Problem/Goal: 1 year na walang trabaho boyfriend ko

Context: I just want to ask for advice because I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. My boyfriend is a Biology graduate, and he’s been unemployed for a year now. For that entire year, he’s been trying to find a job, pero lagi siyang rejected. I know he’s trying, and I feel so bad for him because I can see how difficult and discouraging it must be to keep applying and getting rejected.

Honestly, naaawa na ako sa kanya. I want to help him, but I don’t know how. I don’t know if there’s something wrong with his resume, if he’s applying for the wrong positions, or if it’s just really difficult to find a job with his degree.

I want to support him emotionally, but I also feel helpless because I don’t know what advice to give him anymore. I know being unemployed for this long can affect someone’s confidence and mental health, and I don’t want him to feel like he’s a failure.

For those who graduated with a BS Biology degree, especially those who are now working, what jobs did you apply for, and how did you eventually get hired? Are there career paths that Biology graduates can pursue that aren’t commonly talked about?
And for those who have been in a relationship with someone who’s been unemployed for a long time, how did you support your partner without making them feel pressured or inadequate?
I genuinely want to help him. I just don’t know where to start anymore.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

Previous attempts:

Problem/Goal: Minsan po parang kinukulang pa kami sa 50k eh ang laki na yun, dalawa lang kami.

Budget: 50k pesos for 2

1. Food: 14000

2. Rent: 10000

3. Meralco: 7500

4. Grocery: 6000

5. Fun: 4000

6. Dogfood: 3000

7. Commute: 2000

8. Internet: 1500

9. Maynilad: 200

Context: We have savings, but I want to fix our budget. Busy ako at palaging OT, plus ako lang marunong mamalengke at magluto (prito lang kaya ng husband ko). Natatamad na rin ako magluto kasi picky eater siya: meat, McDo, at pizza lang gusto! Ayaw sa gulay, prutas, like pinakbet, lumpiang gulay, boiled saba/kamote etc. Nakakawalang-gana magluto kung solo lang ako kakain.

Parehas kami WFH and nightshift so di na mapababa yung kuryente namin ganyan na siya since nagstart are war. Parehas kami PC gamit.

Naiingit lang ako sa iba na ang galing magbudget.

Income ko po is 80k and asawa ko 50k

Wala pa kami kotse or bahay kaya gusto ko magsave pa lalo.

Problem/Goal: I no longer find the idea of being intimate with my husband appealing.

Context: We've been married for 16 years. Both in our 40s. We dated for 11 years before finally getting married. We were already having LOTS of sex when we were still just dating. Para kc yun ang love language nya. Sex. When we were already married, we had more time and chance to have sex lalo. And I was down for it. I'm not the type na ako yun nangangalabit, always him tlga ang nag iinitiate. Siguro kc mahilig talaga sya. So with that, we have 4 children now. Pero npapansin ko kahit non 2 plng kids namin na I am slowly losing interest sa sex. It started to feel more of an obligation rather than something I look forward to or crave for. And no I am not interested with another man if you are considering that thought. Pero sya madami na syang cheating history kahit non dating pa lang kami. Yeah I know bakit ko pa pinakasalan di ba. Lol. That's another topic, pero I believe connected somehow yun lack of fidelity cgro don sa pagkawala ko ng interest maybe? I remember, there was this one time na we were being intimate, then I just caught myself looking at him with disgust 😭😂 So okay, fast forward, now we have 4 kids na. Recently just gave birth, 4 months ago. Also decided to get ligated na because I really don't want more kids na. Yun 4th is not planned, we weren't practicing proper family planning so wasn't really surprising. But the withdrawal method was kinda working for us until this 4th child. I was really disappointed at first kc ayoko na sana madagdagan. So now, I have been trying to avoid having intimate moments with him. One, it's because wala talaga akong gana or I dont find him desirable these days lol. And second, I am just so scared of the thought of getting pregnant ulit. Yeah I know, nag pa ligate na ko. But the 1% chance of still getting pregnant after ligation scares the shit out of me. Like, I dont wanna take that risk ganern. But si hubby, he's like looking forward to resuming sex 😭 I gave birth via CS btw so that gave me reason to delay sex lol. Sabe ko mga after 4 months nalang para safe lol. And now 4 mos na 😂 ayoooookoooo 😭😂 like kung papayag man ako dahil napipilitan lang ako. Feeling obliged to nlng ganon. And maybe one of the reason din cgro kc is yun lack if connection namin lately, kaya parang sex doesn't seem very desirable for me. Kc women usually need to feel connection para nakaramdam ng desire. I dont know, I just needed to get this off my chest and get some advise na din.

Problem/Goal:
My fiancé and I are currently working on our prenup. I’m already talking to my own lawyer so I’m not really looking for legal advice. I just want to know what other people think about this arrangement, especially married couples

Context:
We both agree that whatever we own before marriage stays ours. Same with our businesses, inheritance, etc. I’m completely okay with that.

What he wanted to ADD though is complete separation of property even after we get married. Basically, whatever we earn, save, invest, or buy individually will still be individually ours. It only becomes “ours” if we intentionally put it in a joint account or buy something jointly.

On paper, I get it. The logic of it.
But I’m having a hard time with what that will entail emotionally while we’re actually married.

Parang psychologically, wouldn’t we both be incentivized to keep building our own wealth? Like if I keep putting more money into the family while he puts more of his money into his own investments, technically he ends up building more wealth for himself. And obviously it could also happen the other way around.

Parang ayoko naman umabot sa point na subconsciously iniisip ko, “I need to save more for myself para hindi ako dehado, just in case” It starts to feel like we’re going to working toward separate goals instead of building one life together.

I’m also thinking about it as a woman. What happens if I get pregnant, sacrifice certain career opportunities bec of our family? His ability to build his own wealth continues while mine could slow down.

I’m not saying everything he earns should automatically be mine. I also want my own money and financial independence. I just always thought marriage would be more mine, yours, and ours, rather than completely separate financial lives.

Previous Attempts:
We’ve talked about it and I’m discussing possible terms/safeguards with my lawyer. I still need to have a deeper conversation with my fiancé about why this setup is important to him.

But before that, I’m curious about other people’s perspectives.

As a woman, do you think this arrangement is fair? If your partner asked for this, what would you think his reasons were? And for couples who actually have this setup, did it affect your relationship or sense of being a team in the long run?

Problem/Goal: dating is so hard for me right now, need advice

Context: i’ve (25f) had quite a bad streak dating the past few years after breaking up with my first and only ex, i tried all the dating apps and putting myself out there but nothing seems to work

i have a good job, i go to the gym, stay active, make myself look presentable everywhere i go, i believe i have good looks and a good personality to pair it with, my friends always tell me that i’m a catch but i never seem to get a guy to look past me being just another body or a fun time

i feel a little helpless because i put so much effort into myself to be happy with myself and be likable to everyone too

i would love to have a partner who’s okay with being child-free because i want to have a good career and be financially stable, and just want to spend a lifetime with my person

paano niyo nahanap yung the one niyo?

Problem/Goal:

As kuya (24), to some extent, monitored naman yung brother (11) ko as to which sites he has access to. Sa Tiktok naglagay ako ng restriction ganyan. Pero diba, ang algo minsan may mga subtle sexual contents. Basically anywhere. Sa simple google search nga when doing assignments baka may pop up na porn ads.

Hiniram ko kasi ipad niya and nagtaka ako bakit may X account. When I opened it, following niya yung mga pinoy alter accounts na may sexual contents like masturbation, anal s*x, BJ, etc. Tho chineck ko naman messages, wala namang nagmemessage sa kanya. Concern ko lang kasi baka may predator kasi naglalaro rin siya ng roblux.

Ako, I understand naman na everyone goes through the same phase. Even I, admittedly, I discovered porn around the same age. And I've been thinking on what my 11 yo self would want to hear from his kuya. Wala ako maisip 😅 Pero aminin natin, sa panahon ngayon iba na rin talaga. Pabata nang pabata ang nakikipag-hook up along with the rise of HIV cases among younger population.

Ano pong best course of action? Hayaan ko na lang ba? Patay malisya? Baka kasi yung ate pa niya makakita or parents namin and baka pag cinonfront nila baka maging distant siya.

Problem/Goal: So yeah as a trentahin girl na nagiging conscious na sa health, its better to be healthy than sorry later :<

Context: This is my first time trying these products and i heard a lot of good reviews naman. So i just wanna ask any advice on like what to take first, what time and the frequency of taking it.

Benefit wise, im looking forward sa magnesium glycinate as i am having hard time sleeping. Planned to get the with D3 but unfortunately out of stock.

So ayun mga mare ano ba dapat ko unahin sa mga ‘to at araw arawin ko ba to lahat. Grabe isang bagsakan ang 5k dito (bumili pa ako ng propan with iron for as iron deficient lol)

Products:
healthy options magnesium glycinate
neocell grassfed collagen bio-peptide
pureform pre+probiotic for women
fortima (vitamin e, c and zinc)

Problem/Goal: My bf went out this weekend to meet up with his old circle of friends (mixed group of girls and boys). Hindi ako sumama, and I was totally cool with it kasi hindi naman kami yung tipo ng couple na nagbabawalan sa mga ganitong bagay. However, kasama sa COF na ’to yung ex niya from a year ago. They had a pretty messy breakup. I already knew beforehand na there was a possibility na sasama rin yung ex niya, pero sabi niya baka hindi naman daw, considering what happened between them before. He was updating me naman while they were out. Pero when he got home, nag-share pa siya ng little kwento about their night, and he never mentioned na nandoon pala yung ex niya. May isang small detail lang siyang nasabi (I can’t remember exactly what it was) that made me ask, “So she was there?” And that’s when he admitted na yes, she was there. Honestly, nainis ako kasi parang ang dating sa akin is wala siyang intention na sabihin sa akin ’yon on his own. If I hadn’t suspected anything or asked him directly, would he have even told me?

Context: I know na the obvious defense here is that he technically never lied to me. And yes, he didn’t lie, but that’s not really the point. It’s more about the fact na he chose not to mention it, eh he’s able to chat me naman no’n. Why leave out that detail if there’s nothing to hide? At the same time, I’m also questioning myself kasi wala naman akong ibang napansin na suspicious, at least so far. I don’t want to make a big deal out of something that might not even mean anything, and I also don’t want to come across as insecure or petty over something like this.

Previous Attempt/s: None. I haven’t confronted him or started an argument about it because I’m still trying to figure out if my feelings are even valid in the first place.
So, am I right to feel bothered by this, or am I overthinking it? Would you guys feel the same way, or would you just let it go?

Would appreciate some honest perspectives!

Problem/Goal: Boyfie not finishing during sex is already affecting our relationship 🧍🏻‍♀️

Context: BF's (27) a medtech working on shifting sched, no fixed-offs and I'm (26) a nurse working on GY shift and weekends off.

We only get to be together at least once or twice a week, and syempre the intimate scenes would be looked forward na. I'm also the one na medyo mataas ang libido samin and I'm more kinky and playful than him. During the first few months of us dating, we do match each others' freaks but lately it's been quite dry.

I've started to notice that he's been less clingy and affectionate, tho he's still sweet and all but I've started to notice the kissing and touching becoming lesser as time went on. And hindi na din siya nagffirst move if ever we're going to have sex. Ilang beses kami nagkaron ng discussion about it kasi I've been pointing it out sa kanya. He said sorry naman and mentions na ang dami lang niyang personal problems and stress sa work kaya medyo bumababa libido niya lately. I'd given him the benefit of the doubt.

He tried to make up for it pero tuwing magssex naman kami lately, hindi siya natatapos, which makes me super unsatisfied kahit na pinapauna niya akong matapos during sex namin. Syempre ayoko naman na ako lang yung satisfied samin and Idk if it's just me, I feel less attractive if my partner doesn't finish during sex. He keeps on trying lately, pero ayun naman, kundi pupulikatin siya mabilis namang lumambot 😔 One of my worries din is baka he's expecting me to take over him during sex pero nahihiya lang siya magsabi tho hindi din naman kasi ako madalas magtop kasi nacconscious ako sa weight ko as I'm tall and curvy 😔

I don't know what to do or say anymore to get this one resolved kasi idk if it's a mental/physiological problem na with him, or he's just not attracted na sakin or worse, may iba na siya. I just can't avoid those thoughts to form since I've brought it up multiple times and parang lumalala pa each time instead of having improvements.

I would really really really appreciate your serious advice on this. I just want to understand and think of ways to handle this also involving a male's perspective for me to analyze the situation better.

Thanks!

Problem/Goal: I won't call it naman na problem pero hindi ba unspoken rule na dapat magdala kapag bisita ka sa bahay ng may bahay? or ako lang ba yung may unspoken rule na don't go to someone's house empty handed?

Context: May new friend group kasi ako na mga titas (and gay) from zumba dance classes. Ok naman kami, mag almost 1 year na kami as a friend group. So usually we hang out even outside of zumba classes na like eat out ganun or try other activities like pilates etc. Pero recently, they found out na my house is nearby lang, so ginagawa na nilang tambayan yung place ko minsan. I don't mind naman at first pero pansin ko lang na ang lakas nila mag snack on whatever food I have sa kitchen or pantry (magpapaalam sila pero after nakain na nila lol, like "ay kumuha ako nitong snack ha, ok lang ba?" pero subo subo na, basta, gets naman siguro what I mean). I don't mind naman kasi mga small snacks lang naman yun like chips and cookies or crackers or mga random pastries and sweets na I have sa bahay.

So yung isang tita (Let's call her Abby), nag suggest na mag wine night sa place ko since nakita niya yung display ko na wine, I told them na ok lang naman basta they bring something like snacks, cheese, crackers or fruits. Kumbaga, mag ambag naman diba.

Came yung wine night, wala silang dala na anything. Ewan. Ang off lang. So ang nangyari tuloy, sa pantry ko sila kumuha lang din ng mga crackers and snacks and fruits. Lakas din nila mag post sa social media kahit wala namang ambag.

After that night, sabi ng husband ko never to invite them again sa house kasi he noticed na user friendly lang tong mga to and siguro he saw din how disappointed I was. And I agreed.

Previous Attempts: Sinabi ko na may construction na gagawin si husband sa house so bawal muna visitors. Now they are asking if pwede mag Christmas gathering daw yung group namin sa bahay. Ay hindeeeeee. Bahala kayo jan

Anyway, tama naman ginawa ko no? Hindi worth it na ituloy tong friendship na ganito right? Paano unti unti i let them go ng hindi naman sila ma ooffend na ayaw ko na sila kasama

Problem/Goal: ayaw na mag ask for something nang gf ko saakin
Context: M22 STUDENT. F21 STUDENT. So it’s been a while since last nag rant ako dito which is good lol. But may problem nanaman sa amin ng gf ko kahapon. Nag-grocery kasi kami and may pinapagawa akong food sa kanya, so sabi ko ako na bahala sa ingredients na kailangan doon. Pero may mga iba rin siyang pinamili na hindi naman kasama sa budget ko kasi nagtitipid din ako ngayon. Akala ko yung mga pinapabili ko lang yung babayaran ko, pero iba pala yung understanding niya kaya nung sinabi kong yung babayaran ko lang is yung pinabili ko, nagtampo siya and nasaktan. Honestly, wala naman akong problem kung may gusto siyang ipabili sa akin kasi willing naman ako as long as kaya ng budget ko. She also said na hindi niya kayang matanggap yung rejection na yun. Pero ewan ko, parang ang sama ko tuloy for not paying for everything, and it made me feel useless as a boyfriend and as a man. Ayaw na tuloy niya mag pabili or ask something for me which ayaw ko since gusto ko nag papabili sya nang gusto niya. Gusto ko naman siyang i-spoil and ibigay yung mga gusto niya, pero may limitations din ako financially tho may pera akong naka tago for emergency ayaw ko naman kasi galawin masyado. Hindi naman sa nagdadamot ako, I just wish na maintindihan din niya na hindi porket hindi ko kayang sagutin lahat, ibig sabihin ayaw ko na siyang bigyan ng mga gusto niya. Ang tagal na rin namin magkasama whenever she ask for something binibili ko naman agad without second thought but this time hindi ko lang sya napag bigyan.

Previous Attempts: 0

Problem/Goal:How do I start over socially when I genuinely have no one left? I feel like I've lost my entire social circle this year, and I'm lowkey panicking. I want to rebuild my life and form meaningful friendships again, but I don't know where to start. I'm tired of temporary connections, and lately, I've lost the motivation and curiosity to get to know new people. I want to learn how to be okay on my own without becoming isolated or losing the desire to connect with others.

Context:

This year has been fucking weird, and I think we all know it. I know a lot of y'all claim that we basically have no friends, and I get it because I'm picky about the people I let into my life, too. But I feel like I've lost everyone this year. Either I got cut off, or I was the one who walked away.

It all started with me liking a boy, but the situation became so much more complicated than that. It brought existing cracks in my friendships to the surface, led to conflicts, and ultimately contributed to me losing people I considered close to me. I know it wasn't simply about liking someone, and I recognize that other things were going on, too. Still, I can't help looking at where I am now and wondering how something that started with having feelings for someone ended up costing me so many relationships.

Now, I genuinely have no one. I don't have a close friend I can randomly message, tell about my day, or turn to when something happens. I don't have that sense of familiarity or belonging anymore.

I've always believed that not everyone is meant to stay in my life, and I'd rather walk away from relationships that no longer align with me than keep people around just for the sake of having friends. But I never really considered what it would feel like to end up with nobody.

The frustrating part is that I want genuine connections, but I'm tired of meeting new people just to form temporary friendships. I miss having people who feel like my people, with whom I can share inside jokes, have random conversations, and feel comfortable being myself. I know those relationships take time to build, but I honestly don't know if I have the energy to start from scratch.

I've also become less interested in getting to know people. I feel disconnected, and I don't have the same curiosity I used to have. Part of me wants to put myself out there again, while another part wants to be left alone. I don't know if I'm emotionally exhausted, becoming too comfortable with solitude, or just struggling to trust people after everything that's happened.

Previous Attempts:

I've walked away from relationships that I felt were no longer good for me, and I've tried to accept that some people aren't meant to stay. I've reflected on my own behavior, the decisions I've made, and the things I could have handled differently. I don't want to blame everyone else or pretend I made no mistakes.

I've also considered putting myself out there and meeting new people again, but the thought of starting over with strangers feels exhausting. I don't want to reconnect with people simply because I'm lonely, either.

At this point, I'm struggling to figure out whether I need to spend more time alone and work on myself or actively try to rebuild my social life.

For those who've lost their entire social circle and had to start over, how did you do it? How did you cope with the panic of realizing you have nobody? And how did you learn to build meaningful friendships again when you were emotionally exhausted and no longer felt excited about meeting new people?

Problem/Goal: How do I introduce my manliligaw to my very strict family when they said I’m not allowed to date until I finish studying?

Context: I’m 21F and may manliligaw ako. My family is VERY strict like dapat nakauwi na before 7 pm and dapat laging may updates type of strict. Lagi nila sinasabi sakin na bawal muna mag-date hangga’t hindi pa nakakatapos ng pag-aaral.

I graduated college a few months ago but I’m planning to go to med school next (I already have everything ready for med). The problem is cinoconsider din nila na part ang med school ng rule na yun, meaning bawal pa rin akong mag-date until I finish med school so I’ll be 27+ by then 🫩 Lagi ko naririnig kasi na hanggang hindi pako nagtratrabaho bawal pa.

I genuinely want to introduce my manliligaw to my family because I want to do things properly and I don’t want to hide him from them. Ayaw ko din naman na puro takas lang pag magdadate kami. Alam niya din how strict my family is. I’m scared na magagalit sila when they find out. I know na they're just protecting me and I respect them, but I also want to have a life outside academics. 😭

Previous Attempts: None.

Problem/Goal: My BF told me he's going out with his GBF and her friends. His GBF's crush will be there, and they want to see if they can make him jealous by being "close" (the GBF's crush has been giving her mixed signals.) I don't like it. I want to talk to him about it but I don't know how.

Context: My BF has a GBF and they go waaay back. YEARS back. I was OK with her at first but my BF told me too much about her that I became unsure of how to feel towards her + my BFF told me stuff about her from when they were classmates.

My BFF told me his GBF dated most of my BF's friends, and I'm surprised she hasn't dated my BF yet.

My BF told me his GBF is an old crush who flashed him in grade school (I don't know WHY he told me this). He told me that his ex gf and his GBF's ex bf were jealous because of how close they were (valid). He tried to reassure me that they're friends and he sees her as a sister but I don't know anymore. It doesn't help that he told me they've been through "things" and it was such a vague answer that I don't know HOW I'm supposed to think about it.

Previous Attempts: I tried talking to him but he tells me they're just friends and he sees her as a sister. I DON'T KNOW ANYMORE.

Problem/Goal: How to move on from this?

Jusko help parang ikamamatay ko 'to. Paano ba 'to, ano nang mangyayari? How do even people go through with this kind of pain? It seems forever. Minsan pinagdadasal ko na sana 2 years later na agad or 5 years later. Ayaw ko na please sana matapos na 'to. I want to move on already

Conext: BF and I (24) broke up hahahaha lala

I wish matapos na itong pain na 'to

Problem/Goal: Considered cheating ba if we’ve already broken up pero after just a month of no talking may iba na agad siya?

Context: I knew the girl. 3 years kami ng gf ko. For the past few months this year we had plenty of arguments na. Mostly about sa work niya, kasi usually mas pinipili niya sila kesa sa’kin. It started when they had a circle within their work, simula dumating din sa work nila yung girl. Mag-aaway kami kasi iinom sila ng madaling araw after work tapos nakakalimutan niya mag-update. Ilang beses ‘yon. Kapag may get tgt sila hindi rin siya mag-uupdate. Ccall ko siya out of concern, minsan papatayin niya or lagi siya out of reach. Kapag naman kakausapin ko siya idadahilan niya ayaw niya lang talaga mag-phone kapag kasama sila. Naging cycle ‘yon. Ilang beses ko siya sinubukan kausapin pero avoidant kasi siya. Tatahimik lang siya. There was a time na involved na yung babae. Nagsisinungaling na siya kung saan yung whereabouts ng ex ko. Siya pa nagmamataas. Sinabi ko sa ex ko ‘yon pero hindi niya’ko magawang mapagtanggol, ayaw niya raw kasi ng gulo.

After the break up, nag-uusap pa kami, nagkikita pa kami for 2 months. Then 1 month ago lang namin napag-usapan na we’ll end it na talaga. But before that we had a deal na magiging okay muna kami for a week kasi exam ko the next week. She agreed. Pero the night before she come home here, lumabas muna sila ng mga friends niya sa work (included the girl) then bigla siyang nag-hysterical, bigla siyang nag-crash out saying ayaw na niya. But before that we were so okay. May nangyayari pa sa’min. Sabi nga ng mga friends ko and common friends namin parang hindi naman kami mag-ex. Sobrang speechless ko.

Hinarap ko yung exam ko ng ganun ganun lang niya tinapos, i was left clueless. Then after few days she’s been reposting love contents on t1kt0k na and nag-iig note na siya ng love songs. We’re not mutuals in ig anymore pero everytime i post (which is occasionally lang) shes always there. Then few weeks after i initiated to message her to invite her sa bday ko kasi i will be inviting her fam as well since close din kami. She refused but we chatted for almost 2 hours catching up w ea like nothing happened. Pero that time idk biglang lumakas kutob ko na may something sakanila nung ka-work niya. Then exactly on my bday, may nagsabi sa’kin na schoolmate niya na nakita niya raw siya w another girl na kasabay niya umuwi. Then after 2 days, she hard launched her co-worker na naka-cf sa ig niya. Wala pa sa cf kapatid niya nd my friends, kasi close ko kapatid niya.

Mind you guys, may bf that time yung girl. He’s the reason why she got in. Very suspicious lang kasi ang tagal ko na rin nananaginip na may other girl. And she’s nottt nice to me at all. Pero my ex told me recently lang sila naging close. Lol close na sila dati pa. Nag-uusap pa nga kami nung naging moots sila sa t app tapos inalisan niya’ko ng access doon then when i confronted her sabi niya nag-ffollow-an lang sila ng mga ka-work niya pero siya lang naman naka-follow.

Ps. Hindi siya ganyan as innnn, sobrang nanibago kami. Lalo na mga friends niya from day one na naging friends ko na rin. Kasi siya yung niloloko dati, siya pinakakawawa sa break up. Ibang tao siya ngayon. Inside joke na nga namin baka na-gayuma siya hagisan na ng asin ‘yan hahahaha.

Problem/Goal: do i need to prepare a show money or any monetary proofs for applying this type of Visa? What are the chances of getting rejected if i only have almost 100k of savings so far? If I’ll be attending a wedding and that’s the purpose of my visit- is there a chance i’ll pass?

Context: for context, i have a lot of expenses for next year already. I’ll be moving to a new place, i have 2 more travels, etc. I’m 25 yrs old and I’ve been working for like 3 years but my savings aren’t very impressive. I’m just worried that once i apply with my parents, i might get rejected and might affect their results as well. For more added context as well, it’s for my cousin’s wedding for Oct 2027.

Previous attempt: I’m not sure if this means anything but I’ve had a couple of travels internationally as well but mostly with family/parents. I’ve never applied for any type of visas on my own because I’m scared of getting a bad/rejected record.

Problem/Goal: My father got into casino and he confessed that he borrowed sa lending apps. I was so shocked and heartbroken kasi akala ko kilala ko yung tatay ko as someone na alam yung limitations niya sa ganyan kaso ayun :(( now he got a panic attack and anxiety (he was clinically diagnosed) that’s why he confessed to me na ngayon niya lang nalaman na nang-tthreaten pala ang mga lending apps kapag hindi nagbayad (eto nangyayari sa kumpare niya ngayon kasi hindi nagbabayad). Yung tatay ko naman nagbabayad on time kaso natatakot siya na baka gawin rin sakanya kaya nagmakaawa sakin na kung pwede sagutin at bayaran ko muna kasi alam niyang may ipon ako.

Pumayag ako na babayaran ko yung utang niya sa lending apps para may peace of mind na siya. Sabi ko babayaran niya pa rin sakin yung kalahati. Now, pwede niyo po ba akong bigyan ng advice or any suggestions kung ano bang libangan or light work ang pwedeng pasukan ng isang senior citizen? Gusto ko siya tulungan kung ano pwede niyang gawin sana para hindi mainip sa bahay.

So far, these are some of my ideas: - Green GSM Driver - Magstart ng online business (food)

No bashing please. Gusto ko sana ng maayos at logical na advice kasi i’m emotional right now. Salamat.

Problem/Goal: how to spend less on groceries

Context: just saw a post here about their budget and people were telling them they spend too much on food as a DINK. I live alone and I spend around the same amount. 🥲

I spend around 10k on my monthly grocery runs. Mostly food lang to. Meat and other frozen food cost me 5-7k already. I buy around 2 kgs each of chicken, pork, beef, and fish and seafood. Then I buy some ready to cook frozen ulams din like the usual hotdogs, nuggets, etc. I also like buying some frozen veggies and fruits like broccoli, mixed veggies, strawberries. The rest is for spices, rice, milk, coffee, and other pantry essentials. Then I spend 1.5k weekly sa palengke for my fresh fruits and veggies.

In total, I spend around 12k siguro on food alone since I do have 1-2 weeks na di ako nakakapamalengke and I do buy some nonfood items sa supermarket and may leftovers naman for the next month din. I usually order my toiletries and household cleaning supplies online since mas tipid.

I think that comes out to roughly 10 kgs of meat which is around 350 g per day for 1 person which is sakto lang naman, I think? I usually eat 1 main ulam with meat then 1-2 veggie side dishes. I've been aiming to eat healthier and eat more whole food, and sobrang mas mahal ng healthy food kesa sa mga canned goods and noodles.

I read sa comments na they can stretch 10k for 3 people in a month. Pero paano? I usually eat out pa during weekends with family and minsan ako taya, so I probably spend another 5k to 10k per month on eating out and deliveries, too.

Previous attempts:

I used to eat out and have food delivered to me exclusively before. As in everyday. I didn't cook and would eat out lang. I probably spend around 15-20k per month on that, 30k if maraming gala.

I used to do all of my food shopping sa supermarket, but switched to palengke instead for produce since mas mura talaga.

I also already meal prep. That's how I manage to eat main ulam plus side dishes for each meal.

Problem/goal: first time sa LDR and hindi ko alam pano inavigate yung intimate aspect.

Context: Hello! I have a foreign bf for 3 months na. Ldr kami tho we have met each other on our first month sa vietnam and did the deed. Now, that i am in the PH and he is in his country, intimacy has become a challenge for us. Gusto nya ng sexy time while i don’t. Not like it’s against my morals or ethics ha, it’s just that Ive never really tried it.

On his past attempts to sexually connect with me, I declined and he was okay. Pero now I think napuno na sya and he asked me why am i so unromantic. I told him i dont find it special kasi if it is via phone. He said we are in a long distance relationship and we are not friends who only just talk. It’s not like he is asking for it everyday, atleast once a month, i do my responsibility as his gf.

Gets ko naman point nya and sa pagpapakatotoo lang eh normal naman talaga yun for ldr couples. Also, it’s not like we’ve never had sex. We had sex when we met so gets na gets ko point nya.

Ang tanong, pano ba kasi to mga teh? Nagtatalo ang isip ko to not do it or to give in to his request kasi nga i am his gf. We’re both working adults na btw.

Problem/Goal:

I recently passed the Nurses Licensure Exam and my goal is to work in Germany in the future. I want to start learning German while working as a nurse here in the Philippines so I can eventually work abroad.

Context:

A relative recently offered to help me financially with enrolling in a German language school after finding out about my plans. My original plan was to get a nursing job first and study German while working. Now that I have the option of getting financial help, I’m wondering if I should accept the offer or just pay for everything myself. I’d appreciate advice from Filipino nurses who have gone through or are currently going through the process, especially regarding balancing work and German classes, choosing a language school, and preparing to move to Germany.

Problem/Goal: Bf (24M) has low self-esteem and insecure about his body shape. He's very conscious about the way he looks and he told me na wala raw makakapagbago with the way he sees himself. I want to help him pero idk how :(

Context: Medyo mataba yung boyfriend ko pero he's not so big naman to the point na it's concerning. He has a belly, some folds, man boobs, double chin, fats here and there and I honestly find it very cute and I love his body a lot. I like squishing his tummy and it makes cuddles 100x better kasi he's so soft. Recently, I found out na he's so conscious with his body shape and tinatry niya itago yung fatty parts niya with the way he dress himself, like wearing bigger shirts or wearing pants a certain way.

Before naging kami, he was already outspoken naman na he has a low self-esteem due to many reasons and he said no'n na it's hard to change his perspective sa sarili niya. And to be honest, I was concerned with that before kasi di ba yung saying na, "you can't love someone until you love yourself" and I was scared na baka maproject niya sa akin yung insecurities niya. But idk how it worked kasi this guy loves me so much in the ways na I wanted to be loved and I didn't know I could be loved. He is such a great partner and never niya prinoject yung mga insecurities niya sa akin. It didn't affect the way he treats me both as a woman and his girlfriend.

I always tell him naman na I love him naman regardless of his shape and size and I will support him kung gusto niya man mag-lose weight or magretain lang, as long as he's healthy and he has good relationship with food. I always tell him din na I love his double chin and tummy, kahit ayaw niya yung mga yun.

He's not a fan of gyms and intense exercises pero he moves and walks a lot. Sakto lang din siya kumain, di naman oa oa na parang wala nang bukas. It's just that I think yung body type niya matagal magshed ng weight and siguro, yung sedentary lifestyle niya rin before. Kasi according to him, around pandemic talaga siya lumobo.

I just got sad lang when recently, he told me na he still doesn't like what he sees and he's trying to hide it with clothes. He's still very insecure with himself and I thought na I was already helping him love himself kahit pa-konti konti. I wanted him to feel better about himself kaya I want to help him but idk what to do.

Previous attempts: I always tell him na I love him naman regardless of his shape and size and supportive naman ako with whatever plans he had in terms of weight goals.

Thank you!

Problem/Goal:

Problem: Graduate na ako ang BsED Science yey! Pero.

Context :

After ko kumuha ng LEPT this september lang bilang pumasok sa isip ko "is it worth it?", alam ko naman high chance namakakapasa ako sa examination pero ano ang sunod dun, magaapply ako for Teacher I (DepED) or Private school. Sa mga nakikta ko and observations ko during OJT napaisip ako kakayanin ko ba ulit yung puyat tapos walang tigil na pagtuturo. Honestly nai-inggit ako sa kapatid ko Fitter sa barko malaki ang kita ( bunso sya ) nga 28 na ako alam ko talaga mahihirapan ako mag apply kasi uunahin dyan mga bagets pa e mga nakasabayan ko nagtuturo na ako nakatengga pa din.

Naisip ko pwese ba ako mag-seaman kahit na 28 na ako? Kahit magsimula ako sa pinakangmababang posisyon na wiper okay lang sa akin e, sinubukan ko kausapin si bunso pero feel ko gine-gatekeep nya line of work nya sinasabi sa akin na di ko kakayanin pero alam ko naman sa sarili ko kaya ko e need ko lang kaunting tulong kung anong need gawin para magstart habang maaga pa, habang di pa ako nalilipasan ng panahon ang feeling ko kasi nakatrap lang ako sa expectation nila na magtuturo ako. Pero ito ah sinabi ko sa kanya pwese ko pa naman magamit pagtuturo ko after ko magretire sa pagsi-seaman e.

Ano gagawin ko, nasa brink na ako sometimes iniisip ko magpatiwakal nalang kasi honestly yun ang easiest way e ( not to gather sympathy). I need help please help me, alam ko di tayo magkakakilala pero I would like to hear your suggestions.

Thank you 🫶

Problem/Goal: I'm looking for any film production houses within Metro Manila that I can reach out to so I can start my film career, where even if I have to start as a production assistant, my goal is to one day write and direct. (I have strengths in writing and creative direction, but weaknesses in editing, logistics, lighting and camera work.)

Also, besides that, I am also looking for screenwriting and acting workshops, or any advice in particular, so I can also turn writing for films into a part of my career, and acting mostly for the experience, to direct actors, although it comes with added benefits such as being able to star in short films, TV commercials, as well as bigger and better things.

I've also been trying to reach out to FB groups, but things have been rather slow.

Problem/Goal:

I’m wondering if I should start setting boundaries with a longtime friend who I consider like a brother.

I’ve helped him financially and treated him many times in the past because I knew his family was going through a difficult situation. However, now that we're both working professionals, I'm starting to feel like he has become too comfortable relying on me.

I want to know if I'm being unreasonable for feeling uncomfortable about this, and whether I should stop automatically helping him whenever he asks.

Context:

I have this friend who has been my classmate since college. We became really close during the pandemic, and I consider us an ultimate duo. Introvert ako, while he is more extroverted. Whenever we had reporting, siya usually ang nagsasalita sa harap, habang ako naman ang gumagawa ng materials and research behind the report.

After the pandemic, we finally got to see each other again, and we were really happy because, honestly, we were already like brothers.

I'm naturally generous toward my friends. If I see someone in our circle who needs something, I usually help. For example, if we eat somewhere and he's the only one without food, I would treat him. Ayoko kasi na may nakikita akong friend na walang makain habang kaming lahat meron.

During college, he eventually opened up to me about his family situation. His father was sick, and because of that, he had to be very careful with his allowance. The money he had was basically what he needed to survive for the entire week.

I understood his situation, so whenever we went out, I would often treat him. I didn't really mind because I knew he was going through a difficult time.

Eventually, his father got better, although he still needed maintenance medication. Their situation became more manageable because he was no longer being hospitalized, although I still understood that maintenance medicine could be expensive.

However, as time passed, he started asking me for things more frequently. Since he was my friend, I usually gave in.

Eventually, we graduated and became working professionals. We also developed a new circle of friends, and I got a girlfriend, so we didn't get to see each other as often anymore.

One day, he gave us good news that he finally had a girlfriend. He wanted to introduce her to our circle, so everyone was really happy for him.

When we met, my girlfriend and I arrived early. I ordered an iced Americano and a big matcha cookie. It was pretty expensive, but I thought, "Okay, it's just this one time." There were two cookies, so my girlfriend and I each had one.

My friend then asked if he could taste mine.

I said, "Sure, go ahead."

I assumed he would just take a small bite.

Instead, he took a huge bite and almost half of the cookie was gone. He also ate the entire matcha bar on top.

In my head, I was like:

"Putek, what the hell?"

I was annoyed because the cookie was expensive, but I didn't say anything because his girlfriend was there. I didn't want to embarrass him, so I just let it go.

Later, while I was lining up to buy pasta and coffee for myself, he approached me and quietly asked me to buy something for him.

I was honestly surprised because we're both already working.

I thought:

"You already have a job. Why can't you buy your own food?"

What really bothered me was when he asked me to put his name on the order so that they would call his name when the food was ready.

I jokingly said:

"Diba may work ka na?"

Then I smiled and still ordered it for him.

I didn't want to embarrass him in front of his girlfriend, so I put the order under my name instead.

But internally, I was thinking:

"May girlfriend ka na, tapos pati simpleng pagkain para sa sarili mo hindi mo kayang bilhin?"

Honestly, I felt sorry for his girlfriend.

Later on, he told me about his plans to move out and live with his girlfriend.

I asked him how much the rent would be, and I was surprised when he told me the amount because it would take almost half of his salary.

That concerned me.

I'm not against him moving in with his girlfriend. It's his life and his relationship. What concerns me is whether he is financially prepared for that responsibility.

Living together isn't just about rent. There are utilities, food, transportation, household expenses, emergencies, savings, and other responsibilities.

Previous Attempts:

I've continued helping him whenever he asks because I don't want to embarrass him or make him feel bad.

I've also tried making small comments instead of directly confronting him. For example, when he asked me to buy his food, I said:

"Diba may work ka na?"

But I still ended up buying it for him.

When he told me about his plans to live with his girlfriend, I didn't tell him what to do. I simply advised him to make sure he was financially and emotionally prepared before committing to that kind of responsibility.

I told him that if he's going to live with his girlfriend, he needs to be sure that he can handle the responsibility and shouldn't enter the situation only to regret it later.

I don't regret helping him when his family was genuinely struggling. I also don't regret treating him because he's my friend and I consider him like a brother.

But now I'm questioning whether I'm still helping him or whether I've unintentionally enabled him to depend on me.

I don't want to stop being generous or stop treating him like a brother. However, I also don't want to become his financial safety net, especially now that we're both working adults.

Questions:

1. Am I being unreasonable for feeling uncomfortable when my friend asks me to buy things for him despite already having a job?

2. Am I being too judgmental about his decision to move in with his girlfriend, considering his current financial situation?

3. At what point does helping a friend become enabling their dependence on you?

4. Should I start setting boundaries with him even though we've been like brothers for years?

5. If you were in my position, would you continue helping him financially, or would you let him learn to handle his own expenses?