Hey there folks! My name is Alyssa (they/them) and I created a brand that is for gender expansive folks. I am not looking for you to buy or anything but I would love if you checked out my website and instagram. I want to make sure the brand reads gender expansive and community oriented. I would love your opinion on what you see. The brand is called Promenade Supply.

I really feel invisible as a nonbinary person who was assigned male at birth (AMAB), and honestly, I'm getting tired of it.

Whenever I try to look up resources, advice, or information that might help me understand myself and deal with my gender dysphoria, I constantly find content focused on AFAB nonbinary people. There's nothing wrong with AFAB nonbinary people having representation, and I'm not saying they shouldn't have resources or support. What frustrates me is how difficult it can be to find information and representation for AMAB nonbinary people. Sometimes it feels like we're barely acknowledged at all.

I'm looking for advice from people who might share similar experiences to mine, but finding those resources feels unnecessarily difficult. It makes me wonder where the rest of us are supposed to go when we need support, guidance, or simply reassurance that we're not alone.

Another thing that has really bothered me is how I've been treated within the LGBTQ+ and nonbinary communities. I've experienced being ignored, excluded from spaces that claim to welcome nonbinary people, or made to feel like I don't belong because I'm not AFAB or transfeminine.

I've also dealt with people repeatedly telling me to go on estrogen or start HRT, even though I don't want to. Being nonbinary doesn't automatically mean I want to medically transition. I don't want to change my body in that way, and I wish people would respect that instead of acting like HRT is something I need to do to validate my identity.

What's even more uncomfortable is having people close to me suggest that I should have just been a trans woman, or make jokes about putting me on estrogen. I don't find that funny. It makes me uncomfortable, and I've had to stand up for myself repeatedly just to get people to respect my identity and boundaries.

I also experience misgendering and disrespect from people within the LGBTQ+ community itself. Sometimes people default to he/him pronouns simply because I look masculine or because they perceive me as a guy. It feels like my identity is being dismissed based on my appearance rather than respected for what I've actually expressed about myself.

I'm bisexual and nonbinary. I shouldn't have to look a certain way, take hormones, change my body, or fit someone else's expectations to be accepted as who I am.

I'm tired of feeling like I have to prove that my identity is legitimate.

I want to be able to find resources, connect with people who understand my experiences, and exist in nonbinary spaces without feeling like I'm an outsider. I want to see more representation of AMAB nonbinary people, including people who don't want HRT, don't identify as trans women, and don't necessarily fit the expectations people have of what a nonbinary person should look like.

I know I'm probably not the only person who feels this way, but sometimes it genuinely feels like there's no real community or visibility for people like me.

I'm posting this because I want to know if other AMAB nonbinary people have experienced similar things. Where do you find support? Have you also struggled to find resources or felt excluded from nonbinary spaces? How do you deal with people making assumptions about your identity or pressuring you to medically transition?

I just want to feel like there's a place for people like us, too.

OK, ever since I was a kid, I’ve always felt like I was Larping having a gender. But as I grew older and my body began to change I began to realize that I felt more comfortable being gender neutral. I basically felt like a gender less alien.

But I still like girly things sometimes and I’m mostly friends with girls because all of the boys are really bigoted.

Sometimes I’ll go long periods of time without feeling this way and the I’ll think that I’ve been cured but then I’ll start feeling this way again.

My parents are very bigoted and I don’t have any friends.

How can I get a chest binder and will if still work if I have big boobs

I've had this friend for a couple years now. She's a year younger than me and lives down the street from me, and I've known her since I was 10 and she was 9. I don't see her very often anymore because we no longer go to the same school.

Yesterday I went to the bus stop and she was there, so I went over to say hi at which point she said "can you use she/they pronouns for me?" i obviously was like "i gotchu" and moved on. I didn't want to say anything else because their sister, who they aren't out to, was right there.

anyway, how should I support them? obviously i should use their preferred name and pronouns, but since I don't see them very often I wouldn't want to accidentally out them while referring to them. but i also don't want to go around just deadnaming and misgendering my friend to other people.

also, should I offer to help her come out? i know her parents, and they seem supportive to me, so I think she would be fine to come out to them as transfemme (or however she identifies, i'm really not sure, all I know is she uses she/they pronouns and a more feminine name). i mean they know I'm trans and are fine with it. she also feels like she can't tell them for some other reason, which I've definitely felt, so would it be a good idea to offer to be there as a coach/mentor/older sibling?

Like i am born female and I kinda connect to womanhood but not in that way , like i also want to experience being like a guy at the same time but not in truly man way , also i don't want to be like man or woman at the same time and don't want to express any gender fully , i am just fed up of this shit when people hate and tell it's performative , especially some LGBTQ+ people

I still don't really know what I want.

Hi to Enbys who are in the same or similar situation like me. I would like to encourage and support people who are going through hardships as a individual living in a unsupportive or toxic atmosphere. I would like tell you that you can express yourself in many forms (as for myself i do it through writing and drawing and sharing it to communities like this.

What are some creative ways do you all express yourself in this community?

For starters: 1.I'm talking about aesthetic attraction mostly because I'm on the aroace ✨ spectrum ✨ 2. This is a light hearted post because just wanted to talk about something funny

The way my gender is best described is fluidflux, and I've known for a while that I'm definitely into men/masc NB people which I thought was me being straight... Until I realised I was NB and I'm actually into men in a very gay way.

What I've now realised is that I'm also into masc women, definitely in a lesbian way. Which is my second gay awakening.

Now tell me about your gay awakening(s) I wanna hear them because you only ever hear about them from binary people. Where are my gay enbies at?

You are all beautiful 🫶🏼

I also did some cat-like makeup for the fun of it. I personally like makeup more in the sense of painting my face than using it “correctly” lol.

I thino this the best flair to use

So I (18M?) recently began questioning my identity. For a while, I can remember wanting to be/have a more fem look to myself but would always shoot down those ideas because I personally think I look ugly with a more feminine look and also have had little energy and motivation to actually make the changes to myself. (I always feel ugly but it makes it even worse). I have been sitting on demiboy for a while because I know I'm a man but certain aspects about me make me question if I'm 100% masculine.

One memory that has been sitting with me for a while was one from a few months ago. I was at home, doing a repair job on my Blahaj and I was wearing my favorite badass leather jacket outfit. My dad came into my room and pointed out the juxtaposition, that I am wearing a tough guy outfit while sewing up and caring for a plushie, I feel like my interests aren't really gendered so I was a little confused and I think that cracked the egg a little. I hate my body hair so so so much, I hate it but have given up shaving because of my lack of motivation to do anything really. It just keeps coming back no matter what I do and it hurts, I hate it. Another part about me that I hate is my fat distribution, this is the one I'm the most confused about. Do I hate myself because I'm fat (not really but do have some chub) or do I hate myself because of where the fat is located. Like if they were in my thighs like women's are would I feel better? IDK. The final one is my sex drive/horniness. I have suffered from a mild porn addiction for about 4ish years that I have tried to quit but it has been hard and I have relapsed many times. Part of me thinks that my high testosterone levels might be playing a factor into it. Like this morning when I woke up cuddling with my bf I had this overwhelming horniness and my penis became so sensitive that any movement would cause it to rub against something and send a powerful shock all across my body.

I hate these aspects about me and it's gotten to the point where I only wear one outfit that hides all the stuff I hate about myself because I'm broke and can't afford more nice outfits like the one I have now. But then again, I just feel like a guy and nothing else. I think I am just a guy who hates parts about himself, sometimes I do wish to have other sex characteristics but don't ever find myself identifying as anything other than a man. IDK what's going on anymore. The main reason I'm confused is because demiboy is supposed to be a connection mostly to masc but also another gender but I don't feel any other gender besides man. I don't feel anything besides man I just don't like male characteristics but I don't have bottom dysphora and like idk my brain is just so fucked up I'm just ranting at this point, I feel like every time I do research or try and figure out what I am I take two steps forward and 3 steps back or sometimes 3 steps foward and 2 steps back.

I wish I just understood what I am without confusion.

I have a stupid amount of T vials each left with one of my weekly doses (they're 1 ml and I take .5 ml/weekly). I want to find some creative uses for it other than just... throwing it away, it's a lot of waste. I don't even know what I'd begin to do though. Condense them into a huge bottle and make a custom label for it called tmaxxing? Hm.

I grew up in a religious household where I was always supposed to be the boy who grows up and saves the princess. But then I grew up and realized that I didn't really want to be the boy to a level I realized I had dysphoria and while I'm very similar to trans women, I take estrogen and progesterone. I'm just not one. Sometimes I enjoy being a boy I just don't like being seen as one of the dudes tho I do enjoy being one of the girls and I thought I had to pick one even though I always go back and forth but then I discovered something that changed me and that's baphomet they don't rly have a gender any pronouns would be correct and they have breast and a phallus like ok twin. Idk that's a lil crazy but I find him so relatable and I've been on hrt for a while working to my goals of being more like her. I'm absolutely getting him tattooed someday nude because they unironically mean a lot to me. Sorry this is so random btw I was looking at old Islamic art (I love religious studies) and saw what looked like a baphomet demon next to Iblis and went on a baphomet deep dive. Anyway we're all gonna die and we can do whatever it is that we please forever.