This may be long but please bear with me it's backstory and venting mixed together 😭
I am a private caregiver for one person, she is my only patient right now. I am also a huge, huge, huge people pleaser. To the point I am staying at my current job as a favor more than anything else, as I can't pay my bills and have to get a second job, but they have me working weird hours and that's hard.
The work itself is INCREDIBLY easy, I will not find this again. Competitive pay rates for my area, consistently 50/hrs a week, fully mobile patient who uses the bathroom on their own. It's just housekeeping and memory care.
I went far beyond what was originally asked of me (+ far far beyond anything their previous caregivers did for the house) and started to clear out some hoarder areas of their house (from a previous rat infestation that was never cleaned up after, so I was cleaning lots of animal waste dried into places too) after talking and getting permission. Then I reorganized entire rooms for them (bedroom, all closets, dining room, kitchen,) - all after being told a housekeeper would come to handle it, and nobody ever did. I started cooking every meal when before they would be sent doordash. I am helping the family find another caregiver AND conducting interviews for them as well. All these things sound simple now that I type them out, but they couldn't find anyone willing to do these things before, nor were they doing it for their family member themselves! (other than the interviews, I was just asked to help) Ac9nd I was told I wouldn't have to originally.
So about a week ago the family member who pays be started acting really cold with me, I have no explanation as to why or any idea as to why. Another family member has been coming around and staying my whole shift just watching me, taking pictures of all of the ADLS we do or any care that I give, and honestly getting in the middle of most of what I do to the point that it's no longer sanitary or they hinder me in some way (when I was cooking they put their utensil back into the pot after watching me use 3 different spoons for each new taste, walking with me and the patient when they're unsteady but they dont know the proper way to support them so its just confusing for everyone) Said family member INSISTS I need help.
A few weeks ago I was being begged to stay because I was telling them how I needed the second job and can't pay my bills, now they're treating me really weird and I don't feel like I should have to deal with it. My patient LOVES me though, so I'd feel bad for them.