Long story short I was out of town for work where I met a trans woman. She took me to her apartment it was not a good place/neighbor hood. We started kissing and I was giving her a bj. She asked me if she could top me. It was my first time with a trans woman and I was scared I told her I have never done this before and I don’t think I will be able to bear the pain but we could try. And after that she started shoving her dick in me and I was screaming in pain. I asked her to stop but she didn’t. She kept pushing in and fucked me so rough and asked me to keep quite. She fucked me till she was satisfied and left me after that.
I felt really bad but I couldn’t even tell anyone. I shared this online and people are saying I was rapped.

So for context me (18F) and my boyfriend (20M) have been dating for 2 years and took edibles last week and I took 2 while he took 1/2. It was going great honestly and we were just watching tv and then I just got so tired and it really felt like I couldn’t move. It felt like I was asleep but I was still awake, if that makes sense. Anyways, I remember him touching me and even going inside of me with his fingers. I don’t know how much because I was going in and out of falling asleep. Then later I woke up and I think I said something about him going inside of me while he was taking my pants off cause apparently I said I wanted them off. He also took his pants off and started grinding on me and I was talking about how we don’t have any condoms. He had sex with me anyways and I remember he tried to do anal, which I hate, and I don’t remember it ending. I don’t know if I consented or if it would really count if I did and I’m just so confused. I’ve asked him a little bit about this because he mentioned him touching me the next morning and he says all he remembers is him touching my butt. I don’t know if I believe him because I normally say no to sex and it could’ve been like an opportunity for him. Did he sexually assault me or is if different because he was also kinda high? Except it’s weird because I was definitely more high, help. It also doesn’t help because the next time we were high I’m pretty sure he got me to do oral sex on him and I don’t really remember it. He says it was an accident but it happened twice and I just don’t know what to believe. I don’t want to leave him because my family and friends love him and I’m just so embarassed thinking about what I’d say to them if/when we broke up. I don’t want to be alone.

7 years ago now I was raped by my boss. I didn’t wanna tell my mom because my mom was also horribly abusive. And I knew how she’d react. I hate myself so much for putting up with it just because my mom is a piece of shit. I feel like no one wants to listen to my cry about it anymore.
My boss was twice my age. Everyone at work loved him and even everyone in my town knew him and loved him. He had just gotten out of prison and started working again. I had a girlfriend at the time and I didn’t even have a single thought about a man.
It started when one day he just came up and kissed me. I was waiting to clock in. I didn’t even look at him or anything. He told me he had seen me staring at him and knew I wanted him. I barely even spoke to him.
From there it progressed. He’d touch me at work. Make comments. It just kept getting worse.
One day he followed me or found me at a park nearby our work. He basically dragged me to the restrooms and did what he wanted. I felt so disgusting.
He told me if I told anyone I’d lose my job. I didn’t wanna be with my mom anymore than I had to be. So I didn’t say anything.
This went on for months at this point. I never told even my girlfriend, but I broke up with her because everything felt wrong.
Next month I find out the same thing was happening to my girlfriend. I have never been more pissed. I told her mom and told her not to mention me. Her mom went to the cops.
The cops interviewed me because she mentioned my name and I told them everything. Showed messages. Everything. They got the camera footage from my work. They arrested him.
My mom was the first to find out about me being involved with the cops since they went to her first cause I was a minor.
She went and told my whole family and all her friends I was a whore and all these other names. I never wanted that. I had a girlfriend I loved very much and I never even thought about a man once due to past sexual assaults.
Now this man is out and free and I’ve been terrified to leave the house alone. If I have to be alone, I call someone the entire time and make it really quick. I’m so scared of seeing him again because I’ve already seen him once.
How can I get over what he did when I could see him anytime I go in public?
I hate myself so much for putting up with it and not saying anything in fear of my mother. I wish I had a better mother.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

I am in my mid-twenties, and I have a daughter who is a toddler. I left her father due to abuse after years of being together. I have tried to allow him to maintain a relationship with her because he treats her very well, and he raped me while we were visiting him. I am pregnant. ​My guess is only about 4-5 weeks.

I've had one abortion before. I knew I didn't ever want to have another one. I'm not in the best circumstances to have another child right now (financially) at all. But I already am a mom, and I love being a mom, and when I found out I was pregnant, I knew I wanted to keep the baby. It's not the baby's fault.

But what can I do? Do I have to tell him the baby is his? Can I get in trouble for lying? I thought about telling people I did IVF, but people probably wouldn't believe me due to my financial circumstances now. I don't feel like I owe people an explanation exactly, but I know people naturally will ask. I just am trying to picture what I can say because I don't want to tell everyone I was raped, and I don't want them to know it's his baby either. Thank you!

ETA: We are now no contact. I told him that because of his behavior, I have to protect myself and our daughter. I told him I would call the police if he tries to contact me.

i (19f) was raped last night.

i was smoking weed with this friend (19m) in his apartment, and i was really high, he drank and smoked but he wasn’t a lightweight like me. i remember i was laying on this huge bean bag that was in his living room, and i was trying to sleep while listening to music, while he played video games. i didn’t know him for too long, but i trusted him because he was really sweet to me, i was intoxicated in his apartment before and he never tried to do anything, and he had 7 little sisters, so i thought i could trust him.

also for context, i took plan b like a week ago cus i hooked up with this other guy friend, and on that day i had some odd bleeding in my underwear which wasn’t from my period because my period ended a week ago as well. it was old blood, but i don’t know why i was bleeding. i thought it was implantation bleeding. i told the guy friend i was currently with atm, so he knew i was bleeding.

he starts to cuddle me, i reciprocate the cuddling. he’s being really affectionate. im trying to sleep the entire time. he then gets really close to my face and starts to kiss my head, my cheeks, and my hands, saying how beautiful/pretty i am. he thinks im asleep the entire time. he thens starts to position me into where our lips our touching, and he starts kissing me on my lips. i never kissed him back. he then starts running my hands up and down my body. then he starts groping my ass and i completely shut down at this point and im motionless, all while acting asleep.

groping leads to him rubbing his hard dick on me, and he asked if it was okay, and i quietly went “mhm”, acting asleep. he never asked me if it was okay to have sex, and honestly i was too terrified and high to tell him to stop and fight back. i was like a dead body, like a ragdoll he had to position into doing whatever he wanted. i just gave up and accepted that i was gonna get raped again, and to try and comply with whatever he says (something i do when im being assaulted). he then starts to feel my down there, and starts to unbuckle my belt. he then takes off his pants and now he’s rubbing his bare dick on my ass. then he stops and starts taking off my shoes, then takes off my pants. i think i stopped acting asleep and i started to cry and hyperventilate sometime around here, which he asks if i was okay, and i tell him “do whatever i don’t care”, to which he continues. he took off my underwear at some point. i remember thinking i wanted to run away, but again, i was so high that i couldn’t.

he then starts trying to penetrate me through my vagina, which didn’t work because i was so closed, so then he tries to put it in my anus. i was able to muster up the power to tell him “please not my anus”, since i’ve basically been SAed through my anus before and i knew how much it hurt and i didn’t want to experience that level of pain and injury again. i knew being raped through my vagina would hurt less and do far less damage than if he did it to my anus. and he listens, and starts trying to put it in my vagina again. he positions me onto my back (im sprawled out like a dead body) and goes in between my legs, and he just basically forced it in, no preparation or anything. i don’t think he used a condom. it hurt a lot but i didn’t scream. the only “lube” he “used” was the blood from my previous bleeding. i was silent the entire time. i remember i was looking away from him for most of it. he lasted a while. he was kind of rough, i don’t remember too much. i looked at him right before he finished and he just said “oh you feel so good” with a smile on his face and i was just looking at him blankly. he pulled out and im pretty sure he came right between my legs.

once he finished, i sat up and i was very quiet. he noticed and put his hand on my back, which i immediately slapped his arm away. he asked me if i was okay and i screamed at him to shut the fuck up. i said “i don’t think that was consensual” and he said it was because “i told him it was okay”. i immediately put my clothes and shoes back on, grab my purse, he gave me my phone back, and i booked it out of his apartment. i was hysterical. i was sobbing and shaking and hyperventilating. even his neighbors gave me weird looks.

i got into my car, driving while impaired and very emotional, and im calling an online friend, telling her what happened and im thinking about getting a rape kit done. tl;dr, i tell another friend who lives in the same city as me, me, her, and another mutual friend, i meet up with her at her house, and we go to a hospital to try and get a rape kit done. that hospital didn’t work out since they didn’t have a sexual assault nurse and the wait was so long (it was like 10pm already). my friends refer me to another hospital, i go to that hospital while they go home. they admitted me, did some bloodwork, and then the police got involved. police interviews me and decided to open up a case. turns out hospital i was at didn’t do rape kits (sane exams) and i had to go to another clinic. it’s 2 am at this point. i follow the officer down to the clinc, i get the sane exam done, do some other tests, and take a plan b. i remember seeing how bloody my underwear was and i started to panic and shake, the nurse had to cover it up. they took my underwear as evidence. he might’ve given me a uti.

it’s been more than 24 hours since the rape happened. im experiencing a lot of pelvic pain and cramps. it’s not like period cramps, it’s sharper and persistent. my lower back hurts too. it doesn’t hurt to pee though. i’m still bleeding, the blood is red and brown. i’ve never felt this type of pain before. is this normal? please let me know

I was raped by a friend at a house party. I was slightly drunk and he led me to an empty room where we talked a bit before he started touching me. I started to get a little nervous then he grabbed my hand and made me touch him. He saw I didn’t like it and said if I told anyone he would tell them I was trying to blackmail him. I was frozen in shock and let him use me but kept telling him to stop. Unfortunately it was the best orgasm ive had and now i’ve developed a kink for rape from it. No one knows so far and because of my kink i’ve began to believe all i’m good for is sex.

the story is below if anyone is wondering what happened i explained it in the end
Can I get pregnant after being raped while I was on my period?
I’m really worried and need some advice because I’m scared I could be pregnant.
A guy raped me, and during the encounter, he ejaculated on my chest and face. He didn’t wipe the semen off and then put it inside my vagina and penetrated me for a few minutes. He continued doing sexual things to me even though I told him to stop and that it hurt.
I was on my period at the time, and I’m still bleeding. I’m worried because I don’t know how likely pregnancy is in this situation.
I took Plan B after an earlier encounter, but I’m not sure whether it protects me from this encounter.
My questions are:
* Can I get pregnant if he put semen inside my vagina while I was on my period?
* Does being on my period lower the risk of pregnancy?
* Does Plan B taken after an earlier encounter protect me from this one?
* When should I take a pregnancy test?
I’m really scared and overwhelmed by everything that happened. Please be kind. I’m looking for genuine advice and support, not judgment.
If you want to understand what happened and why I’m calling it rape, I’ve written my full story at the end of this post. You can read it if you want, but please don’t feel obligated to.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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My story (TW: sexual assault, choking, physical violence)
I met this guy online, and we started talking before meeting in person. When we first met, he made a comment about how cute it would be if he murdered me. At the time, I didn’t know what to make of it.
During our sexual encounters, things happened that I wasn’t comfortable with. I asked him to slow down because it hurt, and I told him to stop multiple times, but he continued. He held my wrists tightly and wouldn’t let go until I managed to push him off. He also tried to use zip ties even though I said no several times.
He choked me with his hands until I was struggling to breathe. He hit me repeatedly and hard enough that my head hurt from that night into the following afternoon. He used degrading language toward me and continued sexual activity despite my pain and bleeding.
I’m still trying to process everything that happened. Part of me feels confused about the experience and how I reacted to it, and I’m struggling with the fact that I might become pregnant afterward.
I’m posting because I need advice about pregnancy risk, Plan B, and when to test. I’m also trying to understand what happened to me and hear from people who can respond with kindness and understanding.
Please be respectful in the comments. I’m already having a difficult time dealing with this.
is this rape? and sexual assult??
i bled during the sex and he nutted and then put it in me after and said i didn’t think because i was so horny can i still get pregnant after couple minutes of sex? okay so im genuinely so confused about everything that happened and i need ppl to be honest with me because idk how to process any of this.
im a virgin and i literally wasnt planning on having sex for my first time yet. like i wasnt ready for all of this, but when i was with him i was scared that if i said no or didnt do what he wanted, he would get upset with me, hate me, or not like me anymore. i was scared of how he would react and i feel like that made it harder for me to say no.
i do have kinks and he knew a little bit about them, but that doesnt mean i agreed to everything he wanted to do to me.
things got really rough and he tried to use zip ties on me and i kept telling him NO over and over, like 3-4 times. when i asked him what he was doing, i genuinely thought he was taking the condom off and was gonna rape me. i was actually scared because i didnt know wtf he was about to do.
he was holding my wrists so tightly that i had to push his hands off me. he kept telling me to fight him off and resist him, which was weird asf because i was already scared. he was also choking me with his hands to the point where i couldnt breathe properly, and he kept hitting me really hard over and over again.
when i was trying to get him to stop, he said “i dont care.” LIKE??? that shit has genuinely been stuck in my head because why would you say that when someone is scared and telling you no??
he also said something about me waiting for this to be used, and idk how to feel about that either.
i had a headache afterwards too.
the thing is, i wasnt even planning on losing my virginity like this. i was scared that if i refused to do things, he would get mad, hate me, or not want me anymore. i feel like i was scared of disappointing him or making him upset, and i dont even know how to explain it.
im so confused because this was my first time and i never thought id be sitting here trying to figure out whether what happened was okay or not. i keep thinking about everything and wondering why he acted like that when i was clearly scared.

I did consent at first but then he started saying about breeding and cumming in me which I had already said no too multiple times so then I said to stop and kinda tried to push him off not vry well but like I was pinned down and I didn't rlly fight it. He told me that I'd force him to come in me if I kept taking him like this so I like tried to move away and I told him again and again not to come in me and well he did -*- like I told him to stop but like we were already fucking? And I didn't rlly fight him and I could've been louder or forcefully but I wasn't. Idk if this was rape or like I was just asking for it by sleeping w him in the first place. Also we agreed to use a condom. He did not. But I didn't say anything TBF I actually didn't know he was actually going to fuck me I thought we were just giving eachother head but then he used his finger and then just pushed himself in . Genuinely don't know how to feel about this. Was this rape or like am I being dramatic?

Nothing about this was good. That was like the fifth session with him and apparently something just changed. Yesterday I finally had the courage to tell him what happened and instead of support, he flipped out and yeah. So I'm at my parents and they kept asking why I'm there it's just all ugh. All a mess.

Tonight I (M21) went clubbing, after a certain point I stopped remembering everything entirely after I had a certain drink, so I suspect I was spiked, but by who I don’t know. That was around midnight, about 5:30am I wake up in a girls room I barely know anything about, and after leaving soon after I was told she had given me oral sex, and almost penetration. I went out with this group of people thinking I would have a fun time, and I don’t believe that this person acted on this maliciously but regardless I don’t remember consenting or being in any state to do so.

When I got back, and after I was told what happened. I immediately went to my ex (whom I was trying to work things out with at the time) and spoke to the, telling them what had happened to me, but she didn’t believe anything I was saying, even after she made me tell my own brother whilst on call with her. I don’t know what to do now.

In my life I had already several relationships that were really bad and violent. And two of them extremely bad and sadistic and abusive. Sometimes I ask myself why does it happen to me? Did I do something in my previous life to deserve that? And after I finally escaped out of such relationship, do i meet another guy who is even worse. Is that bad luck or are some of those guys seeing some of us as easier victims and can analyze us perfectly and put weaknesses. It’s just so frustrating and my mind and body feels so broken after such relationship. I feel even dumb for not being able to just leave them or break up and forgive too much or even follow their orders. Some of the previous boyfriends manipulated me heavily, made me start with kinks I would have never tried, forced me to pleasure them sexually at places that I would never suggest first, forcing me to sexual acts with a friends of them or hookups or sexual acts that are terrible and make me feel cheap. They made violent jokes or even threaten to do the same when we watched horror movies and saw some victims terrible endings. I was constantly emotionally and sexually abused and my body was more like a punching bag for some and I still weren’t able to escape alone. Luckily some friends helped me and I do therapy now again but it’s very challenging and I guess a long road. I‘m sometimes easily scared of men, my exes snapped easily for even the smallest mistakes and even humiliated me in front of others or he flirted with others and kept joking around and I just accepted it. I feel stupid and was totally under their control and I’m worried that it will happen in the future again.

Over ten years ago, I suffered sexual abuse as a child. I kept it to myself until last year. This year, after many arguments and mental health problems, I finally tearfully told my mother what happened. It's liberating, you know? She let me cry in her lap. I felt like that child again, but I wasn't alone anymore. I'm not alone anymore. Difficult days will come, but I believe I can count on her support. Reading your stories, my therapist's, and the recent cases of reported abuse gave me this strength. Thank you. I'm relieved.