A little over two months old


r/cutting • • 23h ago

Talk/Support/Venting new knife , old thoughts.

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i got a new knife yesterday and meant to be a trainer, but i decided to sharpen it and cant stop think of wanting to cut more. specifically by the neck and mid arm. only reason i dont is because id feel very guilty if loved ones found out.

i havent cut for a few weeks but i accidentally jabbed myself and now cant stop thinking about it.

i couldnt care if i lost life, or if i kept living. i want to go into more detail but i dont know the limits of this subreddit.

(idk what a fitting flair is)


r/cutting • • 12h ago

Positivity Parents found out (positivity!!?!? In this economy?)

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Hey everyone, today my parents found out, I was reckless and just wore T-shirts and stuff lol, I might stay in this community and comment but I really am trying to quit, I know I didn't really talk much about here and my departure may seem sudden but I don't wanna make my momma cry anymore then she already has and I hope my words of affection can do at least something, I started last week as a attempt to feel sad and it didn't really work, I felt like shit all the time. I was a little nicer I guess. And my arms hurts constantly, turns out my mom used to do it when she was a teenager so there's that. I'm not coming down from the heaven's to flaunt that I may finally be recovering, and if I ever relapse I'm sure this post will seem incredibly melencholic and shit, but I want you to know that your all Incredible and beautiful souls. I may not be trans, and I might not be of different belief, I might be white, I may not face sexism, I don't really face all too much homophobia cause nobody knows about the whole bisexual thing. and I might not know half the discrimination you all face, but I might understand the view from halfway down. and that well, the nice thing about life. Is that even if it takes a while, it just keeps getting better, Byea! :D - Eddie

(PS: I drew this and stuff, so coolio. Also the whole revelation was really awkward and I felt like I wanted to hide in a hole and never come out lmfao, but it was beneficial, again if I relapse this post would seem melencholic to me, but y'all will probably never know. Besides the "chance" of something bad happening shouldn't stop you from trying your best, anyway sorry, yeah bye)


r/cutting • • 23h ago

Advice needed How long till these heal? NSFW Spoiler

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I know they're not very deep, but this is them 2 months after and they haven't faded much. I moisturise and massage them twice a day but nothing seems to help. I would like to be able to not wear socks with sandals over summer and avoid the drama of my parents finding out. Any tips for hiding and making them heal faster?

Also I was curious as to what type of scars these are. Cat scratches?


r/cutting • • 13h ago

Advice needed I just relapsed pretty badly for me and I’m going to a Halloween party tmrw night and my costume shows a lot of skin (including the cuts) Spoiler

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Exactly what the title is I’m so mad at myself. I was clean for nearly a month and then tonight my anxiety was bad again and I did it sort of on auto pilot without really thinking so i cut in an obvious place (my wrist). It’s getting colder so I’ve been wearing nothing but long sleeves so I kinda forgot about how obvious the cuts r when I have to wear short sleeves. I would wear a sweatshirt but that’s just gonna be more awkward. I’m thinking I’ll just add some fake blood to my arms as “part of my costume” cuz I was gonna put some on my forehead, etc. anyways but I’m freaking out and I’m pissed off at myself because I was thinking “eh they’re not THAT obvious” but I just cleaned them and omfg they’re so obvious especially next to my scars from a month ago that r still pretty red…. Help


r/cutting • • 1d ago

Advice needed I keep losing control to the voices

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They keep making me cut and do things i dont wanna do… i cant stop cutting… im at school and they convinced me to steal a scalpel from biology class… im terrified of what they might do with it… what do i do?