I’ve recently had a bad encounter where client tried to rob me and when I brought it up to someone they were like “don’t u screen them” I said yeah I FaceTimed them and they said “that’s it” what’s the best way to screen a client ! I never really had a issue like that in the 3yrs I been doing this and I want to avoid it from happening again

So I got an email today saying that my account email has been changed.And when I tried to sign in , I got the runaround with having to try and recover my account.And then I found my account had didn't change from where i'm located in ontario to somewhere in the states in a totally different country with a completely different phone number but using the same photos. I\\nHave contacted support.And I'm in the process of recovering my account, but I'm just wondering if anybody else has had this issue before and if not, I just like to warn other SPs to be very careful.

EDIT UPDATE::

Tryst support was able to reinstate my account and I regained access !

Trying to explore the possibilities of saying hey I escort but not say hey I escort you know? How where and what would I say??? Just shooting in the dark here...

So I've always been an incall provider with limited outcall interactions in my local area usually not like 40 miles from my house or sometime cross state lines to be with regulars I have since I'm on the border of two states. I got an idea that of making money in another part of my home state that's building a data center. The girls on the sites out there are higher rated than I am in my small region. How would I go about planning the cheapest and safest option to tour out there for a week? Hotel tips, rental car tips, safety tips, advertising tips especially if I've never been there would be fantastic because with my history of traveling to other towns with a past provider I ended up not making any money and partially that was because she was driving and didn't let me go to the dates that I was booking for shit plus I don't think the guys were trusting I was legitimate idk it just went badly. Advice? Reassurance?

Has anyone else had any difficulties with networking and socializing with other SWers? I know I'm shy and don't initially start many conversations or introductions with other SWers but the only experiences I have are that they are just wanting to get over on me somehow or some way. I had a girl work with me and she ended up taking over the outcalls without giving me a chance to bust a single call even when I had set them up for myself and her! That shit became a loss for me instead of even straight up. I have had traumatic experiences as well where I was physically attacked by some of the other girls out here over misunderstandings that could have been clearly discussed. I'm not a fighter by any means in any shape or form but it just always seems to get either conflicting financially or mentally/physically for me, man.

I've been in Reno for a couple years now mostly with an online presence. Recently started freestyling more and wondering if anyone else is also in Reno who is interested in community. Im from Seattle and had a solid group of friends who would freestyle in the same areas, keep an eye on each other and maintained an updated bad date list.

I started thinking about this after talking with a man recently who used some red flag language and realized I didn't know who to share it with.

So yeah, looking to network in Reno. Safety in numbers and all. Message me.

I'm in Atlanta this weekend for a wedding May 19th-24th. My home base is Raleigh. It would be fun have sw friends.

i'm getting back into my flow but i've been off and on for a few years lol. i used to just use twt/ cb / of .... what are some good platforms for cultivating relationships? not necessarily the Sw itself but making connections ? twitter is so weird nowadays lol. i've had friends find simpies thru twitch - that is fascinating to me

A wonderful Twitter thread was shared 6 years ago on this subreddit. Alas, DeLaine's Twitter was deleted, as was the tweet, but I managed to find a snapshot of the old thread. I've copy-and-pasted it below. I did not write this gold mine, Delaine in LA did. If she has a new account and you know it, please share!

I will be posting the thread in SWO, or you can contact me with solid proof that: 1. You're a sex worker 2. The Reddit account you're using is owned by you

The truth about Tryst and the FLOOD of so called “onlyfans creators”

Why my voice matters: 20 years in the industry. 4 years on onlyfans, years spent inside onlyfans agency telegram groups comprised of 99% men, sometimes posing as a man. Countless conversations with agency owners and their assistants. I HAVE DONE MY RESEARCH. This is not an opinion piece. I have DOZENS of screenshots. Several conversations over the phone as well.

Im in these telegram groups to learn about new automations and marketing and occasionally I pay for services.

First of all: These men will openly BRAG about using tryst and how easy it is.

There are COURSES being sold on how to infiltrate escort platforms and bypass any rules (think fake reviews, fake phone numbers, paying a woman to pass photo/ID checks, and then controlling the account themselves)

WHAT I HAVE LEARNED

Tryst is (unknowingly?) supporting scummiest of online pimps aka onlyfans “agencies”

A handful of (in some cases) very wealthy men who are profiting at the expense of our entire community (and the clients who seek real companionship)

These agency owners buy models on telegram model marketplaces. They are almost exclusively from third world countries.

Models are bought and sold like cattle. They often have no idea they are being sold like this. Once purchased from the scout/finder for a fee. Management then has them set up tryst (and leolist) accounts funnelling American clients away from actual independent sex workers located in the US.

Once funnelled onto Onlyfans subscribers interact with their chatbots and VAs There is no woman, models are not given access to the account. These accounts are purely run by male agency owners

Agencies pay women a salary. There is no cut. I have been told by multiple agency owners the average is $400 a month. Sometimes only for a few months. After they have enough content many women are discarded. Content can be sold again and again…year after year. They can make 5K, 10K, 20k upwards to 60k a month on some accounts.

The model provides photos and verification for tryst and OF and a few porns (sometimes) and the agency TAKES EVERYTHING ELSE

Agencies are running an average of 4-10 models on tryst. Many brag openly about having 10 ++ accounts. Funnels are set up from all social media to capture all leads.

Fake tours are set up to get more exposure. They know exactly what they are doing

These “girls” are easy to spot. But truly, we need to stop thinking of them as “girls”

They are photos of girls, yes, but there is no girl behind the ad. They are seedy, online pimps who have paid for photoshoots.

Obviously, many escorts have OF. I am NOT calling for a crackdown. Onlyfans is an AMAZING source of income and for many sex workers.. it can pay your rent when you are sick or too ill to work. MANY sex workers, including myself, are disabled. When I have a flare up, I dont have to push myself to do a session. Thats amazing. I love running my OF and I would be so sad to lose that income

I think it’s easy to determine who is who.

Tryst needs to address this. This is online pimping, benefitting a few dozen men who are literal millionaires. Men who talk about women like cattle to be bought and sold. Witnessing their comments and jokes and sharing of intimate media is truly disgusting to watch. They think this is a joke, they know exactly what they are doing, they are trying to infiltrate all platforms.

***They are likely in the sex workers only group because they have a tryst ad and can verify****

This isn’t about getting rid of “competition” it’s about having integrity. Tryst will lose money ridding the site of these scumbags, but it is the right thing to do.

NOTE a few months ago I emailed Tryst with links to 10, 20 profiles in my city alone. They did nothing. Those profiles are still up, months later.

CAVEAT: I would like to share this with the community at large. Despite being a sex worker of 2 decades, I was BANNED from sharing in /Sexworkers.

Instant, no warning given, perm ban for sharing a link to one of the Tryst fake OF profiles - as an example of what they look like

Suuuuper heavy handed. Not kind.

That particular mod ( I cant tell who) has sat on this info about tryst and decided to NOT share it and NOT respond to my request to share it, or lift the ban on me, which honestly felt like a huge power trip. Its felt like "I dont like you personally, so I will keep you from the support of the larger community"

mods need to realize, SW is already isolating enough. Banning active sex workers should be a last resort. We are a (neuro) spicy bunch, yes, but I truly believe we are stronger together and banning for one time offences can literally mean life or death in this industry. SEX WORKERS NEED SUPPORT. People are going to unknowingly mess up.

Id like the ban lifted.

Nothing I did was intentional. I wasn't looking to hurt anyone.

Linking a fake "sex worker" - a 100% OF management run profile I thought would be helpful so people could see what they look like, how to spot them. my hope was to rally us together to try and get to the bottom of things. That was month ago now. Ive since then devoted HOURS to colletcting info, asking questions, getting agency owners to trust me and tell all.

I didnt know posting a link was wrong - you dont know what you dont know - right?

Hi beautifuls!

So I used to do SW when Backpage was still a thing and stopped for a long time . I’ve recently jumped back into the game and I’m feeling sooo unmotivated and confused lol . Idk what to do anymore . Things are def the same . I’ve been working on my digital presence but even THAT feels like I’m not doing enough . I’m ready to get my feet back in the water but idk where to start and I’m scary as hell about the 👮. I know the game is to be sold , not told but help a Heaux out with some advice / motivation .. anything 😭 Cause I’m doing it alone this time around.

I've been a working heaux for almost six years now, and now that I've lost access to therapy I don't have anyone I can talk to about it anymore. I used to share a little bit with friends, but over time I've stopped talking about it because it made them uncomfortable and they couldn't really identify with it anyway. The only SW friends I had have moved on to vanilla work only.

If anyone wants to be a penpal and complain together about the lifestyle struggles I could really use a friend

Hey everyone, I’m posting this because I genuinely don’t know where else to turn. A few weeks ago I was physically assaulted and forced to do things I didn’t consent to. Since then I’ve been trying to survive, but I lost everything — my laptop, personal and work phones, makeup, toys, my ID, and even my place to stay.

I’ve been so traumatized I haven’t been able to work, and someone I cared about deeply has cut me off too. I’m in Southern California (Hollywood area), broke, hungry, and scared of being on the street soon.

If anyone knows resources for sex workers in crisis — like: • Safe or short-term housing • Food or mutual aid • Low-cost or free clinics • Help replacing stolen IDs or accessing emergency funds

…please let me know. I just need a place to start. I’m not looking for pity — just trying to survive and rebuild.

If anyone has been through something similar and has advice, or even just kind words, I’d be grateful.

Thank you for reading this, and for holding space for people like us when the rest of the world doesn’t. 💔

I'm new to SW, I launched my website 3 months ago, and have been on STG for that amount of time as well. I have social accounts on Insta, Bluesky, and Twitter. I also have a reddit but I admittedly haven't been promoting myself there (mostly because I've struggled to find SW friendly groups, if anyone has any advice that would be *fantastic*). I've been on Tryst for a month and have been trying to get Velvet22 unsuccessfully for two months.

I have not gotten a single client except for one guy who bought some custom photos. Right when I first launched my STG I was getting around 10 messages a day but none of them panned out. They all either said my rates were too high, immediately ghosted, refused to screen, or were only interested in same day, which I don't offer.

I don't know what I'm doing wrong, and any advice people have would be extremely appreciated. I'm considering starting to host out of my apartment so that I can accommodate same day bookings, but that comes with its own host of risks.

I offer greek and facials, I would have thought this would be an automatic draw, but at this point I'm getting one text a week and my website is getting less than 10 hits a day. I'm trans and I know that limits me automatically, but I feel like I should have had something work out so far.

Is there something wrong with my website (www.sweetseraph.com)? Or my photos/the copy on my ads? Is it my rates? I know I should be posting on social media more consistently than I have been, but it's hard for me to believe that that's the only factor affecting my lack of business. What, if anything, should I be doing differently? Answers or advice from clients and SWrs is equally appreciated.

To be clear I am *not* soliciting or asking for advice on how to launch since I've already launched, I am specifically asking for feedback on how I've been promoting myself and any flaws in my online presence or insight into why I haven't been able to get business. I hope this doesn't violate the newbie posts policy, but I am totally willing to delete if this does.

Today I lost 350 yet again because of me not doing outcalls. I am super paranoid with them, even with people I met before. Is there any way to foolproof screen or maybe some other tips for filtering psychopaths?

What do you do to drum up business?

For context, it’s my first time independent since being in my new home town. I know things are slow across the board where I live for all workers. I’m trying to suss out if I’ve priced myself wrong for my current town, if the few clients around are only booking workers they’ve seen before, or something else.

I’m tempted to run a “special” to entice some new clients. Wording is along the lines of “June / end of financial year discount: if you actually follow the instructions in my listing, you’ll get a $100 discount on your first booking”

Set them a challenge, see if they rise to the occasion? I’ve never offered something like this before, so don’t know what issues I may encounter doing this.

Would love any and all suggestions and advice on this please 🙏☺️

How the heck do I advertise on skip the games ? I am getting rerouted to select my location when I attempt log in or create an ad

Hi Friends! I'm a queer hair stylist working in a private studio, and I want to hear from you about what you'd LOVE for your hair appointments to maximize your comfort and what would bring value to you. Even if it's additional services, after hours appointments, etc etc.

I understand as a baseline privacy and discretion are a must, but beyond that~ what can I do/offer to cater to y'all in a meaningful way?

:> Thank you in advance for taking the time to answer questions. For context: The way I run my business, I charge hourly as a flat rate for all services, and gratuity+ haircare is factored into my pricing.