Problem/Goal: I sometimes get embarrassed with my mOm

Context: 4 years ago, I got married and until now, kasama pa rin namin sa bahay ang family ng husband ko. Even before that, hindi na rin ako masyadong nakatira with my mom kasi I wasn’t comfortable living with her ex-boyfriend. Eventually, naging distant kami kahit dati super close naman kami. This year, they finally broke up, so I decided na I want to rebuild our relationship. Madalas ko na siyang sinasama sa mga lakad at pinapasyal because I want to make up for the time we lost.

But the more time I spend with her, the more I feel like I’m meeting a completely different person. Naging medyo eskandalosa siya, yung bang walang ka finesse magsalita, minsan nahihiya ako sa comments niya kapag may gatherings, lalo na kapag may food siyang hindi nagustuhan. Iluluwa niya pa kahit may nakakakita 😭 She curses a lot, speaks loudly kahit nasa mall, and sometimes, hindi rin siya mapakali kapag hindi pa siya nakakapag-yosi which is minsan nakakahiya kasi madalas kasama namin inlaws ko sa lakad.

One time, we went to a restaurant and she asked to take home the leftover bones para sa aso. I know naman na walang masama doon, pero she kept announcing it loudly, and I couldn’t help but feel embarrassed. My in-laws are very understanding and nonjudgmental, pero ako mismo nahihiya. Even sa pananamit niya, she has nice clothes pero ayaw niyang isuot kasi sayang daw. 😭

I always try to correct her calmly and respectfully, pero what really gets me is that this isn’t the mom I remember. Noong nakatira pa ako with her, she wasn’t like this. Kaya minsan, I wonder what happened to her during the years na naging distant kami. I tried to ask but she’ll just say “bakit ano bang maling ginagawa ko”
I want to spend more time with her and give her beautiful experiences, but at the same time, nahihirapan akong tanggapin yung mga changes sa kanya. I feel guilty for being embarrassed, kasi she’s my mom and I know she’s been through a lot.

Previous attempts: I honestly and calmly express my disapproval, pero lagi niyang sagot sa akin, “Ganito na talaga pag senior citizen.”
I don’t know what to do. Ayoko namang maging nonchalant sa kanya because I genuinely want to rebuild our relationship, pero ayoko rin na every time we’re together, nauubos yung energy ko and I end up feeling frustrated. How do I learn to accept her as she is without compromising my own peace?

Problem/goal: I’ve been thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend, but I find it difficult to do so due to everything we’ve built and broke together in a relationship of 2 years.

Context: He’s my first boyfriend — my first in everything. Back then, he was a too-friendly type of guy, particularly with women. He once explained that it was because of his father’s absence in his life. I respected this side of him, but eventually I felt like he wasn’t reciprocating.

I encountered so much questionable actions that hurt and confuse me over and over again. From then on, my self-esteem went downhill. I felt like I lost so much of myself, and I had to endure changes in my life because of my mental state. In the end, he finally chose my peace over his friendships and friendliness. I won’t deny, however, that I wish he has realized and done that early.

Even though he’s changed into a better person, the pain isn’t over. Memories repeatedly haunts me. Women being around him makes me feel bitter. Even the smallest things easily makes me feel unsafe. Especially when there are some times I feel he’s too dense to realize that what he’s doing only makes me remember history.

He constantly reassures me that he’s far from that kind of person now. However, when you’ve been through so much damage and your trust was constantly broken, it is hard to rebuild everything back. I am, of course, considering that time may heal wounds. Still, there are nights I’d find myself wishing for safety and security since the beginning, which makes me question if I should hold on to hope or not.

Now, I’m struggling to decide whether I should break up with him or not.

Either way hurts. I don’t know if I only need patience since positive actions are being made now, or end everything already.

Problem/goal: Hi, everyone. I need some advice. Please do not share this post on other platforms. I would appreciate it if this stays on Reddit.

Context: My fiancé (38M) and I (32F) have been together for 8 years and engaged for 5 years. Recently, he sent me a layout for our wedding invitation, but the reality is that we still don’t have enough money for the down payments for our wedding venue and caterer.

This has made me rethink our relationship and whether marriage is still the right decision for us.

When I met him, he was struggling financially. Eventually, he got work, but he didn’t really save for our wedding. After 8 years together, I feel like we should be much further along by now.

For context, I pay around 30,000 monthly for the mortgage on my house, on top of taxes and other expenses associated with owning it. The house is under my name and he has not contributed financially, aside from around 120 per month for the HOA fee.

Our arrangement is that he pays the utilities while I pay the mortgage. I also frequently cover groceries because he often falls short financially. On top of that, I support my sibling through college, so I have other financial responsibilities.

I understand that his employment opportunities are more limited because he only finished elementary school. He has worked different jobs, mostly job orders, and I’m often the one sending him job opportunities and encouraging him to apply.

For context , I currently work in a call center while pursuing my master’s degree.

I also want to acknowledge that he contributes in other ways. He does most of the household chores and drives me to and from work, even though my workplace is in another town. I appreciate these things, and I know they have value.

However, I can’t ignore the resentment that has been building up. I work hard, carry most of the financial responsibilities, and worry about our future. Meanwhile, there are times when I see him playing games or sleeping while I’m exhausted from working and trying to keep everything together.

My biggest fear is that I will spend the rest of my life being the breadwinner and carrying most of the financial burden. I’m not expecting him to be rich, and I understand that we have different educational backgrounds and earning capacities. What I want is a partner who takes initiative, plans for our future, and makes me feel that we are building a life together rather than leaving most of the responsibility to me.

After 8 years together and 5 years of being engaged, I’m tired. I’m beginning to wonder whether love and the years we’ve invested in this relationship are enough reason to get married. There was a year he earned almost like what I earned but he never save for the wedding.

I’m genuinely conflicted because we’ve been together for so long, and he does have good qualities. But I’m exhausted, and I’m scared of what our future will look like if nothing changes.

TL;DR: My fiancé (38M) and I (32F) have been together for 8 years and engaged for 5, but we still can’t afford the down payments for our wedding venue and caterer. I pay around ₱30k monthly for my house, I own the house, frequently cover groceries, and support my sibling through college. He pays the utilities, does most of the household chores, and drives me to and from work, but I often feel like I’m carrying most of the financial burden and taking more initiative toward our future. I’m exhausted and afraid I’ll be the breadwinner forever. Am I being unfair, or should I reconsider marrying him despite our years together?

I did encourage him to study but he said he will see but nothing happens.

For those who have been in similar situations, I’d appreciate your honest advice

Previous attempts: Almost every day we have arguments regarding money. I discussed these over the years. There are improvements since he found a job but they're JOs so he becomes broke and unemployed again.

Problem/Goal: Anong steps ang pwede ko gawin para maospital ako bigla?

Context:

Lately sobrang nabu-burnout na ko sa trabaho to the point na nagkaka mental breakdowns na ko. Hindi ko naman afford umabsent dahil sa bills at ubos na rin ang VLs ko.

Today nasa point na ako na gusto ko nalang mahospitalize para lang matakasanan ko silang lahat. Pero paano if physically ayaw naman gumive up ng katawan ko? Anong mga pwede kong gawin para ma-confine ako?

Problem/Goal: wanted to do an abort1on

i got scammed 4k. I was planning to buy ab*t1on meds. Oo na alam ko na ako na walang puso bukaka ng bukaka tapos pag may nabuo iiyak. last money ko na iyon and now I'm so depressed kasi ang tiyan ko lumalaki na. baka may extra kayo na mife and miso 🙏🙏🙏 please help me po I'm so desperate na wala na talaga akong choice. I'm really sorry I really need to do this I'm still studying. judge me na po however you want 😭😭I'm 6 weeks and 6 days pregnant na po. wala na rin ako money to buy another med. my bf wants to keep the baby. Pero ako hindi alam ko pano magalit parents ko.andpinapa aral lang ako i cant failed them.

problem/goal: i hit the lowest as in lowest of my lowest point

I have been attempting since September to at least move a little but everything is just so unmotivating. i feel ive been dragging myself and prolonging this torture im feeling.

i have hit the lowest of my lowest point and it's so fcking bad. i can't do my school work properly, i help in house chores but it takes me hours before i get it done.

i almost got it again (September) but everything went on a downhill again aaaaa i lost my only part time job that was supposed to be a huge help to my family. jusko ang hirap maghanap ng pag asa sa bansang to, sana umunlad na mga nahihirapan plsplspls

how do you guys proceed with your daily lives when everything is so fked up?

Problem/Goal: Cannot find a job

Context: Hey guys. I'll keep this as short as I can. I only finished 10th grade sa school because of financial issues and my parents are no longer working. At the age of 18 I started my first part-time job, and stayed with the company for 2 years and became full-time, but had to resign kasi nag relocate sa far away. Found another work, thankfully, but lasted only 2 years din kasi nag close yung account.

Now, halos 3 months na ako nag hahanap bagong work. I passed all assessments and interviews, but hindi nila ako kinukuha because I do not have a school document to present. All my records are on hold sa school because I cannot take care of it financially as in sa family ko napunta lahat ng income ko for the past 4 years. And I admit, I thought hindi ko na need asikasuhin school ko kasi akala ko i can just work and work at mag earn.

No matter which job I apply to, either gusto ng bachelor's degree, or may experience sa field na yun. Now im very desperate kaya if may alam po kayo na pwede ko applyan without the need of my school docs, let me know.

Yes, I have coordinated na with my school already. I asked if pwede kahit yung registration form ko lang before or a copy of grades. They ghosted me lang.

Previous Attempts: Applied to multiple postings, coordinated with the employer and school.

Problem/Goal: Gustong lumipat sa mas magandang Bansa

Hello po mag 1 year na ko sa Hk bilang Isang Dh, Plano ko sana after contract ko mag iBang country na ko may malaking sahod at may utang na Malaki na binabayaran dahil sa naluging negosyo noong 2025. Baka may ma suggest kayo na better pa.

Gusto ko po talagang mapabilis Ang pag bayad o at Mahirap po mabuhay ng may malaking utang, single mom pa at breadwinner. 🥹

Maraming salamat po.

Problem/Goal: Paano ko iha-handle yung lifestyle ng boyfriend ko habang nakatira kami sa bahay ng parents ko?

Context: Hi! F24, and my boyfriend is M23. Live-in kami ngayon dito sa bahay ng parents ko kasi dito siya nag-aaral sa province namin. Student pa siya, and allowance lang ang binibigay ng mom niya. May part-time job din siya, and minsan siya ang bumibili ng groceries. Ako naman ang nagbabayad ng electric and water bills.

Ang main concern ko talaga is yung lifestyle niya habang nandito siya sa bahay namin. Halos everyday siyang naglalaro ng Valorant, tapos puyat lagi hanggang 2–3 AM. Nagva-vape rin siya and umiinom ng alcohol. Medyo bothered na rin ang mom ko sa habits niya kasi, in a way, parang responsibility na rin namin siya since dito siya nakatira.

Honestly, super stressed na ako sa situation. Naiintindihan ko naman na bata pa kami and student pa siya, and ayoko rin namang maging controlling girlfriend na pati free time niya pinapakialaman ko. Pero at the same time, feeling ko naman, kapag nakikitira ka sa bahay ng ibang tao, dapat marunong kang makisama at maging considerate sa household.

Previous Attempt: Iniisip ko na kung paano ko siya kakausapin about this, pero hindi ko alam kung paano sisimulan nang hindi niya maramdaman na kinokontrol ko siya or pinagbabawalan ko siyang mag-enjoy. Ayoko rin namang umabot sa point na ma-stress ang mom ko sa sarili niyang bahay dahil sa lifestyle ng boyfriend ko.

What should I do? Am I being unreasonable ba na mag-expect sa kanya na maging mas responsible and considerate habang nakatira siya sa bahay ng parents ko?

Problem/goal: | [F20] my bf is 19, but turning 20 na siya. We are in a 4-ish years relationship together, but hindi niya talaga ako tinrato ng ayos, sadly. But I stayed, no flowers, dates (1x a month), no gifts, no monthsary/ anniversary/ valentines celebration, but I stayed.
Why? Because naibigay ko na ang sarili ko sakaniya (kasi mahal ko siya) | can say na las4@g na ako kasi ilang months palang kami nabigay ko na, and sa 3 years na 'yon hindi niya na ako nirerespeto, and likely 1 year na niya ako hindi nirerespeto. Pag nag aaway kami dinedema niya nalang ako, like if hindi ako nagchat kasi nagtatampo ako, hindi na rin siya nagchachat (hindi siya naghahabol) or should I say hindi niya ako hinahanap (?) like okay lang kahit ilang araw na kami hindi nagchachat dedma pa rin siya. Tapos after no'n ako magchachat since nabobother na ako kasi nasasaktan na ako ng sobra, is love really works like this? After no'n magss*x kami then balik sa dati like parang okay na, kasi ayaw ko naman mastress, kasi vetmed student ako, ang dami naming school works.

Then last week, natulog ako sakaniya, then inask ko siya abt sa money niya since magbabayad siya sa tuition niya and palagi niya hindi binabayaran sinda madami siyang utang. Then nagtaka ako kasi more than half na 'yong nabawas, nagcheck ako ng gcash niya, meron do'n -49 (Tigo dating app) ang sakit, nasaktan ko siya ng sobra kasi sinearch ko kung ano nandon.
Like wala na nga siyang pera palagi pero mayaman siya magscan ng qr(?). Ang explanation niya is trip niya lang raw since nakita niya Qr ads sa blue app, then iniscan niya, since hindi naman ako bobo, pinilit ko talaga na may ginagawa siya. He already had an account sa app na 'yon pero empty. Nakita ko 49 pesos is equivalent to 120 coins, and 40 coins if mag video call sa isang girl.
Masakit 'yon sobra. Pero dahil nga mahal ko siya, pinatawad ko ulit, at ano sunod no'n nag. ulit kami.

Now, nanlilit na ako sa sarili ko, ang sakit pero kami p rin, and dedma siya kung magsuicide ako kasi stress na ako sa acads then dadagdag pa siya. Dami niya nang ganiyan, libog malala. Nagagalit ako kasi palagi siya nanunuod ng corn, nadidisrespect na ako pero palagi niyang ginagawa at dedma siya pag nasasaktan ako dahil do'n. At dahil nga dedma siya, kaya niya na ako pagsalitaan na wala na akong nafefeel. Na para bang ang liit na ng pagkatao ko sa buhay niya. Tinatanong ko siya kung ano pa tingin niya sakin, jusko ang sakit sakit pero 'di ako makawala kasi feel ko wala namanang magkakagusto sakin, sino ba magkakagusto sa babaeng gamit na gamit na haha. Mababa na tingin ko sa sarili ko pero pinapafeel niya pa ng malala.

Problem/goal: need 3000

Context: Hello, i need advice kung saan pwede umutang like agad makakuha huhuhuhuh. i badly need 3000 to fix my phone sana before the 23rd of october Since ill be flying back po soon and so i need my phone for further communications. Wala po akong malapitan para humiram so any advice would be good hehehe thank you po sa mga magreply🥹

Previous attempts: first time asking advice here

Problem/Goal: I have this dilemma right now. I have an opportunity to go back to abroad to work. Bale ang magiging work ko dun is taga alaga ng matanda or tagalinis ng bahay, or anything that I can possibly do which is I think maganda dahil hindi need ng diploma or whatever. However, I have a baby (5yrs old & 5 mos), and di ko sila maiwan because di ako kampante na yung father lang nila ang maiiwan sakanila. He is a good father naman, but he lacks so much. Ang dami nya pang self improvement na kailangan gawin sa sarili nya na sobrang bagal nya gawin kahit dalawa na yung anak namin, and isa yun sa dahilan kung bakit ko nacconsider tong offer sakin ng mama ko to join her abroad. The things is, sobrang toxic ng mama ko. Like, nung doon ako tumira sakanya sa abroad nagkadepression ako, kahit afaik sobrang strong ko naman na tao. Like drain malala ka pag kasama mo sya, toxic lvl 999 sya. Yun lang naman ang problem ko sakanya, iniisip ko kung dadalhin ko yung mga anak ko doon makakasama nila sya sa isang bahay, ayaw ko maranasan nila yung ganun na didilat ka sa umaga may pumuputok ng mura kang naririnig at sigaw kada galaw, plus makikita nilang nag aaway kami ng mama ko. Ayaw ko din naman nga sila iwan sa incompetent nilang father.

Context: Tumira na ako for 6 yrs abroad with my mom and yun nga nadiagnose ako for depression and kasama ko pa sya magpacheck up non, ang mama ko ang sabi aba eh kaartehan ko lang daw. Pati yung bunso namin na naiwan sakanya pag uwe ko sa pinas nung nalaman kong buntis ako, now meron na ding depression at anxiety dahil sa character nya.

May choice naman ako to find work here in PH, I know I can somehow land a good paying job here, I just need to invest in myself again, ang kaso lang right now, paycheck to paycheck ang sistema namin dahil sapat na tong buhay na to ata para sa ama ng mga anak ko (SAHM pa ako right now dahil exclusive bf mom ako) which is why wala pa ako pang invest sa sarili ko.

Previous attempts: none as of now dahil pinag iisipan ko pa what will be my next move. I just want my kids to have a better life, and ma urge man lang yung partner ko to leave his comfort zone. I have a previous job kaya noon okay lang sakin kahit petiks yung sweldo ng partner ko pero right now, it's not giving at pag sinesendan ko sya ng mga hiring na nakikita ko parang ako pa masama. Any advice is welcome

Problem/Goal: Sana talaga maka move on nako, hirap na hirap nako. pati pag tulog panaginip ko siya. shit ang hirap and ang sakit talaga.

: Context: just want to let this out here. kakabreak lang namin and i know na hindi na kami mag babalikan since ilang beses nato and ito na tala yung breaking pint namin

Ayaw ko na din makipag balikan as i dont want to be loved like that. ayaw ko sa future na na iimagine ko pag naging kami. may part sakin na tangap na talaga na wala na talagang pag asa to but siguro nanghihinayang lang sa memories namin.

Also i just unfriend all his fam sa socials and that hurts so bad, yk napamahal narin ako sa kanila and i thought ill be part of that family. pero wala eh di talaga kami.

I love him so much that i did something na nakakababa ng self respect. I beg, I become the man in our relationship, i sacrifice lots of things to the point na ubos na talaga ako. right now ayaw ko talagang i break tong no contact and i hope pa patuloy ko to. tho i still sometimes stalk him sa fb pero naka lockl pfp nya and sa tiktok naman walang latest re post. i know naman dapat hindi ko na i stalk pero ang hirap pigilan.

Previous Attempts: uminom

Problem/Goal: I’m struggling to understand why someone who once accepted me eventually wanted my relationship with her daughter to end, despite all the love and effort I gave. I also tried to understand why her mom suddenly opposed our relationship before her graduation, but despite my efforts, our relationship eventually ended. Now, I’m trying to make sense of what happened and understand whether karma played a role or whether these events are simply unrelated.

Context: When my girlfriend and I were together, everything was fine. Her mom accepted and respected me, and I respected her family too. I gave my girlfriend 100% of my effort, bought her gifts, supported her, and did everything I could because I genuinely loved her and saw a future with her. However, when my girlfriend was about to graduate, her mom suddenly turned against our relationship and wanted us to break up. I never expected her attitude to change after everything I had done for her daughter. Eventually, our relationship fell apart. Later, I found out that my ex’s dad cheated on her mom and stopped supporting their family.

I’m not happy about their situation, and I don’t wish that pain on anyone. I can’t help but notice the irony of what happened. After everything I went through when her mom wanted us to separate, learning about her own marital problems made me wonder whether this is karma or just an unfortunate coincidence.

Problem/Goal: Sa panahon ngayon, napaka hirap makahanap ng trabaho na may magandang sahod. Oo, may BPO or Corporate job, pero hahanapan ka naman ng experience kahit willing ka naman matuto. College graduate ako pero hindi ko nagamit yung course ko HAHA.
Context: 2 months na akong unemployed. WFH ako noon as Data Annotator, until pinull out ng client yung project namin. Kasalanan nila, masyado sila nag expect samin tapos yung sahod performance based pa. Pag mag isa ako, napapa isip ako na mag abroad, sa Taiwan. Kaso hindi naman malakas loob ko, sakitin pa minsan depende sa panahon tsaka bunso ako, parang na sanay ako na anjan lagi parents ko. Yung ate ko, HR, maganda work niya, tapos ako, eto nga nga.
Previous Attempts: Nag babalak na ako kumuha ng passport. Undecided ako sa nangyayari, pero WHAT IF subukan ko?

Baka may nag wowork po dito sa Taiwan as Factory Worker. Tbh, dahil sa sahod kaya gusto ko mag abroad. Balak ko kasi mag ipon tapos mag business nalang pag uwi.

Problem/Goal: Have you ever realized you weren't as much a part of a friendship as you thought you were?Ilang months na rin since this happened, pero minsan naiisip ko pa rin kung tama ba yung naging decision ko na dumistansya sa isang friend ko or petty lang ako.

Context: For context, let's call them Friend 1, Friend 2, and Friend 3. All four of us were classmates nung first year college. Pero out of the three, si Friend 1 lang talaga yung friend ko. Si Friends 2 and 3 classmates ko rin naman, pero hindi kami close. More like classmates lang talaga.

Come second year, hindi na kami classmates ni Friend 1. Naging classmates niya pa rin sina Friends 2 and 3, and naturally, mas naging close silang tatlo since lagi silang magkakasama. Meanwhile, kahit hindi na kami classmates ni Friend 1, we remained friends. We still had our own friendship.

Then, nung third year, naging classmates ulit kami ni Friend 1, together with Friend 2. Si Friend 3 naman, nag-transfer sa ibang university. Since magkaklase na kami ulit, madalas na kaming magkakasama ni Friend 1 and Friend 2, hanggang sa naging close kaming tatlo. We became a trio during the rest of the school years.

So by the time we graduated, I genuinely considered Friend 1 one of my closest friends. 

Fast-forward to Friend 1's graduation. She posted something on Facebook about her college journey and mentioned Friends 2 and 3, but not me.

I understand naman kung bakit sila yung nabanggit niya. Friends 2 and 3 had their own history with her, especially since naging classmates sila nung second year until now. They shared experiences na hindi naman ako kasama, and I'm not questioning their friendship.

Pero honestly, nasaktan ako na hindi man lang ako nabanggit.

I know na hindi naman ako entitled na ma-mention sa post niya. I know na social media posts don't define friendships, and hindi rin naman porket close kayo, kailangan kasama ka sa lahat ng posts or memories ng isang tao. Pero hindi ko maiwasang isipin, what about me? I thought I was also someone who had been part of her college journey in a meaningful way.

What made everything more hurtful was that, on the same day she posted her graduation post, she sent me a long, private message expressing how thankful she was for me.

And honestly, hindi ko alam kung anong iisipin ko. Part of me wanted to believe na sincere naman yung message niya. Pero another part of me couldn't help but wonder, bakit ganon? Or was it possible na naisip niyang baka masaktan ako kapag nakita kong hindi ako kasama sa post niya, kaya she sent me that message?

Parang mixed signals kasi. On one hand, she was telling me how much she appreciated me. On the other hand, seeing that post made me felt excluded.

It wasn't really about wanting to be mentioned. It was the feeling that she made me felt–being excluded.

After that, I started distancing myself from her.

Pero at the same time, I wonder kung bakit ang sakit-sakit sa akin ng isang bagay na, technically, wala naman siyang ginawang masama. She didn't betray me. She didn't say anything hurtful to me. In fact, she sent me a thoughtful message on the same day. Walang naging away, walang confrontation, and she probably doesn't even know how much that post affected me. I just found myself slowly pulling away because I couldn't look at our friendship the same way anymore.

Previous attempt: I chose to distance myself. I realized I might not want that kind of friendship for myself anymore. And maybe that's okay, too. I can acknowledge that our friendship was real and meaningful to me while accepting that I no longer feel the same way about it.

P.S. I know naman na mas close silang tatlo, and honestly, okay lang naman sa akin. I never really had a problem with that kasi hindi naman nila pinaparamdam sa akin na I don't belong. Pero seeing that post made me realize something. Parang, "Ah, okay. Excluded talaga ako."

Problem/Goal: A user on twitter is threatening someone to reveal their address because of twt bangayan.

Context: Saw someone on X (basta fangirl na war freak) tweeting mupltiple times na "reveal ko kaya address mo" or "kala mo di ko alam address mo ah". This user has also posted photos of people na nakakaaway niya (yung pictures are from a fanmeet but idk pano niya na identify ang kalaban niya).

Previous attempts: Tried to tell this person na ilabas niya ang mga address para ma sampolan siya. Pero di talaga ganun kalalim ang knowledge ko when it comes to matters like this. Hope na may makapagbigay ng insights.

Problem/Goal:currently panicking rn cuz di ako sure if im pregnant. See my profile sa unang part to understand the whole context

Context: i noticed after i opened my tg and ig, the guy randomly blocked me. Im not sure where to contact him if i have a proof of positive preg test

Should i dm him in his account here on reddit?
To atleast let him know and he cant get away from what he also did.

The guy is quite relatively known (an athlete) and it will be easy for me to track him cuz i know his home address and name.

Previous attempts: none

Pls guys help me on what to do

Problem/Goal: Burnout/Procrastination

Context: I am a 27F working for a company for 2.5 years. I have PDD with insomnia due to my sleep disorder and is currently experiencing chronic procrastination and burnout. At first, I was very happy sa company ko - good pay, great teammates, morning shift, mentors that help you grow and expand your network.. but the catch is it was a high-stress/demand work. Dahil hybrid setup, i was enjoying the first months of 2 RTO days per week. But this year lang, my mentor and boss left and the company left me with no choice but to step up and replace her - i have to manage 13 agents under my bucket, their escalations, without the additional pay. That's when the burnout and depression worsen.. I TRIED EVERYTHING - therapy, medicines, i got the promotion and the additional pay, changing the team, getting into sports, travel, church ministry, retreat, and even going back to journalling, drawing, baking (to which are my first loves). But it doesn't work. Now, it is so dreadful to work that I cannot open my laptop. I am sleeping for majority of the day, i decline calls without prior notice, and have no motivation at all. I want to open up with my current male boss, but I know he will not understand me (typical male boomer boss). I am not the breadwinner of the family, but I contribute an amount to the point that me resigning to rest is not an option. What should I do?

Problem/Goal: Moody Bf

Context:

Bakit lagi ganito bf ko parang lagi siya yung ni reregla sa relationship namin.

Kakagising ko lang and nag hello ako sakanya after ko mag click send nun tumawag ako since nag assume ako na gising pa siya since lagi siya nag pupuyat and gising pa siya ng gabi palagi.

Nagalit siya kasi nag nanap na pala siya and need ng reason bakit ako tumawag. Like helloooo gf moko???

Unfair kasi kahit ako pagod na pagod galing trabaho and bigla siya natawag sa messenger or discord kahit natutulog ako I still greet him ng sweet and tell him na okay kang since siya naman yun.

What in the fuck? Ano ba gagawin ko sa ugali ng bf ko huhuhuhu mahal na mahal ko yung tao pero napa attitude talaga minsan nakainis hahahahahaha

Problem/Goal: Hindi ko rin akalain na sa isang simpleng pagpaplano ng Baguio trip ngayong long weekend, mapapa-isip ako nang malalim tungkol sa relasyon namin.

Gusto raw ng boyfriend ko mag-Baguio para makasama rin namin yung pet dog namin, at since gagamitin naman yung kotse niya, pumayag ako. Pero bigla siyang nagsabi: “Mag-ambag ka naman.” Para walang usapan at hindi lumabas na palamunin ako, pumayag agad ako—sabi ko, “Sige, tig-₱5,000 tayo.”

Pero habang lumilipas ang oras, pumasok bigla sa isip ko: Nagtatrabaho ako nang puyat at puyat araw-araw. Mas malaki ang kinikita niya kaysa sa akin, siya ang nag-aya ng trip, pero pantay kami sa gastos? At mas nakakairita pa, alam kong may romantic expectations din naman kapag nag-out of town kami—yung tipong magiging intimate kami sa trip.

Napaisip tuloy ako sa sarili ko: Aba, ibebembang niya ako tapos nag-ambag pa ako nang kalahati? Para saan pa na nag-boyfriend ako kung pareho lang din ang gastos sa akin kahit babae ako?

Medyo harsh pakinggan, pero nararamdaman ko talaga yung resentment. Kapag naisip ko na parang naging purely transactional ang dating—na para bang kinukuhaan ka na ng ambag sa pera, tapos ie-expect pa yung intimacy—napapatanong ako kung bakit pa ako sasama.

Kung ganoon din lang pala, mas mabuti pa sigurong mag-solo trip na lang ako. At least hawak ko ang oras ko, sariling pera ko ang gagamitin ko, at walang e-expect mula sa akin.

Hindi naman sa ayaw kong mag-ambag—fair Share and Teamwork naman dapat sa relasyon. Pero bakit kapag may disparity sa income, dapat 50/50 pa rin? At bakit nararamdaman kong parang ako pa ang lugi sa dulo?

Tanong ko lang sa inyo guys—mali ba na mag-expect ako na mas malaki dapat ang sagot niya since mas malaki kita niya at siya ang nag-aya? O dapat ba talagang automatic 50/50 kahit magkaiba kayo ng kakayahan sa buhay?

Problem/Goal: got asked this on a date and couldn’t really answer well

Context: remembered an incident wherein i (25f) went on a date with an older guy (mid 30s) for dinner, it was alright at first but then he suddenly asked “what do you bring to the table?”

it was my first time hearing that so i was a little confused and asked what he meant by that, he said he will be providing everything from finances and whatnot, so what can i offer to him in return? it seemed to me that he had everything so i told him well companionship - i’m a loyal partner, i give my best to my loved ones and no doubt that i would try my hardest to keep the relationship strong

he then went on about how that’s not enough, long story short, it ended without us communicating again - just made me wonder how i can answer it for next time?

i have my own job and provide for myself and give to my family, very much independent, and i like to look my best and stay active

Problem/Goal: two days ago po, i got sexually harassed by a friend. a close friend. i went back home safely pero as everyone else, i could not handle being alone. having to sit with my feelings alone kasi sa totoo lang po, i'm feeling suicidal already.

if you're around imus/makati/bacoor (kahit saan basta malapit) and nagpa-check na kayo sa gynecologist, can i borrow your receipts? i need two photos lang. hinihithitan ko ng pera yung harasser ko but he won't send unless i promise to give him a receipt. i cant ghost him after ko makuha yung pera kasi taga neighborhood lang namin siya and im scared. please help me. hanggang wednesday lang. pahiram po ng receipt.

i lied to him about having to visit a gynecologist and i have to send a receipt para matahimik siya, kasi kung hindi baka lumabas lang ako mag isa, kung ano pa gawin sakin non. i'll pay for your receipts pag nakuha ko na yung pera if i have to. i just need help, please.

Problem/Goal: Inuna pa thirst trap mid-argument

Context: nakita ko picture nila ng ex niya sa phone niya, old photo naman na nakalimutan lang daw idelete.

Initial reaction was nagalit ako syempre. Tapos binaliktad lang nya at ginaslight ako na kesyo sya din naman daw may mga nakita na pictures namin ng past ko.

Tapos nanahimik na ako kasi gigil na gigil na ko tas biglang nag story ng sarili niya old video na nag wowork out at kita katawan like seriously??? Ano to? Hindi nya din first time ginawa to.

Previous attempts: none, tangina di ko na alam rereact ko

Problem/Goal: Burn out and very stressed ako currently sa low paying government job ko that I now planned to work abroad or become a Virtual assistant na lang. But should I abandon my secured job for a nonsecured high paying job?

Context: Currently, I am working sa dead end job na I cant be promoted anymore unless either I took an additional 2 year course (which is impossible due to my job overtime schedule.) In addition, I tend to work 9-10 hours a day for my job today. i had tons of workload kasi short of staff kami and no proper system of responsibility so yung halos lahat ng work binibigay sa akin. Nag oovertime ako na walang bayad dahil hindi kaya matapos sa isang araw yung gawain ko that even my OT cant even suffice it. So when my friend asked me to go abroad with her or to become VA, I become fully interested.

Advice: her advice for me is to go abroad bc high paying dun and mS chill

Problem/goal: should I give up my secured government job for a hugh paying non secured job va or work abroad?