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Problem/Goal: am i jumping into conclusions when i say that i think he’ll be replacing me with her

Context: my bf of 2yrs is newly employed in this hospital. Lahat ng tao dun ay matatanda na and theres this girl na kaedad niya lang, so sila ang magkasundo. I told him that im not comfortable with her, just because he spends more time with her at work than with me.

my bf had a huge problem at work and his coworker helped him with it. He was spiraling daw and she was the only one there to help him. Knowing him, madaling gumaan ang loob niya sa tao kapag ganun. After the same day, they went out to this resto 20 mins away from their workplace, naglakad lang daw sila papunta dun and ate at a sushi place. He lied at first and didnt tell me that hes going out with her and where they were (to avoid arguments daw) umamin nalang nung pinilit kong tanungin ng ilang beses. Nag sorry siya about the lie.

We started dating during internship and now nagooverthink na ako kasi ganun kami nagsimula: sa work, helping each other, going out after work. I cant help but feel jealous because im imagining how we are when were together and maybe he is feeling the same towards his coworker. Im scared na baka kung may problema na siya, he’d confide to her instead to me, his partner. Im scared that all of that will lead to some emotional attachment na ikasisira ng relationship namin.

Previous attempts: pinag usapan na namin, he told me that there is no malice with it. But then again, im scared of betrayal.

Is this a normal circumstance? I had work too, and never did i go out with a coworker na kaming dalawa lang nor lie about anything when i go out with the opposite sex.

Problem/Goal: Need advice lang kasi my mind’s a mess rn.

My gf broke up with her ex nung December kasi toxic daw yung relationship nila and nag-cheat sa kanya. She told me na wala na siyang gana and she was already moving on. Pero recently, nalaman ko na nag-sex pa pala sila nung January kasi nami-miss niya and may love pa siya sa ex niya. They even went to a concert nung April, same month na nagkakilala kami.
From January to April, kinukulit pa raw siya ng ex niya na makipagbalikan, pero hindi niya ma-reject nang tuluyan kasi naaawa siya. Nung nakilala niya lang ako, saka siya nagkaroon ng courage to finally say na ayaw na niya talaga.

Hindi ako nagseselos sa past niya, I’m just disappointed kasi napapaisip ako kung fully healed na ba talaga siya nung nakilala niya ako, or nag-let go lang siya kasi may bago na siyang nakilala.

She also told me na she manifested a Sagittarius partner, and I’m a Sagittarius. She says I’m healing her and making her life easier, kaya minsan napapaisip ako if she genuinely loves me for who I am or if she just loves the idea of me kasi I came into her life when she needed someone.

I know these things don’t automatically mean na rebound ako, pero I can’t help noticing patterns and questioning things. I don’t want to judge her past, but I also don’t want to invalidate what I feel.
Am I overthinking this? How do you know if someone genuinely loves you for who you are and not just because of what you bring into their life?

Problem/Goal: IDK kung anong magging decision ko.

Context: may 10 yrs lip, never nag cheat si guy until may nakilala sya lng gitl na nakakuha ng atensyon nya. Di nya personally kilala pero biglang naging interesado sya kilalanin, wala pang 1 month sila naguusap Tinago nya sakin then biglang gusto nalang nya makipaghiwalay dahil gusto nya daw ng freedom at mapag isa. Hindi ako/kami toxic, sobrang okay pa kami before that. Never kami nag argue ng malala, sobrang supportive at inaalagaan ko sya and fam nya. Gusto ko sana ipaglaban pero ayaw ko magmakaawa. After our confrontation, mas pinili nyang makipaghiwalay ng tuluyan instead na ayusin kami peri sinasabi nyang hindi na nya ippursue si girl dahil ayaw nya ko masaktan pero nahuhuli ko syang nagssearch online how to pursue si other girl after ng confrontaion namin. Sinasabi nya sakin na ayaw nya ko makitang umalis dahil baka pigilan nya ako. Nawalan ako ng peace of mind pero may hope parin sa puso ko dahil magkasama kami sa lahat ng hirap simula noon at palagi namin pinipili ang isat iss noon.

Tingin nyo ba, lalo sa guys with the same situation, babalikan nya pa ba ako? Sinasabi nya na gusto nya ng space para makapag isip.

Problem/Goal: Since I still don’t know a lot of philipinnes, I’d love to get some tips or advice from you guys of things of that zones that can be cute to know 😊

Context: I’m a 23yo Spanish guy and I recently started courting a 25yo Filipina girl. She’s currently living here in Spain for her studies.

She’s originally from Mindanao but lived in Manila for a while before coming to Spain.

I really, really like her and want to do things properly. I know Filipino courtship (panliligaw) can be a big deal and quite traditional, so even though we are in Europe, I want to show her that I respect her culture. also that think that she deserves it. (She said yes 3 weeks ago)

Thanks a lot in advance, appreciate the help!

Problem/Goal:
I need advice about whether being persistent after someone initially says no but later changed her mind to yes is enough to be considered r*pe. I also don't know what to do now that my ex-girlfriend has publicly called me a rapist on social media.

Context:
Back in February, nag-check in kami, and we had s*x. At first, she said she didn't want to because she thought that I was a virgin and because she didn't like the condom brand. So I asked multiple times, like, "Sure na sure ka na ba?" and "Okay naman tong brand, eh." I explained my side na safe naman yung cond*m and convinced her, and she eventually agreed. So yes, I made a mistake because I was so persistent that time, pero di kasi ako nakarinig ng straight no saying na she did not want to do it with me talaga. She's saying no because of the brand or my virginity, so here I am, trying to convince her. Also, she did not seem uncomfortable when we were doing the deed, kaya wala akong alam kung napipilitan lang ba talaga siya. I genuinely believed she had changed her mind and was consenting. I didn't threaten, force, or intimidate her.

However, after we broke up in October, all of a sudden, she brought up February and said she only agreed because she felt guilty and that I had disrespected her refusal. Naging intimate pa kami maraming times after nung February, she even gifted me 12 boxes of cond*ms. Pero all of a sudden, she regrets everything and suddenly puts the blame on me saying na coercion and rap*st daw ako.

I don't honestly know what to do. She posted my identity, calling me a rapist on social media. And I honestly want to unalive myself because never in my life tinawag ako sa ganyan na di ko naman ginawa talaga. I was persistent, yes, pero is that enough reason for me to be considered a rap*st? Because I swear, lahat may consent talaga. i'm so tired of my life sobra sobra. idk why need humantong kami sa ganto.

Previous Attempts:
I'm about to consult a lawyer pa because my reputation is ruined. pero at the same time, i don't want to, because I'm sure that my ex is already struggling in life, so i'm having a second thought. I'm trying to understand whether what happened in February could legally be considered r*pe and what I should do about her social media posts.

Problem/goal: My landlord raped me

Context: Long overdue in my rent 2 months delay but I told him makakabayad ako I just need time may 1 month advanced deposit ako at nagamit ko na ‘yon. Last month lang talaga ako hindi nakabayad. Nag assure ako sa kanya, sabi ko within this month. Kanina pumunta sya sa apt ke aga aga kukunin lang daw ang electric bill…pero may iba palang plano. Matagal ko na talagang napapansin na may gusto siya sakin pero hindi ako nagbibigay ng any sign or ine entertain siya, ni magcha-chat siya randomnly hindi ko nirereplyan unless kung magbabayad ako ng bill tsaka ako magcha-chat sa kanya. Kanina tinulak ko siya, gusto ko sumigaw pero halos walang lumabas sa bibig ko, mas malakas din siya sakin. He’s 40+ while 21 lang po ako.

Previous Attempts: None. But nagself harm ako at balak ko mag suicide mamaya. Nandidiri ako sa katawan ko.

Problem/Goal: Saan kaya ako makakahanap ng client.

Context: Newly hired Mitsubishi Sales consultant here po.by monday po start na ng training namen, pero pwede naman na daw humanap ng client kasi under training pa lang. Pahingi naman po ako ng advice kung paano ko makukuha ang kiliti ng client haha, at saan po ba ako magsisimula? Saan po ba makakahanap ng potential client. Maraming salamat po.

Previous attempts: Gumawa na po ako ng FB page.

Problem/goal: Hindi ko na alam kung normal na panliligaw o kung love bombing naba ang ginagawa niya saakin.

Context: I (F20) had been dating this guy (M25) for few weeks now. We started talking last month and had three dates already. We started with some sexual conversations jokingly until we decided to had our first date after a week of talking. First date went well and the second date was after 5 days, and went hiking and camping. We had sex on the camp since malamig at kami lang dalawa. Third date comes, we went to a nice place, grabbed some foods, then we checked in sa hotel. It was my first time sa lahat lahat so I was confused and shocked how everything went on so fast. Everything was my first time including the sex, the kiss, lahat lahat. Ang sabi niya genuine ang feelings niya saakin. I could see his efforts and kindness pero what I’m bothered is bakit naging ganito ka bilis ang lahat.

Previous attempts: Nakausap ko na siya na ayaw kong every time na magkikita kami ay mag chi-check in kami sa hotel kasi parang we’re keeping this nalang dahil sa lust. Ang sabi niya rin ay wholesome naman daw yung dates namin kaso nahohorny daw siya everytime na nakikita niya ako. Kahit pagsabihan ko siya na ayaw ko ng ganoon parati, parang nakakain ko lang rin yung mga pinagsasabi ko dahil pag nag kita kami gagawin rin naman namin. I wanted to say no kaso hindi ko magawa not because I like it pero kasi parang he’s controlling me pag papunta na kami sa kung saan kami mag checheck in.

Problem/Goal: i wanna go to this party on the 31st but my mom is kinda strict about these stuff and i wanna try to loosen it up a bit

Context: so i’m kinda at that age where people start partying and doing “yolo” stuff and im also starting to feel like i wanna be able to do that too and go out and have some fun. my friends invited me to hidden nights on the 31st and itd the first time i got invited to a party (after months of wanting to go to one) so ofc g agad ako pero hindi ko lang alam kung pano ko ipapaalam sa mom ko.

i dont rebel or sneak out, i remember my ate who used to do that at my age and they were always fighting and one time pinalayas pa sya and ima be honest i am scared of my mom HAHAAHHAHAHA. shes the type of mom na kaclose ko na pwede ko mapagbiruan pero pagdating sa mga gala parang 50/50. it really depends and shes very unpredictable. one time nagpaalam ako, she said yes agad tas ang sweet sweet pa nya (mind you sa moa pa yun kaya medyo malayo so nagulat ako pumayag agad sya) then one time nagpaalam ako pumunta sa bahay ng kaibigan ko which is like less than 5mins away and she said NO. as in NO. pero i did manage to talk her out of it? kasi minsan pag nagnno sya, i can sometimes sense na shes just joking so eventually she will say yes? idk how to explain.

anyways, yun talaga kinakatakutan ko tuwing may gala, magpaalam. esp since this is a party and it starts and ends pretty late. shes not that strict with curfew but i feel like this one will be different kasi nga its a party and i think yall know whats associated w parties like drinking and other stuff like that. she does not allow me to drink, but there was one time i did behind her back, got pretty drunk and she found out a few days later pero di naman nya ako pinagalitan. but again this is a party so i think itll be different.

idk kung pano ko ipapaalam kasi pag nagnno sya, nakakatakot talaga as in napapatahimik lang ako and i get lost with my words so idk how to convince her. i wanna try and compromise or negotiate para mapayagan nya ako.

++ ill be goin out with my cousin (pang richkid lifestyle nya, maluwag parents and usually parties n drinks) and my mom thinks shes a bad influence pero i think its just bc of how she perceives it pero hindi talaga sya ganon. so i think thats also kinda a big factor whether or not she’ll say yes.

ive seen people who say to just sneak out and to me thats like a bit easier said than done kasi if my mom finds out idek what she’ll do to me 😭 and i wanna build a relationship with her where she can trust me and i dont have to hide things. also, makikisabay ako sa pinsan ko so ofc alam ng parents nya yon and if they find out that i snuck out i dont think theyll let us go. ++ i need money and i dont have money so…

pano ko kaya mapapaalam? ive been thinking about this like 24/7 n i just wanna get it over with already 💔 i reslly really really wanna go

Problem/Goal: Siniraan nila ako sa Asawa ng bayaw ko(Bilas)

Context: Nakatira kmi ng husband ko sa family side ko. Yung bilas ko ay living with my husbands family, iisang bahay lang sila. At kapag nadalaw kami sa kanila, theres something off. Hindi ko na lang pinansin since baka oa lang ako. Yung bilas ko di sya ganun kaclose sakin. One night, nagchat sya sa akin. Nagopen up sya na may prob sa bahay ng inlaws ko. Di ko na isaisahin, pero ang kinagulat ko, may nasasabi pala sila sakin ng sis in laws ko.
1. Maarte yan kaya, di yan natutulog sa lapag kaya ayaw nya sumama sa bulacan.
-the truth is, di ako nakakasama dahil may work ako kapag nagbabyahe sila. Sanay akong matulog sa lapag. Di porket only child ako e spoiled na ako sa parents ko.

1. Madamot silang magasawa kaya di sila mabiyayaan ng anak. Pasayaw sayaw pa sila sa Obando!
   - Dito ako nainis. Akala ko genuine sila sa pagsupport samin sa pagsayaw sa bulacan kasi ung isang sis in law ko kasama pa namin nun. Kasama pala namin ung evil eye. Yung pagsabi nila na madamot kami, yun yung time na di namin sila napautang. Kumbaga, nakabudget na ung fund namin para samin, at kung may extra naman pinapautang naman namin sila. Kapag nalaman kasi nila na may pera kami gusto nila magpakain kami sa labas at ilibre sila. E hindi kmi ganun ng asawa ko, nagiipon kami sa future namin, may plano kasi kming magpatayo ng bahay. At isa pa ang hirap silang singilin at sila pa ang galit kapag maniningil na kami. May one time, umutang sila sa parents ko, sabi ko may importante lang silang bibilhin. Pero ginamit lang ung pera pang swimming. Madamot na kmi porket di kami nagpapautang? Samantalang every bday and Christmas may natatanggap silang regalo galing sa akin.

2. “Kapag may bumili, wag mo ng ilista at ibulsa mo” yan ung sinabi ng sis in law ko sa Bilas ko. May negosyo kasi kami. Kinuha sila ng asawa ko pra matulungan nila kmi since madaming customer. Grabe sila, sarili nilng kapatid pagnanakawan pa? Speechless ako nung nalaman ko yan. Sariling kapatid ganyan mindset nila??

3. Hindi kami madalas iinvite kapag nakain sila sa labas o kung may papasyalan. Dahil ayaw daw nila sa kotse namin. Dahil makikishare sila sa gas. At since may company car ung Bro in law ko na asawa ni Bilas ko, un ang madalas gamitin dahil libre ung gas at toll fee.

Narealize ko after malaman lahat ng ito, napakaplastic nila. Kapag kaharap ko sila akala mo talaga genuine ung pakikitungo sakin. Masakit para sakin malaman ng lahat ng ito kasi yung turing ko sa kanila para kong kapatid lalo only child lang ako. Pero ganun pala mindset nila sa akin.

attempt: ioopen up ko to sa husband ko , need ko lang tumiming at planuhin kung paano ko sasabihin.

Problem/Goal:

We’ve been together for almost 5 years. I have been helping her and her family regarding with their financial problems. I helped her to have work but still she wasn’t able to save up. Whenever they have a problem about money, ako lang ang mahihiraman nila. They were able to pay it naman but for her, she got too much debt to me. For school, lipat bahay, or daily expenses. Hindi ko naman nilalagay as utang pag like baon sa school or para pang kain nya. I dunno what to do, kase I love her but I am not able to grow if this is the situation all the time. It seems like I will be like this forever if I’ll stay with her.

If we do not have this kind of problem I think kakayanin namin ipagpstuloy yung rs.

I really love her.

Addition:

Before, lagi syang galit sakin sa lahat ng bagay but we were able to get thru it since nag talk na kami about me being drained. Much better na yung relationship namin now but for financial still the same. She evrn asked me to utang sa gcash for her family and daily expenses. I was totally against it because hindi ko talaga gusto na may utang ako ng kahit piso but she was pleading and said that she will pay it thru working esl. She’s still paying it now BUT i found out 3 days ago i think that she also tried opening Atome and she borrowed around 2k plus I think and when i woke up this morning she just told me that she used my 1k to pay for her atome and she’ll just pay it. Her debts to me are piling up and there’s another additional utang. She wasn’t able to pay me even a piso for her utangs and yet she added another:(

I know in my heart kase na if this would be my situation, she would do the same. She would help me selflessly:(

Problem/Goal: Hi, it's been couple of weeks na po akong stress na I lost 3kgs and now sick. This is due to my upcoming financial obligations that for the next 5 years, need ko tipirin family ko in order to survive. I am earning 6 digits after tax, and due to wrong decisions, nagkaroon ako ng multiple loans sa CC. Now, we have more or less 50k for our monthly expenses. 12k is for transpo and expense for work. Tuition and service expense is 3k permonth. So basically 35k na lang for family of four. Ayoko silang tipirin for the next 5 years just because of my wrong doings. Iniisip ko pa lang na pag nagpabili anak ko ng gusto tapos di ko maibigay, as a father ang sakit na. Hindi na kaya mag take ng 2nd job. Please how to handle this situation. And if sustainable naman, how to calm myself na it is okay and we can still survive. Please help me.

Problem/Goal: did i overreact by cutting off my bestfriend because she played along with my boyfriend?

sorry in advance for the long read

context: actually, this happened few months ago, and my supposedly boyfriend is now my ex. i have been in a relationship with him for about 2 years, and my ex best friend and i have been friends ever since we were in grade 7th.

apparently she is the only person that i considered my best friend because high school was a really isolating time for me, and she was genuinely the only friend i had. so cutting ties with her was a really big deal to me.

my ex boyfriend on the other hand is my first and only partner that i have been with. throughout the relationship, my ex was genuinely a great boyfriend who never made me feel bad about myself, and i had absolutely no reasons to suspect him of cheating until it actually happened. i didn't catch on to the cheating right away because it was so subtle—literal na hindi ko malalaman if no one told me. it all started with online games. around that time, i rarely played mobile legends anymore because i was just way too busy with life, so i let him use my account.

day off ko that time when i logged into my ML account and saw a private message from a random girl. it said, "alam nya ba na binigyan mo ako?" and "nag enjoy naman ako, thank you" idk why pero nag fade away ang other replies from my account so replies lang ang nakikita ko from the other person.

i know it sounds petty and unreasonable at first glance, especially since anyone can just send a random message like that. but here's the thing: my ex didn't have any female friends. so i screenshotted the chat and sent it to my best friend, because she's the only person i always ran to whenever my boyfriend and i had problems.

if you guys are wondering where my boyfriend is, he was asleep at the time, so i couldn't confront him directly. i just vented everything to my best friend instead. out of all the things she told me, there was one exact thing she said that i never forgot. she told me:

"iyang boyfriend mo, loyal naman ‘yan at nakikita kong mahal ka n‘ya. pero sorry ha, pakiramdam ko kung may lalandi sakan‘ya papatulan n‘ya"

and u guys guess it right, he did flirt w her. after the 'one exact thing she said that i never forgot' i begged her for more context. she slips out and admitted that my boyfriend now ex, tries to flirt with her.

i asked for their conversation, aba may dump account pala ang ex boyfriend ko that i wasn't fully aware of 😅. i practically begged her several times just to see the whole conversation, and there it was. exchange of normal conversations at first pero it started when they played online games together at night kasi nga unavailable ako due to work and school schedules.

my ex boyfriend even texted her "tara g? basta walang kiss ah haha" and my ex bestfriend replies "gagi haha lagot ka kay (insert my name) kapag nalaman n‘ya" and based on their current conversation, they even met up once without me AND without telling me 😅 she asked for forgiveness obv, but i couldn't care less. i called her a whore and stupid for ruining my relationship and our relationship, after that i broke up w my ex and i cutt ties with her.

problem: the problem is, my now whole circle thinks im unreasonable for cutting her off. because i literally leave the gc and the circle itself. they keep telling me that she didn’t entertain him and maybe we could work it out. and in my defense, i told them that yes although she didn’t exactly flirt back, but she still just let it happen. but they still pressuring me up until now.

and now, i am feeling guilty that maybe they were right, what if i overracted? what if we can just talk it out like an adults?

previous attempts: i have no attempts. tho i am thinking, should i just talk to my ex best friend and forgive her? or should i cut off my entire friend circle over this? im still mourning for the lost of my best friend and the potential of my past relationship tho, i really don't know what to do 😭

thank you in advance everyone.

Problem/Goal:

Hi guys! Sorry to bother if ever, this is my first time asking for advice here hehu. Lately, napapaisip na talaga ako kung worth it pa ba na ipagpatuloy yung relationship namin or if it's time to let go.

We've been together for almost 3 years na (F22, M22), and hindi naman sa lahat ng panahon namin together ay puro problema. We have good memories, and I know na may ways din siya to show his love for me. Kaya hindi rin ganun kadali for me na basta na lang sumuko. Pero lately, I've been noticing changes sa kanya that make me question if we're still compatible.

Context:

Lately, I've been noticing changes sa kanya, especially ever since naging mas close siya sa current circle of friends niya. Mostly guys sila na laging magkakasama, nagha-hangout after class, nag-iinom, swimming, sleepovers and other activities. May conversations din sila about girls and sexual stuff na honestly, hindi ko talaga bet even though single sila and my bf lang ang hindi.

I know naman na normal lang magkaroon ng friends and sariling social life, and hindi ko siya gustong pagbawalan sa lahat ng bagay. Pero dati, hindi naman siya ganito ka interested sa pag-inom and these activities, kaya napapaisip ako if influenced ba siya ng friends niya or talagang nagbabago na siya as a person.

Another thing is our communication, especially since LDR kami. Kapag nasa tropa siya, he usually sends me updates or pictures naman, pero kapag nag-reply ako minsan doon na ulit natitigil yung conversation. Then, kapag nakauwi na siya or may free time na, saka siya babalik na parang normal lang lahat.

What bothers me is yung times na nawawala siya for hours, sometimes from 12 AM or 1 AM hanggang kinabukasan, tapos ang next update niya is kapag nakauwi na siya. I understand naman na they might be busy or tired, pero hindi ko maiwasang mag-wonder kung ano yung nangyayari during those hours especially kapag ganun katagal walang communication. Minsan, he explains na lowbat siya or nakatulog pero may instances din na nakikita ko siyang active sa ibang social media.

Hindi ko naman ine-expect na lagi siyang mag-update or na kailangan niya akong kausapin habang kasama niya friends niya. I want him to enjoy his time with them din naman. Pero minsan, napapaisip ako if this is just about enjoying his social life, peer pressure, FOMO, wanting validation, or if he's starting to enjoy the single lifestyle since most of his friends are single. I know I can't assume any of those things without knowing his side, pero these changes make me question where I stand in his life and if we're still on the same page.

Previous Attempts:

I've tried stepping back and focusing more on myself and observance instead na ako yung nag-iinitiate or nagta-try mag-ayos ng lahat. Gusto ko rin kasing makita if kaya niyang i-handle yung relationship namin without me always having to initiate things.

Pero at the same time, hesitant din akong mag-open up ulit kasi natatakot akong mauwi lang sa conversation without any lasting change. I know naman na hindi maaayos ang problems by staying quiet, pero ayoko na rin kasing paulit-ulit yung same issues.

Ayoko namang makipag-break just because things aren't perfect, pero ayoko rin mag-stay just because we've been together for almost 3 years

Should I still give our relationship a chance, have one serious conversation with him and observe if may actual changes sa actions niya? Or should I consider na baka nag grow apart na talaga kami?

For those who've experienced something similar, what would you do in my situation? Paano niyo nalaman if worth it pa bang i-work out yung relationship or if it's time to let go na? I'd really appreciate your honest opinions kasi I genuinely don't know what the right decision is now. Thank you poo advanceee!!!

Problem/Goal: Oa lang po ba talaga ako or just flat out stupid?

First time kong magawa to with him, and I can't help but cry while we are in the middle of doing stuff. So me (23 yo F) and my friend (23 yo M) was watching a movie in my house.

We have been flirty with one another throwing sexual jokes here and there and have been cuddling and holding hands for quite a while now but yesterday, we were left in the living room with the lights off.

He knows that I like him, I know that he likes me but we can't be together for now coz his ex still bombards him with calls even tho they have been over for quite a while already, even before we even got this close.

So back to the story, it all started with him fondling my tits, it was just him grabbing it and squishing it at first until he started tasting and biting onto it, of course I was turned on, who would'nt be? and that was the first time someone did that to me.

Then I started massaging his penis under his denim shorts and I know he's getting hard, it's also quite hot, didn't know that.

It then escalated to him massaging my down there on top of my shorts till it slipped in and he noticed how wet I was, then he started fingering me in between kisses while I was massaging his penis. I was really really close to coming and I know it coz I alr feel it but I suddenly bursted into tears and it left us stopping and him hugging me and saying sorry to me.

I'm not sure why I suddenly cried, all i know is that I kept saying sorry, he kept saying sorry and I was crying abt how I really want to do this and that scares me coz again, we're just friends...

I also gave him head but stopped midway coz again, reality keeps on hitting me na wala namang kami and I like him a lot, he does too, sadyang di lang tama timing but he promises me that he'll never leave me and that he's really sorry.

We've talked abt us a lot naman, he doesn't want to hurt me and so does I, pero wala eh, di din namin mapigilan at times mga pinaggagagawa namin. Am I being overly dramatic or just flat out stupid?

this is my first time posting on reddit pls be good to me po 🥺

Problem/Goal:

I just want to ask if anyone also experienced this before?

Lately napapadalas yung sakit ng ulo ko though nag pa check na ko before sa neurology and nag pa ct scan na din and the doctor told me na meron akong cluster headache.

Yung sakit ng ulo ko ngayon is different kasi feeling ko parang nagmamanhid yung kalahating part ng ulo ko especially pag naka higa na at nahihirapan ako matulog dahil dito. I’m a little scared because of this. Though I already have a schedule para magpa check ulit sa neurology.

problem/goal: My fiance has been hiding his big purchases from me and it only took him a span of one month.

context: so my fiance (33M) and me (28F) are planning to have our wedding next year. Si fiance is earning 3 times my salary and wala saken yun, it's his money. TBH I tend not to meddle with his expenses kasi separate naman finances namin.

So dito na ako medyo na disappoint sa kanya, last month lang he bought a digital camera worth 30k. Tinago niya saken yun and eventually nakita ko pa rin kasi hanggang kelan niya itatago yun diba? I let it slide kasi pera niya naman talaga yun and he rarely buy things for himself maliban sa mga expensive mouse niya. Today, I saw sa phone niya na BUMILI siya AGAIN ng digital camera worth 60k. HIndi ko alam ang mafifeel ko.

Kung nagwowonder kayo why I'm disappointed. Meron pa kasi siyang hinuhulugang lupa and hindi pa kami tapos mag ipon para sa kasal. May plan din kaming magpatayo ng bahay.

For me, okay lang naman na gumastos siya sa hobby niya pero yung ganun kalaki and wala naman siyang balak na mag start ng studio or mag generate ng income.

additonal info: may savings naman siya pero 5 digits pa lang.

previous attempt/s: Kinausap ko siya before na magdahan dahan sa gastos kasi marami pa kaming gagastusan and sabi niya magtitipid naman siya.

Problem/Goal: Masikip yung parking

Context: I asked the contact person of my apartment if pwedeng pasabihan yung sa parking kung pwedeng pakigilid yung parking nila kasi hindi ako makapasok sa likod at masikip at kung sa harap ko naman ipaparada ang kotse ko, di makakadaan ang nasa likod. Di ko ma-post yung screenshot sana pero nireplyan ako na “pulis po may ari niyan pero sabihan ko po” it’s frustrating enough na ang mahal ng parking nila, andami pang debris na nakakalat since demolished building ang parking. Sabi kasi before I rented the apartment na pinapagawa daw yung parkingan ng rerentan kong apartment so nag yes ako tumira dito since tabi lang ng apartment yung parking. Naghanap ako parkingan sa kabilang kanto before kasi bago ako tumira dito sabi may parking daw tas biglang wala na sila response sakin nung dumating ako dito for my training. Ngayon, nirerenovate yung nahanap kong parking so kahit maraming debris na makakahurt sa gulong ng kotse, nag g na ako dahil wala na ibang mahanap. Tas ngayon ang problema may araw na sinabihan ako 5pm na daw ako mag park don kasi yun yung oras na aalis yung isa. Tas neto na naka park na ako, kailangan pa kunin yung number ko kasi tatawagan daw ako pag may aalis man na need ko igalaw yung parking ko. Ang hassle naman ng ganto. Gusto ko irefund kasi ayaw kong makaabala pag magmamadali akong umalis at ayaw ko ding maabala pag sila ang need umalis. Ayaw na ako replyan.

Previous Attempts: Nag ask ako na kahit igilid konti para may daanan sa gitna kaso nireplyan ako ng pulis daw ang may ari nung kotse na isa at sasabihan nalang daw. Nakakapikon lang na bakit need pa ipagmalaki na pulis yan?

Problem/Goal: Lately, I've been thinking a lot about love, relationships, and marriage, and I think I've reached a point where I've genuinely lost faith in them.

It's not just because of my own experiences with heartbreak, but also because of the countless stories I've heard about marriages falling apart. Infidelity, betrayal, people falling out of love, partners changing after marriage, years of resentment, and people staying in unhappy marriages because leaving is too complicated.

It makes me wonder: is it really worth it?

Even if you find someone you genuinely love and build a beautiful life together, there's still the possibility of losing them someday. Maybe the relationship ends, maybe you grow apart, or maybe one of you dies and the other has to live with that loss. Love seems to come with the inevitable possibility of heartbreak, one way or another.

I know nothing in life is guaranteed, but there's something particularly frightening about allowing someone to become such an important part of your life, knowing that losing them could hurt you so deeply.

Sometimes I think I'd rather just stay single, focus on my career, enjoy my independence, spend time with my family and friends, and grow old with my cats. Maybe have casual relationships occasionally, but never let anyone get close enough to break my heart.

And honestly, that life doesn't sound so bad to me. It sounds peaceful.

But I can't help wondering whether I'm genuinely becoming content with the idea of being single forever, or whether I'm just becoming afraid of love and everything that comes with it.

I don't want to sound bitter or like I'm saying all relationships are doomed. I know happy couples exist. I just find it increasingly difficult to believe that romantic love is worth the risk, especially when there's no guarantee that things will work out.

Has anyone else ever felt this way? Did you eventually find someone who changed your perspective, or did you learn to be genuinely happy without romantic love? I'd really like to hear your experiences, especially from people who have been through heartbreak or have been married for a long time.

Problem/Goal: Gusto ko lang maglabas ng sama ng loob kasi honestly, nalulungkot ako and I don't know what to feel.

Recently, umamin yung GF ko na kinausap niya yung ex niya sa TikTok gamit ang dummy account. Curious daw siya kung bakit siya kinukulit nito at bakit pati ako fina-follow sa IG. Gusto rin daw niyang makasigurado na deleted na yung private videos nila before.

Pero ang mas masakit, inamin niyang may part sa kanya na gusto pa rin makarinig ng sorry from her ex. Gusto niyang malaman kung nagsisisi ba ito sa ginawa niya at kung miserable na ba ang buhay niya ngayon.

Eventually, gusto raw makipagkita ng ex niya, pero tumanggi naman siya. Sinabi niyang masaya na siya sa relationship namin at ayaw niyang masira yun. Binlock niya rin afterward.

I appreciate na naging honest siya eventually, pero nasaktan talaga ako. Hindi dahil iniisip kong may cheating na nangyari, kundi dahil bakit kailangan pa niyang balikan yung past niya para maghanap ng closure or validation, habang kami na?

She apologized and promised na hindi na mauulit. I love her so much, pero honestly, disappointed ako. Parang may something na nagbago sa nararamdaman ko.

I don't want to be controlling, pero I also don't want to invalidate my own feelings.

Am I overreacting? Normal lang bang masaktan sa ganito? And how do you move forward kapag mahal mo yung tao pero disappointed ka sa ginawa niya?

Problem/Goal: I'm struggling with whether I should break up with my girlfriend, and I genuinely need an outside perspective because I feel like I've reached a point where I don't know what else to do.

We've been together for years, and I think that's one of the biggest reasons why I'm struggling to leave. We've built so much together, and I know she can be a good partner. She's caring, she's made efforts for me, and there are things about her that I genuinely love. I don't want to throw away a long-term relationship just because we're going through difficulties. At the same time, I wonder if I'm staying because of how much time we've invested in each other rather than because this relationship is actually meeting my needs.

One of our biggest problems is communication. I've tried every way I can think of to communicate my feelings and concerns, but she tends to avoid difficult conversations. Whenever we have a problem, she often withdraws or shuts down instead of working through it with me. She always says she'll do better, and I believe her when she says it.

I feel like I'm always the one initiating difficult conversations, explaining what's wrong, suggesting ways we can improve, and telling her what I need from her. I constantly have to explain how I want to be loved, how I want to be treated, and what would make me feel appreciated. We've been together for years, and part of me feels like she should know me well enough by now to take initiative and make an effort without me having to spell everything out. I don't expect her to read my mind, but I want to feel like she's paying attention to me and actively learning how to love me. I don't want to be responsible for managing our entire relationship.

She also tells me that I'm not creating a safe space for her to open up. I take that seriously because I genuinely want her to feel safe with me. However, I feel confused because I call her every day, ask how she's doing, check on her feelings, and try to boost her confidence. I try to reassure her and let her know that I care about her. From my perspective, I'm making an effort to be emotionally available, but she still feels like she can't open up to me.

We once argued about how I listen to her. She said I don't listen because I don't talk while she's speaking. But when I do speak and share my perspective, she says I'm making the conversation about myself. This leaves me confused about what I'm supposed to do.

Another thing that hurts me is that I feel like she doesn't give me the benefit of the doubt. When I express an opinion or point something out, she often interprets it as an attack. It feels like she assumes I have bad intentions instead of considering that I might be bringing something up because I care about her or want us to improve.

Our arguments have also developed into a cycle that I don't know how to break. Whenever we argue, I usually end up apologizing and taking accountability for my actions. I'm willing to acknowledge when I've hurt her, and I know I have my own shortcomings. However, even when she's the one who did something wrong, I often end up apologizing because of how I reacted to what happened. My reaction becomes the main issue, while what she did that hurt me gets pushed aside. Eventually, I end up feeling guilty, and the original problem never gets properly resolved. Then something similar happens again, and we repeat the same cycle.

Sometimes, when I bring up concerns, she becomes ashamed or says she's not good enough for me, and I end up reassuring her instead of discussing the issue. Other times, she brings up something I've done wrong when I'm trying to talk about something she did. I'm starting to feel exhausted by the gap between what we talk about and what actually happens afterward. I genuinely want to understand what I'm doing wrong and how I can become a better partner. But I also want to know whether I'm carrying too much responsibility for the problems in this relationship.

I don't want to leave just because things are difficult, but I also don't want to spend more years waiting for the relationship to become what I've been asking it to be. I'm scared of walking away from something we've invested so much time in, but I'm equally scared of looking back years from now and realizing that I stayed because I loved her potential more than the relationship we actually had.

Problem/Goal: Need your advices/thoughts if I did the right thing. Di ba ko mukhang desperate?

Context: me and the father of my children separated 1 month ago because of him cheating. No contact kami since I found out.
Pagcheck ko ng google photos may nagsync na screenrecord of them na nag sex on videocall.
Chinat ko sya kanina, na napakababoy ng ginawa nya habang ako nag aalaga ng mga bata sya nagpaparaos sa kachat nyang ofw. Ni hindi sya nagbbgay ng pera, kahit pa alam nya kung san isesend. Walang pagkukusa. I have work nman, and kaya ko naman kahit wlng sustento. Kaya lang ayoko sya maging buhay binata after ng ginawa nya sakin. Nasa akin lng ang burden habang sya living free.
What I did is I blackmailed him na pag hindi sya nagbgay ng sustento, isesend ko sa asawa nung ofw na ka chat nya ung ginagawa nila, pati sa trabaho nya. So napilitan sya magbigay. Ngayon nagkasundo na kami magbbgay sya kada sahod nya, at dko sya papakelaman basta wag nya kalimutan obligasyon nya.

Previous attempts: wala. Naglayas na din kami sa bahay.

Problem/goal: need help sa adulthings pls. Paano makakuha ng titulo? Sobrang laking perwisyo na kasi ng kapitbahay namin and gusto ko na matapos. (I will not go into detail to avoid being doxxed) recently, sabi nila makukuha na raw nila yung papers at kasama sa sukat yung bahay namin. Same address kami.

Context: kinder pa ako nung narelocate kami dahil sa road expansion.
May certification yung tatay ko sa local housing office na sya yung legit allocatee and may “resolution awarding”. Sa sobrang luma ng papel di ko alam kung photocopy na lang ba ito. Updated rin ang bayad namin sa amilyar. (Tatay ko lang yung nakapangalan sa lote at wala na kaming contact sa tatay ko kaya di ko maconfirm bakit 2 yung bahay sa iisang lote)
Naibenta na ng dati naming kapitbahay yung bahay nila and iirc ang laki ng gastos nila pero di sila nakakuha ng titulo. Ngayon ang sabi ng bagong owner ay makukuha na raw nila ung papers nila at kasama sa sukat yung amin. Possible po ba ito? (New owner is rich and kinda powerful)

Previous attempts: none.