There is a sort of divide between male spheres online and in life where half say to toughen up and be manly and the other say to just be yourself. But how do people bridge that gap? If you have social expectations on manliness you need to uphold for safety or community, how do people stay authentic while still presenting as a "manly" man?

Edit: Emphasis on still being masculine. Please don't say just be yourself. It's great, but please understand not everyone lives in Los Angeles, I come from a conservative culture.

I hate the immaturity and the ribbing. After a certain age, acting like you're 13 years old is not cool. I also wish men stopped trying to be macho all the time because the best guy friends I have are the ones who can hold a conversation and show kindness and humility.

Men are so much better when they are vulnerable. I hug all my male friends.

For context, I am a 21-year-old male, and I have never been in a relationship and have not had a friendship for almost 2 years now.

I often fantasize about being in a romantic and sexual relationship, but for whatever reason, I struggle to imagine myself being close with someone. I imagine a couple watching a movie together. I can easily imagine other people doing that, but my mind does not do the same for myself and whoever my imaginary person may be. It just feels “off” to see myself in such a situation.

I feel like this might be simply because I have no frame of reference to use my imagination with, but I am not sure.

I don’t mean crazy colors like pink or red I mean going from brown to blonde or highlights etc, in highschool I always see girls doing stuff like that but men not as much

I can’t stand her singing, she’s beautiful dont get me wrong but listening to her sing is horrible, who told her she could sing, am I alone on this? This is honestly a random thought I think randomly all the time.

I’m a stickler for hand washing, especially after handling raw meat. But my past few experiences with grilling with other men appear to show me that I’m the outlier. They grab burgers and brats raw and just throw them on the grill, then just carry on with life sans hand washing, eventually eating.

Am I too much of a germaphobe or are most men just unknowingly reckless?

I’m curious to know what are your thoughts/feelings? Do you think about them all the time? What are some sure signs for you?

All sexualities are of course welcome to answer on this ☺️ but as a straight woman myself I am curious to hear from you straight men as well! 👀

Farting out of your ears, or peeing out of your butt?

I look around and it seems like some of you guys get a haircut EVERY WEEK or once every TWO WEEKS.

That is just absolutely insane to me.

All lined up, touched up, faded, clean, even, etc.

???

???

Do you guys live like within 5 minutes (walking distance) of a good barbershop or something?

Do you guys get some sort of pleasure from getting a haircut?

What is up with these "haircut guys"?

Does it not suck dick to have to drive down to some barbershop, fucking wait in line, get up there, blah blah blah, cut cut cut, here's $70...ON A SATURDAY??? ON A FRIDAY???

There has to be more dopamine out there than getting a haircut.

It just seems so inconvenient. What is up with all the haircuts, guys? It's just kind of weird, tbh, and I'm a bit hung up on it.

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I recently had a major stressor happening to me , i didn’t know how to act i was wondering if it is just me

there is a guy i am close with on a hugging basis, but we are just friends. we hugged like 13 times in the span of 3 hours in a group setting. i think its a bit safe if i reach in for a quick kiss (probably cheek, not lips)/longer hug next time. but i would like to get your opinions on the subject matter about what you would do if something like this happened. why or why not?

If you're only able to keep two, and need to give up one, which one would be your choice?

1. Amazing mind blowing sex 99% of the time

2. Personality compatibilty, ie: the house is peaceful most of the time

3. Fireworks or butterflies. The type of relationship that makes you want to say that you are deeply in love

Edit: Personality compatibility does not mean romantic feelings. Just to make it clear.

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I (24M) had a somewhat awkward experience at a clothing store today. I have been thinking about it since, so I thought I'll ask here and see what others think.

I went to buy a shirt and a pair of pants. After selecting them, I wanted to try them on, but the store had only one trial room and someone was already using it. The salesman told me to use the storeroom instead.

He said he would bring the clothes for me. There were no hooks in the storeroom, so he also said he would hold my old clothes while I tried the new ones. At the time, I didn't think much of it.

I went into the room and removed my shirt, expecting to try the new shirt first. But the salesman came in with the pants I selected. He took my old shirt, gave me the pants and asked me to try them on.

So I took off my old pants too and gave them to him. I was now standing there in just my briefs while trying on the new pants, and he was still in the room.

After that, he went out to get the new shirt and came back with it. I put it on and he asked if I liked it. Then he asked me to give him both the shirt and pants back. I had to take them off and stand in my briefs again while he collected them. He went out and then came back with my original clothes so I could get dressed.

What felt weird to me was that he never really gave me any privacy while I was changing. He stayed in the room, made eye contact and chatted with me normally. He didn't turn around or step outside at any point. I also got the feeling that he was looking at my body including my briefs.

I'm a bit confused about this. On one hand, the trial room was occupied, there were no hooks, and maybe he was just trying to help me out. He didn't say anything inappropriate or make any comments about my body. On the other hand, I just don't understand why he needed to stay there and watch me change instead of just turning around or waiting outside.

I felt awkward at the time but didn't say anything. I'm an introvert. So I just went along with it, but afterward I started wondering whether the whole thing was normal.

I'm not saying he definitely had any bad intentions because I don't know what he was thinking. I'm just wondering whether he was being careless about my privacy or whether he might have deliberately taken the opportunity to look at me while I was undressed.

For anyone who's worked in clothing stores or had a similar experience, is this something that happens normally? Would you find this situation weird or am I overthinking?

I'd appreciate honest opinions, even if you think there's a perfectly innocent explanation I haven't considered.

It can be anything, from biographies to fantasy.

For me, if I wear a shirt like... all day or like... twice in two days, then I'll throw it in the laundry basket, but I'm curious how how other people's clothes hygiene habits are.

What's your policy on when something is ready to be tossed in the laundry basket?

I'll wear a pair of pants for like... 1-2 weeks before I toss it personally.

Just curious to hear your stories. How did you meet, and how has the relationship been? Were there any cultural differences, family expectations, or challenges you didn't expect? Would love to hear both the good and bad experiences.

I think we have all gone through an experience where we go shopping and felt we just delt with a rude and unprofessional employee.

We let it go most of the time because unfortunately it’s common and we just don’t want to be bothered, but sometimes we choose violence lol and choose to call out such behavior.

BUT….

Sometimes these situations can be so Subtle and Passive Aggressive that you have to think twice before reacting and my situation was one of them.

I went to a certain Dispensary yesterday that I rarely go because they’re usually overpriced but sometimes run decent deals. when I was going walking to the counter. The cashier asked me simply….”Do you have an Online order?”

This was the first sign of weirdness because if you’re ever in a Dispensary the employees Greet You with high energy.

I replied “Hey how’s it going??….Yea I have an order!”

Gave him my I.D and then he says there is no order showing up.

I said oh ok let me check….I pullout my phone to verify my order and the guy told me I have to move aside so they can help the person behind me.

Mind you that sometimes I have to verify my order on my phone. Usually the employees give me 1 minute to check my phone in other dispensaries.

It seemed this guy from the go wanted me to move because my order didn’t appear immediately.

He told me a 2nd time to step aside and I told him the website seemed to not be processing the order.

I stood there for like another 5 seconds thinking the item was sold out and I was going to miss out on the sale.

Then the employee says “You Heard Me?”

At that point I moved to the side and let the other customer go first. I was panicking at that moment that the item I wanted was sold out.

After about 20 seconds I was able to confirm the order.

Then I realized hey!!!!

Was the Employee being disrespectful when he said “You Heard Me??”….

I then I proceeded to look at the Employee and he happen to look at me and we locked eyes for 3 seconds and he just looked away first and then I looked away.

I thought he was going to ask me “Did that order go through?” or something but he didn’t.

Then another Employee cashier opened up and I went with her to pay. At this point the other Employee i just delt withwith started laughing and talking out loud. Asking the Employee that was helping questions…

We would both turn around to look at the other Employee and he would be looking at me than look away to the other employee.

The Employee that was helping me said “Let me finish helping him first and I got you”

The other Employee replied “Oh yea help him”

I got my things and walked out the place, as I was walking in the parking lot I chuckle and realized that I might have just gone through an “Ego Battle”.

An employee disrespected me….So I then proceeded to “Mean Mug” him for 3 seconds and made him look away and he then wanted to let me know hes not Intimidated or Scared by me so he started acting “Confident” laughing and talking out loud.

What do you think…..Am I overthinking this situation???

Asking because I'm considering doing this and wanna see how it plays out.

Be it movie, tv show, video game, etc. What’s something that’s been redone that was true or better to something you loved when you were younger?

I’ve seen men turn their lives upside down all of a sudden( I suspect it wasn’t sudden) and I’d like to avoid that when I get up in age. Thought I’d learn a thing or two from some of y’all.