My girlfriend of 6 months went on a one day car trip with a few others on a 5 seater car. She said since there were 6 of them, it got cramped and uncomfortable by the evening and she had to sit on one of their lap for the remainder of the trip.

The trip was organised by her friends from her part time job. She is the youngest and all of them are at least 5 years older than her and sees her as a child. They originally planned a 5 person trip but one guy joined suddenly and hence the cramped trip. There were 2 women including my gf and 4 other men.

She told me about this when she called me to talk about the trip after she got home. She mentioned it casually and as if it's not a big deal but I couldn't digest it at all. But i didn't let her know how hurt i was. It is mainly because i don't know how i can explain this to her without coming off as a toxic insecure person. And i never knew i was someone who would be shaken by something this trivial. I feel like a hypocrite because this seems like a perfectly reasonable solution to an unexpected problem but i feel hurt simply because it was my girlfriend instead of someone else.

She still doesn't know that i am hurt. I don't want to confront her. I don't know how i can talk to her about this. She called me at around 10pm and fell asleep while on the phone because she was tired from the trip. It's 12.40am when i am writing this. I've been crying non-stop for the last 2 hours. I don't know who to call or who to share this with. Please help.

UPDATE: I talked to her. Many of you dmed me asking what happened when i talked to her so i made a new post here

As the tittle says, both of us are in a relationship for the past 1 year, we talked most of the checklists that we should discuss before going to her parents. Same caste. She is upper middle class, im lower middle class. I dont have any huge financial backups I earn close to 1.7LPM, she close to 80k/month,lot of financial backups, Giving details for financial compatibility for us. I

We discussed that we are compatible and will tell inform parents and get the approval “HAPPILY”.
But today hell broke loose when she revealed about us and my parents suffering from HIV. I don’t have it. They have it close to 18 years and totally fine currently on single dose ART Therapy. Her parents are saying we cannot let you get into this when you have other options, and basically over our deadbodies kind of. I can see the reasoning behind it, i don’t know what to say, what to do next.

Girl is still willing to fight for this, but it’s going to be a long road which im ready for. Any advic* would be appreciated.

My gf started having this crazy obsession with planes ✈️ like in the second year of our relationship. She started sending me aviation reels all the time and used to spend a lot of time on Flight radar app as well. Talked to me all the time about different planes and their speciality. I came to know her favourite aircraft was Airbus's A380.

So I thought naturally she would like a model of the aircraft as a birthday gift. I spent a lot of time online and found an exact scaled down diecast alloy metal model of the aircraft. And her dad works in UAE and constantly keeps flying back and forth so I chose an Emirates A380 model.

I was in another country so I couldn't give it to her personally. I booked it for her online in such a way it will reach to her approximately on her birthday. It costed considerably as well.

It arrived on her birthday as planned and when she got it she genuinely looked so happy on video call and was telling me how much she loved it.

Fast forward to few weeks she was having an argument with me over another unrelated thing and she suddenly pops up with "Why did you gift me that model plane?. What am I a boy? Why couldn't you find a better gift? You don't know how to gift" She looked clearly upset and angry over it.

I was heartbroken as I genuinely thought it was something she would like as someone who's into aviation and it's her fav model. Why will you say hurtful stuff like that after saying you like it at first and then change her statement after weeks ?

Last night i made a post about this incident and i got many responses and dms comforting me and supporting me. I would like to thank everyone for standing by me when i felt lost.

Today, i talked to her and told her how uncomfortable i am with the whole situation and how much it hurt me. She apologised and told me she understood it the moment my face changed and promised never to make me feel again this way. I don't particularly distrust her as this is the first time i have felt this way in the entire year i have known her. I mentioned in my last post that we were committed for 6 months but she was also my best friend since a year back.

She also explained what happened properly. The biggest reason i was hurt was because when i heard "sat on lap" the image that came to my mind was how she sits on my lap close to my body. Yesterday she was sitting sideways with legs on all three of them. The guy just happened to be sitting in the corner and the other girl was in the middle and the other guy was on the other end. She made sure to sit on the knee region of the legs so as not to make anyone and herself uncomfortable.

I don't know how to feel honestly. I didn't escalate the situation and left it at that. I am not sure whether this is worth mentioning, but the guy she sat on and the other girl sitting next to him are in a committed relationship themselves. My girlfriend always had a childish tomboy character around other people too.

Please let me know if i am making the right judgement.

Reddit is notorious for moral policing people and villainising them for experiencing the full range of human emotions.

By Reddit’s standards, you might as well stay single, because apparently, the moment you enter a relationship, any flaw, conflict, emotional reaction, or difficult phase becomes a reason to leave.

But relationships inevitably come with their fair share of issues. Anything about a person can seem strange, unhealthy, healthy, crazy, amazing, or beautiful, depending on the context and perspective.

If I sat down and analysed my partner, I could list 15 flaws, mistakes, and things supposedly wrong with them, but I could just as easily list 15 wonderful things. \*\*You can always find endless reasons to leave someone and just as many reasons to stay. The real question is: do you want that person?\*\*

Communication is key, and understanding the context of a relationship is essential before judging someone. Their struggles, thought processes, emotional reactions, and the circumstances that shaped their behaviour all matter. None of these things automatically make someone a bad person; they make them human. And human beings grow, they evolve and get refined. You don’t keep receipts of your past.

You talk, you understand, you communicate, and you work through things together. Or you inflate your ego, let strangers dictate your perception of your partner, and walk away. If we cannot allow each other the grace to be imperfect, learn, and grow, then what kind of love can possibly survive?

I had a sort of religious upbringing so the seedha sada rule abiding middle class type. Not bad to look at, a bit overweight but I don't think that is a justification. Guess I have intimacy issues? Don't know. Just find it hard to trust people.

Anyway, my point is: at this stage of life should I just jump into a relationship for the heck of it? Won't be having kids so timeline kuch bhi chalta hai. Are relationships worth it is my question. Especially since you are used to being alone and fairly ok with it now.

Does anyone else have friends, but no friend group?

I grew up in Delhi, moved away for three years, and came back to a very different social life. Friends have moved cities, have partners, or are understandably running on 3% battery after work. I have 4 lovely friends, but none of them know each other, so there’s no “guys, what’s the plan?” group chat.

And I miss having that.

Making friends after school/college is surprisingly hard. Where is the adult equivalent of “you sit next to me, we’re friends now”? 🥲

A little about me:

• 25F, born and raised in Delhi, currently in West Delhi.
• Empathetic, animal lover, very likely to interrupt a walk to say hello to a dog.
• Vegetarian foodie. Finding somewhere good to eat absolutely counts as a plan.
• Spontaneous, adventurous and sporty, up for trying activities and being beginners together.
• Watches anime and has a master’s in psychology. Plenty of conversation material there.
• Works in HR. Somehow recruiting people for my own social life is the toughest vacancy yet.

I’d love to build a little group for food outings, badminton, exploring Delhi, anime/movie nights, occasional trips, and those evenings where you sit around talking about absolutely everything.

I know close friendships take time. I’m hoping to meet kind, like-minded people who’ll make an effort to stay in touch and keep showing up. The “we should do this again” actually becoming a second plan would be a lovely start 😂

Looking for platonic friendships; people around my age would be great.

If this sounds like your situation too, tell me a little about yourself and one plan you’d actually leave the house for. If a few of us click, let’s get a small group together and put something on the calendar!

Hi everyone, I really need some outside perspective because I don't know if I'm being reasonable or if I'm severely overthinking this.

Have taken help from AI to frame as I am not in right space of mind

I [29F] have been dating my boyfriend [33M] for 2 years. Before we met, he had never dated anyone. I always viewed him as a quiet, slightly introverted guy who wasn't the type to chase after women. Throughout our relationship, he has been an absolute pillar of strength for me during some of my hardest moments, and I have never once felt like he was untrustworthy or unfaithful. Our families know about us, and he has asked me to marry him.

The Incident:
Two days ago, I happened to see a chat on his phone that he never deleted. It was from before we met. He had met a girl on a 4–5 hour train ride, asked for her number, and they texted for about four months. They met up twice (just for 10–20 minutes) and did video calls. To be clear: I read the entire chat, and they were not in a relationship. Earlier in our relationship, I also saw some Facebook chats from 2019 where he casually messaged a few girls.

Why I'm Struggling:
I know that technically he did not cheat on me. All of this happened before I ever entered his life. However, finding out that he casually approached a stranger on a train and initiated contact goes completely against the mental image I had of him. I am quite old-school, and realizing he has this "side" to him has shaken me.

Now, my brain is spiraling. I keep thinking: If he can casually approach girls like that, what happens in the future if we get married and hit a rough patch? What if he gets bored or irritated with me and starts messaging other women? I see married men flirting with other women all the time, and I've always felt terrible for their wives. Now I'm terrified of becoming one of those wives.

Am I letting my own anxieties ruin a genuinely good, supportive relationship over harmless things he did while single? Or is my gut picking up on a character trait I should pay attention to before committing to marriage?

TL;DR: Found old chats on my [33M] boyfriend's phone from before we met, where he casually picked up a girl on a train and texted her for months. He has been an amazing partner to me [29F] for 2 years and proposed, but finding out he had this casual side in his past makes me terrified he might flirt/cheat in the future if we get married. Am I overthinking?

It has been almost a year since I told my parents about my relationship, and I thought I would share an update on how things have been going.

For some context, she and I have been together for 13 years. We are high school sweeheats, she belongs to paswan community(SC) and I belong to the Yadav community (OBC), both in Bihar.

Last year, when I finally told my parents about her, all hell broke loose. My mother's reaction was particularly difficult. She started keeping fasts and emotionally blackmailing me during phone calls and whenever I visited home. It has been an exhausting year of trying to explain something that, to me, should not be so difficult to understand: I love someone, she loves me, and we want to build a life together.

There is a quote often attributed to Keanu Reeves: “If you don't fight for your love, what kind of love do you have?” And honestly, it becomes a little easier to keep fighting when you know that the person beside you is fighting for the relationship just as much as you are.

Fast-forward to Durga Puja this year.

I came home for a week, and my parents suddenly decided that I should visit our native village and meet my grandparents. Since arriving here, my mother has been taking me to meet families who have been socially ostracised for marrying outside their caste.

My mother and grandmother have also been giving me examples of why our family supposedly shouldn't eat or drink at the homes of people they consider to be of a lower caste.

And honestly, I find it deeply disturbing.

How can someone look at another human being and decide that they are inferior because of the community they were born into? None of us chooses our caste, our family or the circumstances of our birth

I have tried explaining this to my mother several times. I have told her that being educated should mean learning to question such beliefs, not blindly carrying them forward.Yet, after a year of conversations, arguments and emotional exhaustion, I feel as though I am talking to a wall.

What surprises me most is how easily people believe in stories, social rules and inherited prejudices, yet struggle to accept something as real as the love between two people. The feelings and emotions that we all have felt in our lifetime, we tend to ignore it so casually.God save this country.

I hope a dusshera comes in future which burns these social evils and let love and peace prevail.

I could really use some perspective from people who have been through this

i started going to garba last few days and saw a really cute guy , was contemplating whether i should ask for his number or not and decided to do it yesterday, he was kind and gave me his number, we spoke on chat for a bit post garba, but honestly i could tell he's not INTERESTED or evern attracted, he's speaking to me like you would speak to any other friend. i feel so crushed right now.

to give some context, i have been single for a while now and i have done this a few times where I have gone up and spoken to people i like but i have never received the same energy. the last time this happened I was heartbroken for 8-9 months. i could not get the memory of that person out of my head. and i feel like the same is about to happen again, i can see it coming bcs he told me yesterday ' i didnt really notice you'

all those advices that say, you cant expect that from a stranger, how can you be heartbroken when the other person is allowed to make a choice

the problem is people dont even want to give something like this a chance, i would completely understand if we speak and it doesnt work out

i know im fucked the next few months, it feels so much more intense bcs im an emtional person

i was out buying stuff for dussehra today morning and i started crying while riding the scooter bcs this quite literally crushes my soul.

my friends always tell me its good you have so much confidence, but all this confidence for what? what will I do with all this confidence bcs it definately hasn't helped me anytime I have reached out to someone myself.

it took almost 2 years to get over someone and i have approached so many people since, not even in a creepy way, i have always been gentle and kind, with an open ques of would you like to stay in touch?

this feels terrible.

Hi everyone, hope you all are doing well. Apologies for long post tho geniunely seeking advice on what just happened.

I’m posting this anonymously because I just need a safe space to vent, process a completely unhinged weekend, and honestly try to understand a phenomenon I keep running into: why do highly successful, elite-educated men often turn out to be completely bankrupt when it comes to basic emotional intelligence and accountability?

For context, I recently matched with a guy. On paper, he is the ultimate "catch": 34 years old, Wharton graduate, and an AVP at Multinational Financial services firm. We chatted for a couple of days, and things escalated rapidly. He was talking about going "all in," wanting a serious, long-term life partner, and getting married, he even suggested we delete our dating apps together and at least I did delete in front on him while on date.

I’ll admit, I got swept up in the momentum. But a weekend reality check completely shattered the illusion, and I want to lay out what happened to see if anyone else has experienced this brand of toxicity.

The Red Flags Hidden Behind the Resume - We planned a weekend hangout at his place. I showed up with an open heart, genuine care, snacks, and even toys for his cats. But the moment I entered his space, his true nature came out:

Severe Rigidity & OCD: The man operates on an unbendable, robotic script (he literally eats the exact same breakfast every day, mops floors and clean at least 3times daily, shower 3-times, makes bed even after its made by the maid). The second his routine or schedule is slightly disrupted, he completely short-circuits and shuts down.

Intimacy MisMatch: He really wasn't that well to do in terms of intimacy and post act he threw bomb new that he suffers from asthma hence he keeps himself within house limits and hardly goes out. In my mind I went like OCD, Asthma and 2cats this doesn't seem right.

The "Inconvenient Partner" Treatment: During our time together, a family situation arose regarding his family member with some stressful outside harassment. While I completely understood that family comes first and gave him grace, his handling of me was appalling. I was treated like an inconvenient roommate or an afterthought expected to quietly fade into the background.

Zero Basic Decency: If two people are getting intimate, I feel it's basic for a man to treat the women to bare minimum even if the situation mentioned above comes along, when I finally left his house, he couldn’t even be bothered to give me a goodbye hug or walk me down to my cab even after I asked.

The Gaslighting Masterclass : When I got home, I tried to handle things like a mature adult. I called him out of genuine care to check on him, and his immediate, aggressive response was: "Why are you calling me, am I a small child?!"

Realizing we were mismatched, I sent a calm, well-articulated message. I acknowledged his family stress, but firmly pointed out that his lack of basic courtesy (like no goodbye hug, a dismissive tone, and zero emotional availability) made it impossible to build a real connection.

His reaction wasn't accountability—it was explosive gaslighting:

He claimed I was "the least empathetic person he’s ever met" because I dared to ask for basic respect while he was stressed. He said I had terrible timing and that I was never a priority anyway. He declared that his definition of "going all in" and mine were completely different, hiding behind his severe OCD and rigid routines as a permanent shield.

Ultimately, he blocked/deleted me and threw a tantrum because a woman dared to hold up a mirror to his poor behavior.

My Question to Reddit: Why Do They Do This?

I’m writing this because I’m so exhausted. It feels like an endless cycle of trusting men who talk a massive game about commitment, marriage, and "going all in," but the second real-life friction appears, they reveal themselves to be emotionally stunted, self-absorbed, and incapable of a reciprocal relationship.

He hides behind his Wharton degree, his job title, his cats, and his complex OCD as an excuse to demand a compliant, invisible robot, not an actual partner.

Why do men with elite credentials and high-flying corporate titles so frequently lack the basic human decency to say goodbye, offer a shred of warmth, or treat another person with respect? How do you stop entertaining men who use fancy titles to mask a total emotional void?

Would love to hear your thoughts or similar stories because my head is still spinning.

I’m 25F, and I’ve been with my boyfriend for six years. He has cheated on me multiple times, and although I’ve chosen to stay, the experience has deeply affected me. One of the most painful things was feeling mocked when I cried over what happened. I needed comfort and understanding, but instead, I often felt alone in my pain.
Even now, when I try to talk about what happened and how it still affects me, he gets defensive or angry and tells me to move on. I understand that the past cannot be brought up forever, but I don’t know how to rebuild trust when the person who broke it gets offended by my struggle to trust again.
Another recurring issue is his closeness with other women, including a female coworker he frequently messages and exchanges Snaps with. When I bring up maintaining boundaries with other women, he gets offended, and we have fought about this on numerous occasions. I’m not accusing him of cheating again without evidence, but given our history, these situations make me uncomfortable. I don’t know whether my concerns are reasonable or whether my past experiences have made me insecure.
There have also been times when he has told me we don’t match and called me unattractive. Over time, I’ve started feeling like I have to ask for affection, attention, reassurance, and acceptance instead of feeling naturally loved and valued by my partner.
I know I have insecurities, and I’m willing to work on them. I don’t want to control him or constantly question his interactions with other women. I just want to feel respected, secure, and emotionally safe in my relationship.
The difficult part is that I still love him. Six years is a significant part of my life, and I keep wondering whether things can genuinely improve or whether I’m holding on because I’m afraid to let go of everything we’ve shared. I don’t want to give up on a relationship that could be repaired, but I also don’t want to spend more years feeling hurt, unheard, and unsure of my worth.
For those who have experienced something similar, can trust be rebuilt after repeated infidelity when your partner gets defensive about your pain and refuses to discuss boundaries without conflict? Am I expecting too much, or should I seriously consider leaving?

My ex is getting married soon, and I'm struggling to move on. It's been almost a year, and lately the thoughts and guilt have become overwhelming.

I made mistakes in our relationship. I sometimes became distant and didn't treat her the way I should have. I acknowledge my mistakes and have apologised for them. However, even before those mistakes, I often felt neglected. There were instances involving men who had expressed interest in her, including the man she's now marrying. I felt there was a lack of transparency, and we never properly resolved those concerns. She always never allowed me to confront her when it was her fault.

I'm not saying she's entirely at fault. I just feel that my mistakes have been made the main reason for the relationship ending (there was scene created in my college with regards to a girl who was my classmate.),

We both had our share of mistakes she didn't acknowledge her faults but pounced on mine.(the guy she's going to get married was also a source of conflict at a point when we were dating but she said they have nothing between them)

Even after things deteriorated and she got engaged, I continued supporting her because I cared, not because I wanted anything in return. But I just expect mutual respect and consideration for my feelings.

I'm disappointed that she always chose to stay connected to people and also going to marry one who were once a source of conflict in our relationship. I've now decided to maintain no contact, even though part of me still wishes she'd acknowledge my feelings. I know she's getting married, and I don't want her back. I just want to stop feeling guilty, replaying old conversations, and wondering whether everything was my fault.

For those who've experienced something similar, how do you take responsibility for your mistakes without blaming yourself for the entire relationship? How do you accept that you might never get an apology or acknowledgment, and finally move on?

I'm genuinely trying to heal and rebuild my life, but I don't know how to get out of this cycle of guilt and overthinking. I'd appreciate some advice

After been attached with someone virtually You feel like again you can't trust anyone or you can't give the love but from inside you know you have save that old school person for that one person (: ok ok let's not be so much delusional it's not 100% that you will find someone who will love u back ..

What loving u back means it doesn't mean you both should be have same interest same habits it's just like that bond that respect that care comes mutually not forcely feeling that ya I've take care of this person because after that I'll not find anyone no

And seriously I've never been loved in relationship and the type of things happened i even can't say it a relationship what's online relationship seriously?? "And wo bhi apki side se hi " smne wala person be thinking you're so nice and talking with other person there are much more things I've faced but ya still i believe in love ..

Let's see if I'll get that person or not .... And ya I'm Male

Hello, seeking clarity on a certain situation I'm going through!

So 3 yrs back this girl randomly reaches out on insta and we start talking. Just getting to know each other and stuff. The normal. Later she tells me, she saw me a wedding two years prior and always thought of reaching out and stuff. She just couldn't let go of that thought and that's why she ended up contacting me.

By this time she knows my age and career wise how I am and stuff. I was making it clear I'm a chilled out person and age will matter if we get starting close. I always maintained a distance whenever I felt too comfortable around her! Around the same time I dont know if its the distance and stuff be we ended up physically attracted as well. We always had this caring for each other too at the same time. So it wasn't about just getting physical but was connecting on something more deep. Once it got a bit serious and we had a fight and we ended up not talking. She just lost it and tried a lot off ways to get in touch which eventually happened, that's when I Realized its not just physical attraction. A part of me inspite of keeping distance wanted to be there for her.

We have been like that for the past two years, basically being there in hard times, also getting frisky and keeping a good distance. We knew this was better and we won't happen and stuff. This just led to us being comfortable with each other. Few months back I slipped and fell head over heels in love.

I confessed it to her last month and it's been a rollercoaster of a ride since then. She has been worrying about what her family will say about the age, my career choice(I'm a freelance wedding photographer), why I dont I have a business of my own. She is from upper middle class and I'm just middle class guy.

Before confessing my feelings I was paving way to start a wedding photography company and stuff, and I was thinking I have the time. It's when I opened up she says she is under immense pressure at home and we have to double down fast and there is high chance her family is going to reject. Day in out we are discussing about how we are going to end up losing each other because of the class of life we in.

I have no idea how to go about it! A part of me wants this forever and if we fighting for it we will end up marrying each other and fight it out until her family agrees. I know how much she cares about the family and I dont want to put her in that spot.

Also coz I dont want her to go through all that I think its better to end things than trying for it and losing ourselves in the process.. if we are trying it has to be with one end goal or else it isn't worth it! Same applies if we letting go too!

Am looking for different p.o.v on this matter to help me decide better,

I have not fully moved on from my ex who keeps contacting me even after I've told her sternly and blocked her. That's one thing.

I also don't feel ready to share my space and time with another person. The thought itself gives me anxiety.

My family have turned up the heat and are very actively looking for marriage prospects. I have told them constantly that I don't want to marry but they keep asking me why. I don't have a reason for them. I just don't feel like.

I have endless responsibilities thanks to my parents' lack of planning. They keep getting sick and I keep spending a lot of money on their healthcare.

I had lots of dreams and aspirations, and the constant pressure of responsibilities and now marriage made me unable to do anything.

I keep doomscrolling just to escape my life and responsibilities. I don't remember the last time I actually laughed or had a heart to heart conversation with anyone. Everything seems blur in my head but I somehow keep doing the bare minimum to survive and earn each day.

I can't explain myself to my parents because I'm tired ATP. Even other people don't seem to understand and they keep warning me that I'll not be able to find a good match because I'm already in my prime age for marriage.

It's all overwhelming and IDK what to do anymore. I have started distancing myself from my friends but I know it's unhealthy. But I still don't know what to do anymore.

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I'm looking for honest opinions, especially from women.

I've been dealing with lifelong PE which causes me a lot of anxiety about marriage. My family is pressuring me to get married, but I'm worried about how this issue could affect my future wife and our relationship. I've tried treatment, but nothing has worked out so far, leaving me feeling helpless and confused.

I want a life partner and companionship, but marriage isn't just about my needs. My future partner's happiness, sexual satisfaction, and expectations also matter. I don't want my desire to get married to come at the cost of her life.

I understand that marriage is about much more than sex, but sexual compatibility and intimacy are still important parts of a relationship. I don't want to enter a marriage with unrealistic expectations or risk hurting someone because I was too afraid to discuss my concerns beforehand.

I would genuinely like to understand women's perspectives:

1. Would you consider marrying someone with this issue if he were honest about it before marriage?

2. would you expect a man to disclose this?

3. Given my situation, would you advise me to get married or stay single?

I'm not posting to hear what I want to hear or to seek sympathy. I need honest, practical opinions, even if they're difficult to accept, to help me make a realistic decision about my future.

I don't really have good friends I can discuss this with, and I honestly don't know whom else to ask. That's why I'm posting here.

Women, please share your honest opinions. I would especially appreciate perspectives from women who are married or in relationships.

My girlfriend and I have been together on and off for many years. We genuinely love each other, but our relationship has a complicated history involving breakups, other people, dishonesty, and trust issues.
During one of our longer breakups, we both saw other people. When we started reconnecting, things were complicated because neither of us was completely clear about what we wanted. I also made mistakes, including not being fully honest about my situation with someone else.
At one point, I learned that she had been physically involved with another man during a period when we were reconnecting. There were also situations where I believed we were moving toward a serious relationship while she was still meeting people from that chapter of her life. These experiences affected my trust, although I acknowledge that our relationship status wasn’t always clear and I wasn’t blameless either.
Eventually, we got back together seriously and started building our lives. We’re both working on our businesses, and I’ve supported her financially and emotionally. I genuinely want her to succeed, and I don’t regret helping her.
However, I still struggle with jealousy and overthinking. When she goes out with male friends or spends time with people I don’t know well, I sometimes become insecure. I don’t want to control her or stop her from having a social life, but my mind often goes back to what happened in the past.
Recently, she joined a business networking group. She has started socializing with people from the group outside formal meetings, including going for tea late at night, drinking with them. My concern is that the interactions initially seemed strictly professional but are becoming more social, and that change triggers my insecurity.
She says these are normal friendships and business relationships and that she has told them she’s in a relationship. She also says she’s exhausted by my repeated need for reassurance and doesn’t want to update me about everything she does. I understand that she deserves independence, and I recognize that my jealousy has become exhausting for her.
I’m usually the one who brings up breaking up during arguments. She doesn’t threaten to leave me; she wants the relationship to work but says she needs to see real changes in my behavior. When I tell her that change takes time, she says she’s been hearing that for years.

There’s another issue: money.
I’ve spent a lot on her over the years, including food, trips, and helping her when she was struggling. Those were things I willingly gave her, and I don’t expect them back.
Separately, she borrowed a significant amount of money from me, with the clear understanding that it was a loan. She hasn’t repaid anything, even though her financial situation has improved. Recently, she received a payment after telling me she’d pay me back, but she didn’t mention the loan or send anything, despite knowing I was short on money.
I don’t want to use money as leverage or make her feel she owes me love because I supported her. But I do feel hurt that an agreed-upon debt doesn’t seem to be a priority. Sometimes I bring up how much I’ve done for her during arguments, and I know that isn’t healthy either. I want to separate my voluntary spending from the money she actually borrowed.
Lately, all of this has started affecting my concentration, confidence, and work. I’ve worked hard to rebuild my life after a very difficult period following an earlier breakup, and I’m scared of losing that stability again.
I know I have things to work on. I’ve been possessive, I’ve overthought situations, and I’ve sometimes reacted badly during arguments. She has suggested that I see a psychologist, and I’m considering taking that seriously.
I love her, and I believe she loves me. But I’m struggling to understand whether our problems are fixable or whether our history has damaged the relationship too much.

Sorry and thanks for understanding that the story has been edited in chtgpt and a shorter version of the real one .

Title: I like him but can't read his signals

So I met this guy on Bumble and we both swiped right. We exchanged our Instagram handles and started talking. Initially I didn't really have feelings for him but slowly I started liking him. Especially after we exchanged our Snapchats and started maintaining a streak. I like his funny vibe and he's a fitness influencer, not very famous but yeah.

I'm someone who tends to share little things about my day like what I did or what I ate. I also share pictures with people I'm comfortable with and I've shared some of my pictures with him too, even the ones that aren't perfect. I felt comfortable with him and honestly I didn't think I would end up liking him this much.

We also planned to meet at a California Burrito near my home. The first time it got cancelled because of the timing and the next day my relatives came over so I couldn't meet him. The thing that surprised me was that he waited until around 12:30 even though he usually sleeps by 11. I honestly didn't expect that and it made me feel like he was putting in effort.

He once reacted when I told him that I accept random follow requests on Instagram to increase my followers. He asked me why I was doing that and I felt like he was a little possessive. I don't know if it actually means anything but I kinda liked it lol.

He has told me that he wants something short term and we've also exchanged romantic reels. He even said he wanted to date me so sometimes I genuinely feel like he's interested in me.

But then I get confused by his behaviour. One day he left my message on seen on Snapchat and after two hours he sent me a reel on Instagram. I replied because honestly I like him and I can't resist replying to him. But sometimes I feel like I'm putting in more effort than he is. He doesn't ghost me and he does talk to me but I still can't figure out his intentions. Sometimes he acts interested and other times I feel like maybe I'm the only one getting attached.

Another thing is that I'm scared of rejection. It's not that I think I'm ugly because I actually think I look good. I'm medium-tan and he's fair-skinned and for some reason I keep worrying that he might not find me attractive when we meet in person. I know skin tone shouldn't matter but I can't stop thinking about whether he'll like how I look in real life. I'm not saying he's the kind of guy who would judge me for it. It's just a fear I have because I really don't know how he'll react and I'm scared of getting hurt.

I've never been in a relationship before so I don't really know how to understand these things. I don't know if this is normal dating behaviour or if I'm overthinking everything because I like him. I want to know if he's genuinely interested in me or if he's just casually talking to me because he likes the attention.

What do you guys think? Am I overthinking this or are his actions actually confusing? How do I know if a guy is genuinely interested in me?

Guys tell ur opinion plzz😭😭

Hey everyone, I need some honest advice about my relationship. Please don’t judge me because I’m genuinely confused about my feelings.
I’m in my fifth year of a relationship. The first two years were normal, but then I moved to another country, and because of visa issues, we haven’t met in person for the last two years. We have been loyal and honest with each other, but the distance and other personal issues have made our relationship difficult over the last year.
My girlfriend has always liked wearing cute, short, and sometimes backless or revealing dresses. In the beginning, I wasn’t comfortable with it, and I used to object. She was okay with my concerns back then, but over time, things changed.
For the last year, we’ve had a lot of arguments, and to avoid more fights, I started telling her to wear whatever she wanted. Interestingly, my own feelings started changing too. Sometimes I actually enjoy seeing her look hot in public. I feel attracted to her and even a little proud of how good she looks, but at the same time, I feel jealous knowing that other men might be looking at her.
Recently, she went to a party wearing a dress that I felt was way too short. My reaction confused me. I felt jealous and uncomfortable, but I was also turned on by how attractive she looked. I haven’t really shared this side of my feelings with her, and I don’t fully understand it myself.
Now comes the difficult part. Our relationship has been struggling for the past year, and sometimes I feel like we might eventually break up because of our ongoing issues. I don’t know if that’s actually going to happen, but it makes me question how I should handle this situation.
Part of me thinks that if things aren’t going to work out anyway, I should stop making her outfits an issue. I could let her wear what she likes, be honest about finding her attractive, and enjoy the relationship without creating unnecessary arguments.
But when I think about marriage, I feel differently. Honestly, I don’t think I’d be comfortable with my future wife regularly wearing extremely short or revealing dresses in public. I know this might sound hypocritical because I sometimes enjoy seeing my girlfriend dressed that way, but I can’t seem to reconcile these two feelings.
I understand that she has the right to wear whatever she wants. I’m not asking how to control her. But I also feel that I’m allowed to have preferences about what I want in a long term relationship.
So I’m confused about what I should do.
Should I simply accept her clothing choices and stop making them an issue, especially when our relationship is already struggling? Or should I be honest about my discomfort and acknowledge that we might have different expectations for a serious relationship?
Am I being insecure and jealous, or is it normal to feel attracted to something that you might not want in your future marriage?
I’d really appreciate honest opinions from both men and women. I’m not looking for people to take my side. I just want to understand my feelings better and figure out what’s fair to both of us.

We have been together for a year.We are in same college He is a good guy. Never felt anything wrong with him. We take things slow. But the thing when I make a call im the one thats always talking. Sometimes I beg him to just think of anything and talk but he dosent and stays silent entire time till I start talking again.

We both are not the type to talk long hours on call..so when we have these small call time he is not talking then too. When its holidays he goes home for three or four days and the whole time he sends one text per day and dosent try to stay connected with me.

Before you guys tell me to tell this to him. I did multiple times. I just dont know what to do. It feels like im the one doing everything.

I js want to try to do things better before I mess it up by getting frustrated or irritated.

Hey I'm in a search of female best friend more like a accountability partner . I'm Male 25 y old. Mera rishta hua tha 2 saal phle woh tut gya ldki k best friend k chakkr m or mere past 2 rltns hi rhe h uske loke m uske best frnd ko bichme laata toh wo mere past ko laati baaki kisi ko full explanation chahie hogi toh dm m bhi bta dunga .jbse m bht akela rehne lg gya hu mtlb mmi papa alag jagah rehte h m same city m alag pr fir bhi kahi jane ka mann nhi krta unke pass bhi ni unse ache terms p hu m aisa ni k m usse naraz hu pr mere ko akelapan Acha lgne lg gya mujje mere pass ya jha m rehta hu us ghr m koi acha hi ni lgta sath wale kamre m bhi koi ho unke sth bhi nhi reh skta m. I'm an advocate roz ka time table mera subhe utho court jao sham ko gym raat ko khana khao or sojao.

Mujhe bht akelapan mehsus hota h kbhi bhi rone lg jata hu pr smja leta hu koi na thik h jo h mujhe is akelapan s niklna bhi h. Mushkil s 3 kgs kam kra tha ab Navratri m diet drop hogi whey protien family allowed krti ni. M acha pd skta hu Judiciary ki tyari krne ka mann bhi bht h pr hoti ni pdhai smjh achi h subjects aate h smjh bs koi aise accountability partner ho jo mere pdhai or gym m or diet consistently rkhne m help krde toh m bhi bht thankful rhunga and I will also be same accountability partner for her pdhe toh ek sth pdhe zoom or meet p .

So here is the deal, i am coming to delhi tomorrow, I will be there till 25th, I have some work on 23rd and 24th till evening, then I will be pretty much free. So I would love to spend some time with someone when i am free. May be you can help me explore the city, or we can just talk or chitchat and go to some interesting places. I don't have any particular expectations or idea how things will turn out, I just want to have some fun with some good people.

I am in a one-year relationship. This is my (22M) first relationship ever, and my girlfriend (22F) occasionally felt guilty that I was not her first. She is friends with her ex (they were supposedly in a three-month relationship, but remained strictly friends afterward due to family issues). Her ex helped her secure a job and move out of her hometown. She was transparent with me about him all along. However, she recently went on a trip with five of her friends, which included him. I admit I was jealous that she gets to spend more time with her friends than with me.

She started becoming anxious, fearing that I would judge her character and leave her. Eventually, she stopped sharing things with me. This made her ex the only person she felt she could open up to. I had noticed her getting closer to him well before this; she started saying things to me like, "We should be friends for some time; I need to clarify some things about my relationship with myself," and, "I am in my asexual phase right now."

I am still not sure why she said those things.

One day, we went to a show with her friends, and she treated me like I was a nobody. I was deeply hurt and broke up with her right then. She pleaded with me, promising to try to express herself better, and begged for another chance.

Later that week, while we were talking, I saw texts between her and her ex called her "baby," and she said she is fine with it ,as well as a history of late-night calls made right after she finished talking to me for the night.

I felt disgusted and betrayed. I got mad and said things I shouldn't have; I called her a cheater. She explained that her ex was going through a difficult time, experiencing panic attacks, and feeling suicidal, so she had to speak to him affectionately to calm him down.

My counterargument was that she could have just told me the truth earlier instead of creating all the drama about being asexual and needing to just be friends.

We are currently just in a "talking phase" and have lost trust in each other. She says she wants me back, but she is also furious about the things I said to her.

I have been in 2 relationships and I have gotten cheated upon in both. The last one was pretty significant, my gf(now ex) moved to another country for studies and my friend also moved to the same college. He was my best friend since he is from my college circle,so I introduced them both. She used to hang out with him all the time, tell me good things about him and he is such a great friend of mine. I used to call her everyday at night, and she would always be with him and pass him the phone and I would talk to him. Even after I found out about the cheating she did not want to stop seeing him and since she was in the UK, she had learnt about polyamory and wanted to give it a shot. So for a few months, she was in a live relationship with him and with long distance relationship with me. She eventually married a white guy.

I am still good friends with her and we still chat often. She was also right in a way, she was lonely and staying outside of India for the first time. And my friend did give her quite a lot of support, and he did help her quite a lot back then.

Now I am a bit on the asexual side and haven't been with a woman in years, due to anxiety issues. So I have been thinking of a marriage with a polyamorous woman while being monogamous to her. I've been in this kind of arrangement before and I guess I could be comfortable with it. I am talking to a few women for arranged marriage who also want to stay polyamorous because of having relationships with their ex-bf's that they can't marry. While I know that polyamory is not uncommon in western countries, I think many people don't know much about it in India and think of it as cheating, which it is not. So can a relationship like this work in India?