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I've had 8 sessions now (~2hrs each), 3-4 days apart (no additional orgasm between) with the Njoy and I'm struggling a bit. In the last few sessions I've found that the strongest prostate sensation comes from laying down on bed, pillow under butt, inserting small end (big works too), then twisting around 180 degrees so that the wand lies in the buttcrack. But before laying down fully I have to angle it JUST right aka not too flat against my body. This gives an extremely sharp pressure on the prostate, in fact when I initially do this for the first time each session I immediately drip as I press on it.

So, I think I'm hitting the spot well. But going about it the wrong way. First is this sharpness what I'm looking for? I always hear the word "full" but I haven't quite felt that yet. And also typically, I start with no motion at all. Just for 30-45 minutes: insert, deep belly breaths, relax relax, watch arousing material, don't touch dick, etc. During this time I've never felt anything close to a wave or orgasm unfortunately. It just feels like a meditation session.

So then I start to move it (rock, push, thrust, etc.) and that's when I drip a ton. Just a mix of clear prostatic fluid and semen. But still no real pleasure. Inevitably I just go for a penile orgasm.

Some more questions: should I be actively doing kegels, reverse kegels, or nothing? I have heard all of the above. And I know the answer might be different for everyone. Also should I focus more on milking or just static pressure? It seems milking often leads to HFWOs, and the later leading to HFDOs. And positions.... I've tried several on my back, also sitting in my computer chair with legs on the desk using the wand as "joystick" as someone recommended here. And also sitting on floor and doggy style. I haven't tried on my belly because I feel like it might be too easy to lean into penile stimulation if I go that route.

Anyways, please help! I'm not exactly sure where to go from here. I've accepted that I need to go into each session not seeking an orgasm. But inevitably an hour or hour and a half goes by, nothing happens, and I get a bit frustrated.

Prostate orgasm learnings a month after my first Super O.

So I had my first Super O and dry orgasms about a month ago. Link to my write up on the 2 separate sessions I had and what I found https://www.reddit.com/r/ProstatePlay/s/CGsy2x6xnJ or check my profile and you will find the write ups.

I am just going to give a few points that I have learnt as I played again this week.

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1. Again in my opinion the most important thing is you need to be able to relax, you need your life in order. If you like me I struggle to relax if I have things I know I need to do so I get my work and admin life in order so I can properly chill out with nothing popping into my mind 30 min in that I need to send something to a customer or whatever it may be. I like being organised and that helps me relax the most.
2. Forgot how slow I need to take it, felt the build up and again if I read my notes I would have known as I am getting to 80% of the way there I need to slow down and go even slower to create that “tickle” and not scratch the itch and go even harder. It’s not a penis orgasm, it’s essentially edging where you trying to barely touch yourself and edge yourself there over time.
3. I squirt when I build up if I push harder as I build up, slow down and go softer. I am trying to avoid the big squirt. But you will leak and squirt a tiny bit so putting on a condom helped because now I don’t worry about the pee/fluid going everywhere which I just don’t enjoy, allows me to settle in even more without wetting the whole mattress and you will be cold in 10/15 min if you just squirt all over and don’t clean up which doesn’t help. Always remember you want complete comfort and relaxation for this to work.
4. I highly suggest ASMR porn.(always use headphones) I never ever use it unless I’m have a prostrate session. Especially in the first 30-45min because it allows me to relax and only focus on my prostate, sometimes porn can be distracting. What I have found if I start with ASMR and all my attention on my prostate and then when I move across to videos I’ve already created a process that is focused on the prostate and not what I am watching. I barely follow the porn after this it’s pretty much just on in the background as I am playing and my focus is mostly elsewhere.
5. Poppers, they are fun and if you use them occasionally during the session it’s fine. I find that as I am building up that if I take a hit it slows the whole process down. I try not to take hits when I am building up, I get far more sensation without it. But don’t get me wrong it helps the session in different ways but it is just a small part of it, it’s not the focal point.
6. Finally everyone has their own way that works and it’s all a work in progress so just enjoy it each time, as soon as there is pressure for it to be incredible you have already cooked your goose. Let it come to you, you can’t go grab it

I've just finally started to be able to orgasm from prostate play (for the last 3 sessions). The first orgasm each session has been pulses of what looks like pre-cum. The next orgasms that follow in the session are a much thinner fluid (pee?), I'm not sure what it is. How do I learn to not pee with every orgasm? It feels amazing but it's VERY messy. I made a conscious point to not push at all during my last session, but it was the same pattern. Sometimes the thin fluid is a significant amount. It doesn't smell overwhelmingly like pee, but there is a slight odor. Would love to not soak through a towel each time that I play. Thank you for any advice or words of encouragement!

hello, i am a year into prostate play and would like to buy a new toy. i have different kinds of dildo but i think the girth is not enough for me now and would like to upgrade, what do yall think i should buy? a finger fisting dildo or a 10 inch girthy dildo ? thankss

Who has used an Anal hook toy, how does it feel? Is it better than the "njoy wand"? I've seen models with 1,2 or 3 balls, which ones have they used?

When I abstain for that long, ejaculation via normal masturbation feels like I can never empty everything and it’s uncomfortable. I’ve also never had an orgasm or came from just prostate stimulation before. Wondering if I should just go cold turkey for a week or two, let myself get pent up, and if that tends to work for you guys? Because people say they do it daily to build up sensitivity.

I’m participating in locktober and have been since the first. Have not touched my dick at all.

It’s been all prostate play. I haven’t had a true HFDO or HFWO yet, but I’ve gotten extremely close.

I played a few days ago. Took a dildo and rode it, and got right on the edge- shaking, contacting, the whole nine yards, but nothing I would consider an orgasm.

My wife is coming this weekend for my birthday- we are long distance and the last time I orgasmed was with her over a month ago. She doesn’t know I play other than a plug I’ll incorporate during sex sometimes. She has told me that she’s getting into the chastity aspect of things- I kind of just broached it on her recently. She told me today that she’s bringing the key I left her this weekend.

Today, I was sitting at my desk. All of a sudden, it felt like I got an erection but it wasn’t where I expected. I’m wearing a nub cage, so impossible. And then my muscles around my prostate started involuntarily clenching and extreme tingles coming from my prostate. that’s when I realized, it wasn’t an erection. My prostate was so swollen that it was literally bulging my perineum.

The tingles and clenching continued, and I legitimately think I had a minor spontaneous prostate orgasm right at my desk out of nowhere. My penis started spasming like it was trying to ejaculate, but I didn’t.

I have not played with my prostate for fear of developing more please from it and not feeling the sex with my partner the same way, like prefering my toys over the sex with him. Or maybe does the opposite thing.

Need help

I have previously had a knock off wand, which was good, but I don't trust the metal. So A while ago I got the Njoy and the first session was short-ish and nothing to write home about! But today I've been feeling horny all day, and I knew that I would have the house to myself for 2 hours in the evening to play...this is what happened.

I started in the usual position...on my back, legs open and knees raised. I used a lot of lube and started with the small end. Sometimes I would feel nice feelings but nothing special and no pre-cum or anything....but I was enjoying it. I decided to use the large end for a while and this hit the spot straight away, but again, nothing special. After about 30 minutes I was almost pulling the large end out, but not quite and then sliding it back in over the prostate....it felt good. Without really meaning to, I picked up the pace and I was pushing Njoy over my prostate and the doing the same on the way (almost) out....then back in.....back (almost) out....etc etc. The feeling was amazing and I thought that my cock was going to either pee or cum even though it wasn't fully hard. I kept going and although I didn't cum (ejaculate) I was moaning and just so enjoying the feeling of being on a knife edge (I guess I could say) of losing control. I had to stop because things got a bit messy, and I was leaking pre cum, which tasted nice. Having cleaned up, I started again, and reached the same level again. Again, things got a little messy, not as messy as before, so I cleaned up and went for it again......and again I had the same result. It was wonderful. I didn't cum (ejaculate) at all, and after I did my final clean up, I didn't want to hand finish the job......I was already satisfied.

I hope this is the start of something that will get even better (but without getting messy!).

Once again, I had a nice session where I started dedicated to not thrust my njoy wand and only do small movements, but the feeling was nice so I started moving it and the faster I went the better it was, so I ended up thrusting, extremely close to what felt like a release but i couldnt reach it. I eventually peed (in the bathtub) but i continued (the peeing wasnt very pleasurable so i imagine it was not a peegasm) but then it felt less sensitive? I dont know I really want a breakthrough cause it feels so nice but I feel like im torturing myself since I cant release that O

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Hey folks, hope everyone is having a great week.

I know this sub doesn't substitute medical advice but I wanted to ask something in case someone has experienced something similar.

I have what I believe to be an overly tight pelvic floor where I'm constantly clenching my pc muscles and therefore find it hard to fight off the urge to ejaculate. I also find it difficult to maintain a solid erection without using a ring, as a tight floor inhibits blood circulation. I am treating this by performing regular reverse kegels, firstly while doing diaphragmatic breathing and secondly while engaged in various yoga stretches that target the pelvic floor area.

My question is, has anyone else experienced this, and if so, should I fix this before using an aneros device, which relies on a contraction of the pc muscles in order to work effectively? Would contracting these muscles regularly worsen my symptoms or can the use of an aneros (the peridise and helix in my case) be used alongside my stretching/reverse kegel regimen?

I've had the whole-body shivering after an orgasm, but occasionally at the beginning of a session, once I get my prostate massager in my ass, I will start shivering almost uncontrollably. This can last for anywhere from 5 to 15 minutes or so, long before I'm at peak pleasure or orgasming. Anyone else had this happen? Is it just a nervous system thing? It doesn't happen every time, but on occasion.

Hey guys! Currently increasing my stack :) I'm a Bi male.

So, I’ve been training with the Future Method glass dilator set (4 pieces: 0.9", 1.1", 1.3", 1.4" diameter, ~5.4" insertable on the largest). Now I'm looking for my first realistic dildo, both for anal and prostate stimulation, and as a bridge toward partnered sex / pegging later.

What I’m looking for:

• Body-safe: platinum silicone (single or dual density). I like firm pressure (glass works great for me) so maybe dual density or medium-firm single density could be better?
• Average to slightly bigger-than-average size.
• Defined head/coronal ridge and a slight curve toward the front for the prostate
• Firm enough to give prostate pressure (not floppy)
• Strong suction cup for wall/floor use
• Harness-compatible base for the future
• Durable, quality brand. Budget up to around $200.
• Ideally with foreskin like me and especially testicles.

Thanks in advance! :]

Background: about a year of regular (2 or 3 times a week) sessions with a knockoff i got for literal dirt cheap last xmas that had come hither motion. It was weak but hey you get what you pay for. I wanted more intensity so i got the Thor from Giddi which is a real reputable brand i’ve seen recommended.

My comparison:

Pros

1. The rotation is a completely different feeling from the come-hither. For me it feels more like the whole area getting worked but i know that’s personal preference
2. Having a remote was GREAT since i like nipple play too and now i can use both my hands
3. It's much stronger than the one i used before but that was expected

Cons

1. Girth. The first two sessions I went straight to it cold and it was so big it was unvomfortable but i find that it is okay with some warmup even with just using my fingers
2. The price. Honestly i realize Giddi is supposed to be a premium brand and a tier above Aneros but looking back i should have waited for Black Friday

Rating: 8/10 right now but it will probably be higher once i stop needing the warm up, but overall the improvement is noticeable and that’s what i wanted going into this purchase.

Playing with Eupho plastic, had pressure on taint contractions and rocking a bit, BOOM really felt a tap inside; sudden rush felt really good. The taps lasted just a bit and then gone. I couldn’t get them back.

Am I on track? That’s the first feeling for me

I have a message wand that I have been using the past two days and each time I feel myself getting incredibly close to a super o but havent been able to push it over the edge. Both days I have left a puddle of precum on myself so I know im close but just havent made it all the way.

I have been thinking about trying again all day today and just excitedly got home and ran upstairs. As im typing this I have a vibrater in me to warm me up. Wish me luck!

So, I've been trying to even get a HFWO by any means for a few years. I've tried vibrating dildos, I've tried big dildos, I've tried prostate massagers, I've tried njoy wands, I've tried mindgasm, I've tried THC and CBD. I also tried PC muscle training of sorts to which I get advices like don't clench or that I just feel like it doesn't do much or I don't know if it's working. Nothing has worked and it always ends the same.

I do my thing > I feel good > I go at it for 30 mins to an hour > Feels like something building inside my penis but can't get out > Sudden feels good increase in prostate area > Go fast > Nothing happens > Just jerk it while using whatever is inserted at the time.

I'm so lost and I don't even know what to look for anymore. My latest idea is to eat some thc/cbd gummies, use a machine and just sit and wait to see what happens after abstaining for 3 days.

If anyone can help me in regards of what I should do or think, any input would be greatly appreciated.

Early in the Mindgasm challenge, no spoilers please. When I gently contract around my prostate I get a pleasant tickly signal that goes to my brain and spine like goosebumps, and it lingers a little after I release. Touching the spot with a toy does nothing, only the contraction works, and the muscles tire fast. Is this tingling or early p waves? How do I make it build?

Is it tingling or am I just making it up?

Last week, I had my first experience with anal play. It was very subtle, but incredibly interesting, especially since it was my first time. I felt lucky.

However, after reading other people's experiences, I realized that this kind of stimulation can sometimes lead to some pretty unusual states of mind, and that got me worried.

Anyone who struggles with anxiety or panic disorder knows that any change in their mental state, or any unfamiliar and intense physical sensation, can be a powerful trigger.

That's what prompted me to write this post. I'd like to hear as many opinions and personal experiences as possible before going any further.

New to anal play, but the feeling of a finger up the butt is beyond enjoyable! The best feeling I have is circling round with a finger and imagining a girl doing it and enjoying watching you enjoy that feeling... that gives me a reason to live!

prostate : clear fluid 20-30% volume
seminal vesicles : milky white fluid 60-70%
vas ampula : yellowish 5-10%
cowpers glands less than 5%

when i press the prostate the clear fluid comes dripping out

behind the prostate are these four ridges leading to the prostate they are the two seminal vesicles in the center and the vas ampulas on each side

cowpers glands very slick fluid some say precum but i believe that’s just the tiny bit at first. and the drippy bit is prostate fluid .

i can feel the seminal vesicles and ampulla behind the prostate . when i cum you can feel them get bigger and very stiff and pronounced and feel them release towards the prostate and the prostate contract at the same time.

the vesicle area i like to press against and if i edge enough they become engorged and i can make milky fluid come out . ( i can’t do the outer two ampula separate from the center two vesicles)

i like to make each type of fluid come out . i pay attention to the cowpers glands lubricating precum

the prostate is next and just press and wiggle it over and over to keep the clear dripping out till it’s engorged enough i can press a good amount out of it by pressing from to back .

the vesicles feel like cumming sort of . i’ll edge for days until clear fluid just drips out from just sitting down or whatever . after edging for like 5 days just touching my penis i might cause clear and milky fluid to pour out . no contractions like cumming but it’s definitely both fluids cumming out. there’s still a lot of both fluids left i just don’t flex so they don’t come out.

what i’d like to here more about is people stimulating and rubbing a pushing out the milky cum from the ridges behind the prostate, and the engorging and stiffness they become right before and during cumming,
as i can’t find anyone talking about that

I only have HFWO's, and in my journey to find the HFDO I have started to relax more during sessions. One thing I have noticed is that I don't really feel anything if I am completely relaxed. I don't need a strong contraction, but I need some. Is it the muscle that pushes the prostate into the toy perhaps? Anyone else experiencing the same? Does it mean that I haven't actually find my prostate yet, because I am pretty sure I have.

Mid 50s, straight, been practicing for 7 years. Started with Aneros, migrated to NJoy, and most recently a stainless steel anal hook. The head is tapered and size wise between the small and large heads of the NJoy.

The first time I inserted it and was on all fours, I knew it was different. Instantly. I have 20ish toys. Most versions of Aneros, some vibrators, etc. And even though I have had HFWO from most of them occasionally, they were not getting me close to “the promised land” (multiple HFDO).

I guess it’s the size/angle that finally suited my body. YMMV

Anyway, the main point of this thread is the technique I use, which I haven’t seen mentioned. (It might be, apologies if someone else mentioned it)

Laying on back with knees apart, pretty standard. Hook inserted, easy to control depth, pressure, etc. if I move it in and out slightly, or up and down (tapping prostate) and simultaneously press on my stomach in a flicking motion (not too hard, not too soft), it works the prostate from both top and bottom.

It can take awhile to get it right, but about 50% of the time HFWO and 50% HFDO. I think my prostate orgasms can trip the penile orgasm if I’m not careful.

Btw, since I used to wonder this myself, my HFDO is exactly like the HFWO (same feeling, same pulsing), just dry.

I have had anal orgasm as well, which feels very different (centered lower, almost lower back instead of prostate or penis).

If you are stuck, and have the ability to get the stainless steel anal hook (got it on Amazon), it made a huge difference for me. If it had been my first toy, I’m sure I wouldn’t understand how frustrating the journey can be.

Cheers!

Hello all,

I have this toy :

X Novelties

Explorateur by Eros

https://erosetcompagnie.com/en/products/explorateur-by-eros-and-company?variant=42274658943066

And I am unable to achieve a prostatic orgasm. I have read and followed the Aneros guide, but nothing happens.

Could it be the toy?

Would I get better results with an Aneros toy—or something else?

Thanks

Bonjour à tous,

J'ai actuellement ce jouet :

X Novelties

Explorateur by Eros

https://erosetcompagnie.com/en/products/explorateur-by-eros-and-company?variant=42274658943066

Et je ne suis pas en mesure d'avoir un orgasme prostatque.

J'ai lu et appliqué le guide aneros.

Est-ce que c'est le jouet ?

Aurais-je plus de résultats avec un jouet Aneros ? Ou autre ?

Merci,