Hi! Im a cisgender ally looking for some advice.

I go to community college in a state where trans people are protected.

However, recently I learned that my professor is misgendering someone in my class and idk if it's on purpose. I did not realize this person is trans because she never told me or anyone during class, she doesn't really talk at all she's very shy, she also has a gender neutral name. Our professor always refers to her as he/him.

So one day I was going through our class discussion and I saw her pronouns were set to she/her, publicly in a place where I think our professor would have seen it. (This is an in person class but we still have an online discussion place) And I started to wonder if our professor is doing it on purpose or not and I don't know if I should say something. I want to believe he's doing it on accident or is not outing her but I would hate to be someone that sits by and doesn't say anything if it's discrimination. Also, I don't want to out her or anything. What should I do?

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I have this friend (call him A) from school who recently I've been getting into arguments with. I'm anti-theist, largely because I'm tired of putting up with whatever bullshit religious people claim I HAVE to respect and abide by and that I CANNOT question their religion or else I am an awful, horrible, hateful person. A lot of people say it's just a tiktok trend to be anti-theist but I'm just glad there's a name for what I'd been feeling beforehand.

Anyhow, we get into another argument. I don't like getting into the arguments because said friend intimidates me and given the opinion I hold on religions is very unpopular, it means obviously I'm vastly outnumbered if anyone else overhears the conversation. A tactic of his is to involve other people when he can or stop talking to me when other people arrive so that I have to be the one to initiate the conversation again.

So the argument happens because one of my other friends (massive shit-stirrer btw, love him but he's a pain sometimes) brings up the subject again and so me and friend A start arguing. He's muslim, but is mixed and white-passing. I mean I didn't even know he was muslim or mixed until he told me.

Halfway through our argument he says 'well, Muslim people in the [our country] are more oppressed and receive a greater number of hate crimes than trans people'.

And it really caught me off guard. Not because I was surprised, I mean obviously that's true because there's more muslim people than trans people literally anywhere on earth and it's very clearly due to racism in this country being awful when it comes to muslims. But it's the fact that he specifically looked that statistic up (he admitted earlier in the week he wasn't very versed on his religion nor religion as a whole, which made me angry obv cos why tf are you flaming me for my opinions I'VE RESEARCHED than yours which aren't even based on things you actually know??). And then used it against me as a very obvious ploy of 'yeah well my people are more oppressed than your people so you're a horrible person for speaking out against my people'.

First of all, your religion is a choice. Second of all, you're white-passing, so unless you tell someone you're ethnically mixed, you're likely not going to be experiencing a lot of racism at school because nobody knows what your Dad looks like and you have a relatively white name. Same with how I won't face any transphobia unless I tell someone I'm trans or they make the connection between my chosen name and my appearance being a lot more feminine.

But it's the fact I came out to them as one of the first people?? And they're so insistent on defending their religion (and religion in general, need I remind you that religions are literally the leading cause of homophobia and transphobia throughout the world) that they weaponised my identity as a way to put the blame on ME for speaking out against the unfair treatment of people under religious systems. Under HIS religion too.

I actually want to scream. You know what? If God was actually real, then they wouldn't have made trans people. Because why the fuck would a loving God let us suffer like this all the time. Fuck all Gods, every single one of them hates trans people. All of them.

Sorry, I just find it hard to talk about religion without getting 'emotional' because of how religious systems treated queer people historically. I just needed to vent. If I've said anything accidentally offensive then I apologise.

So, for context, I am an adult currently living with my mom. With what I'm currently making, I can comfortably move out by spring, and might look into doing so earlier.

Now, she *is* aware I'm trans. Has been for many months now, and was aware before I moved in. However, when I came out to her, even tho she asked for my pronouns (she/they), she simply never used them. After living with her for about a month, I called a family meeting to reiterate my pronouns, as well as share my name. Since then, she's been using my new name and they/them, with minimal slip-ups, which she corrects herself on.

Now, during that family meeting, I explained my plan for my transition and how I wanted to start HRT. The stupid in me tried to explain past just a simple, "It'll be a second puberty," and mentioned that it *might* be possible for me to experience periods (don't ask me why I brought this up to her - while I *do* want them, I panicked in the moment and started talking about other effects of HRT). She did *not* take that well. One of my siblings (not trans, but has many friends in the LGBTQ+ community, including trans friends), explained that most symptoms are caused by hormones, rather than b/c of the bleeding.

Anyway, b/c of her reaction to that, I'm a little nervous about telling her I started HRT a little over a month ago. The reason I'm thinking about it now is that I have started feeling my boobs beginning to grow. While it can be partly ignored since I have muscle there, I know it's not something I can hide forever. Also, I don't *want* to hide it forever. My egg cracked less than a year ago, and my goal was to be out to pretty much everyone in my family that I cared to tell - which I have done at this point.

I understand I am lucky with how accepting the family I have told is, and how supportive some of them are. While my mom had probably the worst reaction from everyone (not heinously bad, but one of her three questions was if I like boys or girls - this being before I knew my actual sexuality), it didn't prevent me from moving in with her. I truly don't believe she would kick me out over not telling her sooner (even tho I made a point to not wait with coming out to her b/c I thought she would complain if she learned she wasn't one of the first), I can't help but to be nervous over this.

So I guess my question is: should I tell my mom I started HRT, wait until it becomes obvious, or hope it doesn't become obvious until after I move out? Any advice yall can give is appreciated.

Someone should do a study of breast growth ratefor trans women during medical transition. Fully statistically, with Random Stratified Sample Groups and standard deviations and all that. Graph it all out at the end. You'd be able to track your expected final result at any given point in your transition that way by plugging in your own band/bust ratio, and I just think that'd be neat.

Obviously the study would need to have qualifiers, for instance consistent access to hormones throughout the multi-year process, and it would need to be a proportional graph tracking progress toward the "final product" after four years rather than absolute measurements because breast sizes are highly variable, but it's totally doable. Just need like... 200 people who just started HRT less than a month ago to start rigorously tracking their breast growth for the next several years. Totally doable.

I was so happy, I didn’t even think I passed that much, my sister looked at me smiling because she knew I was happy and I don’t think I’ve smiled that much in a while I was so happy.

Like I know it was just because the old dude was distracted when he said “have a nice day ladies” but omg I don’t think it even matters the fact even at a glance I pass makes me so happy.

I was just at the pharmacy and was told that the manufacturer cant keep up with demand because they prescribe it to much (wtf does that mean) and they have ran out.

I've never been a fan of the diy stuff have no idea where to begin and would rather not, is this something that's going to continue?

So I matched with a guy on a dating app, after a few days of texting a bit relationship type questions were being asked to see for compatibilty. I brought up being trans and he said he didn't have any issues with that.

Then the first red flag was raised. I asked if he had an instagram since a lot of people don't like to continue texting on dating apps. He dodged the instagram bit entirely and gave me a snapchat. Now I'm not saying everyone on snapchat has sexual/bad intentions. However, I've noticed that it's very prevalent.

I let that slide though and we started talking on snapchat. After a while of messaging back and forth he asked about how sex is gone about as a trans person because he said he's never dated/been intimate with a trans person so he wanted to know if that was an aspect that would make us not compatible. This definitely felt like a red flag especially after only a few days of talking but I chopped this up as him being someone who values sex in relationships.

I gave an honest answer regarding me not having bottom surgery and not planning on it so I would be ok with sex that way if we were in a relationship. I also emphasized that I'm not looking for a fwb situation im looking for a relationship which he said he's also looking for a relationship. Then he asked me if I would also do anal. 🤨

I changed the subject and immediately noticed the way texting changed. He would only really give short answers to general conversation topics and I felt like I was now carrying the conversations. I hit my breaking point at the final red flag. The following evening he started trying to talk sexually to me again, asking what "turns me on." I blocked him and unmatched with him on the dating app.

It genuinely became like a Grindr conversation in a matter of a maybe 2 days. I'm learning that people treating me like I'm only something to jack off to and not a real person looking for a genuine connection is not something I deserve and I don't owe my time to anyone like that. I deserve sunshine.

im male but Ive been questioning that recently. i do drama camps every school holiday and we were doing billie Eliot and i was casted as Michael (for context Michael is a cross dresser) it felt weird but in a good way a few camps later we did diary of a Wimpy kid the musical. I was casted as rowley, in the musical rowley is really flamboyant and feminine and I had that same feeling I had when I played Michael, that’s when I started questioning my Identity. one night when my parents were out I decided to try putting on eyeliner , it felt amazing I never felt better but my sister caught me so I explained everything to her and she was very supportive ever since every night put on eyeliner. Ive now recently been in a prodiction of the rocky horror show and I was casted as frank n Furter that was the first time I’ve ever been in full make up and feminine clothing I kept it all on hours after the show ended. all these signs seem to point to me being trans but I’m not so sure I wish I was born a girl but I don’t hate being a boy to much I don’t know how to describe i have a very Stressful life and I’m scared transitioning could be even more stressful but at the same time i think being a boy is apart of why I’m so stressed. I’m really conflicted please help. there are some things I left out so if you have any questions please ask.

So, I (FTM16) came out to my little brother (M7) a couple of days ago and I explained that my recent haircut was so I could look more like a boy. He accepted me and even called me my preferred name and pronouns whenever we were home alone. Today, he got in trouble with my parents and had a bit of a meltdown. During said meltdown, he told my parents that I was trans.

My transphobic parents.

I'm getting undressed when they barge into my room, demanding to know why the hell my brother is saying I want to be a boy and that he's been calling me Dennis whenever they're not home. I'm just sort of frozen in shock and fear the whole time. I apologise, say it won't happen again, and that I "know it's not normal" (I don't agree with that but I had to say that for my own safety). Eventually, they leave me alone, and my brother comes to my room to say sorry for telling our parents. My mom says he has nothing to apologise for and pulls him out of my room.

Now, I'm just sat here in my bed, trying not to cry and wondering where the hell I can go from here. I want to move out as soon as possible and I had been hoping to start a part time job once I turned 16 precisely so I could save up for an apartment but my parents refuse to let me get one.

I have to deal with them for 2 more years before I can leave. I'm scared.

TL;DR: My 7 year old brother outed me to our transphobic parents after I came out to him and now idk what to do.

Edit: Guys, I am aware that my decision to tell my brother was stupid. We are past that already. I'm not looking for lectures for my stupid mistake, I am looking for advice on how I can stay safe until I'm old enough to get a job and move out.

Alright im a guy but if there was a button that could turn me into a girl i would press it. Does that make me trans or is that normal

edit: i have thought about ot and in the button hypothetical i probably would push it but
I dont know if like i want to be a girl or just like more fem
Regards

This is probably kind of a dumb question but I’m wondering if starting at a certain spot can determine where in the month your cycles and periods go.

Like if my first day ever taking HRT is on the first of whatever month, and I eventually get a cycle, will my period be on the first day of every month? on the fifteenth? 23rd? Etc? is there any correlation between the timing in which you start and when the actual cycle decides to put its roots down?

i’ve been on e injections since the start of september, im really really happy to have noticed some breast development, however it appears to be only one sided, i’ve had chest pain on both sides but i can feel it more on the more developed side, both have noticeable growth but one is visibly more developed, both have budded nipples but little to no aereola development. am i just overreacting and this is normal? or is this something i should keep a eye on? thank you!!

The Supreme Court just rejected a request for an emergency injunction against a lower court ruling against the administration’s policy banning HRT access for federal prisoners that many argued might constitute a crime against humanity because of the policy including studies into if and how quickly this made prisoners suicidal.

So, for the 1,000-ish trans people currently in federal prisons, they just got their HRT back. 🎉

Hello everyone! I'm a 17 year old trans woman in a transphobic country(who obviously can't transition right now) and looking at things right now, they are not bright but I want to keep going. I won't have access to HRT till I'm 25 or 23 at best because it's hard to get to Europe. Recently I started to fear(it actually might be true not just a fear) that I'm balding. It sucks to be a man for this reason, but listen I don't really want to be a bald woman. So I have questions for other bald or balding trans women if u don't mind answering

1. Did HRT save ur hair from being completely bald if u didn't become fully bald yet?

2. Trans women that are bald, does HRT reverse it?

3. I've been thinking about wigs. I've seen multiple gorgeous trans women who wear wigs and I've been thinking that if something goes completely wrong, can I get myself a wig? I don't want to be shamed for it honestly n that's the only thing that keeps me calm about possibly losing all my hair

4. Is there still a chance to be beautiful? All of trans women I've seen are so beautiful. And I want to be beautiful too. Even with hair struggles and wig, would I still be beautiful?

I (14 amab) thought I could trust her, why did you have to tell your mom. Now she thinks I'm not trans because "actual" trans people feel uncomfortable as the gender they where born as at birth and they feel dysphoria constantly, ive felt dysphoric about my height, looking older than i was, and my mustache when i was younger, I've felt gender dysphoria and gender euphoria.

And she thinks I'm not fully mental and needs her mom thinks I need help, and she thinks I don't know what being trans is like, why do you think I need help?? I genuinely don't understand.

And she also told me that hrt can "destroy the body" and put a kid into a "psychiatric hospital (or mental hospital I can't really remember), and she told me that" I shouldnt change the way how I look" and "i should learn to love myself".

I'm so fucking sick of this.

Personally, anything else by worry club. It reminds me of 2 things. The loss of my best friend, and wanting escape from my very transphobic town that I've had to grow up in.

JUST ASKING FOR MY OWN SAFETY

As of October , 2026

Has anyone had any issues with traveling into the US from abroad? Anything to look out for?

I have a bunch of estrogen stocked up that I was considering bringing with me (feel safer knowing its with me)

Thoughts on if I should/how i should do that

Am not going my grandma has been commenting shes such a pretty girl on all of my moms recent photos of me when I am a ftm he/him person I understand because my grandma grew up Hella religious christan but shes just itching for my mom to snap at her and somehow make my mom the bad guy for defending me so am not going I just know shes going to start shit

Hi, I'm a trans man and have been on Nebido for a year now. Prior to this I was on Sustanon. My oestradiol has always been pretty high, and I'm just wondering if anyone can tell me if it's something I should be concerned about? I don't think I'm having any feminising symptoms. Also, I've not had any form of hysto either. Obviously my test is a bit high too, so I'm likely gonna adjust to 13 weekly injections.

June 2026: Blood tested the day before the next injection.
Serum testosterone level: 19.6 nmol/L.
Serum oestradiol level: 181 pmol/L.

October 2026: Blood tested at the exact midpoint between injections. 
Serum testosterone level: 33.3 nmol/L.
Serum oestradiol level: 239 pmol/L.

Yesterday I came out to my mum because I needed her help with my blood tests. It was out of necessity. Thankfully I was right when I assumed she would be fine with it and she's been very supportive.

Initially, I had wanted to come out and socially transition at roughly the same time. I feel like that would have reduced stress the most. Unfortunately this is no longer an option to an extent.

It's opened up a can of worms I knew I would have to deal with. I'm unsure of whether I want her to start calling me by my chosen name and pronouns for example. The whiplash of constantly switching from being called different things seems like something that's going to feel uncomfortable but at the same time so is being called my deadname by someone who knows I'm trans, especially when it's out of my own choice.

I also feel like it could lead me to rushing my transition a bit, something I want to avoid. The last thing I want to do is get things done too quickly, having some kind of issue and then get scared of ever trying again - something I think is a strong possibility in my case.

Sorry if this has been a bit rambling, I'm still not really sure what I'm feeling at the moment and my thoughts are spilling out of my head in a somewhat uncontrolled manner as I write this. I'd appreciate any advice you can give me if you've been in a similar situation. Thanks