Dating in early thirties is AWESOME for guys in my personal experience.
There are always losers but a lot of women know what they want and know how to get it. They don’t play games and it’s just a much smoother experience communication wise than having to guess what is going on or where you stand.
Also the sex is ASTRONOMICALLY better (and frankly more frequent) than it was in my early 20’s.
I had a pretty easy time meeting people. I’m not the most attractive guy, but decent looking and I tend to be able to get along with almost anyone. I was in a long term relationship essentially my entire 20’s starting at 22 and ending when I turned 30.
My only advice for dating is fuck all the advice you might get about being some specific type of person to get women.
In my experience you get WAY better relationships out of just being yourself and being honest about it, be straightforward about what you want. Don’t be afraid to show exactly who you are. Which can be hard and scary… but you end up with way more authentic connections.
Also be honest with yourself about the women you are looking for. Try to spot the early warning signs:
Any dating profile that says “I like a man who leads..” fucking run. I’m sure there are lots of women who have this that might be great… but there are MANY who are looking simply to be pampered and see you as not much more than a means to an end. I don’t mind taking the lead once in a relationship but if they are advertising that way, that’s going to be more work than it’s worth and likely not end well.
Once again, just my opinion from my very limited experience in comparison to the grand scheme.
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u/WoodenCrow6024 13h ago edited 10h ago
Appreciate a good woman. When your young its easy to think you can always find better. By your mid to late 30s most of the great women are gone.
Thanks for the awards. Just trying to be helpful.