Does anyone know how separation affects labor and delivery in a hospital? My husband and I are no longer together, but legally we are still married. I want to be no contact for safety reasons but am not sure how this will all play out. I’m scared and I am freaking out because the thought of being around him at a vulnerable time is enough to make me want to throw up and rip my hair out.

Basically that. I, like many others, bled (and the other person was kinda rough). But I don't know for how long this is supposed to go on and I don't have doctor money to just go get checked up to see if something is wrong. Is there an estimate or does it vary per person? Cause today is the second day (not counting the day of) that I started bleeding. No, my period is nowhere close. I had it on the 6th of this month.

I'm anxious about this and idk what to do.

hi, I’m 18 and I just recently started having sex at college and for me it’s so painful. whenever he puts it in, it hurts so bad I almost start crying. what am I doing wrong? I wanna have sex but I don’t wanna be in pain :(

i was having sex with my boyfriend in cowgirl until i got sharp pain in my stomach that worsened as we had sex longer and the deeper/harder he went. especially painful in backshots, we had to stop everything entirely because i was in so much pain. it hurt to laugh, deeply inhale, move, etc. my whole stomach, chest, head, neck, and lower stomach were all cramping sharply. it hurt so bad i could hardly move and i started crying. j was laying on his bed for 20 minutes before i could finally get up. the pain lessened but there were a few times where he accidentally put pressure on my stomach and it ached horribly. by the end of the night there was way less pain and we had sex again with zero issue. this morning, the pain in my stomach is pretty much gone, but when i sit or stand i get aching cramps in my butthole/vagina area and it feels heavy when i walk or sit if that makes any sense.
for more context, my doctors say my ovaries are enlarged and i show possible signs of pcos/thyroid issues but nothing is confirmed. my period ended 2 days before this and painful sex on or around my period is common for me. i always have trouble with the right lower side of my stomach

please let me know what this could be

Yesterday night I was out with friends I had a tampon in and I remember taking it out before going to bed but somehow I can’t remember if I accidentally put a second one in at the bar toilet…

I put a finger up and checked for a lost tampon but I couldn’t find a tampon, everything felt normal.

Now I am worried I missed it and that it might be there.

Tomorrow I am going to a gyno to check it but with what I have described do you think it might be there even though I couldn’t find it? Do you think I am wasting the gynos time if I go check it tomorrow?

17F, 5'3/1,62m, 110lbs/50kg.
No matter how warm it is around me, I'm always flipping cold. I was going out in a jacket while on vacation when it was 104/40 degrees outside. I sit in class wearing 2 pairs of socks, 2 pants, 2 sweaters/hoodies at least 1 t shirt and STILL wrap myself up in a blanket. I'm writing this while sitting in the bathtub filled with steaming hot water and I'm still cold. Sometimes I checked my pulse rate while I was interning at a hospital and got 45bpm.

Can somebody tell me any reasons this could be happening? I miiight be diabetic.

Excuse my bad English please! :(

Hello this is my first and probably only post ever! Sorry if it sounds weird or for lack of context :/

As the title says, penetration is something i just havent been able to do/handle. I am petite so that might have something to do with it? Ive tried using the smallest tampons I can find but I can barely insert them half way before it feels like I cant physically go further and it starts to hurt. I've successfully fingered myself with one finger plus lube a couple times but it hurts and theres usually blood too.

My Gynecologist suggested doing a a pelvic exam under anesthesia after she realized a typical exam wasn't possible, however I can't afford that right now. I've been told by some friends that I should just let my boyfriend penetrate me and that I'll eventually adjust, but that sounds really awful and stressful for both of us.

Probably unrelated, but I have been told when I was a toddler, I was supposed to get a catheter (my parents thought i had appendicitis and I guess I was in the hospital for a bit? i dont fully know) and supposedly my urethra was also too small for that.

I want to be able to experience sex like a normal person and I dont know what to do. As a young adult my friends talk about their sex lives and I feel kinda embarrassed being a virgin despite being sexually active. I've look at dilators because my gynecologist brought it up and they can be pricey and seem a little intimidating.

Sorry if this isn't enough information I am willing to clarify anything! Im honestly venting a little, im just looking for people who have had similar experiences or advice :)

I’m 24F, and I wanted to share my health journey on different forums in hopes of finding others who have experienced something similar. This past year has been one of the most physically and emotionally exhausting experiences of my life, and I’m honestly starting to feel defeated. I apologize in advance for the lengthy post.

How it all started:

In July 2025, I developed my first ever UTI. I was treated with antibiotics and thought that was the end of it. Then in September, I developed another UTI and was treated again because my doctor suspected the first infection hadn’t completely cleared. Unfortunately, my symptoms never truly went away.

I began experiencing what I describe as “phantom urinary urgency.” Even after emptying my bladder, I would still feel like I needed to pee. I also started developing pelvic pain after intercourse that felt like a deep, searing, burning nerve pain.

My urinary symptoms have always followed a strange pattern. They’re typically worse when I’m lying down, especially at night and first thing in the morning. They often improve once I get up and start walking around. The symptoms come and go, sometimes seemingly without reason, and intercourse can trigger a flare up.

My primary care doctor performed a pelvic exam and vaginal swab. I mentioned having a copper IUD, and she wondered whether an infection could be associated with it as she believed that a biofilm could have grown on it and caused an infection.

My swab came back positive for BV, something I’d never experienced before, it didn’t help that I was a asymptomatic and had no unusual odor or discharge that is usually associated with it. I’ve always wondered whether the two rounds of antibiotics I’d taken for my UTIs disrupted my vaginal microbiome and contributed to developing BV.

I was treated with antibiotics oral metronidazole for BV, but my pain urinary symptoms and pelvic pain actually worsened while taking them, and even after finshing treatment i didn’t have relief.

Months of appointments and no answers

Eventually, I saw a urologist after waiting months for an appointment. By then, I was experiencing pain almost daily, particularly when trying to sleep. Painkillers barely helped, and heating pads only provided slight relief.

My urine tests and bladder emptying test were normal. After a pelvic exam, the urologist suspected a hypertonic pelvic floor and referred me to pelvic floor physical therapy. I attended PT for months without much improvement.

At this point, I was becoming incredibly frustrated. I was constantly uncomfortable, losing sleep, researching symptoms, and desperately trying to understand what was happening to my body. Every appointment felt like another dead end. I was spending so much time and energy trying to find answers, only to be told that everything looked normal.

Eventually, I decided to see a urogynecologist because I couldn’t even tell whether this was a urinary or gynecological problem anymore. During my examination, he felt my pelvic floor tension was normal, but he also discovered that my copper IUD had become lodged in my cervix.

I’d had it for almost five years without any major issues, so I had no idea how long it had been displaced.I had it removed the following week, and for a couple of months, I finally felt normal again. I genuinely thought I’d found the answer.
Unfortunately, the pain and urinary urgency eventually returned. I returned to my OB-GYN, where my standard STI panel came back negative.

A pelvic ultrasound showed:

An enlarged right ovary with multiple follicles,
A corpus luteum cyst on my left ovary,
Prominent pelvic blood vessels suggesting possible pelvic congestion syndrome (PCS)

To this day, I don’t know whether any of these findings actually contributed to my symptoms or whether they were incidental. PCS was suggested as a possible explanation, but I never received confirmation that it was the cause.

Around this time, I had also decided I wanted permanent sterilization as my iud journey didn’t end well and I don’t tolerate hormones so I scheduled a bilateral salpingectomy (removal of my fallopian tubes). I figured the surgery would also provide an opportunity to investigate whether anything abnormal was happening internally. During surgery, everything looked relatively normal externally, although my surgeon noticed my fallopian tubes appeared unusually twisted and congested.

It wasn’t until pathology examined my removed tubes that we discovered chronic salpingitis, meaning long standing inflammation of my fallopian tubes.

My surgeon suspected an underlying infection and tested me for Ureaplasma. I tested positive for Ureaplasma parvum, something that hadn’t been included in my previous standard STI screenings.
Both my partner and I underwent doxycycline antibiotic treatment. While I was on the antibiotics for it, it made my symptoms flare up really bad which went away after I finished my treatment.

Following surgery and treatment, I experienced significant improvement. I can’t say whether removing my chronically inflamed tubes, treating the Ureaplasma, or a combination of both was responsible, but I finally started feeling substantially better.

I still experienced occasional flare ups around ovulation, during my luteal phase, and toward the end of my period, but they were much more manageable than before.

My symptoms are returning, and now my Evvy test suggests BV again

Because of everything I’d been through, I recently decided to take an Evvy vaginal microbiome test to see whether there was anything else I should be aware of. While waiting for the results, I started experiencing my familiar flare ups again: urinary urgency, bladder pressure, and pelvic discomfort. I was devastated.

My Evvy results classified my microbiome as Transitional BV.

Here were my findings:

Protective bacteria: 17%
Disruptive bacteria: 7%
Lactobacillus iners: 76% of my protective bacteria
Lactobacillus crispatus: 6% of my protective bacteria
Lactobacillus gasseri: 11% of my protective bacteria
Gardnerella species: approximately 4%
Fannyhessea vaginae: approximately 1%

My STI screening was negative for gonorrhea, chlamydia, trichomoniasis, and Mycoplasma genitalium. My recent Evvy test also came back negative for Ureaplasma, which was a huge relief considering my previous positive result for Ureaplasma parvum.

My partner and I both completed antibiotic treatment, and we’ve been avoiding unprotected intercourse while waiting for the recommended retesting interval. We’re planning to have him retested to confirm he’s negative before we resume unprotected sex.

I wanted to mention this because, although my symptoms have started returning, my latest test no longer detected Ureaplasma. This makes me wonder whether my current flare ups could be related to my disrupted vaginal microbiome, BV-associated bacteria, or something else entirely.

According to Evvy, my microbiome is disrupted, with low levels of protective bacteria and a predominance of L. iners, which is considered less stable than species such as L. crispatus.

What’s confusing is that my BV-associated bacteria seem to be present in relatively small amounts, yet I’m experiencing symptoms that feel very similar to my previous flare ups.

It’s also been over a month since I finished antibiotics for Ureaplasma, so I’m wondering whether those antibiotics caused another shift in my vaginal microbiome or whether something else is going on.

I don’t know whether BV is actually responsible for my current symptoms, but I’m hoping it might explain at least some of them.

Evvy’s treatment recommendations:

Evvy recommended discussing a treatment plan focused on reducing disruptive bacteria and rebuilding protective Lactobacillus populations.

Their suggested approaches included:

Antibiotic treatment for BV, to address BV-associated bacteria.
Boric acid vaginal suppositories, potentially to help disrupt bacterial biofilms.
Vaginal-specific probiotics, with the goal of encouraging more protective Lactobacillus species, particularly L. crispatus.

I’m currently waiting to see my OB-GYN to discuss my results and whether BV treatment is appropriate.
I’m especially interested in hearing whether anyone has tried a similar approach involving antibiotics, boric acid, and vaginal probiotics, and whether it helped prevent recurrence or improve urinary symptoms.

I’m hesitant about taking more antibiotics after everything I’ve already been through, especially because I wonder whether repeated antibiotic treatments contributed to my microbiome becoming disrupted in the first place.

I think one of the hardest parts of this journey has been how much it has taken away from me. It’s affected my sex life because intercourse can trigger pain and urinary flare ups. It’s affected my relationship because intimacy has become something I sometimes associate with discomfort or fear of another flare up.

It’s affected my sleep because my symptoms are often at their worst when I’m lying down at night. There have been so many nights when I’ve just wanted to rest but couldn’t get comfortable because of that constant sensation of needing to pee.

It’s affected my everyday life because I’m constantly thinking about my symptoms, anticipating another flare up, or trying to figure out what might be causing them.

I genuinely feel like I’ve become a shell of the person I used to be.

Before all of this, I never had to think twice about my bladder or pelvic health. Now it feels like my entire life revolves around it.

And what’s especially disheartening is that every time I finally start feeling better, something else comes up. Every time I think I’ve finally reached the end of this nightmare, I find myself right back where I started. It feels like an endless cycle, and some days it’s genuinely difficult to see a light at the end of the tunnel.

I just want to feel normal again. I want to be able to sleep peacefully, enjoy intimacy without worrying about pain afterward, and go about my day without constantly being aware of my bladder.

My questions for anyone who’s experienced something similar:

• Has anyone experienced significant urinary urgency, bladder pressure, or pelvic pain with BV, even when Gardnerella and Fannyhessea percentages were relatively low?

•Has anyone had Transitional BV or an L. iners-dominant microbiome and experienced primarily urinary symptoms rather than typical BV symptoms like odor or unusual discharge?

•Did treating BV improve your urinary urgency or pelvic pain?

•Has anyone tried a treatment approach involving antibiotics, boric acid, and vaginal probiotics? Did it help restore your microbiome or prevent recurrence?

•Has anyone experienced recurring symptoms after Ureaplasma treatment or chronic pelvic inflammation, despite initially feeling significantly better?

•For those who experienced symptoms that worsened while lying down and improved with movement, did you ever find out what was causing them?

•Has anyone continued experiencing urinary urgency or pelvic pain despite testing negative for Ureaplasma after treatment? If so, did you eventually discover another cause?

I understand that Ureaplasma can be present without causing disease, that a positive test doesn’t prove it caused my salpingitis, and that microbiome percentages alone can’t establish the cause of symptoms. I’m not looking for a diagnosis, just hoping to hear from people with similar experiences and hope I can get more pieces to this puzzle or any advice on what to look for next.

I know healing isn’t always linear, but after more than a year of this, I’m just so tired.

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading. I hope that sharing my experience might help someone else feel a little less alone, and I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s gone through something similar and eventually found relief. ❤️

Basically, My bladder+urethra gets extremely irritated in the middle of my ovulatory cycle, and just before my period comes, I don't feel anything. Has anyone had this experience?

The birth control helped with the irritation, but there are a lot of collateral effects and I don't want it.

I’m 23F and i have been dealing with this since last year this time and i’m tired of it. I’ve been on many medications and they won’t work, i’ve even done something called urethral dilation cuz I wasn’t able to pee at that time. I’ve done urine culture test and no bacteria were found.
At this point I’m thinking about being low on estrogen ( since i have pcos and thin endometrium and barely bleed in my periods)

PS:i don’t have any yeast or vaginal infection I’ve already treated that.

Hey everyone! Lately every time i go poop there’s a bit of blood in the toilet paper , the poop is not bloody and i feel no pain whatsoever but like (im sorry if this is a little disgusting) the first wipe always has a bit of blood that looks clotted up n stuff and then the wipes after are fine … what is this and what do i do?

Hi I know that the standard for cleaning after pooping is front to back. But every single time I do that the tissue doesn’t pick anything up and one day I remember trying back to front. I don’t go all the way to the front but it the paper actually picks something up. Has this happened to anyone at all, is there any advice or something. It gets extremely annoying and I also shower afterwards and I’ll believe it’s done I’m clean but after I change and a few hours after I’ll go to the bathroom and wipe and then I have matter again. I’m at a loss, I don’t know what to do. To be quite honest it’s one of the main reasons I don’t try anything intimate with people.

I swapped to depo Q recently and the first time doing it myself (was at the doctors office where they were teaching me) I tried it in my stomach and it was burning when I was pushing the med in as slowly as I could. Truly it was hard to apply pressure at the angle I needed to. I just thought it was a one off situation because I was doing it myself. Now I got my second prescription and tried doing it at home but on my thigh this time and still the same situation. I only swapped to self administered out of convenience since I work during normal clinical hours. But the burning sensation from the medicine which I now is because it’s thick liquid is kind of unbearable. Just want to know if this is a normal experience for everyone else and if they just fight through the pain.

My fiancé and I have tried sex numerous times but he is not able to insert it in me. I feel too much pain when he applies some pressure. 1-2 times we did feel the head might have gone inside but never fully it has gone. Lots of foreplay, lube and all that has been tried

I dont have money right now for a doctor...but I genuinely am a bit freaked out. I've always had really bad periods, Ill go through multiple overnight pads in a day and my mood goes NUTS close to that time. I'll get so fatigue near that time I easily sleep 12+ hours. Cramps so bad I have to stop what im doing and curl up in a ball on the floor. My periods sometimes start off with brown spotting, its happened so little I dont freak out about it. I think last time it happened before recently was just a stressful time of my life so I blamed it on that, these past few time I'm not really stressed...its been happening a lot more recently though, and even though my period was 2 weeks ago, today I had brown when I wiped and a brown blood clot when I peed. Im not having weird cramps but they don't feel near as painful and they feel deeper if that makes sense? And a bit higher up than where I usually cramp? It concerned me that 2 ish days before heavy bleeding I had brown spotting but I wasn't stressing, now I'm a bit stressed given its BROWN/ BLACK blood clots, not spotting or the toilet paper being tinted brown, just strsight up blood clots 2 weeks AFTER my period?? I havent seen a gyno in 10 years but I'm considering busting my ass at work with overtime to afford it, does anyone have these same experiences or any idea why I might be dealing with this?? Or should I just take a chill pill and relax a bit.

My ultrasound shows moderate to minimal amount of free fluid in pouch of Douglas. Doctor identified it as PID and gave me antibiotics for it for 2 months. Still it's there. Is it something concerning? I have no pain and symptoms of infection while having it.

Is there anyone who have suffered or currently suffering from pid????i just want to verify the symptoms I'm freaking out i feel extremely weak from a long time and many more , please ping. I also lost 9 kgs in the past 6 months but the symptoms of pid such as abdomen tenderness or throbbing pain have been showing up in the last 2 months only

Hello everyone! I'm 23, 167cm/5'6?, 65kg/143pounds (Australia based).

I've basically had a recurrent yeast infection (Thrush) for 4 years since I first became sexually active. I've been treated multiple times, both with over-the-counter meds and prescription fluconazole Sandoz - of which I'm currently taking 150mg per week as prescribed for the next 6 months.

Today I went to get a little intimate with myself and while I thought my treatment was working, I noticed some unfortunate symptoms which Dr. Google says is linked to Thrush still. I've been on the same treatment for two months now, at this point I'm not entirely sure if what I have is even Thrush, or if it's something else,. Maybe it is Thrush but it is a secondary symptom/cause from something else?

I've been seen by a few GPs, my recent one is amazing but she seems at a loss for my situation, since it doesn't seem to be going away 100%.

I thought I'd pop in my symptoms here to see if anyone has had something similar in time length wise and severity.

- Dryness of vulva and vagina

- Thick, bead-like discharge when not dry

- Lots of Dry skin coming out of vagina during masturbation/sex

- Itching from various activities but especially sweating and sex/masturbation

- Almost glue smelling discharge (not super bad smelling though)

- Symptoms getting worse before your period

- Impacted libido (mostly from feeling bad and uncomfortable with vaginal situation)

- Itching (ofc, used to be much, much worse for me however)

If you had any of these symptoms and it wasn't Thrush, I'd appreciate hearing about them! I'm feeling very lonely in my situation and a little doomy and gloomy about my vagina/health not being normal smh.

Cheers!

Female
25
5’9
135lbs
don’t drink but smoke weed regularly
smoke nicotine too but in process of quitting

basically i’m either having a reaction to macrobid or to fluconazole. I recently finished a week course of macrobid for a UTI. it’s the generic macrobid if it matters and i took those with a course of probiotics. She gave me 2 fluconazole in case.I get a yeast infection as I told her im very prone to them which is why i’ve avoided getting treatment aka antibiotics for my uti, bc i knew they’d trigger one. So i was right, it did trigger a yeast infection, so i waited a full day to see if It really seemed like one and it did. I took fluconazole about 3 days ago before bed. the next morning my mouth was itching all day. The next morning the inside of my mouth was raw and sore and I noticed an ulcer. I’m not sure if it’s the macrobid or the fluconazole. I’m learning towards fluconazole.

This has happened to me before which is the weird thing. 5 years ago I took antibiotics for a uti and then meds for a yeast infection and my entire mouth flared up with ulcers/loose skin falling off the insides of my cheeks, it was terrible. doctors didn’t know wtf was going on with me and it was truly traumatic and terrible. they biopsied my skin in my mouth and found nothing, but we had never considered the meds were the cause.

Does anyone have any insight? My mouth feels like my vagina would aka the soreness and burning feeling after itching. The skin in my mouth is very raw and gross idk how to explain it. I have many many pictures of my last ulcer flare up from 5 years ago if any doctors went to see them. I’m just not sure what to do. I can take new pics of this flare up, but my entire mouth isn’t ulcered yet but can tell it will be soon as the skin in my mouth is a weird texture which is my sign i’m gonna get an ulcer or my skins gonna shed off and leave a red sore patch. i’m not sure if it’s thrush or an ulcer or both. I got treated for oral thrush 5 years ago with a mouthwash to see if it would help my ulcers, and it didn’t

Google tells me it’s a really rare side effect, but not what to do if it happens. I also don’t have health insurance, so got both meds from a kroger little clinic.

Has anyone else experienced anything similar??

I’ll just cut to the chase, I was rubbing one out when I noticed how wet it was down there and I don’t think it was a normal amount because it was like 10x the usual. Like a solid 3 centimetre radius of the sheets were wet and it was like leaky? Should I go to a doctor or is this okay?

uhh hey it’s my first time posting i MIGHT delete this later but what happened if you have like bumps down there? like you think you can pop it but it hurts badly! please tell me im actually so scared to ask my own family! :((

If I sleep less than 10 hours a night, I feel like I was hit by a truck when my alarm rings. Not over exaggerating; I’m have such a hard time waking up and I’m incapable of having a conversation within 45 minutes of getting out of bed.

When I don’t have work, I easily sleep 12 hours a day. That has been the case ever since I was a teenager.

It also seems to be unrelated to my cycle. I started taking a BC pill a year ago (because of PMDD) and nothing changed. I also have ADHD but I’m not sure if that’s relevant. I’m 26, normal weight, and no medication except for BC.

Does anyone have the same experience? Is there anything I can do or am I doomed to feeling miserable every morning for the rest of my life?

I recently bought a dildo that’s a bit bigger than my first one. I’m a virgin and I’m just now starting to explore penetration so this is new to me. I used it today and ever since using it I’ve had a lot of discharge which I believe is normal. But I was walking around and bent over to grab something and it genuinely felt like I had peed, I think I might’ve? I check and there was a ton of discharge and I just don’t know if that’s normal? The discharge was clear, and there was like the tiniest amount of blood and when I wiped there was no more blood. Is this normal I’m so confused… sorry if I’m not allowed to post about stuff like this here!

Im just here because I NEED to get this off my chest. My period has been missing for 10 months now and every doctor I see ignores me.

For over 10 years ive suffered with highly irregular periods which ranged from light spotting for 2 days to bleeding through overnight pads for 9 days. But the several times my mom took me when I went as a teenager? Nothing.they said It will regulate on its own, even when at some point my hormones was so out of whack I started producing breast milk without being pregnant. Here I am, an adult. And my last period was the most intense ive ever gotten, when i tell you I was looking visibly pale and fainted multiple times im not exaggerating but of course by the time I got my blood draw and went back to the doctors everything looked 'normal' bullshit. Ive had over 5 blood tests, 1 pelvic exam, 2 intravaginal ultrasounds, 1 regular ultrasound, seen 4 different gynos and all they can reccomend is birth control which i took for awhile had adverse affects. Im legit crying right now because ive been sick for 2 weeks and only getting worse. When the first 4 months had passed they told me since I was irregular and that I should wait until 6 months before assuming something is wrong, so i did. I went back at 6, they told me to wait another month. Nothing.

I know its all over the place, im not looking for a diagnosis, im just frustuated. For 2 weeks ive been stuck in bed with extreme fatigue, weakness, indigestion to the point where even oatmeal is difficult to keep down, a fever and fucking cramps to a period that has yet to come.

Ive been calling gynos outside of my medical plan just because im desperate but the wait times sre ridiculous. 5 to 1 year waiting time for appointments that cost over 90 dollars.

Im scared, im so tired of fighting this. I even considered trying to say ive been attempting to conceive JUST to see if they take me seriously. When I tell you I came out SOBBING from the gynos office because he refused to even look at my ultrasounds or answer any of my questions insisting that I was perfectly fine just to tell me "you probably had a cyst that ruptured"

WHAT DO YOU MEAN PROBABLY!? IS THAT NOT WORTH INVESTIGATING!?

I feel like im going insane

Im shaking

Again, im not asking for some any diagnostic i JUST want to vent and scream somewhere.