My chest feels a little tight and I feel a little nauseous, but at the same time I feel better.

He’s just started college recently, and I have of course told him that I’m here and not pressuring him to give me all of his attention, that I want him to do well in his classes.
The thing I didn’t say to him that has been on my mind though, is that he has a lot of time to do other things, like go out and talk to friends. I don’t mind that at all. But it was obvious that I was definitely not top priority.

I thought he was cute, smart, and funny, (I’m also trans, and he was one of the first relationships to treat me like a normal person in that regard) but then it wasn’t really long enough for us to get to know each other before the emotional and communicational distance started to tank the relationship. I’m glad we called things off now.

I’m really proud of myself for how I communicated everything and handled it. I’m very much a people pleaser, so this experience feels like gaining control over my life, and I do think I’ll be better for it.

I think the thing I’m most frustrated about (or that I’m trying to focus on instead of the breakup itself) is that I spent money on him. 😤

So today I (24M) just had a video call with my LD girlfriend (25) for the first time. I'm in Norway and she's in Georgia. We're not more than two weeks into our relationship, but we wanted to see each other this way so much that we decided to do a call already. I was so incredibly nervous, but oh my god I love her even more now 😭 Its hard to do small talk when English is the second language of both of us, and we had some awkward silences where we just looked at each other, but it all went fine and we laughed a lot and talked about all sorts of stuff, and she's thankfully way more of a talker than I am. The line even broke in 10 minutes in and I thought I was done for 😔 But she simply called me back. This is the first serious relationship for both of us, and this feels like a great step on the way. I finally feel like I have a direction in life..

My mom took us to a Halloween themed trail, we went to an indoor waterpark, and did some shopping in Frankenmuth. All around a great time together 🩷

Hi all, I need some advice or tips or something to help clear my mind. These last 2 weeks of seeing my boyfriend for the first time have been amazing! He is everything he has portrayed across calls and texts, he is sweet and kind, he's bought me gifts and thought of me daily since I've been here, I have too of course! I'm heading back home in a week (26th) on an early flight. Whilst I miss my cat (I left them with a neighbour to look after) and would be happy back home as well, I know I will miss my boyfriend and I will miss his company and just being around him. I'm autistic, an over-thinker and I just know I will miss him so much. How do I handle/overcome or anything that can help ease my mind with traveling back and going back to just calls and texting.

Also have a picture of the sunset tonight

I’m currently in the process of moving to my partner’s country so we can get married and start building a life together. ❤️

I’d love to hear from those who have gone through something similar! What has your experience been like, both the good and the challenging parts? I’d really appreciate hearing your stories, advice, and anything you wish you had known before making the move.

she said she won’t talk to me until i do something which will make her very happy.
we are in a long distance so without communicating i don’t know what we can do
i sent her food yesterday
i started writing long paragraphs on how much i appreciate her and how much i love her.
what else can i do can you guys help me out.
Thank you.

My boyfriend and I have been in a long-distance relationship for almost 3 years. Whenever we have an argument or a problem, instead of talking things through and fixing it together, he disappears and stops communicating with me.

The longest he has gone without talking to me was 2 and a half months. After that, he comes back as if nothing happened, and somehow we continue the relationship. He even promised me that he would never do it again, but when we had another problem, he did exactly the same thing and disappeared again.

I’m emotionally exhausted because I feel like I’m the only one willing to communicate and work through our problems. I understand that people sometimes need space after an argument, but I don’t think disappearing for weeks or months without any explanation is healthy, especially in a long-distance relationship where communication is so important.

What makes it harder is that he keeps promising to change, but his actions never seem to match his words.

For those who have experienced something similar, what did you do? Should I give him another chance, or is this a sign that I need to walk away? How do you stop holding on to someone you love when they keep repeating the same behavior despite promising to change?

I’d really appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have been in long-term LDRs or dealt with a partner who repeatedly disappears during conflicts.

My boyfriend “Grant” (28m) has been in the military the past 6 years. I (28f) have known him since we were 8 because he was my brother’s best friend growing up.

I’ve had a crush on him since we met and he started having a crush on me in high school. Long story short (I’ll just skip with the details) we’ve been in a relationship the past 3 years and I am so happy he’s coming home for good!

I am so excited to see him! He’s driving home so he can have his car and it’ll be a 2 day trip. I have a random question though.

I will be at his family’s house with them waiting for him when he comes home and when he comes out of his car, should I let his mom hug him first or could I be the one to hug him first?

I don’t know the etiquette if there even is one. He’s got a younger sister too that I’m sure wants to run and hug him but I hate to be hugged last😅

His family knows that we are planning on getting married and we’re gonna look for rings while he’s home, so it’s not that this isn’t a serious relationship.

What should I do?

My boyfriend and have been dating for 2 years and we have been long distance for 1.5 years. In the past 1.5 years, we saw each other once last October. We’re meeting soon and then I’m also planning to fly out to see him more now that I saved money.

We had a conversation about him being really sex deprived. He had been saying it every so often but this time he came to me asking for help or suggestions. He basically told me he’s overly horny, he’s not going to be okay, and his hormones are going out of control.

I get it because we haven’t done it in genuinely a year. But he mentioned seeing a prostitute “jokingly” and then said “but i guess not because you’d hate me forever” and didn’t give any other solution besides that. He’s been acting weird lately…

1. He’s been asking me what I would do if he cheated on me, and then told me to forgive him if I ever did. I never even mention cheating on him bc I know I won’t
2. He’s been messaging random girls on discord to be friends. Originally he told me that girls and guys can’t be friends and so I purposely don’t respond to guys in my college trying to text me, even if they are super innocent texts that are from guys I have mutual friends with. He showed me his messages with one girl because I was curious. She genuinely sends him selfies and then they have these super long back and forth texting conversations. She wanted to call him last midnight to watch him screen-share a game 💀

He said no though since he was about to sleep. But

1. he keeps texting her even though he says she probably likes him. She lives in the same city as him too :/.
2. He has this kink that I told him I’m not comfortable doing. So he mentioned (maybe as a joke???) wanting to have sex with another girl to do it with instead. But says he doesn’t want to hurt me.

And then that in combination with him saying he’s needs to have sex. Like he’s needs to fuck and fulfill his physical needs. Although he told me “I don’t want to fuck whores”. He also thinks I’m being confusing when I say that I’m going to break up with him if he fucks someone else and also say that it’s his choice to make though if he wants to hook up with other people. (If he’s going to want to cheat I rather it happen sooner than later).

I just feel very doubtful right now. I genuinely don’t trust him well and we are seeing eachother so soon so I want to feel better but I just haven’t the last 5 days. Additionally, he told me that I come to him when I’m sad too much that it looks like I’m seeking attention. And it reminds him of the boy who cried wolf. So i don’t feel comfortable telling him how much this hurts me. I just feel disrespected that he even believes these things and feels the desire to talk or fuck other girls. I know he values a relationship with me but still feel bitter.

What can I do to make this relationship better? I’m already planning to see him more often but he brought this up genuinely a few days before meeting me.

(Me 39 F) (M 35)
So we finally met, after talking for a year and never meeting we had only face time calls, and texting pretty much every day.
When he first pulled up he seemed very nervous. And he kept smiling saying “is that really you i cant believe it☺️”.
From my pov i thought it was going to be this great thing, lots of hugs and kisses etc since we’ve been official since like the first day we met online. I had to ask for a hug. Mind you I’m in a different country. I moved from America to a place in Europe. Although where I’m at it’s still 5h from where he works. Initially i was moving here and we decided what days would be best for him to take off to see me. However his family lives in this town. So I’m splitting time with them. He stays with them a few days and then comes to see me.

He has a drinking problem and seem to be less shy when drinking. It’s been 5 days and we have only had sex 1 day which was the first day we met.(and he was drinking). I asked this morning why we haven’t had sex, which is kind of a big deal for me, he said he’s waiting on me to initiate. When i have told him I’m not good at initiating. And before we met, he’s always told me that’s nothing i will have to worry about cause he’s got it 😂. BUT in reality, it seems like he doesn’t. Our connection just seemed so much stronger online. He’s actually shocked how petite i am when I’ve told him how small i was in stats. And i do social media so it’s pretty visible. When he left this morning i mentioned he didn’t even kiss me goodbye before he went to his mothers. He texted me back with “😘”. lol i don’t know if i should break up or not. He seems very socially awkward. Which is fine for me. But i don’t know how to handle that. Im at the point in my life, do you like me or not? If not tell me. We had a deep talk last night and i asked how will we handle the distance etc. and he said he’s ok with it and he likes me. But for me sex is super important to me. If we don’t have that when we meet up, we have nothing. When i was in the states we hardly let 30 min go by when we were communicating now that hes here sometimes it will be hours before he text me. And im not the type of person to just keep texting. If i dont get a text, im not texting. Anyway i just dont know what to do or just tell him im not feeling this.

Hello world

Long story short:

I (F32) fell in love with a girl (F31) a few months ago and we’ve had a beautiful romance since then. We can see a future together. Problem is she had to move overseas and we are now living apart for at least some years. We’re not monogamous but she’s in a big city where she has way more options than me and I’m scared that there’s gonna be a huge imbalance where she dates a lot and has lots of hook ups and I don’t. I feel insecure and jealous but I am really in love with her. How do you deal with this?

I (18M) and my girlfriend (18F) are both in different universities and are about 4 hours of commute away from eachother. She has proposed to go on a break for mental health reasons regarding her attachment to myself and previous Ex-boyfriends. She has had issues with her Father in the past and she has hardly been single for her whole teenage life.

We’ve been together for just over a year now and we spoke a little about how it might be good for us to go on a short break in order for her to get therapy and understand herself more and be less reliant. Yesterday she called saying that we should go on a break and that it could be for months but she doesnt really know how long this could last. I feel absolutely terrible because of the large amount of vagueness she spoke with when we talked about it and how everytime i asked whether or not we would remain exclusive on the break (which i really do want as we do love eachother very much) she would say that that wasnt the main point of the break and why she needed it instead of saying either yes or no. She ended up saying that she does want us to be exlcusive and i made the point that if she was to do something with other people that would be the end of the relationship for me and she said that it wouldnt end things for her if i did something along the same lines.

Maybe im overthinking this but that last part just makes me feel so bad about everything and overall im just worried about wasting the next however many months on a “break” when at the end of it she could just say something which could end the relationship. I love her and i really want this to work out I’m just worried and need some guidance as to whether or not breaks on long distance relationships work.

¡Hola! ¿Cómo están? Bueno, necesito algunos consejos porque es la primera vez que tengo una relación a distancia y todo es tan hermoso.

La situación es esta: hace unas semanas lo conocí y salió todo re bien, tanto que mis papás quisieron conocerlo y lo invitaron a cenar. Les encantó!

Nunca viajé sola y tampoco experimenté algo así, así que para mí todo es nuevo y, por lo tanto, para ellos también. Mis papás son de la vieja generación y les cuesta un poco más adaptarse a estas cosas.

Él es la persona más buena, hermosa, atenta y amorosa del mundo. Realmente, no sé qué hacer para convencer a mis papás de que me dejen viajar. Tengo pensado ir a verlo para mi cumpleaños.

Algún consejo que me quieran dar?

Really weird question, but I (21F) wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this because I’m quite a sensitive person and not really sure how to deal with it.

I just got back home this week after spending a month and a half with my boyfriend (23M), and I’ve been struggling a little with the adjustment back to long distance.

We both lost our virginities to each other, and got to experience a lot of physical intimacy that we obviously don’t get to have when we’re apart. It was genuinely such an amazing experience that made the wait and distance worth it. But now that I’m back home, I feel like i’ve lost interest in masturbating, having virtual sex, or sending nudes. Even when I’m in the mood, I feel kind of guilty/sad, or even unfulfilled afterwards?

Having experienced what it’s like to actually be physically close to him, doing things virtually doesn’t feel the same as it did before. He was genuinely fantastic and I miss being able to touch him, cuddle with him, and just have him there with me. Doing any intimate action online now just kind of reminds me that he could make me feel so much better, but he isn’t actually here and it makes me really emotional.

Is this is a normal response and does it get easier over time? It’s been less than a week so maybe it’s too soon to tell. Is there anything I could do to make it easier to cope when we are back to long distance?

please help me, i don’t want to cry anymore while trying to do things solo lol :,)

Two weeks. That’s all it took for us to find a connection that felt so good.
A connection that didn’t have to make sense, yet somehow, it did.
A connection that made the longing for someone feel a little less lonely.
A connection that made us both feel seen, heard, and understood.

I know our worlds are different. When it’s daytime here, it’s nighttime there. But somehow, the distance didn’t stop us from finding happiness in each other.

But sometimes, even the most beautiful connections aren’t enough to overcome reality.

We can’t force something to work just because it feels right. Sometimes, life reminds us that wanting something and being able to have it are two different things.

And maybe that’s the hardest part. Knowing that something can be so beautiful and still not be the right time.

I hope that someday, when life feels a little kinder and the timing is right, our paths cross again.

And maybe, just maybe, we’ll get to see what this could have been.

So my bf wants me to send my used panties IK THIS IS WEIRD but he asked me to masturbate wearing them and send it along with some spicy polaroids to the US and I learnt that its actually not allowed to send unclean underwear what do i do I dont want anyone to open my package either do the customs open and check everything? and what would happen if they do?
Also im using a separate shipping company who might also open it and inspect or atleast thats what google told me
I saw a similar query about this but i cant find the post anymore so making my own please let me know if you’ve shipped panties out before (esp to the states)

I am getting hard so often on my girl like we can call 3 hours and most of the time I am hard, I dont mention it because I also want to talk with her but I feel I am overly attracted to her, Can anyone tell me if this is normal?

I dont watch porn and I dont get the same feelings on another girl but with her its overly obssessed

I have met her before "we are in LDR" and by just holding her hand I was also getting hard

I remember a day where I keep asking to sit down because I am getting hard

Hey guys,

Me (27M) and my girlfriend (25F) are finally meeting after almost 3 months apart, and we're planning to spend the whole day together in a private room from 10 AM to 7 PM.

We’re really excited to see each other, but I don’t want us to get bored or waste the entire day just scrolling on our phones.

I want the day to be romantic, fun, intimate, and memorable for both of us. We want to spend quality time together, talk, cuddle, watch something, eat, and just enjoy being around each other after so long.

For couples who have done something similar:

\- How would you plan the day from 10 AM to 7 PM?

\- What food, snacks, and drinks should we bring or order?

\- Any romantic or fun activities we can do together in the room?

\- Any movie recommendations?

\- How do we make the day feel special without spending too much?

\- Any tips for making the reunion comfortable and memorable?

We both want to enjoy our time together without rushing anything.

Would love to hear your suggestions and experiences! ❤️

Im sure everyones dealt with this before but I just need to get this out there.

I(M19) have known my gf(F19) about a decade. Weve been friends for so long and about Sophmore year she moved away. We later reconnected online and started talking and calling. We met online and found out we live in the same place when we were kids so playing games agajn just like old times was great. Eventually we grew feelings and now have been in an ldr for a year and a half. Ive met her entire family and they all approve of me. But my parents strongly dissaprove. Ive jsut had an argument with my mother until my nose bled and have been sobbing for an hour because Im tired. They always send me stuff trying to make it seem like my gfs untrustworthy. My mother today told me directly long distance doesnt work out. And that words are just words like I love you and I care about you. Shes always telling me things trying to get me to overthink my relationship which doesnt ever work. My girlfriend and Is plans are that we marry and move within 2 years. My parents dont know this and theyre doing everything in their power to try to convince me to break up with her. They wont let her visit, they wont let me fly and visit her, they wont even let her come to holidays with the family. Im miserable and dont know what I should do.

When my bf comes to visit, we switch pillow cases so when we sleep after he leaves, it smells like the other person 🩷 anyone else do something like this??

I’m in a relatively new, long-distance relationship of about 3 months. My boyfriend has been struggling with a very demanding job and has repeatedly told me how exhausted and overwhelmed he feels. He has also been dealing with other difficult things in his personal life.

In the weeks before this silence, he was still affectionate. He checked on me, asked whether I was eating and sleeping properly, and told me he loved and missed me. He has withdrawn for short periods before when sick or preparing for difficult work trips, but this time has been different.

It has now been nine days without a reply. We didn’t have an argument or a breakup conversation beforehand. I have sent him messages letting him know I care about him and that he doesn’t need to reply until he feels ready. I’m now trying to give him space.

Part of me thinks he may be overwhelmed and shutting down emotionally. Another part of me is afraid that he may be distancing himself from the relationship or ghosting me.

I’m trying to be understanding because I know he has real problems to deal with, but the uncertainty is affecting me emotionally, and I don’t know how long I can keep waiting without an explanation.

For those who have experienced something similar?
*Did your partner eventually return and explain what happened?
*How did you distinguish genuine overwhelm from someone gradually leaving the relationship?
*How did you take care of yourself while you didn’t know what was happening?

I’m not looking for anyone to guarantee that my partner will return. I would appreciate honest experiences, especially from people who have been through something similar. Thank you…