My boyfriend and I are in a little bit of a bad situation and I was just wondering if we could have some opinions and some advice.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and our relationship is long distance. He’s struggling with money and he hasn’t been able to get a job in Lebanon for 2 years. This has been a major issue in our relationship as he wants to come and visit me but he cant. I work during the summer and then the entire of the winter I don’t work. We are always on FaceTime together ect and it’s great but it feels like it’s going to stay online forever. He’s told me multiple times he’s tried to get a job but there’s no one at all hiring him and he’s tried everywhere. He’s a great guy and I love him a lot but there’s many things I don’t like. I don’t like how he lives with his mom at 30 years old and I don’t like how he hasn’t achieved anything in life but he tells me money isn’t everything🤷🏼‍♀️ So I started asking his family what I should do and the 2 women he lives with said to give him a deadline on when he has to get a job by and if he doesn’t do is remain friends with him until he does. I’m lost tbh!
TL;DR

I was talking to a girl from New Zealand while I live far far away, over 10,000 km away. We met online and became really close friends over the course of several months. We would text every day, talk about random things, our goals, our lives, and just about anything. Eventually, she became someone I genuinely looked forward to talking to every day.
Over time, I developed feelings for her. We were never officially in a relationship, and we never met in real life, but the connection felt special to me.
One day, we had a misunderstanding. We talked about it, cleared things up, and I thought everything was fine. However, afterward, she gradually started becoming distant. Her replies became colder, and our friendship didn’t feel the same anymore. Eventually, she made it clear that she knew I had feelings for her and didn’t want me to treat her like a girlfriend or give me false hope about a future together.

I tried to understand what had changed because I genuinely valued our friendship and didn’t want to lose it. I know I could have handled some of my emotions and communication better, but I was hurt and confused by how different things had become.
Eventually, we had another conversation about it, things got heated, and she ended the friendship completely. She told me not to contact her again, and I’ve respected that. We haven’t spoken since December 2025. I am blocked on every single platform.

It’s now been almost 10 months, and I’m still struggling with it almost every day. The part that makes this feel so strange is that I’ve never met her. I’ve never seen her in person, hugged her, kissed her, or been in a relationship with her. Yet losing this friendship has hurt me more than I ever expected.
I think what hurts most is that I genuinely wanted her to remain part of my life. I imagined us continuing to be friends, talking about our lives and goals, and being there for each other. Instead, the friendship ended, and I have to accept that someone I cared about so much is no longer part of my life.

My own life hasn’t been going great either. I’ve been unemployed since graduating, and most of my days feel repetitive. I spend a lot of time at home, applying for jobs, studying, walking, and trying to improve myself. Sometimes I feel like my life has been standing still while everyone else moves forward. I think the loneliness has made it even harder to let go.

I’ve tried deleting old pictures, avoiding old messages, keeping myself busy, praying, and telling myself to move on. But I still find myself replaying our conversations, wondering what went wrong, and missing the friendship we had.

I don’t want to contact her, and I respect her decision. I just want to stop carrying this pain every day and genuinely move forward with my life.

For anyone who’s experienced something similar, how did you actually get over it? How do you stop replaying the past, accept that the person is gone, and move on when you never even got to meet them in real life? What genuinely helped you heal rather than just distract yourself for a while?

I’d appreciate honest advice, especially from people who’ve been through something similar.

I met a guy online about 7-8 months ago on a random forum. We hit it off and started talking every single day.
Early on, he asked about my age, my name, and where I lived. Because I was being cautious with online safety (and honestly assumed we’d stop talking after a week), I lied about all three (don't worry, I’m an adult).

At first, the lies didn't bother me at all; I had essentially created a persona because I was convinced we wouldn't last more than a week, and I wanted to stay safe (with all the creeps and psychos online, you never know).
As time went on, we grew really close, but I kept up the fake persona out of fear. Now, months later, these lies are weighing heavily on me. I feel awful about not being honest, but I know that coming clean will most likely mean the end of whatever this "relationship" is.
Now I feel stuck…

What should I do? Should I just tell him everything and accept the breakup, or end things without confessing?

So basically it started around September 2024.... I met this girl when I was 22 and she was 23....so we met through an online game. At first i wasn't interested in getting attached so we just used to play games daily.... The game turned into attachment....At this point she didn't even reveal her name...after a lot of argument she revealed her nick name that's like after 2 3 months....then it took another 2 months to reveal her full name total 5 months she took to reveal her full name and place where she live(not adress just city name).

Every time there will be arguments regarding why she is so closed...like it's been 5 10 months I haven't even seen her....never heard her voice don't even know her ig or number......i kept on adjusting like it's gonna take time she gonna open up one day....butt nahh every time i argue about it and try to come out if it....she tried to bond back....by that i got to hear her voice and her pic (not full half face cropped) i couldn't even identify her if i confront in real also

And

Also the main thing is that I stopped talking with every female friends and all....i started ignoring all the female frnds for the sake of her.....yah at that time female frnd came around to 0.....also she did everything like she into me and from game frnds i even heard from her side frnds that she likes me...

Then after a year we had an argument again about her being so secured against me like i haven't seen her like crctly....also i don't even have her insta or number....we text in game all the time

Then finally she gave her insta...guess what she said that I can't follow her...bcz her mom gonna check her phone😂😂..... she's already having 250+ followers and following....i was so stupid i even trusted her and said it's ok and i even asked i won't msg you there just keep me as followers noone gonna know....she argued that mom gonna check etc etc and i believed her

Note- she created a fake id to text me there but she can't add me to her real id

Then after 1.5 years....i was completely exhausted of doing everything.... waiting for one day she gonna open up....she's gonna put effort for me....all those couples who share pics after getting ready for one another here's me I haven't even seen her correctly....so i left her around dec 2025...she tried too manipulate me by saying i put effort blah blah....her efforts was she used to text me...play games...send me reels fron her fake id does all these counts as efforts?....i have never seen a tiny if care from her side....i ever wanted from her was care, trust,love, commitment..

# Around feb 2026 i was kinda feeling like i hurt her i never gave closure to her....so i tried talking to her being sry and it's all my fault this is how i am.....i just wanted to give closure to her so she can move on..

Guess what she is still on the try of manipulating me told me she hasn't done anything after i left....even she tried committing scide.... I don't know how much real it is or fake it was....but only thing i was wondering if she truly loved me why i felt lack of care love trust.....i never asked for her any adult things...i kept everything pure i never abused her even though i was angry....yah after hearing her lies and trying to manipulating me.... I stopped talking with her feb that's the last time i talked to her i guess....

So i was wondering what I did was right?...if i did something wrong what was it

honestly its still kinda crazy that i am getting married to a guy whom i met online in 2018! we had a whole distance of 15000km between us! we have been living together since late 2022 and are now finally getting married next weekend. my family is arriving here in like 4 days to attend the wedding, its so crazy 💃✨💒

I recently ended a seven-month long-distance relationship, and honestly, I'm still trying to understand everything that happened. I don't know whether I miss her, the person she used to be with me, or simply the feeling of having someone in my life.

March–June: How it started

We met through an online game. What began as casual conversations gradually turned into hours of talking every night, video calls, watching movies together, and falling for each other. We had a lot in common and similar expectations for the future.

She was the one who initially asked where things were going. I took some time to be sure about my feelings, but eventually, I told her I loved her. For those first few months, everything felt natural and exciting. We talked almost every day, sometimes for hours, and I genuinely felt that we were building something meaningful.

In June, she moved away for her MBA. I was happy for her and wanted her to enjoy this new phase of life.

July–August: Things started changing

As college became busier, our conversations became shorter and less frequent. Initially, I understood. But gradually, I found myself waiting every night for her to be free.

There were days when she didn't reply to my messages or return my missed calls, even after posting on social media. I understand that being busy is real, but I struggled with the feeling that she could find time for other things while our conversations kept getting postponed.

My anxiety started increasing. I began overthinking small things and feeling disappointed more often than I wanted to admit.

My birthday was another difficult moment. I had hoped we'd talk at midnight, but she called later because she was busy. She sent me a cake and flowers, which I appreciated, but she couldn't join a short video call when I asked her to cut the cake together. It wasn't about the cake or the exact time. I just wanted to feel that she was present.

We also planned to meet in person, but my travel plans fell through. Later, we discussed how distant we had become, and I explained how I felt I was carrying most of the relationship emotionally.

September: We met, and things felt good again

I eventually travelled to meet her near her college. It was our first meeting, and we spent two days together eating, watching things, talking, and getting to know each other in person.

It was genuinely good. We apologised to each other and decided to start fresh.

For about a week after I returned, things felt like they had in the beginning. She seemed excited to talk again, and I felt hopeful.

But gradually, the same pattern returned. Calls were missed, messages went unanswered, and sometimes we wouldn't talk properly for an entire day.

I tried to be patient because she had exams. I thought things might improve afterward, but there were also college events and celebrations, and I increasingly felt that our relationship wasn't receiving much attention.

I was asking about her day, whether she had eaten, and how she was feeling. But I didn't feel that the same curiosity or concern was coming back toward me. Even when I mentioned that I was unwell, I sometimes felt that what I said went unnoticed.

I started wondering whether I was expecting too much or whether I was simply asking for the bare minimum.

The breakup

Eventually, I asked her whether she thought our relationship was working.

She immediately asked if I wanted to break up. We had discussed this possibility before, but I had never been able to say it.

This time, I said yes.

She asked me to understand how busy her life was. I had tried to understand that for months, and I knew her circumstances were real. But I also felt that understanding her had become my responsibility, while my own feelings kept getting pushed aside.

She asked whether we could talk later because she had an assignment. She called back afterward and said she wanted to give the relationship another try. However, by then, I felt exhausted. I couldn't tell whether she genuinely wanted to work on things or whether neither of us wanted to let go.

We said goodbye.

She told me I was a good person and apologised for not being able to give me enough time. I unfollowed her initially, but a few days later, I followed her again because constantly checking her profile and thinking about whether she would notice my absence was making it harder for me to move on.

I still don't fully understand how I feel.

What I'm struggling with now

I don't hate her. I know she had her own life, responsibilities, and experiences. I also know I made mistakes. Sometimes I overthought situations, became insecure, or let my expectations affect my mood.

But I genuinely tried to make the relationship work, and eventually, I felt that I was losing my peace of mind trying to hold on to it.

Now I'm questioning whether ending it was the right decision. I wonder whether I should have been more patient, whether I expected too much, or whether we simply wanted different things from a relationship.

I'm also struggling with anxiety and the habit of checking her social media. I don't know whether I miss her specifically or the connection we had in the beginning.

I'd appreciate honest advice on a few things:

1. Was ending the relationship reasonable, given the pattern I described, or should I have tried longer?
2. How do you distinguish between a partner genuinely being busy and a relationship no longer being a priority?
3. How do you stop overthinking after a breakup and break the habit of checking your ex's social media?
4. How do you move on when the relationship had genuinely good moments, and you don't necessarily think the other person was a bad person?

I'm not looking for people to hate on her. I just want some perspective because, for seven months, this person was a significant part of my life, and I'm still trying to make sense of how things changed so much.

Hope this gives someone Hope

Hi everyone. I could really use some honest advice because I don’t know how to look at this situation objectively anymore. I’m [17F]. Foster is [17M], and we had a situationship from April to early August 2026. Ravi [19M], and we’ve been getting closer recently, in October 2026. From April to early August, I had a complicated situation with a guy I’ll call Foster. I liked him a lot, and the way he treated me made me think that there might be something between us. He would text me first, give me special attention, tell me I was special, talk to me late at night, and hug me longer than he seemed to hug other people. There were other things, too, that made our connection feel different from an ordinary friendship. Eventually, I confessed my feelings, but nothing really came of it. Foster briefly brought up the conversation about a week later, but we never properly discussed what had happened or what he actually wanted. Things gradually faded, leaving me confused and hurt. I still don’t know whether I misunderstood his intentions or whether he genuinely felt something but didn’t want to pursue it. Now it’s October, and I’ve started getting close to another guy, whom I’ll call Ravi. He seems interested in dating me. He drops romantic hints, gives me gifts, treats me sweetly, and makes me feel special. On its own, this would be a good thing. The problem is that his behavior reminds me of Foster’s in ways that are becoming increasingly difficult for me to ignore. It’s not just that they’re both nice to me. There have been several oddly specific similarities, including exact phrases used in very similar contexts. For example, Ravi once texted me, “You have one minute,” along with a sticker. Foster had sent me the exact same phrase with a sticker before. Ravi also joked that I should see a speech therapist because I sometimes mistype words or mix up letters. Foster made the same joke months earlier. Another example is a message Foster sent me in July: “Is that how much you trust me?” About a month ago, Ravi sent me those exact words. These are only a few examples. There are many more similarities, and some of them feel unusually specific. I can’t share screenshots right now because I’ve reached the image upload limit, but I may be able to share some later if that would help explain what I mean. I understand that individual phrases can be coincidences, and I know that people can have similar habits or senses of humor. I’m not claiming that these similarities prove anything. However, the number of them is starting to unsettle me, especially because the emotional dynamic feels familiar, too. I’m scared that I’ll become attached to Ravi, start believing that I’m special to him, and then watch him lose interest and distance himself once he gets tired of the attention or emotional closeness. I’m afraid of ending up in the same confusing situation I experienced with Foster, where I was left wondering what any of it meant. There’s another thing that makes me cautious. Ravi and I originally met through a social circle I’ve since left. From what I observed, substance use and smoking were common there, and I knew several people in that group who cheated on their partners with other people from the same circle. Ravi still seems to associate with some of them. I know that someone’s friends don’t automatically determine their character, and I don’t want to judge Ravi for other people’s actions. Still, knowing the kind of relationship behavior I witnessed in that group makes me nervous about whether we have the same views on commitment and fidelity. I genuinely don’t know how much of this is my previous experience influencing my perception and how much deserves my attention. I don’t want to push away someone who might sincerely care about me just because I’m scared of getting hurt again. At the same time, I don’t want to ignore warning signs and end up in a situation that leaves me feeling the way I did before. I’m looking for honest opinions, not just reassurance or automatic agreement. How would you interpret this situation? Do these similarities sound like ordinary coincidences, or would you also find them unsettling? How can I tell the difference between anxiety caused by a painful past experience and a legitimate reason to be cautious? And if you were in my position, how would you approach Ravi? I want to protect myself emotionally without accusing him of something I can’t prove or ruining a potentially good connection out of fear. Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this. TL;DR: I’m 17F, and I’m getting close to Ravi (19M) after a confusing situationship with Foster (17M) that ended a couple of months ago. Ravi’s behavior includes many oddly specific similarities to Foster’s, and I’m afraid of repeating the same painful experience. I’m looking for advice on how to approach this new connection, understand Ravi’s intentions, and protect myself emotionally without letting my past dictate how I treat him.

So, I have been talking to this guy almost everyday straight for about 8 months now. We text throughout the entire day. We are both each other's first and last person that we text everyday, wishing each other good morning and good night. We have so much in common, and I'm head over heels in love with him. But I don't think he feels the same. He tells me everything about his life— even about the other girls he's dating and such. None of them have worked out so far. I always act supportive, but it breaks my heart every time I hear about him seeing other girls.

I hate feeling like this. There are times where we're a little flirty, calling each other pet names and such. And then the next day I feel like he's talking to me like I'm one of his bros. Which yes, we are, but idk all this emotional intimacy confuses me. I know realistically it probably won't work out because of our distance, and the fact he probably doesn't even have feelings for me.

I guess I'm just asking how to get over him? I can't even think about dating other guys because all I'm thinking about is him. I need to move on, and I don't know how. I've been thinking of maybe distancing myself, but he's my best friend, and I don't want him to feel like I'm ignoring him.

This is about a guy I never met in person, it's long distance and we're not in an official relationship. I met him online around 10 years ago - before you think it lasts so long - I should say it hasn't been a constant relation, we first met years ago on a language learning app, in the meantime I was in a long (typical=offline) relationship with someone else.

So we started talking again this year and despite us living on different continents, he proposed that he would come to my country to finally meet. I should add that years ago he came to Europe (not specifically to my country, but quite close) and I didn't go to meet him (I was really young, didn't even have enough money and also I panicked) and he was insisting it's my turn now, but I am afraid of going alone to LatAm as a woman... And now he's like: okay we have to meet, I will go to your country, let's plan it.

What bothers me, we haven't even had a call, ever! I remember he proposed it once years ago, but I was too uncertain and my English was much worse back then, recently I mentioned it and his approach is "oh I want it to be special, I want to first hear your voice when we meet" isn't it crazy?! I don't really have reasons to think it's a catfish situation or something. But also I know even calling/video calling someone is something else than just texting, you can feel if you click, why would he potentially risk going here without even knowing my voice. I also feel he's a bit uncertain about his looks.

At this point I'm just confused, it would be a lot of sacrifice (and money) from his side and to be honest I would feel better if I knew where we stand/if we still feel chemistry after we talk. Or if he's my type (voice and body language / face impressions are an important part of that!).

me and this guys have never met before .We are from the same town but because i study in another country we still haven’t had a chance to meet. We have talked on facetime and also phone calls and we both want a stable/long term relationship.However he keeps following other girls on instagram and sometimes he doesn’t feel that consistent. We have been talking for almost two months and im going to meet him in december (two months from now 🥲) . Do you think it’s worth it continuing this talking stage because we still haven’t made any commitments of course or just pause it because he is just trying to keep me around?

I met a guy online, and we became really close in a very short time. We’ve had a lot of fights along the way, but we’ve always managed to sort things out, and our bond is getting stronger. He shares everything with me, including his family matters and personal things. He confessed his feelings for me, but I rejected him, and we decided to stay friends. However, he still treats me differently and makes me feel special. We talk on calls and text every day, and even if we miss talking for just one day, he gets upset. What do you guys think about this situation? Do you think he still has feelings for me, or is this just a close friendship?

me and my partner met online on twitter/discord a little over five years ago in 2021, and after a few months of talking, we realized we both had feelings for each other and decided to be in a relationship together. this is my longest relationship, and certainly the most serious despite the circumstances. i am positive even after all this time that they are the person i want to marry and spend the rest of my life with.

there are many factors as to why we have not met, despite december meaning it’ll have been 5 years since we made it official. first of all, we are 850+ mi apart. second, they have a child, and the child has special needs, so it is not as easy to find care that will be suitable for them. third, they have a few health issues that make travel difficult, putting their health at risk. there are other factors involved, ie unsupportive family members, safety as a queer couple, things like that.

i fully understand that due to their situation, i will have to be the one to make the trip, but we can never get the timing right, and lately, i have been worried that i am starting to lose hope.

i am absolutely in love with them, and i know they feel the same. we know this is what we want forever. i think too many outside opinions are getting to me, i have heard the never ending “how do you know it’s real”/“you’re wasting your time”/“are you sure it’s worth it” in a million different wordings, and i try so hard to explain that none of them know the ins and outs of our relationship the way we do. trust me, if it was easy, we would’ve met already.

i want to be happy, but as i see my friends and family moving forward with their big changes in their lives, the countless weddings i have to attend without my partner, the babies born that i watch grow up without them by my side, i’m afraid to say out loud that i feel like i’m missing out, but the thing is i don’t want to do any of that without them.

i guess i’m just asking if anyone has any advice on how to stay positive, and how to keep looking forward despite life seeming to keep us apart.

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I don't really know where to start, but I just need to get this off my chest because I have nobody I feel comfortable talking to about this.

About three months ago, I met a German girl through a game. We started talking, and slowly, she became someone really special to me. She was sweet, and talking to her became one of the best parts of my day. I started looking forward to her messages more than I probably should have.

I've been alone for most of my life. My parents separated when I was five, and I think growing up like that affected me more than I ever realized. I've always struggled with feeling lonely, and when someone finally makes me feel wanted and cared for, I get attached.

Sometimes she would become distant or wouldn't reply much. I know people have their own lives and problems, and I tried to understand that, but I missed her a lot. I would keep checking my phone, hoping she'd text me.

One day, I finally asked her why she was acting that way and why I felt like she was ignoring me. She replied that she didn't have the energy to argue and that she was already hurt.

I had been waiting and hoping we could spend time together, and I was hurt too. Instead of handling things maturely, I told her goodbye and said to take care of herself.

At that moment, I think I was overwhelmed by everything happening in my life. There were family disputes at home, and I was already stressed and emotionally exhausted. I felt like my life was going nowhere, and I started thinking that maybe I would eventually hurt her too.

But after saying goodbye, I missed her terribly. I cried a lot. I kept checking my phone every time a notification appeared, hoping it was her. I kept wondering whether she missed me too or whether I had just thrown away something beautiful.

After two days, I texted her again. I apologized and told her I wanted her to be happy and not sad. I explained that I had been dealing with family problems and wasn't doing well mentally.

She asked if I was feeling okay, and we talked a little, but things weren't the same.

Then, after another couple of days, I told her I missed her so much.

She replied, "I miss you too, but I'm afraid this will happen again."

And honestly, that broke me.

Because I realized that while I was suffering because I missed her, she was also afraid of getting hurt by me again. She had trusted me, and I had made her feel like I could suddenly leave her at any moment.

I don't blame her for being afraid. I understand why she feels that way. I just wish I had handled everything differently.

The truth is, I used to dream about us being together one day. I know we live in different countries, and there are so many obstacles between us. I don't even know whether we would ever have a future together, but I let myself imagine one anyway.

Now I feel stuck between missing her, regretting what I did, and feeling like I'm not good enough for her.

I'm trying to improve my life, but sometimes it feels like I'm struggling with everything at once. My family situation, my loneliness, my future, and now the possibility of losing someone who made me feel less alone.

I hate that I let my emotions get the better of me. I hate that I hurt someone I care about. And I hate that, even after everything, I still keep hoping she'll message me.

I don't know what she feels anymore. Maybe she still cares about me, but she's scared. Maybe things will never be the same. I don't want to pressure her or make her responsible for my happiness. I just wish I knew how to deal with all these feelings without ruining the things that matter to me.

I'm exhausted, honestly. Sometimes I feel like no matter how hard I try, I can't seem to get my life together.

I'm not looking for anyone to tell me she's a bad person or that I'm a victim. I know I made mistakes, and I know she has feelings too.

I just needed somewhere to say all of this because keeping it inside has been hurting me.

Yes i am shocked …but my frnd is dating and she met that guy on reddit 😭😭 and and he is actually nice(as far as i saw his profile text and everything)…..also they are happy together ,fyi they both are young 17-18 ig and i am shocked just cuz ppl assume how hookups and casuals are lil too casual in our gen but here we are ….indeed god has fvrts💔

Tldr: my situationship disappears every thursday

Hi, I’m a 27-year-old woman. I’m a resident doctor with a stable job, and I’m single. About three weeks ago, a guy messaged me on social media, and we started talking. He’s 37, divorced, and has a child.

He seemed really genuine to me, and honestly, almost too honest and open. I was traveling two weeks ago, and I’ve been back home for about a week now. But since I got back, he hasn’t asked me out or suggested that we meet up at all.

We talk every night, usually until we fall asleep, except on Thursdays, Fridays, and Saturdays, when he completely disappears. I know he’s alone on Thursday nights, and he spends the weekends with his son, but I still don’t feel like that’s really an excuse.

What do you guys think? Because honestly, this is starting to drive me crazy.

I’m 21M from Asia, and recently I met an American girl online. What started as a completely random interaction has turned into us talking and getting to know each other.

The thing is… I actually really like her.

We seem to have some things in common, and she has been open to getting to know me better. At one point we were even talking about doing activities together based around our hobbies, which I thought was a really good sign because it takes some of the pressure off just constantly texting each other.

But now I’m kind of stuck on how to approach this properly without screwing this up

We live on opposite sides of the world, so obviously I don’t want to get ahead of myself and start treating this like a relationship when we’re still getting to know each other. At the same time, I don’t want to be so cautious that the whole thing just becomes another boring online friendship where we text occasionally and eventually lose interest.

I also don’t want to overwhelm her. I’d rather build an actual connection naturally and see where it goes for both of us

So for people who have experience with long distance or online friendships and relationships I’d really appreciate some advice:

Like how often should we talk without making it feel forced?

What are some good online activities for two people who are still getting to know each other?

How do you gradually move from texting to actually feeling like you know someone?

How can I show her that I’m interested without coming across as needy or overly intense?

At what point do you actually talk about whether there’s romantic potential?

And realistically, can something like this work when two people live on opposite sides of the world?

I’m not looking for the classic “just be yourself bro” advice plz 😭. I’d genuinely like to hear from people who have actually been in similar situations.

What would you do if you were in my position?

Me and my boyfriend have be dating for 5 months now, he lives in the USA and I live in Canada. I can’t help but feel entitled to a face reveal. He hasn’t shown his face to anyone else, but I feel like since we’re dating it’s something I should have. I’ve subtly asked before but he either hasn’t caught it or is brushing it off.

i’m ngl how does that even work. like would you tell everyone “we met on reddit” 😭

She might not be a catfish, but that leaves me with more questions.

This is my gooning account, because my main account username isn't as anonymous as I'd like.

I left a thirsty compliment on her post, she DM'd me to thank me for the comment and I didn't notice until two months later. Then she, a gorgeous model, almost immediately sent me more stunning professional pics of her directly to my inbox.

Ok, I thought, a catfish and/or scammer. I don't mind receiving stunning model photos so I'll compliment them as long as they come, but I'm sure at some point she'll talk about crypto, or encourage me to switch to Telegram, or tell me to sub to her OF, or reveal a sob story that requires money...

... None of that happened. Instead she told me about her experience modeling, how her and her loving husband met and their kinky sex life, and when she sent me a picture of her mum for no reason I had to ask "Why do you message me all this?"

She was evasive and said she didn't need a reason. I thought she might be a catfish by that point, but this was *not* a scammer's M.O. I asked if her husband knew she was messaging me and she said he does.

We continued the photos for compliments routine for almost two months. I considered that she might also be the kind of catfish who wanted to project an idealised version of herself.

...and then she sent me a nude out of nowhere. Bloody hell, gorgeous, but nothing made sense. I couldn't (and can't) imagine what her motivation for sharing her lewds with me could possibly be. I couldn't imagine a catfish motivation either because she spoke about her life and interests in more detail than I've ever known any catfish to. I've encountered a handful before and used to troll them until they gave up.

Step one: I plugged about a dozen of her photos into an AI detector, and three out of four came back positive... With the disclaimer that edited photos can create a false-positive, on brand for a model. I asked if her and I could exchange Switch codes or voice chat via Telegram, and she was initially receptive to the idea but then evaded it.

Step Two: reverse-image searching her photos, which turned up nothing, though her clothes and phone case all being verifiably real products helps confirm the photos aren't AI.

Step Three: researching how AI tends to generate humans. They struggle with teeth and make people excessively symmetrical. These photos might not be of the person messaging me, but I can confirm they aren't AI. I brushed up catfish patterns, and she *really* doesn't fit.

I did send her a selfie voluntarily (not the smartest move but I cropped the photo and made sure reverse-image search turned up nothing). She sent more lewds and nudes and I kept complimenting her, she's literally asked for nothing else in response.

Then, days ago (and after three months of messaging), it escalated to sexting suddenly, and how she'd do everything but full sex with me. I've still only seen photos (never video) of someone who might not be the person who's been sharing them. Their motivation doesn't make sense to me, but I know I shouldn't underestimate how weird people can be.

Is this a fiction and I'm deluding myself, or is this stranger than fiction and I'm making a problem out of a good thing?

There's this one guy who is my sister's workmate and she set me up on a blind date with him. Weve been talking for days alreafy and seeing our conversations, his mindset is on point and i do like his ideas. However I'm going back home to my country on the same day that we are going to meet. So I still have few hours to go on a date with him to get to know more about him before he takes me to the airport. We haven't done any vid calls but only chats due to busy schedule. He's a physical therapist and I am an asst. manager onboard cruise ship. And he really is a kind guy and I do really want him. But I don't know if this is gonna work out for both of us, he lives in florida. Any advice? Im really a hopeless romantic and I want this to work out but it will be a long distance relationship. Also were not same nationality. 🥲

TL;DR I (27F) matched with someone (27M) on hinge who lives on a different continent a few weeks ago. Messages started pretty spicy/flirty and have slowly turned into daily conversations about everything under the sun. It’s caught me entirely by surprise but I really love the conversations and connection, despite nerves around what the distance could mean if I explored being something more than friends. I’ll be in his country for work in 3 months, but I don’t know if/how to control my expectations going in.

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Pretty much the tl;dr. Going into it my mindset was more “this is a fun and spicy penpal” and was a wholly new experience, but I’ve now found myself thinking about him multiple times a day, wanting to send him little jokes and songs, we’ve even watched some TV shows together at the same time and live texted. We send voice memos a lot, and FaceTimed once but haven’t done so since (neither of us are huge FaceTime people). On the inverse side though, as our conversations have become more frequent he’s also been less overtly flirty, so I’m not sure if it’s because he’s starting to be interested in me romantically or if he’s starting to feel more platonic and is just talking more like he would any close friend. Logistically I hadn’t even thought about the possibility of closing distance, so I’m not sure how I feel about either option other than the fact that I get a bit sad thinking that he might only want to be friends and a little bit happy daydreaming about a world where we were in the same physical space. I know the simplest answer would be to ask him, but given we haven’t met up irl and have only been talking (albeit for several hours a day) for ~3 weeks it feels premature & I’m a bit nervous to lose the connection by taking a risk on something more than friendship when I’m not 100% sure of my own feelings yet

Since I’ll be in his country anyway for work at the end of the year I think it could be an opportunity to meet up irl to see if being in person clarifies anything, but the 3 month gap and my lack of clarity around what I actually want from this connection is making me anxious. Will meeting him irl solidify that we should just be friends vs something stronger? I’m clearly still super physically attracted to him, but the emotional attraction has caught me off guard and I’m not sure how to proceed / what would be best for making sure I don’t miss out on something special, but I also don’t sign myself up for a situation that neither of us is logistically prepared for.

For these next few months, do I go with the flow and keep messaging daily since I’m genuinely enjoying the connection and conversation? Do I try to pivot back to more overtly flirty conversations to avoid any more emotional intimacy? Do I lessen the frequency altogether? My head’s in so many places right now as someone who’s never even considered meeting someone online or engaging in an LDR, so I would love any/all advice from folks in similar situations.

Unsure if it’s really NSFW or not, but adding the tag just in case!

I met my online friend in person yesterday, after 15 years of writing to each other. I was 14 and he was 16. He taught me basically everything I know about music, and he was genuinely such a positive, radiant person. And not in a sarcastic way at all, just genuinely healthy and kind-hearted.
I met him yesterday with his girlfriend. He initially wanted the two of us to meet on our own, so we did. We talked for about 45 minutes, and then he wanted me to meet his girlfriend and spend the rest of the afternoon with both of them.

And the first thing his girlfriend told me was that she was naturally a jealous person and that she was insecure because she'd experienced a betrayal in the past. And that was literally the very first thing she said to me when I sat with her while he was away at the bar, so the very first time I met her, right from the start.
I immediately reassured her and told her that it was completely understandable. But I found it a little strange, because from my perspective there was absolutely no ambiguity. So it felt a little bit like a warning to me. He had also told me about it before we met her, presumably to prepare tthe ground, but I thought it was more of a casual, no-big-deal kind of thing.
And after that, my dynamic with him changed, because I no longer felt comfortable being myself around him for the rest of those four hours, and things felt a little more awkward. I became much more conscious of my actions and what I was saying. I didn't even feel comfortable looking him in the eyes the way I had before, even though, technically, there was absolutely nothing going on.
But I had actually forgotten - and he reminded me - that he had confessed to having feelings for me at one point. That was nine years ago. And he told me that, in fact, the fact that I had rejected him was what helped him move on and eventually get a girlfriend (before his current one).
He told me he didn't really know what to expect from this meeting, but now I think he may have been expecting to dismantle some of the idealization he had built up around me, so that he could move forward with the next steps in his relationship, especially since he talked a lot about getting married and having children.
And then they were very affectionate and kind of wrapped up in each other ; kissing, having his hand on her thigh, etc. It was honestly pretty uncomfortable for me, because I felt like the third wheel. I played it cool tho.
And I didn't really feel like I had much space to actually talk about myself. I ended up mostly listening, and sometimes I even felt like I was their therapist.

I was feeling pretty down the whole evening and this Sunday I was not feeling to great as well. Kind of depressed actually and I do not even know why. I probably wished I had a great love relationship as well.

So I met this girl on Instagram and we started talking and at first I genuinely thought maybe something could come out of it but she was always so dry and somehow every conversation would end up being about her ex I tried to listen to her and be there for her because I thought maybe she just needed someone who actually cared but after a while it started getting to me too I wasn’t mentally doing okay because of all of this and I realized I was slowly draining myself trying to help someone who was still stuck on someone else

I didn’t leave because I hated her or anything I left because I realized I was hurting myself trying to save someone who didn’t even want to be saved maybe that sounds selfish but there’s only so much you can do for someone before you have to choose yourself too