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Hey y’all lol. I’m looking for some advice on both how to deal with post coitus pain and queefing, as the title suggests.

For context, I have to deal with my vaginismus and pelvic floor dysfunction in my day to day pretty often. Sex always hurts during and after due to vaginismus, my pelvic floor is so fucked up now I’m dealing with urinary incontinence. It seems to be a mix of some trauma responses from childhood and a byproduct of my connective tissue disorder (I talk to my PCP about this often). I also have seminal plasma hypersensitivity, AKA semen allergy, so this contributes quite a bit to the burning and pain in some cases.

So obviously I am pretty tight during the act itself. Both in my personal and professional life, it drives me a bit crazy. Mostly just because it leads to very quick endings, which is quite annoying in my personal, and CAN be nice during a booking, but can also suck, iykyk. The pain afterwards is likewise frustrating, my puss will feel like it’s on fire for up to a couple hours afterwards. I’ll be shifting around on the drive home because it hurts to even sit down.

And for the guys with more stamina, when my PFD flares, I keep having bookings where I can’t stop queefing lol. Switching positions can be pretty common during bookings compared to regular sex. When guys pull out lately she keeps talking. I’m not a very shy person but I just don’t know how to deal with it in the moment when it keeps happening while a guy is fucking me. I’m just looking for advice from any girlies who also deal with any of this lol! Managing pain during and after mostly. Thanks ladies!

hey ladies , I hope everyone is doing great . I wanted to inquire about the best websites that will attract the best men out there , I am experienced and I know what I want , I just dont want to meet low value men and low class , I can never stand that and also , are there any legit agencies that take a small comission and take girls to yacht charters and private jets ? thanks .

Can someone please check whether my PD account is red-flagged or blacklisted?

Hi!

I am currently 5'4 120 lbs and have natural breasts, somewhere between an A and B cup. I have mostly lower pole fullness and am looking to fill out the upper portion of my breast while giving them a more lifted and round appearance, but not balloon like.

What time of year do you think is the best time to get implants?

When do you go back to FS?

How bad was the recovery?

The scarring is what I am most worried about, especially since I want a lift. How bad did yours end up being?

Did this change your income for the better? I worry I may lose clients. I've had clients tell me to never do anything to my breasts. I just feel I'd be more confident if they were fuller and perkier.

Edit: I am not the modern girlfriend writing this I have watched all of her different posts on the topic and it got me curious with a question of my own so I decided to post.
In light of the most recent profile review post I am now curious about the different goals and outcomes of escorting. The modern girlfriend’s comments say she’s not prioritizing traditional escorting but rather wants consistent men who will provide for her and essentially wants to follow in the foot steps of Bella banks, Adelyn Moore/Ada Hopper, Caroline Kelly, and Meida Marek (who she referenced in her comments). So why does it work for them and the modern girlfriend is looked as dreaming for wanting to go down a similar path? Is it mainly just because she’s launching a new unknown brand with lackluster marketing?

I’m curious how other providers handle clients who gradually start treating you more like a girlfriend than an escort, especially when they’re otherwise sweet and respectful. Am I crazy for feeling this way despite marketing as a GFE companion?

For context, I don’t even know if I’d consider him a regular yet, as he’s only booked me twice, although both bookings were within a relatively short period. Both were three-hour dates at his residence. He cooks for me, our time together has always been pleasant, and he’s opened up quite a bit about his past relationships and personal life. He’s divorced, lives alone, and has even described me as his “therapist” before. I get the impression that he’s lonely, which I can empathize with.

After our first date, he started sending casual texts unrelated to bookings. Initially, I didn’t mind because they weren’t particularly frequent, and I’d occasionally respond. However, the communication gradually increased, especially around our second date and afterward.
During our second date, he made a comment about how one of his biggest fantasies involving me was the possibility of what we have being “real.” That made me uncomfortable because, respectfully, we’ve spent a total of six hours together. He doesn’t actually know me outside of our dates.

He’s also started suggesting what types of photos I should post next, which, admittedly, really annoyed me. I can’t even fully explain why. Something about it felt like a subtle sense of entitlement or an increasing level of familiarity that I never really invited. But I also question whether I’m being unnecessarily irritable because, objectively, making a suggestion isn’t inherently disrespectful.

I’m generally not someone who texts much outside of arranging bookings, answering brief questions beforehand, or occasionally chatting shortly afterward. Since our second date, I’ve gradually stopped responding to his casual messages altogether. I’d rather not encourage an expectation of ongoing communication.
Here’s where I feel conflicted. Sometimes I feel guilty for being annoyed because he’s genuinely sweet. He hasn’t been aggressive, demanding, or explicitly disrespectful. At the same time, I’m an escort, not his girlfriend or therapist, and I don’t want to feel obligated to provide ongoing emotional availability between dates.

I also recognize that my irritation is mine to manage. Rather than allowing relatively harmless messages to occupy so much emotional space, I can simply choose not to engage.
For those who’ve experienced something similar, do you let your lack of responses communicate your boundaries, or do you explicitly address expectations around communication? At what point does harmless friendliness start feeling like an expectation of unpaid emotional availability?

Half my requests come from clients younger than 35 years old. I’m almost mid 30’s, I advertise as early 30’s. My presentation is sophisticated and quite mature I think. I’m face in, but IRL I look my age, not younger.
Do you accept to see clients a bit younger than you? I’m afraid to accept the booking and for it to feel awkward once I’m there. I’m based in Europe and I feel men in their late 20’s/early 30’s look very young here.

Do some providers think the rest of us and clients can’t see or? Why do 70-80% of high-end ads $1k+ especially $2k+ have photos that are the actual girl but a completely AI generated version of her and the background usually looks generated too. These are legit providers who I remember seeing normal pics of before they started relying on AI for fake photoshoots to create an AI version of them. I can 100% tell the difference between a professionally shot photo with polished skin/edits vs. a completely AI generated photoshoot. They must think the difference isn’t too big to spot but it’s very obvious and repulsive and I’m wondering how they’re even getting business still with obviously fake photos. I assume the ones who have been at it for a while don’t care too much about attracting new clients and are fine relying on regulars who know they’re real and maybe the AI generated photos are to show regulars “updated” pics of them.
Another thing that it could be is having actual photoshoots but asking AI to make edits which always ends up making the entire photo look generated.

I’m in a 20k/month exclusive arrangement in a big city.

I had made escorting my life - and honesty, I miss the potential to make more money, seeing other clients (as a single woman it’s hard being exclusive), getting gifts, being pursued, feeling desired, feeling free, etc.

Again, it really sucks not having room for higher income months. It’s depressing. But a consistent 20k/month is hard to trade for uncertainty/starting from scratch.

It took me a year to grow my new twitter to…. Wait for it… 3,000 followers 😩 maybe I’m not trying hard enough. My instagram has the same amount of followers. Do followers even equate to having a successful brand anymore? It used to be so much easier to build a following but now it seems impossible

Hey ladies! I’m based in North Carolina and looking to explore working with an agency. I’m open to traveling or relocating for the right opportunity, so I’m not limited to NC.
I’m looking for reputable agencies that have consistent bookings, good earning potential, and a solid reputation among the girls who have worked with them. I’m especially interested in NYC, DC, Miami, Atlanta, and other major East Coast markets.

If you’ve personally worked with an agency you’d recommend, I’d love to hear about your experience! I’m interested in how consistent the bookings are, what the money is really like, and whether the agency is worth working with. I’d also appreciate any advice on agencies to avoid.

When do you know it’s time to retire?
I’ve been in this industry for over a decade, and lately I’ve been seriously questioning whether continuing to invest in my business makes financial sense.

My biggest challenge has always been developing a consistent, dependable base of regular clients. To clarify, I absolutely have repeat clientele. I have gentlemen I see every time they visit my city or every time I visit theirs, as well as others who return every couple of months or periodically throughout the year.

What I don’t have is a reliable rotation of clients booking weekly, biweekly, or monthly. My repeat business is sporadic rather than predictable, which means I’m continually relying on advertising and new client acquisition to generate income.
For years, touring has been my way of compensating for that. Historically, I’ve had some very profitable trips, but lately even touring has become increasingly unpredictable. Some trips barely break even after advertising, accommodations, transportation, and other expenses.

The part I can’t seem to figure out is my pricing sweet spot.

I’ve experimented with different rates, and the results have been inconsistent. Sometimes I lower my rates and still go weeks without a booking. Other times I increase them and suddenly generate business.

My typical two hour minimum is around $1,500, although I’ve experimented with rates ranging from $1,200 to $2,000 depending on the market. Shorter appointments are generally reserved for returning clients. I have over 12 years of industry history, an established reputation, positive reviews, and professional marketing materials.

I also want to distinguish professional photography from misrepresentation.

My goal with photography is to present my actual appearance attractively, not create unrealistic expectations. I have positive reviews specifically mentioning that my photographs accurately represent me. The absence of predictable recurring appointments does not establish that clients are disappointed when they meet me.

I’m a curvier woman who has had two children. I don’t have an athletic physique or a perfectly flat stomach, so wardrobe, lighting, and posing are important considerations in how I approach my marketing. That’s not inherently deceptive. It’s professional presentation.

Different body types, aesthetics, and target demographics benefit from different approaches. What works beautifully for one provider doesn’t necessarily work for another. I recognize that my photographs could use updating, but that brings me to another issue.

At what point does reinvesting stop making financial sense?

Professional photography, wardrobe, hair, makeup, advertising, and travel all cost money. I’m not opposed to investing in my business. I’ve done it for years. But when I’m struggling to generate consistent revenue, spending another $1,000 or more on updated marketing materials feels like a gamble rather than a straightforward business decision.

I’m also not interested in simply increasing my booking volume at any price. I’ve spent years cultivating an upscale brand, and I’d prefer to maintain a sustainable balance between my rates, workload, and overall profitability.

What I’m trying to understand is whether I’m dealing with a pricing problem, a client retention problem, a marketing problem, a geographic problem, or a business model that simply isn’t producing the returns it once did.

For those of you who have been in the industry for ten, fifteen, or twenty years:

Have you experienced periods where your established reputation and repeat clientele simply weren’t enough to sustain consistent income?
How did you determine whether your rates were too high, too low, or whether pricing wasn’t the issue at all?
How much of your monthly income comes from dependable regulars versus new clients?
At what point did you stop reinvesting in advertising, touring, or photography because the return no longer justified the expense?

If you’ve successfully transitioned away from touring or into a different business model, what actually worked?

I’m particularly interested in hearing from providers who have experienced significant changes in their business over time, rather than those who have always had a consistent rotation of regulars.
I’m not new to the industry, and I’m not looking for reassurance that success requires effort or investment. I understand that.

I’m trying to determine whether the amount of money, time, and energy I’m putting into this business is still justified by what I’m getting out of it.

At what point do you recognize that it’s time to restructure, significantly reduce your involvement, or retire altogether?

EDIT: I never said I was broke or couldn’t afford to put gas in my car. I’m half joking in regards to the way prices go up nearly every day. Rising operating expenses affect everyone regardless of income. Perhaps I was being overly dramatic in how I expressed my frustration but I’ve still grossed over $100,000 this year.

My question was never whether my business is viable. I was asking at what point you decide it’s time to close your books rather than continue accepting appointments that no longer make financial sense.

There’s a difference between having a slow year, questioning your marketing strategy, and running an unsuccessful business. I’m not sure why those distinctions are being ignored.

Hi, I want to know your opinion on how can keeping your natural hair curly (3A/3B type) can potentially affect (negatively/ positively??) your branding and possibility of attracting more clients ESPECIALLY UPSCALE ONES I am currently trying to improve my marketing and would really use honest advice/opinion from my fellow colleagues.

For info: I live in a diverse city in Canada, but I don’t see much escorts with curly hair. I am a WOC.

Thank U for your time and may your pockets stay heavy.

I recently started sex work as a companion. I did set up a profile on Tryst about...three weeks ago? Maybe two and a half. But realized that wasn't working so about one week ago, I got a website, which I put on my Tryst profile, a social media page (Bluesky), various forms of contact including a phone number.

It worked! Except for one issue.

The only people contacting me are men asking explicit requests to what to do with my mouth, who want me to suffocate them with my ass, are calling at 1 in the morning, or just hated that I wouldn't meet them within the same hour of messaging me.

I have a 2 hour minimum rule, I have an hourly rate of $500, require a 24 hour notice, and a screening process. I have no idea if I'm presenting myself as someone who isn't worthy of being taken seriously or what but it's starting to affect my confidence lmaooo like damn, am I doing something wrong?

I was very deliberate with all the choices I made and it's been disheartening. How long did it take for you to get your first inquiry vs. your first booking?

I’ve been seeing this billionaire on and off for almost 4 years. He’s married, very discreet and obviously has a ridiculous amount of money.

He currently gives me £3k per meet, and our meetings are usually very short, sometimes less than an hour. He's paid less in the past, but £3k has become our established amount. I'm now considering raising it to £5k.

The thing is, I know he can afford a lot more, but whenever I’ve asked for bigger amounts or things outside our usual arrangement, he’s been reluctant. I’ve turned down his meets a few times and he’s come back offering more, so I know he’s willing to negotiate to some extent.
He also keeps coming back to me despite having access to pretty much any woman he wants.
I do actually like him, and the chemistry is good, but I’m starting to feel like I’m not getting as much out of this arrangement as I could.
I’m thinking of raising my minimum to £5k or asking for £10k upfront towards my education in exchange for a couple of future meets.

Has anyone dealt with a billionaire who’s surprisingly tight with his money? Did you ever manage to get him to become more generous?

I’m also wondering if I’ve made a mistake by accepting the same amount for so long.
Would love advice from girls who’ve dealt with extremely wealthy men.

Should I try renegotiating or just accept that this is probably the most he’s willing to give?

I’m planning on moving to Japan for 6 months to a year on the WHV. Whether I’ll bother to have an on the record job while on that visa is neither here nor there. I am black, and I just wanted to ask whether there are any black providers there and if so, are you as successful there as anywhere else or considerably less so? Main places I’ll be spending extended amounts of time will be Tokyo, Kyoto and Osaka. Will it be worth escorting there or will it be extremely difficult to make money? I don’t speak Japanese.

Where do Barcelona based escorts meet high earning men? Is it purely online on Euros or at certain bars/hotels?

Can’t seem to find high end clientele while visiting Barcelona

Before u say, I’m stupid and I was 20. He’s in nyc and I’m in London. He gave me cash and money via PayPal.

She has all my info my photos legal name dob address number email. Worst part is she likely has my parents number cuz he found it one time.

She called me and said “hi (my name)”. I hung up and blocked her. I think she emailed me smth threatening via her husbands email “the end is near” or something like that.

It’s been 2 years. I changed my number but my emails still the same. I’ve deleted every trace of him. Nothing has happened so far? But I still get anxious. How do I protect myself? Has a wife ever exposed you on social media?

I'm considering an offer from a regular I trust but I still want to protect myself. It would be a trip out of country for a week. Any steps I should take or additional boundaries I should consider? I was thinking about maybe some guaranteed time separate each day. How do you adapt your rates for long term dates?

girls I am so confused what shall I do I need to lock the F in and work 😂😭 any tips or emails ?

I know season is upon us but does anyone have any tips they’d like to share for my area?! It’s SO slow and the guys that do reach out are 🗑️

Anyone in the Orlando area who could share ideas on how to get new clients. I have been struggling to attract newer clients in the area.