Hey everyone,
I'm 23 years old, and I honestly don't know where my life is heading. I've been keeping a lot of things to myself, and I feel like I need to let them out somewhere.
I'm a 12th-pass guy who enrolled in graduation, but I ended up with 17 backlogs. My pass-out year was 2025, and now I don't even feel interested in clearing those backlogs anymore. I'm thinking about pursuing an open degree or doing ITI instead, but I'm confused about whether I'm making the right decision.
Currently, I'm unemployed and spend almost my entire day at home. My parents go out to work every day, and we live in a small rented room that costs ₹2,200 per month. It's not a big place, but we adjust to what we have.
The hardest part is watching my parents work hard while I'm unable to contribute financially. I want to support them and make their lives easier, but I don't even know where to start with my own life.
One of my biggest regrets is that when I was in the second year of my degree, I got selected for India Post GDS based on my 10th-grade merit. It was a government job opportunity, but I never joined.
Sometimes I keep thinking about that decision and wondering how different my life would be today if I had joined. Maybe I would have been earning, helping my parents, and feeling more confident about myself. I know I can't change the past, but I still regret it.
I've also tried preparing for government exams, but I struggle to concentrate. I make plans to study, but I can't maintain consistency, and another day goes by without making any real progress.
I'm around 5'2" and weigh 48 kg. I know height and weight aren't everything, but I sometimes feel insecure about myself and compare my life with other people my age.
Another thing that bothers me is that I'm very sensitive. When someone scolds me, criticizes me, or says something bad about me, it affects me deeply. I keep replaying their words in my mind, and sometimes it takes me days to get over them.
I've also become very quiet and withdrawn. I don't talk much anymore, and I find it difficult to express what I'm feeling.
I want to change. I want to develop skills, get a job, earn money, become independent, and support my parents. But I'm scared of making another wrong decision and regretting it later.
Right now, I'm considering three options:
Getting a private job and preparing for government exams alongside it.
Pursuing an open degree and trying to complete my education.
Doing ITI and learning a practical skill that could help me find employment.
I genuinely don't know which direction to choose.
I'd really appreciate advice from people who have been in a similar situation.
If you were 23, unemployed, had 17 graduation backlogs, and felt like you had wasted important opportunities, what would you do first?
Would you focus on earning money, completing your education, learning a trade, or preparing for government exams?
And if you've ever struggled with low confidence, overthinking, or feeling hurt by other people's words, how did you overcome it?
I'm not looking for sympathy or empty motivational quotes. I want honest advice from people who have faced setbacks and managed to rebuild their lives.
I don't want to look back five years from now and feel the same regret I'm feeling today.
My qualifications: I have completed 12th grade and enrolled in graduation, but I currently have 17 backlogs. My pass-out year was 2025. I'm considering an open degree or ITI and would appreciate advice on which path to choose.
Thank you for reading.