so this happened a few days ago . client called me later than i usually accept dates but i picked up the phone anyways . we talk and screen and he gets here and we're listening to music and talking and he's complimenting me and we're getting along really well he's very nice (i.e you're really relaxing , good music taste etc) and i notice it's getting close to the hour so i say "not rushing or anything but your hours up in about 25 minutes i just wanted to check in with you now that we got to talk and we can go to the bed if you'd like" (i like to talk a bit with them and ease into things and i've never had issues before and that's advertised and discussed on the phone) then he tells me i feel like you just want to sit here and talk to the whole time im just going to leave ... ??? and he gathers his stuff and walks out ? lol

Thinking about it now, I’ve most likely taken a clients virginity and haven’t even know, just considering how long I’ve been doing this, but tonight I had an inquiry from someone who was transparent about the fact that this would be his first time. I don’t get too sentimental about these things, but knowing he’s probably going to remember the encounter for the rest of his life makes me a little hesitant. Have any of you done this for someone?

I am feeling depressed right now. I only had made 4k so far this month after expense. I used to make over 10k. I’m sad and I feel like I just want to retire. This job is not worth it anymore. I just been doing it for a year and I have saved 100k. Maybe I should go back to my civie job. When I was doing my civie job, it pays a decent but I have not save any money. I was only able to save after doing sw. For those that retired, how are you all doing? Are you happy?

Hiii ! So I’ve been in this industry for ten years. I started as escort, and mainly do that and have been wildly successful. I’ve also dabbled in professional porn and camming/of but my main income comes from outcalls. This past weekend I randomly got a gig doing bottle service and enjoyed my time. Most of the girls there were strippers or had stripped in the past, and were all super good at selling and dancing, two things I am NOT extremely talented at. But I had such a great time working that I have been considering trying out as a stripper for some extra cash on nights I don’t feel like fucking anybody. I’m very pretty and am extremely sensual person with a super bubbly personality. I can sway my hips and flip my hair but there is no chance I will ever learn how to twerk, and going around selling this weekend felt more like begging to me.. again I’m bubbly and chatty as all get out but I’m a bit blunt and awkward. I’ve been to strip clubs and the girls who work there are all super extroverted and have big personalities, as did the girls working with me this weekend. And while I did make money, I know for a fact that I definitely am more of an introvert unless I’m like drinking lol, I’m just so shy. With my business I only have experience marketing myself online, one on one conversations, and the actual sex part lmao.
For women who have stripped, do you think I have what it takes ? What would your advice to me be?

Its been a dry spell and getting worse for over a year. The last 4+ months i had barely any inquiries and no clients. It was awful. I could barely afford anything if not for my amazing brother helping me out. Lately I have been getting more inquiries and it finally led to a client. I was so nervous. I am like so out of practice but he kept saying how amazing I was at the end. It was painful at first cause i dont have sex outside of this but it wasnt terrible. It was only a small amount but its a start. Im hoping to eventually be back to doing overnights and multi hour visits and outcalls. Im very excited. Its only gonna get better from here🥳🥳😘🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️💰💰💰

Edit: JUST GOT ANOTHER ONE! It was amazing. He told me about his box ross boxers and showed me the white castle ones he was wearing 😂😂he is going to want an outcall eventually too😂and on top of that im still getting inquiries! Wtf is happening oh my god I AM SO BACK BABYYYYY

I submitted a ticket for this but have not received a reply yet after weeks. I just sent a DM to u/Tryst_Support but posting here in case they see it here.

I was in the middle of creating my profile when my browser crashed and didn't save the passkey I had just created. I had already submitted my verification photos. I'm able to login, but not authenticate, which means I can't access my account at all.

Thank you for you any help!

while just sitting a random men came said hi and wanted to shake hand,immediately asked him who he is and he claimed to be a previous client,the location he told me made me remember another client's place so there was a possibility of him being a previous client so I asked him how we met that night and he said he saw me while he was walking to his home and approached me,which was a lie,the client that night called out to me from balcony

and just told him that and he immediately changed the last part and I told him I don't like liars and told him to go away ,this kind of stuff at the street makes me nervous because I geniunely can't remember any past client's name or face

How is sw in London. I live in the US and its way too many stings right now thinking about travelling.

Girls, I need to vent—I’m not sure if anyone else feels the same way… but am I the only one who finds the way some men talk about women on these SW forums online strange? I honestly find it a bit disturbing. I understand that they use these forums to share their experiences—and I know that can even be a good thing, as it helps us gain more clients—but sometimes I come across posts that actually make me cry. Clients tearing these women apart, completely destroying their self-esteem. I think it’s just awful and wrong… I don’t allow any man to write about me on those sites; I don’t care for the kind of people who frequent these forums, and I just don’t like that crowd! I don’t know if anyone else agrees, but I really think some of these guys cross the line…!

That is all. That is the post. The over saturation in the market is real. 🫠 it's no wonder providers now have to have a civie job on top of SW. And with the amount of scammers and fakes it doesn't help the situation at all.

Earlier today I failed a FSSW client's health check and refunded him based on what I believe to be suspected syphilis. Out of all the reactions I expected, one of them wasn't for him to launch a personal attack, degrading me and making comments about my age. I've never had comments along these lines before and know that it's because he wasn't happy, but it's still surprising to me that he'd rather a booking with someone who's uncomfortable doing it, rather than be grateful she's looking out for his health 🥺🤗 Hugs needed

Hello, I have been a sex worker for 10+ years. I have worked in multiple countries and cities.
I have been in Montreal for about 6 months, and have done a ton of research but there is very little information online or even on Reddit. I also went to Stella and they said legally they can’t recommend places. Ive talked to other sex workers that I’ve met, but it’s hard to meet other workers. People are very secretive here. I’ve interviewed at 8 places and worked at 6 of them. I’ve had so many horrible experiences,and I’m at my wits end. I am broke and struggling very hard in this city. All I’m asking is for other people who have worked at these parlours in Montreal to comment the name(s) of their favourite parlour(s)

I don’t speak French btw

If you have experience in Ottawa, Toronto, Niagara, or Vancouver and have a favourite parlour there. I appreciate that information as well, as I travel a lot.

If you provide additional information such as if you have to do extras, what you make, and if they are strict and enforce penalties. That would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you I’m advance !

I left sexwork over a year ago and im getting back part time due to debt and stuff. I used to be in a lot of discord servers and subreddits but I can't remember for the life of me which ones, anyone got a few recommendations? I do a girl on girl, solo and a few fetiches.

Just looking to do some extra work on the side.

Trying this one more time. I have been an established provider for almost 20 years. A few days ago, one of my photos was approved at 9pm and shortly thereafter, my profile page disappeared. I still have my dashboard, it‘s just that the “Available Now” button is gone and it just has a “Manage Plan” button.

I have been chronically ill/ disabled since 2024. This is my only income currently & without it, I literally won’t survive. Yes, I have emailed Tryst about it, but wanted to see if I could get the Tryst support to respond here. I’ve tried to DM them. Can I tag them here or can someone tag them?

Hello!

I'm a 30 some women with absolutely no experience with dating or sex. I'm a lesbian. I have been considering hiring a SW during a vacation I'm planning for my birthday.

I guess my question is, how up front should I be about my inexperience?

I've looked at profiles on trusted sites and found the most beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life. So, I'm def considering it very, very hard. Lol.

I just had to share this absolute gem of insanity...imagine calling a professional service, doctor, massage therapist, lawyer, whatever and saying "listen, you do this job because you enjoy it, right? Well I can't enjoy getting professional services unless it's free, so how about I just don't pay you for your time? I live in a nice house btw so, that really should be good enough for you right?" 😂😂😂🤡🤡🤡

I’m new to the industry. I needed a change in career, I couldn’t get myself out of debit in a stressful low paying career so I opted out and chose to do SW instead. It’s been a real eye opener for me and honestly like a big confidence booster.
My family would kill me if they knew but what they don’t know won’t hurt them. But yes I do take precautions, my best friends know about my work and they always have my location shared.
I feel like I’m getting there one day at a time but it has been a big adjustment and so many things to learn.

Clients privacy would remain protected of course.

I wrote all of this in response to somebody who had some internal conflict about their boyfriend admitting he had previously booked an escort. The question was proposed very respectfully, and this is a topic I really enjoy discussing and I think its important. While I dont know why they deleted their post, I hope they or somebody else who has the same question will see this.

I think everyone has heard some form of nightmare story about clients and the dangerous or negative parts of sex work, especially full service sex work like escorting, which is the most vulnerable and most stigmatized job in the industry.

I have had my negative experiences, and while they have informed the way I approach my job and other people in general, they dont make up the majority of my experience, and frankly they're rather uncommon for me these days. There was a time I was a survival worker but I am not anymore.

((Please note that I am in a privileged position. I am a white girl in Canada, I have a higher level of safety and access to more resources than a lot of other SW's, so i can only speak to my own personal experience. The more vulnerable someone is, the more the vultures come out.))

A lot of my clients are boring. A lot of them are busy people with busy lives that cant maintain intimate personal relationships for one reason or another.

I see my clients as people. That is what they are. People are so diverse and complex, and my favourite part of my job is getting to know people from completely different walks of life than my own. I'm some middle class goth girl who likes anime and punk music-- but i know about some financial investor's difficult relationship with his father. I know about some film director's first high-school crush. I know about some neuro-science undergrads latest breakup or existential dread.

I get to know these strangers on such an intimate level, so quickly. Ultimately these people come to see me for sex, but i get to learn about them through those acts as well. That guy's mother's friend wore pantyhose one time, and now hes grown up and feels special when I remember to wear pantyhose to our dates.

I love to learn about people, I think human connection is so undervalued and uninformed in our society. If im lucky, I even get to help people figure themselves out and maybe heal just a little.

I do see myself as a therapist in some ways. If a client stops coming to see me, maybe ive helped them gain some confidence and build a personal relationship.

There are clients that are boring, jerks, rude, creepy or even dangerous but theres also clients that are sweet, funny, shy, cute, and interesting.

My clients are just people, and im just a person. Im a person that has decided that within my boundaries, I will share my time and body for a set price. They are people that have decided they are willing to pay that price for that experience with me.

There is a lot of SWERF rhetoric out there that its impossible to consent to paid sex. The irony of this rhetoric- is it takes away my autonomy! Who are these random "feminists" to tell me when i am or am not consenting?? They cannot tell me what I do or do not consent to, just as a client or any other person cannot tell me that.

I do consent at work, and my consent is informed and enthusiastic. That payment is required for my consent to be given, just like my consent requires a condom, my consent requires hygiene, my consent requires respect. 

Please feel free to reply or DM me if you have any other questions, I really value discussions like this and I enjoy the topic!

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I'm an American independent adult content creator trying to understand how the UK's new pornography restrictions will affect creators and the wider industry.

From November 6, 2026, the Crime and Policing Act introduces offences relating to possession and publication of certain pornographic images depicting strangulation or suffocation, specified incest scenarios, and roleplay sexual activity involving adults portraying someone under 16.

What concerns me is the practical impact on independent workers: existing content libraries, custom commissions, international customers, platform policies, and the risk that websites will remove more material than the law actually covers.

When legislation affects what people can create, possess, and sell, creators need clear guidance about what is prohibited and enough time to respond. Overly broad platform enforcement can also affect people's livelihoods, even when their material doesn't fall within the law.

I'm not arguing against tackling exploitation or abuse. I'm interested in how we protect people without creating unnecessary harm for consensual adult creators.

For UK creators and people familiar with the industry:

- Have your platforms explained what content will be affected?

- Are you having to review or remove existing content?

- Have you found reliable legal guidance about the boundaries of the new offences?

- Are any sex-worker organizations helping creators navigate the changes?

I'd really appreciate firsthand experiences and reliable resources.

Official guidance: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/crime-and-policing-act-2026-offences-relating-to-pornography

I've been living abroad for the past 5 years.

Moved back recently (Toronto ON) with a school aged kid.

Saved a humble down payment- and BAM - no one wants anything to do with me because I'm self employed and I have a failed consumer proposal on my records from about 7 years ago

Fine... As much as that hurt, I've accepted it

Now? Now I learn that no one will rent to me either 🤣

This has got to be a damn joke.

They wants to see up to 2 years of bank statements, made at regular monthly intervals, so show regular income AND I need to offer a few months upfront AND get a cosigner they deem acceptable.

That's almost a humble down payment already... For a low budget 1 bedroom in an undesirable area....

This can't be it.

How the hell are you ladies getting by ?

The gravy train ended a while ago, and my days of making 50-60k/month are long gone.

How do low end SW ladies (I say low end because all the US chicks here charge 600+/hr and call themselves mid range) move out of shitty basements that no thirty something year old with any-aged child should ever find themselves in, and into a reasonable living space? I am not asking for 4 bedrooms and a Jacuzzi tub in my ensuite. I am asking for a comfortable unit, without pests, roaches, or addict infestations. (It pains me deeply that this even needs to be said about my beautiful hometown... But I digress). Please help.

What the heck am I missing here ?

I'm having my first real depression that I can't "work" my way out of 😬🙈 jokes aside...

I found this forum just recently and I wish I knew about it sooner. Reading through the posts here gave me a sense of belonging I wish I had when I was just a baby girl trying to navigate this wild world on my own.

Well now I'm older and more screwed than I've ever felt in my entire life... So I'm really hoping a sister can help another sister out 🩷

alright soo in short some girls who works at this street also works at a road/highway that is used for SW and they have to pay 2.1k tl weekly to a guy for driving them to the road and picking them back up,this part seems normal,it's for transportation

but apparently you also have to pay a house mom 1.5k tl daily to work there...for what? girl will be doing it in client's car,there is no protection from danger or cops neither and the average price for cardates is between 700-1000tl with rumors of some girls doing it for as low as 500tl

it just doesn't makes sense to me,I heard this around 1 month ago and didn't questioned it back then but now thinking of it,it just sounds bs to me that they take that much money just to be allowed to work at a fucking road

I would like some advice from the girlies that get clients from of and fansly. Is it a free of page you are using? Should I post my nudes in the free one? How do you do it?